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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I love my wife, I really do.

    We have become like magnets though. The closer we get, the stronger we push each other away. When I get a hair cut, I drink the physical contact in like a sponge. Ears are sensitive you know. Sleeping alone on a cold night. Seeing women in the store. Thinking about them. Just...
    zax2 zax2 51-55, M 2 Responses Jul 24

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    A funny thing happens

    when your spouse withdraws sex and affection for so long...you don't even attempt to ask for it anymore. Who wants to be rejected time after time? I know it sounds pitiful, but it hurts EVERY SINGLE TIME. So I quit expecting, asking, begging. I feel hollow. I have so much to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 32 Responses Mar 29

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    Alpacino21 Alpacino21 41-45 3 hrs ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 52 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 25 Responses Apr 13

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    I've been with a my husband

    for a total of 7 years. He would be perfect, but he's shorter than me and although he does everything right, even in the bed he's a great lover, i still have this wanting for someone else, someone taller, more handsome, with a lot more testosterone. He works overseas so I'm...
    meoun1986 meoun1986 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I wanted to marry one man

    and spend the rest of my life with him and raise a happy family together, but it looks like that is not going to happen now. I never thought divorce would play a part in my future.
    miaruth miaruth 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 9

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    "The danger of being lonely is

    that you easily fall for the very first person who shows you that you are not alone"
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jul 8

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Hi new here. I have been married

    for 14 years now and do not know why. I feel as though we have nothing in common and we spend no time together. We have children (none together) but they are grown and moved out. Most of the time it's just me at home, or if he is home he stays outside till time to sleep. I think...
    hpygrl1971 hpygrl1971 41-45, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    my husband was supposed to be home from work 3

    hours ago...finally got a hold of him and he was out at the bar, with a female co-worker. it doesn't bother me so much that he was out, but that he didnt ******* tell me at least...so I'm not sitting around like a dumbass waiting and worried and he's just out.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 23

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    I'm here I'm new I'm lonely.

    Someone make me feel alive again!
    verbs137 verbs137 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 21

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 76 Responses Jul 19

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 28 Responses Jan 22

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    It's mean to say but the day my mother in law

    dies will be the best day of my life. If you knew her, you would understand where I am coming from....
    NJguitarist NJguitarist 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 22

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 46-50, M 59 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Hello people, I just joined a few hours ago

    so I thought I'd share some info incase anyone wanted to chat. I'm married, not sure why anymore because we just co-exist although I do love him, very much. Reading books & going to gigs are my two favourite things to do. I love meeting new people and finding out what makes...
    firestar81 firestar81 31-35, F 14 Responses Jul 19

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 107 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 25

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    Reading so many of these stories.

    ....so many marriages lacking for one reason or another. As we grow older and life changes us, sometimes we can no longer be the person we were and respond to our partners the way we once did. My own marriage is ' ok'. Hubby is a good man and we are affectionate....we even still...
    sillysoo sillysoo 46-50, F 14 Responses Jul 25

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    I suppose it happens to alot of couples

    but when the things you had in common no longer apply what can you do?
    Lifetolive38 Lifetolive38 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 22

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    28 year old male married 3 children in a

    romanceless marriage. Looking for fun person to connect with.
    stevo66669 stevo66669 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    astrudcc11 astrudcc11 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    Just got back from a 5 day vacation with my

    husband, 3 of which included his father and stepmother. (I invited them and actually really like both of them, to the point the vacation was my gift to them.) There are times I can see my husband try. There are more times I can see him refuse to break his ignorance and realize...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 21 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 38 Responses Jul 4

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 55 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 43 Responses 5 days ago

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    RahRah73 RahRah73 41-45, F 43 Responses Jun 17

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    Husband promised he be home by noon

    because dd asked him to take her to the park. 4:30 and still no sign of him. I feel so sad as he never puts family time first. It's not that he doesn't care; it's more that he's the type to put off fun until every possible chore and work related thing is done. He has done ONE...
    Crystalmoon32 Crystalmoon32 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    Anyone else having one of those days today?

    I'm just feeling more frustrated than I normally do.
    Marie6421 Marie6421 26-30, F 34 Responses Jun 9

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I have been married for 33 yrs.

    Although my husband is a good person, he is a womanizer. This has happened so many times and I am tired of his promises to change. I have caught him a number of times already and i don't trust and believe that he will still change. I am lonely and disappointed in myself that I...
    LEAHCARP LEAHCARP 61-65, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    I was missing my old chat buddies lately.

    I was missing one because back then i didnt even noticed him really. Today i looked at his fotos and think "what was wrong with me?" Im desperatelly looking for him, but i couldnt find him online anymore. I dont know his name, i have only his fotos and his messenger name, well...
    lonely4560 lonely4560 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 28 Responses May 28

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    My husbands best friend came on to me.

    I turned him down and told my husband. Husbands response: Feels sorry for his friend "he is so down right now that he would hit of his friends wife."
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 16

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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