I Am Married and Gay

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    So I have been really working through being

    honest with my wife. I have been married 6 years and though I have always been attracted to men, I have never told her. 2 months ago I did and it was SUCH a relief! So needless to say we have had numerous chats about it and trying to find our "new normal". It's been good but...
    MrNurseGuy MrNurseGuy
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    I had my next date. We went to a hotel room.

    It was an extreme sexual experience. He knew all the right things to do. Mostly oral. Very intnese. I was feeling excited and it felt natural to be in the arms of another man. I pleased him and did whatever he wanted. I was aroused and released all over. I am ready for the next...
    Insouciance413 Insouciance413
    41-45, M
    Mar 19, 2016

    My Wife Just Found Out I'm Gay

    I have always known I had an attraction to other men.  When I was a boy I didn't really think about it as being gay.  When I was in college and it was very strong, I just didn't think of being gay as a lifestyle option was a choice for me.  I graduated college...
    garrettaz garrettaz
    51-55, M
    12 Responses Feb 7, 2010

    Been married to her for 31 years she has

    maintained her straight orientation and i have developed and let my feminine side take charge which led me to bisexual actions and now i am gay and desire male company we agreed to share our intimate lives with each other but our desires and needs must be met so she has those...
    alexiswcd alexiswcd
    56-60, T
    Nov 1, 2015

    I am happily married to a beautiful woman

    and I am a gay man. The beautiful part of my wife is we have been together for 21 years and married for 17 of those years. We started as best friends totally open with our hearts and developed into a deep passion for each other. She is the finest and most loving person I have...
    Insouciance413 Insouciance413
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 6, 2015


    I guess that I've known I was gay since I was about 14... At the time coming out would have never been an option for me. When I was I my late teens and early 20s I had some encounters with men. I enjoyed the experiences, but still struggled with admitting my true orientation. I...
    Therealdean Therealdean
    51-55, M
    1 Response Nov 10, 2013

    Finally had my first real date with a guy.

    I waited my whole life to do this. Just coffee dinner and conversation. ... feels awesome to be the real me. can't wait for our next date. I look forward to more.... My beautiful best friend (wife) has been so supportive to me and I will always be grateful to her.
    Insouciance413 Insouciance413
    41-45, M
    Feb 27, 2016

    Married to a wonderful woman

    and we have three amazing, beautiful children together. Plan is to keep my true, gay self bottled up & hidden the rest of my life. Working so far!
    DrSnugglepuss DrSnugglepuss
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Sep 8, 2014

    Ok so I've had feelings towards guys

    since I was in Jr. High. I grew up in small town where it was, and still is, completely unacceptable. With that said, I watch many of my friends struggling with sexuality get bullied and such. I chose to ignore the desire and spent my High School years focused on giving my all...
    ejf2005 ejf2005
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 26, 2014

    my wife had another experience with her lover

    this week. he me her at work and she gave him one of the best blow jobs he has ever had. she continues to relax and just enjoy the time she spends with him. she now gets into the sexual experiences and is fully pleased. she is very happy as well as I am that we have an open...
    Insouciance413 Insouciance413
    41-45, M
    Dec 24, 2015

    I'm married to a wonderful woman.

    She cares about me, and I care about her. But I'm gay. She knows it; she's always known. She wants to make it work... I want to make it work too, but I don't know how. I'm in pain, but I fear the cost of divorce and the prospect hurting my family is too high a cost to pay. I don...
    qmaxfield qmaxfield
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 10, 2014

    I went on my second date with my man

    and I had my first gay experience and sexual contact. It felt so natural and my feelings of nervousness were gone. The best part is that I can share all of this with my best friend.... my wife. I feel awesome
    Insouciance413 Insouciance413
    41-45, M
    Mar 6, 2016

    how do you guys deal with the constant urges of

    being with men? I've been with 10 or so since being married. need to stop somehow any advice
    bmcbrow025 bmcbrow025
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    I Am Gay But Married

    Hello, Please don't judge me! I have met my current wife almost 7 years ago, i fell in love with her and we both developed intense love to each other. 2 years post the relationship, I met a guy and slept with him. I felt terrible so I stopped doing that. Then after a while I...
    rogero1 rogero1
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Nov 25, 2013
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