I Am Lonely But Afraid of Making Friends

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 362 People

    A History of Being Kicked In the Teeth...

    I have a long history of trying to make friends, thinking I have made a friend and then having them stab me repeatedly in the back.  Over my 21 years of existance, it's made me bitter and untrusting.  I spent my childhood jealous of all the other little girls with their...
    Ryuuzaki Ryuuzaki
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2008
    amanhotshot amanhotshot
    26-30, M
    2 Responses May 27, 2014


    After a lifetime of desperately seeking to be accepted, wanted, belonging, and loved...I find myself the opposite. From childhood "friends", mother, family members, I've suffered some level of abuse, neglect, mistreatment and left with no sense of why am I here? I was only 12 or...
    1dayhealed 1dayhealed
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2012

    Painfully Shy and Have Social Anxiety

    I am painfully shy and have Social Anxiety Disorder, so making friends is hard. I worry about what others think of me (e.g. do they think I'm ugly or stupid, etc...). So meeting new people and making new friends is hard for me.
    cherrypotion27 cherrypotion27
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 18, 2009

    Im Afraid Of Making Friends, After All Mine Turned On Me After I Was Assaulted

    I was raped while i was in the army, and i came forward and told someone and tried to press charges, and all my friends left me and called me a liar pretty much.. thats why im scared of making friends, im scared they will hurt me and leave.
    angelikacoakley angelikacoakley
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 1, 2011

    Friends Or Foes

    I am quiet at school and when you listen to people talk you learn. I want friends but I might open my mouth and say something I dont mean. I make fun of alot of people and I might say something about my obession of anime and manga and they might think Im wierd. Are they friends...
    LuckyCLuckyS LuckyCLuckyS
    13-15, F
    Oct 11, 2009

    So I've lived here for two years now

    but I have barely any friends. I want to make new ones but I'm afraid if talking to new people.
    Shynerdwriter66 Shynerdwriter66
    16-17, M
    Nov 21, 2014

    Being Genuine

    The thing is, i do want friends- i want them so badly that sometimes i ache.  The problem, i have known too many people who just wanted to look and act like friends, then disappear when things get to hard to deal with. I am not an easy person to be friends with- I have post...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 2, 2008

    Is There Really Friendship On EP?

    I am still new to EP. I reached out to a couple of people and got some responses from people. I wrote back to some and never heard from them again. At first, I am thinking to myself that I must have offended them in some way. But I really don't think I could have said anything...
    Theta99 Theta99
    51-55, M
    Apr 28, 2013


    The title of this group sums up my social life pretty well. I don't have any really close friends. I also don't foresee that changing anytime soon. It depresses me.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Feb 22, 2008


    -There's so many people around, how should I know how to start? -What should I talk about with a stranger? -What if I'm boring? -What if I'm not sensitive enough to talk about some things? -What if I'm too sensitive to talk about some things? -What if I'm too stupid to talk...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 29, 2009

    Why Is It So Hard to Make New Friends

    I just moved to a new state back in November and I have next to no friends. I have some associates but thats about it. I feel completely alone most days and to add insult to injury it seems like all of my friends back in my old state are replacing me with new people.
    FrankieMcGee FrankieMcGee
    22-25, F
    Jun 6, 2008

    Am the Only One

    I never learned to make friends in school due to things that happened to me.  Now I am adult and feel like I am on an island although I am surrounded by people.  I feel self conscious and shy when I meet new people.  When this happens there are...
    woebegone woebegone
    4 Responses Jul 16, 2009

    A Lonely Cycle.

    I am that one person at work that everyone thinks is weird because I don't talk. I'm too afraid to talk to anyone because I am so afraid of being rejected or ridiculed. I stutter badly when I am nervous, and so it almost always makes people think that I am stupid.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2012

    Alone In My Closet.

    "I am lonely but afraid of making friends ~ some days I feel totally invisible and no one an see me. I long for LOVE to come upon me and cover me in a blanket. I guess that my mouth gets all glued closed when talking to people I come into contact.
    MrB MrB
    61-65, T
    3 Responses Oct 19, 2008


    I want to make friends but I always end up running away from them after a while. It feels like my energy goes draining after some time. I think in the end I am selfish, I dont know.
    greenbean2003 greenbean2003
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 1, 2013

    I Always Picture a "Future Friendship"

    It has been so many years since I made a new friend and actually kept up the friendship.  I find most of the women I meet - sweet, interesting and beautiful, but when it comes to pursuing a closer friendship I am a Block.  I don't know if over the years people just...
    mom2sweethearts mom2sweethearts
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 28, 2009

    "Were the Same"

    Sence I didn't want anyone to get hurt I stayed far away from people and pushed them away. My "dad" told me that if I made even one friend he would punished not onl me but them to. All through grade school I never had one friend, but I would bet anyone who was picking...
    vetra vetra
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 5, 2008
    Omerdin Omerdin
    22-25, M
    Jan 13, 2014

    Afraid And Unwilling To Make Friends, Embarrassed About My Life

    Like everyone, I have my good days, and bad days. But more often than not, I have my bad days, and only in the last few years learned to take up my past hobbies that I love, and use those as ways to keep myself occupied, and as ways to treat and be kind to myself. But however...
    dakzer dakzer
    36-40, M
    Apr 21, 2013

    I'm Suspicious Of Those Who Befriend Me

    It never used to be this way. When I was in highschool I had a wonderful group of friends that I spent all my time with. They were good friends. Real ones. After highschool we drifted apart, especially once I moved to a different city. I had trouble making friends in the new city...
    Sunburst Sunburst
    1 Response Apr 9, 2011

    The "One" In the Group

      Well for me, it was hard making friends because when i moved into the dorms-it was SECOND semester- so all of the "clicks" and friendships were formed. it's really hard breaking into a already formed click. So..i didnt wanna be the new chick who broke in and the...
    lostprophet lostprophet
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2009

    Ever since I was primary school,

    I have had hard time making friends or keeping them. Most the time I'm rejected by lots of people, whom thought I could make friend off and instead I only find fake people who began to gain my trust than that person only goes turns on me. The only friend I have is my husband...
    starbucks7979 starbucks7979
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 19, 2014

    So Young & Scared.

