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I Am Leaving a Sexless Marriage

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    Moving Forward And Alimony - I am finally leaving a sexless marriage. It is giving so much freedom to do so many things I have wanted to do. And not one of them is sexual! I...
    golferel golferel 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    My h left on Monday suddenly and of his own decision. It all felt very surreal but now feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. However he is continuing to manipulate...
    missblueskies missblueskies 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Court Date Soon - Got a letter from my attorney....Court date set for July 2nd, 2013....very close to independence day...wonder if there is any correlation?will it "feel different...
    clgsassy clgsassy 56-60, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    Little Deaths Of The Soul And Then.... - A marriage dies in bits and pieces. The first betrayal comes as a surprise and one is left feeling alone and dismayed. You know that you...
    dartist dartist 56-60, F 36 Responses Jun 12, 2010

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    So Confused - I have been married for almost 10 years. We were married in our mid 30's and after waiting for what seemed like forever I met my husband and we had a wounderful...
    bjbsipe bjbsipe 46-50, F 7 Responses Nov 21, 2012

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    Alone - Well, it finally hit me. After three days of his absence I feel completely, absolutely, and utterly alone. It started last night, after he dropped off the things he...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    He's Halfway Gone - Today - the day my H was supposed to start moving out - I found him this morning playing on the computer, no significant packing done.  I...
    Chai07 Chai07 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 4, 2009

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    Not Too Long Before "D" Day.. - So, I filed for divorce last week, and tomorrow i will see my soon-to-be ex-husband "T" since he is on leave for the next two weeks from Germany. I...
    FearfulandFree FearfulandFree 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    When To Leave A Sexless Marriage? - Am I afraid? Or am I hanging onto values drilled into me all my life such as commitment and responsibilities and using them as an excuse? How...
    StayorGo1861 StayorGo1861 56-60, M 7 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    It Was Worth It! - Hey everyone! I haven't been on this board for quite a while but just wanted to give everyone an update. I'm 4 months of 6 into my separation and it was totally...
    loyalguy loyalguy 41-45, M 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    How Deluded Had I Been! - Mentally, I have already left my sexless marriage.Technically, I still have things to work out and for the time being, I'm staying in the same house with...
    eternalhope eternalhope 36-40, F 22 Responses Mar 6, 2011

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    The Need To Grieve - Marrying is a large part of many people's aspirations, goals and overall life plans. It becomes a great expectation, one might say. When a couple marries...
    eternalhope eternalhope 36-40, F 18 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    Heard this today on (don't judge) Grey's Anatomy and it was one of those moments that something resonates with you. "Staying married out of obligation--that's no way to live, that...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 6

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    Stuck In The Middle - I married my friend. I've been with him for over a decade years. I thought because he was stable, kind, loving, reliable and an amazing father, I'd love him...
    5 Responses Jan 20, 2013

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    My separation... I have been doing this a crazy way. I had continued to do his laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, dry cleaning, etc. I did not want him to feel abandoned...
    frspch frspch 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 2

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    I have set the date to leave. 18th November 2014. Feeling very excited but very worried about how I will break it to my h when the time comes. I haven't had good experiences when I...
    missblueskies missblueskies 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 10

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    Max - Our divorce is final next Friday. I am so ready to be rid of his emotionally numb, P-A garbage. Today, for example. He agreed to take Max, our (now my) dog. My truck was...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    Glad I Had The Guts To Leave - After not having sex for almost 8 years in a marriage of 3 decades, I finally decided that I deserved more than a husband who was nothing but a...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2013

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    Should I Leave My Sexless Marriage - I'm considering leaving my marriage due to the fact that we're more friends than husband and wife. At first, when we got together, I thought he...
    lonelysiren lonelysiren 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    Shedding 140 Lbs. Of Negativity - I am a few months into the legal process of leaving my sexless marriage...with another three to four months ahead of me. Emotionally, I left...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 12 Responses May 19, 2012

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles - ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    Five Days Gone--dealing With Mourning. - So, it's been five days since the STBX moved out. Sleep and I haven't been speaking to each other much, except when I've come to a point of...
    msdamgoode msdamgoode 41-45, F 9 Responses Aug 10, 2012

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    Moving On And Hopefully Up! - I came to the decision to separate from my wife while were apart this Christmas. I have been looking into the details and am not sure if we should...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 6 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    Please Explain This To Me - My lady friend just filed divorce. they were married for 16 years, both works good job, no children. The husband was cheating, she caught it and she...
    hyrok40 hyrok40 36-40, M 10 Responses Dec 13, 2012

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    Wanderlust? Hmmm... - I find myself at an interesting juncture in my life. Having been so sure of what I needed to do for all of a week, I had a particularly attractive thought...
    Iamhere4me Iamhere4me 36-40, M 29 Responses Jun 18, 2011

