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I Am Married But Lonely and Lost

Still in love with my spouse but somewhere along the way we lost ourselves and each other. Most days it seems it feels like you are living with your bestfriend 258 People

    ReallyBill ReallyBill 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Omg, I was Googling "lonely in a relationship",

    as my marriage was coming to an end, and found out it is a very common problem! How sad, such disconnection between two people who are supposed to as close as people can be! Take care if yourself. Love yourself. Never, ever let your partner break your spirit. If it can't or won...
    HippyDippyTrippy HippyDippyTrippy 31-35, F Jun 17

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    Im Married And Lonely

    I have been married to my wife for 4 years, today. She is not an affecionate person when we met. I developed that habit over it. The only tine she liked to be touched is by massage. We have drifted apart because of this and things said during fights. We live like roomies, her one...
    Willf289 Willf289 31-35 2 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    Made The Mistake Of Believing.

    Once upon a time I lived in NYC, with a successful career and a relationship that was going well. Not fantastically but well enough. I stupidly believed my then boyfriend when he said he wanted to move to a new city to take a job, that he NEEDED to do this and needed for me to...
    callisto99 callisto99 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 30, 2012

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    Lost in my own feelings

    and emotions!!!! If my wife still loves me she doesn't show it and I don't feel it. All I feel is that its not the same as it was and I'm not sure it ever will be. Maybe I'm wrong but I can't ignore those feelings.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I am so lost right now.

    I've had a crap weekend too.......... Sometimes I just want to find a corner to curl up and die in. The only thing keeping me going is my children......
    DailyEdition DailyEdition 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Well today marks the anniversary of my first

    husband's death and it is always a very hard time of year for me! He died from a vidicon overdose, he was functioning addict who let on no signs of addiction and kept it hidden from everyone (his addiction started when we had a serious injury on the job that led to him being...
    irish829 irish829 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I am a married and cannot get my husband to

    open himself up with me. He has so must bottled inside of him and it is visible but he just tries to hide himself from me. He has a very particular and very personal girl-friend and he spend most of his time talking to her, telling her about his feelings, his experiences and...
    conbit conbit 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I'm Little Bit Confused

    I'm married for 4 years now and everything is just perfect for first 3 years.Now my wife gets upset and complain for every little things.I'm still loving her , , talking patiently about this and avoiding anything that bothers her.I still hope she'll overcome this. I'm...
    prn56221 prn56221 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 17, 2012

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    DaveInNH53 DaveInNH53 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 25

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    Unbelievable Marriage

    I am extremely lonely in my marriage and do not know which way to turn. She doesn't communicate her feelings with me and it is driving me up the wall. I am extremely frustrated.
    onelovin onelovin 41-45 1 Response Nov 19, 2011

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    Not Sure If She Is In Love With Me Anymore

    All of a sudden things changed for us.  She was becoming very standoffish so I confronted her in a nice way to ask her what was wrong.  She said she didn't know.  She will not communicate.  Some days are good most are bad.   Sometimes I try to kiss or hug her and it seems...
    lostfather69 lostfather69 41-45 6 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    Newlywed & Lonely

    I am 41 & he's 45. I first told him I loved him when I was 12 years old. Our lives took us in different directions & we traveled some very hard roads but fate brought us back together again after 27 years apart and we got married 4 months ago. I have always been in love with him...
    lovemyhusbandbutsolonely lovemyhusbandbutsolonely 41-45 5 Responses Sep 19, 2010

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    i found this site and wanted to know

    if my desires are normal. i have been married for ten years but we have sex once a week only, on certain rare occasions maybe twice. i have talked to my husband about it for countless times and he never gave me any definite answer.. no matter how i asked. i want more sex and i...
    remydodol remydodol 36-40, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    A Lifeless Marriage

    There are so many things that get into my head which I could not control. Now, that me and my husband where totally at lost of communication. There is nothing I could do but let life flow on its own. Not caring too much about him is something I need and totally forget every...
    Eureka85 Eureka85 22-25, F 1 Response May 16, 2013

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    I have been married for 18 years.

