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I Am Married and Having An Affair

Married but lacking love, commitment, desire, sex ....wanting to feel respected and wanted in the marriage. 380 People

    Disclaimer: please no comments from the trolls.

    I'm dealing with my own monsters and having you guys judge doesn't make me change who I just annoys me and gets you blocked! Now back to my thoughts..... It's not like I ask for these affairs...somehow they just find me. First time was 5yrs ago in another state I spent...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

    I ******* Made It Happen.

    I remember my wife telling me about her friend. How she was in a failing marriage, one that she already was unfaithful in. I pretended I didn't like her, but secretly I wanted her. My wife left me at a party one time and she was there. I decided to make "peace" with her. So we...
    pancho123 pancho123
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 31, 2013

    I'M Not Okay With Being The OW

    Yesterday I had an emotional breakdown. As per usual. Having a tearless day is rare these days. Let me point out I am not looking for sympathy I am merely pointing this out in hopes that I can either help someone not feel alone or perhaps someone can help me. I feel very empty...
    mysecretworld mysecretworld
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 14, 2013

    Frequent Flier Miles

    I figured out how to escape with my MW girlfriend. We use our frequent flier miles to book getaways. So we apply the 500 mile rule and **** for 48 hours and then fly home to live the false lives we have grown into. So far we have New York, Chicago, LA, Anaheim, Atlanta...
    GrassIsGrner GrassIsGrner
    May 20, 2013

    I am married but am loving one of my friend he

    is working with me.....he is very crazyyyy about me.He is making me serious.............. but i dont knw wht to do pls help me.....he is single.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 14, 2013

    Reconnected With My X Fiancé From When I Was 18...

    I am married 25yrs and with my husband for 30. My first love has contacted me through Facebook. We have met and kissed and desire so much more. he is unhappily married as am I. My husband is a drunk, cannot have sex and doesn't even try to be intimate. I want so much to make love...
    Immessedup Immessedup
    51-55, F
    1 Response May 17, 2013

    Having A Affair And Scared

    Hi!  first off I am 38 years old and been married for 19 years to a wonderful husband but I guess we lack in the sex department and then I met this guy online and we talked for 3 months before meeting each we both want the same things for us its just sex he is married with two...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Apr 13, 2011

    Ok so maybe the single guy

    and I aren't quite over? It's just weird that I'm the MW and he's the side guy. I think it bothers him a bit. I don't know what to do about it either. I've sorta made the decision that I don't think I would ever leave my H. I thought I would but now I don't think I will. But a...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    Sep 16, 2014

    I have had some and got caught,

    it was and still brings drama w my husband but I never get any attention
    LM96753 LM96753
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 25, 2014

    I Dodnt Want To Lose Her

    Ok, Here's the situation. I'm a married man who's marriage is basically over. We have been married for 18 years and we have been arguing over and over and it's been getting worse. So bad that we are arguing over stupid stuff now. She's made a comment to me that has hurt me to my...
    project626 project626
    3 Responses Oct 9, 2012

    Totally Broken Hearted And It'S My Fault!!!

    Yesterday I broke off with a woman who is the love of my life. She's a widow and I'm married with children and when push came to shove I couldn't leave my 11 year old boy, who is the apple of my eye. She says she loves me but isn't prepared to wait for me and put her life on hold...
    MikeyBH MikeyBH
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Apr 11, 2013
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 28, 2014

    Ugh sick of roller coasters!

    !! I'm the one that is married! Why should I be the one so emotional about a SG!!!! This guy is such an *******! I'm ignoring him from now on...well at least for the weekend! He gets me to become so vulnerable so fast! I hate it! No more! No more I miss you's!! I'm realizing...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    Sep 20, 2014

    I feel enlightened. I feel like I am constantly

    learning from people in different ways. Every relationship is a learning experience, especially intimate ones. I am having an affair and it's as if I should feel ashamed but I don't. It's the most natural thing in the world and I feel understood for the first time in more years...
    Elizabethbchnn Elizabethbchnn
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    Update On My Previous Story

    As an update to my previous story here goes. We went on the family vacation and everything was going good. I talked to the other guy once or twice before I left but nothing more. This past weekend my husband had one of his fits again and took off all night. He came home the next...
    sexylatina69 sexylatina69
    11 Responses Jul 14, 2008

    Well...I'm no longer having an affair.

