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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 107 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Got my hair cut and alot of ppl at work gave me

    compliments etc They really meant and it was good to hear but I felt strangly detached from my self like what good is it for I know feeling good is good enough But I miss something ..
    sirpercival sirpercival 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    So my wife seems to always have a bunch of

    excuses on why she does not have time for me. One of her favorites is that she is tired. I mean, not too tired to soak in the tub for over an hour. Not too tired to play on her phone or the computer for two hours at night. Not too tired to wake up and get right on her phone...
    tiredgoodguy tiredgoodguy 26-30, M 6 Responses Mar 16

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    "Sometimes people are meant to fall in love

    with someone...but those people are not always meant to be with that someone forever."
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 12

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 22 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 24 Responses Jan 22

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 23 Responses 2 days ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 270 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    How can you love someone with all your heart

    then have it turn into this! stranger living in the same house!!
    clduffy clduffy 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 13

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    I have been married for 25 years.

    I have two wonderful kids. I am a stay at home mom and run a home daycare in my home. I have been frustrated with my home life for quite a while now. My husband and teenage daughter are always on their devices. My husband has been acting like her friend instead of being...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 20

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    i got marriage preposels twice today she

    said of course as ussual it was infront of one of the kids memories started hiting me about all sorts of frienships with men she has a lot and about meeting her ex boy friend acouple of yrs ago about intemate relashionships with men she has. i dont mean sexual. got to shake...
    sirpercival sirpercival 46-50, M 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I met two men online,

    two years apart. one I felt was catfishing me because he was in another country, but still I loved him deeply. the thought of him until this day still makes wonder what if I had waited a liitle while longer? The other I am with now feels like a total waste of my time....so...
    javee76 javee76 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 22

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 65 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I love my wife, but I don't love the lack of

    intimacy. I feel that I'm a very passionate man, and I believe you have to love the one your with! Too many people make love like a sports tournament, "one and done", I feel foreplay is as integral aspect as well as satisfaction of your partner! This is what I have in my heart...
    cougar1967 cougar1967 66-70, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    I should have known something was wrong

    when my husband had to take his computer with us on our honeymoon. It's just gone downhill from there guys . If this is you get out while you can because it's not going to get better, and once you have kids you will feel obligated to stay.
    kayroxyoursox kayroxyoursox 26-30, F 8 Responses Mar 17

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    first two years were only great

    after that i was only trying to cement togeather abroken relationship because my sweet son was already here but all went down hill to say the least
    hassanelsandobi hassanelsandobi 61-65, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 11

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    So, my husband asked me to help him find some

    tracking numbers for a package he ordered. I needed to reset his password on the site. so I signed in on his email to check for the verification email. in his sent box was 2 emails one pic of his penis and him saying he didn't want to get her in trouble with her husband. and...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 14

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 33 Responses Jan 2

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    We don't talk. We don't touch.

    We don't share anything. We've become separate people, trapped in the same life.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 10

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    "A Thin Line Between Love

    and Hate". Blurred line
    Maliagirl Maliagirl 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 26 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 18 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    hi, in a hollow lost empty marriage making

    plans to leave ..i want the sunshine . i want to be okay with silliness and laughter and seeing the tiny things in everyday life that makes the world so wonderful and beautiful..do not want to be ignored or scoffed at .....watch out ..here i some all of me! tears laughter and...
    jodineedslove jodineedslove 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Hes my friend.... But,

    he doesnt feel like my spouse. We can talk about anything and can finally admit to our mistakes. We can say were sorry and give each other praise. But, something is missing. I know this isn't marriage. If it was I wouldnt be so lonely... I wouldnt be wishing and hoping for more...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 17 Responses Mar 10

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    New here so I'm going to spill.

    .. I've been married almost 8 years, after the death of a lover, I found my husband. After a very short time, I realized exactly what kind man he is. The main issue is the lies. He does things as his wife he shouldn't and lies about it, actually he lies about everything... Of he...
    vintagehillbilly vintagehillbilly 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 24

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    AnimalJanice AnimalJanice 36-40, F 23 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 46 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I lay awake wondering what I'm missing.

    He's beside me sound asleep miles away. I can't even feel his warmth, touch his skin or hear his heart beat. The tension is thick as a knife, a bullet wouldn't even penetrate it. It's bulletproof. It's the wall we have put up. The wall we have built together. The years of...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 16 Responses 6 days ago

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    My Husband is a wonderful person .

    The best big brother to his Sisters.My fathers favorite Son in Law.The most caring father to his children and he gives me a wonderful home.Every night we say a formal goodnight part ways and walk towards our seperate rooms ...Am i being reckless in asking the universe for more?
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 60 Responses Jan 16

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I am so lonely , my husband is not attractive

    to me anymore. I have tried to get a long with him, but he irritates me, i just don't know if i can do this anymore. I am so close to having an affair with someone at work because i am so lonely and unsatisfied.. I have been so depressed that it feels so good to have someone...
    jdamselfly jdamselfly 36-40, F 23 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am sick of living a life waiting in limbo.

    How much loneliness can someone take? I dont know how to move on or change it. Feeling stuck
    hcsunshine hcsunshine 41-45, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I met my husband five years ago

    and married him a year ago. We worked together and when we first met I was instantly attracted but was in a relationship at the time as was he. A few years went by I had broken up with my ex and he was not doing good in his relationship so we started hanging out. Needless to say...
    chrissy0516 chrissy0516 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 12

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Alone is this big world.

    Alone in my every thought my every dream. In a crowded room I feel like a stranger full of people I know. They don't really know me. They never will. This skin that covers me these clothes I wear are walls. Barriers to the real me, hidden behind the big smile of mine. Pain and...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Last night I approached her gently (as always),

    hoping to make love to her... She rebuffed me, insisting that she was tired and so... I can understand that of course, it wasn't the first time after all... The thing that hurts though is, throughout the entire 12 years that we are together, I have never said no to her intimate...
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 33 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    After reading several of these posts I see I am

    not the minority. I to have a very similar story to share as most of you do. My marriage isn't an open book by any means. We like to keep to ourselves and are private for the most part. Recently, and by recently I mean past 6 months, things just have not been the same. We...
    misunderstood74 misunderstood74 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 16

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 54 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 27 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I've been through a thoroughly emotionally

    abusive relationship and coming out of it, still married. I learned that I was allowing the abuse to continue on by reacting to my husband. Now I ignore him and step aside when he feels like making me walk on an eggshell. It often happens when we are doing well, and then out...