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I Am Married and Have Fallen In Love With Someone Else

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    I have been married for over 5 years now.

    I love my husband but I have not felt in love with him for a very long time, I don't even know if I was ever really in love with him or just the idea of marriage and having someone to be with. I met the married guy I'm seeing at work, and my husband works with me too. We had...
    deeultimate26 deeultimate26 26-30, F 1 Response May 27

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    Yes. It really can happen.

    My marriage has been over for quite some time in my heart but separation/ divorce has been slow as we feel for the kids and are cautious of changing things. It's all slooooowly happening though and I think we are both just preparing on every level for what is to come. A few...
    lotusblossoms lotusblossoms 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    Years Lost.....

    Hi, I am 41 years old and have been married for most of my life 24years this year. I have tried my best in keeping this marriage alive, full of passion and fun but GOD knows the man i am married to is as dead or cold as can be. I am dying inside, frankly i think i am already dead...
    avrill avrill 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 6, 2012

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    If You Can't Get Someone Out Of Your Head, Maybe They Are Suppose To Be There?

    My first post....I apologize in advance this may turn out long :/ I have been with my husband (J) for 11 years married for 6 we have 3 children together. I have know the one that truly holds my heart (C) since we were practically in diapers. We lived houses down from each other...
    CrazySweetCakes CrazySweetCakes 26-30 3 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    For almost two years I have been in love with

    someone else. The first part of my story is at: EP Link That was in Sept 2012, I also posted an update to that part of the story in June 2013. Sorry this is so long... July 2013 was an emotional month. One evening I was out with some friends and come the end of the night no one...
    browneyedgirl1234 browneyedgirl1234 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 21

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    smutly smutly 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 9

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    Limbo Love

    So here we are, dancing in our predictable cycle. You're attracted to me, and I'm attracted to you. I married to a wonderful lady, and you're married to horny unfaithful teenager in men's clothes. Right now you don't talk to me as much because he's treating you well; he...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    Well this guy... Is married

    and has two children with a wife and everything. His kids are 8 and 2 and he says him and his wife have agreed to divorce in two years when his youngest is around 5 or 4 so he can understand better i guess. He keeps telling me how he doesnt feel anything for his wife anymore and...
    miracle98 miracle98 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    Have fallen in love with a woman.

    Unfortunately it is not my wife. I came home again trying to restore my love for her. She just blew me off again. I try, but the constant rejection makes me want to tell this other lady how I feel.
    buckaroo126 buckaroo126 36-40, M Feb 25

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    We’re slipping again.

    I’m guessing my drunken text about us not being friends because he is BFFing with H hit a nerve. He seems to have cooled it with him and now S is using his charms to lure me in again. The weather is finally transitioning so we get more semi- alone time when picking up the...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 1 Response May 2

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    Wife and I like going to Vegas

    where all is fair game Looking to duplicate the same wild experience in LA area
    laservices laservices 56-60, M Feb 27

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    Married But In Love With Another Man

    I am 32 yrs old, I have been married for 4yrs but with my husband for 8 years. Recently I have sought out another man, in which I have been friends with for over 3yrs. In my situation I have 2 children from a previous relationship and 1 child with my husband. The other man knows...
    momma03 momma03 31-35 65 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    Fell In Love With My Lover of One Year

    hi I'am a 3o yr old women married for almost two years. I've been with him for 9 yrs now we have a 1 and a half yr old daughter together. I meet my lover at work we started talking and we had so much in common. We both recently realized we are in love with each other i dont...
    sbailey sbailey 26-30 7 Responses Jul 20, 2009

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    I’m in my own personal hell.

    While S and I have managed to maintain a somewhat dignified plutonic relationship, my feelings for him remain unchanged. When we’re apart I ache for him. When we’re together I hurt because I can’t really be with him. The kids have started baseball again and S is a...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    I have been married fro 2 1/2 years now.

    I was in love with my husband before marrying him. When we got married everything changed. I dont feel an emotional connection with him anymore, i am not attracted to him anymore and i dont seam to take in any emotions he shows... For me i feel dead... Sex is just sex, not...
    anonymousandlost anonymousandlost 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 14

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    I tried to push the envelope

    and crashed and burned. And then I realized something, I am not communicating clearly what is going on in my head and heart. Whereas I thought I had expressed what I felt, I obviously did not. In fact, I’m pretty sure I confused the hell out of him. I’m not sure if it...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I am married and very much into someone else.

    .. but he is in another state... I have always had feeling for him and him me, longer than my husband and I have been together. We have been married 8 years and together 12. But I have always had that what if in the back of my mind and lately, the last 2-3 years. We talk and text...
    mekelb mekelb 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 25

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    Dreaming About You...

