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I Am Married and Unhappy

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    Cougar Woman

    I've been married for 20 years now and it's been horrible. When we first started dating he was wonderful but as soon as we married, this creature appeared from nowhere. He would yell and scream at the slightest thing and I would cower in terror. I've since learned to just walk...
    cougarwoman cougarwoman 41-45 4 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    Tired Of The Unhappiness

    I have a bad heart. Sometimes I have to take to my bed. My husband of over 20 years new this going in and he has for the most part been fine with it. Today, however I needed him to get my medication and when he got back not only did he NOT get my heart meds but I still don't know...
    jennygg1 jennygg1 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2013

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    Complicated....

    Well, I just turned 34 yrs.old and I am married to someone that is 28 yrs older than me....I Love him....But he's just not the person I married...I know that he loves me but he doesn't show it much anymore.....I have been with this man for a LONG time....I don't have any kids and...
    suddenly1978 suddenly1978 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    So Unhappy

    hello i need someone to talk to
    ambrosia5 ambrosia5 51-55 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    So Many Ups And Downs.

    I've been married for 3 years now and sometimes i want to make it work and other times i want to run, but one thing im absolutely sure about is that i am unhappy. I know its not even close to being all of my husbands fault. I have a really bad drinking problem and im sure that...
    Matryoshka11 Matryoshka11 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2011

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    Complicated

    i have been married for almost 2 years, however we been together for 9 years. i hate this relationship, living with a man who has no ambition and only complaint when life is getting tough.This is affecting me and I get demotivate too. i have 2 wonderful kids if not for them shake...
    sy1638 sy1638 41-45 2 Responses May 21, 2012

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    Not Into Me

    Not important any more. I have tried everything even to beg for dec and it does not mstter
    Feb 3, 2013

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    What to Do?

      I just got married in June. I am 33 years old with 3 children.  He has 2.  We have been together for 5 1/2 years.  I am in love with him.  I don't think he feels the same.  About a year into our relationship I gained 70 lbs and have been battleing...
    lost627 lost627 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 10, 2009

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    Why Is She Torturing Me

    i took her back , under the promise that she would be true. she isnt. i am a very good man, i love affection and love making. i am not that bad looking( so im told) please help me
    daniel80665 daniel80665 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 23, 2010

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    Totally Confused

    He cheated, I files, I gave him a second chance and now I don't trust him at all.
    bevwal bevwal 46-50 2 Responses Apr 7, 2011

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    Star Crossed Lovers

    A guy that I was involved with briefly 5 years ago, came home for the holidays to see his family who lives 20 minutes away. He called to let me know that he was coming in and wanted to see me. The reason it was so brief with him, 4 weeks, is because I am 7 years older than him...
    dcgt04 dcgt04 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2012

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    Lonely, And Lost

    I've been with my husband now for nearly 18 years. We've been married for 14 years. For the last five years or so everything is different. Some days he is the man I married, but most days, he is a stranger, a mean, hard-hearted stranger. He picks about everything I do, and I do...
    Trinity1996 Trinity1996 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    Going Through The Motions...

    I am a 40 yr, old woman who has been married to my high school sweetheart for 17 yrs. and we have been together for 25yrs. And out of those 25 yrs. we have been separated for 4 yrs.and decided to give our marriage another shot, but in the last 4-6 months things have changed...
    blakbuttafly72 blakbuttafly72 36-40 2 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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    Casting: Divorcing Couples

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    tinaeisnernews tinaeisnernews 22-25, F May 9, 2013

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    Didn't Think My Marriage Would Be Like This...

    I never talk about this with anyone and I found this site and wanted to just share openly and privately. I have been married for 15 years. We have 2 children that are 12 and 8. My husband is a good dad and does a lot with the kids when he is not working. I would like him to be...
    SeaandSand SeaandSand 31-35, F Nov 25, 2012

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    Lovemaking

    I have been married over forty years and now my wife thinks making love once a week is plenty.Maybe I want to much but It works on me not being able to have sex more often.I have tried to tell her I need more than once per week but she says thats all she wants.
    petercan petercan 61-65 6 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    Never Should Have Said Yes

    I am a 37 year old military wife. We have been married for 9 years and have two children ages 7 and 9. I could sit here and write a long story about how great he used to be, but to get to the point, he has cheated on me on numerous occasions and I now find myself stuck in a...
    chay69 chay69 36-40, F 7 Responses May 25, 2013

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    Hair Cut Off

    This happened to me when i was 22 years old. Once i wanted to year jeans pants and tshirt. My husbund heard this and straight away he refused and warned me not to do that. But i badly needed it so i bought it and wore it and went to my husbund and he was very furious on seeing me...
    radhakrishnan727742 radhakrishnan727742 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2013

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    Don't Get It!

