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I Am Lonely In a Marriage That Isn't Working

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    I Wish It Worked But It Just Doens't

    Today is our 15th wedding anniversairy. We both mean well and feel committed, but fact is, it just doesn't work. Tonite we have been fighting again. I don't feel heard or seen in this marriage. I am never lonely when I am alone but I am lonely with him. I hate to whine but I don...
    Frederike Frederike 46-50 5 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Not What I Expected

    HI, I have been in a marriage that has become a nightmare. Escaping from loneliness and a lack of togetherness in my last marriage I got divorced and I met another man, from the US. I am originally from Spain. I left everything behind, I lost everthing. I was in...
    wuthering wuthering 41-45 4 Responses Dec 18, 2008

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    Not Horrible But Not Working Either

    My husband and I have been married for almost a year and a half. It's not that he is a terrible monster or anything - he is not abusive - but he hurts me without realizing it on increasingly deep levels every day. I don't even recognize myself in our wedding photos because it...
    jcpforhowlong jcpforhowlong 18-21 5 Responses Oct 27, 2009

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    Im Trapped

    I forgave my husband for cheating with his coworker but I was never happy even before he did it. Now I feel like I'm wasting away and ive changed for the worse. The thing is that I cant get myself to leave him because ive grown to love him as a friend and I couldn't hurt him like...
    dianah12 dianah12 26-30 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    Married But Very Alone

    I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 12 YEARS AND I DONT KNOW WHETHER TO LEAVE MY WIFE FOR GOOD OR TRY AND STICK IT OUT IN HOPES SHE'LL COME AROUND. THE FIRST 3 YEARS WERE THE BEST. THE NEXT 5 YEARS WERE GOOD. BUT THE LAST 4 YEARS HAVE BEEN TERRIBLE. MY WIFE HAS GAINED WEIGHT AND IN TURN...
    joker69er joker69er 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 26, 2011

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    >>>>>>>..hate The Person I Camed To Loved >>>>>>>>>

    I don't really know were to start , I have been married to my husband for about two years. Most people will consider my marriage as fresh and new, compared to the union of my grandparents who are going on there sixty- nine wedding anniversary. I know that marriage are not...
    peaches112 peaches112 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2012

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    Lentel Lentel 26-30 2 Responses Jul 4

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    RIGHT. There is No respect here. At least I've never gotten any from either husband. Actually I got None from any man. An alcoholic tyrant father with a Very Very mean streak. A...
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    hey all ! ... this is important and big. can i have a small time of yours, just little.. few minutes.. i sign up here around a year back to share my story with people and i did. i...
    heartless2 heartless2 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    he makes me feel so special sometimes like he would do anything for me but then he gets me off guard and hurts me a lot and he doesnt care, i told him that i cutted and he just...
    CallmeShaneyney CallmeShaneyney 13-15, F Jun 29

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    As a boy I used to be ashamed to show any emotions but I knew that I was highly emotional. Later I started to care less, causing other boys to make fun of me. This is where I began...
    LoveBelow LoveBelow 70+, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    June 28. When Things Don't Work. Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jun 28

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    I'm in a relationship that isn't working She's having an affair it's lasted 4 years We sleep in separate rooms and I am very busy all the time Any honest woman out there want to...
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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Well it's been a year since I made a drastic change in my life in the hopes of fixing my depression. (I quit university, moved closer to family, started community college, got a...
    fogged2 fogged2 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    I waited a year and 2 months I was 16 at the time. I thought I was ready but I realized I wasn't as I lay next to him. I didn't wanna back out cause I promised him this many times...
    young090613 young090613 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    The whole life thing. The whole, it's going to get better - hang in there thing. The trying to remain positive thing.. Life just isn't working out
    Quanitta Quanitta 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    Ok, so that first post wasn't so scary so why not a post two? I cannot begin to express how freeing it is just to have expressed it all. SM isn't something most people would want...
    justnanl justnanl 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 1