    Everyone just kinda faded out of my life. The single guy is pissed about last weekend and didn't respond to my last message. I still text with my ex-MM, but I think he's just being nice to me with friendly chatter since I always text him. I miss the MM a lot because we were in a...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    Sep 10, 2014

    Married, Having An Affair!

    I've been married for many years to a good man. however, I'm also having an affair with a married man. He's older than me and has been married longer, and we both love our spouses and families, and have no plans or desire to end our respective marriages. Yet we can't stay away...
    muddywaters muddywaters
    46-50, F
    34 Responses Mar 31, 2009

    Blissfully Happy

    If success stories about extramarital relationships aren't your thing, you should stop reading now.Because my guy and I are very happy.  Still.  After 3 1/2 years.  No plans to change our circumstances.  Sure, we think about it from time to time, wishing we could travel...
    muddywaters muddywaters
    46-50, F
    5 Responses May 2, 2012

    Passion & Lust

    I've been married for 18 yrs and have 2 sons. I met this tall, dark & handsome guy at work and felt incredible sexual chemistry right away, ever since our first kiss. Its been going on now for 3 yrs. He has a live-in g/friend and also a daughter. I have no intention of...
    passion99 passion99
    8 Responses Dec 30, 2008

    I Have To Let It Out...

    I am 29 and my husband is 60...I met him when I was 20 and we fell in lust. We were inseparable for 6 months, and we ended up the time I was still living with my parents so he asked me to move in with him. Though I wasn't sure I loved him I moved in because I was...
    eduKted eduKted
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 17, 2012

    Need Some Adivce

    I have been married for only 3 years,I am only 27 years old, and I have not been happy at all. My husband and I have 2 boys together. I have wanted to leave for so long but I cant support myself with my kids in the area I live, so I want to finish my degree so I can hopefully not...
    searider16 searider16
    3 Responses Dec 28, 2011

    Married And Having An Affair With A Married Man... And We Don't Want More

    I'm so glad to find this site, as I've been aching to talk this through or at least get these thoughts down on paper, but there's no one I can talk to anonymously like this.  I've considered seeing a counselor but I know that my situation would not meet with anyone's...
    ch254876 ch254876
    8 Responses Apr 16, 2010

    I ****** Two Men Last Friday And Neither Of Them Was My Husband

        So, I have a few different lovers since I decided to get sex from the outside. My husband is not interested in sex anymore, and I am hornier than ever and LOVE younger men.I met a new man who is 29 and we have been talking for a while online.  We made a plan to meet up and...
    Jezibell Jezibell
    46-50, F
    Sep 8, 2013

    A Monogamous Affair

    I joined a gym 30 minutes away from my home in the persuit of a good bodybuilding coach and trainer.  My kids were young at the time so I took them with me when I trained, they enjoyed being there and I felt very much at home. It was a typical bodybuilding gym, everyone there...
    jesseGale jesseGale
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jun 27, 2013

    A Tough Decision

    It's been 15 months that my affair has been going on... I'm madly in love with my MM, it's been a tough 15 months too, we love in two different countries... So we don't physically get to see each other often. We have had one private vacation together for 5 days and I have flown...
    Hopelessromantic0725 Hopelessromantic0725
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 2, 2013

    The Most Amazing And Traumatic Experience Of My Life

    I am married to a great guy and started having an affair with a married co worker 5 weeks ago. We have known each other for three years and it came as a shock to both of us. It is a mind + body affair and I have never felt so loved or alive for years. Unfortunately, about two...
    macgirl14 macgirl14
    4 Responses Sep 6, 2010

    I'm married and I had an affair

    for six months with a SG, and I fell in love with him and he ended our physical relationship about a month ago and I'm sad and miss that side of us, although we still hang out almost every night, nothing physical, just hanging out....I want that part of us back, but it's too...
    mntmama mntmama
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2014

    I'm a horrible person.

    I'm convinced.
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2014

    My experience today is exactly

    why MW should not have affairs with SG!!!!!! Pissed!
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Sep 19, 2014

    Annoyed this morning.

    ..and super confused at my life. Needing some serious me time but that rarely happens with Sir Clingo aka the husband. I've been so nice to him lately and in return he suffocates me to the point I get sickened by his touch. He kissed me this morning in my ear and it felt so gross...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 23, 2014

    I Feel Alive Again!

