I Am Learning to Be More Assertive

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 231 People

    adianoeta adianoeta
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2014

    Progress In Being Made...

    I have been using the "broken record" approach when dealling with difficult people, who would in the past have dismissed my message. It feels a bit silly at first, and I guess the other person has to get used to the lack of emotional escalation they used to feed off...
    cuphalffull cuphalffull
    46-50, M
    6 Responses Mar 11, 2008

    Damn Right

    I have spent 30 years bowing down and allowing everyone in my life to run all over me, use me, manipulate me, and take what they wanted from me, leaving me a broken, insecure, unstable mess of a person.Well, I'm done with that person.From now on, I'm asking for what I want...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Mar 5, 2011

    I tried to break up with my therapist this week.

    During the session we figured out that I am not assertive at all. She also convinced me to keep seeing her (I guess I wasn't assertive enough). My therapist and I broke a lot of ground this week. My dad didn't teach me how to be assertive. My mom controlled everything. I never...
    deleted deleted
    15 Responses Feb 25, 2016
    caterpillarwaiting caterpillarwaiting
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 18, 2014

    Working Towards Assertiveness

    I have my needs met in my personal life because I have learned to clearly state what I need from family, friends and my long-term partner. I also think that if you want to be in my life than its give and take not me just give and give all the time. Yet, I struggle a bit more in...
    Silentwaterfall Silentwaterfall
    Sep 27, 2012

    No More Crap. I'm Enjoying My New Attitude

    At work I've found that if I don't stand up for myself, I get treated like crap by a lot of the men I work with. Many of them fail to keep their dirty minds and behavior at home where it belongs. My first change sadly, was to stop wearing make-up to work and see if their...
    hekatemoon hekatemoon
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 6, 2010

    Rational Discussions At The Dinner Table

    Usually when my mom and I talk about anything deep, I get angry, frustrated, and irritated because it feels like she's dismissing my opinions, but last night at the dinner table I had a rational, meaningful conversation about marriage and religion. I'm proud of myself for not...
    SpringlesAndStars SpringlesAndStars
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2013

    Would Love to Be More Assertive.

    I am sick of desperately avoiding conflict. I do not know how to say 'no' and I often use avoidance tactics. Not fair on me or others!! "whatever you want to do" is my motto and I'm not that type of person in general. How to get what I want sometimes. Without being...
    whiterabbit whiterabbit
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 11, 2008

    The Reason...

    i want to learn to be assertive because otherwise i will continue to be in win-lose situations - and i don't want to continue living like that. i want to be able to make the decision about what to stand up for myself about, and what to let slide. i want to be able to feel good...
    cuphalffull cuphalffull
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Feb 9, 2008

    I am quite a timid person sometimes,

    but I'm learning to be more confident within myself and to be more assertive! Because you can't get what you want if you don't make the move to get it.
    Seblett Seblett
    18-21, F
    Sep 6, 2014
    StevieOakley14 StevieOakley14
    16-17, F
    May 10, 2015

    Finally Told Off My Late-father's Girlfriend ;D

    She had what I said coming to her and I could have said so much more but I did my best to refrain from being disrespectful while still saying what I needed to. So here is the conversation between my Dad's girlfriend and I where I basically told her to go **** herself. She sent...
    ButterflyInTheWind ButterflyInTheWind
    22-25, F
    Apr 2, 2012

    Not Sure About Learning...but Attempting

    I really want to begin taking charge more.  Not in a bossy way, but show certain leadership qualities I can feel confident about now. It's so tough when I feel like I'm being bitchy, because it's SUCH a change for me.  I need a good way to keep it in check!
    debmichelle debmichelle
    1 Response Jun 26, 2008
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