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I Am Married and Alone

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    Married But Still Lonely

    I've been married for only a year and a few months but it feels like 10 yrs. My husband and I don't really have a relationship. We're not friends. Were basically roomates. The sex used to be outstanding before we got married. Now we have boring married people sex whenever we...
    caramell77 caramell77 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.

    Does it ever work. I've been doing long distance for a year. It sucks. But it's about to end. I'm going to move to be with her. Am I an idiot for moving to be with her? She's scared it won't work. But were both very dedicated people. Can I get some advice? Did your long...
    Hbow Hbow 22-25, M 2 Responses May 8

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    Married And Alone Because Of Medical Circumstances

    Believe me I am happily married and have been for many years. Unfortunately my wife has cancer and the prognosis does not look very good. She has been fighting now for close to 3 years. As you can imagine she does not feel sexy at all and does not even want to be touched. I, on...
    gordonmj gordonmj 56-60, M 5 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    I'm Married And Alone

    I got married at the age of 22 I moved from my childhood home to my bf home at the time 2yrs. Later we got married. We moved away from our home town and my husband is a workaholic. I am a stay at home mom with very little Social interaction. I tell my husband he is married to...
    Lostnalone22 Lostnalone22 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I am married. I am alone.

    My husband was never very nice to me (after our marriage),. We are now at the point that we are roommates who tolerate each other. My best friend ( who lives a state away) has stopped speaking to me and I don't know why. I live with my husband and sister and my daughter...
    Crittleames Crittleames 26-30 4 Responses Mar 1

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    We Never Had Sex

    i never had sex with my husband. he never touched me in bed. whenever i ask for it, he just push me away and keep telling me that he's too tired and exhausted. i know that he has ED problem due to his diabetes. but he refused to seek help from doctors. i dont want to sound...
    mendu mendu 31-35, F 15 Responses Oct 18, 2010

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    It's like having a room mate

    for the last 5 years we don't hug kiss we don't even hold hands she puts a pillow between us when we sleep.... I love to snuggle and fall asleep in each other's arms it's not even about sex.
    rondh rondh 46-50, M 2 Responses May 8

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    Being Alone In Your Marriage Feels Like Being A Houseplant

    That's exactly how I feel. Because you don't bother to ask a houseplant how it feels, if it needs anything, if it wants to talk, if anything's wrong. You just make sure you give it the bare minimum of what it needs to survive, and if it dies, oh well, you weren't that attached...
    Minaarchangel Minaarchangel 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    My wife never calls or texts me anymore.

    I try to wait for her to even text or call but the truth is that she won't, and when I do call her she acts like all am doing is bugging her. And she says she needs her space.. Am not proud of my past I have not always been here because my job consumed my life (chef life) but...
    bpina95 bpina95 26-30, M 1 Response May 1

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    Sexless Marriages

      If you are not in one you probably know someone who is. I am in one. Before I go on, less than 10 times per year or so is a sexless marriage. The Americans call it DINS. (Dual Income No Sex) - Don't laugh, it is real.   For years I struggled with my obsession...
    ajatsea ajatsea 31-35, M 36 Responses Oct 23, 2008

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    How Sad Is That

    Someone asked me the other day if I was married and I actually had to stop and think before I answered. I have been feeling so alone that I actually forgot for a second that I am married. I guess I feel more like a single person. Now that's just really sad.
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 16 Responses Oct 20, 2011

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    I am Married , but I am alone

    for a reason , my husband has to go away a lot for his Company. I love my husband , he is a good Man . I sure would like to meet some Knew people though , since we just moved up here .
    kath50 kath50 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 8

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    I would love to have a with a married women I

    would give you suck a pleasure I'll give you everything you desire
    dmedina513 dmedina513 36-40, M Jul 4

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    The reason I am alone is we are seperated.

    I think we really need to change marriage laws. First divorce is way too easy. The no fault divorce is an easy way out. People need to work on relationships and not give up on each other when trouble arises. Remember most of us vow for better or worse, rich or poor. Don't...
    Dlgadlga Dlgadlga 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I Wonder If There Really Is Such A Thing As A "Soulmate"?

    My wife and I married very young. Hormones and sexual desires probably had more to do with our attraction than love. I have bent over backwards to try and make this woman happy though the last almost 23 years of marriage. Unfortunately, I've dedicated so much of my soul to...
    shawshank68 shawshank68 41-45, M 4 Responses Apr 27, 2013

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    So Alone.