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    I've gotten a couple of inquiries so I guess it's time for an update: I'm doing okay. My dad ambushed me at my friend's house. We had a surface only conversation in which he told...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Language Barrier I’ve determined that my STBX and I speak two entirely different languages, and he doesn’t understand anything I say – or have ever said – to him about my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses a week ago

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    I sometimes feel like i'm teetering on the fence of outsourcing or trying fixing things with my husband. Some days I feel like I owe it to myself and my family (kids/husband) to...
    asterinight asterinight 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 2

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    My husband and I are very much in love but he works ALL the time because he feels like he is a bad husband if I make more money than him. I have two college degrees, and although...
    happybbw happybbw 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage. My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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      I feel I have mentally checked out of this marriage months ago. I keep trying to deny my feelings and think everything is okay and not that bad. I am tired of being...
    Goddess65 Goddess65 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    From Psychology Today "Contrary to conventional wisdom, married couples—and their cohabiting counterparts—have more sex than the nonmarried, a fact confirmed in a 2010 survey...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    I know what it is...my source. The unhappiness I feel right now in this instant! On my one day off I'm staring at the wall of a small room sad and lonely. Im only 23 but I work two...
    AndrogynousBeauty AndrogynousBeauty 22-25 3 Responses Jul 8

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    I pursued my husband when we started dating. He didn't want to ruin our friendship. But I persisted. I have always been the driving force in our sex life an I think it's safe to...
    gracefortoday gracefortoday 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 9

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    I have been crazy the last couple of days. I had my IUD taken out - it was time and, truly, the side effects I was feeling were ridiculous, so I didn't bother getting another one...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 13

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    My husband has become extremely self absorbed over time. He's always been a little selfish and it seems to ebb and flow, but the last few months it's become exponential. Everything...
    lovebeingmama lovebeingmama 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    June 30. Accepting Change. One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    July 6. Step Seven. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. —Step Seven of Al-Anon In the Sixth and Seventh Steps of the program, we become willing to let go of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Sort of an update to my situation. But I'm sure it's not anything new to many of us who have been here for a while. For the record, I'm aware of my options, and the following isn't...
    angryspartan angryspartan 36-40, M 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been with the same guy since high school, how cliché. We had our problems from the start of growing up together. He is completely different person around others. fun /happy...
    flgirlmichelle flgirlmichelle 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Im lonely right now. A friend just forced a relationship status on facebook and I dont want to blatantly reject him so I left it there without doing anything. But the day before...
    gotawishy gotawishy 16-17, F 8 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I am not sure if that is totally true that I am not marriage material. I got engaged 4 months ago but I broke it off yesterday. He has put his hands on me, not hitting but...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    More of the same. Just more of the same. How does he think there's any room for a relationship when he walks in, says hi and heads straight to the study and his computer. He puts...
    starsarenotgreen starsarenotgreen 22-25 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Countdown to D-Day: 10 days and counting…. Last night was rough. The days leading up to July 6th – the day I’m announcing to my H that we’re getting divorced and handing...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jun 25

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    I am not lonely, but I feel lonely. I'm surrounded by many many many many people!!! There isn't one day I don't talk to someone. But no matter how hard I try, I can not feel...
    EarlPhantomhive EarlPhantomhive 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 3

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    I can understand how people romanticize marriage and build it up with words like commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, etc. A marriage in itself doesn’t actually have the power to...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Well hear it goes...I'm pretty much a single mother who basically alone all the time. Me and my sons father are married but we've been separated for over a year. He's pretty much...
    Misunderstood6671 Misunderstood6671 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    the thing is im lonely when im not alone. when im on my own, i shed the several walls i have up at any time and let my guard down. When im alone, i can wear shorts and a tank top...
    FreeJazz FreeJazz 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I don't know if I am depressed or not, I think depressed people are likely to be more devastated while I still have some strength left in me, or maybe I am just too strong as I...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 28

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