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I Am Leaving a Sexless Marriage

one path from the "I Live in a Sexless Marriage" EG 665 People

    Yes I Did!!!

    ...and I haven't felt this good in years!!
    antimatter antimatter
    41-45, M
    16 Responses Jan 7, 2011

    Being At Peace With The Decision

    There are times that I really wonder if divorcing my wife is the right thing to do. I would really like to live out that dream of happily ever after with her. The sad truth is, though, that I really don't want the same relationship that we HAD! We were miserable a great deal of...
    cvann5 cvann5
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2013

    Well my husband an I have been together 7 years

    married for almost two and it's been over a year of no sex... So I outsourced, husband found out and was ok with it because he knew he wasn't having sex with me... Now I have finally got the nerve to leave my husband... I'm going to be moving into my brothers house with his...
    Gaffa1234 Gaffa1234
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jul 21, 2014

    How Deluded Had I Been!

    Mentally, I have already left my sexless marriage.Technically, I still have things to work out and for the time being, I'm staying in the same house with my husband.So currently, my life is like this.We stay in separate rooms.I cook and clean for all of us.I take care of my son...
    eternalhope eternalhope
    41-45, F
    22 Responses Mar 6, 2011

    This saying sums it all up.

    Couldn't add anything to it
    firechief601 firechief601
    56-60, M
    2 Responses May 1, 2014

    Should I Leave My Sexless Marriage

    I'm considering leaving my marriage due to the fact that we're more friends than husband and wife. At first, when we got together, I thought he was just shy or had been a bachelor too long so he didn't know how things worked. He was romantic but not too intimate. I was married...
    lonelysiren lonelysiren
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 25, 2013
    perezja perezja
    36-40, M
    Jun 26, 2014

    Glad I Had The Guts To Leave

    After not having sex for almost 8 years in a marriage of 3 decades, I finally decided that I deserved more than a husband who was nothing but a courteous roommate. I realized that I would rather be poor and single than to stay in a marriage with a man who never touched me, and...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma
    66-70, F
    9 Responses Sep 11, 2013

    I have set the date to leave.

    18th November 2014. Feeling very excited but very worried about how I will break it to my h when the time comes. I haven't had good experiences when I have ended a relationship so any thoughts of what not to do/say would be really appreciated
    missblueskies missblueskies
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jan 10, 2014

    Please Explain This To Me

    My lady friend just filed divorce. they were married for 16 years, both works good job, no children. The husband was cheating, she caught it and she wants out. When I brought up the idea of a second chance, she open up her heart to me for the first time. According to her...
    hyrok40 hyrok40
    36-40, M
    8 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    Determination Brings About Change

    It has been awhile since I wrote a story on my progress in leaving a marriage that has been on its last legs for many years. I have talked to supportive friends and family members ad nauseum about this draining life here in a house empty of all good emotions. I came...
    dartist dartist
    56-60, F
    31 Responses Sep 1, 2009

    How I Got Out - Please Share How You Did.

    I am in the process of getting out now—many thanks to this site. After joining the forum last year and reading enough stories to depress the hell out of me I decided to do something about it. After 6 years of excuses, 6 months of couples therapy, hundreds of empty promises and...
    tangel000 tangel000
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 30, 2012

    It Was Worth It!

    Hey everyone! I haven't been on this board for quite a while but just wanted to give everyone an update. I'm 4 months of 6 into my separation and it was totally worth it. Me and the W are still amicable save for a few incidents but all in all I feel lucky there's no mud flinging...
    loyalguy loyalguy
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23
    31-35, F
    Nov 25, 2013

    Shedding 140 Lbs. Of Negativity

    I am a few months into the legal process of leaving my sexless marriage...with another three to four months ahead of me. Emotionally, I left years ago. Now, as I go through the divorce dance, I find myself questioning how the hell I stayed with this man for so many years. A...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    8 Responses May 19, 2012

    Wanderlust? Hmmm...

    I find myself at an interesting juncture in my life. Having been so sure of what I needed to do for all of a week, I had a particularly attractive thought this morning. Last Saturday I told my wife that I would be moving out of the house and I've been looking for a new place to...
    Iamhere4me Iamhere4me
    36-40, M
    28 Responses Jun 18, 2011

    Woooooh Hoooooh! After Nine Months Of Limbo And Hell (ending a ten year relationship), I Can Officially Join The Group!

    I just left my husband. I am no longer in the ILIASM! Woooh Hooh! Last night, I had a young guy friend over (completely platonic) and we danced to my prom song from 1989 and I got picked up and thrown around! And, then my other guy friend came over and we all watched a movie. And...
    rosedl rosedl
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jan 6, 2011

    Yes, I Am Happy About It!

