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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 101 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 52 Responses Nov 8

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    I swear there are times these days

    when I can't even remember why I married my husband. I can barely recapture that feeling of being in love and having him as the center of my universe. I know it was there for a long, long time... I vaguely remember wanting no one but him and him feeling the same about me, and...
    pinkpussycat4u pinkpussycat4u 51-55, F 15 Responses Aug 3

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 23 Responses Jun 25

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 31-35, F 63 Responses Nov 17

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    What have i gotten myself into He drinks

    evryday, even has beer bside the bed So when he wakes up has a drink. I come home from work an thats all i see is him drinking. I get so angry, but he's not worried because he buys it. 1 Drinks Everyday 2 Get sarcastic when i dont give him sex 3 Says i have been there an done...
    karntel karntel 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 14

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    I sometimes find my self daydreaming,

    looking at the past and wondering where did that flame go...I miss the old days, the time that we were in love, that first attraction. Those days are long gone. Even their memory fades to gray... :(
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Since I am in a sexless marriage

    for years now and have complained about it she finally said just do what you must and don't tell me. So. I am looking for a woman who may or may not be in a similar situation. I would like to find a NSA FWB. I feel confident I will find what I'm looking for all though it may...
    sasmus1577 sasmus1577 56-60, M 4 Responses Nov 17

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 21 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Been married now for ten years.

    My wife is unable to have kids due to medical issues and she's unwilling to adopt. She's let herself go and I don't feel sexually attracted to her anymore. I don't want to hurt her, but having a child means the world to me. At a crossroads in my life.
    WantsToBeADad WantsToBeADad 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 18

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 263 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    My wife and I are essentially roommates

    that are raising children together. She's the angry boss and I'm the worker that must get everything done. In this case though it's the worker that pays for everything. There is no passion, no fun, no sex, no laughter, no shared activities.... just drudgery. I've never cheated...
    LOMD LOMD 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 14

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    I have been married for a year

    but I feel my husband doesn't love me anymore. We hardly talk to each other. And our conversations ends into debates. I love him a lot. I always stand for him in his downs. But when it comes to me he is not bothered. He was not like this before marrige. He showed he was very...
    kk2326 kk2326 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Any ladies in this group

    who is looking for a man in a similar situation ?
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M 6 days ago

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 19

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    if you're married and lonely

    and need someone to talk to .. feel free to msg me :)
    linkinlinkin07 linkinlinkin07 22-25, M 10 hrs ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 49 Responses Feb 12

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    Indeed. And will be online

    for the next few hours- it would be fun to chat....
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M Nov 16

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    I completely agree with the below statement,

    just curious about how everyone feels about it?
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 24 Responses Aug 24

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    I went out for the first time in weeks.

    I love the turning of the leaves. It reminds me that everything has a season and every season has a reason. I'm going to be okay!
    LaurelTree721 LaurelTree721 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26

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    I am quite happy in my marriage,

    in the overall sense. But this year, between my husband working extra hours to pay all of our bills, and my medical issues that prevent me from working, I spent a lot of time alone (or at least feeling that way). We don't have extra money for non-essentials. Right now, we...
    looksnormal looksnormal 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 17

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    "It's raining, it's pouring.

    ...my love life is boring me to tears, after all these years"
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 18 Responses Nov 7

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 4

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    I love my husband but he doesn't love me.

    He's uber successful and on the surface, we have a great life. But every single time I have needed him, he's not there. He's completely emotionally unavailable and genuinely doesn't get why I would need him emotionally, as he doesn't need anybody. I'm beginning to hate him as...
    anonyma72 anonyma72 41-45, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 40 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I have been married to my wife

    for about 15 to 16 years we have a beautiful 10 year old daughter, we have two houses and small place in the sun i have worked very hard to achieve this. But for about 5 years now my wife and i are losing a certain closeness like we had before our sex life is always rushed we...
    gud11man gud11man 46-50, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Been married for 8 yrs

    but hardly have any sex life anymore and lately been thinking of how I had fun years ago!! Just want that butterflies feeling again!
    kikthegoodguy11 kikthegoodguy11 31-35, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    ....indeed. And hoping to meet someone

    who feels similarly! Here intermittently most of today should anyone wish to chat...
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    First I want to say I love my wife,

    I really do but I feel alone all the time. We spend no time together really and haven't had sex in god knows when. I want to feel wanted and loved again. I won't divorce her due to the idea of not seeing my son everyday kills me. I had a mistress for awhile and it was wonderful...
    lostwindowz lostwindowz 31-35, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    I have been married for almost 6 years.

    I know my wife loves me, but we never have sex. It's been 3 years since we've had really good she's-actually-into-it-sex, and only once in that 3 years we've had not so good sex where it feels like she's only participating because she feels bad for me and I end up faking an...
    DaisyMae54 DaisyMae54 31-35, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Am I sad because it's raining

    or is it raining because I'm sad?
    babygirlmr77 babygirlmr77 36-40, F 79 Responses 2 days ago

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    Contemplating if it's cool to have a female

    best friend to shoot the breeze with and the likes
    Lonelymarrieddude Lonelymarrieddude 36-40, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 51 Responses Apr 6

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    Just don't get any affection.

    My wife doesn't like the things I like and doesn't like to be close. Just want some hugs ha ha.
    helpergotit helpergotit 31-35, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 56 Responses Jun 24

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    I don't know that I will ever not be.

    I am an introvert and as such have spent much of my life being lonely. I never felt truly accepted by my family or my friends, in fact I felt as though they merely tolerated my presence. When I met my wife, at almost 40 years old, I thought that I had finally found a person...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 29 Responses Aug 11

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    I have been married for a year

    but I feel my husband doesn't love me anymore. We hardly talk to each other. And our conversations ends into debates. I love him a lot. I always stand for him in his downs. But when it comes to me he is not bothered. He was not like this before marrige. He showed he was very...
    kk2326 kk2326 22-25, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    Just so empty feeling

    that it hurts, why can't he fill it any more?! Even the sex is just that no bond anymore. Where are my butterflies I miss that.
    metz8991 metz8991 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    "I've got the feeling the feelings gone,

    my heart has gone to sleep, one of these mornings I'll be gone, my heart belongs to me.....can we believe in fairy tales, can love survive when all else fails....."
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 25 Responses Nov 14

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    I can't sleep and while my wife can I decided

    to come here. I'm not physically attracted to her anymore and it has been sometime since she and I were sexual with each other. I found my self wondering what it would feel like to be with a woman who I found sexually exciting again, to be able to show how I could make that...
    WantsToBeADad WantsToBeADad 41-45, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am so lonely, I try

    so hard to talk to my husband but he doesn't want to communicate anymore because we can't do it without arguing. He wants to pray before and after saying anything to each other which I don't mind, but this morning I just wanted to small talk with him and he basically ignored me...
    love2hrd love2hrd 26-30, F 49 Responses Nov 14

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 27 Responses Feb 13

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    Last night I approached my husband,

    yet again, with the lack of movement in our relationship. He says repeatedly that he wants better; a better job, a better truck, better house, better friends etc yet has done nothing for the past 8 years to change it. I simply supported him in everything, including leaving a...
    Lolypolypostrgrl Lolypolypostrgrl 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 15

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    I do love my husband.

    He is a great guy, and a wonderful father to our 2 children. He and I have a lot of fun when we're together. Yet when it comes down to the hard stuff, when someone has to step up and be an adult to handle a hard situation it always falls to me. The worst part is that he will...
    LadyLuxury LadyLuxury 36-40, F 37 Responses a week ago

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    marvel901jones marvel901jones 41-45, M a week ago

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