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I Am Lonely In a Marriage That Isn't Working

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 58 People

    Not What I Expected

    HI, I have been in a marriage that has become a nightmare. Escaping from loneliness and a lack of togetherness in my last marriage I got divorced and I met another man, from the US. I am originally from Spain. I left everything behind, I lost everthing. I was in...
    wuthering wuthering 41-45 3 Responses Dec 18, 2008

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    >>>>>>>..hate The Person I Camed To Loved >>>>>>>>>

    I don't really know were to start , I have been married to my husband for about two years. Most people will consider my marriage as fresh and new, compared to the union of my grandparents who are going on there sixty- nine wedding anniversary. I know that marriage are not...
    peaches112 peaches112 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 18, 2012

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    Married But Very Alone

    I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 12 YEARS AND I DONT KNOW WHETHER TO LEAVE MY WIFE FOR GOOD OR TRY AND STICK IT OUT IN HOPES SHE'LL COME AROUND. THE FIRST 3 YEARS WERE THE BEST. THE NEXT 5 YEARS WERE GOOD. BUT THE LAST 4 YEARS HAVE BEEN TERRIBLE. MY WIFE HAS GAINED WEIGHT AND IN TURN...
    joker69er joker69er 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 26, 2011

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    Im Trapped

    I forgave my husband for cheating with his coworker but I was never happy even before he did it. Now I feel like I'm wasting away and ive changed for the worse. The thing is that I cant get myself to leave him because ive grown to love him as a friend and I couldn't hurt him like...
    dianah12 dianah12 26-30 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    I Wish It Worked But It Just Doens't

    Today is our 15th wedding anniversairy. We both mean well and feel committed, but fact is, it just doesn't work. Tonite we have been fighting again. I don't feel heard or seen in this marriage. I am never lonely when I am alone but I am lonely with him. I hate to whine but I don...
    Frederike Frederike 46-50 5 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Not Horrible But Not Working Either

    My husband and I have been married for almost a year and a half. It's not that he is a terrible monster or anything - he is not abusive - but he hurts me without realizing it on increasingly deep levels every day. I don't even recognize myself in our wedding photos because it...
    jcpforhowlong jcpforhowlong 18-21 5 Responses Oct 27, 2009

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    iTetra iTetra 13-15, F Mar 18

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    I'm starting to get really freaked out with everyday life, I don't know if people are real anymore and the only way I know is by doing stupid things that get my adrenaline very...
    Unicornpeasant Unicornpeasant 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    When y're always right,like I am,of course :-)
    kingkyrie kingkyrie 51-55, M 3 Responses Mar 2

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    I think I know now how my life is going to end. If all my fears are starting to be reality then really there's only one way how my life is going to end and it's eventual it makes...
    PiecingMeBackTogether PiecingMeBackTogether 18-21 4 Responses Mar 10

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    http://www.mike-janda.com/Writing/AWorkInProgress.pdf I'm kinda proud of myself. It's the first one in a while.
    SubsonicLurker SubsonicLurker 36-40 Mar 13

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    After reading several of these posts I see I am not the minority. I to have a very similar story to share as most of you do. My marriage isn't an open book by any means. We like...
    misunderstood74 misunderstood74 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 16

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    When I met my wife she had an almost insatiable sexual apatite. But, she was a full blown out of control alcoholic. The day before she went into rehab, she was hospitalized for...
    Ivithos Ivithos 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    Sometimes I ask whether I am the one who's putting a barrier between myself and others. Other times I feel like why should I go out of my way to be aquainted with others? If it...
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    I feel selfish in a way for feeling lonely right now. i have someone who loves me. i have a great guy. other than school though, we haven't really been able to hang out. Obviously...
    wishingforrecovery wishingforrecovery 16-17, F Mar 7

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    i feel lost inside my head, like my brain isn't working properly. Too many words and none of them can form a coherent thought. i'm tired of being lonely.
    brokenlittlebird brokenlittlebird 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    It's a shame marriage is looked down on and viewed in this way, any relationship is a risk and many end in divorce but for me, being married is something I have always wanted. It...
    ladyPlum ladyPlum 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    He's amazing, he's kind, he's loving, and sweet. He is perfect in my eyes, and his looks are a huge bonus. I just met him and I have fallen for him. He accepts me for who I am and...
    idontknow1921 idontknow1921 16-17, F Mar 6

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    I mean, I do sort of. But everywhere I look it's "I cheated on my partner" or "my partner cheated on me" or "I'm in love with someone married". Dude, am I a dying breed? Am I...
    woodwd40 woodwd40 36-40, M Mar 6

