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I Am Married But Gay

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 384 People

    Guys,Please Help Me

    I'm born and brought up in an Orthodox family. At somepoint a need arised to come out of my home and meet external world for profession. I started getting same sexual attraction from certain point of time and got confused if im Gay. But i had full self control and hence thoughts...
    raghul84 raghul84
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2013

    Becoming A Gay Husband

    Well, here is my story to add to all the others here. I find that there are more of us married gay males than I expected. I really thought I was in a group of one when all this started happening to me. I kept waiting for things to change for the better in my marriage but instead...
    biturnedgay biturnedgay
    51-55, M
    12 Responses May 20, 2012

    My Marriage Is A Lie

    This is my story: I am 25 years old and have been married now for about 5 years. It was great at first and then over the last 2 years or so, it has slowly been getting worse and worse. When I was about 15 I had my first experience with a guy and thought nothing of it. Up until...
    deathtrapdaisy23 deathtrapdaisy23
    22-25, M
    11 Responses Jul 29, 2012

    At least this website confirmed

    that there are many more like me. Sharing and writing your story brings some relief. I always knew I was gay, but met this wonderful woman when I was 25 years old. I was very excited as I did not only like her as a friend, but also got aroused by her, so I never thought the gay...
    Ddeist Ddeist
    46-50, M
    7 Responses Jan 6, 2014

    Hello everyone, I am new here.

    I hope to discuss with others who are in same boat as me. I got married 15 years ago despite knowing that I am gay. I wanted to have a regular family life and I love kids that was the main reason for marrying a women. She is a great wife and mother, but I am not really attracted...
    marriedgayindian marriedgayindian
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 27, 2015

    Gay And Married...

    As the title describes, I'm a closeted gay and married to a woman!! It's an interesting journey that I'm going through, but I can't blame anyone, because that was my choice & I choose this path being completely aware of the consequences. I was just wondering if there are other...
    manomamk manomamk
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Jun 12, 2013

    Feelings Are Getting Stronger

    Been married 20yrs and been happy, but have always had a fantasy about being with a man and sharing each other. The longer I go the more intense the feeling is. Have never had a gay experience but I know if the right person and situation came around I would go for it 100...
    JamDr JamDr
    41-45, M
    15 Responses Jul 10, 2012

    Where Do I Go From Here?

    I just turned 40 this year, yet I'm still as confused as I was in high school. For all intents and purposes, I live the ideal life. I have the million dollar family. I have a beautiful wife, two adorable children and a gentle and loving yellow lab. Life has been good to me and I...
    1GayMarried 1GayMarried
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Nov 11, 2013

    I am gay but have been married

    for almost 15 years. It has been a painful journey so far. Come from very conservative indian family. Have two kids. I hope to chat with other men who are in the same situation. I live in SF bay area. Thanks
    marriedgayindian marriedgayindian
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 27, 2015

    I am reading my own story over

    and over. It is oddly comforting. I am 45 y/o. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 20 years and have 2 grown kids who make me proud to be a father. I followed the heterosexual lifestyle mainly to please my parents...or I should say to avoid their disapproval. I...
    FearCaillte FearCaillte
    46-50, M
    6 Responses Jun 7, 2015

    My First Time With A Man... I Wanted Him Bad!!!

    I still can't belive I am going to share my story with anyone.... I wonder if anyone reads it...???????? The first time is ALWAYS the best.. There is never anything to compare that to... Now I will tell you about my 1st time and then my 2nd time... I was a paper boy and...
    Scott334 Scott334
    1 Response Sep 7, 2012

    Learning To Be Me

    I never wanted to be gay, after-all who would? As a young man all I wanted was to have a normal loving family, wife, kids, dog, semi-d, basically, a normal and uneventful life. As a teenager I had a number of small crushes on other guys, nothing special. In my twenties I moved...
    runtom runtom
    61-65, M
    12 Responses Oct 12, 2012

