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I Am Learning to Be Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 414 People

    The Process

    The definitive advice that I received on the Psych ward when I was 13 years old was "Be yourself. We like you.  It is your attempt to be whatever it is you think you should be, that is disturbing us."It was good advice.  I took it.  It facilitated a real shift within me.  I...
    claysu claysu 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2012

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    Future Imperfect

    Strange that the older you get, the less you seem to know who you really are.  I am still a daughter, though my parents are very elderly and live in another country.  I am a widow, rather than a wife, and sometimes I would give anything to have someone to share things with...
    FortuneCookie1948 FortuneCookie1948 61-65 Apr 27, 2012

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    I Am Trying

        i am trying to be myself . i am just trying to take it day by day.  i am a little proud of myself . i didn't blow up on any customers today.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 8, 2009

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    I Am Learning,

    I am learning, To cry if I have to or feel like it.To scream if if I have or want to.To be mad, if I need being it.To be happy and smile for my own sake.To talk, if this is what I want.To remain silent, when I choose too.To stop saying it is alright or okay, when it is the...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Sep 5, 2011

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    Small Victory

    I hosted my first party last night. While married, he insisted on determining the guest list, creating the menu, cooking the food, and planning the activities (and yet he considered them "our" parties...lol). Everyone had a great time. One woman commented that her cheeks hurt...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    Learning To Be Myself

    I'm learning to be myself find my wants and desires and do them rather than do what others think I should do.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 1 Response Dec 5, 2011

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    Very Slowly

    It is such a slow process.  Life has been on my face like an iron mask.  Changing me and molding me to its will for so long I am not even sure what it under it any more.  But the iron mask is coming off.  It is in bits and pieces but it is coming off.  Someday I will look...
    Oldandgone Oldandgone 41-45 7 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    I'm Awkward

    I've have begun to embrace my awkward self. I don't beat myself over the things I do anymore like stuttering, talking fast to try and cover up the stuttering, saying random crap for no reason, and using my hands an awful lot when I talk. I feel that me accepting my personality...
    orangesky03 orangesky03 18-21, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Homework About Myself.

    Yes this group title, thxx for that. just started to write and make my homework now. im workin on my studie for myself, learnin more and get to know myself better.
    Nimia Nimia 31-35, F Nov 6, 2012

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    Yeah I Am Slowly But Surly...

    After so many years of always being what someone else wanted me to be, having them make all the decisions about what i can and can not do. I'm now slowly learning how to just to be me and yes it feels good. Even the simplest things like choosing clothes, what i eat and what time...
    lilreddress lilreddress 36-40, F 1 Response May 15, 2013

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    Enough

    I used to worry about what people would think if I was myself. Would they like me or hate me but at this point in my life I don't care anymore. I don't want my daughter to be afraid to be herself. So I am making myself a promise right here right now. I am going to be myself and...
    truthseeker28 truthseeker28 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2012

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    Who Am I?

    I have been trying to say, do and act the way others have wanted me to for as long as I can remember and I don't know who I am. I am lost. I am a boring shell of a person I don't know what I like anymore. Sitting around doing nothing just seemed better than trying to figure out...
    RHorne1990 RHorne1990 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    Who Am I?

    I have recently found my self divorced and alone. I did not realize until recently, while feverishly reading all I can on self help and personal growth, that I apparently have never grown oout of the approval and security seeking stage. Maybe, because I was abandoned by my...
    qcr1971 qcr1971 36-40 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    BrianCrew BrianCrew 22-25, M Feb 4

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    Almost There

    Ive been on the path to being myself for a long, long time. I truley dont know whats stopping me. I honestly feel like people would love the real me, but there is still some part of me that doesnt allow my true self to shine through. I think it may have to do with my extreme fear...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F Mar 7, 2013

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    I was never much at keeping up appearances

    or maintaining a facade, but I was so easily distracted by trying to "find myself" that I lost sight of who I am. I lived a life that wasn't me for years and it's taken years to both see that and remedy that.
    CinimonGypsy CinimonGypsy 41-45 1 Response Jan 28

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    Some of you may know this club

    or organization as VICA it is currently called skills USA although the archaic term is used often by those over 35. Anyway after being involved in skills for nearly four years I finally attended the state conference and competitions in Syracuse New York as a delegate. I am very...
    Axonpanda Axonpanda 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    Inner Conflict Dissipating

    It's easy to want to hide who you really are on the inside, and its difficult to be one's self. I've always had trouble trusting people so theres always been a false front that I put up for everyone to see at times. I never really gave myself a chance to be myself but now im...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M Jul 11, 2013

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    Me....just Me......

    I have fulfilled several different roles in my lifetime...obedient daughter, loving mother, understanding step-mother, faithful wife....now at 50 years old, I'm taking on a new role....Me...Penny...that's all...just me...it's about ****** time!!!!   Penny Webb
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    The problem is, I'm two different people.

