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I Am Married But Lonely and Lost

Still in love with my spouse but somewhere along the way we lost ourselves and each other. Most days it seems it feels like you are living with your bestfriend 403 People

    NJLonely NJLonely 36-40, M Sep 20, 2014

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    It's late and I'm lonely

    and want to feel love
    NJLonely NJLonely 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 27, 2014

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    DaveInNH53 DaveInNH53 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 25, 2014

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    My husband of 8 years had an affair last year

    with a co-worker. He says it's over with her and that he wants to work on our marriage, but I always question if it is true or not. We've done well this year, except for the last three weeks - we've been fighting a lot and not communicating well. We have two small children...
    crowngirl54 crowngirl54 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 2, 2014

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    I am at the point I am regretting not turning

    my back before! I am so lost on what course of action I should take! I feel very unappreciated, unloved, not cared for, and the last one on my husbands priority list! Last year he hung himself in front of me while I was 2 months pregnant with our second daughter! I was able to...
    Abrow032 Abrow032 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2013

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    Want My Best Friend and Husband Back

    I have been married for 9 years and the first few years were wonderful and exciting.  I got ill and still am its hard for me to do most things because of the pain.  I try, we use to love to go to auctions and antique shopping, just spending as much time together as...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    I Don't Know If I Ever Did

    When I met my now husband I was 22 and inexperienced in life, love or anything for that matter. I was good at never saying no and always aiming to make people happy. Three years later, I am married with a child and cry almost every night because I feel so lost and confused. I...
    dp18 dp18 22-25 2 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Inspireme1 Inspireme1 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2014

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    I'm trying to help her understand the issues

    that consume our relationship in hopes that things will get better. I worry that she may not be comprehending what I'm saying though. or has the will to put for effort so we can both rebuild our foundation.
    Renegade2300 Renegade2300 26-30, M Jan 19

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    Lost in my own feelings

    and emotions!!!! If my wife still loves me she doesn't show it and I don't feel it. All I feel is that its not the same as it was and I'm not sure it ever will be. Maybe I'm wrong but I can't ignore those feelings.
    meme111111 meme111111 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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    So I recently started an affair,

    I know it was wrong but I have been trying so hard to fix my marriage for over a year and I didn't mean to find someone else, someone from my past. So my husband does not know about the affair (it's only been going on for a month) and he recently decided to make an "effort...
    fer5 fer5 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 25, 2014

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    I am brand new here. I'm not

    even sure what I'm doing.... but here is my first story. My "experience" is married but lonely and lost. I picked that from the list, but I suppose it is apt. It is the main reason I am here. I can sum it up by saying that after 15 years of marriage, we just fell out of love...
    ryderdarkfold ryderdarkfold 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I am so lost right now.

    I've had a crap weekend too.......... Sometimes I just want to find a corner to curl up and die in. The only thing keeping me going is my children......
    DailyEdition DailyEdition 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    How I Got Cancer And Still A Live But I Miss Your Hands In Mine

    all a round me smoked but not i so i was thinking as they did i did for most of my life but on day i had a bump and i want to the doc and it was cancer by 2nd hand smoke
    lov2cum4u lov2cum4u 56-60, M Nov 19, 2013

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    I'm Lost He Makes Me Lonely

    Which is weird because being married is where you are supposed to feel  safe and part of a team, the two of you becoming one, or perhaps I am just living in an old fashioned fantasy where getting married was a big decision because it meant forever and ever happy together...
    spiderb spiderb 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2008

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    Today is my birthday,

    my first in my 3 month old marriage. We knew each other for many many years before marriage and even lived together for couple of years. Nowadays we do everything apart. If at all we spend time with each other we end up fighting. I can't believe the mistake I made- and I don't...
    tess2015 tess2015 31-35 4 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Really!

