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I Am Married and Have Fallen In Love With Someone Else

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    Tangled

    I haven't written anything here for quite awhile. I thought things were starting to untangle and become easier to deal with....but I was so so wrong! Things are still complicated... Maybe even more so than they were before. Nothing really has changed. My feelings are the same...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 9 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Well, I'm in love with the groom

    but I'm not the bride. How do I forget you!? Your wedding was really nice, goodness gracious this is messed up.
    VictoriasSecrets24 VictoriasSecrets24 22-25, F Jun 20

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    Just talked to my H. He wants to work on our

    marriage...is he nuts? I said I don't think I can be what he wants. I can't be a good wife...not to him. I don't want to tell him I've fallen in love with someone else. It would really kill him. But I can't be his wife anymore although I'm giving up a lot! My heart feels happier...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I would say I'm in love with TWO men other

    than my husband. Doesn't THAT make life interesting!
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 1

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    It has been 7 months

    since my separation from my husband. I've moved on but he doesn't know that I moved on with another man. My husband wants to start over but I don't. We text daily and we see each other once a week. But for me..I do it out of pity. I do it because of my guilt. I want an easy...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am not married, but I have fallen in love

    with a married man. When we first got together 2 years ago, he had told me that he was getting a divorce. I didn't see dating him as a problem because when I was going through a divorce of my own, I also dated other people. We saw and still continue to see each other all the...
    solost17 solost17 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 10

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    Yes. It really can happen.

    My marriage has been over for quite some time in my heart but separation/ divorce has been slow as we feel for the kids and are cautious of changing things. It's all slooooowly happening though and I think we are both just preparing on every level for what is to come. A few...
    lotusblossoms lotusblossoms 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    Yep. I have experienced what love

    and respect actually look like. Then I ran. And hurt this person in the process! I hate myself for it. But I'm married. Till death do us part?
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 26

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    I Wish You Were Strong Enough

    So you said good bye in an email. You've said you are afraid that I love you too much, that I want a relationship you can't give. You've said you never meant to hurt me, yet here we are. Because of life pains I have walked with you through, you want to hide. I knew it would...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2013

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    I love my husband he works his *** off.

    I try to do what I can to help. I'm back in school to make a new career. I have been in situations where I have falling in love also with someone else. why can't I just have two men in my life. oh my hubby also has ED.... frustrating.
    kavett kavett 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I want to believe that everything is going to

    work out for the best. But, how can the best be without him? We connected on so many levels. I believe he knows me and understands me like no one else, yet we cannot truly be together. Tonight I'm angry....I'm tired of his excuses. I'm mad at myself as well....why can't I...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    What A Year A Difference Can Make

    The recap: I started growing in attachment to a very good friend who backed away when we were getting too close. This happened in June 2012. When she stopped texting & calling as often, I went cold myself. I was deeply hurt. It was like my losing a loved one. But she was...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 9 Responses Jul 6, 2013

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    Wishing I Could Take All The Hurt For Both Of Them

    My husband is a wonderful guy, who doesn't deserve to be hurt. I love him, and we have a stable life together. I've fallen in love with my best guy friend. He knows how I feel, and he feels the same way, and we don't act on it because he values fidelity and the importance of...
    rosalind2288 rosalind2288 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    Married But In Love With Another Man

    I am 32 yrs old, I have been married for 4yrs but with my husband for 8 years. Recently I have sought out another man, in which I have been friends with for over 3yrs. In my situation I have 2 children from a previous relationship and 1 child with my husband. The other man knows...
    momma03 momma03 31-35 75 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    I hoped to hide my affair from my H.

