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I Am Married But Lonely

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    I sometimes have a heart full of tears.

    Sadness. I feel I have no one to comfort me or to dry my tears. I need strong arms to support me when I am weak. I need my tears to be wiped. I am growing very tired.
    lostwife42 lostwife42 41-45, F 17 Responses a week ago

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 13

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I've been married for 16 yrs

    but the last 2 years have been hard on me. She has been sleeping around on me with this guy she works with they tex back and fourth all the time. I'm sick of dealing with this and ready to leave but I have kids and don't won't to mess up their lifestyle.
    willb75 willb75 36-40, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses Mar 29

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 54 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I can't explain it. He won't understand

    or stay I'm being ridiculous.
    justgettingby01 justgettingby01 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Perhaps this experience explains it all.

    It also explains why I continue to come back to this site. Nights like these I crave for conversation. All my attempts to make conversation seems to be ignored on most evenings. It hurts when I live with someone that I truly love and want attention from him and it never...
    WifeInWaiting WifeInWaiting 36-40, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hey any fun busty ladies wanna chat message me

    if that's you x UK based even better
    ilovebustyfemales ilovebustyfemales 41-45, M 2 days ago

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    My loneliness in my marriage has turned into

    feeling defeated, which is hard to believe given how optimistic a person I am. It's very true that one can have the American dream (education, success, etc.) and still feel very lonely - I'd give it all up to be in a relationship where my wife would naturally put her arm around...
    Niceguy6 Niceguy6 51-55, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    It kills me that we get along better the less

    we see each other. like we're roommates with benefits.
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 33 Responses 5 days ago

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 27 Responses Jan 22

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    how am un deserves to get love,

    cuddle from my husband. I don't know why the things are happening..
    Deepikha Deepikha 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My husband has no genuine interest in me :/ He

    still guesses at gifts and is completely dumbfounded by meaningful gestures. We met in 2003 and married in 2008...it really shouldn't be a stab in the dark anymore!
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    This has been a sucky week

    so bad! What the heck do you do when the one your suppose to be with for the rest if your life just keeps dragging you down? Thought I found someone I could see myself with for the rest of my life and he dropped me like a fly. Starting to think I'm stuck in the hell :-/
    marieAsh21 marieAsh21 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    teasemenow teasemenow 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 27

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 24 Responses Aug 5

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    It sucks being alone at night

    after a long day of work. I would kill to actually be able to sit down with someone every night and have dinner with them. Have a conversation, have someone that cared.
    mustlovedogs99 mustlovedogs99 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    Today I had a really good day at work.

    My job is being restructured, which is what I was hoping because it's going to allow me to grow within my company which is what is want. When my husband asked me how my day was I was so excited to share the change with him. I thought he was listening to me but, he wasn't. I...
    lostwife42 lostwife42 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    He works nights, coming home to an empty house

    is a nice saving grace; but I'd rather be coming home to someone who cares. I just want someone to be there for me. 😔
    mustlovedogs99 mustlovedogs99 26-30, F 14 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's soul destroying,

    having committed my everything to someone yet I feel so alone. How can it be that I feel more lonely married than if I was single??
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 9 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    deleted deleted 26-30 39 Responses Jun 17

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    What do you do when that one person

    who made you feel alive again doesn't want you anymore? You feel worthless and like no one even wants you anymore.
    marieAsh21 marieAsh21 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 108 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 32 Responses Aug 2

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 33 Responses Jul 4

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    Hi I'm new here, married 9 years together 18!

    Can't believe I'm that old already. I love d my husband he made me laugh a lot . He used to be my best friend, the one I couldn't wait to talk to. But I'm not in love anymore. Marriage is hard and throw in 2 great kids and a bipolar hypochondriac (that's not even near the right...
    linacar79 linacar79 36-40, F 22 Responses Aug 6

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    I attended my friend 20th high school reunion

    and boy I'm so glad I did. It just so happened a guy I graduated with attended with his brother I haven't seen him in over 20 years. When we saw each other we were both ecstatic he still looked the same and he was like you haven't changed at all. Needlessly to say we danced and...
    lustinforlove lustinforlove 36-40, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    My wife and I just had a really good

    conversation on our deck. I tried to kiss her, kiss her like I meant it. I got a few pecks and she blew me off. is it too much to want my wife to want to show affection or accept mine? Feeling really defeated right now.
    Inloveinpain Inloveinpain 31-35, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    So my husband just called from work.

    He usually does this to check up on me but today he called to get mad at me for nothing. He is having a bad day at work. I try calming him down and he continued getting mad at me and hung up.....
    MarineWife1995 MarineWife1995 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    "The danger of being lonely is

    that you easily fall for the very first person who shows you that you are not alone"
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jul 8

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    Just saying hi! To anyone

    who will listen.
    mogabr mogabr 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 27

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    Another evening of idle chat then off to

    different parts of the house.
    Farmer208 Farmer208 51-55, M 8 Responses Aug 24

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I heard this old Queen song

    and it made me think of my own situation but without feeling bad.. I'm actually at the gym singing out loud lol. Boy I have a bad voice lol Anyway.. I'm gonna find me someone to love :) Can anyone find me somebody to love. Got no feel, I got no rhythm I just keep losing my...
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 38 Responses Jul 28