    Not sure I want to tell my whole story yet.I'm just frustrated because as a women I cant say certain things to my husband without him getting pissy or turning it all around. I've asked for years that he dont smoke in the house but he does everyday. Like tonight, I'm laying in bed...
    Jeepergirl Jeepergirl 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2011

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    Well today marks the anniversary of my first

    husband's death and it is always a very hard time of year for me! He died from a vidicon overdose, he was functioning addict who let on no signs of addiction and kept it hidden from everyone (his addiction started when we had a serious injury on the job that led to him being...
    irish829 irish829 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 16, 2014

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    Why Does He Always Do This To Me?

    I awoke this morning to feel strong arms being wrapped around me. I could feel my husband snuggling against me. I then began to feel him trailing kisses on my back and neck. I thought I must be dreaming. I couldn't believe it. This hasn't happened in ages. He slowly ******** my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    I am so lonely. I dedicated my life to my

    children and husband. Now my children are grown and have their own families. My hubby has changed careers and is gone out of town Monday thru Friday.
    JustMeMichigan JustMeMichigan 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Unbelievable Marriage

    I am extremely lonely in my marriage and do not know which way to turn. She doesn't communicate her feelings with me and it is driving me up the wall. I am extremely frustrated.
    onelovin onelovin 41-45 1 Response Nov 19, 2011

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    The Secretary

    I've been married to my husband for 4yrs and he is absolutely the love of my life, but he's has expressed a need for a "secretary". He says he's getting very depressed because he doesn't think he is cut out for a monogamous relationship and says that it is killing him to pretend...
    rwilliams356 rwilliams356 26-30, F Nov 18, 2013

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    I've decided to treat this like my own

    anonymous journal you can all see. This relationship has eroded me. In fact, this place has eroded me a little. I had a person stop talking to me because of my race. It eroded more of my personality. I didn't think that mattered because we are supposed to be friendly to each...
    sadhusband sadhusband 36-40 7 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    Why doesn't wife ask me

    for a divorce tell me I disgust her and she doesn't love me, and then turn around and tell me she loves my smile and that no matter what she will alway love me!!! WTF!!!
    NJLonely NJLonely 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    I am a married and cannot get my husband to

    open himself up with me. He has so must bottled inside of him and it is visible but he just tries to hide himself from me. He has a very particular and very personal girl-friend and he spend most of his time talking to her, telling her about his feelings, his experiences and...
    conbit conbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

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    ReallyBill ReallyBill 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I should be happy. My husband is genuinely a

    good guy. We've been together nearly six years, married for just one. I feel as though he's not in love with me. There's no passion. I fear he is not my soulmate. I'm going to leave this vague for now.. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one feeling this way.
    lovelywanderlust lovelywanderlust 26-30, F 16 Responses Jul 30, 2014

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    Here I sit alone in the dark.

    ..again. How did this day start off so right and end so miserably wrong? How have I arrived at this place in my life after 20 years? I remember a time when I used to long to feel his arms wrap around my waist, and the feel of his lips press against mine. Now, I dread being in...
    Lanna40 Lanna40 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    First off, this is completely new to me.

    I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and its looking like its going to end in divorce. My first marriage happened because we were 18 and pregnant, and wanted to do the right thing. We...
    Naturestorms Naturestorms 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    Confused, hurt & scared currently.

    .. He claims he loves me, but his actions toward me & the children say otherwise. Now granted if there is an actual emergency he will "come to the rescue" but other then that nope. I feel like a single parent doesn't help there is a special needs child involved either . Try...
    tbzplayplace tbzplayplace 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16, 2014

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 27, 2014

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    Complicated

    I am married for 3years now...while we had good harmony before marriage..things were not the same since day one...aside of the fact that he has low libido and infertile...and hide it... I dont get the affection i need... One year after marriage when i found out he is cheating...
    SoulMatee SoulMatee 31-35 2 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Well I have been married

    for 3 years.. Don't know why I married him I guess I loved him then, now u just feel like nothing. He doesn't pay attention to me, whenever I'm sad he ignores me ! I have told him that I need him at those moments, he replied that He doesn't like to talk with me when I'm sad...
    pzjekt pzjekt 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2014

