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I Am Married But Lonely

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 18,850 People

    After 20 years. I can't help

    but think what it would be like to be with a girl 20 years or younger then me
    azcat6928 azcat6928 46-50, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    looking for friends that are going through

    similar situation. married too long and marriage is a friendship. looking for someone to chat with often
    njoceanbreezes njoceanbreezes 41-45, F 14 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    DRTD DRTD 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 4

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 60 Responses Jul 19, 2015

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    I've been married for a little over 7 years now.

    At first everything couldn't have been better. But as time went on things are different. It's not as though we're not trying but I feel as though we are growing in two separate directions. Things we used to have in common are not in common any longer. The things I enjoy doing...
    Kayden28 Kayden28 26-30 6 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 30 Responses Mar 29, 2015

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    Hello and thank you for taking the time to read

    this. The title says it all. I love my wife but if you are in this group you understand my reasons for being here. Chances are if you take the same situations that brought you here, they apply to me as well. I do have manners and won't talk inappropriately but do like to flirt...
    andyreed andyreed 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Medhafuk Medhafuk 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    I have been married for over 10 years.

    does it get any lonlier? ha
    AnonymouslyHopeful84 AnonymouslyHopeful84 31-35, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well I'm almost positive my marriage is over

    with my wife. I'm devastated.
    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 31

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Aug 2, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 27 Responses Apr 13, 2015

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    To all my "teammates"

    that are living in a lonely marriage... May this new year bring some positive changes your way... I understand reasons why people stay and I try hard not to look at it others and say "how do you do it"? (When it comes to staying for the reasons they stay)... Every...
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    All I want is a husband

    who will spend time with me. I don't want any more clothes, jewelry, bags, cars, or vacations! I want attention, affection, hand holding and lots of kissing. Thirteen years is a long time to go without a hug or a kiss.
    Allthatglitters80 Allthatglitters80 31-35, F 13 Responses Feb 4

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    No sex freakin sucks!

    Its not right! If he doesn't want sex ANYMORE he should talk to me about it and be honest! Not just lay here and ignore the subject! He says he doesn't want to break up! He still says I am his soul mate!! He gets upset if I ask him about it...we're in freakin counseling and he...
    AncientFlower AncientFlower 36-40, F 66 Responses Dec 18, 2015

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Honest, normal, sincere,

    and stand up people are truly hard to find these days.... Especially here... So ladies... And for the guys too, if you find that here as we paddle our way through our lonely marriages- consider yourself lucky!
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 41-45, F 20 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Why am I so lonely in my married life.

    . I would like to find someone in the same situation .. one that enjoy chatting with someone else.... :) who else is married but lonely on here...
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67 46-50, M 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    deleted deleted 26-30 36 Responses Jun 17, 2015

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    It seems like a lot of people are in the same

    scenario. I hope I can make a couple friends on here.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 3

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 22 Responses Aug 5, 2015

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    Being married is truly like having another

    career. It is a lot of hard work and dedication. It is very over rated. If only I could go back in time. I would have stayed single 4 life and only had friends. I feel like I have a roommate not a husband. Other times it's like having another child. I am so over it. My advice to...
    F1rstLadi F1rstLadi 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 19

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    Dear Husband.... So today I decided to be

    honest with myself and allow you to blame me for the failure of our marriage.... It is my fault I strayed after 19 years of sexual neglect... It is my fault that I wanted soft sweet kisses before I fell asleep - you denied me It is my fault that I wanted a hug when I felt sad...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 20 Responses Sep 10, 2015

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    I told him I want a divorce.

    Scariest moment of my life. But I'm tired of dangling from his string.
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 11 Responses Jan 29

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    I've been perusing this site

    and never dropped much of a post. But it is a big help and provides some relief when you just go ahead and let it out there. I've been married for 15 years now and with 2 kids. Our marriage is hanging on threads and has been that way for sometime...it's gotten worse over the...
    VPgator VPgator 41-45, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Some times I hate him my truck broke down over

    5years ago he never fixed it not working no car he did that so I would never leave now my health is not so good I just clean and TV no one comes over anymore some times I just want to die why am I here I'm so lost. Can't go on I cry all the time like now. I wish all the...
    Darlenetexas Darlenetexas 51-55, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    So, I need to vent a little.

    My husband didn't sleep in our bed again last night. I was apparently rude to him. Wonder what tonight's excuse is going to be. I don't know where things went wrong for us. It's not always bad, there are good times, even if they are far too few. He's always working, so I...
    Samy27 Samy27 26-30, F 12 Responses a week ago

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    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M Jan 30

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    RedMaster19 RedMaster19 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 3

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 26 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 57 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I think my marriage is over .

    .. I mean, it's been over for a while ... I am just coming around to the fact I can't fix it. It is killing me to stay in it. I am deeply ashamed at failing at it. It just seems like a no win.
    Woody6 Woody6 41-45, M 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I wonder why there are

    so many of us on here. I feel like my husband doesn't make an effort anymore. We've had a lot of issues, and sometimes I feel like we are still together for our kids. Anyone else feel like that?
    lucyl lucyl 41-45, F 28 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    "The biggest coward is a man

    who awakens a woman's love with no intention of loving her" -Bob Marley I don't think one should waste their time on someone who only wants you around when it's convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    Ok here goes....I used to be on here years ago

    but decided to quit because I thought I would be able to sort out my life ...but seemingly to no avail. So here is my story. I am married to an amazing man....super sweet, loving, attentive, caring, puts me first (well you get the drift) we have been together for a long time and...
    worldtravels123 worldtravels123 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    every woman wants a man who's trustworthy,

    dependable, good in bed and that listens. unfortunately, the law only allows one husband :(
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 18 Responses Oct 30, 2015

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 95 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 41-45, M 33 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    roommates.....with kids.

    ...he no longer talks to me and is secretive about the most trivial things. nothing in common anymore except kids.
    bluegirl43 bluegirl43 41-45, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    My husband is a good man,

    his job is 24/7 on call plus scheduled 8 hr days. I never know when he will be home, change plans, or show up for our child. I chose to marry him at 18 and he insisted we have a child and that I stay home. I have given up all of the person I was, the person I wanted to be and...
    Ineedlovetoo Ineedlovetoo 31-35, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    i really hate this happen in my marriage .

    i dont dream a perfect man with handsome face, unlimited money, showering me with fancy stuff. no no no what i want is a man who understand and know his priorities . his position. i hate man who always behind PC or staring on his smartass phone . i dont say that u cant do that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 3

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