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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 14 Responses Jan 20

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    This is new... I love my husband,

    more than life itself, love our four children too. He is a great provider and has been there for me many times. He is quite busy and at the top of his career and dreams. He says he loves me, i don't know. Some years ago there was adultery, with a call girl, i think we worked...
    MargKing MargKing 36-40 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 29 Responses May 28

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    Anyone else out there have a spouse

    who uses the kids as an excuse? I understand with kids life gets busy and routine and there's not a lot of time for romance and friendship but there is a little time. My husband literally tells me to hold out until the kids are grown because I guess suddenly he will be...
    Marie6421 Marie6421 26-30, F 18 Responses Jun 22

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Mar 29

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    lonley1973 lonley1973 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Ok so I'm new to this .

    . not sure what experiences to share lol .. all I know is when he leaves I cry .. but never in front of him anymore .. it's been years of him working out of town a lot .. I want him to choose me & not leave so much even if it is for work .. I want to feel wanted & like someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses a week ago

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 9

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    Hi I have been married

    for 30 years my husband and I both work but when we are at home he spends all his time in another bedroom only coming down to collect his meals and taking them back up. If I am upstairs he comes down but when he hears me coming down gets up and passes me like I am invisible...
    Julieelizabethhospital Julieelizabethhospital 51-55, F 12 Responses Jun 14

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    After 7 years of marriage,

    I've been reflecting a lot. I think back and wonder what changed with us. We used to have intimacy but as the years went by it got less and less and we seemed to have grown further and further apart. We're like roommates with kids. There's no intimacy but I'm not sure that's...
    bgood79 bgood79 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 20

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    I have been married for 3 years now

    and I shouldn't feel this lonely
    lonley1973 lonley1973 41-45, M 11 Responses Jun 17

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    Treated like **** by my wife

    and three kids, this had to be the worst Father's Day I ever had. I wish I had just gone to work today.
    NJguitarist NJguitarist 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 21

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 25

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    So tomorrows fathers day,

    and like always I am going all out. Thats the way I was raised we went all out for birthdays, special occations, and holidays.. I even gave him one of his presents today! Was there any response f*** no not one word! What man wouldn't like (those that drink anyway) a pack of...
    scarsofrelief scarsofrelief 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 20

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    I have been married 13 years with 4 children

    and our children are driving us apart. I so miss her touch and attention. I dont want anyone else but am dying from feeling alone
    pricelesschange pricelesschange 36-40 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    When I am on social media,

    I get so jealous over peoples great marriages. I see them at school events and realize I married a dud that cant even care for our children to go to their big events such as 5th graduation. I can only lead a horse to water.
    hcsunshine hcsunshine 41-45, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 25 Responses Apr 13

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    I miss our youthful relationship.

    ..getting older and hardly spend any time together. Only the occasional desperation sex after a long dry spell. It's a lonely road and one that doesn't seem to have an end in sight.
    FaunaLady FaunaLady 36-40, F 11 Responses Jun 12

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    After this weekend I'm learning

    that trying to rekindle my marriage is like trying to rekindle wet wood. Sometimes I think I want it to work so bad that I believe the little gestures, romantic dinners, or gifts will be the spark. Sure it works for a while but the flames (I use that work loosely) go out when...
    MrHyde96 MrHyde96 36-40, M 7 Responses Jun 22

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 30 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    My husband harps on and on about "buying a

    house." He's made a great deal of rude comments to me over the years about "our" inability to do so. See it's my fault we don't own a home. I choose to cash out my 401k from the U.S. and pay for two university degrees. How dare I! Meanwhile he hasn't a cent saved up for a...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 9 Responses Jun 20

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 53 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    Living in a cold emotionless marriage is

    so hard. I love him but we just go through the motions. Last weekend I cooked a special dinner...candles...trying to rekindle what we once had. He called and said he was on his way. I told him I had prepared a special dinner for him. He showed up two hours later with...
    TXAngelWings TXAngelWings 36-40, F 13 Responses Jun 21

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    I need advice. ..I want to message my friend

    that I have feelings for to try and just reconnect. I know we can't be together which is ok but I just want his friendship again. problem is my husband. he forbid me from ever talking to him and I know if he found out it would be bad. I just miss talking to him so much. idk what...
    pandaangel pandaangel 26-30, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 26 Responses Jan 22

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 46-50, M 60 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Sometimes I just want to leave,

    but I don't want to break our family apart. I'm just tired of all the cheating and the lies 😔
    Optimistic813 Optimistic813 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 13

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 276 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 29 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Anyone else having one of those days today?

    I'm just feeling more frustrated than I normally do.
    Marie6421 Marie6421 26-30, F 31 Responses Jun 9

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    together alone. .....

    ..your words make him upset then after being cold or harsh to you he comes back loving like nothing is wrong.and you're suppose to act like nothing happened. "inside my heart is breaking, my make up may be flaking, but my smile still stays on"
    pandaangel pandaangel 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    https://youtu.be/n1Te-3gZFLI great song

    for anyone who had ever felt angry, lost, betrayed, broken, anything negative. this song is for you helped me in my darkest hours. WARNING this song might not be to everyone's taste, has elements of rock rap style but great lyrics.enjoy
    pandaangel pandaangel 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Wondering how many women in this group are

    daydreaming about being all tied up by a hot stranger ;)
    Shorefun2015 Shorefun2015 36-40, M 6 Responses Jun 19

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 56 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 26 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 59 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I know how you feel. to have someone

    so close. but can't talk to or touch
    lonley1973 lonley1973 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 17

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 43 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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