    I don't know where else to turn. I am so alone. I had an affair two weeks ago and now I feel like I am falling in love with this person, I don't know if its just because I am so alone. I haven't been touched by a man in years, yet I sleep next to one every night.
    allycat1129 allycat1129 36-40, F 23 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    I've spend 25 years with someone

    who never adored me, who never appreciated me for what I am. Oh, in her way she does love me, but she was never in love with me, she never made me feel special and sexy and like I was the man of her dreams. And in a way I can only blame myself. I fell madly in love with her...
    BenXBrand BenXBrand 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 3

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    Just The Mother Of My Kids That'S It!

    Tonight I had a discussion with my husband to try to sort out many of our marital problems. His answer was that he only looks at me as the mother of his children and would not care if I left. He actually said that he won't leave and if I want to leave I'm to leave the house with...
    Lostbooboo Lostbooboo 36-40, F 3 Responses May 8, 2013

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    2nd marriage. I am a REAL christian.

    I am alone in my marriage. Always being rejected. It has been almost 6 years. I tried to commit suicide 2 months ago. I took 50+ percocet. I fought it once it was happening for my children! It was an act of sheer desperation. I am alone. If I try to have intimacy with my husband...
    winterbutterfly winterbutterfly 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My husband abandoned me 4 months ago

    and I feel so lost without him. I don't know what was so wrong in our marriage that he would just quit and walk away. I'm left wondering if he'll be back or if he'll file for divorce. We got along so well though, each other's best friends. IT MAKES NO SENSE! How do you let go...
    IvyDaisy IvyDaisy 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    My Wife Runs Hot And Cold

    We will go thre weeks without sex and then for the next week she is all over me. It seems right before her period she gets very horny. Women, is this normal? I admittedly haven't a clue when it comes to those things. You'd think I'd have learned by now. The sex is getting...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    When Is The Pain And Hurt Supposed To Go Away?

    Each day I feel stronger and stronger as far as standing up for myself and my feelings. I have felt strong enough to tell my husband exactly how I feel and all these things that have built up over the years. He he has hurt me so much with his behavior and I refuse to accept it...
    MjCj77 MjCj77 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Unhappily married but comfortable.

    I would leave in a heartbeat if not for my 3 young girls. I have no where to go with them. Really a sucky situation.
    Hotmessmama3 Hotmessmama3 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    I Really Just Don'T Understand It

    its almost as if i married a complete stranger,one minute were in bliss just on top of the world nothing else matter i needed nothing else if i had died then and there i'd die happy...but slowly little by little happiness,love,everything just slowly faded away now is just hi and...
    Confusedlo20 Confusedlo20 22-25, M 7 Responses May 4, 2013

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    Day By Day! :)

    today is day two i'm not speaking to my mr. and I have moved into the spare room. I can't take any more of his disrespect. I am currently very excited about my trip coming up a chance to see my sister family and friends back home. I know this is not how a home should be but guess...
    siema1201 siema1201 41-45 4 Responses May 6, 2013

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    My husband of 25 yrs beat me up bad .

    I forgive him but now I realise I carnt forget . Am I mad .
    kimbeley123 kimbeley123 41-45, F 27 Responses May 1

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    Am I Wrong?

    My husband had an emotional affair (that I am aware of) 3 years ago with an old jr high girlfriend that he had reconnected with thru facebook. I took responsibility for my part of our marriage not being what it had once been. They maintained they were only friends who needed...
    Scarlettblush Scarlettblush 36-40 4 Responses Sep 11, 2013

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    Good Bye!

    I was married and alone, but now I am just alone (but spend time with my boyfriend, when we want). I have discovered the difference between loneliness and being alone and I have discovered that I actually enjoy being alone and choose to be alone - I'm sorry my marriage ended and...
    catcusflower catcusflower 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Too Many Years

    I have been married 15 years. Known him since I was 15. we do not have sex and tonight, I believe he does not love me anymore. not all his fault, but not all mine. just not happy. at all
    Neerod65 Neerod65 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 6, 2012

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    Well I guess I can leave this group soon

    as I will no longer be married. The hurt is still unbelievable. She now said, "I can no longer love you like a wife should love her husband". It is a refreshing burst of truth from a compulsive liar.
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I thought about more

    that I could say and left off...I wake every morning smiling and singing. I care for him deeply, faithfully serving him. I keep an immaculate house. I cook every meal to his liking. I bake for him including fresh bread. I never spend outside of the budget. I try to make things...
    winterbutterfly winterbutterfly 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Just A Little Experiment...

