I Am Married and Have Fallen In Love With Someone Else

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    Married 13 years to a wonderful man.

    Everyone loves him...except for me. I love him per se, but not in love with him . Met someone almost a year ago I've tried to deny feelings for. 14 years my junior. He makes me feel like I have never before. It's tearing me apart!
    Lustingforad Lustingforad
    46-50, F
    3 Responses May 31, 2015

    I am not married, but I have fallen in love

    with a married man. When we first got together 2 years ago, he had told me that he was getting a divorce. I didn't see dating him as a problem because when I was going through a divorce of my own, I also dated other people. We saw and still continue to see each other all the...
    solost17 solost17
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2015

    Wishing I Could Take All The Hurt For Both Of Them

    My husband is a wonderful guy, who doesn't deserve to be hurt. I love him, and we have a stable life together. I've fallen in love with my best guy friend. He knows how I feel, and he feels the same way, and we don't act on it because he values fidelity and the importance of...
    rosalind2288 rosalind2288
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

    our relationship has been on

    and off for nearly 4 years. we had a year and a half off and again we're back on, It's emotional not physical. kinda weird because the emotions are worse than anything else IMO. If timing wasn't so bad on both sides all the time we could probably be together, but there is always...
    jackflash3300 jackflash3300
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Sep 21, 2015

    Lost And Confused

    Here is my story. I am 45 years old, married 15 years with two amazing, brilliant, beautiful children. I own my own business and am a successful and well-known individual in my field. My wife is a very sweet person, incredibly smart. Every one loves her. She is the confidante...
    mo250466 mo250466
    41-45
    71 Responses May 7, 2011

    If You Can't Get Someone Out Of Your Head, Maybe They Are Suppose To Be There?

    My first post....I apologize in advance this may turn out long :/ I have been with my husband (J) for 11 years married for 6 we have 3 children together. I have know the one that truly holds my heart (C) since we were practically in diapers. We lived houses down from each other...
    CrazySweetCakes CrazySweetCakes
    31-35
    6 Responses Oct 28, 2013

    I want to believe that everything is going to

    work out for the best. But, how can the best be without him? We connected on so many levels. I believe he knows me and understands me like no one else, yet we cannot truly be together. Tonight I'm angry....I'm tired of his excuses. I'm mad at myself as well....why can't I...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

    32, been with my husband

    for 7 years and married for 5. We have 2 beautiful girls, one is my stepdaughter who is 9 and we share another daughter who is 3. The past 5 years (since our marriage) has been anything but a marriage. I have suffered mental and physical abuse from my husband. One night while...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 18, 2015

    When do you do something

    for yourself or choose to stick it out and choose to honor your vows despite your love of someone else? My story so far with being married but in love with someone else is sad and hopeful at the same time. I hope I come out of this a better person to the benefit of my two sons...
    Themenass Themenass
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Nov 28, 2015

    I don't know what my deal is,

    but it keeps happening. First my college buddy, though feelings weren't mutual. I would say I still love him actually, but mostly as a friend. Then there was the guy from the coffee shop, where feelings were pretty intense & definitely mutual. But he couldn't stand the tension...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    I don't know how I feel anymore.

    My life has gotten too complicated to even handle sometimes.
    LM96753 LM96753
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    Tired

    Today I am just plain and simple tired. Tired of crying, tired of feeling lost, tired of wanting to do the right thing, tired of smiling when my heart is breaking. I need to take a step towards making some sort of decision. I've been stuck in one spot for months, and I need to...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Sep 15, 2013

    Yes, I am married, with children,

    and have fallen in love with someone on the side. My new male lover makes me feel so wonderful and loved when we are together. We have so much in common and have a great time in and out of bed.
    maryannelamb maryannelamb
    51-55, F
    9 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    I've been with my high school sweetheart

    for 8 years now. We've been through everything, he's basically been my best friend. It has felt like that's all he is though for a long time. We used to fight a lot and I eventually turned the other way. I'm not married and have a son. My depression and search for more sexual...
    bnbell bnbell
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 9, 2015

    I am sitting here alone with my thoughts wishing

    that my someone would interrupt them with an unexpected good night message. It has been exactly one year since I got involved with my best friend. We started texting and sharing our thoughts and feelings. And I soon found myself falling in love, head over heels for this man...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Nov 29, 2013