    Every night, when I go to sleep, I think about you. I think about how it'd feel to be in your arms; comforted by you. I try to think what you'd whisper in my ears as I drift into sleep. May be something funny. Like you always do. May be you'll want to do something. But don't...
    PolkaDotGirl PolkaDotGirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Tired

    Today I am just plain and simple tired. Tired of crying, tired of feeling lost, tired of wanting to do the right thing, tired of smiling when my heart is breaking. I need to take a step towards making some sort of decision. I've been stuck in one spot for months, and I need to...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 8 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Today I became neurotic.

    ..repeated myself 100 ways and forced my MM who actually had no plans in leaving me, to think about actually leaving me. He didn't want to break up with me and I forced him because I've fallen for him and found other ways to tell him I love him without saying it and now I sound...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F Jul 7

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    We can’t seem to go a single weekend without

    our families getting together. None of which are initiated by me. I’m trying so hard to learn to live like this- to force it. I’m trying to appreciate having good friends, how much I adore S’s kids, and enjoying the fun we have together. Our kids love each other and...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 3 Responses May 29

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    Tangled

    I haven't written anything here for quite awhile. I thought things were starting to untangle and become easier to deal with....but I was so so wrong! Things are still complicated... Maybe even more so than they were before. Nothing really has changed. My feelings are the same...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I've been silent this past week on EP

    because I experienced a bad car crash. I've been forced to take care of my family. But the car crash did teach me that we are not guaranteed another day. For those who know my story, you know I've been in love with someone for over a decade. At this point I want to confess to...
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I typed other stories before

    and deleted them as I keep trying to start fresh, to no avail. I sit here crying. I cry out of so much frustration; with God and myself. I don’t understand why God thought that this was the proper path for me. Why would he make me love a man that is so impossible to be...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    I am sitting here alone with my thoughts wishing

    that my someone would interrupt them with an unexpected good night message. It has been exactly one year since I got involved with my best friend. We started texting and sharing our thoughts and feelings. And I soon found myself falling in love, head over heels for this man...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    Every woman should read the book "He's just not

    that into you"...of course it's not written for married people having affairs, but the basic rule still applies! I've been a fool especially the last 6 months. I started to chase him! Worse thing I did! He lost interest...the thrill of the chase. I don't know if I can get this...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    We sit next to each other everyday at work.

    It could be the loneliness of being in a hollow marriage but I can not stop thinking about this coworker. She is beautiful, elegant, creative and similar in spirit to me in so many ways. I want touch her everyday and it's just painful not to express the way I feel towards her. I...
    Blindfoldeddance Blindfoldeddance 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    This is not infatuation,

    I've been infatuated before and this is completely different...I've been married 3 and 1/2 years and I love my husband though we have a rocky marriage...embarrassingly rocky for the amount of time we've been married, I don't every want a divorce even if things get worst, I want...
    galaxyrea galaxyrea 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Girl meets boy, and both fall madly in-love.

    Sounds like a love story, feels like a love story. Yet, we both are married to someone else! And the plot thickens. He married his college girlfriend and 25 years later they have two kids both in college. I married 10 years ago and have three kids all younger. We...
    Wisdom4amistriss Wisdom4amistriss 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 6

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    I am married for 7 years with one lovely

    daughter. From day 1, I knew I can never give him the love that I had for my ex boyfriend whom I left because I thought he has someone. My husband pursued me and my family so I was left with no choice but to just marry him. He is very competitive, intelligent and ideal except...
    icanneverhaveu icanneverhaveu 26-30 Mar 27

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    I Need To Stop This Madness.

    OK, here goes... I've been married 5 years and my marriage is on the rocks. It's pretty much a sex-free zone (at my wife's doing) and it's been on the decline for some time. I've finally got to the point where I know we need to fix it or end it. We are going to start counselling...
    MikeSaint MikeSaint 31-35, M 8 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    How do I end it with my MM?

    He's been a jerk lately. I've forgiven him many times. Last week I forgave him for his online searches...he actually has kept his promise but he also could have created a new account that I don't know about. It's been 5 days that I haven't heard from him. The longest stretch...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 6

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    I Wish You Were Strong Enough

    So you said good bye in an email. You've said you are afraid that I love you too much, that I want a relationship you can't give. You've said you never meant to hurt me, yet here we are. Because of life pains I have walked with you through, you want to hide. I knew it would...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    ok so im not the married one im the other guy.