    I Am

    I am I am 44 years old.  I have been married for 25 years to the woman I fell in love with at first sight, to my best friend.  We have two boys, 17 and 11.  Great kids who idolize me…I am the cool dad that “relates” to them and their likes.  I am also gay…always been...
    Ralphsnt69 Ralphsnt69
    51-55, M
    17 Responses May 11, 2012

    Gay But Got Married To A Woman Anyways

    Well to start off she was my best friend before we were anything and she knew I was gay, things kinda progressed fast and then she found out that she was Pregnant then we decided to get married, I was happy until recently we are almost married for four years but together for five...
    Bwayne1987 Bwayne1987
    26-30, M
    7 Responses Jul 22, 2013

    Well here goes. I am a married man

    but have always known I am gay. I have been married twice but really desire men. I have two children who I love and a family who wouldn't understand my being gay. I have hidden it as well as I could but my desire to be who I was meant to be is becoming harder to resist. What...
    gaybutmarried812 gaybutmarried812
    46-50, M
    4 Responses May 6, 2014

    "The Perfect Couple"

    I've been married for 27 yrs, I came out to my wife 15 years ago. My daughter was only about 1 yr old. We'd been "trying" to get pregnant for about 10 yrs so when it finally happened we were overjoyed.Me in particular because that niggling feeling of being gay in the back of my...
    aussiegaymarried aussiegaymarried
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2013

    I'm a young gay man, about to marry a young

    straight woman soon. It's an arranged marriage; I belong to a rather conservative culture where men are a bit dominant and women are much gentle, submissive, and often ready to compromise for the sake of husband's family and societal prestige. Marriages are most often a life...
    VeryNiceDude VeryNiceDude
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2014

    Losing It

    I’ve been a married guy for a long time now. I’ve been reasonably happy in my married life but I’ve always felt the need for a physical connection with another guy to complete the picture. The times in my life when I have been most satisfied have been the times when I had...
    MarriedM4M MarriedM4M
    66-70, M
    2 Responses Oct 12, 2013

    People Wonder Why I Am Married To A Woman If I Love ****

    you know it is funny how many have asked me why i married a woman since i like sex with guys. as you can tell from my first few stories i have had sex with guys and loved it. the think is i was about 16 and a friend of mine told me that i should start to date girls so people...
    gdickman gdickman
    61-65, M
    1 Response Oct 17, 2013

    Seeing A Married Man

    I have been seeing a married man for about two years now. He was a co worker friend we were at a party we hooked up and had a good time that night. About a week later we went out to a local gay bar and I went home with him and s-(ked and had sex with him that night. We met a...
    Ryan1kc Ryan1kc
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Feb 3, 2013

    Realization has completed It self...

    Well... Let me start by saying that my wife has really always known that I am pretty much all gay, I call my self "BI" only in the sense my wife is the only female I would really ever have sex with. These last couple years the feeling in me have deepened, the weight on my...
    dragonsteel dragonsteel
    26-30, M
    7 Responses Jan 14, 2012

    Becoming A Gay Husband/p2

    OK, well this is part 2 of my true story titled Becoming a Gay Husband. I left off with coming out to my sexy but straight wife. We were both 42 at this time and I could no longer handle the reality that my wife only wanted me sexually twice a year or so. I had fallen deep into...
    biturnedgay biturnedgay
    51-55, M
    22 Responses May 20, 2012

    I know I'm gay but I'm going to marry a woman

    soon! I love her very much and I'm sure I can't have any woman better than her in my life. As things stand, I can't marry a man ever (that's not even an option for me considering my cultural background, and I'm not going to explain that part here). So I have always accepted this...
    VeryNiceDude VeryNiceDude
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Sep 19, 2015

    My Story

    My Story I met my soul-mate wife in 1999. We fell in love over the internet, long before it became popular. We had intercourse often at first. It turns out, she was in pain 99% of the time and only did it to satisfy me. We got married in 2000 and by then it was pretty much...
    dugdug59 dugdug59
    61-65, M
    1 Response Aug 8, 2013

    Blue Glass

    I’ve always had a thing for blue-collar guys. Maybe it’s because I grew up with a lot of blue-collar guys. Maybe it’s because I could have been a blue-collar guy myself. As it happened, that’s not how things turned out. I was the first person in my family to go to college...
    MarriedM4M MarriedM4M
    66-70, M
    Oct 8, 2013

    Married But Gay..

