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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Happy Valentines Day to me.

    .. I might as well say it to myself because he won't. We haven't even got as much as a card for each other this year - I was going to get him a card last week... but he wouldn't let me go out, so I couldn't do it. All I can think about is getting out and being free to do as I...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 13

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    I swear there are times these days

    when I can't even remember why I married my husband. I can barely recapture that feeling of being in love and having him as the center of my universe. I know it was there for a long, long time... I vaguely remember wanting no one but him and him feeling the same about me, and...
    pinkpussycat4u pinkpussycat4u 51-55, F 23 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 59 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 50 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 15 Responses Jan 20

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    I love my husband, I (mostly) love our life

    together. But I'm not happy. Our child and his job take up a lot of time. I pursue my own interests and hobbies, but he never has energy anymore. We are polyamorous, but it's been 4 years since I've dated anyone else. I'm over nsa - I want something meaningful and longterm...
    CowgirlQT CowgirlQT 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Since being on here. It is amazing how many

    people. Be it women or men. Who are in the same situation as me. Married but lonely. No affection. No attention. A bit uncomfortable with eachother. No bonding between a husband and wife! In the bedroom. Out of the bedroom. But their are still those. Who have been married for...
    lefty67 lefty67 46-50, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    As a wife of an alcoholic I feel

    so disconnected from my husband. I no longer want to be intimate bc I don't feel love in that way anymore. Can I get that back?? I still care for him! I just feel so lonely.
    TomasAva TomasAva 26-30, F 30 Responses 2 days ago

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    Only leave the house

    for work or normal everyday shopping. I can't help it if it takes longer than 2 hours, traffic and crowds, I can't control. You can go with me but you are lazy and don't want to. So don't get upset and grumpy at me, if it weren't for me, what would you do. I usually take the...
    Sweetbeotch Sweetbeotch 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 70 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Looks like another valentines day alone.

    We have been together 7 years and never have been able to have a Valentine's day together because of his job. Same with birthdays, thanksgiving, Christmas, new years etc. All of the days that a family should be together he has to work.
    kayroxyoursox kayroxyoursox 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 13

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 28 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    Hi, I don't know who yo turn to,

    so I decides to post in here because u can't talk about this with my husband. we got married last may after almost two years of dating, he's not bad, but sometimes he doest listen to me, and lately we been having problems, money problems, I don't know who is in the wrong if he...
    csa0883 csa0883 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 8

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 76 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 18 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 22 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Tonight we had another one of our talks.

    You know the kind...where we both end up basically saying "Why are we still doing this?" We have gotten here so many times and in many ways both of us really want out. Why do we stay? I think we are scared of losing one another completely. Some part of us can't let this go...
    enigma31 enigma31 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 14

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 47 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    ladydiva34 ladydiva34 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 8

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    Last night I approached her gently (as always),

    hoping to make love to her... She rebuffed me, insisting that she was tired and so... I can understand that of course, it wasn't the first time after all... The thing that hurts though is, throughout the entire 12 years that we are together, I have never said no to her intimate...
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 32 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    Its so shameful to say,

    but it is just the truth. Sometimes we go out on dates, like we will go have dinner and literally sit there and not say anything to each other. He is usually on his his phone looking at FB or IG. I tell him all the time that he needs to put the phone down because he is not...
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    Im feeling lonely we married been with each

    other 9yr. Most time I spend lonely when Im home from work she spend all night talking to her friends on the phone. No time for me
    thatguyxx2 thatguyxx2 36-40, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 25 Responses Jan 22

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    Ever try to just have a friend to flirt with?

