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I Am Learning to Love Myself

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    Too Complicated...

    I´ve been trying to love myself. Or at least trying to convince myself that that´s the best for me! But I always end up feeling down and stupid and frustrated with it... I guess no one ever loved me my whole life. I discovered I´m even unable to accept the love...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 24, 2008

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    The First Few Steps

    So I'm trying something new. Happiness and loving myself. It's such a funny feeling to build myself up instead of break myself down all the time. It feels good but not normal. And that is sad. How did I get to a point where I have to get used to being happy? I'm just glad...
    annathom annathom 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 24, 2008

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    Self-Care

    I am really good at showing love to anyone but me..... well..... I used to be really good at it.... but I am learning how to love myself....... I have always put others before me..... not a story that women everywhere aren't familiar with..... We all do it..... Women...... it's...
    Gaya Gaya 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2007

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    Yesterday

    I was texting with the fiance of my fiance's best friend when she asked, "How are things going with you two?" To which I paused and had to think how to respond. I told her, "I think I drive him crazy." Her response: "Good crazy? Or bad crazy?" To which I confirmed "bad crazy" and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    Still In Need of Lessons!

    Learning to love ones-self is work! I am training myself to take time where I'm not doing anything else but just existing with myself. I am trying to take the time to make doctors appointments, have my eyes checked and even make it back to the dentist- I deserve it...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 1 Response Oct 26, 2007

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    Loving And Accepting Myself

    That has always been a struggle for me. I have always thought having someone else love me was all I needed. After the last relationship for last three years. I finally see that if I don't love myself how can someone else. I believe we were completely wrong for each other. But I...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 1 Response May 19, 2012

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    I Feel At Peace!

    I understand my flaws and I understand my strengths. I see the good in me I also see the bad! I love, I try not to hate. I know were I am in life I don't know where I am going but I am at peace with that. I understand I am different I understand that I an unique! Life has been a...
    blondiesmilez blondiesmilez 16-17, F Oct 30, 2012

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    Shame

    i got really sad the other night. wanted to die . i prayed that i would in my sleep. i was soo upset i got a needle and started carving into my skin, i got tired n fell asleep. i see it now and im ashamed that i made someone who doesn't deserve my attention make me feel so...
    Nellieccr Nellieccr 18-21, F Oct 21, 2013

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    Transformed

    For the past few years I have really hated myself. But lately I have gone through a complete transformation. I have begun to do yoga and meditate and I have really started to see the good in everyone and in every situation. I am no longer concerned with physical appearance and I...
    ancoolu ancoolu 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2012

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    Love Hate Relationship!

    I am trying so hard to love myself. I dont see the qualities that other people see in me. I am so overly critical of myself. I give advice to alot of friends and loved ones.....but I can never follow my own advice! At times I hate myself, but then again I do love myself.....Im...
    picgirl picgirl 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 31, 2007

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    Wealth

    The road seemed long and lengthy Narrow and winding, often rocky Stretching far out there seems no end Discouraging haze meant to impend. The road seemed long and lengthy Thorns and weeds to walk through thickly Blades of tall grass cutting through the skin Only losses linger...
    Sylphy Sylphy 41-45, F Feb 19, 2012

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    So.. I Love Myself?

    Ok so I don't mean to sound narcissistic or anything, but I love myself. And for anyone who has a problem with me saying that... IDGAF:) okay so... Would you think that you have found your soulmate, someone that you really like/love, if you found someone who knew your weaknesses...
    kennedyhensen46 kennedyhensen46 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    Not Easy

    Its wrong to see yourself through someone else's eyes.You should always accept yourself with your flaws and appreciate whatever God has given you.I used to be like that.But my marriage has ruined lot of things for me.His indifference towards me has destroyed my confidence...
    Theright1 Theright1 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2013

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    I am a tom boy kinda girl.

    . but so what!! i love myself now n don't care what others think of me.. i love to try out new things ...so what if others don't like it. i love to deal my life in my own way, more independently..so what if its really hard to find any direction without any help.. i am now my...
    90colors 90colors 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Not Letting Me Get Me: Fighting Back!