    I never thought the idea of divorce would make me happy.  In fact, I thought about it a number of times and would always say in my head or to others that I don't really want a divorce.  Divorce is hard.  Divorce is difficult for children.  Divorce is the...
    Pinkberry Pinkberry
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Feb 11, 2010

    Separated At Last!

    Excited, nervous, emotional, sad, happy, calm, positive, energised, tearful, concerned, uplifted...........What a mix of emotions!.No regrets, no doubts, no second thoughts..This day is a milestone in my life - a turning point, a fresh start..I will make the most of this...
    MAXwho MAXwho
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Jun 27, 2013

    He's Halfway Gone

    Today - the day my H was supposed to start moving out - I found him this morning playing on the computer, no significant packing done.  I cancelled my appointments at work, cut off the Internet at our house (I'm the techie around here) and started...
    Chai07 Chai07
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Dec 4, 2009

    Inside The Process: Part The First...I Am Sure There Will Be Others

    well...its happening...I am leaving...not in a rush, with a thunderstorm's worth of drama, nor without regrets. But gradually - bit by bit and with some sadness, and many pangs as I start to dismantle our life together.  He knows now; the why - and the when - and the how. We...
    deleted deleted
    29 Responses Feb 6, 2011

    My h left on Monday suddenly

    and of his own decision. It all felt very surreal but now feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. However he is continuing to manipulate me. Messaging me last night to tell me he is staying at a friends and will be homeless in 2 days. Ringing me today to tell me...
    missblueskies missblueskies
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 13, 2014

    Five Days Gone--dealing With Mourning.

    So, it's been five days since the STBX moved out. Sleep and I haven't been speaking to each other much, except when I've come to a point of complete and utter exhaustion. Then I'll fall into more of a coma-like state, empty of dreams, until I jerk awake filled with more nervous...
    msdamgoode msdamgoode
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Aug 10, 2012

    "Older married couples

    who still engage in sexual activity are more likely to report happiness in their relationship and with their lives overall than those who have sex infrequently, according to research presented at the Gerontological Society of America’s annual meeting in Boston.... Jackson’s...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma
    66-70, F
    4 Responses Jun 30, 2014

    The Need To Grieve

    Marrying is a large part of many people's aspirations, goals and overall life plans. It becomes a great expectation, one might say. When a couple marries, they go through it with great hopes, excitement and plans. Lots of dreams are attached to the idea of marriage. When that...
    eternalhope eternalhope
    41-45, F
    16 Responses Mar 21, 2011

    What was that? Nonexistent But it was a

    reflection of the deadness..the nonexistent More like an acquaintance living under the same roof Except emotional mental put downs rampant damaging the psyche. Time for repair healing a new beginning. Never again. Must have passion intimacy on all levels.
    thebigtexrock thebigtexrock
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 19, 2014

    Dose This Mean I Love My Wife Less

    I am a person who feels someone can love more than one person. Strange? I still love my ex-wife just being honest. I still love all of my ex-girlfriends. There are many longtime woman friends I love and have never slept with, but I love them! I've Been married for 12 yrs my wife...
    magicwriter49 magicwriter49
    51-55, M
    Aug 10, 2013

    I am thinking of leaving a sexless marriage .

    .. we have sex maybe once a month, and when we do, he usually ******* quickly (anything over a couple minutes would be a marathon session) and once that happens, it's over. He tells me he'll take care of me next time. Oh boy. So another month later ... maybe I'll get to have an...
    genny867 genny867
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jan 2, 2015

    It's been over three years

    since I last had sex. She finally admitted in therapy that she doesn't like much about me and that we would be better off divorced. We're in the process of divorcing and I am truly excited that I will once again have a sex life. I was true to her for 30 years. Time to play! I...
    BoyGod BoyGod
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2014

    On My Own

    Not so long ago I was one part of a relationship. A relationship that suffocated me. No touch. No hold. No giving. No love. A very strange kind of relationship. Especially since I am very warm. And giving. I am grateful she let me go.
    donlino donlino
    41-45, M
    Mar 5, 2013

    Leaving... And Not Looking Back..

    When i first tried to Google "sexless marriage" I was just hoping that mine would not fall in that category ( turns out a marriage in which the frequency of sex is less than 10 times a year is termed as sexless marriage) and sadly , our's fell into that category. I have been...
    soulsearchering soulsearchering
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 23, 2013

    This is the story of my life right now

    and I'm beginning to feel like the crazy guy in the back seat. I guess my love has died...
    birdie39 birdie39
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Dec 11, 2013

    Heard this today on (don't judge) Grey's Anatomy

    and it was one of those moments that something resonates with you. "Staying married out of obligation--that's no way to live, that's no way to love." For me that's it. I have respected & honored my husband and the vows we took. But I no longer am willing to allow them or him...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2014

    18 Years ...19years? 20 Years No!

    Hi everyone. I posted the story below in I LIVE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE a few minutes ago. I Thought it belonged on this site as well. My first post in the experience project. I've been reading things for a few months in "I live in a sexless marriage." Thank you everyone with...
    pos1987 pos1987
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 28, 2012

    My Christmas present to myself.

