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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 28 Responses Aug 19

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 21 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Married but Lonely! I too deserve love

    and affection. Why the hell people don't understand a simple thing, Life is short and its must be lived to its fullest. Tried and still trying to set things right, I did a lot to save, but its time, I shall find my love.
    Raajan71 Raajan71 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 4

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 99 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    We did the counseling thing awhile back.

    The therapist asked if we had any shared goals. I just stared at her. Shared goals? This man never even talks to me, never tells me anything about his thoughts, opinions, hopes for the future... How can you have shared goals if one of you never shares any thoughts at all?
    ghostofacheerfulowl ghostofacheerfulowl 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 7

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    Why do we feel lonely

    when there are people around us?
    sad2014 sad2014 36-40, F 46 Responses Oct 6

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    42 about to be 43 married man

    who is very depressed about being lonely. That explains it. Maybe not depressed just do not understand it. My wife started sleeping on the couch about 6 months ago. She does not really initiate conversations or any types of communication with me. I have tried all the expert...
    bbaffert bbaffert 41-45, M 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm crushed and continue to be.

    Like an orphaned child who is reminded of his present situation in contrast to the potential of his new life only to awake and find it was a dream and never real.
    ukblak ukblak 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 27

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    been married 18 years

    and a stay home dad for 16 years.. the last 10 years I told my wife I was unhappy and wanted out and she did very little to change and now that I got a job and I say I want out now she gets scared,, cause she no longer has that control over me and now she trys to make me happy...
    azcat6969 azcat6969 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 7

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    Some of have no lack of sexual contact

    but without the love or connection. Others get no sex and know the other person cares for them but here is no connection. How come it seems so rare to have all three things in a relationship at one time? Especially as time passes?
    Jakomcbean Jakomcbean 46-50, M 4 Responses Sep 28

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    genoclearwater genoclearwater 36-40, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've been married 15 years

    and it feels like I'm living in HELL! I am so lonely and need male attention and affection. At this point I don't really want to deal with my husband . Because I'm a Christian woman I have not cheated, but I'm having a hard time now wanting to continue to be faithful.
    Mcnikki Mcnikki 41-45 4 Responses Oct 11

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 28 Responses Jul 26

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 39 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 19

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 44 Responses Mar 16

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 90 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer.

    He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our marriage not to have children. I have my work, my family and my friends but I'm lonely. I miss my husband and sometimes I don't even feel like I...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 19 Responses Mar 31

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    It would be a lot to start from the beginning

    so I will try to hit some key points. I would hope that there might be others out there that will know how to deal with these issues or advice at how to get from under it. I met my wife in college and although we had/have some glaring issues, we seem to have a good marriage. I...
    Mc71181 Mc71181 31-35, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 56 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 78 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I can't imagine feeling anymore lonely

    than I do right now. We had a "date" last night. His mom watched our kids. We went out to eat. Not even an hour and we were already home. I begged him to stay and just talk and have a drink with me. He wouldn't. He had to go home... Today he's been in his office all day. I told...
    lonelyhousewife2 lonelyhousewife2 26-30, F 42 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 28 Responses Feb 13

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    Our 17 year wedding anniversary is today.

    We are both grieving for the loss of our beloved cat, Dunkin, but I still remembered..... He didn't. I didn't mention it, just let him go to sleep. .
    funlecy1 funlecy1 46-50, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I wish I could figure out how to "detach"

    emotionally so that I won't get so frustrated with my husband. I don't want to divorce but, I also don't want to be so mad and grouchy all the time. I want to find happiness again...smile and laugh again because I do have a lot of great reasons to smile about...I don't want to...
    consciouslyinsightful consciouslyinsightful 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 5

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4

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    Have you ever had your feelings crushed by your

    loved one, only to be told that you're being over-sensitive??
    Virgo4Whore Virgo4Whore 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 12

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    At what point do you just give up?

    I am already past that point. I'm unhappy and becoming more miserable. I told him today I want a divorce and he had to leave. He just laughed and made a joke of it. I told him I know what he's doing every weekend and he got mad and said he was leaving. About an hour after he...
    Lld84 Lld84 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been married for 3 years

    and have been together for 9. This past year I have discovered his affairs, his alcoholism, his manipulation and many other things. We split over the affair but he asked me to come back, I did. He went to rehab but as soon as he got out he hit the bar back up and now that is...
    Lld84 Lld84 26-30, F 29 Responses Oct 10

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    The Lingerie!

