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I Am Married But Lonely

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 41-45, M 33 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 60 Responses Jul 19, 2015

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    It seems like a lot of people are in the same

    scenario. I hope I can make a couple friends on here.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 95 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    DRTD DRTD 56-60, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    RedMaster19 RedMaster19 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Being married is truly like having another

    career. It is a lot of hard work and dedication. It is very over rated. If only I could go back in time. I would have stayed single 4 life and only had friends. I feel like I have a roommate not a husband. Other times it's like having another child. I am so over it. My advice to...
    F1rstLadi F1rstLadi 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 19

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 28 Responses Apr 13, 2015

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    No sex freakin sucks!

    Its not right! If he doesn't want sex ANYMORE he should talk to me about it and be honest! Not just lay here and ignore the subject! He says he doesn't want to break up! He still says I am his soul mate!! He gets upset if I ask him about it...we're in freakin counseling and he...
    AncientFlower AncientFlower 36-40, F 66 Responses Dec 18, 2015

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    "The biggest coward is a man

    who awakens a woman's love with no intention of loving her" -Bob Marley I don't think one should waste their time on someone who only wants you around when it's convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    note to husband: your dinners in the cookbook,

    pg. 32. And the ingredients are at the store.
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 19 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    After 20 years. I can't help

    but think what it would be like to be with a girl 20 years or younger then me
    azcat6928 azcat6928 46-50, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Ok here goes....I used to be on here years ago

    but decided to quit because I thought I would be able to sort out my life ...but seemingly to no avail. So here is my story. I am married to an amazing man....super sweet, loving, attentive, caring, puts me first (well you get the drift) we have been together for a long time and...
    worldtravels123 worldtravels123 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    Funny how things change.

    ..for 19 Years much was a refuser....self centred....mean....cruel and due to his sexual neglect I strayed from the marriage. My friends that are following my story I can't understand life....my h has now seen the light. Wants to change. Wants to be sexual...for goodness sake...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    Hi are there any fun busty ladies reading this

    thread wanna chat? if so Pm me back......
    teddyboylovesboobs teddyboylovesboobs 41-45, M Jan 29

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    To all my "teammates"

    that are living in a lonely marriage... May this new year bring some positive changes your way... I understand reasons why people stay and I try hard not to look at it others and say "how do you do it"? (When it comes to staying for the reasons they stay)... Every...
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 23 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 66 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    Thought my husband was going to finally spend

    time with us..... yeah..... he's currently sleeping on the couch.... asked why he doesn't want to sleep next to me.... apparently he feels overwhelmed, trapped, doesn't have space.... but get this he sleeps in the living room on a mattress with one of our kids almost on top of...
    Samy27 Samy27 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I wonder why there are

    so many of us on here. I feel like my husband doesn't make an effort anymore. We've had a lot of issues, and sometimes I feel like we are still together for our kids. Anyone else feel like that?
    lucyl lucyl 41-45, F 28 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    As I sit alone again today

    as my husband is busy helping other people, I wonder why I am so unhappy... Crazy thing is when I ask him for something or to go out and do some with me or for me answer is always a big fat NO.. I just hate my life!!
    Thatsodd35 Thatsodd35 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 23

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    I haven't been married

    for a long time but I feel alone even when he's here. He doesn't understand my struggle with addiction and thinks that just because I crave it that means I'll use. When he's here he's on the Playstation and nothing else. I know he loves me but dang, sitting on my tail watching...
    justme081 justme081 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    Well I'm almost positive my marriage is over

    with my wife. I'm devastated.
    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 31

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    Most of the time we don't talk much.

    He assumes I know his feelings. Still it would be great to hear him say it or to want to do things with me.
    tamanne tamanne 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 27

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    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M Jan 30

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    every woman wants a man who's trustworthy,

    dependable, good in bed and that listens. unfortunately, the law only allows one husband :(
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 18 Responses Oct 30, 2015

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I came on here feeling really bad about

    everything until I read others post .I have it bad but there is so many people on here that are going through worst . I just want to say I'm sorry to everyone . and you are not alone
    lilmousey1 lilmousey1 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 34 Responses Jul 4, 2015

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    I hate feeling so unbelievably lonely

    when I'm married!! I hate not having someone to sit up with, chat to, laugh with & be intimate with. Someone who knows when I need some attention, when I need to offload & talk about my day. I hate answering by saying "I'm fine" when really I'm not! But being treated like a...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 19 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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    My husband is a good man,

    his job is 24/7 on call plus scheduled 8 hr days. I never know when he will be home, change plans, or show up for our child. I chose to marry him at 18 and he insisted we have a child and that I stay home. I have given up all of the person I was, the person I wanted to be and...
    Ineedlovetoo Ineedlovetoo 31-35, F 6 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I feel like having someone to stand me against

    the wall and look at me directly in my eyes very closely and tell me how much he loves me. In a very passionate manner, from deep of his heart. I miss a real hug, meaningful kisses and cuddle!! Married and absolutely bored! My daughter's love for me, and my love for her makes...
    Diego79 Diego79 36-40, F Jan 25

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    I am sitting out here around a fire alone.

    The wife has not been off the couch all day. I took my girls kayaking then I cooked dinner and am now sitting by myself. It doesn't usually bother me. But tonight I feel alone. Very much alone. I want to run away and hide. I want to love again. To feel. To...anything else but...
    btorn btorn 36-40, M 17 Responses Sep 26, 2015

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    I woke up sick. But it was my baby niece's

    birthday so with a pounding head and I got m three kids up, fed, dressed and off to her two birthday parties. I took them to the first one at the skating rink then to the second one at her grandparents house. My te time we made it home my youngest was sick too. Finally my...
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 31

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 26 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 36 Responses Jul 28, 2015

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 41-45, F 20 Responses May 4, 2014

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    hello...i don't know

    where to post this exactly, sorry if it ends up in the wrong category/group. i have a situation that i cannot discuss with anyone, but i need some feedback from others. i'm not sure why i need the feedback, but i just do. i've been married 9 years and have 3 AMAZING children...
    mommajllc mommajllc 36-40, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    Snowed in with my estranged husband.

    He asked for a divorce 6 months ago and has yet to file for even a legal separation. He moved out but comes home daily supposedly to see the kids but is on his phone thw whole time Facebooking and texting other women I suppose. I have caught him out on a date with another woman...
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    Honest, normal, sincere,

    and stand up people are truly hard to find these days.... Especially here... So ladies... And for the guys too, if you find that here as we paddle our way through our lonely marriages- consider yourself lucky!
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 16 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    ttsj0120s ttsj0120s 56-60, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 22 Responses Aug 5, 2015

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