I Am Married But Lonely and Lost

Still in love with my spouse but somewhere along the way we lost ourselves and each other. Most days it seems it feels like you are living with your bestfriend 510 People


    LynnLee828 LynnLee828
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 4, 2015
    Taboomarried Taboomarried
    36-40, M
    Mar 17, 2015

    This feels like my only outlet,

    I went to see my therapist yesterday but i don't know if it helped, she's very good. But I'm so out of it. Now I don't think I would ever hurt myself. I'm just really tired of feeling this way. My wife wants me to remember my lies that I've told her in the past and tell her. I...
    mogabr mogabr
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    Fighting with my wife is like beating a dead

    horse !!! She is always right never admits to anything she's possibly done wrong ! Turns every small argument around on me !! On top of all that we don't have sex anymore I want out !!!
    SeanPHung77 SeanPHung77
    41-45, M
    4 Responses May 27, 2015


    Not sure I want to tell my whole story yet.I'm just frustrated because as a women I cant say certain things to my husband without him getting pissy or turning it all around. I've asked for years that he dont smoke in the house but he does everyday. Like tonight, I'm laying in bed...
    Jeepergirl Jeepergirl
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2011


    I am married for 3years now...while we had good harmony before marriage..things were not the same since day one...aside of the fact that he has low libido and infertile...and hide it... I dont get the affection i need... One year after marriage when i found out he is cheating...
    SoulMatee SoulMatee
    3 Responses Mar 8, 2012
    ReallyBill ReallyBill
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jul 15, 2014

    I am married for 13 years

    but i'm not happy. He always tells me that he loves me very much but i don't feel it. He say's i am his priority but he doesn't have time for me. I can't tell him how i feel or what's happening to me cause we don't talk too deeply because he is always busy in other things. We...
    papermelrotti papermelrotti
    31-35, F
    Jul 14, 2015

    I am brand new here. I'm not

    even sure what I'm doing.... but here is my first story. My "experience" is married but lonely and lost. I picked that from the list, but I suppose it is apt. It is the main reason I am here. I can sum it up by saying that after 15 years of marriage, we just fell out of love...
    ryderdarkfold ryderdarkfold
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    alicacc11 alicacc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 19, 2015

    I Don't Know If I Ever Did

    When I met my now husband I was 22 and inexperienced in life, love or anything for that matter. I was good at never saying no and always aiming to make people happy. Three years later, I am married with a child and cry almost every night because I feel so lost and confused. I...
    dp18 dp18
    1 Response Dec 4, 2011

    Depressed is not just a feeling,

    after awhile it becomes your way of life, sure i get excited about things i enjoy, sure i'm not moping around all day... but the sparks are gone, counseling, retreats... everything tried, like really given a full forced effort and there is just nothing. Sometime i think if it...
    griff11b griff11b
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 23, 2015

    It's late and I'm lonely

    and want to feel love
    NJLonely NJLonely
    36-40, M
    1 Response Sep 27, 2014

    Merry Christmas to you

    and yours :) Today I gave a book to my husband. It's a book about some guy on Anchorman. His thing, not mine. But he opened it to read it. Yes I know what you are suppose to do with a book... Read it. I seen it differently. I seen it as .... How can he just open a book and...
    dsuzy dsuzy
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 25, 2013

    I'm trying to help her understand the issues

    that consume our relationship in hopes that things will get better. I worry that she may not be comprehending what I'm saying though. or has the will to put for effort so we can both rebuild our foundation.
    Renegade2300 Renegade2300
    31-35, M
    Jan 19, 2015
    Inspireme1 Inspireme1
    46-50, F
    1 Response Sep 29, 2014
    NJLonely NJLonely
    36-40, M
    Sep 20, 2014

    When you give your all

    for the prime years of your life and beyond, when you sacrifice yourself daily for the needs of another, when you put them front and center, only to realize a decade later that the girl on the bus sitting next to you has more desire and passion for you than your wife ever will.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 23, 2015

    Today is my birthday,

    my first in my 3 month old marriage. We knew each other for many many years before marriage and even lived together for couple of years. Nowadays we do everything apart. If at all we spend time with each other we end up fighting. I can't believe the mistake I made- and I don't...
    tess2015 tess2015
    3 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    Why doesn't wife ask me

    for a divorce tell me I disgust her and she doesn't love me, and then turn around and tell me she loves my smile and that no matter what she will alway love me!!! WTF!!!
    NJLonely NJLonely
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Nov 28, 2014

    This is my first post .

    Finding it hard to actually talk about my situation as I'm so sick and tired of talking about it . I'm being ignored .i have pointed out my issues with my husband many a time and I still feel that things aren't right . I have a gut instinct its not going to work out ! After...
    geml geml
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 7, 2015

    I feel isolated from women.

    Even though I'm married. It started after 3rd grade when I was taken out of my mixed primary school and sent to all boys schools for 9 years, but I do not blame my parents in any way. Maybe it's just in my mind but it feels like something fundamental was broken, and I just don't...
    Mrjones169 Mrjones169
    46-50, M
    Mar 17, 2015

    Truly a sad, dark place.

    Your mind races a million miles and a thousand places. Shifting between fear and regret.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 12, 2016

    Why Does He Always Do This To Me?

