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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 44 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I woke up sick. But it was my baby niece's

    birthday so with a pounding head and I got m three kids up, fed, dressed and off to her two birthday parties. I took them to the first one at the skating rink then to the second one at her grandparents house. My te time we made it home my youngest was sick too. Finally my...
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31

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    Hello and thank you for taking the time to read

    this. The title says it all. I love my wife but if you are in this group you understand my reasons for being here. Chances are if you take the same situations that brought you here, they apply to me as well. I do have manners and won't talk inappropriately but do like to flirt...
    andyreed andyreed 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My husband ran out to get cigarettes 4 hours

    ago. I hope I don't have to bail him out of jail again, from another DUI.. What a fun life....
    KISSB00TS KISSB00TS 46-50, F 13 Responses Jan 31

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    So, I need to vent a little.

    My husband didn't sleep in our bed again last night. I was apparently rude to him. Wonder what tonight's excuse is going to be. I don't know where things went wrong for us. It's not always bad, there are good times, even if they are far too few. He's always working, so I...
    Samy27 Samy27 26-30, F 12 Responses Feb 5

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 41-45, M 33 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    After 20 years. I can't help

    but think what it would be like to be with a girl 20 years or younger then me
    azcat6928 azcat6928 46-50, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Aug 2, 2015

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    I've been perusing this site

    and never dropped much of a post. But it is a big help and provides some relief when you just go ahead and let it out there. I've been married for 15 years now and with 2 kids. Our marriage is hanging on threads and has been that way for sometime...it's gotten worse over the...
    VPgator VPgator 41-45, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 60 Responses Jul 19, 2015

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    i bought her a 200k house 2 cars

    and tons of cloths. and for the last few year i been sleeping in my office. i have tried restarting date nights. suprising her with gifts and tons of other stuff her mom and sister have told me to do to win her affection back. i guess im meant to lose this battle. i really need...
    desperateformywife desperateformywife 36-40 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I came on here feeling really bad about

    everything until I read others post .I have it bad but there is so many people on here that are going through worst . I just want to say I'm sorry to everyone . and you are not alone
    lilmousey1 lilmousey1 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 4

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    I think my marriage is over .

    .. I mean, it's been over for a while ... I am just coming around to the fact I can't fix it. It is killing me to stay in it. I am deeply ashamed at failing at it. It just seems like a no win.
    Woody6 Woody6 41-45, M 15 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    A woman awakes in the middle of the night to

    find her husband not in bed. She puts on her robe and goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of hot cocoa in front of him. He appears to be deep in thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wipes away a tear from his...
    cpsf cpsf 26-30, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    i really hate this happen in my marriage .

    i dont dream a perfect man with handsome face, unlimited money, showering me with fancy stuff. no no no what i want is a man who understand and know his priorities . his position. i hate man who always behind PC or staring on his smartass phone . i dont say that u cant do that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 3

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    every woman wants a man who's trustworthy,

    dependable, good in bed and that listens. unfortunately, the law only allows one husband :(
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 18 Responses Oct 30, 2015

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    I wonder why there are

    so many of us on here. I feel like my husband doesn't make an effort anymore. We've had a lot of issues, and sometimes I feel like we are still together for our kids. Anyone else feel like that?
    lucyl lucyl 41-45, F 28 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 41-45, F 20 Responses May 4, 2014

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 34 Responses Jul 4, 2015

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 27 Responses Apr 13, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hate feeling so unbelievably lonely

    when I'm married!! I hate not having someone to sit up with, chat to, laugh with & be intimate with. Someone who knows when I need some attention, when I need to offload & talk about my day. I hate answering by saying "I'm fine" when really I'm not! But being treated like a...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 18 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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    Dear husband You have the world at your feet.

    U are so self centred u can't see 2 feet ahead of u. Someday ur gonna miss all the times I asked for a kiss and u didn't give me one Someday ur gonna miss me asking for a foot massage after a 12 hour set up day and u didn't bother with me Someday ur gonna miss having me...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 27 Responses Nov 5, 2015

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    "The biggest coward is a man

    who awakens a woman's love with no intention of loving her" -Bob Marley I don't think one should waste their time on someone who only wants you around when it's convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    Well I'm almost positive my marriage is over

    with my wife. I'm devastated.
    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 31

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 22 Responses Aug 5, 2015

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    Being married is truly like having another

    career. It is a lot of hard work and dedication. It is very over rated. If only I could go back in time. I would have stayed single 4 life and only had friends. I feel like I have a roommate not a husband. Other times it's like having another child. I am so over it. My advice to...
    F1rstLadi F1rstLadi 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 19

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    DRTD DRTD 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 4

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 26 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    I am newly married. been married 6 months

    and already feel alone. we were so excited to get married. now the novelty has worn thin and I feel alone. we don't spend barely any time together and when we do I am usually getting in trouble for something I've done wrong or said wrong when I try so much to do everything right...
    newlymarriedandalone newlymarriedandalone 31-35, M 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Thought my husband was going to finally spend

    time with us..... yeah..... he's currently sleeping on the couch.... asked why he doesn't want to sleep next to me.... apparently he feels overwhelmed, trapped, doesn't have space.... but get this he sleeps in the living room on a mattress with one of our kids almost on top of...
    Samy27 Samy27 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 57 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    note to husband: your dinners in the cookbook,

    pg. 32. And the ingredients are at the store.
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 19 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    in the darkness of the night.

    .. I sit listening to the walls we created together the memories that made me so happy the feelings I once had for us and thought could never be replaced I lay next to you in bed feeling only sorrow and regret for all things we left unsaid and just couldn't seem to fix fighting...
    passionat3kiss3s passionat3kiss3s 22-25, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    My husband is a good man,

    his job is 24/7 on call plus scheduled 8 hr days. I never know when he will be home, change plans, or show up for our child. I chose to marry him at 18 and he insisted we have a child and that I stay home. I have given up all of the person I was, the person I wanted to be and...
    Ineedlovetoo Ineedlovetoo 31-35, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    It seems like a lot of people are in the same

    scenario. I hope I can make a couple friends on here.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 3

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 30 Responses Mar 29, 2015

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    Why am I so lonely in my married life.

    . I would like to find someone in the same situation .. one that enjoy chatting with someone else.... :) who else is married but lonely on here...
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67 46-50, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Dear Husband.... So today I decided to be

    honest with myself and allow you to blame me for the failure of our marriage.... It is my fault I strayed after 19 years of sexual neglect... It is my fault that I wanted soft sweet kisses before I fell asleep - you denied me It is my fault that I wanted a hug when I felt sad...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 20 Responses Sep 10, 2015

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    hello...i don't know

    where to post this exactly, sorry if it ends up in the wrong category/group. i have a situation that i cannot discuss with anyone, but i need some feedback from others. i'm not sure why i need the feedback, but i just do. i've been married 9 years and have 3 AMAZING children...
    mommajllc mommajllc 36-40, F 11 Responses Feb 5

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    Honest, normal, sincere,

    and stand up people are truly hard to find these days.... Especially here... So ladies... And for the guys too, if you find that here as we paddle our way through our lonely marriages- consider yourself lucky!
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    I've been married for a little over 7 years now.

    At first everything couldn't have been better. But as time went on things are different. It's not as though we're not trying but I feel as though we are growing in two separate directions. Things we used to have in common are not in common any longer. The things I enjoy doing...
    Kayden28 Kayden28 26-30 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 95 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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