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I Am Married But Lonely

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    He always puts more mental/emotional energy

    into others... particularly the ones who don't care for or appreciate his efforts. I have straight up been told that the reward isn't worth the effort (put into me). I only get positive attention when he wants something. And then he doesn't understand why I act so distant or...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 22

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 107 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    (I JUST HAVE TO GET THIS OUT) I got the keys to

    my condo today. I've asked my husband for a divorce (He's cheated again). I thought I would be more excited but instead I have this somber feeling. Is that even normal.
    Melmel5 Melmel5 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 14

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    this year will be 19 years of marriage

    for me. we fight alot, and the fights are ugly. my husband, always known as the nice guy, isn't always nice to me. When we get along he is the best friend I have ever had, the best person I have ever known, but when is not good, its the worst feeling in the world, I get...
    Tawny3 Tawny3 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Another week of living with a sick spouse,

    wanting and desiring closeness, affection, being wanted. Another week of being lonely and unable to get what I need from my wife. I went out for dinner, had a couple drinks, meet some new people, tried to have some semblance of a life. I was able to forget for a moment that I...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have to say - I love my doctor.

    She's very compassionate and understanding. Our visit today was great. We reviewed all my test results and everything looked good. Then she asked how things are going with my husband. I told her the truth. Not good. I repeated the conversation from a few nights ago about his...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    My husband isn't a terrible guy,

    but he is incredibly selfish. Everyday I become more sad, more despondent because I feel like I'm existing to serve. He doesn't help cook, he doesn't help clean, he doesn't help put the groceries away and our marriage is on the verge of being sexless. I'll initiate the sex...
    junejax2000 junejax2000 31-35, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    "The danger of being lonely is

    that you easily fall for the very first person who shows you that you are not alone"
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jul 8

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    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers 51-55, F 6 days ago

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    I had a huge break through today.

    I realize the man I married isn't the person I though he was. Now I have to figure out how to move on.
    NekoViolet NekoViolet 46-50, F 9 Responses a week ago

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    Just saying hi! To anyone

    who will listen.
    mogabr mogabr 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    A bad marriage lead me to make mistakes

    and the whole thing leaves me feeling bad about myself and very lonely.
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Another evening of idle chat then off to

    different parts of the house.
    Farmer208 Farmer208 51-55, M 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hi I'm new here, married 9 years together 18!

    Can't believe I'm that old already. I love d my husband he made me laugh a lot . He used to be my best friend, the one I couldn't wait to talk to. But I'm not in love anymore. Marriage is hard and throw in 2 great kids and a bipolar hypochondriac (that's not even near the right...
    linacar79 linacar79 36-40, F 22 Responses Aug 6

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 35 Responses Aug 2

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 25 Responses May 28

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    I left EP a few months ago -

    and have since realized the degree of loneliness I've experienced. My wife has been in an emotional affair for nearly six years. She avoid all forms of connection beyond the routines of daily life. I think it's fair to say that I'm a well-adjusted and successful person - with...
    Niceguy6 Niceguy6 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 16

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    I am tired of being a companion I need someone

    that wants my passion as mush as my friendship.
    MisterGw MisterGw 41-45, M 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Mar 29

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 49 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    took OT work today just to get out of the house.

    I remember when getting a day off was like a pass to "funzone" but now if I'm off, I get nothing but dread. I know that if I'm home I'll merely be put down, compared with guys whom she thinks have perfect looks. glad I'm working in a little bit.
    daddy4pleasure daddy4pleasure 31-35, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm at a stage where there is no contact with

    my wife physically and very little mentally. I don't know what to do because I want to fix our relationship, but the number of times she has told me that "you can't fix this" when talking about things that make her personally uncomfortable, I'm beginning to think our...
    JJis35 JJis35 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 15

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    You know how people say "You look like you've

    just lost your best friend?" Well, I have. I mean, he's not dead or anything, thank goodness. He's just lost to me. For most of our marriage, my husband has worked on the road. I was able to travel with him before our children were old enough for school but after that we...
    GraceDracul GraceDracul 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 14

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    Wow, the past few months I've had

    so much stuff bottled up and just wanting to tell it to anyone but I don't even know where to start. I am some what happily married. Some what just because of how I've been feeling lately. I feel so lonely & unimportant & more of a friend to my husband. & we've only been married...
    Kbm1234 Kbm1234 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 12

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 70 Responses Jul 19

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    teasemenow teasemenow 26-30, F 12 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 26 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 25

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    RahRah73 RahRah73 41-45, F 40 Responses Jun 17

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    alicacc11 alicacc11 26-30, F Aug 19

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    The loneliness is unbearable.

    At night, it's the worst. After the voices of the day die down, the trees stop flowing in the breeze, the kids are fast asleep...all I'm left with are my thoughts of desire, my feelings of aloneness, my broken heart calling for someone...anyone to rescue me. I try to force...
    EagleManifesto EagleManifesto 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 19

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 33 Responses Jul 4

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    looking for a likewise woman whos looking

    for something online .....
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 24 Responses Aug 5

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    Married 33 years. No affection

    for the last 15 or more. 3 Children, all grown. Every attempt to make things better is met with disdain. Every emotion expressed is dismissed. It's all my fault as I have hurt her heart she says, although she won't tell me what I did. Every attempt to show affection to her...
    ifpinga ifpinga 56-60, M 5 Responses Aug 19

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 29 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    here I sit again. drive into town to get to

    work "in case they need me for something" so that I'm not sitting at home. I'm leaning closer and closer to the D word everyday. I've finally realized that with the short time we live, we ask deserve to be happy.
    daddy4pleasure daddy4pleasure 31-35, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    I married young had kids young

    and now I think my husband has regretted it. Everything is changing he's changing it's like I don't know him anymore and vise versa. We fight over every little thing it's gotten rediculous! I'm not happy amymore and I don't want my kids to grow up thinking it's normal for...
    marieAsh21 marieAsh21 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 17

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    I joined EP almost 2 months ago now

    and boy a lot has not happened since joining. The first thing I did after joining was wrote a post about my marriage. I am another person in one of these marriages that has no intimacy, very little sex and I feel more lonely than I do love. The thing is we used to have a...
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M Aug 15