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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 11

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    why does being married suck

    so damn much..I didn't feel this way when I was dating..fellas you put a ring on a woman..you have just signed away your sex life and your life becomes boring ..trust me..I'm not making this up..lol
    marquisb marquisb 31-35, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I work all weekend and come home to a messy

    house. Then I discover he's running around town with the kids and doesn't bother combing their hair or making sure they're dressed appropriately. Instead of cooking supper, he is working on an unimportant project. So I make dinner...and clean up afterwards, while he goes to the...
    bookwormgrl bookwormgrl 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 29 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    So much to say and no idea

    where to start...I have been married for 20 years and as time has progressed, the more emotionally unavailable she has become. At this point, I live my life without intimacy from my wife – no emotional intimacy, no physical intimacy, no intimacy of any kind in any form. I...
    Rebigulator Rebigulator 46-50, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 30 Responses Mar 29

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 45 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    My conscience is clear.

    Yes.... I look outside for little brief encounters with strangers that I happen into or with recurring ladies, such as a mom or two at the school..... I really enjoy a smile, a compliment, a touch, a look. It really makes my day and becomes a supplement to the rest of...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 65 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 24 Responses Jan 22

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    I am married and am the bread winner.

    My husband is on disability and all he does is sit around. My mother stayed with us for a while and paid rent. My husband verbally abused her so i asked her to Move in with my sister. I work constantly and still cant make ends meet. My husband doesnt have a care in the world...
    janean59 janean59 51-55, F 19 Responses a week ago

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    I really hate sleeping alone.

    It's been way too long since I felt arms around me at night.. I find my self longing and craving touch.. And it just worsens at night.
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 54 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I'm not married but live with my partner,

    we've been together for 4 years and lived together 2, we have a daughter and I just feel lonely in our relationship he's that type of guy that doesn't like to walk around on romantic strolls, always finds excuses to not go either it's to hot to long or he's tired. So I took that...
    ox97 ox97 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 16

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 57 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    When I told my friends

    and family I was engaged they all told me to take it slow. I was 18 and would be getting married at 19, but I was "in love." 10 years later all of those voices linger in my head. I should have listened. I should have left so many times, but I never could. I needed him and could...
    Adrianna7182 Adrianna7182 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I keep on tryin n tryin.

    When will she finally notice me. 18 years of marriage. Beautiful young kids. I have a hard tone focusing on my studies. Actually, everything. I try to be there for her. Everything she needs. Everywhere she wants to go. What ever she needs done. Outside the house. And inside our...
    miraquepasa miraquepasa 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 16

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    Shelly0905 Shelly0905 26-30, F 17 Responses Apr 9

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    The everyday struggle in my head is the hardest

    part. I get up in the morning, it’s there. I go to bed at night it’s there. I love my wife, but no longer want to be with her. I crave emotion and intimacy, but she is not capable of it. She has no interest in sex, but I could have sex with her if I wanted...and no...
    Rebigulator Rebigulator 46-50, M 5 hrs ago

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    However, lamenting my circumstances does me no

    good. I want to enjoy life and experience friendship. I enjoy conversing about ideas and experiences, making intellectual and emotional connections. For some reason, I have had trouble making those connections. I fear I'm doomed to live a life of solitude and missed...
    ImperfectHuman ImperfectHuman 46-50, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    His shift brings him home late in the evenings.

    I don't know why I force myself to stay awake. Maybe hoping that he will engage me in some sort of conversation. Instead at midnight I sit up watching a show with him. What I really need is conversation and maybe for him to take a little interest in what is going on at home. In...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 16

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    What a contrast. Seems like every day.

    ... Have a couple pleasant encounters with a couple different ladies... I can tell when someone is glad to see me. I can sometimes tell when someone changes course just a little to make our encounter happen. I know because I've done it before too. Talk for a few moments...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 16

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 16

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Presently sitting on a bar patio,

    several groups of women and coed groups around me.... Alone in a crowd.
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    i clean i cook work 40 hour's.

    then. come. home. and. have. to beat. off
    pgable pgable 46-50, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Now screening: "the big fight.

    " Next up we have a double header lineup! "The apology," followed by "the shrug"
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 18

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    Marriage....for me is the bond between man

    and wife, a never ending friendship, a bond that is forever but why do I question if it is even possible to have. No one marriage is perfect, but why is it that the person who promise before God to be there for better or worse seems to not care when you need them the most during...
    nikkiluv87 nikkiluv87 26-30, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    My Husband is a wonderful person .

    The best big brother to his Sisters.My fathers favorite Son in Law.The most caring father to his children and he gives me a wonderful home.Every night we say a formal goodnight part ways and walk towards our seperate rooms ...Am i being reckless in asking the universe for more?
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 58 Responses Jan 16

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    I married my best friend,

    someone I knew for 15 years now. After 6 years of marriage, we are fast realising that this is not going to work out. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for months and the loneliness and helplessness is really getting to me. A part of me says it's time to let go and be free...
    pirng pirng 31-35, F 10 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Interesting how the affections always pick up

    right before I have to take a trip. Hmmm..... I bet she's going to do me. My life is so predictable sometimes!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 5 Responses Apr 17

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    Married happy couple on the outside

    but inside the wife alone and tired and ditched in the house all day to clean and cook and other womanly things... It would be nice to be included in SOMETHiNG, how can he not tell
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses a week ago

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    I don't know what to think anymore.

    I feel like I'm just around to be the maid. No conversation. It seems like a competition more so than a marriage. I keep trying to make it work. This is my second marriage. I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant. All he does is play the game from sun up to sun down. I watch television. I...
    LonelyandLoyal LonelyandLoyal 31-35, F 14 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 32 Responses Jan 2

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 13

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