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I Am Married, But Desire Kinkier Sex Than My Spouse

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    I'm kinky as hell. But that's not

    even the problem. I can tone it down. I can be happy just making love to my wife. But here's the the picture for this group it says "Vanilla" at the bottom, well, I would be thrilled with Vanilla! I don't even get vanilla anymore. The best I can describe it is...
    YourSecret1983 YourSecret1983
    31-35, M
    Sep 16, 2015

    I've been trying to get my wife to open up

    but so far I keep hitting a wall. I'm happy in my marriage in every other way so maybe I should just be happy with this as well. Make peace with it and be done.
    Friday1979 Friday1979
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Mar 30, 2015

    Silk Scarves, Illicit Secrets, And No Regrets...

    I was in a good marriage that was only miss-matched in that one area. She, completely, seamlessly vanilla. Me, very passionate about kinky fantasies, with both the desire and the ability to live them out. I am a writer, which makes things both easier and more difficult...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 16, 2012

    But He Loves Me More

    My husband is vigorous about sex, and can **** almost daily if he's not otherwise pre-occupied. He's a very normal man, but kinder and happier, and loves me more than I deserve -- and I have learned to accept this, because (as my mother says), no one deserves love. Love is...
    auroramaru auroramaru
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Mar 18, 2012

    I attend a lot of conventions

    as a vendor and I fantasize often about someone coming up to my booth and starting to flirt with me, maybe "running into me" around the con at different panels. Then going to the after parties and finding me maybe asking me if I have dinner plans afterwards. (Would need to be...
    Ronin616 Ronin616
    31-35, M
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    Just Give A Little...

    Our sex life is not totally vanilla, but I wish she would take it a little bit farther. She knows she is in charge, but lately it is me doing ALL of the work. There have been times where she actually just wants to play with me while I just lay there and enjoy (although lately...
    hatetowork hatetowork
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2013

    Will I Have Killed This Side Of Me?

    I can not help but wonder, with the phrase 'use it or lose it' echoing in my mind if I will ever be able to get back to the type of open, exploratory and playful attitude to sex that I once had... Do any of you, living in relationships that require you to shut down so much of...
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses Oct 23, 2010

    Is it weird that I sometimes want him to

    imagine I'm someone else just to make it more exciting for him? I love my husband but sometimes I like to imagine he's someone else for fun. Sometimes I imagine he's imagining I'm another woman. It's fun for me to pretend I'm someone else as well! I'm sure he does it, I just...
    deleted deleted
    13 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    I wish just once my husband would tie me to the

    bed. And let his friends or strangers use me for the night.
    NaughtyMegan NaughtyMegan
    41-45, F
    21 Responses Apr 28, 2015

    It Is Always The Same

    My wife is enthusiastic but very vanilla. It's always the same sequence of events and the same position (singular). I want it is different places, different holes, in front of other people, with other people. I keep trying to approach the topic of swinging but I always get shot...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 28, 2010

    Tired Of Being Bored

    My wife is a lights out, in the bed, on her back, get it over with kind of girl. I want to explore more, every once in a while she will try something different, and even daring however I never feel like she is enjoying it, so I dont push the topic. I have never, but would like...
    danno1212 danno1212
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 6, 2011

    A Lesbian Women ****** Mom A Married Women

    When I was younger growing up. There was this women who always toke the liking to my mother quite often not all the time but at times. Im not sure what attracks another person to the same sex but for some reasion this women who knew my mother wanted to have mom in her own...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 22, 2011

    What are we supposed to do?

    In four hours it will be midnight. If we are to engage, it will start around then and take about ten minutes and then we pull our underwear back up, roll over, and pass out. Wish we could start much earlier and do some experimenting. We are so completely mismatched...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 24, 2015

    It's so frustrating when your spouse is

    so doggone satisfied and you're so bored!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 16, 2016

    Perhaps because I've had no release in the last

    three nights, I had an amazing dream. It was so vivid! I dreamed that a friend of my wife's and I got busy... Very busy. Ten years I have kind of lusted for her when I allowed myself. The dream ended with us trying to see how long my tongue was and of it was long...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly
    36-40, M
    1 Response Sep 14, 2015

