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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I am married but lonely.

    I feel unwanted.
    bb1976 bb1976 36-40, F 14 Responses a week ago

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    For the whole world, I have a perfect marriage.

    She is very caring and friendly with everyone and tends to thier needs. Everyone loves her and she truly is a great person and a terrific mother. And if you ask her about her marriage, she feels its ok and everything is fine. Somewhere thru the four years that I have been...
    fantomy fantomy 31-35, M 38 Responses Jul 4

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    I didn't get married to be his roommate & cook!

    Ten years feels like 100. I get hit on by other guys all the time, but no sex from my man, and rarely a kiss... Sigh
    picocat7 picocat7 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 6

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    Just got back from a 5 day vacation with my

    husband, 3 of which included his father and stepmother. (I invited them and actually really like both of them, to the point the vacation was my gift to them.) There are times I can see my husband try. There are more times I can see him refuse to break his ignorance and realize...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Husband is in service

    so its just me and pur two beautiful children. We talk to him when he has time or Skype but i don't know how much longer i can continue to live like this.
    carmel2015 carmel2015 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    28 year old male married 3 children in a

    romanceless marriage. Looking for fun person to connect with.
    stevo66669 stevo66669 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    Are there any pretty women out there (age

    irrelevant) who'd like to meet an erudite, highly-educated, (very) well-preserved guy (58) with a wicked sense of humor? The man to whom I refer (now ain't that formal!) is Jewish, iconoclastic, sentimental/sarcastic, honest and (here comes the disclaimer) not "financially...
    JimmyLonesome JimmyLonesome 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 26

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 25 Responses Apr 13

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    Alpacino21 Alpacino21 41-45 1 day ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 61 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Anyone else having one of those days today?

    I'm just feeling more frustrated than I normally do.
    Marie6421 Marie6421 26-30, F 34 Responses Jun 9

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    Wife work totally different hours to me :( So

    I go on line to "relax" She encourages me to. So in saying that anyone else in the same boat??
    420inoz 420inoz 36-40, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 36-40, M 31 Responses Jul 5

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 44 Responses 6 days ago

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    RahRah73 RahRah73 41-45, F 43 Responses Jun 17

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    "The danger of being lonely is

    that you easily fall for the very first person who shows you that you are not alone"
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jul 8

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 55 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    It's mean to say but the day my mother in law

    dies will be the best day of my life. If you knew her, you would understand where I am coming from....
    NJguitarist NJguitarist 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I'm here I'm new I'm lonely.

    Someone make me feel alive again!
    verbs137 verbs137 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 21

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 281 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 107 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    UnCaro UnCaro 51-55, F 31 Responses 1 day ago

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    I love my wife, I really do.

    We have become like magnets though. The closer we get, the stronger we push each other away. When I get a hair cut, I drink the physical contact in like a sponge. Ears are sensitive you know. Sleeping alone on a cold night. Seeing women in the store. Thinking about them. Just...
    zax2 zax2 51-55, M 2 Responses Jul 24

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    A funny thing happens

    when your spouse withdraws sex and affection for so long...you don't even attempt to ask for it anymore. Who wants to be rejected time after time? I know it sounds pitiful, but it hurts EVERY SINGLE TIME. So I quit expecting, asking, begging. I feel hollow. I have so much to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    Husband promised he be home by noon

    because dd asked him to take her to the park. 4:30 and still no sign of him. I feel so sad as he never puts family time first. It's not that he doesn't care; it's more that he's the type to put off fun until every possible chore and work related thing is done. He has done ONE...
    Crystalmoon32 Crystalmoon32 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I was missing my old chat buddies lately.

    I was missing one because back then i didnt even noticed him really. Today i looked at his fotos and think "what was wrong with me?" Im desperatelly looking for him, but i couldnt find him online anymore. I dont know his name, i have only his fotos and his messenger name, well...
    lonely4560 lonely4560 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    astrudcc11 astrudcc11 26-30, F Jul 27

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 11

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    It's funny where life takes you sometimes.

    You can meet one person who can change the entire course of your life. Would you be willing to give up your future goals, give up seeing your family and friends everyday, pack up and move to a different country for someone you love? Not a lot of people would make that big of a...
    Milesaway3 Milesaway3 26-30, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    Ok, I'm really confused.

    When I first joined EP about three weeks ago I wrote a experience about my wife and I and how or love life is all but over. There's just no more sparks, there no passion, no romance, there's no more making love. That whole huge part of our relationship is just gone. Once in a...
    Peter4546 Peter4546 41-45, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Married 14 years and I'm sure its common

    for things to slow down but the past three plus we are more like brother and sister. He seems to be okay with everything but I am not and its frustrating. I don't know if he is really okay with it or just not saying anything because of the kids. Can't help feeling lonely even...
    LisaC760 LisaC760 36-40, F 34 Responses Jul 24

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 28 Responses Jan 22

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    I've been with a my husband

    for a total of 7 years. He would be perfect, but he's shorter than me and although he does everything right, even in the bed he's a great lover, i still have this wanting for someone else, someone taller, more handsome, with a lot more testosterone. He works overseas so I'm...
    meoun1986 meoun1986 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Reading so many of these stories.

    ....so many marriages lacking for one reason or another. As we grow older and life changes us, sometimes we can no longer be the person we were and respond to our partners the way we once did. My own marriage is ' ok'. Hubby is a good man and we are affectionate....we even still...
    sillysoo sillysoo 46-50, F 14 Responses Jul 25

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 31 Responses Jan 2

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 32 Responses Mar 29

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 9

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 52 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I am married and I feel like my husband will do

    anything for anyone else but me. Everyone thinks hes this great guy and lately he will do anything to prove that. Yesterday a female attractive bartender that works at a bar by our house that we go to. (my husband goes more than me).showed up at our house looking for my husband...
    bluegirl12 bluegirl12 41-45, F 75 Responses Jul 19

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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