    The lingerie! This story is all part of my 20th wedding anniversary dinner. We had been growing apart, and intimacy of any sort seemed a thing of the past.I separated this part out as it has merits as a story unto itself. In preparation for our 20th wedding anniversary, I was...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M 41 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 26

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 52 Responses Apr 6

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    Been married 35 years

    and feel so alone sometimes. Friendship is gone and sex is just a chore. Would love to chat with a female in the same situation
    citygolfer citygolfer 56-60, M 4 Responses Oct 10

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    I thank you all for your help.

    I'm so confused and don't know what I want any longer. But I do know that loneliness is not it.
    Mcnikki Mcnikki 41-45 2 Responses Oct 12

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    Wow. She just called.

    We spent about a half an hour talking about anything and everything. She talked a lot about college and her new job. She has no idea that I have this boyish crush on her. I have for a while now. Talking to her makes me so happy. It's dumb. It's so dumb. We don't even know each...
    dcguy123 dcguy123 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 24

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    Thumbelina With A Botox

    Thumbelina with a Botox After 12 years of marriage and 2 kids, Thumbelina woke up to the alarm of her phone. Her prince was snoring right next to her. She gazed at him as she thought, was this her happily ever after? She walked towards her dressing mirror and started checking...
    Coquette1 Coquette1 36-40, F 20 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I feel so lonely, I try to talk to my wife

    but I'm always shut down. Intimacy is something lacking but I can't seem to get her interested in building more. I need a friend.
    blackvolt blackvolt 26-30, M 3 Responses Oct 2

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 58 Responses Jun 24

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    I used to cry a lot cos I cared too much,

    and it hurt too much. But there comes a turning point where you decide that you deserve better, so hurt changes to anger and you just stop caring. Anger is empowering but I'm also aware that it's a false front. Ultimately, I just want to be appreciated and understood.
    sallycamel sallycamel 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I have been married for 25 years,

    and just this year I have become more lonely than I ever imagined I could become. My wife and I had always been so close and treasured each other equally. The loneliness is particularly acute right now as she is traveling in the UK with a friend. This is her third trip to...
    747Diamond 747Diamond 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 11

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    Married to a good woman,

    2 great kids. The passion is gone and I find we have nothing in common anymore. I get bored listening to her talk about her day. I've thought about leaving but wonder if my life will actually be worse. Is there a way to get the spark back after 11 years? Should I move on and...
    Fogg111 Fogg111 36-40, M 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 265 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I am recently married,

    and have been with her for 2 1/2 years now. We have lived together for about a year and half. Prior to that we where in a long distant relationship and we saw each other every two weeks. everything was great. We had a great time, lots of sex, passion and everything you...
    TEAVEE TEAVEE 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 10

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 24 Responses Jun 25

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    puresexy puresexy 22-25, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Want A Playmate

    I want a playmate. Someone whose company I really enjoy, and we can go to dinner, the movies, a walk, work out together, play games, go the beach, take a vacation...oh I don't know....and so many more things to do together. I'm tired of going everywhere alone. I've heard it say...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 41 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    I feel so alone. I am stuck in an unfulfilled

    marriage. I know it is the cliche thing for a man to say but it is true. I do love my wife, but I do not think the feeling is mutual. She ignores me pretty much 24/7, unless she wants something or needs me for some reason. I am trying my best to hold on, but I cannot...
    tiredgoodguy tiredgoodguy 26-30, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am lonely. I do everything,

    everything for my kids. My husband and I don't really talk anymore. We have not slept in the same room for years. I don't want to go back to our room. There is no desire to try anymore. He blames me and I blame him.
    lookingfornice lookingfornice 41-45, F 10 Responses Oct 12

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    I miss been in love..

    .I miss making love....I miss wanting to make love because I am in love...
    StarryNightWineSex StarryNightWineSex 31-35, F 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been married for 10 years

    but has been feeling lonely . She has been like a best friend but now we barely even talk . Its sucks and feels like a single again .
    lotusfan5 lotusfan5 36-40, M 5 Responses Sep 28

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    Really hoping to find some women to chat with

    locally, I'm about 40 mins south east of Albany so if any women are out there and want to chat please do!
    iluvhugetits9568 iluvhugetits9568 31-35, M Oct 9

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