    Just love to experiment

    and keep it fresh
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 23, 2015

    At Least She Tries...kinda

    I have always been into somewhat kinky things. No whips or chains or anything but I like light bondage and deepthroat and stuff like that. The biggest issue is I like pegging I've enjoyed anal stimulation for 12 years now never with the real thing always with a *****. After fours...
    wishmywifewould wishmywifewould
    26-30, M
    5 Responses Dec 14, 2011

    She Is Rather Traditional

    In think I look at too much ****. I get too many ideas but it takes two to tango.
    roadrunner540 roadrunner540
    46-50, M
    8 Responses Apr 18, 2011

    Spouse for the sex we get,

    erotic literature and videos for the sex we want. Ten years and going!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2015
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Apr 28, 2015

    I have cheated. I am not proud

    but it has sometimes been incredibly hot. A few things: I don't want to be anyone's daddy. I have older kids and being a daddy during sex is yucky. I can and will be dominant and spank a bit. I don't like for you to call me sir or be obedient to me outside of the bedroom. I like...
    intenselycomplicated intenselycomplicated
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    Not Kinky....just Not Plain Vanilla!

    I don't even know how to say what I am thinking or feeling here.  I am just tired of infrequent lackluster routine intimacy!   I am tired of the same old same old every time and waiting 2-3 weeks in between at that!It is not about being kinky!  It is about showing your love...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 16, 2011

    Shoes, Skirts And Desire

    My wife wears only flat soled shoes. She has always said heels don't suit her. Funny thing. Anyone knows heels are not the best for a woman's ankles and back, but women who care to be exciting wear heels so that men will know they mean to be enjoyed. Women don't wear heels...
    BeMYBadGirl BeMYBadGirl
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 9, 2011

    Yes this is my every day life,

    I have a wonderful wife but she is just vanilla when it comes to sex, I of course developed my bisexual and lifestyle early in age and being a sexual person my needs and desires pass hers with the needs so I have to go and experience these with others.
    alexiswcd alexiswcd
    56-60, T
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

    Kinkier Online Anyway....

    My wife and I have great sex in every way except that she has no interest in playing with me online or even what I do sexually on the internet at all. She loves to pose for pics and dress slutty, she likes other girls and doesn't mind if I do too, in fact she's a perfectly...
    hjohnlin hjohnlin
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jun 14, 2012

    A Lesbian Women ****** Mom A Married Women

    When I was younger growing up. There was this women who always toke the liking to my mother quite often not all the time but at times. Im not sure what attracks another person to the same sex but for some reasion this women who knew my mother wanted to have mom in her own...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 22, 2011
    happilymarriedguy happilymarriedguy
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 24, 2015

    So Now What Do I Do?

    Do you stay married to a person who has a different sex drive than yourself or different view towards sex in general? After all that I have been through I have realized that my husband will NEVER be able to be the man in bed that I desire. So what do I do? Stay unhappily married...
    LivingInMyDreams LivingInMyDreams
    26-30, F
    16 Responses Dec 21, 2010

    Wanting More And Not Knowing What It Is Or How To Ask For It

    I want to have a more in sex but how to as for it.... I want to start a ANR with my husband and have no clue of how to let him know that it what I'm looking for.... I have asked for spanking and am receiving them...I just wish he would push me harder toward my limits...I want to...
    RebelBarbi RebelBarbi
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2010

    ...opportunities slip by.

    .. If only they knew our sacrifice!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly
    36-40, M
    1 Response Sep 23, 2014

    Is it wrong? Wife is very conservative

    and not wanting anything but conventional
    Oldermancda Oldermancda
    61-65, M
    4 Responses Apr 7, 2015

    Really Do...

    She is so Plain Jane. Before I met her had either lived with or had relationships with young woman or woman who enjoyed playing and pushing limits. Had some great esxpereinces when I was single and when in relationships. Things that I would want to do are way beyond her realm...
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Oct 5, 2010

    A Turn Of Events

    Would be interested in hearing from both if you on this. This is real not fiction and would very much value you your thoughts, opinions and advice. I have been trying to get input and advice on this situation and was wondering if you might take the time. Please. Please...
    36-40, M
    1 Response May 13, 2013

    I am surely not the only woman

    that wants to get kinky and my man who by the way would make a perfect dom but he will not even consider any kind of kinky play at all!
    Noahsgirlforever Noahsgirlforever
    51-55, F
    8 Responses Jul 11, 2015
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