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I Am Married But Lonely

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    My wife and I just had a really good

    conversation on our deck. I tried to kiss her, kiss her like I meant it. I got a few pecks and she blew me off. is it too much to want my wife to want to show affection or accept mine? Feeling really defeated right now.
    jslon13 jslon13 31-35, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 26 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    It kills me that we get along better the less

    we see each other. like we're roommates with benefits.
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am tired of being a companion I need someone

    that wants my passion as mush as my friendship.
    MisterGw MisterGw 41-45, M 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    here I sit again. drive into town to get to

    work "in case they need me for something" so that I'm not sitting at home. I'm leaning closer and closer to the D word everyday. I've finally realized that with the short time we live, we ask deserve to be happy.
    daddy4pleasure daddy4pleasure 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 24

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    teasemenow teasemenow 26-30, F 13 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 69 Responses Jul 19

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    My loneliness in my marriage has turned into

    feeling defeated, which is hard to believe given how optimistic a person I am. It's very true that one can have the American dream (education, success, etc.) and still feel very lonely - I'd give it all up to be in a relationship where my wife would naturally put her arm around...
    Niceguy6 Niceguy6 51-55, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 33 Responses Jul 4

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 24 Responses Aug 5

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 38 Responses Jul 28

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    He always puts more mental/emotional energy

    into others... particularly the ones who don't care for or appreciate his efforts. I have straight up been told that the reward isn't worth the effort (put into me). I only get positive attention when he wants something. And then he doesn't understand why I act so distant or...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    Just saying hi! To anyone

    who will listen.
    mogabr mogabr 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    It sucks being alone at night

    after a long day of work. I would kill to actually be able to sit down with someone every night and have dinner with them. Have a conversation, have someone that cared.
    mustlovedogs99 mustlovedogs99 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    My husband isn't a terrible guy,

    but he is incredibly selfish. Everyday I become more sad, more despondent because I feel like I'm existing to serve. He doesn't help cook, he doesn't help clean, he doesn't help put the groceries away and our marriage is on the verge of being sexless. I'll initiate the sex...
    junejax2000 junejax2000 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 21

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 49 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 34 Responses Aug 2

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 13

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    Perhaps this experience explains it all.

    It also explains why I continue to come back to this site. Nights like these I crave for conversation. All my attempts to make conversation seems to be ignored on most evenings. It hurts when I live with someone that I truly love and want attention from him and it never...
    WifeInWaiting WifeInWaiting 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    kimcc11 kimcc11 26-30, F 16 mins ago

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I am lonely in my marriage.

    I am doing everything a wife and a mother should do but I am unhappy. There is no intimacy at all. I want hugs and kisses, and passionate dirty sex... I feel like I am dying in this marriage
    ffedupp ffedupp 36-40, F 34 Responses Aug 24

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Mar 29

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 108 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I sometimes have a heart full of tears.

    Sadness. I feel I have no one to comfort me or to dry my tears. I need strong arms to support me when I am weak. I need my tears to be wiped. I am growing very tired.
    lostwife42 lostwife42 41-45, F 17 Responses 4 days ago

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    Hi I'm new here, married 9 years together 18!

    Can't believe I'm that old already. I love d my husband he made me laugh a lot . He used to be my best friend, the one I couldn't wait to talk to. But I'm not in love anymore. Marriage is hard and throw in 2 great kids and a bipolar hypochondriac (that's not even near the right...
    linacar79 linacar79 36-40, F 22 Responses Aug 6

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    I told him a few nights ago I was very lonely -

    he started screaming at me and threatening me... Now a couple days later, nothing. Just dead silence - honestly I don't know what's worse.. I am tired of being threatened and scared - but tired of Being lonely -
    lostinnewengland lostinnewengland 41-45, F 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 25 Responses May 28

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    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers 51-55, F Aug 21

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    Another week of living with a sick spouse,

    wanting and desiring closeness, affection, being wanted. Another week of being lonely and unable to get what I need from my wife. I went out for dinner, had a couple drinks, meet some new people, tried to have some semblance of a life. I was able to forget for a moment that I...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 21

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 33 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 29 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 54 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    Another evening of idle chat then off to

    different parts of the house.
    Farmer208 Farmer208 51-55, M 8 Responses Aug 24

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    I've been married for 16 yrs

    but the last 2 years have been hard on me. She has been sleeping around on me with this guy she works with they tex back and fourth all the time. I'm sick of dealing with this and ready to leave but I have kids and don't won't to mess up their lifestyle.
    willb75 willb75 36-40, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago