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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I think I am ready to ask my husband

    for a separation. I wanna be free to do the things I want to do. I want to fall in love with myself...I don't need him pulling me down anymore!!!#
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 13 hrs ago

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 21 Responses Dec 6

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    Tell me about it ,...

    ,............
    geronimooo geronimooo 36-40, M 1 day ago

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    I am married and lonely,

    but probably not for the reasons you'd think. My wife has DID and OCD. Not real sure why or where it came from except in the last couple years, they've made their presence known. She is affected by these which take a toll on her and takes a toll on me too. I know if she...
    WtfAmIHearing WtfAmIHearing 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 9

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    It is tedious with my spouse she doesn't want

    to find a job she wants my attention all the time and never wants me to do anything on my own but wants me to watch her so everything she finds fun. Sex is a chore now I have to guilt her into it now.
    anton88 anton88 26-30, M 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    so what is it when your husband doesn't want to

    give you none ... he don't even ask for some. ...& when i ask for some he says he's tired
    confused7years confused7years 36-40, F 2 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 15 Responses Aug 26

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    I do not feel wanted

    or enjoy being around my wife anymore it actually feels like hell some days but she will not get a divorce
    anton88 anton88 26-30, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 41 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    Last night I approached her gently (as always),

    hoping to make love to her... She rebuffed me, insisting that she was tired and so... I can understand that of course, it wasn't the first time after all... The thing that hurts though is, throughout the entire 12 years that we are together, I have never said no to her intimate...
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 35 Responses 1 day ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 57 Responses Nov 17

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    Hi. Would you say that being on ep pushed you

    further away from your spouse? Why? Why not? Thank you!
    BonneNouvelle BonneNouvelle 41-45, F 30 Responses Dec 8

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 27 Responses Feb 13

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    "It's raining, it's pouring.

    ...my love life is boring me to tears, after all these years"
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 7

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24

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    I think my husband is a cheater.

    He spends all his free time away from home. When I confront him about it, he gets overly angry. I wish I could just catch him in the act!! Then I could easily leave him. I should not be this lonely and starved for attention and be married!! In plain English I said to him...
    kekelt kekelt 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    So, I've been trying to get the wife to go see

    Christmas lights with me and the kids for the last couple weeks. She's declined every time I ask her. It then her friendcalls wanuts her to see the Christmas light boat parade, and off she goes,with one of the kids.....oh and by the way, no guys allowed. I also took the day...
    WtfAmIHearing WtfAmIHearing 41-45, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I wasn't married but felt it.

    My bf and I lived together. Things started going wrong... He left me 3 days ago and brought pizza. Over pizza he was staring me on the floor crying, sobbing. He is a selfish man, eight years older than me and then decided oh btw I don't want kids.... Deep down I wasn't happy. I...
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 8

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    I wish I could be held.

    I wish I could cuddle. I wish I had someone to tell me it's all going to be alright.
    MikeMachinist MikeMachinist 61-65, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 263 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 23 Responses Jun 25

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    animalbuck animalbuck 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm just so lonely at night.

    My husband and I don't even like each other we barely talk all we do is argue.im sad I was give anything to feel better.
    candyone candyone 41-45, F 7 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 90 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I married a bipolar man,

    I feel so lonely and depressive now. I was so happy before and I'm not stronger woman that I used to be!
    LatinWoman1 LatinWoman1 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 9

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    "I've got the feeling the feelings gone,

    my heart has gone to sleep, one of these mornings I'll be gone, my heart belongs to me.....can we believe in fairy tales, can love survive when all else fails....."
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 14

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    Often I am the bad guy.

    .. Because I am the enforcer. I don't cave to the children's demands when they whine. I don't tell them that they have to finish their dinner if they want dessert and then give them dessert anyway. I only give them things when they say "I want..." I only accept polite...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 5 Responses Dec 11

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 19

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    I go to bed alone every night.

    I know he doesn't get tired at the same time as I do, but even on weekends I go to sleep alone.
    thevioletblue thevioletblue 22-25, F 10 Responses Dec 7

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    any women want to chat with me ,

    to open our self to each other ?
    playbuzz82 playbuzz82 31-35, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 48 Responses Feb 12

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carecc13 carecc13 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Good day! ....skiving today.

    Anyone care to help me waste some time?
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am here for any women

    that need a friend
    openmarried openmarried 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    Considering Divorce. I just need someone to

    care. I just want him to want to be with me. I want the fairytale. Even if it was just for a night.
    WantNeedMore WantNeedMore 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carecc13 carecc13 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    i live in spain, but i am in canada

    for few weeks now drinking a beer, feeling lonely anybody wanna chat?
    nuki212 nuki212 36-40, M a week ago

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    Is anyone else married to a narcissist

    and who is also a drug addict.....I need a friend who gets this......help..lol.
    candyone candyone 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 7

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    We all have different reasons

    for being in this situation...but it's hard regardless of why. I long for affection and a wife who wants all a marriage should include. I have a lot to offer...I'm honest, well-educated with a great job, I love my kids, and I just want to feel loved. I could write a book.
    Mike405 Mike405 46-50, M 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am so lonely, I try

    so hard to talk to my husband but he doesn't want to communicate anymore because we can't do it without arguing. He wants to pray before and after saying anything to each other which I don't mind, but this morning I just wanted to small talk with him and he basically ignored me...
    love2hrd love2hrd 26-30, F 49 Responses Nov 14

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    I do love my husband.

    He is a great guy, and a wonderful father to our 2 children. He and I have a lot of fun when we're together. Yet when it comes down to the hard stuff, when someone has to step up and be an adult to handle a hard situation it always falls to me. The worst part is that he will...
    LadyLuxury LadyLuxury 41-45, F 33 Responses Nov 19

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    41 male from near London would like to chat to

    any married women also from the UK
    Philip624 Philip624 41-45, M 2 days ago

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 72 Responses Dec 7

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    I am married, lonely

    and drunk....anybody wanna make out....
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 43 Responses a week ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 29 Responses Aug 11

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 21 Responses