    Didn't want him to think that my wanting to leave him had anything to do with the affair. But my H found out somehow and he's hurting bad. I wish he had let me go when I asked him. Maybe I never should have asked him...should have left...but seeing him hurt so much breaks my...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    Not Your Typical "married, In Love With Someone Else" Story

    First off, I am not unhappy in my marriage. Of course like any marriage, there have been ups and downs. It's work, it takes commitment and the ability to compromise. I've been together with my husband for 16 years. Married 13. We have a terrific 12 year old son together, as well...
    cakebatterbetty cakebatterbetty 41-45 5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    We had an eight month relationship despite of

    the fact that i'm married and he's in a relationship with another girl for 11yrs. He was so in-love with me back then. As for me, I'm a bit hesitant to give my 100% because of the situation although honestly, i really love him more than i loved anyone else. We broke up 4mos ago...
    burnsandbruises burnsandbruises 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Spent basically the entire weekend with him.

    ..off and on anyways...Then last night I saw him and spent the night with him and all day! Enjoyed every moment. Waking up having been cuddled in his arms all night long was the best. Our worse times are when we are apart. Such a sad situation to be this in love with someone and...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F Dec 7, 2014

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    I fall in love anew every day with you your

    words and who you are are amazing I never thought I would ever love another but you made your way into my heart and just in time you saved me from a life of loneliness. I love you so much how do I ever let you know
    meltingicequeen meltingicequeen 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I didn't know I could

    so easily be moved to fall in love with her. It wasn't planned. I simply was looking for a lonely soul on EP who lived in the same state, was from the same generation, had similar interests and experiences. But it's happened.... I'm not afraid of falling in love, she's right...
    Lovethatgal4415 Lovethatgal4415 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    But I'm polyamorous,

    so it's ok. ;)
    Zabet Zabet 31-35, T Feb 1

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    I happen to love two men.

    Is that a crime? It's not like I have to act on it, right? Why do I feel so guilty at times? Is it wrong to be friends with someone? This is my dilemma.
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2014

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    If You Can't Get Someone Out Of Your Head, Maybe They Are Suppose To Be There?

    My first post....I apologize in advance this may turn out long :/ I have been with my husband (J) for 11 years married for 6 we have 3 children together. I have know the one that truly holds my heart (C) since we were practically in diapers. We lived houses down from each other...
    CrazySweetCakes CrazySweetCakes 31-35 6 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Met another beautiful loving married woman fell

    in love with her had an emotional affair. Now I cannot stop thinking about her. I know she will never cheat. I know waste of my time. But knowing there was true Chemistry is killing me. Yes must move on. She is stilly friend and is very strong but shows her sadness...
    midlifeknot midlifeknot 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 15

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    Thinking about you tonight.

    Wish we could talk, just because. I miss you. I love you. You're gorgeous. You make me smile. You're my favorite person in the world. You light up my life. *sigh* I wish I could tell you those things. I wish you could just know them. Hope you're doing well, baby. Have a good...
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I am sitting here alone with my thoughts wishing

    that my someone would interrupt them with an unexpected good night message. It has been exactly one year since I got involved with my best friend. We started texting and sharing our thoughts and feelings. And I soon found myself falling in love, head over heels for this man...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    Yes, I am married, with children,

    and have fallen in love with someone on the side. My new male lover makes me feel so wonderful and loved when we are together. We have so much in common and have a great time in and out of bed.
    maryannelamb maryannelamb 46-50, F 12 Responses Mar 31

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    Peace

    A lot has happened since I last posted anything here. I have been on an emotional roller coaster the last few days. Tonight I feel like I have found a sliver of peace....at least for now. We finally had some time together to talk about everything! It felt good to get...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Many young women today are a bit tired of the

    usual relationships that they have with men of their age. This is why it is no surprise nowadays that we see a lot of Younger WomenOlder Men Dating . Are you a man looking for a younger woman, or a woman seeking an older man? Everyone has their preferences in relationships...
    celinecc11 celinecc11 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    Married 13 years to a wonderful man.

