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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 108 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    alicacc11 alicacc11 26-30, F Aug 19

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    Hi I'm new here, married 9 years together 18!

    Can't believe I'm that old already. I love d my husband he made me laugh a lot . He used to be my best friend, the one I couldn't wait to talk to. But I'm not in love anymore. Marriage is hard and throw in 2 great kids and a bipolar hypochondriac (that's not even near the right...
    linacar79 linacar79 36-40, F 22 Responses Aug 6

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 33 Responses Jul 4

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 54 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    "The danger of being lonely is

    that you easily fall for the very first person who shows you that you are not alone"
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jul 8

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    I heard this old Queen song

    and it made me think of my own situation but without feeling bad.. I'm actually at the gym singing out loud lol. Boy I have a bad voice lol Anyway.. I'm gonna find me someone to love :) Can anyone find me somebody to love. Got no feel, I got no rhythm I just keep losing my...
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    this year will be 19 years of marriage

    for me. we fight alot, and the fights are ugly. my husband, always known as the nice guy, isn't always nice to me. When we get along he is the best friend I have ever had, the best person I have ever known, but when is not good, its the worst feeling in the world, I get...
    Tawny3 Tawny3 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    RahRah73 RahRah73 41-45, F 40 Responses Jun 17

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 13

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    I attended my friend 20th high school reunion

    and boy I'm so glad I did. It just so happened a guy I graduated with attended with his brother I haven't seen him in over 20 years. When we saw each other we were both ecstatic he still looked the same and he was like you haven't changed at all. Needlessly to say we danced and...
    lustinforlove lustinforlove 36-40, F 4 hrs ago

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 22

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    Another week of living with a sick spouse,

    wanting and desiring closeness, affection, being wanted. Another week of being lonely and unable to get what I need from my wife. I went out for dinner, had a couple drinks, meet some new people, tried to have some semblance of a life. I was able to forget for a moment that I...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 21

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 49 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    It kills me that we get along better the less

    we see each other. like we're roommates with benefits.
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    teasemenow teasemenow 26-30, F 15 Responses 3 days ago

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 25 Responses May 28

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 39 Responses Jul 28

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 24 Responses Aug 5

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    My husband isn't a terrible guy,

    but he is incredibly selfish. Everyday I become more sad, more despondent because I feel like I'm existing to serve. He doesn't help cook, he doesn't help clean, he doesn't help put the groceries away and our marriage is on the verge of being sexless. I'll initiate the sex...
    junejax2000 junejax2000 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 34 Responses Aug 2

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    He always puts more mental/emotional energy

    into others... particularly the ones who don't care for or appreciate his efforts. I have straight up been told that the reward isn't worth the effort (put into me). I only get positive attention when he wants something. And then he doesn't understand why I act so distant or...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I had a huge break through today.

    I realize the man I married isn't the person I though he was. Now I have to figure out how to move on.
    NekoViolet NekoViolet 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    Just saying hi! To anyone

    who will listen.
    mogabr mogabr 36-40, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    took OT work today just to get out of the house.

    I remember when getting a day off was like a pass to "funzone" but now if I'm off, I get nothing but dread. I know that if I'm home I'll merely be put down, compared with guys whom she thinks have perfect looks. glad I'm working in a little bit.
    daddy4pleasure daddy4pleasure 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 22

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    I am tired of being a companion I need someone

    that wants my passion as mush as my friendship.
    MisterGw MisterGw 41-45, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    looking for a likewise woman whos looking

    for something online .....
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    Married 33 years. No affection

    for the last 15 or more. 3 Children, all grown. Every attempt to make things better is met with disdain. Every emotion expressed is dismissed. It's all my fault as I have hurt her heart she says, although she won't tell me what I did. Every attempt to show affection to her...
    ifpinga ifpinga 56-60, M 5 Responses Aug 19

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    A bad marriage lead me to make mistakes

    and the whole thing leaves me feeling bad about myself and very lonely.
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers 51-55, F Aug 21

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Mar 29

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    How does one go about getting out of this state

    of loneliness?? Seriously trying to make new friends trying to keep busy and not care but when you come home to the same thing day in and day out it sucks.
    marieAsh21 marieAsh21 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 18

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 29 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 6 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 26 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 24 Responses 6 hrs ago

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