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I Am Married But Lonely

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    The night hours are just absolutely hell from

    time to time. When I can't sleep the realization hits that I'm in the room with someone I just don't feel I share much of a bond with anymore. It's always easier to ignore the nights I collapse.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 38 Responses Jul 4

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    Why did I go? I knew he’d be there.

    I knew I wasn’t competent in my emotions. I knew…I knew…Curiosity? Maybe just the thought that this would be the catalyst to finally create the change I was so yearning for. I made the decision to go, but with rules and unrealistic strength. I’m taking my girls; I’m...
    ForeverSoulsearching ForeverSoulsearching 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    We've been married for 19 years.

    I don't know if we will make it to 20. I want to be married to my wife: she is a sweet person and we have kids. She loves them dearly and so do I. But I've lost a feeling for her, my love for her is missing. There is something about her that is missing. I know we all change and...
    jaybles7879 jaybles7879 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 12

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    I've been married for 30 years

    and it seems like I feel a little more alone every year. It's the strangest thing to sleep next to someone in the same bed and to feel completely alone. I used to go to bed when my wife did, but years ago, I just stopped and stay up until she is sound asleep so it doesn't feel...
    MakeItRealNow MakeItRealNow 51-55, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 25

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    My husbands best friend came on to me.

    I turned him down and told my husband. Husbands response: Feels sorry for his friend "he is so down right now that he would hit of his friends wife."
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 16

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 14 Responses Jan 20

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 26 Responses Jul 6

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 28 Responses Jan 22

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    It's funny where life takes you sometimes.

    You can meet one person who can change the entire course of your life. Would you be willing to give up your future goals, give up seeing your family and friends everyday, pack up and move to a different country for someone you love? Not a lot of people would make that big of a...
    Milesaway3 Milesaway3 26-30, F 1 Response 7 mins ago

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    my husband was supposed to be home from work 3

    hours ago...finally got a hold of him and he was out at the bar, with a female co-worker. it doesn't bother me so much that he was out, but that he didnt ******* tell me at least...so I'm not sitting around like a dumbass waiting and worried and he's just out.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 24 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 60 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 29 Responses May 28

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    I wanted to marry one man

    and spend the rest of my life with him and raise a happy family together, but it looks like that is not going to happen now. I never thought divorce would play a part in my future.
    miaruth miaruth 22-25, F 6 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Are there any pretty women out there (age

    irrelevant) who'd like to meet an erudite, highly-educated, (very) well-preserved guy (58) with a wicked sense of humor? The man to whom I refer (now ain't that formal!) is Jewish, iconoclastic, sentimental/sarcastic, honest and (here comes the disclaimer) not "financially...
    JimmyLonesome JimmyLonesome 46-50, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I love my wife, I really do.

    We have become like magnets though. The closer we get, the stronger we push each other away. When I get a hair cut, I drink the physical contact in like a sponge. Ears are sensitive you know. Sleeping alone on a cold night. Seeing women in the store. Thinking about them. Just...
    zax2 zax2 51-55, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 75 Responses Jul 19

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    Ive been with my husband

    since i fifteen for fifteen years. But we have grown apart mostly because i dont trust him for various reason. We dont talk and he never wants to spend time with me or our two kids. I am so sick of it that when i go run i dont want to come home and when i drink i drink till i...
    runninmother runninmother 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I am married but lonely.

    I feel unwanted.
    bb1976 bb1976 36-40, F 10 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 107 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    Reading so many of these stories.

    ....so many marriages lacking for one reason or another. As we grow older and life changes us, sometimes we can no longer be the person we were and respond to our partners the way we once did. My own marriage is ' ok'. Hubby is a good man and we are affectionate....we even still...
    sillysoo sillysoo 46-50, F 15 Responses 3 days ago

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    I married my High School Sweetheart 6 months

    ago. We both had a prior failed marriage, and each have two children. He is the sweetest man I have ever known, but....... He works long hours, is out of town a lot, when he is home he is content with being glued to the couch, giving his attention to the TV and cell phone. What...
    perplexed76 perplexed76 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 46-50, M 59 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I was missing my old chat buddies lately.

    I was missing one because back then i didnt even noticed him really. Today i looked at his fotos and think "what was wrong with me?" Im desperatelly looking for him, but i couldnt find him online anymore. I dont know his name, i have only his fotos and his messenger name, well...
    lonely4560 lonely4560 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I'm here I'm new I'm lonely.

    Someone make me feel alive again!
    verbs137 verbs137 31-35, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 52 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    I live with a roommate named my husband!

    I've been with this roommate for 5+ yrs when we first started dating we jumped into it real fast. Started to live together after only 6months of dating, where most of the nights we spent with each other. But that also how all our problems began. We met at work, went to the...
    trin2013 trin2013 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I have been married for 33 yrs.

    Although my husband is a good person, he is a womanizer. This has happened so many times and I am tired of his promises to change. I have caught him a number of times already and i don't trust and believe that he will still change. I am lonely and disappointed in myself that I...
    LEAHCARP LEAHCARP 61-65, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 54 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    astrudcc11 astrudcc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    It's mean to say but the day my mother in law

    dies will be the best day of my life. If you knew her, you would understand where I am coming from....
    NJguitarist NJguitarist 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F a week ago

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    Hello people, I just joined a few hours ago

    so I thought I'd share some info incase anyone wanted to chat. I'm married, not sure why anymore because we just co-exist although I do love him, very much. Reading books & going to gigs are my two favourite things to do. I love meeting new people and finding out what makes...
    firestar81 firestar81 31-35, F 14 Responses Jul 19

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 279 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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