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I Am Married and Have Fallen In Love With Someone Else

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    Married But In Love With Another Man

    I am 32 yrs old, I have been married for 4yrs but with my husband for 8 years. Recently I have sought out another man, in which I have been friends with for over 3yrs. In my situation I have 2 children from a previous relationship and 1 child with my husband. The other man knows...
    momma03 momma03 31-35 75 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    We've never met, hell I don't

    even know if you exist. You were in my dream, beautiful, perfect. I made you laugh, we walked and talked as I tried to impress you. I remember you so vividly. Blonde hair, blue eyes the blue shirt you had on. Gorgeous smile. When I close my eyes and vision you I see that smile...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 1 Response May 9

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    I am not married, but I have fallen in love

    with a married man. When we first got together 2 years ago, he had told me that he was getting a divorce. I didn't see dating him as a problem because when I was going through a divorce of my own, I also dated other people. We saw and still continue to see each other all the...
    solost17 solost17 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    With limerence (which I have) there is a term

    called NC. It means having no contact with your limerent object (LO). I've been going NC for a few months now. But yesterday was a real ****** day for me. So I messaged her on Facebook. I was so nervous the entire time, wondering if she thought I was a weirdo. But she helped me...
    SZPDiablo SZPDiablo 31-35, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I met him a year and a half ago

    and my world changed. I am married and he is 14 years younger. There was an instant connection, literal sparks. We have been seeing each other on and off in a casual, sexual way. There is never any conflict with us, we just get along. He is a kind, gentle, fun man. In the past...
    Kristen2331 Kristen2331 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    Just talked to my H. He wants to work on our

    marriage...is he nuts? I said I don't think I can be what he wants. I can't be a good wife...not to him. I don't want to tell him I've fallen in love with someone else. It would really kill him. But I can't be his wife anymore although I'm giving up a lot! My heart feels happier...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Ugh....getting off of work soon.

    As tired as I am...I rather be at work. Home is so uncomfortable right now. Just passing by each other. No words...just stares...I get nervous and scared to walk by him wondering if he would snap. I really need to move out and move on with my life. So scared...but it has to be...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I'm not even sure how it happened. I'm sure that is how must people feel. My husband and I have been together over 10 years. Married for 7. We have 3 beautiful children all under the age of 10. My husband has never been the kind of man who shares his feelings, which if course I...
    tippytoe1973 tippytoe1973 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I have been married for four years,

    we have been together for 6. We initially met when I was separated from my ex-husband, which was a very abusive unhealthy marriage. When my ex moved out my current husband and I had made it official we were an item. We never really did much together, he promised me the...
    Notintomyelf Notintomyelf 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    I've been married for 39 years to a girl I met

    in high school. We married because she was going to have a baby...I dd the responsible thing at the time. We lost the baby at 6 months. A year or two after, our marriage fell apart, we separated and I found my first high school sweetheart and we started dating some. She was my...
    linkbelt6335 linkbelt6335 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 5

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    Tangled

    I haven't written anything here for quite awhile. I thought things were starting to untangle and become easier to deal with....but I was so so wrong! Things are still complicated... Maybe even more so than they were before. Nothing really has changed. My feelings are the same...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I love my husband he works his *** off.

    I try to do what I can to help. I'm back in school to make a new career. I have been in situations where I have falling in love also with someone else. why can't I just have two men in my life. oh my hubby also has ED.... frustrating.
    kavett kavett 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Met another beautiful loving married woman fell

    in love with her had an emotional affair. Now I cannot stop thinking about her. I know she will never cheat. I know waste of my time. But knowing there was true Chemistry is killing me. Yes must move on. She is stilly friend and is very strong but shows her sadness...
    midlifeknot midlifeknot 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 15

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    Lost And Confused

    Here is my story. I am 45 years old, married 15 years with two amazing, brilliant, beautiful children. I own my own business and am a successful and well-known individual in my field. My wife is a very sweet person, incredibly smart. Every one loves her. She is the confidante...
    mo250466 mo250466 41-45 67 Responses May 7, 2011

