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I Am Lonely In My Marriage

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    Lonely In Work And Lonely When In Get Home

    i work nights as a nurse out on community. i get through the nights thinking i may have a lovely time with my husband and children on my nights off, which is only one two or three in one week.. i am sad lonley and do not know what to do any more... i love my husband and do not...
    hollybush66 hollybush66 41-45 Oct 13, 2012

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    Lonely

    I've been married for about 3 years now, and I've been with my husband for 6 years exactly this past month. We have two beautiful daughters, ages 1 and 2, and they're amazing. I'm in school part-time, but most of the time, I'm a stay-at-home mom. I love to shop, sing, cook, and...
    lauravang lauravang 22-25 6 Responses Jul 4, 2011

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    Coming to My Wits End...

    I have been married for almost 20 years.  Most of those have not been what I expected.  I know my husband would say the same. We started to disconnect after our 2nd and last child was born.  He made it very clear while early in our relationship that he was not...
    LonelyinPoMo LonelyinPoMo 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    I Work Nights and Have No Friends

    I've been married for 28 years to a wonderful man. We have 2 awesome adult daughters and one 9 years old granddaughter. So what's my problem? I'm lonely. We moved to a very small town 3 years ago and my best female friend is 3 hours away. I now work the graveyard shift. My...
    niteshift niteshift 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 27, 2009

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    How Can This Be?

    I've been with my partner for 11 years now and I've never been more lonelier. We have two utter amazing children together, yet the distance between us is growing, despite making improvements in our relationship. How can this be? Why do I feel so isolated and untouched by her...
    Invisible75 Invisible75 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    I Am Invisible

    Last night my family watched an episode of one of our favorite TV shows together. After it was over my wife got out her laptop (as usual) so I opened mine up and continued reading a book I am working on. A little while later, my wife got up off the couch and announced to our...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 7 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    Lonely In Marriage

    I am very much in love with my husband . But I am very lonely. Its not because I don't have my children or family or friends. I am not alone, but I am wanting so much to have him interested in my life, not just what the kids are up to or if there were any messages for him while...
    cocobel cocobel 36-40 2 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    I've been married 30 years,

    we sleep in separate rooms, never have sex for a few years. Not even intimacy. We only talk briefly about family or household stuff. I work with hardly any interactions with others, and since we moved here I have no friends. I need female friendship and communication.
    ZhivagoAtHeart ZhivagoAtHeart 61-65, M 1 Response Jun 27

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    Fishing Widow

    Here I am again- sitting on my front porch wondering how late my husband will be this time. He came home, hitched up his boat and was gone in less than five minutes. I am glad I bought that bottle of wine the other day...........
    Lonelycc Lonelycc 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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    Want a Hug and to Hold Someone

    A lot to say, but no time now.She works nights and I work days.She sleeps on the couch in the living room and watches tv. or plays on the computer. I sleep on a king size bed in the master bedroom. You have to understand-- she does not sleep there because we had a big argument...
    vetro vetro 51-55, M 3 Responses Sep 30, 2009

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    Married But Feel Alone

    I have been with my husband for 10 years.  We lived together for two years had a child and married after the baby was two.  We have four children(well three are grown) between us.  My main  feelings of lonliness come from how little time we spend together...
    Karen50 Karen50 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    How would u know if ur husband is cheating on u.

    It is the thing that I scare all the time to be cheated without being aware of that :(
    desertflower1 desertflower1 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 17

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    WTF

    She kicked me out because she didnt clean/put out/support my career...
    rolex666 rolex666 41-45 2 Responses Mar 14, 2009

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    Really Dont Know What To Do..

    Hi all, I really don't know what to do. I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years (infact it's our anniversary next week) I hardly ever see my husband, he constantly works. He has 2 jobs when he is working in his full time job he is leaving the house at 8 in the...
    lisacarr0707 lisacarr0707 26-30 4 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    Thought The Second Time Would Be Better

    I am in my second marriage and in some ways it is worse than my first marriage. We each have two sons from our previous marriage, her sons are drug addicts and have been in trouble with the law, my sons are the opposite. When my wife gets upset about her sons she will say "your...
    herrdrier herrdrier 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    What Do I Do?

    I have been married for almost three years with my husband, and been with him four. I got pregnant early on, and we have 2 kids as well. He is older than me and he said  that he really wanted the kids, and a family and thats what he wanted in a relationship. Hes a good man, and...
    pixichi pixichi 22-25 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    Sick Of It At Times

    I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.I have been married for 20 years. Sometimes I think that he will never change although he will appear to sincerely want to change lately. But not much happens as far as results , except really little and very small.I'm tored of 'working...
    emeraldskies emeraldskies 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 26, 2010

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    Coming to My Wits End...

    I have been married for almost 20 years.  Most of those have not been what I expected.  I know my husband would say the same. We started to disconnect after our 2nd and last child was born.  He made it very clear while early in our relationship that he was not...
    LonelyinPoMo LonelyinPoMo 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 11, 2009

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    Computer Games In The Way!

    I've been married almost 10 years. We have had so many downs that I don't even know how we're still together! I have worked so hard to try and make this work. Now, my husband plays computer games and is on the computer WAAY more often than with me. Not only are we emotionally...
    30anon 30anon 26-30 2 Responses Aug 9, 2010

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    Confused About My Loneliness...

    Benn married for 20 years, known my wife for 25.  I feel lonely in the fact that she continually keeps herself busy outside the house with work, church ministry, and girlfriends.  She developed this relationship with this one lady and it feels like I'm back in high...
    charliem62 charliem62 41-45, M 9 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    Lonley Too!