    I am 21 it's old, been married for 3 years...always had feelings for men but his them. Now I just can't hide it no more. It's tearing me up inside and I know it's hurting my wife. I have been getting more an more distant....I love her but I can't hide it no more. What do I do...
    Curiousperson99 Curiousperson99
    26-30, M
    9 Responses Sep 17, 2013

    Finally My Wifes Sissy ******....

    Well its been a while but my relationship with my wife now takes me to a gay married man in an open relationship with sex now being denied from my wife. I commented before, I have been married for 20 years and have been out of the closet ONLY to my wife for the past 10 years...
    Girlygirlhusband Girlygirlhusband
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2013


    First of all, I don't fall into this category because I'm not married and I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual because I have feelings for both guys and girls although I tend to lean towards the former more. The story I want to share is about my relationship with two bi/gay married men...
    kelvinng90 kelvinng90
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jul 22, 2013

    GETTING IT I got a message the other day from a

    guy saying that he thought my stories were interesting but that he really didn't get it about guys wanting to have sex with other guys. He said he could understand that it might happen under certain exceptional circumstances -- all male environments (prisons, boy scout camps...
    MarriedM4M MarriedM4M
    66-70, M
    1 Response Dec 27, 2013

    You Owe It To Yourself And Your Wife To Get Out Of It!

    I recently read Bonnie Kaye’s book ‘Over the cliff’ (2009), I found myself angry, saddened, horrified, gob-smacked and but mainly angry. If you read nothing more of what I have to say here, just take 2 things; 1) Your sexual orientation is nothing you have to apologise for...
    Denimnight Denimnight
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Jun 11, 2012

    The Year Of A Resolution

    So many good things have been happening in my life since the last time I shared my story when I wrote "I Am". As I look back at my anniversary of finding out that I was HIV+ I can see that this last year was one full of regrets and self loathing. And it would have  continue to...
    Ralphsnt69 Ralphsnt69
    51-55, M
    7 Responses Jul 17, 2012

    I'm new here. I'm gay

    and married to a woman. She now knows. I am struggling BIG time! I don't seem to care about anything these days!
    LostGuy2 LostGuy2
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Jan 25, 2016

    All I Want Is Happiness - My Story

    Well where do I begin... I'm a gay indian guy living in South Africa. When I was around 2 - 3 years old, I was sexually abused by my Nanny's son. That experience changed me as a person, and made me grow up faster and mature up a lot quicker. I know this may sound stupid but in a...
    IndianGuySA IndianGuySA
    22-25, M
    Sep 27, 2013

    She Finally Did It...

    Well, my wife, who is a hot sexy woman finally was fed up with my limp **** and me constantly being a sissy ***** little girl. She says that she understands I was born gay and that I am more feminine that masculine which is why I can not be a real man.   Although she said she...
    Girlygirlhusband Girlygirlhusband
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

    My best friend just told his wife of eight years

    that he has been having an affair with a man for the past year. He called off the affair with his male lover to work on the marriage. He is gay. And he has shared with his wife explicit details of what he did in the affair with the man. The wife's initial response was that of...
    newlyout newlyout
    1 Response Dec 18, 2014

    Met An Asian Boy On-Line

    He wanted sucked off and I agreed to meet him in my mini-van. It was raining so i was hoping we could find somewhere to park. We found a quiet lot and I parked in the back. He never said a word or looked me in the face, but just rolled his pants down to his knees. His ***** was...
    Scott0104947 Scott0104947
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jun 11, 2013

