I Am Learning to Be Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 556 People

    Almost There

    Ive been on the path to being myself for a long, long time. I truley dont know whats stopping me. I honestly feel like people would love the real me, but there is still some part of me that doesnt allow my true self to shine through. I think it may have to do with my extreme fear...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit
    18-21, F
    Mar 7, 2013

    Learning To Be Myself

    I'm learning to be myself find my wants and desires and do them rather than do what others think I should do.
    aquarius3 aquarius3
    66-70
    1 Response Dec 5, 2011

    Some of you may know this club

    or organization as VICA it is currently called skills USA although the archaic term is used often by those over 35. Anyway after being involved in skills for nearly four years I finally attended the state conference and competitions in Syracuse New York as a delegate. I am very...
    Axonpanda Axonpanda
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 26, 2014

    Who Am I?

    I have recently found my self divorced and alone. I did not realize until recently, while feverishly reading all I can on self help and personal growth, that I apparently have never grown oout of the approval and security seeking stage. Maybe, because I was abandoned by my...
    qcr1971 qcr1971
    36-40
    3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

    I'm Awkward

    I've have begun to embrace my awkward self. I don't beat myself over the things I do anymore like stuttering, talking fast to try and cover up the stuttering, saying random crap for no reason, and using my hands an awful lot when I talk. I feel that me accepting my personality...
    orangesky03 orangesky03
    18-21, F
    Sep 22, 2013

    The Process

    The definitive advice that I received on the Psych ward when I was 13 years old was "Be yourself. We like you.  It is your attempt to be whatever it is you think you should be, that is disturbing us."It was good advice.  I took it.  It facilitated a real shift within me.  I...
    claysu claysu
    56-60, F
    1 Response Sep 26, 2012
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 4, 2014

    Inner Conflict Dissipating

    It's easy to want to hide who you really are on the inside, and its difficult to be one's self. I've always had trouble trusting people so theres always been a false front that I put up for everyone to see at times. I never really gave myself a chance to be myself but now im...
    misternobrain misternobrain
    26-30, M
    Jul 11, 2013

    The problem is, I'm two different people.

    Both are very real. One is from my past, when I was five, and that person is much more powerful than I care to admit. He's frightened beyond sanity and regressing rapidly, because in infancy he remembers safety. The other is my normal adult self, at least normal for now, not...
    clothprefoldbillyb clothprefoldbillyb
    61-65, M
    Oct 20, 2014

    I have spent my life trying to be someone else,

    and even pretending to be someone other than who I am, because I didn't feel I could be liked or loved for who I am. I have a rotten past, mostly because of the self worth issues. I am trying to be myself, if I can figure out who that actually is.
    Hockeyplayer56 Hockeyplayer56
    46-50, M
    Apr 27, 2015

    Me....just Me......

    I have fulfilled several different roles in my lifetime...obedient daughter, loving mother, understanding step-mother, faithful wife....now at 50 years old, I'm taking on a new role....Me...Penny...that's all...just me...it's about ****** time!!!!   Penny Webb
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Aug 3, 2009

    Enough

    I used to worry about what people would think if I was myself. Would they like me or hate me but at this point in my life I don't care anymore. I don't want my daughter to be afraid to be herself. So I am making myself a promise right here right now. I am going to be myself and...
    truthseeker28 truthseeker28
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2012

    Who Am I?

    I have been trying to say, do and act the way others have wanted me to for as long as I can remember and I don't know who I am. I am lost. I am a boring shell of a person I don't know what I like anymore. Sitting around doing nothing just seemed better than trying to figure out...
    RHorne1990 RHorne1990
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

    I'm learning to be myself again.

    It'll take a lot of patience...Lord knows I need that, but it will be a beautiful journey.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 5

    Small Victory

    I hosted my first party last night. While married, he insisted on determining the guest list, creating the menu, cooking the food, and planning the activities (and yet he considered them "our" parties...lol). Everyone had a great time. One woman commented that her cheeks hurt...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 23, 2012

    I Am Trying

        i am trying to be myself . i am just trying to take it day by day.  i am a little proud of myself . i didn't blow up on any customers today.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 8, 2009

    even tho I forgot who I'm & what I want,

    there are a couple of things that I still can't stop doing it because I love it
    boom991 boom991
    16-17, M
    May 12, 2015

    Future Imperfect

    Strange that the older you get, the less you seem to know who you really are.  I am still a daughter, though my parents are very elderly and live in another country.  I am a widow, rather than a wife, and sometimes I would give anything to have someone to share things with...
    FortuneCookie1948 FortuneCookie1948
    61-65
    Apr 27, 2012

    To figure out who I am

    and I truly want not passively accepting what others want for me. I am gradually searching to fulfill my long term life aspirations and be my authentic self. I am learning slowly to not let others comments affect me as much as they did. I am not changing for the comfort of...
    moonlightflower moonlightflower
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 2

    Learning because really,

    I am still not even sure who I am. Most of my life I have been the strong one, the glue that holds everything together. It never mattered if I was falling apart inside or not, just put on a happy face, force the smile, bite my tongue, and clench my teeth and go on. I lived this...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 8, 2015

    Homework About Myself.

    Yes this group title, thxx for that. just started to write and make my homework now. im workin on my studie for myself, learnin more and get to know myself better.
    Nimia Nimia
    31-35, F
    Nov 6, 2012

    Love Myself

    I always tweet on Twitter "love yourself" which I used to build my own identity. I believe that love should first sprout from the person herself. There are so many things, factors around that sometimes you give up and lose control of things. Therefore it's really hard to be...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 14, 2012

    I Am Learning,

    I am learning, To cry if I have to or feel like it.To scream if if I have or want to.To be mad, if I need being it.To be happy and smile for my own sake.To talk, if this is what I want.To remain silent, when I choose too.To stop saying it is alright or okay, when it is the...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Sep 5, 2011

    The more and more i learn about myself,

    the idea of what i want from my life is becoming clear.Materialistic things do matter but i need something which is way above than the materialistic world, Sometimes i have thought of compromising on few things thinking that this is how the society is and i have to accept the...
    iamnotperfect iamnotperfect
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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