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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I Want A Playmate

    I want a playmate. Someone whose company I really enjoy, and we can go to dinner, the movies, a walk, work out together, play games, go the beach, take a vacation...oh I don't know....and so many more things to do together. I'm tired of going everywhere alone. I've heard it say...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 41 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 42 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I do sometimes feel lonely,

    but I have done plenty of things that have been hurtful to my wife, so I understand why she has withdrawn. But I have been making some changes in hopes of us drawing closer again.
    tryingchange tryingchange 36-40, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Lonely or trapped? Victim

    or choice? Married ..not married? This does not simply apply to married people but those who found someone they believed to be their one and only. Marriage in these instances come from a persons complete soul. A place so deep that you open your delicate heart...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 14 Responses May 9

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    Update:We are back home from our beach weekend!

    Things went very well! Last night was a lot of fun. We enjoyed great food, music, and a wonderful time all night and all day today. He was very complimentary last night and today.It has been very pleasant between us and he confirmed that he definitely is still going to marriage...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 6

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 88 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 50 Responses Apr 6

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 100 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 58 Responses Jun 24

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    And then just when you think you've found

    that one person you connect with, it turns out they are connected to a dozen more at the same time. Don't know which is worst...
    prsunshine prsunshine 31-35, F 2 Responses 48 mins ago

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    Laying on my bed, with the windows open

    listening to the sound of the rain.... The curtains blow about softly in the breeze as it escapes into my bedroom.... The dim lamp casting shadows onto the wall... my loyal dog sleeps soundly on her bed on the floor, my cat has settled into my vanity chair for the night.... the...
    veeshybi veeshybi 18-21, F 5 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Being alone is scary

    but not as scary as feeling alone in a relationship.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 15 Responses Aug 12

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the

    marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the point where I don't even try to get emotional relief from him anymore because I know he just is unavailable in the way that I need. In addition...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    I am married and was lonely,

    but I have met someone on here that has made me rethink the lonely. Not as lonely as I was by far.
    oriolesfan464 oriolesfan464 46-50, M 5 Responses Sep 11

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    My husband made supper!

    Great! Then left the mess and fell asleep! This is the way it is. Even when he is home I feel alone. We don't go out or see friends. He speaks to his mother and father more then me. I am unhappy and so alone. I can't seem to talk to him about it as he says it's my fault that I...
    Penelopeallalone Penelopeallalone 36-40, F 9 Responses Sep 3

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 20 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 26

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 56 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 23 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    The Lingerie!

    The lingerie! This story is all part of my 20th wedding anniversary dinner. We had been growing apart, and intimacy of any sort seemed a thing of the past.I separated this part out as it has merits as a story unto itself. In preparation for our 20th wedding anniversary, I was...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M 41 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    My wife no longer loves me,

    no matter what I do she always see problems with everything. Besides, she has someone else to love now... I love my kids and I still love her, but nowadays we can't really tolerate each other's presence... Yesterday it was her time with the kids, today it was mine. I try to give...
    xmhm xmhm 31-35, M 5 Responses Aug 30

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    It's weird being married

    and living with someone but to look at them and think to yourself I really don't know this person. I know what I want to think is real. I know what I need to think but deep down I know I don't know him. And I know he doesn't know me. I know when I look at him I feel torn between...
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 6

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    Husband and I are both gamers,

    we love playing pc games together. But I know that he is more important then any game I will ever play, he's my partner in crime. :) So why is it whenever he's playing a game, I get ignored and get the cold shoulder if I ask a simple question, whether its about what would he...
    MistressMeow MistressMeow 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 12

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    Have you ever been next to the person you love

    more than life it self, wanting affection and touch so bad it hurts. But you know that they will be mad or ignore you. I have gone through so much and done so much to keep this marriage together .. I just feel alone
    Darkpriest85 Darkpriest85 26-30, M 13 Responses Sep 4

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 19

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    I have been married 10 yrs.

    . And have never felt soooo alone . My heart craves for the love and tenderness from my spouse but it's never there. We never do anything together. Alone or with out kids. I feel that there is no way out bit. I get jealous when I see couples or families together . It hurts...
    MandLLS MandLLS 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 8

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer.

