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I Am Learning to Be Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 402 People

    I was never much at keeping up appearances

    or maintaining a facade, but I was so easily distracted by trying to "find myself" that I lost sight of who I am. I lived a life that wasn't me for years and it's taken years to both see that and remedy that.
    PseudoGypsy PseudoGypsy 41-45, T 1 Response Jan 28

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    Enough

    I used to worry about what people would think if I was myself. Would they like me or hate me but at this point in my life I don't care anymore. I don't want my daughter to be afraid to be herself. So I am making myself a promise right here right now. I am going to be myself and...
    truthseeker28 truthseeker28 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2012

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    Some of you may know this club

    or organization as VICA it is currently called skills USA although the archaic term is used often by those over 35. Anyway after being involved in skills for nearly four years I finally attended the state conference and competitions in Syracuse New York as a delegate. I am very...
    Axonpanda Axonpanda 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    Homework About Myself.

    Yes this group title, thxx for that. just started to write and make my homework now. im workin on my studie for myself, learnin more and get to know myself better.
    Nimia Nimia 31-35, F Nov 6, 2012

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    Me....just Me......

    I have fulfilled several different roles in my lifetime...obedient daughter, loving mother, understanding step-mother, faithful wife....now at 50 years old, I'm taking on a new role....Me...Penny...that's all...just me...it's about ****** time!!!!   Penny Webb
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    Very Slowly

    It is such a slow process.  Life has been on my face like an iron mask.  Changing me and molding me to its will for so long I am not even sure what it under it any more.  But the iron mask is coming off.  It is in bits and pieces but it is coming off.  Someday I will look...
    Oldandgone Oldandgone 41-45 7 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    BrianCrew BrianCrew 22-25, M Feb 4

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    Love Myself

    I always tweet on Twitter "love yourself" which I used to build my own identity. I believe that love should first sprout from the person herself. There are so many things, factors around that sometimes you give up and lose control of things. Therefore it's really hard to be...
    vintage01 vintage01 22-25, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Inner Conflict Dissipating

    It's easy to want to hide who you really are on the inside, and its difficult to be one's self. I've always had trouble trusting people so theres always been a false front that I put up for everyone to see at times. I never really gave myself a chance to be myself but now im...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M Jul 11, 2013

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    Who Am I?

    I have been trying to say, do and act the way others have wanted me to for as long as I can remember and I don't know who I am. I am lost. I am a boring shell of a person I don't know what I like anymore. Sitting around doing nothing just seemed better than trying to figure out...
    RHorne1990 RHorne1990 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    Future Imperfect

    Strange that the older you get, the less you seem to know who you really are.  I am still a daughter, though my parents are very elderly and live in another country.  I am a widow, rather than a wife, and sometimes I would give anything to have someone to share things with...
    FortuneCookie1948 FortuneCookie1948 61-65 Apr 27, 2012

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    Almost There

    Ive been on the path to being myself for a long, long time. I truley dont know whats stopping me. I honestly feel like people would love the real me, but there is still some part of me that doesnt allow my true self to shine through. I think it may have to do with my extreme fear...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F Mar 7, 2013

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    Learning To Be Myself

    I'm learning to be myself find my wants and desires and do them rather than do what others think I should do.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 1 Response Dec 5, 2011

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    Yeah I Am Slowly But Surly...

    After so many years of always being what someone else wanted me to be, having them make all the decisions about what i can and can not do. I'm now slowly learning how to just to be me and yes it feels good. Even the simplest things like choosing clothes, what i eat and what time...
    lilreddress lilreddress 36-40, F 1 Response May 15, 2013

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    Who Am I?

    Aside from the fact that it's already challenging to be yourself for fear of being judged, it's also challenging when you aren't all that quite sure of who you are yourself. It truly astounds me when people are sure of themselves, I feel like soul searching is a lifelong journey...
    xalcyone xalcyone 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 22, 2012

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    I'm Awkward

    I've have begun to embrace my awkward self. I don't beat myself over the things I do anymore like stuttering, talking fast to try and cover up the stuttering, saying random crap for no reason, and using my hands an awful lot when I talk. I feel that me accepting my personality...
    orangesky03 orangesky03 16-17, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Small Victory

    I hosted my first party last night. While married, he insisted on determining the guest list, creating the menu, cooking the food, and planning the activities (and yet he considered them "our" parties...lol). Everyone had a great time. One woman commented that her cheeks hurt...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    I Am Trying

        i am trying to be myself . i am just trying to take it day by day.  i am a little proud of myself . i didn't blow up on any customers today.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 8, 2009

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    Who Am I?