    Now, my husband and I,

    we have lost a lot of our passion during the years, and I have had a crush with someone I shouldn't have for over 15 years, and that crush has blossomed into strong love.. Thanks to some very helpful advice from a fellow EPr, I finally had the courage to start a secret, intimate...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Aug 19, 2015

    I didn't know I could

    so easily be moved to fall in love with her. It wasn't planned. I simply was looking for a lonely soul on EP who lived in the same state, was from the same generation, had similar interests and experiences. But it's happened.... I'm not afraid of falling in love, she's right...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    We've never met, hell I don't

    even know if you exist. You were in my dream, beautiful, perfect. I made you laugh, we walked and talked as I tried to impress you. I remember you so vividly. Blonde hair, blue eyes the blue shirt you had on. Gorgeous smile. When I close my eyes and vision you I see that smile...
    incognito21 incognito21
    31-35, M
    May 9, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    Yep. I have experienced what love

    and respect actually look like. Then I ran. And hurt this person in the process! I hate myself for it. But I'm married. Till death do us part?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 26, 2015

    Limbo Love

    So here we are, dancing in our predictable cycle. You're attracted to me, and I'm attracted to you. I married to a wonderful lady, and you're married to horny unfaithful teenager in men's clothes. Right now you don't talk to me as much because he's treating you well; he...
    darthstaff darthstaff
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

    22 years ago I fell in love with a man I worked

    with. I was in my mid 20s and he was a year older than me. We started as friends and it turned to flirting. One day a coworker said y'all flirt way too much, you should just go out and get it over with. I dwelled on that statement until I convinced myself to ask him out. He was...
    Freckles1969 Freckles1969
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jan 20

    Thinking about you tonight.

    Wish we could talk, just because. I miss you. I love you. You're gorgeous. You make me smile. You're my favorite person in the world. You light up my life. *sigh* I wish I could tell you those things. I wish you could just know them. Hope you're doing well, baby. Have a good...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    26-30, F
    Sep 4, 2014

    I love my husband he works his *** off.

    I try to do what I can to help. I'm back in school to make a new career. I have been in situations where I have falling in love also with someone else. why can't I just have two men in my life. oh my hubby also has ED.... frustrating.
    kavett kavett
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

    Last night I was freaking out,

    thinking I may be reaching that point where I either need to say good-bye to my best friend or I'm going to make a huge mistake. Today though, I feel great. Like I can totally make this work. Yes, I am in love with a man who is not my husband, but I can keep those feelings in...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 29, 2014

    I am married to a man

    who loves his job first and foremost. I met this guy I worked with briefly, and don't know if I really fell in love, but definitely developed a crush on him, and thought, because he was kinda flirty and shared a lot of personal information that I probably would not have shared...
    andiebr andiebr
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 25, 2015

    Dreaming About You...

    Every night, when I go to sleep, I think about you. I think about how it'd feel to be in your arms; comforted by you. I try to think what you'd whisper in my ears as I drift into sleep. May be something funny. Like you always do. May be you'll want to do something. But don't...
    PolkaDotGirl PolkaDotGirl
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

    I happen to love two men.

    Is that a crime? It's not like I have to act on it, right? Why do I feel so guilty at times? Is it wrong to be friends with someone? This is my dilemma.
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    I met him a year and a half ago

    and my world changed. I am married and he is 14 years younger. There was an instant connection, literal sparks. We have been seeing each other on and off in a casual, sexual way. There is never any conflict with us, we just get along. He is a kind, gentle, fun man. In the past...
    Kristen2331 Kristen2331
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2015

    With limerence (which I have) there is a term

    called NC. It means having no contact with your limerent object (LO). I've been going NC for a few months now. But yesterday was a real ****** day for me. So I messaged her on Facebook. I was so nervous the entire time, wondering if she thought I was a weirdo. But she helped me...
    SZPDiablo SZPDiablo
    31-35, M
    1 Response Aug 27, 2015

    Tangled

    I haven't written anything here for quite awhile. I thought things were starting to untangle and become easier to deal with....but I was so so wrong! Things are still complicated... Maybe even more so than they were before. Nothing really has changed. My feelings are the same...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

    Has been a crazy whirlwind week.

