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I Am Living With An Depressed Partner

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    Currently I feel like I can't win.

    She gets mad at me when I try to keep my bitterness and anger of her depression in and vent other places. She gets mad when I try to gently communicate that I need help around the house. The task I needed help with was our dogs. I asked her to please take the dogs out since she...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    Depressed Again How Many Times!

    My husband was diagonosed with Depression 7 years ago. At first he took pills Aropax but then ended up needing a larger dose until he could handle the stress no more and went on the sickness benefit for 6 months. It was a great break for him he attended counselling sessions...
    jollyone jollyone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 18, 2010

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    Frustrated

    My partner tells me not to walk on eggshells. I finally get to a point of not feeling like i have to around her and that every time she gets upset will not spiral downward. This weekend was hard. Small things set her off. I wish she would just talk to me. She shuts me out and is...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    My Guy...

    I wrote so much, but deleted it all because it was all just noise in the end. My boyfriend is depressed, he doesn't talk to me about it much, but my heart bears the heaviness. When you're in a committed relationship with somebody, talk to them. They love you, don't be afraid to...
    DonutsJunction DonutsJunction 26-30, F Jul 12, 2013

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    Taking Me With Her

    So my gf is very depressed, she calims to have no moments of joy at all and it really does affect both of our lives but of course anyone who has read or written a story in this article already knows this. I'm looking for advice. I'm tired of listening to the same song, much of...
    IWishIUnderstood IWishIUnderstood 22-25, M Nov 14, 2012

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    Will It All Work Out

    Like all of you i to am living with a partner with severe depression, but unlike you we have been self medicating for years, by smoking marijuana joints, not a very smart thing to have done i know. He was doing it for his own reasons that he can not admit to yet blames me, i was...
    kimbeys kimbeys 26-30 3 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    My Partner Is Depressed

    I have been living with my partner for just under a year and we have been together just over 2 years.  He split with his wife and misses his kids.  She has made it very difficult for him since the split and since us getting together.  Its like life has been sucked...
    deunloved deunloved 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 3, 2009

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    Life'S Journey

    I am new to this site, and it is really nice and relieving to know that there are others out there experiencing the same things that I have been experiencing. I have a four year relationship with my boyfriend, and we have lived together for about two. Although it was almost a...
    tfk599 tfk599 22-25, F Mar 12, 2013

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    Hi There

    hi both myself and my partner have depression mine is prob abit more severe than his. but other members in our family also have depression its in the genes so know what its like to live with someone with depression 
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 24, 2011

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    He Doesn't See What It Does To Me

    My fiance suffers from depression & anxiety. I adore him and even though there's no question of whether I'm there for him or not, sometimes it feels like things are totally one-sided. I know he wants to be there for me & is frustrated that he sometimes isn't, but there are also...
    Timidexcess Timidexcess 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    He Is Suffering and There Is Nothing I Can Do.

    My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years has always had low-level depression, ever since high school really. But he is now at a point where he has to decide whether or not to leave graduate school -- he has never really enjoyed the field he went into, and now everything seems to be coming to...
    abigialmarie abigialmarie 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    Does He Really Love Me

    My Partner has been depressed for a long time now. I know he misses me terribly if I am not around but he just won't seek any help, he is too proud and thinks he is fine. He does seem to be better than he was a while ago but he is often very cold. I am living at his parents...
    Duckz Duckz 26-30 3 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    I Can't Win

    I began by snapping. I apologized. I took a moment and began to explain my grievance calmly and openly with eye contact. What faced me was an angry cold body. She said it was bullshit and asked if we were done talking. I quietly said yes and gently walked away crying. I did...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Sep 4, 2013

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    Sometimes It Is. Just. Plain. Hard.

    I have been with my boyfriend for some time now. Surprise trips across the globe, fun afternoons doing nothing but sitting on a couch laughing, sunny afternoons, fun text messages, constant "I Love You's" and smiling and everything in between are a normal part of our life...
    vm22490 vm22490 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    She Won't Listen To My Words

    The silence hurts. No one tells you this part. I feel confused and hurt. Why must I suffer this too? Why am I the one who has to feel like the adult all of the time?I was so excited to spend time with her tonight. We have had a long couple of days at work. I cooked her dinner. I...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Sep 25, 2013

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    Kicked Out

    I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year. He experienced a major injury about 9 months ago and underwent surgery about 3 months ago. He is still seeing a physical therapist and has been on pain medication for about 90% of this time. Due to his his injury, he has...
    Confused713 Confused713 22-25, F Sep 16, 2009

