I Am Married But Lonely

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    She still tempts me. She's still sexy

    and playful and I still look at her breasts and *** when she's near me. I still want to kiss her. I'm not dead yet. But what the hell? What is this wall between us. This distance. Innocent remarks stinging raw nerves. The baggage. She says this but I know what it means.. no...
    khat99 khat99
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 6

    No sex freakin sucks!

    Its not right! If he doesn't want sex ANYMORE he should talk to me about it and be honest! Not just lay here and ignore the subject! He says he doesn't want to break up! He still says I am his soul mate!! He gets upset if I ask him about it...we're in freakin counseling and he...
    AncientFlower AncientFlower
    36-40, F
    46 Responses Dec 18, 2015

    I thought marriage was supposed to be a

    collaboration between equals with a shared goal, not just a vehicle set up to service one partners needs at the expense of the other.
    PressingForward71 PressingForward71
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Apr 10
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 1

    Has anyone lost desire

    for their spouse...I mean absolutely none left but managed to rekindle the fire with them? To restart a nonexistent love life? Has anyone done that successfully with their spouse? Is it even possible once we've drifted so far apart?
    khat99 khat99
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 23

    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    31 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    Living in a cold emotionless marriage is

    so hard. I love him but we just go through the motions. Last weekend I cooked a special dinner...candles...trying to rekindle what we once had. He called and said he was on his way. I told him I had prepared a special dinner for him. He showed up two hours later with...
    TXAngelWings TXAngelWings
    36-40, F
    25 Responses Jun 21, 2015

    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    23 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    Married 14 years and I'm sure its common

    for things to slow down but the past three plus we are more like brother and sister. He seems to be okay with everything but I am not and its frustrating. I don't know if he is really okay with it or just not saying anything because of the kids. Can't help feeling lonely even...
    LisaC760 LisaC760
    36-40, F
    23 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme
    41-45, F
    17 Responses May 4, 2014

    I hate feeling so unbelievably lonely

    when I'm married!! I hate not having someone to sit up with, chat to, laugh with & be intimate with. Someone who knows when I need some attention, when I need to offload & talk about my day. I hate answering by saying "I'm fine" when really I'm not! But being treated like a...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    31-35, F
    16 Responses Nov 25, 2015

    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy
    31-35, M
    29 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    There are days when sitting in the same room is

    lonely . I love my husband with all my heart and soul . when we met the chase his perspective on life dreams ambition morals where everything I ever wanted in life ," he is still my dream guy " with no buts , just desire I desire the free man I met I desire the chase I desire...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Apr 14

    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent
    41-45, M
    28 Responses Jul 5, 2015

    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12
    41-45, F
    49 Responses Jul 19, 2015

    married life is hard

    when your husband lives with chronic illness makes everything twice is hard, sleeping all the time in pain all the time. I feel selfish for wanting to cuddle wanting to be kissed I just want to feel loved again I'm so lonely like most of the time I'm alone
    Graceof5 Graceof5
    31-35, F
    16 Responses Mar 14

    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi
    56-60, F
    105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

    Just like to find someone to talk to chat it up

    nothing like that but some type of adult convo and interaction. Hello there how are doing this morning.
    tsolos tsolos
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Apr 16

    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily
    26-30, F
    54 Responses Feb 12, 2014

    every woman wants a man who's trustworthy,

    dependable, good in bed and that listens. unfortunately, the law only allows one husband :(
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Oct 30, 2015

    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything
    36-40, F
    38 Responses Nov 17, 2014

    I have no understanding with my husband.

