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I Am Learning to Be Myself

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    Yeah I Am Slowly But Surly...

    After so many years of always being what someone else wanted me to be, having them make all the decisions about what i can and can not do. I'm now slowly learning how to just to be me and yes it feels good. Even the simplest things like choosing clothes, what i eat and what time...
    lilreddress lilreddress 36-40, F 1 Response May 15, 2013

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    Me....just Me......

    I have fulfilled several different roles in my lifetime...obedient daughter, loving mother, understanding step-mother, faithful wife....now at 50 years old, I'm taking on a new role....Me...Penny...that's all...just me...it's about ****** time!!!!   Penny Webb
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    Odd situation I find myself in.

    Focus on your happiness, I say. And so I have. It is rich and true and I feel grounded in the realest sense once more. Like I could never be completely lost again. It is a relief. It is satisfying. It is a constant joy. I am me. I'll never feel the need to be otherwise. Drop a...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F Feb 8

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    The more and more i learn about myself,

    the idea of what i want from my life is becoming clear.Materialistic things do matter but i need something which is way above than the materialistic world, Sometimes i have thought of compromising on few things thinking that this is how the society is and i have to accept the...
    imurfriend imurfriend 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    Homework About Myself.

    Yes this group title, thxx for that. just started to write and make my homework now. im workin on my studie for myself, learnin more and get to know myself better.
    Nimia Nimia 31-35, F Nov 6, 2012

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    Who Am I?

    I have recently found my self divorced and alone. I did not realize until recently, while feverishly reading all I can on self help and personal growth, that I apparently have never grown oout of the approval and security seeking stage. Maybe, because I was abandoned by my...
    qcr1971 qcr1971 36-40 3 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    Some of you may know this club

    or organization as VICA it is currently called skills USA although the archaic term is used often by those over 35. Anyway after being involved in skills for nearly four years I finally attended the state conference and competitions in Syracuse New York as a delegate. I am very...
    Axonpanda Axonpanda 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2014

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    I Am Trying

        i am trying to be myself . i am just trying to take it day by day.  i am a little proud of myself . i didn't blow up on any customers today.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 8, 2009

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    Inner Conflict Dissipating

    It's easy to want to hide who you really are on the inside, and its difficult to be one's self. I've always had trouble trusting people so theres always been a false front that I put up for everyone to see at times. I never really gave myself a chance to be myself but now im...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M Jul 11, 2013

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    The Process

    The definitive advice that I received on the Psych ward when I was 13 years old was "Be yourself. We like you.  It is your attempt to be whatever it is you think you should be, that is disturbing us."It was good advice.  I took it.  It facilitated a real shift within me.  I...
    claysu claysu 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2012

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    I love what this place has done

    for me. Just the sweet and simple act of rambling on and exploring who I am has given me so much freedom. But it's a little hard to keep a lid on that box! LOL More and more, I find myself voicing thoughts where I had always remained silent before. Instead of walking around...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F Jan 20

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    Love Myself

    I always tweet on Twitter "love yourself" which I used to build my own identity. I believe that love should first sprout from the person herself. There are so many things, factors around that sometimes you give up and lose control of things. Therefore it's really hard to be...
    vintage01 vintage01 22-25, F Oct 14, 2012

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    Enough

    I used to worry about what people would think if I was myself. Would they like me or hate me but at this point in my life I don't care anymore. I don't want my daughter to be afraid to be herself. So I am making myself a promise right here right now. I am going to be myself and...
    truthseeker28 truthseeker28 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2012

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    Learning To Be Myself

    I'm learning to be myself find my wants and desires and do them rather than do what others think I should do.
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 1 Response Dec 5, 2011

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    Future Imperfect

    Strange that the older you get, the less you seem to know who you really are.  I am still a daughter, though my parents are very elderly and live in another country.  I am a widow, rather than a wife, and sometimes I would give anything to have someone to share things with...
    FortuneCookie1948 FortuneCookie1948 61-65 Apr 27, 2012

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    I Am Learning,

    I am learning, To cry if I have to or feel like it.To scream if if I have or want to.To be mad, if I need being it.To be happy and smile for my own sake.To talk, if this is what I want.To remain silent, when I choose too.To stop saying it is alright or okay, when it is the...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Sep 5, 2011

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    I started my first drawing!

    ! Omigosh I forgot how FUN this is!! When I first started writing poetry again I posted it here because this is where I remembered who I was and how much I enjoyed taking that one moment in time and turning everything about it into words. Good bad or ugly, I will do the same...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Small Victory

    I hosted my first party last night. While married, he insisted on determining the guest list, creating the menu, cooking the food, and planning the activities (and yet he considered them "our" parties...lol). Everyone had a great time. One woman commented that her cheeks hurt...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2012

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    Who Am I?

    I have been trying to say, do and act the way others have wanted me to for as long as I can remember and I don't know who I am. I am lost. I am a boring shell of a person I don't know what I like anymore. Sitting around doing nothing just seemed better than trying to figure out...
    RHorne1990 RHorne1990 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    Geez I feel beautiful today.

    Not beautiful to look at just ...BEAUTIFUL. You know?? :D
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 19 Responses Feb 3

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    BrianCrew BrianCrew 22-25, M Feb 4, 2014

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    The problem is, I'm two different people.

    Both are very real. One is from my past, when I was five, and that person is much more powerful than I care to admit. He's frightened beyond sanity and regressing rapidly, because in infancy he remembers safety. The other is my normal adult self, at least normal for now, not...
    clothprefoldbillyb clothprefoldbillyb 61-65, M Oct 20, 2014

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    I never placed a lot of stock in IQ

    or personality tests or horoscopes or astrology. Not saying they don't serve a purpose. Just always struck me as woefully inadequate assessments of a person as a whole. But I come here and I run into this delightful person who really seems to get my thinking and I'm...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    Very Slowly

    It is such a slow process.  Life has been on my face like an iron mask.  Changing me and molding me to its will for so long I am not even sure what it under it any more.  But the iron mask is coming off.  It is in bits and pieces but it is coming off.  Someday I will look...
    Oldandgone Oldandgone 41-45 5 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    I'm Awkward

    I've have begun to embrace my awkward self. I don't beat myself over the things I do anymore like stuttering, talking fast to try and cover up the stuttering, saying random crap for no reason, and using my hands an awful lot when I talk. I feel that me accepting my personality...
    orangesky03 orangesky03 18-21, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Almost There

    Ive been on the path to being myself for a long, long time. I truley dont know whats stopping me. I honestly feel like people would love the real me, but there is still some part of me that doesnt allow my true self to shine through. I think it may have to do with my extreme fear...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F Mar 7, 2013

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