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    Yep. I have experienced what love

    and respect actually look like. Then I ran. And hurt this person in the process! I hate myself for it. But I'm married. Till death do us part?
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 26

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    I am sitting here alone with my thoughts wishing

    that my someone would interrupt them with an unexpected good night message. It has been exactly one year since I got involved with my best friend. We started texting and sharing our thoughts and feelings. And I soon found myself falling in love, head over heels for this man...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    If You Can't Get Someone Out Of Your Head, Maybe They Are Suppose To Be There?

    My first post....I apologize in advance this may turn out long :/ I have been with my husband (J) for 11 years married for 6 we have 3 children together. I have know the one that truly holds my heart (C) since we were practically in diapers. We lived houses down from each other...
    CrazySweetCakes CrazySweetCakes 31-35 6 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    I would say I'm in love with TWO men other

    than my husband. Doesn't THAT make life interesting!
    SaundraMae SaundraMae 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 1

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    I hoped to hide my affair from my H.

    Didn't want him to think that my wanting to leave him had anything to do with the affair. But my H found out somehow and he's hurting bad. I wish he had let me go when I asked him. Maybe I never should have asked him...should have left...but seeing him hurt so much breaks my...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    I want to believe that everything is going to

    work out for the best. But, how can the best be without him? We connected on so many levels. I believe he knows me and understands me like no one else, yet we cannot truly be together. Tonight I'm angry....I'm tired of his excuses. I'm mad at myself as well....why can't I...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Well, I'm in love with the groom

    but I'm not the bride. How do I forget you!? Your wedding was really nice, goodness gracious this is messed up.
    VictoriasSecrets24 VictoriasSecrets24 22-25, F Jun 20

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    I didn't know I could

    so easily be moved to fall in love with her. It wasn't planned. I simply was looking for a lonely soul on EP who lived in the same state, was from the same generation, had similar interests and experiences. But it's happened.... I'm not afraid of falling in love, she's right...
    Lovethatgal4415 Lovethatgal4415 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    Many young women today are a bit tired of the

    usual relationships that they have with men of their age. This is why it is no surprise nowadays that we see a lot of Younger Women Looking for Older Men . Are you a man looking for a younger woman, or a woman seeking an older man? Everyone has their preferences in relationships...
    celinecc11 celinecc11 26-30, F Feb 2

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    I don't know how I feel anymore.

    My life has gotten too complicated to even handle sometimes.
    LM96753 LM96753 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    I fall in love anew every day with you your

    words and who you are are amazing I never thought I would ever love another but you made your way into my heart and just in time you saved me from a life of loneliness. I love you so much how do I ever let you know
    Meltingicequeen Meltingicequeen 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 4

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    But I'm polyamorous,

    so it's ok. ;)
    Zabet Zabet 31-35, T Feb 1

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    elincc11 elincc11 26-30, F Jun 1

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    I happen to love two men.

    Is that a crime? It's not like I have to act on it, right? Why do I feel so guilty at times? Is it wrong to be friends with someone? This is my dilemma.
    SaundraMae SaundraMae 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2014

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    Yes, I am married, with children,

    and have fallen in love with someone on the side. My new male lover makes me feel so wonderful and loved when we are together. We have so much in common and have a great time in and out of bed.
    maryannelamb maryannelamb 51-55, F 12 Responses Mar 31

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    Not Your Typical "married, In Love With Someone Else" Story

    First off, I am not unhappy in my marriage. Of course like any marriage, there have been ups and downs. It's work, it takes commitment and the ability to compromise. I've been together with my husband for 16 years. Married 13. We have a terrific 12 year old son together, as well...
    cakebatterbetty cakebatterbetty 41-45 4 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    What A Year A Difference Can Make

    The recap: I started growing in attachment to a very good friend who backed away when we were getting too close. This happened in June 2012. When she stopped texting & calling as often, I went cold myself. I was deeply hurt. It was like my losing a loved one. But she was...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 9 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    Many young women today are a bit tired of the

    usual relationships that they have with men of their age. This is why it is no surprise nowadays that we see a lot of Younger WomenOlder Men Dating . Are you a man looking for a younger woman, or a woman seeking an older man? Everyone has their preferences in relationships...
    celinecc11 celinecc11 26-30, F Feb 2

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    Dreaming About You...