    ... i see all these comments about how ppl dont want to hurt people and they are affraid to come clean..... here is my situation... im 30 now.. i met my girlfriend/soulmate almost 3 years ago now... she had a boyfriend of 10 years at the time... she said she isnt gonna marry him...
    hanlan519 hanlan519 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 7

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    I have been with my husband

    for seven years and married for one. We started dating when I was 17 and it was bliss for the longest time. My husbands step brother has been living with us since January and the longer that he stays, the more I want him. He has all the traits that I long for in my husband and...
    kbaby66 kbaby66 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Wishing I Could Take All The Hurt For Both Of Them

    My husband is a wonderful guy, who doesn't deserve to be hurt. I love him, and we have a stable life together. I've fallen in love with my best guy friend. He knows how I feel, and he feels the same way, and we don't act on it because he values fidelity and the importance of...
    rosalind2288 rosalind2288 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    I don't even know where to begin.

    I'm not even sure how it happened. I'm sure that is how must people feel. My husband and I have been together over 10 years. Married for 7. We have 3 beautiful children all under the age of 10. My husband has never been the kind of man who shares his feelings, which if course I...
    tippytoe1973 tippytoe1973 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    I am married, seven years next month

    and have always found it easier to make friends with the opposite sex. I found someone who felt down and we ended up picking each other up. She doesn't know I am married but we have fallen for each other. I really need someone to talk to for advice. I still love my wife and cant...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Married With 2 Kids But In Love With Someone Else

    Im married with two kids, but im in love with someone else. She is also married but she is getting a divorce. My wife found out that we have been talking, trying to do the right thing for my kids, i told my wife i would stop talking to her. The problem is i can't stop thinking...
    fos8 fos8 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    The first time i saw "D" he was a replacement

    for someone who delivers our parts at work. Everyone thought he was weird, but i enjoyed him from day one. he was a welcome change from my jaded, grouchy co workers. over the course of weeks i started to really notice him. He got a new haircut in a style i like, wore a shirt...
    beth6382 beth6382 26-30 1 Response Mar 14

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    I’m really starting to lose it this week

    and it’s only Tuesday. I got in a big fight with H because he decided to do something stupid that affects our whole family but doesn’t benefit anyone. I told him I was done, he told me it wasn’t an option. Then he came in a little while later spouting the same BS I hear...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 31-35, F May 6

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    I've been with my husband

    for 8 years, we've been married for 3. We were high school sweethearts. He's a great guy, but not the most attentive... We don't share many interests or hobbies, but we agree on "the big stuff" like religion, parenting, morals etc. We have a mutual friend who is over most of...
    oddbluebird oddbluebird 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    Married And In Love With Someone Else :(

    I have been married 6 years and from the start we were missing that spark. I tried to break it off several times, but he insisted it would work out. I never wanted to hurt him and thought well he is a good person and maybe in time the love will grow. Well I love him like a...
    kimjones9999 kimjones9999 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    I accidentally posted this

    as a reply to someone else's post yesterday, so sorry or the duplicate story:) I had (have) been interested in another man for about 20 months. We flirted, texted, messaged and spent time together. About 5 months in, my husband thought I was cheating on him and said we were...
    Friendleigh Friendleigh 36-40 1 Response Mar 5

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    Married Still In Love With My Ex-Bf

    ive been married for 3 years but im still in love with my ex bf. i cant stop thinking of him since He sent message to me in facebook page. He find me in facebook and He sent friend request to me. and i accepted him there. After that we chatted everyday and we were talking about...
    guessvirgin guessvirgin 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    I've read that it's just infatuation.

    I certainly feel that it is not. I know he's not perfect - hell neither am I. I love him just the way he is. I loved him at his darkest moments. I let him lean. He is my best friend. He is everything I want in a man. I'd gladly step in harms way for him. He stepped away. He said...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 15

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    Peace

    A lot has happened since I last posted anything here. I have been on an emotional roller coaster the last few days. Tonight I feel like I have found a sliver of peace....at least for now. We finally had some time together to talk about everything! It felt good to get...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    What A Year A Difference Can Make

    The recap: I started growing in attachment to a very good friend who backed away when we were getting too close. This happened in June 2012. When she stopped texting & calling as often, I went cold myself. I was deeply hurt. It was like my losing a loved one. But she was...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 7 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    Lost And Confused

    Here is my story. I am 45 years old, married 15 years with two amazing, brilliant, beautiful children. I own my own business and am a successful and well-known individual in my field. My wife is a very sweet person, incredibly smart. Every one loves her. She is the confidante...
    mo250466 mo250466 41-45 67 Responses May 7, 2011

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    I am frustrated that I have to write this.

    I feel that if I do not get these words down on something that they will burst out at the wrong time. I am thankful for the anonymity, because I can trust nobody with this secret that must be heard. I've only been married for two and a half years. We were both pretty young...
    ShootTheButterfly ShootTheButterfly 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 17

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    Lost

    Tired of the deceit, dishonesty, secrets and all the other crap that comes with this exquisite, addictive and passionate relationship..I'm lost and can't find my way home.
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 3 Responses Apr 3, 2013

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