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I Am Married and Have Fallen In Love With Someone Else

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I'm not even sure how it happened. I'm sure that is how must people feel. My husband and I have been together over 10 years. Married for 7. We have 3 beautiful children all under the age of 10. My husband has never been the kind of man who shares his feelings, which if course I...
    tippytoe1973 tippytoe1973 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    I've been married 14 yrs

    but i've been with my husband for about 18 and we have 3 children. My marriage has been rocky since the begining, I married him when i was super young. Although i've been with him for so long and he is a great guy, i've stayed in this marriage for the kids and for him not...
    Chicadelcaribe Chicadelcaribe 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    I accidentally posted this

    as a reply to someone else's post yesterday, so sorry or the duplicate story:) I had (have) been interested in another man for about 20 months. We flirted, texted, messaged and spent time together. About 5 months in, my husband thought I was cheating on him and said we were...
    Friendleigh Friendleigh 36-40 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Married But In Love With Another Man

    I am 32 yrs old, I have been married for 4yrs but with my husband for 8 years. Recently I have sought out another man, in which I have been friends with for over 3yrs. In my situation I have 2 children from a previous relationship and 1 child with my husband. The other man knows...
    momma03 momma03 31-35 59 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    after living with my wife

    for 4 years i have left Europe and took a job in Africa. the pay is good and the prospects of a great future are very good. so the plan was for me to create all te necessary conditions so that my wife and son would join me... but 3 months in Africa i fell in love with the most...
    lostjesus lostjesus 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 24

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    I'm 28 years old and have been married

    for 4 and a half years. We have been separated for 5 months. Shortly after we separated, I sought out this man whom I've been secretly "very into" for 8 years. We started dating and now we really care for each other. More than either of us expected. My husband wants to try to...
    maliegh maliegh 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Wife and I like going to Vegas

    where all is fair game Looking to duplicate the same wild experience in LA area
    laservices laservices 56-60, M Feb 27

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    I Had to Meet This Beautiful Person

    Over a year ago,a pop-up on the screen, this beautiful women was on it.I just had to find a way to contact her and tell her how lovely she was. Now, I am hopelessly in love with a woman 21 years my younger. This is going to be a long story. ....to be continued...... I first...
    Falconheart Falconheart 51-55, M 5 Responses Nov 9, 2007

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    Well...slight confirmation

    that he isn't into me anymore. He's looking for someone new. I'm crying...I knew that when we end I would be the one in tears. I don't know if I should confront him with this info or if I should just disappear without saying anything and leave him guessing, or if I should just...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    I Wish You Were Strong Enough

    So you said good bye in an email. You've said you are afraid that I love you too much, that I want a relationship you can't give. You've said you never meant to hurt me, yet here we are. Because of life pains I have walked with you through, you want to hide. I knew it would...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    I am getting better. My eyes are slowly peeling

    itself open and I'm beginning to see that although I have strong feelings for another man, those feelings will not be returned. I wished and hoped that he would care for me as much as I do for him but I cannot force him to feel something he does not. We had endless...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I am married with two children (happy)

    and she is married (Not very happy) with one new child (Think she had the child to try and save the marriage sadly). We had a short thing together about a year ago only flirting and phone sex nothing physical. We stopped talking after her guilt led her to putting a stop to it...
    ohindeed ohindeed 26-30, M 5 Responses Jan 31

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    Limbo Love

    So here we are, dancing in our predictable cycle. You're attracted to me, and I'm attracted to you. I married to a wonderful lady, and you're married to horny unfaithful teenager in men's clothes. Right now you don't talk to me as much because he's treating you well; he...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    Years Lost.....

    Hi, I am 41 years old and have been married for most of my life 24years this year. I have tried my best in keeping this marriage alive, full of passion and fun but GOD knows the man i am married to is as dead or cold as can be. I am dying inside, frankly i think i am already dead...
    avrill avrill 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 6, 2012

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    married 11 years together 15,

    2 beautiful kids 9 and 5. met Polish woman at work around 2 years ago, she is divorced 5 years, 2 kids 20 and 9. i knew she was special, i felt something the first time she looked in my eyes - i've never felt that before. flirting followed then messaging, progessively becoming...
    headiswrecked headiswrecked 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 7

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    I seem to like this guy

    for quit some time now and its getting on my nerves that he haven't asked me out its been about 5 months were in high school and this is our senior year. I feel as though if I do fall in love with him he might break my heart dough he's not very open and keeps his feelings to him...
    123unhappyrefrian 123unhappyrefrian 18-21, F Jan 29

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    The first time i saw "D" he was a replacement

    for someone who delivers our parts at work. Everyone thought he was weird, but i enjoyed him from day one. he was a welcome change from my jaded, grouchy co workers. over the course of weeks i started to really notice him. He got a new haircut in a style i like, wore a shirt...
    beth6382 beth6382 26-30 1 Response Mar 14

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    Screw me!!!!!! This is a battle from hell!

    Somehow I allowed myself to be sucked in by his charm again! This game isn't for me. I can't think or act like a man. I have likely reached a point of no return, having fallen in love with another married, emotionally unavailable man! Last week I met with my MM. Being with...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 28

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    He says I'm always wrong about him.