    Everyone loves him...except for me. I love him per se, but not in love with him . Met someone almost a year ago I've tried to deny feelings for. 14 years my junior. He makes me feel like I have never before. It's tearing me apart!
    Lustingforad Lustingforad 46-50, F 4 Responses May 31

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    We've never met, hell I don't

    even know if you exist. You were in my dream, beautiful, perfect. I made you laugh, we walked and talked as I tried to impress you. I remember you so vividly. Blonde hair, blue eyes the blue shirt you had on. Gorgeous smile. When I close my eyes and vision you I see that smile...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 2 Responses May 9

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F Dec 24, 2014

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    Last night I was freaking out,

    thinking I may be reaching that point where I either need to say good-bye to my best friend or I'm going to make a huge mistake. Today though, I feel great. Like I can totally make this work. Yes, I am in love with a man who is not my husband, but I can keep those feelings in...
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    These feelings are really scary.

    ..is it normal to love someone this much? I guess it's how my husband feels about me. I hate this feeling. Love is amazing but honestly...it's scary all the possibilities :-(
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Ugh....getting off of work soon.

    As tired as I am...I rather be at work. Home is so uncomfortable right now. Just passing by each other. No words...just stares...I get nervous and scared to walk by him wondering if he would snap. I really need to move out and move on with my life. So scared...but it has to be...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    elincc11 elincc11 26-30, F Jun 1

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    Tired

    Today I am just plain and simple tired. Tired of crying, tired of feeling lost, tired of wanting to do the right thing, tired of smiling when my heart is breaking. I need to take a step towards making some sort of decision. I've been stuck in one spot for months, and I need to...
    Inlovebutmarried Inlovebutmarried 41-45, F 7 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    I met him a year and a half ago

    and my world changed. I am married and he is 14 years younger. There was an instant connection, literal sparks. We have been seeing each other on and off in a casual, sexual way. There is never any conflict with us, we just get along. He is a kind, gentle, fun man. In the past...
    Kristen2331 Kristen2331 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    True story. It's the original reason I came to

    EP... I think I fell in love with the best guy I possibly could have. I am so lucky! This guy is respectful, non-judgmental, easy-going, fun, a thinker, a great conversationalist, understanding, and just an all-around good guy. I think most guys would have steered clear - either...
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F 20 Responses Jun 6

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    Dreaming About You...

    Every night, when I go to sleep, I think about you. I think about how it'd feel to be in your arms; comforted by you. I try to think what you'd whisper in my ears as I drift into sleep. May be something funny. Like you always do. May be you'll want to do something. But don't...
    PolkaDotGirl PolkaDotGirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Limbo Love

    So here we are, dancing in our predictable cycle. You're attracted to me, and I'm attracted to you. I married to a wonderful lady, and you're married to horny unfaithful teenager in men's clothes. Right now you don't talk to me as much because he's treating you well; he...
    darthstaff darthstaff 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    I'm not supposed to miss you,

    but that doesn't change the fact that I do!! You're so brilliant, and honestly a little out of my league. But all of your amazing ideas and plans and dreams, I just wish that I could be a part of them! I could help you with them, we could be a team. I know that you miss me too...
    VictoriasSecrets24 VictoriasSecrets24 22-25, F Jun 18

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    I think I've fallen so in love

    now that it's pretty much become an addiction. I've never longed for anyone so much. My heart is happy with him and so sad without him. I want to pull away but it's hard. Not the pull away because he isn't treating me right no not at all. He loves me so much too. I just want to...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2014

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    Another wonderful night with my man!

    ! Hung out, then slept (no sex) cause we were both soo tired. We cuddled the entire time. It was beautiful. I hate leaving him. We both get so sad but it is the situation right now so we just have to deal. I feel he's my other half. My soulmate. He makes me feel alive again! I...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2014

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    I've been married for 39 years to a girl I met

    in high school. We married because she was going to have a baby...I dd the responsible thing at the time. We lost the baby at 6 months. A year or two after, our marriage fell apart, we separated and I found my first high school sweetheart and we started dating some. She was my...
    linkbelt6335 linkbelt6335 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 5

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    Many young women today are a bit tired of the

    usual relationships that they have with men of their age. This is why it is no surprise nowadays that we see a lot of Younger Women Looking for Older Men . Are you a man looking for a younger woman, or a woman seeking an older man? Everyone has their preferences in relationships...
    celinecc11 celinecc11 26-30, F Feb 2

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