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I Am Living With An Depressed Partner

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 44 People

    He Doesn't See What It Does To Me

    My fiance suffers from depression & anxiety. I adore him and even though there's no question of whether I'm there for him or not, sometimes it feels like things are totally one-sided. I know he wants to be there for me & is frustrated that he sometimes isn't, but there are also...
    Timidexcess Timidexcess 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Does He Really Love Me

    My Partner has been depressed for a long time now. I know he misses me terribly if I am not around but he just won't seek any help, he is too proud and thinks he is fine. He does seem to be better than he was a while ago but he is often very cold. I am living at his parents...
    Duckz Duckz 26-30 3 Responses Jan 29, 2009

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    He Is Suffering and There Is Nothing I Can Do.

    My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years has always had low-level depression, ever since high school really. But he is now at a point where he has to decide whether or not to leave graduate school -- he has never really enjoyed the field he went into, and now everything seems to be coming to...
    abigialmarie abigialmarie 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    I Can't Win

    I began by snapping. I apologized. I took a moment and began to explain my grievance calmly and openly with eye contact. What faced me was an angry cold body. She said it was bullshit and asked if we were done talking. I quietly said yes and gently walked away crying. I did...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Sep 4, 2013

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    Sometimes It Is. Just. Plain. Hard.

    I have been with my boyfriend for some time now. Surprise trips across the globe, fun afternoons doing nothing but sitting on a couch laughing, sunny afternoons, fun text messages, constant "I Love You's" and smiling and everything in between are a normal part of our life...
    vm22490 vm22490 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    Life'S Journey

    I am new to this site, and it is really nice and relieving to know that there are others out there experiencing the same things that I have been experiencing. I have a four year relationship with my boyfriend, and we have lived together for about two. Although it was almost a...
    tfk599 tfk599 22-25, F Mar 12, 2013

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    My Guy...

    I wrote so much, but deleted it all because it was all just noise in the end. My boyfriend is depressed, he doesn't talk to me about it much, but my heart bears the heaviness. When you're in a committed relationship with somebody, talk to them. They love you, don't be afraid to...
    DonutsJunction DonutsJunction 26-30, F Jul 12, 2013

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    Hi There

    hi both myself and my partner have depression mine is prob abit more severe than his. but other members in our family also have depression its in the genes so know what its like to live with someone with depression 
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 24, 2011

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    Fighting For Love

    My partner has depression. I am a partner of someone who has a mental illness. Some days are amazing and she happy. Other's are rocky. And, some days are ******. I never know what will trigger her to shut down and become sad. Her sadness is a heartbreaking reality to live with. I...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2013

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    Currently I feel like I can't win.

    She gets mad at me when I try to keep my bitterness and anger of her depression in and vent other places. She gets mad when I try to gently communicate that I need help around the house. The task I needed help with was our dogs. I asked her to please take the dogs out since she...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    Kicked Out

    I have been living with my boyfriend for over a year. He experienced a major injury about 9 months ago and underwent surgery about 3 months ago. He is still seeing a physical therapist and has been on pain medication for about 90% of this time. Due to his his injury, he has...
    Confused713 Confused713 22-25, F Sep 16, 2009

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    My Partner Is Depressed

    I have been living with my partner for just under a year and we have been together just over 2 years.  He split with his wife and misses his kids.  She has made it very difficult for him since the split and since us getting together.  Its like life has been sucked...
    deunloved deunloved 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 3, 2009

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    She Won't Listen To My Words

    The silence hurts. No one tells you this part. I feel confused and hurt. Why must I suffer this too? Why am I the one who has to feel like the adult all of the time?I was so excited to spend time with her tonight. We have had a long couple of days at work. I cooked her dinner. I...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Sep 25, 2013

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    Frustrated

    My partner tells me not to walk on eggshells. I finally get to a point of not feeling like i have to around her and that every time she gets upset will not spiral downward. This weekend was hard. Small things set her off. I wish she would just talk to me. She shuts me out and is...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    Will It All Work Out

    Like all of you i to am living with a partner with severe depression, but unlike you we have been self medicating for years, by smoking marijuana joints, not a very smart thing to have done i know. He was doing it for his own reasons that he can not admit to yet blames me, i was...
    kimbeys kimbeys 26-30 3 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Depressed Again How Many Times!

