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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I'm married to someone

    who will always choose his "music" and friends over his family. I'm constantly having inner conflict about our marriage.
    Mimi602 Mimi602 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 10

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 88 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Loneliness has become the norm

    rather than the exception. I find myself trying to stay busy but it always catches me and surrounds me like a cloak of darkness. It sucks out the good and leaves me empty and broken.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Ummm.... Why would my husband ask me

    if I wanna do something, I said yes but as soon as his friend calls him, shows up at my house, leaves with him and does not even say good bye? I do not know for how long they would be out but, as usual, or the whereabouts but this is a new level of *******. Should I even say...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    It's gotten to the point

    that the loneliness actually HURTS. Painful. And yet hollow at the same time. I feel that my presence doesn't matter. If I wasn't here--he wouldn't notice or care. All because of a stupid GAME. I'm so tired of this freaking cycle. Things get better...and then he slips back...
    starsarenotgreen starsarenotgreen 22-25 6 Responses Jul 11

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    Update:We are back home from our beach weekend!

    Things went very well! Last night was a lot of fun. We enjoyed great food, music, and a wonderful time all night and all day today. He was very complimentary last night and today.It has been very pleasant between us and he confirmed that he definitely is still going to marriage...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 6

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 78 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I pursued my husband

    when we started dating. He didn't want to ruin our friendship. But I persisted. I have always been the driving force in our sex life an I think it's safe to say I've set all our goals. My husband has never worked for anything I haven't asked him to do. Nearly 5 years of...
    gracefortoday gracefortoday 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 9

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    My husband and I have been together

    for 21 years. He is a great man and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I would be lost without him. But our life seems to be at a stand still. The excitement is gone. I miss the passion, the communication, the adventure we used to have. Those days are long gone...
    UGonnaKissMeOrNot UGonnaKissMeOrNot 31-35, F 31 Responses Apr 14

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    I Am Married But Lonely

    As I've now been on this site for a few weeks I've come to realize how we as people are all the same. We all look for attention and affection and have a basic need to feel wanted. How can a person you've shared your life with not see what a total stranger can sense from a few...
    fatherof5 fatherof5 41-45, M 13 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    More of the same. Just more of the same.

    How does he think there's any room for a relationship when he walks in, says hi and heads straight to the study and his computer. He puts the headphones on and the world slips away (for him). And I'm just here wanting more. We eat dinner 1-2 hours later and then it's back on...
    starsarenotgreen starsarenotgreen 22-25 6 Responses Jul 21

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    Yes, married for 31 yrs.

    and I'm more alone with him here! This is an awful feeling...,
    Faith2008 Faith2008 46-50, F 25 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    What a beautiful afternoon,

    clear blue skies, not a cloud...I'm outside shooting hoops with my 7yo son...while my husband is on the Xbox. At least I'm getting a workout :-)
    prsunshine prsunshine 31-35, F 20 Responses Jul 22

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    I miss the flirting and cuddling.

    Granted we have an 18 mo old who is our world. And money troubles have us both down. I just wish we were a team facing our problems as opposed to room mates sometimes.
    MegMichelle29 MegMichelle29 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Nena0519 Nena0519 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 13

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    Can't we all just get a little compassion

    and comfort from our partner?!
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 14 Responses Jul 19

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F Jul 4

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    Wish my husband was in love with me

    and adored me and was just happy to be with me. Instead I get crapped on, eyes rolled and no appreciation or compassion or empathy. It is so heartbreaking. It's making me regret my decision to marry him. Just wish he would love me ....
    princesstwilight princesstwilight 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 19

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    I am married with 3 beautiful kids.

    For the past year my marriage has fallen apart and I don't know what to do. My husband is a functioning alcoholic and is also addicted to OTC nighttime sleeping aids. I've begged and pleaded for him to stop and get help but he has no desire to. I don't want to get a divorce...
    jah2798 jah2798 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 49 Responses Apr 6

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4

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    Married...That's a very loosely used term to

    describe what I have here! Lol. My grandson whom I love so much has gone home today after spending the past 6 weeks with me. My heart feels even more broken again as I think about him and the rough life he's had. No security, mother who mistreated him terribly, step-mother who...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I can't imagine feeling anymore lonely

    than I do right now. We had a "date" last night. His mom watched our kids. We went out to eat. Not even an hour and we were already home. I begged him to stay and just talk and have a drink with me. He wouldn't. He had to go home... Today he's been in his office all day. I told...
    lonelyhousewife2 lonelyhousewife2 26-30, F 43 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 100 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 26 Responses Feb 13

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    Nena0519 Nena0519 31-35, F 28 Responses Jul 10

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    Are there any women here

    who live in Israel ?
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M Jul 15

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    My relationship with my wife is

    so bland and passionless. She says that it is her hormones, but when do you get to the point that you get over it and get on with life?
    cardsfan72903 cardsfan72903 36-40, M 7 Responses Jul 10

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    How quickly things can change.

