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I Am Married But Lonely

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 46-50, M 64 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I am married to a red hair stunning Irish man.

    he's 9 yrs my senior and was blessed with a beautiful daughter. He has 5 kids prior to our marriage and I had one from my ex. So in total we have 7 kids. But only 2 lives with us. I just recently started working night shifts as I work full time mom day time and hubby takes over...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 28

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    I just want to be held

    and cared for.....
    Papuflower Papuflower 18-21, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 29 Responses Mar 29

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    Yep, must be nice out again.

    ... 10:00... I've barely seen my husband. I guess I have to figure out how to handle yet another spring/summer of this.
    dewkissedrose dewkissedrose 36-40, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    No responses needed..

    .just wanted to post this... I feel like I care for and nurture everyone close to me, but when I need it there is no nurturing in return. Just a hug I don't have to ask for or an I love you that I don't have to say 1st...it would take so little, but even when I ball up my...
    LifelongTomboy LifelongTomboy 41-45, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 272 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    Anyone in this forum

    because your spouse is having an emotional affair?
    Mike405 Mike405 51-55, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    So sometimes I like to show off my naked body

    and see if anyone else would me...
    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 27

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I got out. Best decision of my life.

    Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious endeavor that should be a last resort. However... There are some people in the world who are just not ever going to care, or ever going to...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 27

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 11

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    I'm starting to wonder

    if he realizes how lucky he is... probably not.
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    Anymore things just don't seem right,

    the fluid emotions and attractions that i once had have faded away. Routines have set in and i just don't even know if its worth trying or leaving for that matter. I'm afraid to leave her because she leans on me for everything that goes wrong, I'm her Stability, and with her is...
    TimeTwistedSoul TimeTwistedSoul 26-30, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    "It would be too easy to say

    that I feel invisible. Instead, I feel painfully visible and entirely ignored."
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 16 Responses 1 day ago

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    when me and my wife first got together 2 1/2

    years ago, we had all these plans and everything was great so we got married. she got pregnant and we were very excited! but then i started to realize after she had the baby, everything changed about her!! our communication started to lack, she always found something to get mad...
    darrickDrew darrickDrew 22-25, M 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 24 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I miss you. I need you.

    I want you. Please come back to me.
    Troutflies Troutflies 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 45 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I wore a dress today

    for the first time in forever and the first time wearing it out, not just to church . (when I went to that.) He didn't say anything except that I picked a perfect windy day to wear one. V_V sigh. I had shorts and a shirt on underneath it. It was a little discouraging. . .he was...
    BabyDoll23p BabyDoll23p 22-25, F 14 Responses 3 days ago

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    My husband started working opposite shifts from

    me. I see him for about 26 hours a week, which works out to an average of 2-3 hours a day. It's sad.
    butters510 butters510 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 27

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 7 Responses Apr 27

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    I don't know what to think anymore.

    I feel like I'm just around to be the maid. No conversation. It seems like a competition more so than a marriage. I keep trying to make it work. This is my second marriage. I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant. All he does is play the game from sun up to sun down. I watch television. I...
    LonelyandLoyal LonelyandLoyal 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 26

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 32 Responses Jan 2

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 57 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    When did it happen? 15 years of marriage.

    Sounds nice and sounds like an achievement that I should be proud of. Yes I am proud of it and surprised too. How did I pull it along for so long. What makes me tick inside this marriage. It was all fun and exciting and life was like a dream. And then boom, one day I realized...
    livinglifetoday livinglifetoday 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Feeling extremely alone my husband has

    abandoned me in more ways then one. He won't sleep in bed with me he's not there for me emotionally . We have had marriage counseling . He has not followed through on any advice that she has given . I feel there is no hope . He doesn't want to separate or divorce . I have two...
    itsme29 itsme29 26-30, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I must write this all down tonight

    while she is out with friends, before she comes back and tries something. I know what happens if she does... The mind games resume. I start feeling guilty for feeling dissatisfied. I will feel close to her... somewhat... for a moment at least. I will feel hopeful...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 24

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    I spend most of the time home alone.

    My wife and I work different shifts, so we don't get to spend too much time together. I get up in the morning and she is working. I get ready for work and she is still working. When I get off of work she is home, but asleep. She usually wakes up 2 hours before I go to bed...
    happilymarriedguy happilymarriedguy 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 12 Responses Jan 20

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 25

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    When I told my friends

    and family I was engaged they all told me to take it slow. I was 18 and would be getting married at 19, but I was "in love." 10 years later all of those voices linger in my head. I should have listened. I should have left so many times, but I never could. I needed him and could...
    Adrianna7182 Adrianna7182 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 25

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    my husband likes to drink on the weekends

    leaving me to feel alone and less than his drinking. we've discussed his excessive drinking but it seems he doesn't care or truly realize how it really effects me.
    r3dclover r3dclover 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    because he does not want to talk about

    responsibilities like paying bills etc. we lost everything last year but he is still boastful to other people that we are doing ok. he has no work, no income at all. we have 1 child in college but still i am the one looking for some ways to pay the fees, house rent and even our...
    mas4074 mas4074 36-40, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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