    He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our marriage not to have children. I have my work, my family and my friends but I'm lonely. I miss my husband and sometimes I don't even feel like I...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 19 Responses Mar 31

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    my wife is a career woman!

    for her its like all work and no fun! seriously! she is a fashion designer and interior decor . she takes pride in her work, im over elated she found something that she loves so much BUT she has forgotten about her husband and sometimes our daughter. we have only one child and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 3

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 261 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 27 Responses Feb 13

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    Been married for twenty four years.

    That is more than half my life. Things were okay until the kids moved out to make lives of their own. Maybe our marriage has always been this way, but I was not lonely because I had a house and kids to take care of. I always took care of my family, including my husband. I...
    jeanola jeanola 41-45, F 11 Responses Sep 11

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    I am a 33 year old homeschooling stay @ home

    mom. I put the needs & happiness of everyone before mine but never get the same done for me, especially when I need it the most. Seeking for a platonic friendship . Someone to talk to.
    eishaq23 eishaq23 31-35, F 15 Responses Sep 12

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    ....and it's a strange comfort to find

    so many others in similar positions... Looking for intimacy and fun- in the true senses of both words- any other UK based souls around?
    tryagainuk tryagainuk 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am married, but I feel

    so distant from my wife. Our relationship seems so forced. She gets upset when she has to tell me to do things around the house, but doesn't see it strange that I have to tell her to be affectionate towards me. She blames her lack of affection on my inability to clean up the...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30, M 7 Responses Sep 9

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    Today has been a challenge.

    I am tired but don't want to sleep yet. Two weeks ago I was in the same place. My husband wants nothing to do with me again. I don't want to sit here and complain. But, I am tired of getting to this same place so often.
    missingtranslation missingtranslation 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Recently I have come across my wife having

    inappropriate online conversations. When I approached her about it, we argued and then reconciled. Now she is in the fitness industry so she is constantly online and talking to people. The problem is all the guys who constantly try to schmooze her. She falls right into it. This...
    bboy44 bboy44 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 31

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    Have any UK based folk used the website illicit

    encounters? Was it useful? Seems like the only viable online option to me- but ruinously expensive for men. Are there any other sites that are kosher?
    tryagainuk tryagainuk 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Greece2008 Greece2008 36-40, F 26 Responses Aug 30

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 28 Responses Aug 19

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    Indeed. ...and would welcome messages from

    anyone in a similar boat looking to alleviate the loneliness...
    tryagainuk tryagainuk 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am married and I have a baby.

    On top of dealing with my son having some health issues and financially responsible for a lot more than I should, my husband is behaving like the biggest ****. All I just asked him to do was to play on his phone while watching our baby sleep in the bedroom. I didnt ask him to...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 27 Responses Jul 26

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    I appreciate these stories,

    and was looking to post on one of them. However, many of the men and women seem to be young; with children. Mine are grown up or almost there: 20 and 17. My husband spends all his time in his newfound land Game of War, or something like that. If I say, I am lonely: he says, I...
    missingtranslation missingtranslation 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 13

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    Couple of years ago I thought I was dying. I couldn't fall asleep, sometimes for a whole night, and when eventually I was so exhausted that I would manage to go to sleep, I would wake up in a couple of minutes, couple of hours maximum, with my heart racing, and my eys wide open...
    benharmon benharmon 41-45, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 41 Responses Feb 12

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 78 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I got shot down for date night.

    Technically I guess I got downgraded for date night. I was trying to plan a date night with my wife for not this Saturday but next Saturday. I suggested it yesterday but got no response. I asked about it today and was told "I don't want the kids gone for a night, I don't...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 10 Responses Sep 11

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 44 Responses Mar 16

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    We agreed to attend church this morning.

    We don't go every Sunday but are trying to go some. My husband was a complete jerk. First he tells me our daughter does not want to go and we should not make her. Then he tells me he really does not want to go. Also shares with me that he is more agnostic. He is very bitter...
    mws70 mws70 41-45, F 7 Responses Aug 31

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    I can't communicate with my wife,

    she can't talk and gets angry for everything. I know I'm going to lose my kids
    sad67 sad67 41-45 3 Responses Aug 24

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 4

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