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I Am Living In A Sexless Marriage Of 25 Years Last 8 Alone

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    Day seven of our romantic vacation and still no passion. Well I'm thinking about giving up on this relationship. We ( my wife of 9 years and myself) have had three nights to our...
    HenryMiller04 HenryMiller04 46-50, M 23 Responses Jul 10

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    I think the hardest thing for me, looking back on how I got into a sexless marriage, was that it was a long slow process (a death by a thousand cuts). In some ways it would have...
    runninginthedark70 runninginthedark70 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 25

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    When I first came here about a year ago, I was so naive. I was living for many years in a sexless marriage, and wanted to find out what I could do to change and make our marriage...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jun 22

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    After reading some posts here about renowned marriage/relationship researcher John Gottman (the one who says the "Four Horsemen -- contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling and...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jun 23

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    What does a normal, happy marriage look like? I've been comparing and contrasting my relationship with my husband vs my relationship with my AP. Husband: Separate rooms for 7...
    Blue2014 Blue2014 41-45, F 12 Responses Jun 26

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    While this is about a sexless relationship, not a sexless marriage, there is an important lesson in here for those in sexless relationships because your partners claim that you...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 11 Responses Jul 13

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    i think ive figured out my wife might be having an affair ... what a b**** , for everything i have done for her , and for all the crap i have taken from her , im not sure but i...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Let me begin by saying how grateful I am for finding this group. I have been in a sexless marriage for 5.5 years now. I have 3 kids (1 from a previous marriageand 2 with my...
    StrongForMyKids StrongForMyKids 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 6

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    My name is Ryan, i love in a sexless marrage. If you havent guessed I'm gay and been arried for ruffly 5 months now and I have had sex just a gathering of 5 times since Feb 28th...
    RY0RY RY0RY 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    It's Complicated I'm in a sexless marriage, and it's complicated, probably not unlike a lot of people here. I've been married for 28 years, and the last eight years have been...
    LightAtNight LightAtNight 51-55 8 Responses Jul 3

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    Things are moving rapidly now. For years I tried to get him to understand my pain in being denied sex and my needs. I would tell him the thing I would like most in the world from...
    Aubergine7 Aubergine7 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage/relationship for 14 years: all of my 30's and now into my mid-40's. It's a total mind-****. if it weren't for my drive to get pregnant, have kids...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 13 Responses a week ago

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    The Next Bit Starts With You. Here you are, having joined this group. You've already attempted "scented candles" strategies, "counselling" strategies, "REALLY talking to them...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24

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    I was in a sexless marriage for 10 years. Then the rat had the nerve to cheat on me with an 18 year old (he was almost 40.) 2 years after our divorce and I'm free to find love...
    Nikki351 Nikki351 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 28

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    After 12 years of a declining sex life, our marriage became sexless some years ago. After counselling, I told her that I wanted to leave. Now she's saying she wants to start...
    Carboholic Carboholic 36-40 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference" He answered that prayer two weeks...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 29

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    I am married but I live in a Sexless Marriage. Most of time I even live alone. I am so sad. I am not young anymore. Worst thing is I still look young and good-looking. I had crush...
    jackieLu jackieLu 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    I have lived in what can be called a sexless marriage for over 10 years. My wife lost her libido after our oldest son was born. Then we lost our youngest son to cancer 6 years...
    Carboholic Carboholic 36-40 11 Responses Jul 8

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    I have been married for over 15 years, have two wonderful children, but I live with the hurt and humiliation of a sexless marriage. In fact, we have NEVER consummated our marriage...
    BucketFiller BucketFiller 41-45, F 28 Responses Jul 13

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    The chamber is empty, all the bullets have been fired, and the marriage has breathed it's last! I've got no shortage of dates and fun and friends, I wake up every day smiling, no...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    I never thought that I would be in a situation like this. I was raised in a strict Christian family that honed in on the importance of being a "good girl". My 1st marriage ended in...
    BHEwife BHEwife 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 30

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    I have posted a couple of times about my refuser and our sexless marriage, but feel compelled to post an update. We are in marriage counseling, and she is also getting some...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 17 Responses Jul 5

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    The most posts I see on this is the sexless marriage . Wow and I thought I was alone. Who knew
    fantasythoughts fantasythoughts 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11

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    What Have You Done? “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -- Eleanor Roosevelt In sexless marriages...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I left a 4-year sexless marriage 2 months ago and after a month of crying and mourning, I start to feel happy again. I also started dating again. However, I recently went to pick...
    PerseveringMark PerseveringMark 31-35 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    We almost have it all. Perfect family, home, financially secure, adventurous lifestyle fishing, 4wd almost every weekend but we have not been intimate other than kissing for more...
    Hussy2016 Hussy2016 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 25

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    I was reading different peoples posts and started thinking that it is interesting how our wants and needs in the bedroom vary greatly. What turns one person on might offend someone...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    I did live in a sexless marriage. It was and still is the lowest point of my life. And I am glad I finally kicked that ***** out of my life. It took a long time, and nearly all my...
    TheEppy TheEppy 31-35, M 7 Responses Jul 5

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    I just want to say thank you to all of you who have shared your experiences with me. Because of you I am not waiting 40 years in a sexless marriage hoping he will change. He's...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 22-25, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Since finding out about the pmdd things have been steady., and satisfying. My H has noticed me getting attention (such as looks and what not) from other men. It has made him very...
    fantisizer fantisizer 26-30, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's a very tempting time. With summer here I feel as if my eyes have just opened to the world. Everywhere there are beautiful women walking and my mind had been wandering and I...
    Lovefetishes Lovefetishes 46-50, M 9 Responses Jun 26

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    I need a rant sorry ... Yesterday was a tough day. Long story short I'm 32 in a sexless marriage with a 43 year old man who sleeps on the sofa wangling to **** every night...
    desper8 desper8 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 22

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    I don't know what experience I joined that brought such an onslaught of circle requests....although I'm guessing it had the word naked in it.....and damn near everyone of them...
    yellowroom yellowroom 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    I also posted this in the midlife crisis section. Just looking for hope The Best of My Life, Is the Rest of My Life" = my affirmation. I heard this on Joel O'Steen a few weeks...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 1

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    How long can you be beaten down? How long can you be made to feel unimportant and useless? How long do you have to suffer in a marriage that has no hope? How long do you have to...
    Cmknewyork Cmknewyork 41-45, M 8 Responses Jul 8

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    Ive been in a sexless marriage for almost as long as ive been married. My wife has no interest in sex or romance what so ever. Ive never physically cheated on my wife yet but...
    InTheDogHouse InTheDogHouse 51-55, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well, I just got back from an amazing eve. It was a first date so to speak. A guy I met a few months back at a music festival I attended ( ok Coachella). We 'd been trying to...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 14 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hey I know this website isn't for this, so ignore it if you're not interested. But there are a lot of people on here with the title "I Live In A Sexless Marriage". If you look at...
    Neglectedlover Neglectedlover 36-40, M 4 Responses