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I Am Married But Lonely and Lost

Still in love with my spouse but somewhere along the way we lost ourselves and each other. Most days it seems it feels like you are living with your bestfriend 291 People

    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 27

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    The Secretary

    I've been married to my husband for 4yrs and he is absolutely the love of my life, but he's has expressed a need for a "secretary". He says he's getting very depressed because he doesn't think he is cut out for a monogamous relationship and says that it is killing him to pretend...
    rwilliams356 rwilliams356 26-30, F Nov 18, 2013

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    Merry Christmas to you

    and yours :) Today I gave a book to my husband. It's a book about some guy on Anchorman. His thing, not mine. But he opened it to read it. Yes I know what you are suppose to do with a book... Read it. I seen it differently. I seen it as .... How can he just open a book and...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Time To End It

    After almost 36 years of marriage I honestly think it is time to end it. I have been a faithful, devoted wife all these years. I have always taken care of him. The house and kids have always been my job even after I went back to work. Each day gets a little sader and lonelier...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    Im Married And Lonely

    I have been married to my wife for 4 years, today. She is not an affecionate person when we met. I developed that habit over it. The only tine she liked to be touched is by massage. We have drifted apart because of this and things said during fights. We live like roomies, her one...
    Willf289 Willf289 31-35 2 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    I am a married and cannot get my husband to

    open himself up with me. He has so must bottled inside of him and it is visible but he just tries to hide himself from me. He has a very particular and very personal girl-friend and he spend most of his time talking to her, telling her about his feelings, his experiences and...
    conbit conbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    I am so lost right now.

    I've had a crap weekend too.......... Sometimes I just want to find a corner to curl up and die in. The only thing keeping me going is my children......
    DailyEdition DailyEdition 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    I Am Lonely, And Married To Someone Who Doesn'T Appreciate Me

    I have been with my husband for 5 years. In those 5 years he has cheated on me. A little over a year ago, I left him because I was SO tired of being accused of cheating on him, and being watched like a hawk. I came back because I have 3 children, 2 of which are his, and I lost my...
    mommadukes30 mommadukes30 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2013

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    It'S Been Too Long

    My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 7. For the past 3 years, there has been kind of contact between us outside of kissing. We tell each other "I love you". But, I feel. Like she is just saying it just to try and keep me. Her tone makes it sound like she has...
    Chubbybellyluvr Chubbybellyluvr 36-40, M Jun 15, 2013

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    I'm Lost He Makes Me Lonely

    Which is weird because being married is where you are supposed to feel  safe and part of a team, the two of you becoming one, or perhaps I am just living in an old fashioned fantasy where getting married was a big decision because it meant forever and ever happy together...
    spiderb spiderb 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2008

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    Well I have been married

    for 3 years.. Don't know why I married him I guess I loved him then, now u just feel like nothing. He doesn't pay attention to me, whenever I'm sad he ignores me ! I have told him that I need him at those moments, he replied that He doesn't like to talk with me when I'm sad...
    pzjekt pzjekt 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    How I Got Cancer And Still A Live But I Miss Your Hands In Mine

    all a round me smoked but not i so i was thinking as they did i did for most of my life but on day i had a bump and i want to the doc and it was cancer by 2nd hand smoke
    lov2cum4u lov2cum4u 56-60, M Nov 19, 2013

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    I've decided to treat this like my own

    anonymous journal you can all see. This relationship has eroded me. In fact, this place has eroded me a little. I had a person stop talking to me because of my race. It eroded more of my personality. I didn't think that mattered because we are supposed to be friendly to each...
    sadhusband sadhusband 36-40 7 Responses Jan 20

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    I'm lonely and long to feel a connection.