    My husband travels all the time and is rarely home. When he is home we might have sex once. It lacks intimacy and I feel so ugly and unattractive. I miss being held caressed ...kissed...I miss feeling like he wants me. I know we have been together for a while but I want to...
    pprado pprado 51-55, F 6 hrs ago

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    I've decided to treat this like my own

    anonymous journal you can all see. This relationship has eroded me. In fact, this place has eroded me a little. I had a person stop talking to me because of my race. It eroded more of my personality. I didn't think that mattered because we are supposed to be friendly to each...
    sadhusband sadhusband 31-35 7 Responses Jan 20

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    I Am Lonely, And Married To Someone Who Doesn'T Appreciate Me

    I have been with my husband for 5 years. In those 5 years he has cheated on me. A little over a year ago, I left him because I was SO tired of being accused of cheating on him, and being watched like a hawk. I came back because I have 3 children, 2 of which are his, and I lost my...
    mommadukes30 mommadukes30 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2013

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    How I Got Cancer And Still A Live But I Miss Your Hands In Mine

    all a round me smoked but not i so i was thinking as they did i did for most of my life but on day i had a bump and i want to the doc and it was cancer by 2nd hand smoke
    lov2cum4u lov2cum4u 56-60, M Nov 19, 2013

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    I Need Advice Badly! /;

    I'm in a horrible situation. I've been married for two years with a beautiful daughter. I got married at a young age, I am 20 now. I recently ran into this guy that I knew in middle school at my works orientation. We clicked so fast, every time we talk we both have those goo goo...
    Jessicalynn423 Jessicalynn423 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Time To End It

    After almost 36 years of marriage I honestly think it is time to end it. I have been a faithful, devoted wife all these years. I have always taken care of him. The house and kids have always been my job even after I went back to work. Each day gets a little sader and lonelier...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    So I recently started an affair,

    I know it was wrong but I have been trying so hard to fix my marriage for over a year and I didn't mean to find someone else, someone from my past. So my husband does not know about the affair (it's only been going on for a month) and he recently decided to make an "effort...
    fer5 fer5 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    Bettyjb Bettyjb 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Want My Best Friend and Husband Back

    I have been married for 9 years and the first few years were wonderful and exciting.  I got ill and still am its hard for me to do most things because of the pain.  I try, we use to love to go to auctions and antique shopping, just spending as much time together as...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    I am brand new here. I'm not

    even sure what I'm doing.... but here is my first story. My "experience" is married but lonely and lost. I picked that from the list, but I suppose it is apt. It is the main reason I am here. I can sum it up by saying that after 15 years of marriage, we just fell out of love...
    ryderdarkfold ryderdarkfold 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    The Secretary

    I've been married to my husband for 4yrs and he is absolutely the love of my life, but he's has expressed a need for a "secretary". He says he's getting very depressed because he doesn't think he is cut out for a monogamous relationship and says that it is killing him to pretend...
    rwilliams356 rwilliams356 26-30, F Nov 18, 2013

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    4/15/13

    Today my husband and I had a fight over something super dumb witch I'm not going into the detailed event because its just dumb but the point is he made me feel so bad and sad to the point that I cried. I thought he would of stop fighting with me and just stay quiet but instead he...
    Love004 Love004 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2013

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    Complicated

    I am married for 3years now...while we had good harmony before marriage..things were not the same since day one...aside of the fact that he has low libido and infertile...and hide it... I dont get the affection i need... One year after marriage when i found out he is cheating...
    SoulMatee SoulMatee 31-35 2 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    Why Does He Always Do This To Me?

    I awoke this morning to feel strong arms being wrapped around me. I could feel my husband snuggling against me. I then began to feel him trailing kisses on my back and neck. I thought I must be dreaming. I couldn't believe it. This hasn't happened in ages. He slowly ******** my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Well I have been married

    for 3 years.. Don't know why I married him I guess I loved him then, now u just feel like nothing. He doesn't pay attention to me, whenever I'm sad he ignores me ! I have told him that I need him at those moments, he replied that He doesn't like to talk with me when I'm sad...
    pzjekt pzjekt 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Lonely As Ever