    Have seen my love 3 times, this week and we've spoken every day. We were trying not to do that but it always seems to escalate. I was invited again to catch up today but i avoided it. I wanted too, I really did, but as it escalates it seems to climax and then crash. Normally she...
    jackflash3300 jackflash3300
    36-40, M
    Oct 24, 2015

    Married But In Love With Another Man

    I am 32 yrs old, I have been married for 4yrs but with my husband for 8 years. Recently I have sought out another man, in which I have been friends with for over 3yrs. In my situation I have 2 children from a previous relationship and 1 child with my husband. The other man knows...
    momma03 momma03
    31-35
    75 Responses Jan 2, 2009

    Well, I'm in love with the groom

    but I'm not the bride. How do I forget you!? Your wedding was really nice, goodness gracious this is messed up.
    VictoriasSecrets24 VictoriasSecrets24
    22-25, F
    Jun 20, 2015

    so I am married 4 years this coming Thursday

    and almost 9 years together. at first there was a connection so strong we j couldn't keep our hands off each other. he moved in day number 2. always together. But he doesn't respect me. he lets people who are not family and family members as well be mean to me I'm so depressed...
    LoveMeTender220 LoveMeTender220
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 1, 2015

    True story. It's the original reason I came to

    EP... I think I fell in love with the best guy I possibly could have. I am so lucky! This guy is respectful, non-judgmental, easy-going, fun, a thinker, a great conversationalist, understanding, and just an all-around good guy. I think most guys would have steered clear - either...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    26-30, F
    15 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    It has been 7 months

    since my separation from my husband. I've moved on but he doesn't know that I moved on with another man. My husband wants to start over but I don't. We text daily and we see each other once a week. But for me..I do it out of pity. I do it because of my guilt. I want an easy...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    I hoped to hide my affair from my H.

    Didn't want him to think that my wanting to leave him had anything to do with the affair. But my H found out somehow and he's hurting bad. I wish he had let me go when I asked him. Maybe I never should have asked him...should have left...but seeing him hurt so much breaks my...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2014

    I fall in love anew every day with you your

    words and who you are are amazing I never thought I would ever love another but you made your way into my heart and just in time you saved me from a life of loneliness. I love you so much how do I ever let you know
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    I have been married 3 months

    but in a relationship with my wife for 7 years. The relationship is very routine and dull which brings me to my current situation. I have fallen in love with a co worker of 4 years. We have always flirted and felt a chemistry that came to head the other night. We had a meeting...
    jgshpc02 jgshpc02
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Jan 20

    Met another beautiful loving married woman fell

    in love with her had an emotional affair. Now I cannot stop thinking about her. I know she will never cheat. I know waste of my time. But knowing there was true Chemistry is killing me. Yes must move on. She is stilly friend and is very strong but shows her sadness...
    midlifeknot midlifeknot
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jun 15, 2015

    I'm not supposed to miss you,

    but that doesn't change the fact that I do!! You're so brilliant, and honestly a little out of my league. But all of your amazing ideas and plans and dreams, I just wish that I could be a part of them! I could help you with them, we could be a team. I know that you miss me too...
    VictoriasSecrets24 VictoriasSecrets24
    22-25, F
    Jun 18, 2015

    I was sitting in the park today during my lunch

    break trying to unwind from my daily grind. While getting into my thoughts, the only thing I can think of is her. I can only think I wish I was with her instead of my wife. I think about her everyday. I can't get over her, even if I wanted to. I've been told I have limerence...
    SZPDiablo SZPDiablo
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    Been married for 20+ years

    and care for my husband very much but we're more like friends than a couple. We don't do anything together. No date night, no vacations, nothing that people would look at its and think"couple". Over a year ago, another man I know and see frequently expressed his interest...
    Angscott Angscott
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Sep 29, 2015
    sholdier7 sholdier7
    26-30, M
    Mar 4

    I Wish You Were Strong Enough

    So you said good bye in an email. You've said you are afraid that I love you too much, that I want a relationship you can't give. You've said you never meant to hurt me, yet here we are. Because of life pains I have walked with you through, you want to hide. I knew it would...
    darthstaff darthstaff
    41-45, M
    1 Response Aug 19, 2013

    I feel like my brain is in overdrive.

    I think my husband and I are headed for separation. The thought obviously scares, saddens and confuses me but I can feel it going in that direction. I don't love him the way he loves me and there is no way of me to know if my affair is solely the reason for my disconnect or if...
    ScarletLetters81 ScarletLetters81
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Mar 7
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