    I want to feel a woman's touch again.
    mook1977 mook1977 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    I Need Advice Badly! /;

    I'm in a horrible situation. I've been married for two years with a beautiful daughter. I got married at a young age, I am 20 now. I recently ran into this guy that I knew in middle school at my works orientation. We clicked so fast, every time we talk we both have those goo goo...
    Jessicalynn423 Jessicalynn423 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Unbelievable Marriage

    I am extremely lonely in my marriage and do not know which way to turn. She doesn't communicate her feelings with me and it is driving me up the wall. I am extremely frustrated.
    onelovin onelovin 41-45 1 Response Nov 19, 2011

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    DaveInNH53 DaveInNH53 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 25

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    I sit at home all day we don't have many off

    together but he always find things to do rather than stay home or go somewhere with me. I know why he's not in love with me he would rather be with her. Who's to say he's not? But here I am keeping the house together everything will be done,supper cooked, and kids fed and in...
    devilseye1996 devilseye1996 36-40, F Jul 23

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    I am brand new here. I'm not

    even sure what I'm doing.... but here is my first story. My "experience" is married but lonely and lost. I picked that from the list, but I suppose it is apt. It is the main reason I am here. I can sum it up by saying that after 15 years of marriage, we just fell out of love...
    ryderdarkfold ryderdarkfold 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    So I recently started an affair,

    I know it was wrong but I have been trying so hard to fix my marriage for over a year and I didn't mean to find someone else, someone from my past. So my husband does not know about the affair (it's only been going on for a month) and he recently decided to make an "effort...
    fer5 fer5 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    Newlywed & Lonely

    I am 41 & he's 45. I first told him I loved him when I was 12 years old. Our lives took us in different directions & we traveled some very hard roads but fate brought us back together again after 27 years apart and we got married 4 months ago. I have always been in love with him...
    lovemyhusbandbutsolonely lovemyhusbandbutsolonely 41-45 5 Responses Sep 19, 2010

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    ReallyBill ReallyBill 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 15

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    4/15/13

    Today my husband and I had a fight over something super dumb witch I'm not going into the detailed event because its just dumb but the point is he made me feel so bad and sad to the point that I cried. I thought he would of stop fighting with me and just stay quiet but instead he...
    Love004 Love004 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2013

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    My husband of 8 years had an affair last year

    with a co-worker. He says it's over with her and that he wants to work on our marriage, but I always question if it is true or not. We've done well this year, except for the last three weeks - we've been fighting a lot and not communicating well. We have two small children...
    crowngirl54 crowngirl54 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    Lonely As Ever

    Im so lonely. My fience always always works long hours and I never see him. I've moved states so I have no friends. The area Im in is full of horrible people so im weary of socializing with them. Im now offically suicidal though I dont have the guts to go though with it. Im...
    Jovalley Jovalley 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    A Lifeless Marriage

    There are so many things that get into my head which I could not control. Now, that me and my husband where totally at lost of communication. There is nothing I could do but let life flow on its own. Not caring too much about him is something I need and totally forget every...
    Eureka85 Eureka85 22-25, F 1 Response May 16, 2013

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    Complicated

    I am married for 3years now...while we had good harmony before marriage..things were not the same since day one...aside of the fact that he has low libido and infertile...and hide it... I dont get the affection i need... One year after marriage when i found out he is cheating...
    SoulMatee SoulMatee 31-35 2 Responses Mar 8, 2012

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    i found this site and wanted to know

    if my desires are normal. i have been married for ten years but we have sex once a week only, on certain rare occasions maybe twice. i have talked to my husband about it for countless times and he never gave me any definite answer.. no matter how i asked. i want more sex and i...
    remydodol remydodol 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 16

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    Omg, I was Googling "lonely in a relationship",

    as my marriage was coming to an end, and found out it is a very common problem! How sad, such disconnection between two people who are supposed to as close as people can be! Take care if yourself. Love yourself. Never, ever let your partner break your spirit. If it can't or won...
    HippyDippyTrippy HippyDippyTrippy 31-35, F Jun 17

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    Confused, hurt & scared currently.

    .. He claims he loves me, but his actions toward me & the children say otherwise. Now granted if there is an actual emergency he will "come to the rescue" but other then that nope. I feel like a single parent doesn't help there is a special needs child involved either . Try...
    tbzplayplace tbzplayplace 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Want My Best Friend and Husband Back

    I have been married for 9 years and the first few years were wonderful and exciting.  I got ill and still am its hard for me to do most things because of the pain.  I try, we use to love to go to auctions and antique shopping, just spending as much time together as...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    I should be happy. My husband is genuinely a

    good guy. We've been together nearly six years, married for just one. I feel as though he's not in love with me. There's no passion. I fear he is not my soulmate. I'm going to leave this vague for now.. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one feeling this way.
    lovelywanderlust lovelywanderlust 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 30

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    Lost in my own feelings

    and emotions!!!! If my wife still loves me she doesn't show it and I don't feel it. All I feel is that its not the same as it was and I'm not sure it ever will be. Maybe I'm wrong but I can't ignore those feelings.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20

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    Really!

