I Am Married and Alone

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,145 People

    How is it that no matter what happens,

    I come out wrong? My response is always the wrong one? whatever I say is the wrong thing? I always seem to be wrong. I don't know how I ended up in this place, in this way. Is it possible to be happy and still end up in the wrong EVERY time? I really believe that I am in a happy...
    1wishfulthinking 1wishfulthinking
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    What is the point in marriage,

    in being a team, if you are alone in all the decision making?! Why do I continue to live with this cold, distant, brooding man?! My eyes are open, I can see clearly, the writing is all over the wall, I understand it, yet I am still here!! Is this sacrifice I make of myself...
    mysteriousmarie27 mysteriousmarie27
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Sep 23, 2015

    I have been married for 25 years

    and raised 3 amazing kids. Now that my work is done I have no ME. I quit college when I got married so I could work to help further his career. I have no means to support myself. I am taking steps to change that but it is going to take time. He realized about 8 months ago that I...
    aboutdone26 aboutdone26
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Sep 13, 2015

    My Wife Runs Hot And Cold

    We will go thre weeks without sex and then for the next week she is all over me. It seems right before her period she gets very horny. Women, is this normal? I admittedly haven't a clue when it comes to those things. You'd think I'd have learned by now. The sex is getting...
    Brianst Brianst
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Oct 12, 2012

    I'm Married And Alone

    I got married at the age of 22 I moved from my childhood home to my bf home at the time 2yrs. Later we got married. We moved away from our home town and my husband is a workaholic. I am a stay at home mom with very little Social interaction. I tell my husband he is married to...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Jul 24, 2013

    Any busty lonely fun wives fancy chatting msg

    me n let's chat n pass a few minutes lol
    teddyboylovesboobs teddyboylovesboobs
    41-45, M
    Feb 20
    yelrah328 yelrah328
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 22, 2015

    Well it really seems to get me no where.

    I let my emotions get the best of me and now he's got the upper hand. I just want to be heard and I want him to understand how i feel but we are too diffrent. It's only a matter of time. We have a son and I'm scared he will whined up with divorced parents. My son deserves a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 6

    Went out on a date with husband

    for dinner when we got hoping I was hoping for romantic evening!! Think again!!husband said he was going for a drive for half hour weird it seems it was exude ti get away for not spending time with me): what a turn off I went to bed):
    drycleaners drycleaners
    46-50, F
    3 Responses May 9, 2015

    First of all, I hate valentines day.

    The hubs ruined it for me when I tried to go outside the box for him and I ended up on the floor. He then look down at me and his watch and asked if HE could watch his movie now? That was a few years ago..and broke me..I was getting cute valentines for my kids and I thought what...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 12

    This is for all the people on here

    who struggle in their marriage.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 4, 2015

    I love my husband! I love my family!

    ! I am miserable in my marriage and am uncertain, if "love" is a good enough reason to keep me here, when I am so unhappy?!! I don't want to be selfish and tear apart my family, but continuing on this same path is driving me insane! My husband is not an unfaithful or abusive man...
    mysteriousmarie27 mysteriousmarie27
    41-45, F
    13 Responses Mar 27, 2015

    My husband of 25 yrs beat me up bad .

    I forgive him but now I realise I carnt forget . Am I mad .
    kimbeley123 kimbeley123
    41-45, F
    22 Responses May 1, 2014

    I hate going to bed alone every night.

    I hate sitting in this house day after day watching my husband play his stupid games or watch his movies. I numb myself. I numb myself with mindless online games and Facebook. I have become a vacant shell.
    Freckles1969 Freckles1969
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Jan 29

    i am a retired NAVY VET.

    after my deployment in 2010 my wife has been distant we never make contact with each other and i sleep in a separate room now. when we met everything was perfect even the sex and we married in 2004. but 2010 killed my relationship with her. for the last five years we have been...
    desperateformywife desperateformywife
    36-40
    2 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    After 26 years of marriage

    and multiple affairs from my husband. I have decided that its time to take care of me. He will be served with divorce papers at work this week and i will be moved out by the time he gets home. This is the hardest thing i have ever done and need some advice on how to start all...
    Rmkgon Rmkgon
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jan 2

