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I Am Living With An Depressed Partner

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    He Is Suffering and There Is Nothing I Can Do.

    My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years has always had low-level depression, ever since high school really. But he is now at a point where he has to decide whether or not to leave graduate school -- he has never really enjoyed the field he went into, and now everything seems to be coming to...
    abigialmarie abigialmarie 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    Frustrated

    My partner tells me not to walk on eggshells. I finally get to a point of not feeling like i have to around her and that every time she gets upset will not spiral downward. This weekend was hard. Small things set her off. I wish she would just talk to me. She shuts me out and is...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    Depressed Again How Many Times!

    My husband was diagonosed with Depression 7 years ago. At first he took pills Aropax but then ended up needing a larger dose until he could handle the stress no more and went on the sickness benefit for 6 months. It was a great break for him he attended counselling sessions...
    jollyone jollyone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 18, 2010

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    My Guy...

    I wrote so much, but deleted it all because it was all just noise in the end. My boyfriend is depressed, he doesn't talk to me about it much, but my heart bears the heaviness. When you're in a committed relationship with somebody, talk to them. They love you, don't be afraid to...
    DonutsJunction DonutsJunction 26-30, F Jul 12, 2013

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    Currently I feel like I can't win.

    She gets mad at me when I try to keep my bitterness and anger of her depression in and vent other places. She gets mad when I try to gently communicate that I need help around the house. The task I needed help with was our dogs. I asked her to please take the dogs out since she...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    Kicked Out

    I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year. He experienced a major injury about 9 months ago and underwent surgery about 3 months ago. He is still seeing a physical therapist and has been on pain medication for about 90% of this time. Due to his his injury, he has...
    Confused713 Confused713 22-25, F Sep 16, 2009

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    He Doesn't See What It Does To Me

    My fiance suffers from depression & anxiety. I adore him and even though there's no question of whether I'm there for him or not, sometimes it feels like things are totally one-sided. I know he wants to be there for me & is frustrated that he sometimes isn't, but there are also...
    Timidexcess Timidexcess 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Does He Really Love Me

    My Partner has been depressed for a long time now. I know he misses me terribly if I am not around but he just won't seek any help, he is too proud and thinks he is fine. He does seem to be better than he was a while ago but he is often very cold. I am living at his parents...
    Duckz Duckz 26-30 3 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    She Won't Listen To My Words

    The silence hurts. No one tells you this part. I feel confused and hurt. Why must I suffer this too? Why am I the one who has to feel like the adult all of the time?I was so excited to spend time with her tonight. We have had a long couple of days at work. I cooked her dinner. I...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Sep 25, 2013

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    Sometimes It Is. Just. Plain. Hard.

    I have been with my boyfriend for some time now. Surprise trips across the globe, fun afternoons doing nothing but sitting on a couch laughing, sunny afternoons, fun text messages, constant "I Love You's" and smiling and everything in between are a normal part of our life...
    vm22490 vm22490 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    Will It All Work Out

    Like all of you i to am living with a partner with severe depression, but unlike you we have been self medicating for years, by smoking marijuana joints, not a very smart thing to have done i know. He was doing it for his own reasons that he can not admit to yet blames me, i was...
    kimbeys kimbeys 26-30 3 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Life'S Journey

    I am new to this site, and it is really nice and relieving to know that there are others out there experiencing the same things that I have been experiencing. I have a four year relationship with my boyfriend, and we have lived together for about two. Although it was almost a...
    tfk599 tfk599 22-25, F Mar 12, 2013

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    Hi There

    hi both myself and my partner have depression mine is prob abit more severe than his. but other members in our family also have depression its in the genes so know what its like to live with someone with depression 
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 24, 2011

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    Taking Me With Her

    So my gf is very depressed, she calims to have no moments of joy at all and it really does affect both of our lives but of course anyone who has read or written a story in this article already knows this. I'm looking for advice. I'm tired of listening to the same song, much of...
    IWishIUnderstood IWishIUnderstood 22-25, M Nov 14, 2012

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    My Partner Is Depressed

    I have been living with my partner for just under a year and we have been together just over 2 years.  He split with his wife and misses his kids.  She has made it very difficult for him since the split and since us getting together.  Its like life has been sucked...
    deunloved deunloved 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 3, 2009