    Im so lonely. My fience always always works long hours and I never see him. I've moved states so I have no friends. The area Im in is full of horrible people so im weary of socializing with them. Im now offically suicidal though I dont have the guts to go though with it. Im...
    Jovalley Jovalley 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    I´m So Sick Of Feeling Alone

    i got married 3 months ago, we lived together for 3 years before that.When i look back i just think i have made so many bad decisions that i am so deep in a life that is not my dream, and there is no turning back.I think my husband is great, but his personality is just so strong...
    tampax4 tampax4 26-30 2 Responses Feb 17, 2011

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 27

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    Merry Christmas to you

    and yours :) Today I gave a book to my husband. It's a book about some guy on Anchorman. His thing, not mine. But he opened it to read it. Yes I know what you are suppose to do with a book... Read it. I seen it differently. I seen it as .... How can he just open a book and...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Really!

    Not sure I want to tell my whole story yet.I'm just frustrated because as a women I cant say certain things to my husband without him getting pissy or turning it all around. I've asked for years that he dont smoke in the house but he does everyday. Like tonight, I'm laying in bed...
    Jeepergirl Jeepergirl 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2011

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    It'S Been Too Long

    My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 7. For the past 3 years, there has been kind of contact between us outside of kissing. We tell each other "I love you". But, I feel. Like she is just saying it just to try and keep me. Her tone makes it sound like she has...
    Chubbybellyluvr Chubbybellyluvr 36-40, M Jun 15, 2013

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    I am at the point I am regretting not turning

    my back before! I am so lost on what course of action I should take! I feel very unappreciated, unloved, not cared for, and the last one on my husbands priority list! Last year he hung himself in front of me while I was 2 months pregnant with our second daughter! I was able to...
    Abrow032 Abrow032 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2013

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    I'm Lost He Makes Me Lonely

    Which is weird because being married is where you are supposed to feel  safe and part of a team, the two of you becoming one, or perhaps I am just living in an old fashioned fantasy where getting married was a big decision because it meant forever and ever happy together...
    spiderb spiderb 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2008

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    My husband of 8 years had an affair last year

    with a co-worker. He says it's over with her and that he wants to work on our marriage, but I always question if it is true or not. We've done well this year, except for the last three weeks - we've been fighting a lot and not communicating well. We have two small children...
    crowngirl54 crowngirl54 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    I Don't Know If I Ever Did

    When I met my now husband I was 22 and inexperienced in life, love or anything for that matter. I was good at never saying no and always aiming to make people happy. Three years later, I am married with a child and cry almost every night because I feel so lost and confused. I...
    dp18 dp18 22-25 2 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Confused, hurt & scared currently.

    .. He claims he loves me, but his actions toward me & the children say otherwise. Now granted if there is an actual emergency he will "come to the rescue" but other then that nope. I feel like a single parent doesn't help there is a special needs child involved either . Try...
    tbzplayplace tbzplayplace 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I think that I am going to making more of my marriage posts in the "I am Married" group. I realized that although I feel lonely at times the general members that post in "Married...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    Do any other married but lonely people here feel emotionally paralyzed by the loneliness in your marriage? I do. It is not every single day but often enough to be significant to me...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 15 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    I have found that there is some misunderstanding about what married and lonely seems to mean. There are different ways a person can feel lonely in a marriage. It can be emotionally...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 2

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    I am looking for someone that's married and lonely Ias for me I'm going through the same thing the sexual feeling is that there no more she is always rejecting me
    dmedina513 dmedina513 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 6

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    live a quiet peaceful lonely life, married but no spark
    johnboy4311 johnboy4311 61-65 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Well ladies and gentleman it blew up in my face. We get here and we had a nice afternoon of me giving him exactly what he wanted. We had fun and played. It was nice just the way he...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 4

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year. During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 14 Responses Jun 25

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    I've been married 14 years and everyone who knows me thinks I'm "happily married." No one even my wife realizes how lonely I really am and how my heart burns to feel in love again...
    Marincharles38 Marincharles38 36-40 7 Responses Jun 26

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    Im so lonely even being married cos i married the wrong man, cos i wanted to have children so much. Now i have consequences of it. I live in loveless marriage. The only joy is my...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 18 Responses Jul 10

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    I've been married for almost 13 years, but it's technically been over for at least half of that. It really hit home to me tonight, how much I crave that bond that should be...
    PinkContessa PinkContessa 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 5