    I'm really broken! My husband says he loves me and needs to get his head on start. He's living with this couple who are divorced but living with each other have cheated when married. They have small kids. He says the only things he dose not like about us together is we fight...
    freedom96 freedom96 36-40 4 Responses Dec 6, 2008

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    Help! I Think I'm Turning Into A Monster!

    I've blathered on around here about my woes enough. But something occurred to me today: In the timeline, it became clear a few days ago that the bond of trust was proken between us, maybe permanently. Since then she hasn't been showing that she takes this seriously. And she's...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 21, 2012

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    Marriage Problems

    I have been married for 12 years and I love my wife dearly For the past 9 months she has been going out with her friends to the bar and staying out until 3-4 in the morning I have spoke to her about this she tells me that she needs girls time She has promissed me that she...
    lostinlove32 lostinlove32 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    So Confused And Lost

    I want to start off by saying that anyone who is on my friend's list wants to remove me after reading this, i will understand. I'm a 36 year old male who has been married for almost 7 years. For the past couple of years, things between us have really went from bad to worse. We...
    Chubbybellyluvr Chubbybellyluvr 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    Im Very Unhappy

     My husband never introduces me to any of his friends becasue he says that I'm not worth mentioning Noone knows that he is married not even his family. they think we are engaged. We have been married for 3 years now. I don't understand. He makes comments like "Why can...
    blueheart888 blueheart888 22-25 6 Responses Jul 31, 2009

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    Need Someone To Talk To

    Hey everyone, I have been married for 3 years to who i thought was my best friend. However my husband and i have been together for 10 years and we have 3 beautiful daughters. I am unhappy to the point where i just don't know if i can continue living the way things are. I know...
    Brokennlonely Brokennlonely 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 16, 2010

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    Need Advice

    i guess i don't know where to start here.. im.married for almost 2 yrs.now been together for 4 have a 2 yr kld daughter. but lately things haven't.been good. we fight alot more and they even turn physical. everytime i mention divorce or separating he throws our daughter intothr...
    frustratednscared frustratednscared 22-25 1 Response May 10, 2013

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    Married For One Year Six Months With Regrets

    I have been married for one and a half years and it has brought some level of unhappiness. I try my best to make my wife happy but i think i am failing miserably. We have 4 months old baby and that is what keeping me from going into depression. She keeps me smiling. I at...
    leodac2001 leodac2001 31-35 2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    Long Road To A Short Bridge

    I am 35, been married for 14 years now. My only child is with my husband, whom I cannot share a house with. He is physically abusive to me, and threatens to continue if I end the marriage. Our daughter is 13, and I am afraid if she was alone with him, the worst would happen.  3...
    randa96bryan randa96bryan 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    My Wife's Sister Loves Me More Than She Does

    Not sexually, of course. My sister-in-law is brilliant. She's always been there for both of us. When my daughter was born, I rushed home out of a serious meeting at work, and she not only also came running, but from a couple of hundred miles away on her way to a weekend trip...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Married And So Very Lonely

    Well,I tpe really slow,but here goes! In 11 days I will be married for four years,my third marriage.She really is a wonderful person,and its not that I don't love her anymore it's I'm just not in love.Please let me explain,we've been together now for 6 years,on our wedding day...
    waltsr457 waltsr457 51-55 2 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    Help Please, Soo Lost And Confused

    I have been married for 1 1/2 years but together for nearly 5 with 2 kids. I left my partner for just 3 -4 days because he was verbally abusive, hard headed and never cared for me or the kids + much more. I went back to 'talk' but he said to come at night as he was working and...
    shanyahjacoby shanyahjacoby 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 16, 2011

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    Numb

    Im 43, I got married at 17, had my first child at 18. I've been married for 26 years. 3 years ago I would worship where my husband would walk on. Now I cant wait for him to leave in the mornings so we won't argue. We are so apart. We just look for things to hurt eachother. I use...
    wonderMe07 wonderMe07 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 25, 2013

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    I hate this. I'm sitting in a park,

    surrounded by happy families. I don't know where my wife is - she stayed out last night.
    DartfordMan DartfordMan 36-40, M 5 Responses Apr 13

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    Nelected And Taken Foregranted

    I have been hanging on for five years with no sex. The doctor told my husband he needed to see a urologist because he was to young for the problems and the desire not to have sex. Well it has been five years going on six, my doctor has put me on medication because no sex is...
    Nelected Nelected 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2012

