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I Am Married But Lonely

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    teasemenow teasemenow 26-30, F 13 Responses 4 days ago

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    "The danger of being lonely is

    that you easily fall for the very first person who shows you that you are not alone"
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jul 8

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 33 Responses Jul 4

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    A bad marriage lead me to make mistakes

    and the whole thing leaves me feeling bad about myself and very lonely.
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    So all weekend , no kids,

    nothing stopping us but you.... And that he did , my hubby wanted no sex .... How Does this happen?? Or am I thinking too much?? I am so over the " honey not right now" crap!!! Or honey what has gotten into you?? ........ So tired of trying
    newatthis20 newatthis20 36-40, F 10 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I sometimes have a heart full of tears.

    Sadness. I feel I have no one to comfort me or to dry my tears. I need strong arms to support me when I am weak. I need my tears to be wiped. I am growing very tired.
    lostwife42 lostwife42 41-45, F 17 Responses 3 days ago

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 39 Responses Jul 28

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    I heard this old Queen song

    and it made me think of my own situation but without feeling bad.. I'm actually at the gym singing out loud lol. Boy I have a bad voice lol Anyway.. I'm gonna find me someone to love :) Can anyone find me somebody to love. Got no feel, I got no rhythm I just keep losing my...
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 6 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Another evening of idle chat then off to

    different parts of the house.
    Farmer208 Farmer208 51-55, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    I attended my friend 20th high school reunion

    and boy I'm so glad I did. It just so happened a guy I graduated with attended with his brother I haven't seen him in over 20 years. When we saw each other we were both ecstatic he still looked the same and he was like you haven't changed at all. Needlessly to say we danced and...
    lustinforlove lustinforlove 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 54 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 24 Responses Aug 5

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 22

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    He always puts more mental/emotional energy

    into others... particularly the ones who don't care for or appreciate his efforts. I have straight up been told that the reward isn't worth the effort (put into me). I only get positive attention when he wants something. And then he doesn't understand why I act so distant or...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Just saying hi! To anyone

    who will listen.
    mogabr mogabr 36-40, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I had a huge break through today.

    I realize the man I married isn't the person I though he was. Now I have to figure out how to move on.
    NekoViolet NekoViolet 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    this year will be 19 years of marriage

    for me. we fight alot, and the fights are ugly. my husband, always known as the nice guy, isn't always nice to me. When we get along he is the best friend I have ever had, the best person I have ever known, but when is not good, its the worst feeling in the world, I get...
    Tawny3 Tawny3 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I've been married for 16 yrs

    but the last 2 years have been hard on me. She has been sleeping around on me with this guy she works with they tex back and fourth all the time. I'm sick of dealing with this and ready to leave but I have kids and don't won't to mess up their lifestyle.
    willb75 willb75 36-40, M 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am lonely in my marriage.

    I am doing everything a wife and a mother should do but I am unhappy. There is no intimacy at all. I want hugs and kisses, and passionate dirty sex... I feel like I am dying in this marriage
    ffedupp ffedupp 36-40, F 31 Responses a week ago

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    My husband isn't a terrible guy,

    but he is incredibly selfish. Everyday I become more sad, more despondent because I feel like I'm existing to serve. He doesn't help cook, he doesn't help clean, he doesn't help put the groceries away and our marriage is on the verge of being sexless. I'll initiate the sex...
    junejax2000 junejax2000 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 25 Responses May 28

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    I am tired of being a companion I need someone

    that wants my passion as mush as my friendship.
    MisterGw MisterGw 41-45, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 70 Responses Jul 19

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 34 Responses Aug 2

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    looking for a likewise woman whos looking

    for something online .....
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 23

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    The loneliness is unbearable.

    At night, it's the worst. After the voices of the day die down, the trees stop flowing in the breeze, the kids are fast asleep...all I'm left with are my thoughts of desire, my feelings of aloneness, my broken heart calling for someone...anyone to rescue me. I try to force...
    EagleManifesto EagleManifesto 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 19

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    RahRah73 RahRah73 41-45, F 40 Responses Jun 17

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 49 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    My loneliness in my marriage has turned into

    feeling defeated, which is hard to believe given how optimistic a person I am. It's very true that one can have the American dream (education, success, etc.) and still feel very lonely - I'd give it all up to be in a relationship where my wife would naturally put her arm around...
    Niceguy6 Niceguy6 51-55, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    took OT work today just to get out of the house.

    I remember when getting a day off was like a pass to "funzone" but now if I'm off, I get nothing but dread. I know that if I'm home I'll merely be put down, compared with guys whom she thinks have perfect looks. glad I'm working in a little bit.
    daddy4pleasure daddy4pleasure 31-35, M 6 Responses Aug 22

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 23 hrs ago

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    Hi I'm new here, married 9 years together 18!

    Can't believe I'm that old already. I love d my husband he made me laugh a lot . He used to be my best friend, the one I couldn't wait to talk to. But I'm not in love anymore. Marriage is hard and throw in 2 great kids and a bipolar hypochondriac (that's not even near the right...
    linacar79 linacar79 36-40, F 22 Responses Aug 6

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    Married 33 years. No affection

    for the last 15 or more. 3 Children, all grown. Every attempt to make things better is met with disdain. Every emotion expressed is dismissed. It's all my fault as I have hurt her heart she says, although she won't tell me what I did. Every attempt to show affection to her...
    ifpinga ifpinga 56-60, M 5 Responses Aug 19

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 13

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    here I sit again. drive into town to get to

    work "in case they need me for something" so that I'm not sitting at home. I'm leaning closer and closer to the D word everyday. I've finally realized that with the short time we live, we ask deserve to be happy.
    daddy4pleasure daddy4pleasure 31-35, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Mar 29