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I Am Lonely In a Marriage That Isn't Working

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 59 People

    I Wish It Worked But It Just Doens't

    Today is our 15th wedding anniversairy. We both mean well and feel committed, but fact is, it just doesn't work. Tonite we have been fighting again. I don't feel heard or seen in this marriage. I am never lonely when I am alone but I am lonely with him. I hate to whine but I don...
    Frederike Frederike 46-50 5 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Married But Very Alone

    I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 12 YEARS AND I DONT KNOW WHETHER TO LEAVE MY WIFE FOR GOOD OR TRY AND STICK IT OUT IN HOPES SHE'LL COME AROUND. THE FIRST 3 YEARS WERE THE BEST. THE NEXT 5 YEARS WERE GOOD. BUT THE LAST 4 YEARS HAVE BEEN TERRIBLE. MY WIFE HAS GAINED WEIGHT AND IN TURN...
    joker69er joker69er 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 26, 2011

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    Im Trapped

    I forgave my husband for cheating with his coworker but I was never happy even before he did it. Now I feel like I'm wasting away and ive changed for the worse. The thing is that I cant get myself to leave him because ive grown to love him as a friend and I couldn't hurt him like...
    dianah12 dianah12 26-30 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    >>>>>>>..hate The Person I Camed To Loved >>>>>>>>>

    I don't really know were to start , I have been married to my husband for about two years. Most people will consider my marriage as fresh and new, compared to the union of my grandparents who are going on there sixty- nine wedding anniversary. I know that marriage are not...
    peaches112 peaches112 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2012

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    Not What I Expected

    HI, I have been in a marriage that has become a nightmare. Escaping from loneliness and a lack of togetherness in my last marriage I got divorced and I met another man, from the US. I am originally from Spain. I left everything behind, I lost everthing. I was in...
    wuthering wuthering 41-45 3 Responses Dec 18, 2008

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    Not Horrible But Not Working Either

    My husband and I have been married for almost a year and a half. It's not that he is a terrible monster or anything - he is not abusive - but he hurts me without realizing it on increasingly deep levels every day. I don't even recognize myself in our wedding photos because it...
    jcpforhowlong jcpforhowlong 18-21 5 Responses Oct 27, 2009

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