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I Am Married But Lonely

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    live a quiet peaceful lonely life,

    married but no spark
    johnboy4311 johnboy4311 61-65 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Wish my husband was in love with me

    and adored me and was just happy to be with me. Instead I get crapped on, eyes rolled and no appreciation or compassion or empathy. It is so heartbreaking. It's making me regret my decision to marry him. Just wish he would love me ....
    princesstwilight princesstwilight 31-35, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm married to someone

    who will always choose his "music" and friends over his family. I'm constantly having inner conflict about our marriage.
    Mimi602 Mimi602 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 10

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    I can't imagine feeling anymore lonely

    than I do right now. We had a "date" last night. His mom watched our kids. We went out to eat. Not even an hour and we were already home. I begged him to stay and just talk and have a drink with me. He wouldn't. He had to go home... Today he's been in his office all day. I told...
    lonelyhousewife2 lonelyhousewife2 26-30, F 42 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    Yes, married for 31 yrs.

    and I'm more alone with him here! This is an awful feeling...,
    Faith2008 Faith2008 46-50, F 25 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 42 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 19

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    My husband and I have been together

    for 21 years. He is a great man and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I would be lost without him. But our life seems to be at a stand still. The excitement is gone. I miss the passion, the communication, the adventure we used to have. Those days are long gone...
    UGonnaKissMeOrNot UGonnaKissMeOrNot 31-35, F 31 Responses Apr 14

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    Although my wife and I get along good,

    I still feel inadequate and lonely at times. Not to mention totally unappreciated. I work alot and she works from home as well as taking care of the kids. She reminds me of this daily by sly comments about how she does "EVERYTHING". In reality she does but then again I'm working...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Can't we all just get a little compassion

    and comfort from our partner?!
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 14 Responses 4 days ago

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    More of the same. Just more of the same.

    How does he think there's any room for a relationship when he walks in, says hi and heads straight to the study and his computer. He puts the headphones on and the world slips away (for him). And I'm just here wanting more. We eat dinner 1-2 hours later and then it's back on...
    starsarenotgreen starsarenotgreen 22-25 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Im so lonely even being married cos i married

    the wrong man, cos i wanted to have children so much. Now i have consequences of it. I live in loveless marriage. The only joy is my daughter. Im scared, im depressed and i need love.
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 18 Responses Jul 10

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer.

    He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our marriage not to have children. I have my work, my family and my friends but I'm lonely. I miss my husband and sometimes I don't even feel like I...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 18 Responses Mar 31

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    Thumbelina With A Botox

    Thumbelina with a Botox After 12 years of marriage and 2 kids, Thumbelina woke up to the alarm of her phone. Her prince was snoring right next to her. She gazed at him as she thought, was this her happily ever after? She walked towards her dressing mirror and started checking...
    Coquette1 Coquette1 36-40, F 21 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Hi everyone, So we went to marriage counseling

    tonight. The good thing is this is our former therapist so we did not have to do the preliminary stuff. Our therapist knew our case and issues. He was ready to dig in to it. So we did. We both had fair chances to discuss our sides of the issues. We finally discussed the Fourth...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 7

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    I pursued my husband

    when we started dating. He didn't want to ruin our friendship. But I persisted. I have always been the driving force in our sex life an I think it's safe to say I've set all our goals. My husband has never worked for anything I haven't asked him to do. Nearly 5 years of...
    gracefortoday gracefortoday 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 9

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    I have a bit of good news.

    .. First, I want to thank all of you that were kind, compassionate, friendly, and comforting to me. I appreciate ALL the advice and I seriously took it. Thank you. Second, Last night my husband came home from work and told me that he had a surprise. He has booked a hotel for...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 2

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 50 Responses Apr 6

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    My wife spends no time with

    since are child was born 7 years ago she still sleeps with her every night go to bed at 630 i have dinner on my own when i get back from work. i try to do everything surprise her like her anniversary dinner which i had to cancel due to her anger and she didn't want to go 2 days...
    shah0703 shah0703 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My husband is very mean.