    I am not in the same boat as many people here, my partner and I do still have sex. Just not that often, and never at his instigation. But wait you say, that's not fair...how can he instigate if you always jump in first. Very good question. So I have decided to stop and see what...
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Oct 28, 2010

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    Mister Mom

    I am at wits end my wife works a lot so I am the one taking care of the kids and their needs I do most of the cooking, cleaning and laundry. I take the kids to most of their activities, all this and I'm lucky to get to " make love" to my wife once a month. I am seriously thinking...
    William949 William949 46-50, M 3 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    Real Meaning Of 'Missing"

    Now I understand the real meaning of missing. Morethan 6 months I totaly missed my sweety. Becouse of some leagal problem in my visa status. I have been married more than 20 months but only get 9 months together. Feel missing too much. When she with me we knew that the real...
    tanoos tanoos 26-30, M Jun 9, 2013

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    Does Anyone's Spouse Dismisses Their Feelings?.

    Anyone experience their spouse not allowing them to express themselves freely? My husband refuses to allow me to get angry, frustrated, or just plain upset over anything. It is like any negative feeling is not allowed or he says "affects him"and most of the time it (the source...
    feistypepper feistypepper 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 30, 2012

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    Getting Yelled At Again...shocker!

    Here we go again. My mom took the kids for the night and instead of having a nice evening with my husband it turns to another big fight with him raising his voice. SHOCKER! I don’t really understand how things work. Just an hour ago he said he wanted to have a nice relaxing...
    rantingtofeelbetter rantingtofeelbetter 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    Married Singal

    I get married in my childhood i dont know what when happened but m not happy with my life i need a true sweet heart
    manishfaujdar manishfaujdar 26-30 1 Response Jun 27, 2013

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    Is This Married Life?

    My husband sleeps on the couch tonight.....again. So I EP. What a life!
    3tothemom 3tothemom 36-40 6 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    It feels like we drifted apart.

    We stay in seperate rooms when hes home from work. At night we lay in bed together but he always falls asleep cause he says hes tired from working. I can understand that. But he coukd find time for us. Our daughter doesnt want anything to do with her dad.
    momof3grls2014 momof3grls2014 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    My husband is very jealous of the relationship

    I have with my family especially my mother and brother. I am close with both of them. Yesterday he told me that he doesn't want my brother around the house to visit( he comes once a week to visit my son) because he doesn't want to have another man bonding with his son. He also...
    li0906 li0906 36-40, F 10 Responses Jun 8

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    Lies Lies And More Lies!

    He came home on payday with the same pay he gets every week pays the same pay every month. Please tell me why this sat. which is usually our time he says"i don't have any money I'm going to find some work!" HUH the days your already working you come in acting like your half dead...
    siema1201 siema1201 41-45 9 Responses May 4, 2013

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    Yep

    About 95% of the time Im alone. Meaning without him. Im always with my kids, but not much time with what's supposed to be the, "other half". Amputation please! I guess I should add here that we are past the fixing stage and now we both know we are best apart.
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 20 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    M00kM00k M00kM00k 22-25, M May 8

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    Married And Living Separate Lives

    My story is plain and simple. 2 gorgeous boys that I had through IVF and no support from my husband. Since the birth of my first son which was 5 years ago we have had no sex! He does not help me at all. I work 4 days, I wash, clean, cook, bath, shop and take the kids to their...
    Lostbooboo Lostbooboo 36-40, F 6 Responses May 7, 2013

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    I'm 31 years old and I can say that I've truly loved only two people and unfortunately they were to the wrong ones. My close friends are all in long term relationships and getting...
    ownomore ownomore 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    Its nearly 4am, it's raining and I'm wide awake. In bed, alone! My husband is snoring his head off in the spare room and I'm afraid he's really going to leave me this time. I've...
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    i have been married for 7yrs now 2 beautiful kids and he use to be romantic and did all kids of things together we have use to go out and do things together now its like he is...
    lissa6112 lissa6112 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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