    Both are very real. One is from my past, when I was five, and that person is much more powerful than I care to admit. He's frightened beyond sanity and regressing rapidly, because in infancy he remembers safety. The other is my normal adult self, at least normal for now, not...
    clothprefoldbillyb clothprefoldbillyb 61-65, M Oct 20

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    Love Myself

    I always tweet on Twitter "love yourself" which I used to build my own identity. I believe that love should first sprout from the person herself. There are so many things, factors around that sometimes you give up and lose control of things. Therefore it's really hard to be...
    vintage01 vintage01 22-25, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Yes I Love Myself...It took me awhile to get to this level of love with myself, but now that I am here...THANK YOU GOD! My GOD, My Creator loves me and ALL whom HE created...Thank...
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    I am starting to believe in myself which is a difficult thing to do. I have always had low self-esteem and it has been difficult to believe any good things about myself and to be...
    00flyaway 00flyaway 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    It is time to leave for the day. I have put in my time and it's time to head home but this evening I am going to do something I really don't want to do but I need to do, I am...
    johnettebcook johnettebcook 51-55, F Nov 14

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    Today I cried in fear of the thought of someone learning who I really am, every flaw and every fault that I have, this fear shook me and ate my pride until I made myself see that...
    lilzee225 lilzee225 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 12

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    Learning to like myself. Yes, friends, i am just now starting to like myself but it has not been easy because for a long time i thought that i was neither good looking or smart...
    dragonfang dragonfang 51-55, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    I hate myself. I hate being so stupid, and not being good at anything. I hate my face, my nose, my cheeks, my lips, and my eyes. I hate my personality, and my laugh. I hate the way...
    Missprincessgabby Missprincessgabby 16-17, F 36 mins ago

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    We tend not to give enough credit to ourselves. What's something about yourself that you've found truly exists? What is something about yourself that you like? - I managed to...
    electriccloud electriccloud 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    This has always been my greatest down fall. I am a people pleaser by nature & it makes me extremely uncomfortable when someone is upset or otherwise. I love positive engeries, so...
    Stickwithmebabe Stickwithmebabe 70+, F a week ago

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    1. I have made mistakes in my past and will continue to, but each time learning from each and everyone. Remember no one is perfect! 2. I'm very caring I love helping people 3. I...
    sarahrose1994 sarahrose1994 18-21, F Oct 24

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    I'm learning to love my body, this is the only body I will have for the rest if my life.. My body has curves, it also had muscle! It shows my struggle and it shows my progress...
    Snnowflake Snnowflake 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 25

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    1. I like Pop music a lot 2. I'm a cinephile 3. I have abandonment issues 4. I like sleeping with my window open 5. I like living in a peaceful serene place 6. I have a southern...
    anonymoussouthernbabe anonymoussouthernbabe 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 31

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    I like learning new things - being a life long learner. I like to learn. I become what I know - so it is important for me to choose wisely what I will learn. I read over many...
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    I used to love myself, and some things messed with that this year. But I'm going to be committed to accept myself and love myself, like I should.
    electriccloud electriccloud 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 24

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    I'm the girl that walks into a room and all heads turn, I've dated princes and nfl players and before you get the wrong idea I've had slept with a total of 1 guy. I've always had...
    notperfection notperfection 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 26

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    Better Life Challenge #4: Learn something new daily Learning different things expands our mind and presents endless possibilities. Your learning can be anything, such as a new...
    Margavita Margavita 22-25 2 Responses Oct 29

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    I am 19 I want to be 140 pounds I weigh 195 and I am 5'3 I just want my body to be perfect I feel so fat I need a little motivation im going to starve myself idk how long its going...
    BeautyAMM BeautyAMM 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I'm trying to understand why I can't stand to be in my own skin, I want out of this. How can I be so kind to others but I can't I be kind to myself? What is wrong with me??
    prettyballerina prettyballerina 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    There's so much more to learn & it does feel like I learn the most by making mistakes or when it is that time in life that is the most difficult to get through. There are always...
    Karliya Karliya 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    At heart I do. I was raised Catholic (I don't mean to offend anyone by this. It's just who I was raised to be by my family.) I want to become a Unitarian Universalist because of...
    bbluvsmomee bbluvsmomee 26-30 1 Response Oct 31

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    Goodness gracious, I've come to the realization that all the high exceptions I've set for myself have held me back from achieving anything, for years! I need another game plan, I...
    MysticalMinx MysticalMinx 16-17, F Nov 15

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    I almost don't recognise myself. I am so proud of my achievements. I am proud to be content, and happy! I have come a long long way and managed to say goodbye to all my fears. It's...
    monty1212 monty1212 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Im actually just starting to learn about myself and my body. Changes, what to expect, acceptance.
    ownfrnchseplaya ownfrnchseplaya 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    1. I once had a true best friend in my life until I moved 400 miles away and we lost touch. It's been almost 10 years but I still miss her friendship deeply. 2. I want to move to...
    abcdefgh19 abcdefgh19 22-25, F Oct 25

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    So it's a new week. a new day, a new morning but as usual a bright hot sunny and a humid day.. There is the same old stress that still hangs on in my mind .. I thought I was...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M Nov 2

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    💭. Glacial Relationships. Have you noticed the spread of glacial type relationships Truly good intelligent people are creating & learning to form shallow glacial non integrated...
    Ashishishe Ashishishe 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 3