    I was running...running for my life. My breathing became heavy and I stumbled in the cold, abandoned streets. Why was there no one there?! I felt so all alone and shuttered at the cold breeze as it caressed across my skin. The street light seemed dim and I often jumped at the...
    JasmineLove45 JasmineLove45 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2013

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    Learning To Love My Fat

    I've felt overweight my whole life, whether I really was or not.  I don't know if second graders can really even be severely overweight, but I felt like I was.  That's the very first time I started dieting.  I was part of a program akin to fat camp.  The staff...
    lepamplemousse lepamplemousse 22-25, F Jun 10, 2010

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    I Am Beautiful

    I have recently discovered my beauty and have stopped engaging in harmful habits, like eating very little. I am learning to love myself, and it is making me a lot happier. Lifes good when you can accept yourself as you.  
    Illlusion Illlusion 16-17, F Nov 7, 2011

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    This past Friday night I found myself in an

    interesting conversation with my boyfriend, we'll call him SD, about the future. I’d been feeling fearful and insecure since the Saturday before. I was feeling needy and allowing fear to take over. After he reassured me (several times). I found myself making some important...
    Spankie1 Spankie1 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    :d

    im learning to love me all over again, im proud of me, ive come along way.I know i still have a long way to go. im a survior like it or not i have made it this far. I can do this. im make it past this im gonna be fine :) im gonna get past this and i say it with a huge smile on my...
    Tawny26 Tawny26 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9, 2011

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    It's Happening to Me

    I feel different now when I look at myself. As a child I was told I was many things by my mother and none were complimentary. I believed her. Only in the last week have I made a pact with myself (something i've never done before). I told myself that it was time to stop beating...
    emmie3 emmie3 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Today I had yet another deep conversation with

    my acting professor. He told me how I should just ignore people's judgements and go past that, how I shouldn't be afraid to be myself and just embrace myself, because it holds me back from "letting go" on stage and in life. He told me that those who don't appreciate me...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F Mar 18

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    I Learning

    To look in the mirror and see a monster to see discuss to see fat. I am learned those are not my thoughts those are others op pinons and They are not mine. I see the hate I see the love but then I seen me you ask me what rode I choose I will tell you the undecided I wanted to...
    blondiesmilez blondiesmilez 16-17, F Oct 30, 2012

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    I Am Beatiful

    Tonight, I go to sleep with an affirmation, an affirmation that says "I am BEAUTIFUL, I AM WORTHY"
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 23, 2013

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    "remember To Love Yourself."

    Loving yourself is probably one of the hardest things a person can actually do. It means being able to forgive yourself, the ability to accept that you're not perfect, that sometimes you're not in control, and that is perfectly alright. For a long time, very long time, I hated...
    jaque17 jaque17 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 27, 2011

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    Learning To Love Myself?

    Yes, I'm learning to love myself. I sigh as I realize that it's going to be one long journey. It's going to be one of the toughest learning experience for me. It's going to be me against. . .well, me. But I am worth it, I need to love myself. My "self" has been neglected...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 23, 2013

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    I just want to be single.

    I have discovered more things about myself than ever before because of the situations I have been dealt with for the past week. I have grown so confident, and I see that in myself, finally, after all of the self hate I have had my whole life. There is a way up when you're in a...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F Mar 10

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    The Beginning Of My Journey

    I want to be ok with loving myself I want to be ok with just liking myself I need to make time for me in life Because I need to see that I desire it Im not the worst person in the world If I know that there is hope for like But like is so hard to find in my mind When my...
    somethingneverseen somethingneverseen 18-21 Jan 18, 2013

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    I am my biggest fan and my worst enemy.

    I struggle with it everyday
    TankGirlC94 TankGirlC94 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 24

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    Lol I Am Only In A Speck In The Universe.

    I've always had voices that tell me that no one will like me because of my weight, my height, my hair, my personality, my scars, and etc. It drove me to self harm that drove me into hating myself even more. I find myself feeling awkward when my friends constantly joke about...
    iexistlol iexistlol 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2011

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    For the past couple of years i had been very

    hard on myself.I am not proud for who i am.I can't even say to myself that i look beautiful.I always have this attitude that i am not beautiful,not good.I don't like to hang out with friends and I prefer to stay at home and watch movies.I dont like to attend to any parties.I am...
    dreamingnightingale dreamingnightingale 26-30, F Mar 24

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    Loving and Living

     I am learning to love myself after constantly ignoring its pleas to do so for 6 years.   after 2 failed relationships and a one-night stand that ended by me getting pregnant, i am starting to learn how to love myself; fats and flaws included. after 7 years of...
    mspekpek mspekpek 22-25 3 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    Found Another Awesome Book!! :)

    Being negative about our negativity fragments us, stranding us from our unresolved wounds. Hurt, rage, grief, shame, fear, terror, loneliness, despair, and so on—all of these tend to get lumped together as “negativity,” as something far from spiritual. It’s as if we have...
    PuddleJumping PuddleJumping 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2012

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    It's a process. But I used to be the type to

    respond to every guy that messaged me on Facebook because I felt so happy that someone could want to talk to me. I know it's just because they wanted in my pants, but it used to make me feel a little less empty. I would respond and text every guy because I didn't want him to...
    Nessybabi Nessybabi 18-21, F Mar 27

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    I'M Happy With Myself.

