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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 58 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 47 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 70 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 22 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 29 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 104 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Some days I feel desperate,

    desperate to have all that I'm missing with an actual human being.. or at least to develop a sincere friendship with someone that understands what I'm truly going through, not just some random guy that can't type to save his soul and demands a pic on message 3. Makes me...
    sweetdreamer3 sweetdreamer3 36-40, F 73 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    There is a blizzard coming.

    I'm home alone and bored. Would just enjoy talking with anyone about anything
    Jushimself Jushimself 56-60, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have gotten so used to the loneliness

    and lack of sex that I wouldn't know how to respond if things changed with her or I met someone who would fill that void.
    TNresident TNresident 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 22

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 36 Responses Jan 2

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    we should talk...me and you.

    ..I could make you forget just how lonely you are.
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 18 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I posted last week, and I got some really great

    advice. I finally worked up the courage to talk to my husband about our lack of sex and intimacy. The conversation turned to money. He said nothing is going to happen until I get a job. I think my world just shattered.
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 28 Responses 3 days ago

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    I want to wake up next to the woman i married.

    Look at her, smile, kiss, make love! I want to go to bed, look at the one i married. smile, Kiss, make love! I know life isn't all roses. But to water the seeds to help them grow...... Damn!!! Not even a drop.
    speedrcr67 speedrcr67 46-50, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    My husband is showing his true colors.

    From the beginning I've told him to please promise not to claim his future, "one son" but recognize both kids as he became a stepdad as well. This was before my second pregnancy. We are now married and he claims he only has one son that he threatens to take away from me because...
    Fainthearted Fainthearted 22-25, F Jan 21

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    Hold on to your hats people going out drinking

    again...we all know what that means...lord be with us all...lmao
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 12 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Would you say you contributed to the situation

    resulting in 'I am married but lonely'? I know I have (although I tend to feel wronged). There is pain in realising that I have a role in this. It does take two....etc etc
    BonneNouvelle BonneNouvelle 41-45, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    "It's raining, it's pouring.

    ...my love life is boring me to tears, after all these years"
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 18 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 37 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    "I've got the feeling the feelings gone,

    my heart has gone to sleep, one of these mornings I'll be gone, my heart belongs to me.....can we believe in fairy tales, can love survive when all else fails....."
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 28 Responses Nov 14, 2014

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    I'm very lucky, and have a fantastic husband.

    Unfortunately, he works 14 hours a day. That leaves me lonely with a six month old, in a new place where I know no one. I've turned to various Internet forums to make friends... Silly me. I've mostly found frauds and pervs. The search continues.
    kitnwthawhip kitnwthawhip 31-35, F 38 Responses Jan 20

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    My husband is the vice-president of a solar

    company. He works a lot! Often leaving me and the kids alone. When he's home he usually spends hours locked in his office because of work. I love my husband, and we both cherish every moment together. The best part of the year is when we are on vacation as a family. We usually...
    catarina35 catarina35 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 18

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    Why is it so difficult

    for my spouse to understand that I need alone time without him following me around the house all the time... I just need a break from being hovered upon...
    maetophall maetophall 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 49 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Hey all you married and lonely people out there.

    ...screw the boring spouses tonight and let's all go dancing....whose in?
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 34 Responses a week ago

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    Have you ever felt like every single thing u do

    is wrong....it's always your fault no matter how hard u try?
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 91 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I am married, lonely

    and drunk....anybody wanna make out....
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 48 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Surrounded by people every day,

    but feeling very alone. I want to feel like I am desirable, instead I just feel like I am being tolerated.
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 21 Responses Jan 1

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    I swear there are times these days

    when I can't even remember why I married my husband. I can barely recapture that feeling of being in love and having him as the center of my universe. I know it was there for a long, long time... I vaguely remember wanting no one but him and him feeling the same about me, and...
    pinkpussycat4u pinkpussycat4u 51-55, F 22 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 25 Responses Jan 22