    I've been married for just 4 yrs.  My husband and I have two children together.  I work from home, so I'm here alot.  At night there is dinner to be made, homework, baths etc .... my husband would rather play pool at the local pool hall.  He says its a good...
    KyChic KyChic 31-35 5 Responses Mar 19, 2009

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    Lonely

    I am lonely, but not looking to cheat on my husband or anything. He is hard to bare at times .Alot of times. I wont leave for now because of financial reasons and emotonal. I am not feeling strong enough to take on the emotonal things with our son ,should we split. I dont think...
    emeraldskies emeraldskies 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    Pondering

    I wonder at times if the feeling, the need for intimacy in my life is a direct result of rejection from someone who once professed to love me and claims she still does or perhaps it is a direct result of incorrect thinking... Just maybe I'm overthinking the entire situation and...
    GDAWG98 GDAWG98 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    Lonely Wife

    I am a lonely wife married for almost 9 years and together for almost 11 years. I fell in love with a man who I thought I could help, but after this long I realize I can't. He is a pothead who also uses drugs, alcohol and sex to cope! We are completely opposite and I just can't...
    SamRn SamRn 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    Its Killing Me

    I have been married for two years, but with my wife for 13 years. We have three kids. I feel so alone all the time and i hate it. Im always around them, and im never actually alone, i just feel lonely. My wife isnt very affectionate, and it doesnt seem like she loves me anymore...
    tofu4u tofu4u 22-25, M 5 Responses Apr 1, 2012

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    Lonely Wife

     When i got married almost 9 years ago, i really thought that it was the beginning of life...that I would experience love like i've never experienced it before...that i would give of myself and would receive all of him in return. But i was wrong. I used to think that people...
    soleil2611 soleil2611 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Do any other married but lonely people here feel emotionally paralyzed by the loneliness in your marriage? I do. It is not every single day but often enough to be significant to me...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 15 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    I have found that there is some misunderstanding about what married and lonely seems to mean. There are different ways a person can feel lonely in a marriage. It can be emotionally...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 2

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    Final Meeting with the Marriage Counselor - I went to my last marriage counseling session today. My H and the therapist don't know I'm not coming back again because they're not...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I think that I am going to making more of my marriage posts in the "I am Married" group. I realized that although I feel lonely at times the general members that post in "Married...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    I am not sure if that is totally true that I am not marriage material. I got engaged 4 months ago but I broke it off yesterday. He has put his hands on me, not hitting but...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    My husband has ED life gets lonely at night yes we can be intimate but its not the same. 44 in a sexless marriage where do I go from here. 5 years of living this way. Anyone out...
    Bindy9021 Bindy9021 41-45, F Jul 15

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    So since I found that my husband was a cheating liar I have been lost. I thought that I was going to lose my mind. He kept telling me that I was crazy for thinking that his...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 19 Responses Jul 10

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    Update from the Battlefield - Since notifying my H three days ago that I've hired a lawyer and we're getting divorced, he has launched a full scale verbal attack on my character...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 36 Responses Jul 8

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    We almost have it all. Perfect family, home, financially secure, adventurous lifestyle fishing, 4wd almost every weekend but we have not been intimate other than kissing for more...
    Hussy2016 Hussy2016 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 25

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    I told my husband that I want a divorce. I have known for a little over a week now that I need to leave him. I care about him: he is the father of my children and a good man, but I...
    ladyintricate ladyintricate 31-35, F 9 Responses Jun 30

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    I am married but I live in a Sexless Marriage. Most of time I even live alone. I am so sad. I am not young anymore. Worst thing is I still look young and good-looking. I had crush...
    jackieLu jackieLu 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    Blast off! So I told my husband I wanted a divorce today, and tried to give him a letter from my lawyer to make it a reality. It did not go well. My H said he won't agree to a...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses Jul 5

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    What can I do to bring intimacy back into my marriage? I love my wife and I believe she loves me. We have been through some tough times in our marriage (including her having an...
    joeknox joeknox 46-50, M 14 Responses Jul 14

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    Language Barrier I’ve determined that my STBX and I speak two entirely different languages, and he doesn’t understand anything I say – or have ever said – to him about my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm in a same sex relationship, we've been together for over a decade. Same sex marriage isn't legal in our state but we had a commitment ceremony several years ago and consider...
    cloudsinyoureyes cloudsinyoureyes 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I sometimes feel like i'm teetering on the fence of outsourcing or trying fixing things with my husband. Some days I feel like I owe it to myself and my family (kids/husband) to...
    asterinight asterinight 31-35, F 17 Responses Jul 2

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    I know God is here with me so technically I'm never alone but however I just feel like lonely like there's a space that needs filled with a girl who loves me a cares for me and...
    Zalbaar Zalbaar 13-15, M Jul 9

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    Im so lonely even being married cos i married the wrong man, cos i wanted to have children so much. Now i have consequences of it. I live in loveless marriage. The only joy is my...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 18 Responses Jul 10

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    My wife and I met in college 14 years ago but we didn't date we just were friends. She leaves to return home because one of her parents get ill and we lose contact until 3 years...
    Solonelysc Solonelysc 31-35, M Jul 14

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    I'm unfortunately part of this group. I've read so many of your stories and can say that each one of you deserves to have a loving partner. My doctor told me a few days ago that...
    1wendydarling 1wendydarling 46-50, F 12 Responses 4 days ago

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    Like many others,I am also stuck in a bad marriage.It was never good and it will never be.I don't love him .Its all because of him that I am facing all these problems in my life .I...
    Asadstory2tell Asadstory2tell 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 23

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    I've gotten a couple of inquiries so I guess it's time for an update: I'm doing okay. My dad ambushed me at my friend's house. We had a surface only conversation in which he told...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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