    I'm happy with my appearance. It's taken me a LONG time, because I used to be the chubby nerdy girl with a tooth gap and glasses. But now my teeth have straightened and I've gotten prettier. I've lost some weight too. So I'm actually happy with myself. My two insecurities? My...
    brokeninsidefakeoutside brokeninsidefakeoutside 13-15, F Jul 24, 2013

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    I've only been on EP

    for three days, and it's already helping me with my ongoing battle with depression. Or rather, it's helping me to help myself. I'm the kind of person who likes to do things thoroughly if I do them at all (please, no jokes), so it was no surprise that when I joined the site, I...
    xeian xeian 26-30, F a week ago

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    The more I talk about my issues

    and social anxiety, the easier I find it gets. Before I opened up about it I was so ashamed of it and felt like a smaller person. Now that I put it out there to people I know won't judge or put me down because of it, the easier it gets and the happier I become
    Nessybabi Nessybabi 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    Depression I'm The Winner.. :)

    i will not bore you with the excat details of what has happened over the pasted year but i'm getting better everyday. Sometimes it really dose not feel that way i know i'm the only one who can help me get i have to do this for me no one else but me i can talk about how i want to...
    Tawny26 Tawny26 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    A Letter To Myself

    Dear Me, Tell me how to win your heart Because I haven't got a clue But let me start by saying... I love you.
    SpringlesAndStars SpringlesAndStars 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    I've been trying to concentrate on things about

    myself I like rather than my flaws. It's so much harder than I thought it would be. I always catch myself comparing myself to other people. I do want to love myself though. I want to be able to look in the mirror one day and be like dayum girl even if it is sarcastic. I want to...
    daniefaye32346 daniefaye32346 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    Everyday I gain more confidence

    and become more accepting of the way God has made me. I am learning to embrace my flaws and accept my mistakes. I am grasping a deeper understanding of who I am and as I get to know myself I am liking the person that I find.
    TryingToLoveLifeNow TryingToLoveLifeNow 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    After finals I will not go to sleep

    nor stay in bed and watch netflix all day long to relax. I will get my *** up and run, run, and run. And dedicate time for myself. I'm getting fat for just sitting and studying all day, all night. 1 more day!
    nicolefg nicolefg 18-21, F Dec 15, 2013

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    Just Realizing What It Means To Love Myself...

    It's only been the last few weeks that I've been able to see through my fears and realize how hard and uncaring I am to myself.  The first step is to forgive myself for believing that I'm not worthy of being loved....I'm still working on it...and the next step so far is to be my...
    italianchi1010 italianchi1010 22-25 2 Responses Feb 26, 2011

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    I Am Learning to Love Myself

    Things came to head a few years ago.  In a cross road I saw the road I was walking to showing me in years to come in the same position I am in now (then) still giving, still loving, and getting nothing back in return.  Love is unconditional, you can't expect people to...
    BattyOldMaid BattyOldMaid 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 31, 2007

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    I suppose that this is something

    that I must do because it has come to my attention that I will be living alone for quite some time. What ends up happening when I live with someone is that I give them so much attention to make up for the fact that I don't exactly love myself the way I should. I have come to...
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F Jan 5

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    I May Not Be Perfect In Life But I've Been Through Alot....

    I've been through my mom having a miscarriage at the age of 39 I've been through what you may call an abusive relationship or two I'm only 29, more years ahead of me...this I want. My father (61) knows the secrets to a long life and happiness.... and so does my mom. They are a...
    acdc8428 acdc8428 26-30, F Sep 19, 2013

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    Learning To Work With What You Have

    Confession Time: I Used to be A "Catfish" In other Words, I used to use fake profiles with pictures that weren't of myself because I constantly felt ugly & felt like no one could love me. Honestly, I hated it...I loved the attention I received from guys because of it, but at the...
    LieutenantSnuggles LieutenantSnuggles 18-21, F Feb 8, 2013

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