    I've been hurt so many times by friends I thought would be true to me that I'm scared to continue getting hurt.  I'm very happy w/ my boyfriend, but sometimes I just need the comfort of a wonderful, TRUE friend. But it seems finding them is the hardest thing. I just wish...
    xMellyx xMellyx
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 19, 2007

    it is wierd

     i get so lonely,but i just shut down around new people.it is almost like i can not talk.i even get amazed by it.i am trapped inside.i have so much i want to say,but my mind can not work my mouth.so,please just take some time.i am worth it.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself
    2 Responses Nov 11, 2009

    Reluctant Loner

    I am the mother of 1 grown daughter,  gramma to 3 beautiful boys. I have been divorced 3 times, and been single for 6 years. I have had many orthopedic surgeries, 3 spinal fusions, a tib-fib fracture with 3 pins, fractured pelvis, compression fracture of a vertebrae ...
    seadancer seadancer
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Dec 19, 2007

    Locked Inside

    Because I dont even know myself...because I dont have confidence in myself. It keeps me from actually walking up to someone and saying a simple "Hello." It...it makes me feel ashamed. I mean, c'mon, am I that weak...that shy? Whenever I do make friends...I have to smile and...
    ConLocura ConLocura
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2009

    I Get Lonely & Have Trouble Makein Friends

    i seem to get lonely & afraid to get friends but am starting to try to get some friends i hope
    F5Twister F5Twister
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2008

    Why Am I Scared Of Getting To Know Ppl!

    OK i am 14 years going to 15 years this year. i am 5ft 4 and i come from a very religious and close family. as a young child i have not really being afraid to mix up with people. i am actually mixed raced because my mom is black and my dad is white.  but when i...
    pamela567 pamela567
    13-15, F
    May 21, 2010

    Making Connections

    Right now i'm in a good place. I've worked hard to get out of the loop of isolation. I have a knitting group (free) and a few decent co-workers i like to talk to sometimes. Still, i let a lot of stuff pass me by. I am very suspicious of people sometimes, and i have little...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 31, 2012

    Im So Afiarid

    the funny thing is i am not shy. but i have been hurt so much and so often that i feel like aanyone i meet will do the same. im always afiarid i will mess up to. i afaird i will make a huge mistake and drave them away.
    LelouchZero LelouchZero
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2009

    Can't Make New Friends; Zero Confidence

    So its been 4 days since ive been on this website and I've given some advice to a few people... But now it feels kinda weird asking for advice, even though I sorta know the answer... I am 21 years old... Back in 9th grade (when i was 14), a friend of mine, suddenly became one of...
    Hopingforabetterfuture Hopingforabetterfuture
    6 Responses Jan 27, 2012

    I keep making accounts on this site hoping I

    can make some friends but then I start getting really anxious and delete my account. I dont even know why Im so scared, I love people and friends and relationships and all that. Whats wrong with me.
    flaminglaserchickens flaminglaserchickens
    18-21, F
    May 24, 2015

    This is me to the fullest extent.

    It cost me jobs good friends and families better view of me. The only way I keep out of the hospital for deep depression is through video games.. I won't marry, cause when I tried dating before and things went smooth... it felt like my mind just turned off randomly and suddenly...
    mutechorus mutechorus
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2015

    Neither Fish Nor Fowl

    Sometimes I feel that i am neither fish nor fowl.  In "normal" circles- even ones consisting of my close friends I don't fit.  I feel like a square peg being pushed through a round hole. My pas leaves me separate from the people I know and for that matter the...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 26, 2009

    This Is Everyday.

    I wake up, I wonder why I'm alive, why didn't God kill me in my sleep. I go to work, I put forth the effort if for no other reason then just to keep busy in the hopes the day will go by faster. I avoid everyone and keep my head down and do my job. I finish work, I sometimes go to...
    magmaker magmaker
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Jan 20, 2012

    This Is Not Who I Wanted To Be But Its Who I Am

    I'm a very lonely 38 year old male. I have a great job, I do o.k, I think I'm respected at work and I have a beautiful wife. BUT I have believed for most of my life that I am not supposed to have friends, I'm supposed to be alone, that's my punishment. I want for nothing...
    magmaker magmaker
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Mar 18, 2010

    Self-indulgent Tripe

    I'm scared of introducing myself to other people, I don't know what to say and I don't want to be hurt, two sides of me exist, that one negative side and the other that screams at me 'What the **** are you doing you ******* *****? Grow some balls and throw yourself into the fray...
    utterfool utterfool
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 10, 2008

    The Fear Of What I Need

    I am emotionnally made out of teflon, nothing hurts me directly, exept people, they get can get right trough and hurt me, I am not used to deal with people, so I tend to act very distant and closed with them. I would like to let them in, but I am scared they'll wound me, or I'll...
    h0ll0w0ne h0ll0w0ne
    26-30, M
    6 Responses Dec 4, 2009
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