I Am Married But In Love With Someone Else

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    Hi everyone, I am a 45 years woman married,

    have been with my husband for the last 22 years, we have to kids 16 and 12. I've been unhappy and struggling with depression for the last 3 years. My husband treats me well but for some reason I am unhappy. Our sexual life is very bad and I don't have any feelings for him...
    luna0169 luna0169
    46-50, F
    5 Responses May 25, 2014

    I am overwhelmed by my feelings

    for him. It is difficult and confusing. I think our entire situation helps to motivate the other. Both of us are believers in a world of haters. I think it is hard for most people to understand the perfection that exists behind closed doors, when we are holding one another...
    saturnsdaughter saturnsdaughter
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2014


    I'm 47 year old man. I've been married for 17 years, but have fallen out of love with my wife. I've tried for several years to rekindle the spark, but it's dead. We used to be so close. We did everything together. About 2 years ago, my wife changed religions. She is in denial...
    traveler440 traveler440
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 19, 2012

    I've been married a long time

    now with my high school sweetheart. Although people may think I'm a jerk for longing to be with someone else, it is I that has always worked to keep our marriage and relationship together. Things changed immediately after we got married. She became extremely jealous, she accused...
    philip5488 philip5488
    41-45, M
    Mar 7, 2015

    I keep trying to fight these feelings

    but I just can't. Idk what to do anymore. This is the first time I have ever said this "out loud" I'm hoping it makes me feel better.
    confusedinlove83 confusedinlove83
    31-35, F
    Feb 20, 2015

    I'm 33 have 3 kids been married a few years now.

    Things started off great but quickly started going down hill. Found out he took my younger sister on a date, supposedly nothing physical happened & my sister Denys it. He went through a gambling phase, also asked me to join him in texting his ex gf/baby mama to see what her...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 10, 2015

    Maybe if i keep getting it off my chest it will

    go away.... I am in the same dilemma, the only difference is i am in love with my first love (i should say still in love after 12years) , he also says he loves me but we haven't dared cross a physical line, because were afraid it would break up his or my family i sacrificed my...
    TristeMuneca87 TristeMuneca87
    26-30, F
    Jun 21, 2014

    I was dumped by the woman I love.

    We remain friends--she introduced me to my wife--and she knows that I still love her. When she visits I get hugs and kisses...and my heart breaks each time This has been going on for 25 years
    slowman0000 slowman0000
    61-65, M
    1 Response Jul 18, 2015

    I liked it better when I was blissfully unaware

    that I was not happy. I have come to realize that what I fear most in life is waking up and it being 30 years from now and I never risked venturing out into the unknown. Who am I without my children and spouse? As of this moment they are and have been my only identity for the...
    alonesurroundedbypeople alonesurroundedbypeople
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2013

    My heart is feeling lonely just thinking about

    him 24/7...I feel so sad that I can't be with him 😔
    SoUnpredictable26 SoUnpredictable26
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 4, 2014


    I am torn. I am married and falling in love with someone else. I love and care about my husband very much and he feels the same about me. But we constantly bicker, argue, disagree. We met in 2001 in June and were married by October. And at first our marriage was rocky. I know...
    21bumbleb 21bumbleb
    1 Response May 10, 2012

    Okay, not really sure how to begin

    or what may come of this. I have recently started talking to a childhood friend and things got serious pretty fast. We are both married and have children and we don't want to hurt our kids. Nothing physical has happened but I will admit there was definitely an emotional affair...
    onthefence25 onthefence25
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015

    I have this amazing women in my life

    and things are very complicated as we are both married. My marriage is failing and is coming to an end please see my other post. The thing is I have fell in love with this women how could I not we have the same interests and thoughts we have connected on a level I never thought...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2014

    I am currently going through a phase in my life

    where I have become a teen ager again..It is blissfull ! The same excitement, the same heart ache, the same day dreaming..the sleepless nights full of thoughts, associating memories with dumb romantic songs, imagining those songs with your “____” and many other small things...
    marriagesecretdiaries marriagesecretdiaries
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 30, 2015

    How do you know if it's love

    or just friendship love? Really confused...
    Shortie82 Shortie82
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2014

    I am 24. I've been married to my husband

    for just over 2 years. We have no children. We met in college, dated for only 6 months before getting engaged, and were married almost 2 years later. Throughout our marriage we have had our highs and lows, mostly lows. I have caught him texting past girlfriends more than once...
    swimcoachpro swimcoachpro
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2014

    Hi hope someone can help I'm married

    but I have fell in love with someone I don't love my husband the only thing is the person I fell in love with deleted me as a friend on facebook as he doesn't want us get caught out is this being genuine.
    Zoe86 Zoe86
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Aug 10, 2014

    Still Thinking About Him

    I am still thinking about this special guy throughout the day. I sometimes wonder what he's doing and when will he be back to the house. My heart feels like its weak every time I think about him. I'm married. Why am I feeling this way?
    jessgeevum jessgeevum
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 31, 2013

    Wtf?? What such irony.

    .......why would you think about loving someone else if the person you love is right there?? Honestly it wasn't love that brought you together, that's what's special about a marriage that lasts forever :) almost a rarity nowadays BTW I am not married not ever was....
    XannaleiseX XannaleiseX
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

    As the title says...I recently fell in love

    with someone. Sparkles are in the air. He woos me and my feet is off the ground. I feel so excited to see him. Even talking to him gives me a rush. We are both sort of young and married. We seem to be happily married but apparently not so. We never talked about this. But it's...
    sleeplessin sleeplessin
    31-35, F
    Apr 23, 2014

    Married, But In Love With My First Love...

    I have been married for 10 years, with him for 14 years. I am 35 years old, and he is 47 with many health issues. My first love and I have been friends since we 4. We have on and off relationships over the years. When my husband asked me to marry him I told my friend and he said...
    jenmcc jenmcc
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 1, 2013

    5 days since I had any contact with the other

    man. Spent a really good day with hubby yesterday and am again reminded what an awesome man he is! How much he loves me. I'm trying so hard! My husband works swing shifts and long hours so I have a lot of time on my hands. That's when it's hardest. I try to stay busy. I don't...
    Queenbee1960 Queenbee1960
    56-60, F
    Jul 18, 2015

    i married my wife about a year ago

    and now we have a child but I realized that although I love her, as beautiful as she is, my heart was NEVER available for her to claim. I feel like **** because she's an AMAZING woman, mother and wife but I just know that I'm SUPPOSE to be with her but my heart doesn't belong to...
    HueBLew HueBLew
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jun 10, 2015

    It wasn't supposed to happen.

    ..these things never should. It began as harmless banter and commiserating about marriages that were not fulfilling. It appeared we were kindred spirits with an affinity to spiritual things and YET we felt an emptiness in the very relationships that were supposed to give us...
    pink50 pink50
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    I recently met and fell in love with someone

    other than my wife. She and I are both in decent but wholly unfulfiling marriages of 10+ years. We both have two young children. When she and I are together we are both happier than we have been in 10+ years, possibly our entire lives. The temptation to file for divorce and...
    kydadof2 kydadof2
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 1, 2015

    I have written this story in many different

    ways. It's going on two years. I'm in love with asomeone. I can't shake him. I don't even know if he feels the same way. We definitely had many flirtatious moments. He once said he couldn't get involved because I was married. But two years later, I play this silly game, I text...
    sally7 sally7
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 6, 2014
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