    Well,I finally gave in to my own selfish needs and wants. After 15 years with a man that I do not fully love, after years of no passionate kissing, no public displays of affection, no women to fulfill my bisexual nature, I have been left numb, lonely and questioning my life. I...
    craZnaomi craZnaomi
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

    And yet another interesting convo with my SG.

    ..we talked about feelings a lot today...basically...we've realized that although we have been fueled by lust, there's something else there. I said it makes me nervous and have been trying to ignore it cause of how we met....there's no way he can trust me. He told me it will be...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 30, 2014

    I am a 45 year old man

    and my wife is 44 years old. My wife and i met in college and we have been married for 21 years and we have 3 children, one of which will start college in fall 2015. I work middle shifts and my wife works days. After we had out first child our sex life dropped off to near nil...
    pesto1969 pesto1969
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jan 11, 2015

    It's pretty much over with SG,

    he wants me to leave my family and be with him but I can't, I have to let him go, it was an incredible experience but it has to be over, I'm sure the next few months will be hard...any advice?
    mntmama mntmama
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 20, 2014

    I have ended things today.

    I can't take the pain of being the other woman. Almost 4 years....
    mysecretworld mysecretworld
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2014

    So yesterday SG and I had a few texts back

    and forth. He mentioned how he was working this weekend and I said how I already knew since every week we only have one day off together and we work opposite weekends. I jokingly said how I keep track. Well that opened a mini can of worms! He started saying how it's because I...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    Sep 26, 2014

    My new word....lust-love.

    There's no future, and there's no real feelings, but I'm in love with this mans sexual side. I'm in love with the sexual emotions shown to me. But I'm not in love with this young SG. I'm jealous and possessive of him. I don't want him looking at, touching, talking, or seeing...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30
    31-35, F
    Sep 22, 2014

    He Loves My Body

    I am currently sleeping with a man that absolutely loves my body. It is such a turn on. It is so stress free. We see each other when we want to ****. Plain and simple. His goal is to please me. We are not in love. We like each other and enjoy each other's company. We meet...
    taurean513 taurean513
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    To All My Sisters Of The Shadows.... Please Help

    Today, after 5 1/2 years of the most intense love story of my life, I decided to disappear from that relationship. No more explanations, no more lala-land dreams of a rosy future, no more pretending we're best friends, no more listening to his stories about his wife and their...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    11 Responses Aug 26, 2012

    God, I love my boyfriend!

    He makes me feel so sexy! Kissing his full lips and feeling his huge hands caress me gets me so crazy! He takes his time, too, and when I wrap myself around his strong black body I forget about everything else because it's like I'm being swept away!
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 14, 2014

    Ok here it goes, nervous about

    even writing about it. I am married and have been for the past 10 years. i have been faithful and have done it all for my husband and family, when he decided to move to another country I quite my job and moved, when he decided to move back I once again quite my job and moved...
    Susan72721 Susan72721
    7 Responses Apr 16, 2014

    I'M Going To Cheat For A Second Time With A Different Guy

    So, last week I wrote about my first time cheating on my husband with a totally random guy. This week, I have plans to meet yet another random man and have hot sex with him! I loved the feeling that the last encounter gave me, and I know this one will be even better. I've been...
    Jezibell Jezibell
    46-50, F
    3 Responses May 6, 2013

    Need A Place To Share My Feelings About My Affair

    I am 39 years old, married to my husband for almost 17 years. I have two school aged children and I am a stay at home mom. I have been involved with a man who is also married for the past 3 months. This is not my first affair (you would think I had learned my lesson after the...
    Misspetals Misspetals
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Jan 12, 2011

    Who The **** Do People Think They Are?

    They say that sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me, that might be true I am not sure but I do know that they can make you angry as hell. So I ask who the **** do people think they are? Who or what gives them the right to judge as if they are perfect...
    Daddyskitten21 Daddyskitten21
    41-45, F
    Jun 29, 2011

    It Is Great

    Yes I am married and having an affair with a married man. The married man is my brother in law. It has been going on for about 5 years. We both had something to fill in our lives and we were there for each other. The sex is absolutely amazing. I am going on 45 in the spring...
    suez68 suez68
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 4, 2013

    I Don't Know What To Do

    I've been married for 3 years this coming December and have been having an affair for over a year now. My husband was home when the affair started and then deployed for about 7 months of it. He's returning home and this crushing guilt is killing me. I don't know what to do. I'm...
    Scaredandalone32 Scaredandalone32
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2013
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