    I have recently found my self divorced and alone. I did not realize until recently, while feverishly reading all I can on self help and personal growth, that I apparently have never grown oout of the approval and security seeking stage. Maybe, because I was abandoned by my...
    qcr1971 qcr1971 36-40 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    The Process

    The definitive advice that I received on the Psych ward when I was 13 years old was "Be yourself. We like you.  It is your attempt to be whatever it is you think you should be, that is disturbing us."It was good advice.  I took it.  It facilitated a real shift within me.  I...
    claysu claysu 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2012

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    I Am Learning,

    I am learning, To cry if I have to or feel like it.To scream if if I have or want to.To be mad, if I need being it.To be happy and smile for my own sake.To talk, if this is what I want.To remain silent, when I choose too.To stop saying it is alright or okay, when it is the...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Sep 5, 2011

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    Related Experiences

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    sunniedays89 sunniedays89 22-25, F Jun 30

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    Not in school stuff but valued traits like leadership & loyalty. I love learning about how too connect with people and how to be an amazing gf or just to get guys easily. I love...
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    I get angry at people too easily. I hate that I never stood up to the bullies and it's too late now as they are gone. They needed to learn their lesson but I was a coward so I...
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    I can't believe I let myself live my life with fear. I let myself worry about social rejection, ridicule, and disapproval. I'm getting help in counseling and I'm trying to be more...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    I've always found happiness through other people. I've relied on past boyfriends to make me smile, feel comfortable, and feel like I have worth. When I felt special to someone it...
    GabbyCot GabbyCot 18-21, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I started learning guitar when I was in primary school and I became quite good at it for my age. I was getting lessons from my music teacher and trying my hardest at it because I...
    Isabella295 Isabella295 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am currently learning malware removal, practice martial arts and enjoy learning things in relation to Internet and computer security.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 13

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    People often make the words Education and Learning as synonyms but I feel that there is a huge difference among them. The society teaches us that once you have a degree in your...
    Tien101 Tien101 18-21 1 Response Jul 15

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    I have been trying to teach myself how to play for the past 7 years and still have a long way to go before I can fulfill one of my life's goals to become part of a band. Would like...
    kchondo90 kchondo90 22-25, M Jul 18

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    I used to be isolated, even with a nice group of friends but I never liked it. I decided I would be a loner again and it worked! I actually missed being alone and now I am free to...
    WolvesSong WolvesSong 13-15, F 5 hrs ago

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    Well I was lost my whole life because my childhood wasn't normal but on the beginning of this year at age 16 I've tried my best to find myself and I did now I'm most 17 and I can't...
    freedom16 freedom16 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    On Thriving and Surviving Surviving is to continue to live or exist, especially in spite of danger or hardship. I have been surviving all of my life. To survive is to tap into a...
    jfrender jfrender 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    The way I see myself is a work in progress. I may not fit into other peoples idea of what I should be, but I am learning to love myself no matter what the past held or what the...
    JessicaMarie35 JessicaMarie35 31-35, T 1 Response Jun 30

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    I think this is hard to do especially being 4 ft 8! As everyone looks down on me so it's awkward to shout up and stand your ground!I find it awkward having to look up but whereelse...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F Jul 6

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    And I always will even if I'm happy, even if I laugh I will always hate myself simply because I'm me.Who am I? I'm a loser, a very stupid,dumb,retarded,idiotic person.I'm a ugly...
    wassup305 wassup305 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    I am learning how to love. There are a few people in my life that I really, REALLY don't get along with. They have crossed some lines and really ticked me off, and all their...
    Anticloud Anticloud 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    I am self-learning Spanish and Korean now. I'm looking forward to learning Latin and Esperanto in the future:) I currently speak 4 languages-English, Mandarin Chinese, Thai and...
    suthidabear suthidabear 18-21, F Jul 19

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    Keep on learning. Keep enriching yourself. There was a movie about a class of kids that would not learn and study. Across from their class room there was a class filled with...
    Alicehath Alicehath 56-60, F Jul 20

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    I have a friend whose daughter was born with a learning disability. Compounding this was the fact her daughter was left-handed and she was right-handed. When it was time to go to...
    minimeowz minimeowz 61-65, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    This sounds hard and scary! 1. I love people 2 I love love 3 I don't define myself by my accomplishments 4 I wish I could love freely with others wanting me to limit who I love 5 I...
    Flygirl827 Flygirl827 41-45 Jun 30

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    So, as a kid I wasn't in the most supported learning environment. I taught myself to spell by reading shops signs and remembering how the words looked, therefore remembering how to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 4

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    It's a learning experience. I do not like to be alone but cannot explain why. I also cannot change the fact that I am alone. I've been told for years that I don't like people, so I...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 9

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    I recenty was told by my soon to be wife in a.letter she had written that "you really dont know me you dont know my family history my bringing, my joys my sorrows me! me inside...
    petet3030 petet3030 46-50, M Jul 13

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    As long as I can remember I have always been the one that everyone picked on and made fun of. Because of that I learned to withdraw within myself and keep everything inside, never...
    chadjunk chadjunk 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    I'm learning to write with my left hand, so far I can only print. But it's getting better everyday. I now can use my left hand, to eat, cut papers with scissors, and stir fry. I'm...
    zorba04 zorba04 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 2

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    Yaaa......Take the Negative Aspect....Add the opposite to Neutralize the Energy....(in this case it would be the Positive Aspect of the Negative your judging as such).....Soooo...
    uniqueperception uniqueperception 46-50 Jul 3

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    Is anyone here lgbt and how do they think it makes it harder to meet people? I feel like being lesbian AND having a learning disability make it harder then like even having a ld...
    thewolfinme thewolfinme 18-21, F Jul 5

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    I just started studying for my next semester class. I'm taking Japanese 101. In high school I took two years of French class because that was the only option that seemed...
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 6

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