    I love him so much. There is nothing that I won't do for him. He treats me so bad. He calls me out of name and even threaten me. He has even hit me a few times. It's like walking on eggshells all the time. He doesn't want me to do anything but stay at home. But he goes and do...
    oneka oneka
    36-40, F
    23 Responses Mar 16

    Dear Husband.... So today I decided to be

    honest with myself and allow you to blame me for the failure of our marriage.... It is my fault I strayed after 19 years of sexual neglect... It is my fault that I wanted soft sweet kisses before I fell asleep - you denied me It is my fault that I wanted a hug when I felt sad...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage
    41-45, F
    19 Responses Sep 10, 2015

    First let me apologize

    for my bad English. I've got such a horrible selfish wife you wouldn't believe she has turned every second of my life into a bitter experience and nobody is to blame but myself. I admit it was me that chose to marry eventhough my family warned me about her yet I insisted. Such...
    petermolvaer petermolvaer
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Apr 2

    I can't quite put my finger on it,

    but something is missing in my marriage. It just doesn't feel complete. We have fallen into a rut and the excitement of the early days have faded and the connection we shared seems to have disappeared. Maybe it's those things that I miss the most and am seeking out.
    Commodore64 Commodore64
    31-35, M
    6 Responses Mar 15
    Pervydad56 Pervydad56
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Apr 13

    ok so this is hard for me to admit

    and im only doing this cuz no one really knows who i am. i am 5 1/2 months pregnant but i dont want this baby. i wish i cud just get rid of this baby. i wanted a family and still do but this is very bad timing for a baby... ugh
    solost413 solost413
    22-25
    10 Responses Mar 17

    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad
    46-50, F
    24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

    The most important thing I've learned in life

    is chemistry. If you don't have that special thing from day one chances are you get older and realize what that empty spot really is. Just when you get to that stage in you life when you can take a breath, you realize you feel empty. If anyone my age could go back in time most...
    jaymic64 jaymic64
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Mar 14

    Been married since 2003

    and it wasn't my best choice. I didn't want my son to grow up without me in his life. my father had a very hard marriage to my mother as well. without even realizing it, I went down the same path as my father. having a very insecure wife makes life hard. no matter what I would...
    claytonspain claytonspain
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 24

    Dearest husband..... Another sleepless nite u

    know nothing about....u are asleep and I have a battle zone going on within my heart. I can't even separate guilt from loneliness. I lay here and watch the sun come up. Another day of emotions buried...hurt feelings left in said and the frustration of uncertainty. Within 28...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Nov 2, 2015

    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair
    41-45, F
    16 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    Have you ever had the feeling

    that something wasn't quite right, your intuition tingling, trying to tell you something that you couldn't quite hear. I've had that feeling many times but foolishly chose to ignore it, looking back I can see the times where I failed to trust my own judgement, those where I...
    PressingForward71 PressingForward71
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Mar 28

    I love the wife, but I travel a lot

    and so does she and when we are together sometimes she's still consumed with work or other things. So it's gets a tad bit lonely sometimes, not all the time.
    coolspiritDC coolspiritDC
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 13

    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan
    46-50, F
    54 Responses Jul 20, 2012

    New Home for the ILIASM Community Folks

    dealing with sexless marriages have -- for years -- sought and offered support at the Experience Project in the experience “I Live In A Sexless Marriage” and related experiences. Member of “ILIASM” comprise all ages, walks of life, economic classes, and nationalities...
    ILIASMAllie ILIASMAllie
    46-50, F
    Apr 3

    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    29 Responses Mar 29, 2015

    "Cameron's never been in love.

    At least no one's ever been in love with him. He's gonna marry the first girl he lays. And she's gonna treat him like **** because he's gonna kiss her *** for giving him what he's built-up in his mind as the end-all, be-all of human existance. She won't respect him because you...
    PressingForward71 PressingForward71
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 13

    Hello again. It's more

    than 2 months since I posted my first story...thanks to the people who responded. Things have moved on and I feel like posting again. Even though in 21 days it will be gone forever. WhenI last posted I mentioned how my wife had gone from no sex, to no kissing and really no...
    therainhorse therainhorse
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Apr 1

    Everyday I go through the motions of living

    life. Everyday is the same routine. This morning as I was drinking my coffee in the kitchen my husband walks by and he asks me where I'd put the suitcase. I ask him where he was going, and he tells me he's leaving to Mexico for another week. Leaving again..... I'm alway the...
    NothingToHide NothingToHide
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Apr 7

    note to husband: your dinners in the cookbook,

    pg. 32. And the ingredients are at the store.
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    16 Responses Oct 29, 2015

    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles
    41-45, F
    60 Responses Aug 4, 2013

    some days I really hate being married

    and it's not even do to marriage it self its due to this person that my husband has become. Who the F is this man. I wish I kick him out and bring my old husband back.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Mar 24

    Again, he was given another offer

    and yet he turns me down. Doesn't say anything but just pats my arm and tells me goodnight. I don't know why I even try anymore.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Mar 29

    I am sitting out here around a fire alone.