    ... I was very happy 2 years ago, but I had no idea what was going on behind my back. I have made the decision to try to stay in my 17 year marriage despite my wife's infidelity. I know that I'm doing the right thing for my family, but it has left me feeling VERY empty on...
    MrJedi MrJedi 36-40, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Do any other married

    but lonely people here feel emotionally paralyzed by the loneliness in your marriage? I do. It is not every single day but often enough to be significant to me. I guess it is some form of depression that kicks in and takes over. Sometimes, I feel so stuck in trying to figure...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 15 Responses Jul 16

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    I have been married for 19yrs in

    that time i have watched as my marriage went from one of romance and passion to a one sided affair. I have tried for the past 3 years everything and even proposed and bought my wife a new ring figuring that would show what she means to me but it did not she complained i never...
    monty71 monty71 41-45, M 3 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 19 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the

    marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the point where I don't even try to get emotional relief from him anymore because I know he just is unavailable in the way that I need. In addition...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    The Lingerie!

    The lingerie! This story is all part of my 20th wedding anniversary dinner. We had been growing apart, and intimacy of any sort seemed a thing of the past.I separated this part out as it has merits as a story unto itself. In preparation for our 20th wedding anniversary, I was...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M 38 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    I've been married for almost 13 years,

    but it's technically been over for at least half of that. It really hit home to me tonight, how much I crave that bond that should be present between spouses. My dad took our children for an overnight, and yet, he's downstairs and I'm upstairs in my room. No interference, no...
    PinkContessa PinkContessa 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 5

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 42 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer.

    He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our marriage not to have children. I have my work, my family and my friends but I'm lonely. I miss my husband and sometimes I don't even feel like I...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 18 Responses Mar 31

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 42 Responses Mar 16

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    Married.and.lonely.looking.

    to.find.someone.to.chat.on.KIK!!
    Blissfullkim Blissfullkim 26-30, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 23 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 19 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 19

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    Hello all 39 married male here,

    I would love to meet a new friend to talk with Let's chat!
    beachdrinks beachdrinks 36-40, M 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 253 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    Last night I had a terrible migraine.

    I asked my husband to go to the store to get me certain medicines. He refused because we had other medicine here at home. He fell asleep in the living room because I would not lie still and I kept moaning and he could not sleep. I was throwing up and I had to call my young...
    cmcar cmcar 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 19

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    Lonely or trapped? Victim

    or choice? Married ..not married? This does not simply apply to married people but those who found someone they believed to be their one and only. Marriage in these instances come from a persons complete soul. A place so deep that you open your delicate heart...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 13 Responses May 9

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    Another night laying here listening to her

    sleeping and trying to reconcile the differences in our sex drives... I cannot sleep. I need more than this in my life. So many things that I want to try and do.... And I know they won't happen before I die. I've picked really flirting with ladies that I encounter... And...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It is January 1st, 2014 at about 12:11 a.

    m, my children and I hugged and kissed and wished each other a happy new year. Where is my husband in all of this? In the kitchen on his laptop not speaking to any of us....especially me. We have been married for 4 years but been together for over 8. As I sit in our bed alone...
    Nolongerinterested Nolongerinterested 31-35, F 27 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    Im so lonely even being married cos i married

    the wrong man, cos i wanted to have children so much. Now i have consequences of it. I live in loveless marriage. The only joy is my daughter. Im scared, im depressed and i need love.
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 19 Responses Jul 10

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    I Want A Playmate

    I want a playmate. Someone whose company I really enjoy, and we can go to dinner, the movies, a walk, work out together, play games, go the beach, take a vacation...oh I don't know....and so many more things to do together. I'm tired of going everywhere alone. I've heard it say...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 40 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Three years ago I caught my husband texting

    younger women that he worked with. He said he sent some inappropriate text messages but never had a physical affair. He tried to apologize and showed me so much love for over a year. I was so angry and hurt that he did this to us and I treated him so mean that whole year cause I...
    kelly121994 kelly121994 41-45, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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