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I Am Married But Lonely

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 32 Responses Jan 2

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 45 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    Anyone in this forum

    because your spouse is having an emotional affair?
    Mike405 Mike405 51-55, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I told my friends

    and family I was engaged they all told me to take it slow. I was 18 and would be getting married at 19, but I was "in love." 10 years later all of those voices linger in my head. I should have listened. I should have left so many times, but I never could. I needed him and could...
    Adrianna7182 Adrianna7182 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 25

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    Yep, must be nice out again.

    ... 10:00... I've barely seen my husband. I guess I have to figure out how to handle yet another spring/summer of this.
    dewkissedrose dewkissedrose 36-40, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I must write this all down tonight

    while she is out with friends, before she comes back and tries something. I know what happens if she does... The mind games resume. I start feeling guilty for feeling dissatisfied. I will feel close to her... somewhat... for a moment at least. I will feel hopeful...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 24

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bettycc11 bettycc11 26-30, F Apr 24

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    I miss you. I need you.

    I want you. Please come back to me.
    Troutflies Troutflies 41-45, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 30 Responses Mar 29

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    However, lamenting my circumstances does me no

    good. I want to enjoy life and experience friendship. I enjoy conversing about ideas and experiences, making intellectual and emotional connections. For some reason, I have had trouble making those connections. I fear I'm doomed to live a life of solitude and missed...
    ImperfectHuman ImperfectHuman 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 24

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 24 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    I am married to a red hair stunning Irish man.

    he's 9 yrs my senior and was blessed with a beautiful daughter. He has 5 kids prior to our marriage and I had one from my ex. So in total we have 7 kids. But only 2 lives with us. I just recently started working night shifts as I work full time mom day time and hubby takes over...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    No responses needed..

    .just wanted to post this... I feel like I care for and nurture everyone close to me, but when I need it there is no nurturing in return. Just a hug I don't have to ask for or an I love you that I don't have to say 1st...it would take so little, but even when I ball up my...
    LifelongTomboy LifelongTomboy 41-45, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 12 Responses Jan 20

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    So sometimes I like to show off my naked body

    and see if anyone else would me...
    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 16 Responses a week ago

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    because he does not want to talk about

    responsibilities like paying bills etc. we lost everything last year but he is still boastful to other people that we are doing ok. he has no work, no income at all. we have 1 child in college but still i am the one looking for some ways to pay the fees, house rent and even our...
    mas4074 mas4074 36-40, F 11 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    The everyday struggle in my head is the hardest

    part. I get up in the morning, it’s there. I go to bed at night it’s there. I love my wife, but no longer want to be with her. I crave emotion and intimacy, but she is not capable of it. She has no interest in sex, but I could have sex with her if I wanted...and no...
    Rebigulator Rebigulator 46-50, M Apr 26

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 57 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    So much to say and no idea

    where to start...I have been married for 20 years and as time has progressed, the more emotionally unavailable she has become. At this point, I live my life without intimacy from my wife – no emotional intimacy, no physical intimacy, no intimacy of any kind in any form. I...
    Rebigulator Rebigulator 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 23

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I got out. Best decision of my life.

    Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious endeavor that should be a last resort. However... There are some people in the world who are just not ever going to care, or ever going to...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I married my best friend,

    someone I knew for 15 years now. After 6 years of marriage, we are fast realising that this is not going to work out. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for months and the loneliness and helplessness is really getting to me. A part of me says it's time to let go and be free...
    pirng pirng 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 26

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I've been dreaming a lot lately about my ex

    boyfriend from high school. we're together for on and off for a long time. now since my husband leaves me to go drink I've been contemplating f I should reach out to my ex
    r3dclover r3dclover 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    my husband likes to drink on the weekends

    leaving me to feel alone and less than his drinking. we've discussed his excessive drinking but it seems he doesn't care or truly realize how it really effects me.
    r3dclover r3dclover 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 13

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 11

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    I don't know what to think anymore.

    I feel like I'm just around to be the maid. No conversation. It seems like a competition more so than a marriage. I keep trying to make it work. This is my second marriage. I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant. All he does is play the game from sun up to sun down. I watch television. I...
    LonelyandLoyal LonelyandLoyal 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 26

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    My husband started working opposite shifts from

    me. I see him for about 26 hours a week, which works out to an average of 2-3 hours a day. It's sad.
    butters510 butters510 26-30, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I wore a dress today

    for the first time in forever and the first time wearing it out, not just to church . (when I went to that.) He didn't say anything except that I picked a perfect windy day to wear one. V_V sigh. I had shorts and a shirt on underneath it. It was a little discouraging. . .he was...
    BabyDoll23p BabyDoll23p 22-25, F 13 Responses 2 days ago

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