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    Merry Christmas to you

    and yours :) Today I gave a book to my husband. It's a book about some guy on Anchorman. His thing, not mine. But he opened it to read it. Yes I know what you are suppose to do with a book... Read it. I seen it differently. I seen it as .... How can he just open a book and...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Omg, I was Googling "lonely in a relationship",

    as my marriage was coming to an end, and found out it is a very common problem! How sad, such disconnection between two people who are supposed to as close as people can be! Take care if yourself. Love yourself. Never, ever let your partner break your spirit. If it can't or won...
    yppirt yppirt 31-35, F Jun 17, 2014

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    I'm lonely and long to feel a connection.

    I want to feel a woman's touch again.
    NJLonely NJLonely 36-40, M Aug 24, 2014

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    i found this site and wanted to know

    if my desires are normal. i have been married for ten years but we have sex once a week only, on certain rare occasions maybe twice. i have talked to my husband about it for countless times and he never gave me any definite answer.. no matter how i asked. i want more sex and i...
    remydodol remydodol 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    So I guess I'm just like every other person here that says they are married but lonely. So to start, I have been with my wife for 20+ years, and married for almost 18. We met...
    dgob1 dgob1 41-45, M 5 Responses Feb 6

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    Since being on here. It is amazing how many people. Be it women or men. Who are in the same situation as me. Married but lonely. No affection. No attention. A bit uncomfortable...
    lefty67 lefty67 46-50, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I thought I was lonely before I got married, but now I feel lonelier being married because I feel like I can't socialize and enjoy things anymore without my wife getting on my case...
    Benster5 Benster5 36-40 5 Responses Feb 2

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    I'm so sad that my marriage has turned into a lonely void. This is not my first rodeo. I'm 68 and married my husband 10 years ago after the breakup of my 28 year marriage. The...
    Sosad2015 Sosad2015 66-70, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Im feeling lonely we married been with each other 9yr. Most time I spend lonely when Im home from work she spend all night talking to her friends on the phone. No time for me
    thatguyxx2 thatguyxx2 36-40, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    There is just something missing in my relationship. I love her and everything. But I have lost part of the connection. There are just a lot of things that are really bothering...
    Alston76 Alston76 36-40, M 8 Responses Jan 27

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    He's a good man, and I know we love each other in our way... But I'm just a passionate person with a pretty high sex drive and a need to talk and listen. He seems so content to go...
    katyebrooke katyebrooke 22-25, F 10 Responses Feb 13

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    😔feeling at Rock bottom today 😔 when you read an email from your husband to someone else that says your still as beautiful as I remember in brackets and then go to her about...
    Heartbroken46 Heartbroken46 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Hi, I don't know who yo turn to, so I decides to post in here because u can't talk about this with my husband. we got married last may after almost two years of dating, he's not...
    csa0883 csa0883 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 8

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    Don't get me wrong I love my wife and my family, but when she's not around, when she goes out with friends I feel lonely. When I get lonely my mind worries bout what she's up to...
    stonecold31625 stonecold31625 26-30, M 7 Responses Feb 13

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    I want to wake up next to the woman i married. Look at her, smile, kiss, make love! I want to go to bed, look at the one i married. smile, Kiss, make love! I know life isn't all...
    speedrcr67 speedrcr67 46-50, M 6 Responses Jan 26

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    Had already posted: I want to wake up next to the woman i married. Look at her, smile, kiss, make love! I want to go to bed, look at the one i married. smile, Kiss, make love! I...
    lefty67 lefty67 46-50, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    i have been in a deep state of contemplation all day. i truly feel it is time for me to file for divorce and move on. my only fear, worry and concern is that my husband will...
    ladydiva34 ladydiva34 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 8