    He has been addicted to his computer for as long as I can remember, neglecting me and the kids and forcing me to be pretty much a single parent all these years. When I have tried to involve him he is overly sarcastic and critical and purposely holds back anything nice to say...
    Alligatorpurse Alligatorpurse 41-45, F 38 Responses Jul 6

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    Nena0519 Nena0519 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 13

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 40 Responses Feb 12

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    Are there any women here

    who live in Israel ?
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M Jul 15

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    My wife touched my arm with her hand today

    for a second. Thats the first time she has touched me in two months. We've been through hell the last couple years. She's had a few affairs. We were highschool sweethearts and married young. Seems like she thinks she's missing something?? I believe in love and am holding...
    emmajames41 emmajames41 41-45, M 9 Responses Jul 7

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    I think that I am going to making more of my

    marriage posts in the "I am Married" group. I realized that although I feel lonely at times the general members that post in "Married but Lonely" have issues that are different than mine and I do not want to upset anyone that does not relate to the fact that I am not getting...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    Ummm.... Why would my husband ask me

    if I wanna do something, I said yes but as soon as his friend calls him, shows up at my house, leaves with him and does not even say good bye? I do not know for how long they would be out but, as usual, or the whereabouts but this is a new level of *******. Should I even say...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Am Married But Lonely

    As I've now been on this site for a few weeks I've come to realize how we as people are all the same. We all look for attention and affection and have a basic need to feel wanted. How can a person you've shared your life with not see what a total stranger can sense from a few...
    fatherof5 fatherof5 41-45, M 13 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 78 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    It's gotten to the point

    that the loneliness actually HURTS. Painful. And yet hollow at the same time. I feel that my presence doesn't matter. If I wasn't here--he wouldn't notice or care. All because of a stupid GAME. I'm so tired of this freaking cycle. Things get better...and then he slips back...
    starsarenotgreen starsarenotgreen 22-25 6 Responses Jul 11

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 19 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    First 4th in 8 years I spent alone,

    it's getting harder and harder to be a married yet single mom!
    LonelyLish LonelyLish 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 5

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    Update:We are back home from our beach weekend!

    Things went very well! Last night was a lot of fun. We enjoyed great food, music, and a wonderful time all night and all day today. He was very complimentary last night and today.It has been very pleasant between us and he confirmed that he definitely is still going to marriage...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 6

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    My relationship with my wife is

    so bland and passionless. She says that it is her hormones, but when do you get to the point that you get over it and get on with life?
    cardsfan72903 cardsfan72903 36-40, M 7 Responses Jul 10

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 24 Responses Feb 13

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the

    marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the point where I don't even try to get emotional relief from him anymore because I know he just is unavailable in the way that I need. In addition...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    My husband and I have been together on

    and off for almost 17 years. We have been through a lot,or should I say he has put me through a lot. He started out being very loving and even when things were bad, he was still loving. Now that we have had our fifth child and he no longer drinks , we don't touch, kiss or have...
    unloveablemom unloveablemom 31-35 11 Responses Jul 5

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    I am looking for someone that's married

    and lonely Ias for me I'm going through the same thing the sexual feeling is that there no more she is always rejecting me
    dmedina513 dmedina513 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 40 Responses Mar 16

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 253 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 100 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 58 Responses Jun 24

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    Hi again fellow married & lonely EP members,

    Well we are going to try it again. He (my husband) did not want to talk about last night. I did not press the issue. However, he was interested in me joining him on the beach today. So off we went. It was nice out there but tense a bit at first. We laughed a few times at a few...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 5

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    Hello peeps! What do you think?

    Is it better to catch someone cheating and have proof or to try to get your partner not to if you have vague info and it can be avoided?
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    I had a very interesting exchange with my wife

    last night, asking if she was ever going to give me a kind word or defend me when my Father-In-Law comes over here cracking wise acre remarks about me (while eating the food I paid for and taking over TV for many hours). So, most of the time he is playing around but my wife...
    48Jeff 48Jeff 46-50, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Want A Playmate

    I want a playmate. Someone whose company I really enjoy, and we can go to dinner, the movies, a walk, work out together, play games, go the beach, take a vacation...oh I don't know....and so many more things to do together. I'm tired of going everywhere alone. I've heard it say...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 40 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    Funny (and interesting) how my husband thinks

    everything is ok just because I'm not denying him sex. I'm not sharing my thoughts, I'm not complaining about him not helping me with finances, I'm not asking him to help with house chores while he is home all day and I'm working full time.... But the simple fact that I...
    prsunshine prsunshine 31-35, F 14 Responses Jul 5

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    Do any other married

    but lonely people here feel emotionally paralyzed by the loneliness in your marriage? I do. It is not every single day but often enough to be significant to me. I guess it is some form of depression that kicks in and takes over. Sometimes, I feel so stuck in trying to figure...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 15 Responses a week ago

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 19 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Last night I had a terrible migraine.

    I asked my husband to go to the store to get me certain medicines. He refused because we had other medicine here at home. He fell asleep in the living room because I would not lie still and I kept moaning and he could not sleep. I was throwing up and I had to call my young...
    cmcar cmcar 22-25, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    Lonely or trapped? Victim

    or choice? Married ..not married? This does not simply apply to married people but those who found someone they believed to be their one and only. Marriage in these instances come from a persons complete soul. A place so deep that you open your delicate heart...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 13 Responses May 9

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