    Ive been married for 27 years to a man 11 years

    my senior,needless to say he acts his age ,old and boring, there is no intimacy ,I feel like I'm drowning. I'm so lonely and sexually frustrated I just don't know what to do anymore. Just wanting someone to chat with.
    Frustrated69 Frustrated69
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 23

    I was talking or texting

    rather to a lady on here today about never saying I'd never cheat on my wife or cheat in general because it will come back and bite you if you was to tell me a year ago that I'd be cheating with a 28 year old I would have said get out of here the sex between me and my wife had...
    homealone70 homealone70
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 27, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2015

    I am Married , but I am alone

    for a reason , my husband has to go away a lot for his Company. I love my husband , he is a good Man . I sure would like to meet some Knew people though , since we just moved up here .
    kath50 kath50
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jun 8, 2014

    I am 49 yrs old and have been with my husband

    for 13 yrs. Just weeks ago I felt everything was fine. Then everything exploded in my face. I better lay some ground work before I go further. I have 4 children to a previous relationship and unfortunately couldn't have children with my current hubby.My hubby has never really...
    eternity1966 eternity1966
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2015

    I'm so tired of being

    so lonely & miserable in this marriage.
    johnnaochoa johnnaochoa
    31-35, F
    9 Responses May 25, 2015

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    ILIASMAllie ILIASMAllie
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 13

    I would never leave my wife,

    no matter what goes on we still love each other but...... This afternoon I got so tired of all the negativity she tosses out. I struggle a lot with being depressed with all the pain and other pills I have to eat just so I can walk and live a half assed life. But to sit all...
    boldtimer boldtimer
    66-70, M
    Jan 29

    Unhappily married but comfortable.

    I would leave in a heartbeat if not for my 3 young girls. I have no where to go with them. Really a sucky situation.
    Hotmessmama3 Hotmessmama3
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 5, 2014

    There has to more than working all week.

    ..taking care of the kids and home...then sleeping alone... maybe I get some attention once in awhile..then get up and do it all again the next day...are all the romantics in the world gone or is it just something that books and movies made up...I love my husband but we feel more...
    amomof3 amomof3
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 20

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    alliecc11 alliecc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 4, 2015

    It's sad to be with someone

    but never be happy. Always longing for what your missing. Someone to cuddle with me during a movie, hold hands as we walk, little love letter with devoted love. Someone who misses me as I miss them. Just feeling blah tonight watching a sappy movie... Remember all the things I...
    dsuzy dsuzy
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Oct 14, 2014

    Yep

    About 95% of the time Im alone. Meaning without him. Im always with my kids, but not much time with what's supposed to be the, "other half". Amputation please! I guess I should add here that we are past the fixing stage and now we both know we are best apart.
    soulrunher soulrunher
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Apr 25, 2013

    Just A Little Experiment...

    I am not in the same boat as many people here, my partner and I do still have sex. Just not that often, and never at his instigation. But wait you say, that's not fair...how can he instigate if you always jump in first. Very good question. So I have decided to stop and see what...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    27 Responses Oct 28, 2010

    My husband didn't share funny pics with me

    that he n his sister were sharing. He only showed them to me after his sister asked if I had seen them. I felt so sad. I hav already talked to him lettin him know that I am so lonely n depressed n that I need him to fill this void b/c he is the only one that I hav. Am I being...
    Gneissgirl Gneissgirl
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Oct 3, 2015

    We've been together 21 years.

    I have said on more than one occasion that I am finished. I am thru. I am done trying. He always says things will change, things will get better. I have made an effort. I carry the burden of the house alone. I carry the burden of paying the bills alone. I make all the financial...
    Freckles1969 Freckles1969
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 3

    Its funny that everyone around me thinks I'm in

    this great marriage based on the material things that I have. Yes, my husband is a great provider and father. But, he is a horrible husband, lover and friend. He is unable to connect with me as a human being. He is distant, cold, isolated and when I push he becomes...
    kimberlycook kimberlycook
    46-50, F
    4 Responses May 3, 2015
    teddyboylovesboobs1 teddyboylovesboobs1
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 17

    I've been feeling pretty crappy da past few

    days. I don't feel like writing abt what's wrong but I would love to hear some great news or funny stories frm someone out there. Hopefully that will make me feel better.
    Gneissgirl Gneissgirl
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 20, 2015

    So Alone.