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    Fighting For Love

    My partner has depression. I am a partner of someone who has a mental illness. Some days are amazing and she happy. Other's are rocky. And, some days are ******. I never know what will trigger her to shut down and become sad. Her sadness is a heartbreaking reality to live with. I...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2013

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    'If You Love Someone with Alcoholic Parents' It's a great article by a blogger Amy Eden and all credit goes to her, absolutely, I don't mean to steal it, just to share because it...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 6

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    Its been 2 weeks now since I started on medication...today after 2 weeks I feel better..first week was not easy I take 2x a day a lamivudine/zidovudine at 7 am and 12 hours later...
    paulcor paulcor 51-55 Aug 25

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    I have been battling depression for years. I have had some terrible things happen in my life, and some really great things happen too. However today, I realized why I truly have...
    misfitincali misfitincali 31-35, F Sep 5

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    I've been living in this house for about 4 years now and I can always feel a presence that someone is in my room, it honestly scares me shitless. Sometimes I feel it follows me...
    Hanxo Hanxo 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    About three years ago, my ex girlfriend cheated on me with three other men, and then did the same years later with an emo Australian. She then started dating my friends and cheated...
    austinmmyers1994 austinmmyers1994 18-21, M Aug 24

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    I really believed when I came here that this group (and some related others) are for people who have an ACoA loved one so they could share their story and be understood and given...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    Until now, I have felt completely lost when it comes to understanding certain aspects of my significant other. We are in a committed, long-term relationship, and I love and care...
    nic225 nic225 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    Note to self: live what you preach baby. What do you think? Was too tired, too sick, too many worries, and kept thinking that I will feel my emotions and do yoga and take care of...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Aug 30

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    Meaning "life is only for spiritual development and there is no other meaning and I think that's a frighthening thing because we come from a long long tradition that separates our...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 7

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    I was in "love" with this girl but I started to hate her long before we moved in. Now I can't stand her, she's like me. In few words poison to all those around her. Like I said she...
    MexBoxOne MexBoxOne 18-21, M Sep 10

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    "What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear; that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly into...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 11

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    I am losing myself. My mind is totally black. I feel that I'm a machine doing what I do because of one man. My husband of 14 years destroyed me. He enjoyed abusing me mentally and...
    sad2forget sad2forget 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 13

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    My parents disappointed me. Last year i saved up for a concert really bad. My parents have sometimes money problems and i thought instead of asking pocket money i would work for my...
    Scinion Scinion 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Just gotten that via Robert Holden: "Here's the thing about choosing love in the thick of life, in traffic, when we're tired, when our children scream and leave their shoes behind...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    Caroline Myss 'Why People Don't Heal". You can find it on youtube. This woman is amazing. Why we can't heal? We can't heal because we don't want to heal. This is not about our ACoA...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Aug 30

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    I was diagnosed in march of 2003. I did well on Copaxone for 8 years or so but started noticing loss of function (balance etc). I went on the Swank diet, started a number of...
    jimpsullll jimpsullll 41-45, M Sep 6

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    Where there is no love, put love and you will find love. - St John of Cross
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 6

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    They freaking stalk me. They got an app or something and they can now access everything connected to my main email .-. Luckily my ep and tumblr were set up on a different email...
    EmbraceForever EmbraceForever 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 11

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    yes you have to be strong for two. except for the days you are totally hopeless. then you have to be strong for four.
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 14

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    My mother is such a nice and loving person but sometimes she makes snarky little comments like "oh she's a bimbo" just because a girl has big boobs or has a lot of guy friends...
    SixteenSparrows SixteenSparrows 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    ...and then there are really bad days. and no help, and no support, and all you read is stories where nothing became better. and your own anger is bigger than your love. and you...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    I am living in Northern England, rapidly approaching the age of 35, depressed that I've never been able to have a real social life. The problem is that I'm still living with my...
    CodemonkeyNE CodemonkeyNE 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 10

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    Hello, About 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with depression, though I would say I have been depressed for a few months it has really got me to a point where I need to write this...
    guethary guethary 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 28

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    I have been with my partner for approximately 12 years. I used to be really in love with him and couldn't imagine my life without him. Now - with shame - I admit that I don't even...
    happiness888 happiness888 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm glad that this experience was posted up because right now I am going through something which is very difficult. I have been with my partner for 9 yrs. Since I was 19 I am now...
    whisperingcampaign whisperingcampaign 26-30, F Aug 25

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    I have reached a point in my depression where darkness is all that I can see for my future. I am feeling compelled to hurt myself for all the things that are hurting me. Talking...
    NoOneImportantNow NoOneImportantNow 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 27

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    I was just reading a post on a forum from someone who had a childhood friend who would work something about death or dying into every conversation they had. The writer wanted to...
    awolf13 awolf13 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 10