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I Am Lonely In My Marriage

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    I ended up in this place

    because I can't say anything. Not to my family and not to my friends.Not to the therapist even. The stakes are high. This marriage is too advanced. My family life is too good in a way to start unravelling it. So I am here.
    BonneNouvelle BonneNouvelle 41-45, F 17 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    I've been married 30 years,

    we sleep in separate rooms, never have sex for a few years. Not even intimacy. We only talk briefly about family or household stuff. I work with hardly any interactions with others, and since we moved here I have no friends. I need female friendship and communication.
    ZhivagoAtHeart ZhivagoAtHeart 61-65, M 1 Response Jun 27, 2014

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    Married for 14 years

    and I am tired of the same routine day in and day out. Same conversation etc etc.
    greenglassgoblin greenglassgoblin 36-40, M Sep 3, 2014

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    My husband and I aren't what we used to be.

    He doesn't give a crap about my feelings or my needs. sometimes I think he is with me because he loves my family so much and he doesn't have a family. The only thing that gets him to respond to me is when I act distant. Like the type of wife he wants is the type who doesn't talk...
    LonelyMom214 LonelyMom214 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 28, 2015

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    Sick Of It At Times

    I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.I have been married for 20 years. Sometimes I think that he will never change although he will appear to sincerely want to change lately. But not much happens as far as results , except really little and very small.I'm tored of 'working...
    emeraldskies emeraldskies 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 26, 2010

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    just lonely. I feel like my marriage is over.

    I can't get over the fact of what he did and what I did. I know I can live without him. I've done the single mom thing (and not being on welfare) before. so that doesn't scare me. I do love him, but I'm not sure he loves me. it's a question I have to ask myself. he says...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 7, 2015

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    my husband makes me feel more of a burden lately

    than a blessing I love him dearly but I'm at the point I'm getting depressed and disappointed I don't want to live life without him.but the worst feeling is feeling alone and unappreciated. he use to enjoy family time god and us now he has quit church hardly does anything as a...
    momof5t8n4grnte momof5t8n4grnte 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 13, 2015

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    We have struggled for some time

    but last year have been a disaster... We hardly speak except for only what's necessary to stay alive. We have 2 children and I stay only because of them. Not wanting them to have to deal with all that follows a break...But I have come to a point where I keep thinking if this...
    SteinHansson SteinHansson 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    9 Days after the anniversary debacle

    and now my birthday today. Not looking forward to being disappointed again. Lets hope I'm not.
    funlecy1 funlecy1 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 28, 2014

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    I get this. I am at the point

    where is has been so long since I have received any positive attention from my wife that I can remember the last time she even asked how I was doing. She has no idea what my hopes and dreams are any more because she no longer ask me about anything like that and I have decided...
    kipr359 kipr359 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

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    I am terrified that I've ruined my marriage.

    I don't listen to him about every single thing and he doesn't listen to almost any of my suggestions. His way is better, his ideas are better, me disagreeing with him on anything is tantamount to me saying "**** you and your opinion, I'm going to ignore you and do it my way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 20, 2015

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    I wanted a love to have warmth,

    security and trust , loyalty, bond, intuition someone who has their act together he doesn't and never will its been over 20 years and long enough have I suffered through his family ridicule and his daily procrastination and him not taking care of his health I'm done and sick of...
    Bella70 Bella70 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    Pondering

    I wonder at times if the feeling, the need for intimacy in my life is a direct result of rejection from someone who once professed to love me and claims she still does or perhaps it is a direct result of incorrect thinking... Just maybe I'm overthinking the entire situation and...
    GDAWG98 GDAWG98 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 29, 2013

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F Dec 24, 2014

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    I'm looking for love.

    ..not sex. My marriage is in stamina mode. Spouse refuses counseling he's an alcoholic. I'm 52 and I have so much life and love in me. (I am staying for our two kids who are in grade school.). If you are reading this and you understand or are in similar circumstance please...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 6, 2015

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    I'm feeling hurt and lonely tonight.

    How can someone you have dedicated 15+ years of marriage to go out of their way to be hurtful - knowing full well of the reaction?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 29, 2015

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    How would u know if ur husband is cheating on u.

    It is the thing that I scare all the time to be cheated without being aware of that :(
    desertflower1 desertflower1 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2014

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    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    coryleecc11 coryleecc11 26-30, F Oct 11, 2015

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    I have made mistakes in my marriage.

    I worked too many hours and traveled over 100 days out of the year. I always was supportive. I tool an interest in my wife's activities and interests. I have been the bread winner for out home. I haven't agreed with everything she has decided for the kids schooling but I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 28, 2015

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    Want a Hug and to Hold Someone

    A lot to say, but no time now.She works nights and I work days.She sleeps on the couch in the living room and watches tv. or plays on the computer. I sleep on a king size bed in the master bedroom. You have to understand-- she does not sleep there because we had a big argument...
    vetro vetro 51-55, M 3 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    How Can This Be?