    I don't know where else to turn. I am so alone. I had an affair two weeks ago and now I feel like I am falling in love with this person, I don't know if its just because I am so alone. I haven't been touched by a man in years, yet I sleep next to one every night.
    allycat1129 allycat1129
    41-45, F
    15 Responses Jun 16, 2013

    I'm so alone. I yearn

    and ache for a passionate kiss, a hug, a touch ...anything to show me he desires me. It never comes and it hurts. It makes me want to cheat just to have a moment to connect intimately with a man....I need it, I miss it. I have asked, I have tried, I have cried, begged, and...
    Malynda100 Malynda100
    46-50, F
    13 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    Tomorrow is our 4th anniversary

    and we've hardly spoken in weeks. Yet here he is asking if I want to celebrate. How can our reality be so incredibly different???
    janaykirk janaykirk
    41-45, F
    21 Responses Jun 24, 2015

    How do you really know

    if you're in a "bad" marriage or not? You can't expect a long-term relationship to always be a bed of roses. My friend and I rated our marriages out of 10. She said that most of the time, hers was 8 or 9. I said that mine was only that high a few times a year and was like a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 2

    So why is it hard to leave

    but want to find someone to take that empty space. I want to find someone to care about me. I don't want to leave where I'm at because of my children.
    genoclearwater genoclearwater
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Oct 16, 2014

    we are like roommates.

    who pass each other in the hallway
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    12 Responses Jun 24, 2015

    I am from Scotland. I owned two businesses

    before meeting and marrying my American husband and moving to the states. He has turned out to be a drunk. A severe drunk with a volatile personality and an even more severe potty mouth when he is drunk, which is nearly every night. I brought a considerable amount of money into...
    Calamity6315 Calamity6315
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Nov 26, 2015

    Sexless Marriages

      If you are not in one you probably know someone who is. I am in one. Before I go on, less than 10 times per year or so is a sexless marriage. The Americans call it DINS. (Dual Income No Sex) - Don't laugh, it is real.   For years I struggled with my obsession...
    ajatsea ajatsea
    31-35, M
    34 Responses Oct 23, 2008

    i guess i am like most people

    that are married. at first it was great, but then things change. well our changes cant but put at the feet of either myself or my wife . they were forced on us. and so now after, some great years, i find myself in this group ' married but alone ' .... life can really suck...
    comechatuk comechatuk
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 5, 2015

    I am very lonely n depressed.

    I don't have any family here n I don't hav any friends. My husband n I don't tAlk b/c he doesn't need to socialize, to me he is like a robot. I told him how I felt n I can C him trying, but it is not enough b/c that is not his personLity. I am so desperate for attention n...
    Gneissgirl Gneissgirl
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 30, 2015

    Ever have one of those days

    that you wish that day never happened? Mine was today
    Willf289 Willf289
    31-35
    Aug 1, 2015

    I Really Just Don'T Understand It

    its almost as if i married a complete stranger,one minute were in bliss just on top of the world nothing else matter i needed nothing else if i had died then and there i'd die happy...but slowly little by little happiness,love,everything just slowly faded away now is just hi and...
    Confusedlo20 Confusedlo20
    22-25, M
    6 Responses May 4, 2013

    Day By Day! :)

    today is day two i'm not speaking to my mr. and I have moved into the spare room. I can't take any more of his disrespect. I am currently very excited about my trip coming up a chance to see my sister family and friends back home. I know this is not how a home should be but guess...
    siema1201 siema1201
    41-45
    3 Responses May 6, 2013

    I to am in the same situation I have been

    married ten years now. He is the most selfish person I have ever known. He punishes people by quitting his job and laying on bed all day for days. He can't hold a job longer than a few months. Every time he says things will get better and I start to see a light at the end of...
    nomorelies15 nomorelies15
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    I was always told that women appreciated

    thoughtful gestures, and that it was important for a man to show his wife sensitivity to her feelings. I sent her a couple of ecards recently, one to thank her for some things and one just because ... she didn't even open them. Okay, fine, note to self, cards aren't her 'love...
    drjacksonii drjacksonii
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 23, 2015

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