    I awoke this morning to feel strong arms being wrapped around me. I could feel my husband snuggling against me. I then began to feel him trailing kisses on my back and neck. I thought I must be dreaming. I couldn't believe it. This hasn't happened in ages. He slowly ******** my...
    howsab howsab
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Sep 3, 2013

    I'm lonely and long to feel a connection.

    I want to feel a woman's touch again.
    NJLonely NJLonely
    36-40, M
    Aug 24, 2014

    I'm married yet alone!

    A lot of it is my fault, no! I never cheated on my wife. I know that's the first thing that jumps out at people. But I never cheated on her. But I was not honest, and now nothing gets believed, no one to blame but myself. I feel alone. We don't have kids, actually I don't have...
    mogabr mogabr
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015

    In 2009 I created a fun blog little did you

    know I came across this delightful young man. He was 4 years younger than I was. He was about 22 and I was 26. Something about his charm, charisma, persona, and everything about him was just "it" for me. I knew something was there. He too enjoyed my company as well. We'd...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 12, 2015

    So I'll start from the beginning I met my

    spouse in high school lost contact for awhile married at 18 when he returned home from deployment. From the start he has been a liar and a cheat but insists he's not cause he never had sexual contact with these woman but he constantly told them he loved them and would consider...
    Alwaysbutneveralone Alwaysbutneveralone
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 13, 2016

    i found this site and wanted to know

    if my desires are normal. i have been married for ten years but we have sex once a week only, on certain rare occasions maybe twice. i have talked to my husband about it for countless times and he never gave me any definite answer.. no matter how i asked. i want more sex and i...
    remydodol remydodol
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jul 16, 2014

    Unbelievable Marriage

    I am extremely lonely in my marriage and do not know which way to turn. She doesn't communicate her feelings with me and it is driving me up the wall. I am extremely frustrated.
    onelovin onelovin
    1 Response Nov 19, 2011

    So I recently started an affair,

    I know it was wrong but I have been trying so hard to fix my marriage for over a year and I didn't mean to find someone else, someone from my past. So my husband does not know about the affair (it's only been going on for a month) and he recently decided to make an "effort...
    fer5 fer5
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2014
    spring2450b spring2450b
    41-45, M
    Mar 18, 2015

    married lonely depressed

    and so lost I just don't know what to do I've done and tried all I can think of. I use to be head over heels for my wife but now its not so much there at all I worked hard cook clean always playing doing with kids. I just can't figure out why was never appreciated and it hurts...
    tsolos tsolos
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    Here I sit alone in the dark.

    ..again. How did this day start off so right and end so miserably wrong? How have I arrived at this place in my life after 20 years? I remember a time when I used to long to feel his arms wrap around my waist, and the feel of his lips press against mine. Now, I dread being in...
    Lanna40 Lanna40
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 19, 2015

    I should be happy. My husband is genuinely a

    good guy. We've been together nearly six years, married for just one. I feel as though he's not in love with me. There's no passion. I fear he is not my soulmate. I'm going to leave this vague for now.. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one feeling this way.
    lovelywanderlust lovelywanderlust
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Jul 30, 2014

    I've decided to treat this like my own

    anonymous journal you can all see. This relationship has eroded me. In fact, this place has eroded me a little. I had a person stop talking to me because of my race. It eroded more of my personality. I didn't think that mattered because we are supposed to be friendly to each...
    sadhusband sadhusband
    5 Responses Jan 20, 2014

    Want My Best Friend and Husband Back

    I have been married for 9 years and the first few years were wonderful and exciting.  I got ill and still am its hard for me to do most things because of the pain.  I try, we use to love to go to auctions and antique shopping, just spending as much time together as...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Jul 18, 2008

    I am so lost right now.

    I've had a crap weekend too.......... Sometimes I just want to find a corner to curl up and die in. The only thing keeping me going is my children......
    DailyEdition DailyEdition
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    Sorry if this is long

    but I will try to summarize: I married in 2003. No living children. I have 1 step-daughter who has moved out 3 years ago: she is now 20. I am a full-time professional. I help people who have problems. My relationship with my husband is what I regard as “mundane”. We were...
    missyps missyps
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2016
    spring2450b spring2450b
    41-45, M
    Mar 18, 2015

    I am so lonely. I dedicated my life to my

    children and husband. Now my children are grown and have their own families. My hubby has changed careers and is gone out of town Monday thru Friday.
    JustMeMichigan JustMeMichigan
    51-55, F
    1 Response Feb 9, 2015

    First off, this is completely new to me.

    I don't even no where to begin. So, here goes and it will be long, cause I want to put everything out there. This is my 2nd marriage and its looking like its going to end in divorce. My first marriage happened because we were 18 and pregnant, and wanted to do the right thing. We...
    Naturestorms Naturestorms
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    I'm happy to be married to my husband

    but I feel lonely after moving abroad with no friends, no job I can legally apply for, no family. Most days I am out exploring this city alone. Drinking coffee alone, envying the people around me who has friends or someone with them. I have lunch alone. My husband works 5 1/2...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 12, 2016

    I have been with my husband

    since I was 16! We have always struggled with the "normal" marriage issues! We have not ever been touchy feely and lack being intimate! It doesn't exit! We have been together almost 26 years and I am sick of it all!!! I have not been kissed in over 8 years! I don't have...
    StressedOut2 StressedOut2
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015
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