    I saw a lawyer today and I got things going. He is going to have to move out and I don't care. He can go live with his tramp. She can have him and put up with all of his bs because I am over him and the years of his neglect and abuse. It might be the Chardonnay but all I want...
    FreeNbreezy FreeNbreezy
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Dec 29, 2013

    Well, I am finally doing it,

    and I know many people who actually gave a **** about me in here will be happy for me. The irony of it all came down to this: after years of him rejecting me; after years of sex always being HIS way on HIS terms, I finally got the courage to say NO to him when all of a sudden he...
    backtovanessabet backtovanessabet
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2014

    Epiphanies Galore

    Yesterday was a day of breakthroughs. I had my first counseling session. So did he. In mine, I slowly detailed how the “decoupling” occurred. I mentioned some key events that were catalysts to the “decoupling.” She asked a lot of questions relating to our 20-year...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Apr 12, 2012


    I am slowly discovering my emotional triggers. My marriage to my ex was rotten with control. I had to do everything with him. He determined what it was that we "enjoyed." He determined the when, where, and how of my life. He determined my boundaries. Anyway, back to those...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    Has anyone heard of the SM marriage doing a 360

    change when the refuser is a male?
    selfcompassion selfcompassion
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    Little Deaths Of The Soul And Then....

    A marriage dies in bits and pieces. The first betrayal comes as a surprise and one is left feeling alone and dismayed. You know that you are doing your best and someone tells you that you are the wife that sleeps in every morning without them knowing that you have been up...
    dartist dartist
    56-60, F
    34 Responses Jun 12, 2010

    Moving Day

    I awoke around 6 am. I heard him rustling in the master bedroom...soon to be MY bedroom. I told myself, "keep it together today, kiddo, you're almost through this." We made it through a peaceful breakfast. He ate quickly so he could attend to the last-minute packing of clothes...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jul 18, 2012

    Seeking Married Couples Considering Dating Other People!! Paid!!

    * Have you Grown Apart from your Spouse, but still Live Together? * Have you hit a rough patch in your marriage, and trying to decide whether to work things out, or move on? * If you are an outgoing and opinionated married couple that have a long-standing argument or issue that...
    TFMCasting TFMCasting
    31-35, F
    Oct 22, 2013

    Where Did I Go Wrong ?

    My wife and I are both 65. We are fit and well and have been married for 42 years. I think I have been a good husband have never cheated. We have one unmarried son 34. We live in a quiet part of the country in the UK. I am contemplating leaving her and I ask for your views. My...
    germane germane
    61-65, M
    6 Responses Feb 11, 2013

    Down the Rabbit Hole - The end of a marriage is

    such a weird time. Those of us who pull the divorce trigger first engage in a series of covert activities to get our ducks in a row. We meet secretly with lawyers, gather financial records, start looking for a new place to live, worry about the kids, and start picturing a life...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2
    56-60, F
    6 Responses Jun 8, 2014

    Trying to stay positive

    but this in between place of not married but not yet legally divorced, wanting a healthy, loving relationship but not ready for it just plain sucks. Not eloquently stated I realize but that's how I feel for right now. I'm trying to stay focused on the steps to get to my goals...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jun 28, 2014

    Death By A Thousand Cuts

    It's been over 30 years.  We've been through so much together, raised two children, and have created such a rich shared history.  I don't regret my marriage.  I just don't want to live like this for the next 30 years. For the last 10 years I've tried to fix our intimacy.  I...
    Annikka Annikka
    51-55, F
    19 Responses Aug 23, 2011

    Working On It.......

    Sorry all that I haven't been my cheery, mostly smiling self of late but it is where I am at right now. I am filling out the papers and working on getting out of my marriage. We haven't been a couple for a couple of years now, with me traveling and her at home and being away...
    mtvlm mtvlm
    41-45, M
    12 Responses Dec 4, 2009

    In A Sexless Marriage For 10 Years

    lilys67 lilys67
    46-50, F
    Mar 15, 2013

    Court Date Soon

    Got a letter from my attorney....Court date set for July 2nd, 2013....very close to independence day...wonder if there is any correlation?will it "feel different?will my heart be lighter?smile wider?It all feels very a dream that feels so real...that when you wake...
    clgsassy clgsassy
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Jun 3, 2013

    2 More Months Until Court

    After 16 years of marriage, I can now see light at the end of a very long and boring tunnel. This sad story started in Greeley Colorado and will end in Dayton Ohio. I am sad to see my friend move on to a different part of my life, but am hopeful of finding someone more compatible...
    cvann5 cvann5
    51-55, M
    Jul 7, 2013
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