    I have been married to my husband

    for just over 10 years. I have the fear that he is gay. I have found no direct relation to him being gay but I don't really know for sure what to look for. I know he isn't a 'typical' man, he can go months without ever wanting or even attempting to to initiate sex. Can...
    Sharibeary Sharibeary
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 4, 2014

    Paul was my best friend from grade school all

    the way through high school. We grew up in the same neighborhood and always played sports together. Paul was a second baseman. He was built like a second baseman, muscular and compact. It was unbelievable how much ground he could cover while he was bent over chasing a ground...
    MarriedM4M MarriedM4M
    66-70, M
    3 Responses Jan 10, 2014

    Im just a normal guy ,

    born and raised in UK, however I am lebanese and Arab. I miss the male bonding I found within our culture with other men. It would be nice to meet other men who are str8 bi or gay , married who understand the...
    Str8Arab Str8Arab
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

    So Where Do I Start??

    I've been married for 21years, have a beautiful daughter and a very caring wife. I knew there was something 'different' about me many, many years ago. I had a few male sexual experiences in my late teens, and very much enjoyed them. I then met my wife to be, I was 21 and she was...
    CJS68 CJS68
    41-45, M
    11 Responses Feb 6, 2013

    Gay Husband Married To Straight Wife

    One of the best or worst parts about the Internet is that it makes you realize you are not alone.  Since I was a kid, I have felt I might be gay, yet it was something I could not accept nor tell anyone.  In high school and college, I would go to those dirty book...
    mareb mareb
    46-50, M
    41 Responses May 6, 2010

    I am married she now knows i am fully gay

    after adjusting and we agreeing to stay together now in an open marriage relationship she has found other lovers as i have .
    alexiswcd alexiswcd
    56-60, T
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2016

    Always Gay, But Married And Hiding It

    Hello, my name is chip. Looking back, I probably had my first gay thoughts before I was 10. My first crush was Billy, in 6th. grade, nothing happenned of course. My first experience with another boy was when I was 15 and it was kinda, "you suck me and I'll suck you". It went on...
    Chip1957 Chip1957
    51-55, M
    10 Responses Aug 17, 2012

    Tell Me The Truth

    every gay men want a man who love him very much but i think a gay never satisfy a gay in sex coz every gay have girlish feeling and a girl like only men.not gay .so every gay men want a men not gay.than how it can be possible to complete sex desire with a gay .or a straight men...
    pankajpandit pankajpandit
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Mar 31, 2013

    I just want to say thanks to all the guys

    who have posted their stories here there are many of us that have posted hope many more will post we all live in this crazy world I believe that it is ok to be who we are .i do not have sex with every guy who comes along but when I meet a guy who I am attracted to and we like...
    july55guy july55guy
    3 Responses Jan 30, 2014

    Where Do I Go From Here

    It is our wedding anniversary today. Halloween nine years ago we married at a public park with no one but our parents as witnesses. It was never a difficult marriage. We rarely fought and we shared most of the chores. Then, I started therapy for increasing anxiety. I never...
    13thgen 13thgen
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Oct 31, 2012

    My Story

    My Story I met my soul-mate wife in 1999. We fell in love over the internet, long before it became popular. We had intercourse often at first. It turns out, she was in pain 99% of the time and only did it to satisfy me. We got married in 2000 and by then it was pretty much...
    dugdug59 dugdug59
    61-65, M
    1 Response Aug 6, 2013

    My Awakening...

    I guess that I've known I was gay since I was about 14... At the time coming out would have never been an option for me. When I was I my late teens and early 20s I had some encounters with men. I enjoyed the experiences, but still struggled with admitting my true orientation. I...
    Therealdean Therealdean
    51-55, M
    1 Response Nov 10, 2013

    I have been married over 30 years.

    My wife knew that I was gay when we married. She even knew my ex's. She put a lot of pressure on me to take the leap. We both hoped it was just a phase. Well it wasn't. Sex never was never anything special with her. No regrets though cause without her I would have never had my...
    lostthoughtsreturn lostthoughtsreturn
    56-60, M
    Jan 28, 2016
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