    The wife has not been off the couch all day. I took my girls kayaking then I cooked dinner and am now sitting by myself. It doesn't usually bother me. But tonight I feel alone. Very much alone. I want to run away and hide. I want to love again. To feel. To...anything else but...
    btorn btorn
    36-40, M
    13 Responses Sep 26, 2015

    Dear husband You have the world at your feet.

    U are so self centred u can't see 2 feet ahead of u. Someday ur gonna miss all the times I asked for a kiss and u didn't give me one Someday ur gonna miss me asking for a foot massage after a 12 hour set up day and u didn't bother with me Someday ur gonna miss having me...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage
    41-45, F
    21 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    So my wife wants to have sexy

    why don't know. She gets mad and say I'm cheating don't this and that when I don't want to have sex. I really can care less for it. All them years days and time she rejected my played my face. Turn cold shoulder, I'm tried I'm sleepy oh my head hurt this and that. All that was...
    tsolos tsolos
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Apr 4

    Being married is truly like having another

    career. It is a lot of hard work and dedication. It is very over rated. If only I could go back in time. I would have stayed single 4 life and only had friends. I feel like I have a roommate not a husband. Other times it's like having another child. I am so over it. My advice to...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    11 Responses Jan 19

    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca
    26-30, F
    34 Responses Jul 28, 2015

    am married but alone due to sudden demise of my

    wife so feeling alone so looking to support a divorcee r single female or hostel girl interested can contact me 7660895395
    rich7660895395 rich7660895395
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Mar 17

    My life is a complete mess

    and now I need to clean up. For 11 years ago I met my wife. We hade fun togheter and we did everything together. Then the problems began to happen. Her sister didn't invited us to her wedding, and her family took the sister side. And we was clueless about what we did wrong...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 30

    "The biggest coward is a man

    who awakens a woman's love with no intention of loving her" -Bob Marley I don't think one should waste their time on someone who only wants you around when it's convenient for them. You shouldn't have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    12 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    Sometimes I just want to run away.

    Leave everything and everyone.
    lopezm19 lopezm19
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 20

    We have been married

    for 8 years now. I do not know why she is always upset and anxious when she is at home. Due to her anxiety or whatever it is - she gets distracted and does not take care of things. Things could be as simple as keeping her own nails clean or keeping the house clean. I see areas...
    appNy appNy
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Mar 11

    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer
    26-30, F
    93 Responses Sep 10, 2008

    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    20 Responses Aug 2, 2015

    I got her an iPhone for Christmas

    but she seems to prefer spending time with it than me. Oh sure we talk and take care of kids etc but you can't have any deep meaningful conversation when someone's attention is divided if not elsewhere. How do you handle this? Does she find me boring? Should I dress up as an...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Apr 4

    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Mar 11, 2015

    Just really need to vent I'm feeling really

    frustrated tonight with my husband. We got married 1.5 years ago and the second we got back from our honeymoon all affection and intimacy stopped like a light switch. We've had talk after talk about how I need more physical affection and he claims he's crazy in love with me. Yet...
    Oklahomagirl33 Oklahomagirl33
    31-35, F
    17 Responses Apr 3

    I was feeling extremely lonely today

    and landed on this site while searching online.. I got no friends to talk to.. my husband has never been my friend or have ever tried.. It's like my life is a book whose secret no one knows and I am sailing on an unknown meaningless journey.. into the deep sea..all alone...
    Lonelysadstranger Lonelysadstranger
    26-30
    9 Responses Mar 25
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