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    Death By A Thousand Cuts - It's been over 30 years.  We've been through so much together, raised two children, and have created such a rich shared history.  I don't regret my...
    Annikka Annikka 51-55, F 22 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    It's been over three years since I last had sex. She finally admitted in therapy that she doesn't like much about me and that we would be better off divorced. We're in the process...
    BoyGod BoyGod 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Moving Day - I awoke around 6 am. I heard him rustling in the master bedroom...soon to be MY bedroom. I told myself, "keep it together today, kiddo, you're almost through this...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 18, 2012

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    Worries - As I leave my sexless marriage, there are some worries that I have, with regards to sex.They are the usual ones.Am I good enough?Will I know what to do?Have I forgotten...
    eternalhope eternalhope 36-40, F 24 Responses Jan 27, 2011

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    The End And Beginning - I am finally leaving my sexless marriage. Too little intimacy and too many tears. It's sad, exciting and sobering but I know it will be the best for the...
    loyalguy loyalguy 41-45, M 5 Responses Sep 26, 2012

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    2 More Months Until Court - After 16 years of marriage, I can now see light at the end of a very long and boring tunnel. This sad story started in Greeley Colorado and will end in...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M Jul 7, 2013

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    A Question To The People Who Have Left Their Sm... - How did the years of rejection affected you? For me, I am struggling with my self esteem. I am finding it hard to feel and look...
    newdawn07 newdawn07 41-45, F 13 Responses Oct 6, 2011

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    This is the story of my life right now and I'm beginning to feel like the crazy guy in the back seat. I guess my love has died... http://vimeo.com/m/18222641
    birdie39 birdie39 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Inside The Process: Part The First...I Am Sure There Will Be Others - well...its happening...I am leaving...not in a rush, with a thunderstorm's worth of drama, nor without regrets...
    deleted deleted 26-30 30 Responses Feb 6, 2011

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    Epiphanies Galore - Yesterday was a day of breakthroughs. I had my first counseling session. So did he. In mine, I slowly detailed how the “decoupling” occurred. I mentioned...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Where Did I Go Wrong ? - My wife and I are both 65. We are fit and well and have been married for 42 years. I think I have been a good husband have never cheated. We have one...
    germane germane 61-65, M 6 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    My marriage has been falling apart for a while. We don't connect anymore and now live long distance. I find myself craving affection, but not from him anymore which leaves me empty...
    GooseOTL GooseOTL 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 26

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    On My Own - Not so long ago I was one part of a relationship. A relationship that suffocated me. No touch. No hold. No giving. No love. A very strange kind of relationship...
    donlino donlino 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 5, 2013

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    Looking To The Future, Stuck In The Now - I am unashamedly looking for support today. I attended a baseball game with my stbx last night. (He insists we go together, as we paid...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 13 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    Triggers - I am slowly discovering my emotional triggers. My marriage to my ex was rotten with control. I had to do everything with him. He determined what it was that we...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Being At Peace With The Decision - There are times that I really wonder if divorcing my wife is the right thing to do. I would really like to live out that dream of happily ever...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Dose This Mean I Love My Wife Less - I am a person who feels someone can love more than one person. Strange? I still love my ex-wife just being honest. I still love all of my ex...
    magicwriter49 magicwriter49 51-55, M Aug 10, 2013

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    How I Got Out - Please Share How You Did. - I am in the process of getting out now—many thanks to this site. After joining the forum last year and reading enough stories to...
    tangel000 tangel000 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    Woooooh Hoooooh! After Nine Months Of Limbo And Hell (ending a ten year relationship), I Can Officially Join The Group! - I just left my husband. I am no longer in the ILIASM...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    What Doesn't Kill You.... - I look back to how my life was a month ago and cannot believe how sad it was. Staring outside of my window out into the streets of Bamberg, Germany, I...
    FearfulandFree FearfulandFree 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    Determination Brings About Change - It has been awhile since I wrote a story on my progress in leaving a marriage that has been on its last legs for many years. I have talked...
    dartist dartist 56-60, F 32 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    My First Day After Leaving! - I have now separated from my wife of 31 years. The reasons are clearly there; she is disabled and I had become only a caregiver! The transition from...
    hamiller hamiller 51-55, M 6 Responses Jul 9, 2011

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    Baby Steps Towards Divorce - Just in case anyone suspected this was a quick process... I've just got through another cycle with my solicitor. He approves of my "verification of the...
    londonwestman1 londonwestman1 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    18 Years ...19years? 20 Years No! - Hi everyone. I posted the story below in I LIVE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE a few minutes ago. I Thought it belonged on this site as well. My...
    pos1987 pos1987 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Yes, I Am Happy About It! - I never thought the idea of divorce would make me happy.  In fact, I thought about it a number of times and would always say in my head or to...
    Pinkberry Pinkberry 36-40, F 14 Responses Feb 11, 2010