    ..that he cares...that he wants to see me...well prove it! Go ahead...I'll wait Mr. MM! I dare you not to cancel or act as though I'm the reason we aren't together right now.
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Which Road Do I Choose?

    So where do I start...we are all here for one reason I guess so here's my story. I've been with my wife for 10 years and married for 5. My wife and I get along fine but we are more like roommates than lovers. Actually, it has always felt like that as if we were buddies. The...
    wasistdas wasistdas 31-35 6 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    I am sitting here alone with my thoughts wishing

    that my someone would interrupt them with an unexpected good night message. It has been exactly one year since I got involved with my best friend. We started texting and sharing our thoughts and feelings. And I soon found myself falling in love, head over heels for this man...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    Tired

    Today I am just plain and simple tired. Tired of crying, tired of feeling lost, tired of wanting to do the right thing, tired of smiling when my heart is breaking. I need to take a step towards making some sort of decision. I've been stuck in one spot for months, and I need to...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 8 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Lost And Confused

    Here is my story. I am 45 years old, married 15 years with two amazing, brilliant, beautiful children. I own my own business and am a successful and well-known individual in my field. My wife is a very sweet person, incredibly smart. Every one loves her. She is the confidante...
    mo250466 mo250466 41-45 64 Responses May 7, 2011

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    Life is so funny...it's amazing how blinded by

    love a person can be. If you've seen my previous postings, it's all about my feelings for my married man. Now...I've gotten a lot better. I still talk to him, but my heart isn't in it as much, I know I don't love him anymore. He has broken my heart too much over the last year...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    ok so im not the married one im the other guy.

    ... i see all these comments about how ppl dont want to hurt people and they are affraid to come clean..... here is my situation... im 30 now.. i met my girlfriend/soulmate almost 3 years ago now... she had a boyfriend of 10 years at the time... she said she isnt gonna marry him...
    hanlan519 hanlan519 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 7

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    Hello!, i can relate to everyone here.

    I have the same situation but i think my situation is more light and can fix as soon id control my feeling for this guy. I'am married for 3 yr, + been together for 3 yrs also. When my husband and I not yet married, we were really inlove. So make the story jump! When i give birth...
    Bestzy Bestzy 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Fell In Love With My Lover of One Year

    hi I'am a 3o yr old women married for almost two years. I've been with him for 9 yrs now we have a 1 and a half yr old daughter together. I meet my lover at work we started talking and we had so much in common. We both recently realized we are in love with each other i dont...
    sbailey sbailey 26-30 7 Responses Jul 20, 2009

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    We sit next to each other everyday at work.

    It could be the loneliness of being in a hollow marriage but I can not stop thinking about this coworker. She is beautiful, elegant, creative and similar in spirit to me in so many ways. I want touch her everyday and it's just painful not to express the way I feel towards her. I...
    Blindfoldeddance Blindfoldeddance 41-45, M Apr 9

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    Peace

    A lot has happened since I last posted anything here. I have been on an emotional roller coaster the last few days. Tonight I feel like I have found a sliver of peace....at least for now. We finally had some time together to talk about everything! It felt good to get...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Married Still In Love With My Ex-Bf

    ive been married for 3 years but im still in love with my ex bf. i cant stop thinking of him since He sent message to me in facebook page. He find me in facebook and He sent friend request to me. and i accepted him there. After that we chatted everyday and we were talking about...
    guessvirgin guessvirgin 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2013

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    I Need To Stop This Madness.

    OK, here goes... I've been married 5 years and my marriage is on the rocks. It's pretty much a sex-free zone (at my wife's doing) and it's been on the decline for some time. I've finally got to the point where I know we need to fix it or end it. We are going to start counselling...
    MikeSaint MikeSaint 31-35, M 8 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    Tangled

    I haven't written anything here for quite awhile. I thought things were starting to untangle and become easier to deal with....but I was so so wrong! Things are still complicated... Maybe even more so than they were before. Nothing really has changed. My feelings are the same...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Girl meets boy, and both fall madly in-love.

    Sounds like a love story, feels like a love story. Yet, we both are married to someone else! And the plot thickens. He married his college girlfriend and 25 years later they have two kids both in college. I married 10 years ago and have three kids all younger. We...
    Wisdom4amistriss Wisdom4amistriss 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    I typed other stories before

    and deleted them as I keep trying to start fresh, to no avail. I sit here crying. I cry out of so much frustration; with God and myself. I don’t understand why God thought that this was the proper path for me. Why would he make me love a man that is so impossible to be...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Dreaming About You...