    My husband was diagonosed with Depression 7 years ago. At first he took pills Aropax but then ended up needing a larger dose until he could handle the stress no more and went on the sickness benefit for 6 months. It was a great break for him he attended counselling sessions...
    jollyone jollyone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 18, 2010

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    Taking Me With Her

    So my gf is very depressed, she calims to have no moments of joy at all and it really does affect both of our lives but of course anyone who has read or written a story in this article already knows this. I'm looking for advice. I'm tired of listening to the same song, much of...
    IWishIUnderstood IWishIUnderstood 22-25, M Nov 14, 2012

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    "You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” – Jessica, age 8 I've read quite a few people...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 23

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    im constantly angry all the time. i came home to take care of my sick dad. i havent been home since high school, so as you can imagine, ive always lived my own life. were not a...
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    Right now I really need to somehow take my mind away from all of this or I am just going to completely explode and do something extremely stupid and self damaging. I am just so...
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    I have a job and attend college yet they complain I don't do anything with my life. I recently got straight A's and told them and my grandfather said I don't care I'll be proud...
    rosesrthebest rosesrthebest 18-21, F Sep 26

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    Especially ones that you didn't invite. They just showed up one day, and 4wks later are still on your mother fcuking couch with no job.
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    Help me... Im hating her with passion now... Dont even wanna see her face...
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    I hate being near with drunk people. I find it annoying. Especially if it's my boyfriend. My bf soon to be husband like to get wasted. He's acting like some college boys. He'd...
    LovelyLilly13 LovelyLilly13 22-25, F Sep 30

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    Just now starting to realize how little information is out there about ACoA. The characteristics of an ACoA are virtually everywhere - but everything seems to stop with them. It...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 30

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    If you have an ACoA in your life, learning about and taking care of YOUR emotions is always a good idea. The following is adapted from L. Markham "Are your feelings dangerous...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Oct 9

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    It is an article about autism and it is adressed to the parents of autistic kids but it has so much valid advice that I decided to share it unmodified. To the people wondering why...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Oct 14

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    Somebody here wrote that we are all so very disconnected. It really makes no difference if you are an ACoA or not. I guess not AcoAs are just better at faking being connected than...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    I am sick, but not of a very serious illness. Still, up to now they told me it is not curable, and I have to live with it my whole life. My whole digestive system is ****** up, my...
    Serenahil Serenahil 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Posted this long story about how I felt. Then it got blocked. So yeah. That's my luck.
    DayDreamingDragon DayDreamingDragon 18-21, F Sep 25

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    Oh yeah... And her music is too loud, i could not even hear my own thoughts...
    sarahvenice sarahvenice 26-30, F Sep 28

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    Omg... Its cold here and my housemate wears a short that only covers her butt and a short sleeveless shirt... And she turns on the heater... Wtf!!! Wear more girl!!! Looks like...
    sarahvenice sarahvenice 26-30, F Sep 29

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    Nothing. But nothing beats having your own space.
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Sep 29

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    Parents fighting again.... My homework is never going to get finished. I swear, my life would be better if someone actually cared about me once in a while.
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F Sep 30

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    I hate my life and I hate myself. I really just don't want to keep going through life like this.
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 2

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    My, former life, w an ACoA, has added "cold indifference" into my coping toolbox. I deeply regret this.........
    1GR81 1GR81 46-50 Oct 6

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    I always thought having an ACoA in my life breaks my heart over and over.... But I'm unsure now if it breaks my heart or my pride... I just know that when I put my pride aside and...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Oct 7

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    My two roommates are my battle buddies. I would do anything for these guys, and I would do anything for them. Even if that means taking a bullet. But if I have to hear, or get...
    LilBoyBluu LilBoyBluu 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    I found this on the internet - Hope it helps someone. 5 stages of grief - how it applies to infidelity Posting from another site. This will help you understand that the...
    NOWHealing NOWHealing 61-65, F 4 days ago

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    I'm new here to the experience project and so I'm not exactly sure how this works so here goes. I'm currently living with my boyfriend, boyfriends brother and three animals...
    justmicki justmicki 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    October 1. Be Who You Are. In recovery; we're learning a new behavior. It's called Be Who You Are. For some of us, this can be frightening. What would happen if we felt what we...
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    I feel like after everyone takes a piece of me for what they need I am left with a negative balance. When I go out of my way to do something for myself I am playing catch up with...
    mommaleo mommaleo 41-45 Oct 9

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    I was born in a man's house and about a year later, I was sent to the village to my maternal grandmother. This is a story I grew up to hear. My grandmother was living in a very...
    stanlis stanlis 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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