    Every night, when I go to sleep, I think about you. I think about how it'd feel to be in your arms; comforted by you. I try to think what you'd whisper in my ears as I drift into sleep. May be something funny. Like you always do. May be you'll want to do something. But don't...
    PolkaDotGirl PolkaDotGirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Now, my husband and I,

    we have lost a lot of our passion during the years, and I have had a crush with someone I shouldn't have for over 15 years, and that crush has blossomed into strong love.. Thanks to some very helpful advice from a fellow EPr, I finally had the courage to start a secret, intimate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 19

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    I was sitting in the park today during my lunch

    break trying to unwind from my daily grind. While getting into my thoughts, the only thing I can think of is her. I can only think I wish I was with her instead of my wife. I think about her everyday. I can't get over her, even if I wanted to. I've been told I have limerence...
    SZPDiablo SZPDiablo 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 12

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    True story. It's the original reason I came to

    EP... I think I fell in love with the best guy I possibly could have. I am so lucky! This guy is respectful, non-judgmental, easy-going, fun, a thinker, a great conversationalist, understanding, and just an all-around good guy. I think most guys would have steered clear - either...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 6

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    Wishing I Could Take All The Hurt For Both Of Them

    My husband is a wonderful guy, who doesn't deserve to be hurt. I love him, and we have a stable life together. I've fallen in love with my best guy friend. He knows how I feel, and he feels the same way, and we don't act on it because he values fidelity and the importance of...
    rosalind2288 rosalind2288 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11 26-30, F Aug 13

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    I Wish You Were Strong Enough

    So you said good bye in an email. You've said you are afraid that I love you too much, that I want a relationship you can't give. You've said you never meant to hurt me, yet here we are. Because of life pains I have walked with you through, you want to hide. I knew it would...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    Thinking about you tonight.

    Wish we could talk, just because. I miss you. I love you. You're gorgeous. You make me smile. You're my favorite person in the world. You light up my life. *sigh* I wish I could tell you those things. I wish you could just know them. Hope you're doing well, baby. Have a good...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae 26-30, F Sep 4, 2014

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    Married 13 years to a wonderful man.

    Everyone loves him...except for me. I love him per se, but not in love with him . Met someone almost a year ago I've tried to deny feelings for. 14 years my junior. He makes me feel like I have never before. It's tearing me apart!
    Lustingforad Lustingforad 46-50, F 4 Responses May 31

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    I have fallen in love with my husband's best

    friend and I keep dreaming of him frequently. I click with him better than my husband and is very attentive towards me. My husband is always distracted. I seem to like older mature man too and my husband's friend is 10 years older and so much more sophisticated in his ways. I...
    lpch lpch 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    I am married to a man

    who loves his job first and foremost. I met this guy I worked with briefly, and don't know if I really fell in love, but definitely developed a crush on him, and thought, because he was kinda flirty and shared a lot of personal information that I probably would not have shared...
    andiebr andiebr 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    so I am married 4 years this coming Thursday

    and almost 9 years together. at first there was a connection so strong we j couldn't keep our hands off each other. he moved in day number 2. always together. But he doesn't respect me. he lets people who are not family and family members as well be mean to me I'm so depressed...
    LoveMeTender220 LoveMeTender220 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    It has been 7 months

    since my separation from my husband. I've moved on but he doesn't know that I moved on with another man. My husband wants to start over but I don't. We text daily and we see each other once a week. But for me..I do it out of pity. I do it because of my guilt. I want an easy...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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