    Someone who won't judge and you can actually tell anything to? Oh yeah that person was my husband until we got married:(
    gypsie420 gypsie420 31-35, F 24 Responses Feb 17

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    You Ruin Me: By The Veronicas Job well

    done Standing ovation Yeah you got what you wanted I guess you won And I don't want to hear, they don't know you like I do Even I could've told you But now we're done 'Cause you play me like a symphony Play me till your fingers bleed I'm your greatest masterpiece You ruin me...
    classynsassy34 classynsassy34 31-35, F a week ago

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    Had already posted: I want to wake up next to

    the woman i married. Look at her, smile, kiss, make love! I want to go to bed, look at the one i married. smile, Kiss, make love! I know life isn't all roses. But to water the seeds to help them grow...
    lefty67 lefty67 46-50, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Ok here goes. I am new here

    and this is my first post. I would just like to know how long is too long to wait for intimacy? My wife and I have been cold now for over 4 months. Before then we only did it once a month if that. She says she loves me and we have been married for 15 years. I dont even try...
    stronzo stronzo 46-50, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I miss the sexual intimacy we had

    before kids. I don't regret having kids and I think most parents can relate to the challenges of work, household responsibilities, kids' homework our work, etc... We have talked about it, made plans and agreed on comprimises. But still over time those agreements faded and...
    westhills248 westhills248 41-45, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    i have been in a deep state of contemplation

    all day. i truly feel it is time for me to file for divorce and move on. my only fear, worry and concern is that my husband will definitely fight me and refuse to sign divorce papers and i fear the effect a messy divorce can and will have on our children especially our...
    ladydiva34 ladydiva34 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 8

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 34 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 106 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    We got married last April.

    Yea, it's early in the marriage, but ever since that day things have gone straight downhill. We don't have sex, ever. Last time was December I think. She always has an excuse for affection beyond hugging or cuddling. Usually she won't kiss me beyond a simple peck unless she has...
    firemedic12 firemedic12 26-30, M 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Can someone please tell me what it's like to

    have a spouse who makes you feel loved and wanted on Valentine's Day? I need to at least live vicariously through someone else's romantic day.
    Mike405 Mike405 46-50, M 5 Responses Feb 14

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    He's a good man, and I know we love each other

    in our way... But I'm just a passionate person with a pretty high sex drive and a need to talk and listen. He seems so content to go about life on autopilot, but I'm just suffocating. I've tried everything: counseling, initiating super sexy stuff, trying to talk, giving him...
    katyebrooke katyebrooke 22-25, F 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 35 Responses Jan 2

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 28 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    don't have to work the weekend.

    .. stayed up late... tried to be affectionate with the wife. once again. She was too tired. Not today. Lol
    speedrcr67 speedrcr67 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I've been married for several years,

    and thought we had the fairy tale marriage. The marriage that beat the odds, where love conquers all, until last week, when my husband was finally honest and said that he wasn't happy. For years, on some level I felt like a failure, because it felt like I could never quite...
    Lanna40 Lanna40 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 17

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    Went out to eat tonight to beat the crowds.

    What a freaking disaster!! Spent all night talking about how our marriage sucks. Now I'm wide awake and the wife snoring like a baby. Happy valentines day... Yuck
    slim156 slim156 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    spoiledlittle spoiledlittle 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    funny how you can feel this way

    even though you are not alone
    lifetolive39 lifetolive39 36-40, M 16 Responses Jan 17

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    Marriage vows seriously need to say "I will

    try" instead of "I promise to love you till death due us part" along with all the other promises that humans can't possibly keep!
    sweetdreamer3 sweetdreamer3 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 15

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    Some days I feel desperate,

    desperate to have all that I'm missing with an actual human being.. or at least to develop a sincere friendship with someone that understands what I'm truly going through, not just some random guy that can't type to save his soul and demands a pic on message 3. Makes me...
    sweetdreamer3 sweetdreamer3 36-40, F 74 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Well... I guess I don't have to worry about

    this anymore. Wife just packed her stuff and drove away after 13 years. :(
    slim156 slim156 41-45, M 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 49 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    My Husband is a wonderful person .

    The best big brother to his Sisters.My fathers favorite Son in Law.The most caring father to his children and he gives me a wonderful home.Every night we say a formal goodnight part ways and walk towards our seperate rooms ...Am i being reckless in asking the universe for more?
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 61 Responses Jan 16

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