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I Am Lonely In a Marriage That Isn't Working

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    I Wish It Worked But It Just Doens't

    Today is our 15th wedding anniversairy. We both mean well and feel committed, but fact is, it just doesn't work. Tonite we have been fighting again. I don't feel heard or seen in this marriage. I am never lonely when I am alone but I am lonely with him. I hate to whine but I don...
    Frederike Frederike 46-50 5 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    >>>>>>>..hate The Person I Camed To Loved >>>>>>>>>

    I don't really know were to start , I have been married to my husband for about two years. Most people will consider my marriage as fresh and new, compared to the union of my grandparents who are going on there sixty- nine wedding anniversary. I know that marriage are not...
    peaches112 peaches112 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2012

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    Married But Very Alone

    I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 12 YEARS AND I DONT KNOW WHETHER TO LEAVE MY WIFE FOR GOOD OR TRY AND STICK IT OUT IN HOPES SHE'LL COME AROUND. THE FIRST 3 YEARS WERE THE BEST. THE NEXT 5 YEARS WERE GOOD. BUT THE LAST 4 YEARS HAVE BEEN TERRIBLE. MY WIFE HAS GAINED WEIGHT AND IN TURN...
    joker69er joker69er 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 26, 2011

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    Not Horrible But Not Working Either

    My husband and I have been married for almost a year and a half. It's not that he is a terrible monster or anything - he is not abusive - but he hurts me without realizing it on increasingly deep levels every day. I don't even recognize myself in our wedding photos because it...
    jcpforhowlong jcpforhowlong 18-21 4 Responses Oct 27, 2009

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    Im Trapped

    I forgave my husband for cheating with his coworker but I was never happy even before he did it. Now I feel like I'm wasting away and ive changed for the worse. The thing is that I cant get myself to leave him because ive grown to love him as a friend and I couldn't hurt him like...
    dianah12 dianah12 26-30 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    Not What I Expected

    HI, I have been in a marriage that has become a nightmare. Escaping from loneliness and a lack of togetherness in my last marriage I got divorced and I met another man, from the US. I am originally from Spain. I left everything behind, I lost everthing. I was in...
    wuthering wuthering 41-45 3 Responses Dec 18, 2008

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    Today in the wonderful world of wanting someone I can't have I was reminded of how painful it is to know the "other person" really does exist. He and I were joking, all day long...
    RaiseYourWhat RaiseYourWhat 26-30, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Today in the wonderful world of wanting someone I can't have I was reminded of how painful it is to know the "other person" really does exist. He and I were joking, all day long...
    RaiseYourWhat RaiseYourWhat 26-30, F 6 hrs ago

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    QuietTranquility QuietTranquility 36-40, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    I have noticed most of the users who have "Cowboy" in their name are lonely. Maybe its because we smell like horse, because we are always dusty and dirty. I know we step in...
    brokencowboy brokencowboy 41-45, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Lately I've been feeling/thinking that I would be better off with out my husband. I love him very much but I just feel better when he isn't around. I've grown accustomed to being...
    URLOVED4EVA URLOVED4EVA 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    hell no! it sux!!! horribly....
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Maybe true love isn't out there for me, but I can sublimate my loneliness with the notion that true love is out there for someone
    difonia difonia 26-30, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I haven't talked to him in weeks and its really upsetting.I miss him , i miss talking to him everyday. I miss having that one person i can talk to about anything , i thought he...
    lilibeth415 lilibeth415 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I always felt from a young age that I may not be able to have children. I don't know why, it was just always something that seemed right to me. I love babies and children, but...
    kitkat0216 kitkat0216 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    This group is so true as the below will show. I have had the perfect day it started it off not great but then I got a message from MOB saying she will help me do my errands and...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Sometimes I don't know which is worse. I shouldn't be whining, it's really over now, for the last and final time; but writing about how it feels makes it somehow feel better...
    comeonletsgo comeonletsgo 61-65, M 6 days ago

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    There's nearly 7.5 billion people on this planet, yet still I feel alone. In the company of others, I appear joyous and happy, but the reality is, nobody can ever know or...
    iSpyce iSpyce 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I don't always feel alone in my marriage, but at the moment and numerous other times I do feel alone. I suffer from PTSD, and my wife and I both have anxiety and depression issues...
    Frankenzombie Frankenzombie 36-40, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I think my husband is with me because his life would be worse if he left. He tells me he loves me but that's just a routine as he never shows it. He isn't romantic or flirty. If...
    Dollymixture2 Dollymixture2 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 25

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    gamesexpe gamesexpe 18-21, F Aug 24

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    My husband spent about an hour this morning calling me every name he could think of. I destroyed his career and I am the reason our 15 year old is transgender. He wishes I would...
    Laifu Laifu 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 24

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    Alone is not bad, when it is a choice. When it isn't a choice, it is not necessarily bad, but it is lonely. I find it strange that I am lonely, when in the past, being alone didn...
    comeonletsgo comeonletsgo 61-65, M 3 Responses Aug 24

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    Married for two years and my husband says that he isn't that sexually attracted to me for various reasons (he comes up with something new each time that lack of sex is brought up...
    jerseylady0714 jerseylady0714 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    He always puts more mental/emotional energy into others... particularly the ones who don't care for or appreciate his efforts. I have straight up been told that the reward isn't...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    just turned 30. This isn't where i should be in life
    invertedflag invertedflag 26-30, M 7 Responses Aug 23

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    I can't be sure if my surroundings, other people and living things, my body, my memories, my thoughts or anything other than the conscious fact I exist is real.
    NewPerson001 NewPerson001 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    I was watching the reality tv series Arranged and I thought wow, it must be therapeutic to go through the what ifs and shoulds before you get hitched to a person someone else chose...
    zizna zizna 36-40, F Aug 23

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    It's truely sad. I want so badly to have friends and hang out with someone. But every time I attempt to make friends... I some how **** it up. I'm afraid to speak up in...
    Discordiah Discordiah 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    My dreams, I’m working to get closer to you ……it’s been long since the last time I typed in my feelings, I am getting older and I feel that my dreams and goals should grow...
    saudifemale saudifemale 22-25, F Aug 21

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    My husband isn't a terrible guy, but he is incredibly selfish. Everyday I become more sad, more despondent because I feel like I'm existing to serve. He doesn't help cook, he...
    junejax2000 junejax2000 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    I had a huge break through today. I realize the man I married isn't the person I though he was. Now I have to figure out how to move on.
    NekoViolet NekoViolet 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    this year will be 19 years of marriage for me. we fight alot, and the fights are ugly. my husband, always known as the nice guy, isn't always nice to me. When we get along he is...
    Tawny3 Tawny3 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    How should I respond to my boyfriends mom? Here is the story of what is going on. My boyfriend has learning disabilities(reading,writing,) but he can function. He can hold a...
    AtadbitLost AtadbitLost 22-25, F Aug 20

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    that is becoz gud all ways triumphs evil.....
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 Aug 20

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    When someone is vulnerable and confides to you how afraid they feel, When they love you so deeply and show you who they really are and need you to be there for them, You do not...
    FreewritingFreyja FreewritingFreyja 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 19

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    tonight, i am very lonely. during the day it isn't quite as bad. i might think about someone i know i can't have, but at least i can stay busy and distract myself. at night it's...
    penpaperheart penpaperheart 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 18

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