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    Hes my friend.... But, he doesnt feel like my spouse. We can talk about anything and can finally admit to our mistakes. We can say were sorry and give each other praise. But...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 10

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    You know, one never wakes up one day and says "hey, I want to get married to someone who doesn't appreciate me". So here I am at 19 years old, in a sexless marriage. I'm married to...
    Angelwithbrokenwingsxo Angelwithbrokenwingsxo 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 2

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    I've been married 8 years and feel like I am wasting time every day that goes by. I guess I made the wrong decision in marrying my wife but two kids later I feel like I'm stuck in...
    Stimulatingconvoplz Stimulatingconvoplz 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 7

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    I just need to vent....I feel so trapped and controlled and manipulated I'm my marriage. I need to leave but it's not that easy.hes emotionally and verbally abusive and I'm tired...
    Completelydonewithhim Completelydonewithhim 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    Especially when these people are close to you, be it friends, or in-laws. In my case its the ol' bad in-law story. I've fallen in love with a very good man and he's in love with me...
    Msprissy Msprissy 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    I am so lonely. I've always been lonely, but I don't think I've ever been as much as I am now. I love being alone, but it's because I can't be left alone that it makes me feel...
    BlueRio BlueRio 18-21, F Mar 2

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    I always have.. As I've grown up I've been an only child from my mum and she's brought me up. I have a sister from my dad but i hardly see her. I really have only 2 main friends...
    Ridingtonewyork Ridingtonewyork 13-15, F 14 Responses Mar 15

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    Isn't this like every introvert ever...we like the space , our " me" time is important to us. It's because when we do spent time with people; bestfriends or strangers we use up...
    hadidamshah hadidamshah 22-25, M Mar 1

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    The hardest part about being married to a narcissist/sociopath is their lack of empathy and shallow emotions. The hardest part about leaving the narcissist/sociopath is their lack...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 25 Responses Mar 19

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    So my lover says she can't be the "shadow woman" anymore, but WOW did we ever create some seriously amazing memories in 4 1/2 months of finally seeing each other after nearly 2...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My husband just told me he isn't attracted to me. He says I'm pretty and that he likes certain aspects of me but isn't attracted to me. Wtf.
    xoshelbsxo xoshelbsxo 22-25, F Mar 14

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    I have no group for I am a outcast but this message isn't about me it's about you if you are also a lonely person empty talk to me
    Akiogams Akiogams 16-17, M Mar 19

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    I say get married to whoever you want. Love isn't a religious matter. Marriage is only something to bond 2 people who love each other together. It shouldn't have to do with...
    xxRetroxx xxRetroxx 26-30, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Somebody told me that depression isn't like a cold that can heal and go away; it's like a disease that sticks with you for life. I have overcome some "disorders" in the last two...
    Lonelyastronaut Lonelyastronaut 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    My wife and I have been married for 34 years now. There's been so many times where she withdraws from me and expects me to pull her back all the time. If I feel withdrawn, she just...
    Allen54 Allen54 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    My wife and I have been married for 34 years now. There's been so many times where she withdraws from me and expects me to pull her back all the time. If I feel withdrawn, she just...
    Allen54 Allen54 51-55, M Mar 7

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    We have been together for 4 years married for 2. He all of sudden isn't attracted to me anymore we have sex only if he feels like it which might be twice a month but he...
    Confusedfordummys Confusedfordummys 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    I don't know how or why, but I feel this emptiness inside me and I don't know how to deal with it. My Dad asked me one day if I was ever afraid of dying and I said no, he asked me...
    Livinshadows Livinshadows 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    I feel so utterly rejected by my husband. In so many waya he is such a nice man, he is caring and thoughtful. the constant rejection of me sexualy has throw off my whole sense of...
    lovedbutlonley lovedbutlonley 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 11

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    So, my husband asked me to help him find some tracking numbers for a package he ordered. I needed to reset his password on the site. so I signed in on his email to check for the...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 14

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    So it's been a while since we have been back at dd. Since November 2013 actually. We had to move in w/ a friend after our rental was foreclosed on, and weren't able to do it there...
    girvingtree girvingtree 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I'm in a room with 7 other people, everyone's asleep, I have a flight in 2 hours but I can't turn off. I'm travelling the world, I have a highflying career starting in a few months...
    so24601 so24601 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    What if she isn't gonna come back anymore? Are they gonna leave me for good? Even if the old me is gonna come back, it wouldn't be the same... A lot of things has changed... I'm...
    Misaki7590 Misaki7590 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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