    Not sure I want to tell my whole story yet.I'm just frustrated because as a women I cant say certain things to my husband without him getting pissy or turning it all around. I've asked for years that he dont smoke in the house but he does everyday. Like tonight, I'm laying in bed...
    Jeepergirl Jeepergirl 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 20, 2011

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    I´m So Sick Of Feeling Alone

    i got married 3 months ago, we lived together for 3 years before that.When i look back i just think i have made so many bad decisions that i am so deep in a life that is not my dream, and there is no turning back.I think my husband is great, but his personality is just so strong...
    tampax4 tampax4 26-30 2 Responses Feb 17, 2011

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    I Don't Know If I Ever Did

    When I met my now husband I was 22 and inexperienced in life, love or anything for that matter. I was good at never saying no and always aiming to make people happy. Three years later, I am married with a child and cry almost every night because I feel so lost and confused. I...
    dp18 dp18 22-25 2 Responses Dec 4, 2011

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    Bettyjb Bettyjb 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Well today marks the anniversary of my first

    husband's death and it is always a very hard time of year for me! He died from a vidicon overdose, he was functioning addict who let on no signs of addiction and kept it hidden from everyone (his addiction started when we had a serious injury on the job that led to him being...
    irish829 irish829 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I am at the point I am regretting not turning

    my back before! I am so lost on what course of action I should take! I feel very unappreciated, unloved, not cared for, and the last one on my husbands priority list! Last year he hung himself in front of me while I was 2 months pregnant with our second daughter! I was able to...
    Abrow032 Abrow032 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2013

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    Why Does He Always Do This To Me?

    I awoke this morning to feel strong arms being wrapped around me. I could feel my husband snuggling against me. I then began to feel him trailing kisses on my back and neck. I thought I must be dreaming. I couldn't believe it. This hasn't happened in ages. He slowly ******** my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I am married, but I feel so distant from my wife. Our relationship seems so forced. She gets upset when she has to tell me to do things around the house, but doesn't see it strange...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30 7 Responses Sep 9

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    I don’t know why I’m posting here but arrived via a Google search on “lonely but married.” I’m tempted by the cheating sites that showed up but old enough to know they...
    MakaWoksapa MakaWoksapa 51-55, M 6 Responses Sep 2

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    I am married and was lonely, but I have met someone on here that has made me rethink the lonely. Not as lonely as I was by far.
    oriolesfan464 oriolesfan464 46-50, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    I appreciate these stories, and was looking to post on one of them. However, many of the men and women seem to be young; with children. Mine are grown up or almost there: 20 and 17...
    missingtranslation missingtranslation 46-50, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Would love to get to kno some older married men and find out why they are lonely
    PrototypeBri PrototypeBri 18-21, F 20 Responses Aug 24

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    Been married for twenty four years. That is more than half my life. Things were okay until the kids moved out to make lives of their own. Maybe our marriage has always been this...
    jeanola jeanola 41-45, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    I must admit things have been approving between my husband and myself he has been trying. I thought last year I would be divorced, but then his mom got ill and moved in with us. I...
    Theredheadchick Theredheadchick 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Should I stay or should I go? Couple of years ago I thought I was dying. I couldn't fall asleep, sometimes for a whole night, and when eventually I was so exhausted that I would...
    benharmon benharmon 41-45, M 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Now I'm really lonely. My husband announced on his fb page that we are getting a divorce . This was after he unfriend ed me, and I got a call from my cousin to check on me . She...
    aloneinvegas aloneinvegas 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    He decided that 11:45 pm was a good time to finally spend time with me. Really? We both work tomorrow .... I spent the entire day ALONE! I don't understand what ever would make...
    wintershawl wintershawl 36-40, F 7 Responses Aug 21

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 26

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    My wife no longer loves me, no matter what I do she always see problems with everything. Besides, she has someone else to love now... I love my kids and I still love her, but...
    xmhm xmhm 31-35, M 5 Responses Aug 30