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    I am so tired of people telling me how I should

    act or how I should behave...I am a married woman....I should act a certain way and if I don't follow "the right path" then I am an awful person. You don't know me...don't u think I know what I am doing...yes I have morals and values but sometimes I am just so sick and tired of...
    somethingsexy25 somethingsexy25 36-40, F 50 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    Last night I approached her gently (as always),

    hoping to make love to her... She rebuffed me, insisting that she was tired and so... I can understand that of course, it wasn't the first time after all... The thing that hurts though is, throughout the entire 12 years that we are together, I have never said no to her intimate...
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 34 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I feel sad and lonely-

    when I am at home and with my husband. it just seems like everything I do is wrong, every joke I tell is lame. I always feel like he's just idling his time with me. He's always off in another room reading or doing work (we have the same occupation, so I font understand why he's...
    HistoryGirl77 HistoryGirl77 36-40, F 72 Responses Jan 11

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    I love my wife with all my heart.

    Recently she told me shes not happy and doesnt know if shes going to stay. I told her i love her and dont want her to go .Since then shes started wearing tight kinda see thru low cut shirts to work. skin tight jeans and is working out whenever she can. On new years she was at...
    vicod3n vicod3n 36-40, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    Actually had another woman flirt with me

    and she knew I was married and my circumstances. Not sure how to feel now that it has happened.
    WantsToBeADad WantsToBeADad 41-45, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    To wake up with thoughts of someone,

    other than the person next to you!!!! Is nice ;) xx
    speedrcr67 speedrcr67 46-50, M 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 14 Responses Jan 20

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    Diary of a Sad Man Day One “Please let me be

    your friend. I promise to be a good one.” And she was. The best. Ever. We’re a continent away, but from the very beginning, there was a connection that left us both breathless. She beamed the light of hope into my dark world. The love that we found helped her to heal. The...
    SadMan2015 SadMan2015 51-55, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    So let me understand this.

    ..as long as I do, say and feel like you want things are ok. HMMM??? Jokes on you, I have been practicing patience, and I am stronger than you would prefer:)
    joyfulride joyfulride 36-40 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My husband works away a lot,

    and its mostly just me and the kids, And I knew his work when I got with him and it doesn't bother me, but what bothers me is how alone I feel. (he stays in camps, or hotels) He goes out after work and visits with coworkers, drinks some beer, plays pool, etc not having a care in...
    lifeisabumpyride lifeisabumpyride 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 22

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    When you want to throw yours hands up

    and say F it!! Whether due to constant bitching, knowing she is unhappy and you can do nothing to help her! Or the fact that there is lack of any kind of affection or intimacy.
    speedrcr67 speedrcr67 46-50, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    Yea he said she said.

    *** for tat. its comming down to decision time. for me at least. because god Fu#*n knows she can't make her own mind the **** up. my kids don't deserve the smog of tension in this house. But here is the thing. i can't get over the part of feeling bad for her. where will she go...
    ambull1 ambull1 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 22

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 4, 2014

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    I am a 50 year old man

    and have been married for almost thirty years. Half way through my marriage my wife started having medical problems and has had multiple surgeries. She would lose a little part of herself with each surgery. Ten years ago, she lost part of her colon to colon cancer. We haven...
    IndianaJohn IndianaJohn 46-50, M 19 Responses 6 days ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 268 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 50 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    More so tonight than usual.

    Maybe there's something in the air, lol. But I miss my man... I miss him so very much.
    Piscesrose Piscesrose 46-50, F 6 days ago

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    Married for 8 years. My husband not

    affectionate at all. No hugs, hand holding, nothing. He does a lot of good things, but not this. I am sure there is something wrong with me. I have talked to him about this, but he does not get it. Sometimes I wonder if I should just be happy with what I have. A lot of people...
    deleted deleted 26-30 20 Responses Jan 20

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    You would think that

    after my husband has been gone for a few days that once coming home I would at least get a