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    Fighting For Love

    My partner has depression. I am a partner of someone who has a mental illness. Some days are amazing and she happy. Other's are rocky. And, some days are ******. I never know what will trigger her to shut down and become sad. Her sadness is a heartbreaking reality to live with. I...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2013

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    I Can't Win

    I began by snapping. I apologized. I took a moment and began to explain my grievance calmly and openly with eye contact. What faced me was an angry cold body. She said it was bullshit and asked if we were done talking. I quietly said yes and gently walked away crying. I did...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Sep 4, 2013

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    Its been 2 weeks now since I started on medication...today after 2 weeks I feel better..first week was not easy I take 2x a day a lamivudine/zidovudine at 7 am and 12 hours later...
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    It was a day from hell. I went to the hospital for some regular blood work, an I was asked to settle down because the doc wanted to talk about something 'important'. I did not...
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    I've been living in this house for about 4 years now and I can always feel a presence that someone is in my room, it honestly scares me shitless. Sometimes I feel it follows me...
    Hanxo Hanxo 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    About three years ago, my ex girlfriend cheated on me with three other men, and then did the same years later with an emo Australian. She then started dating my friends and cheated...
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    Yesterday I started my Medication.. cant really yet say if it is effecting me yet ..though I was afraid of maybe some changes in my routine day life... I suppose I started fighting...
    paulcor paulcor 51-55 Aug 12

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    I wish I could just move out and live on my own with weekly checks from them or something. There are many reasons for this, but that would take days to explain so i will just give...
    Dev4444 Dev4444 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I don't know who to live with... My mom or my dad... I'm not susposed to see my dad but I have been seeing him for the past month or 2 and some of my friends think it would be...
    kleopard88 kleopard88 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    The worst about any relashionship that truly matters is the pain it brings up. If the pain was not there already there would not be much to bring up, but it's there and it sucks to...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Aug 17

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    "Whenever you are considering throwing in the towel, remember that just creates more laundry." Have no idea who said that. For all those having a bad day - it does get better...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Aug 18

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    So.... s*** happens. Sometimes people make mistakes. Huge ones. Sometimes they get into things you've hated your whole life and fought against. And now it's part of your loved...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    I really believed when I came here that this group (and some related others) are for people who have an ACoA loved one so they could share their story and be understood and given...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Until now, I have felt completely lost when it comes to understanding certain aspects of my significant other. We are in a committed, long-term relationship, and I love and care...
    nic225 nic225 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Note to self: live what you preach baby. What do you think? Was too tired, too sick, too many worries, and kept thinking that I will feel my emotions and do yoga and take care of...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 2 days ago

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    My parents who said they loved me and would support whatever decision I make (dropping out of college for a semester to work) yesterday hate me and are disappointed in my screwed...
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    Caroline Myss 'Why People Don't Heal". You can find it on youtube. This woman is amazing. Why we can't heal? We can't heal because we don't want to heal. This is not about our ACoA...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    I'm a 35 year old Mother, Woman, and now Wife (second marriage)..I married the man of my dreams...he's my best friend, my life and spiritual partner..I'm a full-time Doctoral...
    sbigcrow1 sbigcrow1 31-35, F Aug 2

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    Hello, About 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with depression, though I would say I have been depressed for a few months it has really got me to a point where I need to write this...
    guethary guethary 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Here goes. Thought it would give me some confort putting it out here. I’m a 20-year-old from China, and I go to college in Canada. In March 2014, I got to the point where I gave...
    ASalami ASalami 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 14

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    I'm glad that this experience was posted up because right now I am going through something which is very difficult. I have been with my partner for 9 yrs. Since I was 19 I am now...
    whisperingcampaign whisperingcampaign 26-30, F a week ago

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    I had a friend living with me.... Free of charge (5+ years) so he could get his life back on track, I consigned on a car for him and even made the down payment. He couldn't hold a...
    Z00Z00Z Z00Z00Z 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 2

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    I have reached a point in my depression where darkness is all that I can see for my future. I am feeling compelled to hurt myself for all the things that are hurting me. Talking...
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    so i went below with my partner 5 a long time ago on our honeymoon stayed with a h2o Jacuzzi villa. This lodge is perfection .We have been coming from the US so it needed to be...
    Wendigmn Wendigmn 31-35, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I remember a time not so long ago, when I danced while bathed in sunlight and made every day an adventure; without fear or reservation, I lived my life the way life is supposed to...
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