    I've been with my partner for 11 years now and I've never been more lonelier. We have two utter amazing children together, yet the distance between us is growing, despite making improvements in our relationship. How can this be? Why do I feel so isolated and untouched by her...
    Invisible75 Invisible75 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    So you don't really get along with your in-laws.

    I mean, hell your mother-in-law said all kids of foul things about you trying to make everyone not like you. So anyways, it's your brother-in-law's graduation party and so the family goes. While there, you are meeting many people for the first time (all of which only your mil is...
    wonderwoman326 wonderwoman326 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 14, 2015

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    What is the purpose anymore?

    ? I am always alone, always eating by myself, watching tv on separate rooms, going to work at opposite schedules, so 4 nights a week I sleep alone. Seeing my friends by myself because he doesn't like them, never sharing songs I like because he thinks they are dumb. I want my best...
    Gia00 Gia00 26-30, F 3 Responses May 6, 2015

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    Wow... the title couldn't fit me better.

    .. I've been married for 14 yrs to a man that use to be a good man... that is before he retired from the army and before he started getting an s.s.check... we use to do things together .... we use to be a family... now it's me and the kids on one side and him and his friends (who...
    neydi1972 neydi1972 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    Computer Games In The Way!

    I've been married almost 10 years. We have had so many downs that I don't even know how we're still together! I have worked so hard to try and make this work. Now, my husband plays computer games and is on the computer WAAY more often than with me. Not only are we emotionally...
    30anon 30anon 26-30 2 Responses Aug 9, 2010

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    She won't kiss me good night,

    she won't say good morning or hello when I get home form work. All she dose is tell me how much she regrets not leaving me.
    lastinlove86 lastinlove86 26-30, M 8 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I'm an intelligent, beautiful,

    funny person, and yet I can't get my husbands attention. He used to find me so fascinating but he can't look up from his phone anymore. He walks away when I'm mid sentence, or starts watching a video on his phone. I've even paired down what we talk to to the bare minimum to...
    krissypn krissypn 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    After 24 years, I feel unappreciated

    and worthless. My wife makes no effort to show me any kind of love or affection. We are a single income family (her choice, to be a stay at home mom) and struggle to make ends meet just like everyone else. What makes me sad is that I feel broke financially and emotionally. I...
    OML1971 OML1971 41-45 6 Responses Jun 9, 2015

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    Lonely In Marriage

    I am very much in love with my husband . But I am very lonely. Its not because I don't have my children or family or friends. I am not alone, but I am wanting so much to have him interested in my life, not just what the kids are up to or if there were any messages for him while...
    cocobel cocobel 36-40 1 Response Aug 13, 2013

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    I have been married for almost 25 years.

    My hubby is a good bloke.....but in the past few years I feel very lonely and disconnected from him. He works hard and provides for us, but in the evenings he is usually crashed out on the sofa by 9ish. A few years ago my boredom and loneliness caused me to spend a lot of time...
    sillysoo sillysoo 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 12, 2014

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    I feel invisible in this relationship.

    I love this man whom I have been with for 15 years but he makes me feel invisible. I'm tired of one worded reesponses. He doesn't even turn from the tv when I enter the room
    medfm80 medfm80 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29, 2015

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    I couldn't take it anymore.

    you can only be the only one trying for so long. I moved out and am moving forward. I'm not 100% sure I'm ready for everything ahead, but I know that I'm going to no longer let her continue to make me feel this way. I guess I no lo get belong in this group...my marriage is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 18, 2015

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    Typical holiday in our house last night.

    Husband it strolls in after 8 o'clock when he should have been home by 6 o'clock. No apologies whatsoever. Every day is exactly the same here holidays birthdays anniversaries mean nothing.
    funlecy1 funlecy1 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    I Work Nights and Have No Friends

    I've been married for 28 years to a wonderful man. We have 2 awesome adult daughters and one 9 years old granddaughter. So what's my problem? I'm lonely. We moved to a very small town 3 years ago and my best female friend is 3 hours away. I now work the graveyard shift. My...
    niteshift niteshift 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 27, 2009

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    Loneliness can drag you down the drain

    but my kids keep my sanity intact. I choose to be happy with my situation. Happy thoughts all the time.
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 16, 2015

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    my marriage is in trouble.

    I don't wanna leave but I just can't seem to get through to him.I know he loves me but he acts like he just don't care until I'm ready Leave
    wtfisthereanynamenottaken wtfisthereanynamenottaken 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 28, 2015

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    if you are going to give me lots of jobs to do,

    dont stand there and watch me do them, get on with something useful!
    dvd0607 dvd0607 41-45, M Dec 24, 2014

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