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    Married But Unhappy

    BEEN MARRIED SINCE 2009   DIDNT KNOW WHAT WAS LETTING  MYSELF INFOR    I CAN DO KNOW RIGHT  THE LITTLEST THING AND THREATENS  TO LEAVE ME  MUST BE 50 TIMES  SAID THAT IF I DONT SPEAK  ALL THE TIME  SHE THINKS SOMETHING WRONG EVEN WHEN AT WORK NICE AS PIE ONE MINUTE...
    ibbottson ibbottson 51-55, M Jun 30, 2011

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    Married And Boring Of Same Routine

    I feel sad and frustrated I feel that my husband doesn't attract me anymore, he doesn't satisfied me and any little argument becomes a huge one. I'm starting to believe that is not love I'm just use to him. This happened since he cheat it on me, but now I want to experiment with...
    marriedbutunhappy2012 marriedbutunhappy2012 31-35 3 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    Someone Help Me

    In august of 2010, I was dealing with my father's death and had anxiety and panic attacks. My husband needed his needs met too. I needed a little break, because I felt I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I asked for a little break not knowing what timeline or anything. We...
    Krnpwll Krnpwll 36-40 Feb 5, 2012

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    Unhappy And Scared

    Married 18 years and about 2 years ago my husband went thru bad depression. Ever since them I'm not good enough. He says I don't love him enough no matter what I do or how hard I try. Recently I found a dating app on his phone and of course I made him Do this as I don't love him...
    Unhappychelle Unhappychelle 36-40 1 Response Jan 29, 2012

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    Extremely Unhappy

    This is a story I don't think anyone will believe. I am currently married for 28 years with no kids.  For the past couple of years, my husband has been making my life a living hell because we don't have children.  Every little thing sets him off.  I have to be...
    MarriedLady MarriedLady 51-55 12 Responses Jul 15, 2009

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    Betrayed And Taken Forgranted

      I am married but feeling betrayed, lonely, hurt and taken for granted. We got married 4 years ago but live together for 14 years, Years ago I found out that my husband posted his profile in a local and overseas dating site. I spoke with some women he chatted and went...
    lonelyhere11 lonelyhere11 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Married To Soon

    Hello everyone, I met my second husband at the gym .  we went to school together but had not seen each other for 30 years.  My husband was crazy about me right off the bat.  I was not so crazy about him.  He did per sue me and said he loved me not long after...
    janie85 janie85 51-55 2 Responses Oct 23, 2010

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    Fml for being so negative all the time.

    Things that make me happy are... Not having you around! Uff!!
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Extremely Unhappy

    This is a story I don't think anyone will believe. I am currently married for 28 years with no kids.  For the past couple of years, my husband has been making my life a living hell because we don't have children.  Every little thing sets him off.  I have to be...
    MarriedLady MarriedLady 51-55 3 Responses Jul 15, 2009

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    Remember The 80s

    Anybody here who remembers TV in the 1980s will remember this one: My wife is so charming, she tells me she's losing her sex drive because she's getting older. I know she's lying, she's no longer attracted to me. She dos ****, she talks trash with her friend about cheating and...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    2 Months

    I have been married 2 months. When i met my husband he was the sweetest most loving guy there was and head over heels in love with me. I know he still loves me but he seems to think that now were married thats it we can each live our lives comfortably side by side but not...
    Losthope1987 Losthope1987 22-25 1 Response Jul 21, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I had an affair with a married man.. At first I didn't know that until he told me after we started to get serious! I'm a 18 yr old guy who is gay. He is very DL which his wife didn...
    avabooboo avabooboo 18-21, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    In an effort to make a long story short, I will sum up by saying that I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs and we started dating in high school 15 yrs ago. We had our first...
    Jme0925 Jme0925 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 10

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      I feel I have mentally checked out of this marriage months ago. I keep trying to deny my feelings and think everything is okay and not that bad. I am tired of being...
    Goddess65 Goddess65 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I am 24. I've been married to my husband for just over 2 years. We have no children. We met in college, dated for only 6 months before getting engaged, and were married almost 2...
    swimcoachpro swimcoachpro 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    That moments when you can't find employment and can't live of credit because cards are max and your husbands just sits back and watch! Domestic house keeping the number one...
    peoplesHere peoplesHere 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So let me start out to say I'm not a home wrecker. But I've been secretly in love with a man that's married for about a year. I say secretly because not even he knows. I get angry...
    Katsumi90 Katsumi90 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I want to be happy once again, I truly do. But, it seems like we aren't like we used to be. We used to be in love so much, it made others jealous. Now, we are falling apart by the...
    mysteriousluna mysteriousluna 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    I had children fairly young (my first at 22) and and married at 23. I've found myself deeply unhappy as my marriage has progressed. I tried to leave my husband a few years ago, but...
    tlhwk tlhwk 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 4

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