    Every night, when I go to sleep, I think about you. I think about how it'd feel to be in your arms; comforted by you. I try to think what you'd whisper in my ears as I drift into sleep. May be something funny. Like you always do. May be you'll want to do something. But don't...
    PolkaDotGirl PolkaDotGirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    smutly smutly 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 9

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    I am married for 7 years with one lovely

    daughter. From day 1, I knew I can never give him the love that I had for my ex boyfriend whom I left because I thought he has someone. My husband pursued me and my family so I was left with no choice but to just marry him. He is very competitive, intelligent and ideal except...
    icanneverhaveu icanneverhaveu 26-30 Mar 27

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    I seem to like this guy

    for quit some time now and its getting on my nerves that he haven't asked me out its been about 5 months were in high school and this is our senior year. I feel as though if I do fall in love with him he might break my heart dough he's not very open and keeps his feelings to him...
    123unhappyrefrian 123unhappyrefrian 18-21, F Jan 29

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    Lost

    Tired of the deceit, dishonesty, secrets and all the other crap that comes with this exquisite, addictive and passionate relationship..I'm lost and can't find my way home.
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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    I am married and very much into someone else.

    .. but he is in another state... I have always had feeling for him and him me, longer than my husband and I have been together. We have been married 8 years and together 12. But I have always had that what if in the back of my mind and lately, the last 2-3 years. We talk and text...
    mekelb mekelb 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 25

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    I am married since 1999

    and together with her since 1991. Last year I was strucked by lightning and fell deeply in love with a beautiful, charming, sexy, attractive lady with a beatiful mind from Indo (myself from Norway). Even if we only been together for a short while it feels just right :) Long...
    WhiteRabbit1972 WhiteRabbit1972 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 19

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    Yes. It really can happen.

    My marriage has been over for quite some time in my heart but separation/ divorce has been slow as we feel for the kids and are cautious of changing things. It's all slooooowly happening though and I think we are both just preparing on every level for what is to come. A few...
    lotusblossoms lotusblossoms 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    If You Can't Get Someone Out Of Your Head, Maybe They Are Suppose To Be There?

    My first post....I apologize in advance this may turn out long :/ I have been with my husband (J) for 11 years married for 6 we have 3 children together. I have know the one that truly holds my heart (C) since we were practically in diapers. We lived houses down from each other...
    CrazySweetCakes CrazySweetCakes 26-30 4 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    I tried to push the envelope

    and crashed and burned. And then I realized something, I am not communicating clearly what is going on in my head and heart. Whereas I thought I had expressed what I felt, I obviously did not. In fact, I’m pretty sure I confused the hell out of him. I’m not sure if it...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    Wishing I Could Take All The Hurt For Both Of Them

    My husband is a wonderful guy, who doesn't deserve to be hurt. I love him, and we have a stable life together. I've fallen in love with my best guy friend. He knows how I feel, and he feels the same way, and we don't act on it because he values fidelity and the importance of...
    rosalind2288 rosalind2288 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    I am frustrated that I have to write this.

    I feel that if I do not get these words down on something that they will burst out at the wrong time. I am thankful for the anonymity, because I can trust nobody with this secret that must be heard. I've only been married for two and a half years. We were both pretty young...
    ShootTheButterfly ShootTheButterfly 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 17

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    I've read that it's just infatuation.

    I certainly feel that it is not. I know he's not perfect - hell neither am I. I love him just the way he is. I loved him at his darkest moments. I let him lean. He is my best friend. He is everything I want in a man. I'd gladly step in harms way for him. He stepped away. He said...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 15

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    I've been with my husband

    for 8 years, we've been married for 3. We were high school sweethearts. He's a great guy, but not the most attentive... We don't share many interests or hobbies, but we agree on "the big stuff" like religion, parenting, morals etc. We have a mutual friend who is over most of...
    oddbluebird oddbluebird 22-25, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    What A Year A Difference Can Make

    The recap: I started growing in attachment to a very good friend who backed away when we were getting too close. This happened in June 2012. When she stopped texting & calling as often, I went cold myself. I was deeply hurt. It was like my losing a loved one. But she was...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 7 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    Married And In Love With Someone Else :(

    I have been married 6 years and from the start we were missing that spark. I tried to break it off several times, but he insisted it would work out. I never wanted to hurt him and thought well he is a good person and maybe in time the love will grow. Well I love him like a...
    kimjones9999 kimjones9999 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    I didn't realize it until last night I think I am in love with someone else. My mind often drifts to this person, and it's so wrong and would NEVER work ever. I have two kids a...
    funsnowgal funsnowgal 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I'm in love with my best friend. She's into someone else. Everyone says we're going to date eventually but I'm just not sure she wants to. She's not a lesbian and neither am I. I...
    Runnergirl4000 Runnergirl4000 26-30, F Mar 25

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    It's just heartbreaking how can we lose ourself by being in love with someone else, especially if they don't want us and don't love us anymore;-(
    Nikita2103 Nikita2103 31-35, F Mar 31

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    Part 4: sorting out feelings After my EP guy left my hometown, I knew that since we had an affair things were now real. Now he was a part of my life, I just needed to sort out...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I think it is junk!!! If he isnt fallen out of love he sure has a funky way of showing it these days. I think it's unfair that I still allow sparks to fly when he wants them to and...
    IUsed2BJustAWendy IUsed2BJustAWendy 31-35, F Mar 31

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    I am in love with someone who doesn't know me. Even though he is not appear in front of me everyday but he aura always with me.. I am clueless if he is notice about my existing.
    tzyt tzyt 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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