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I Am Married But Lonely

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    my wife has seemed to have lost interest in

    me/sex I cant seem to convey to her how badly I need to feel wanted/desired
    Shareus2 Shareus2 46-50, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm so grateful for the warmer days.

    Getting out at night for a long walk with my dogs helps more than anything. Gives me time to focus on myself and on the direction I am headed. And sometimes I run into a friend.. sometimes its someone I have never met before. You realize there is more to life than your...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 9 Responses May 13

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    Giving EP another try I was silly

    and closed my account after thinking possibly all my problems would be solved after having a good week. course there are ups and downs and I know that so now I am back! At this point I am still stuck I can not get a divorce but I still want you connect with someone else. Yes I...
    midlifeknot midlifeknot 36-40, M 3 Responses May 15

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    It's amazing how you can think you are

    so close to someone only to have them grow into a total stranger. Talking to the person you started a family with shouldnt feel awkward.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 7 Responses May 16

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    So I had a pretty good day.

    Finally got some time to do things I enjoy. Had a nice sleep. All those things. Then my husband comes home.... and while backing into his parking spot, he hit my truck. You know, that big black thing RIGHT THERE. To make it even better, he ripped of a piece of the fiberglass...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 3 Responses May 20

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 25 Responses Jan 22

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    Is anyone on here young

    and married with children? I would just really like advice from someone going through the same thing. Message me
    Amg1001 Amg1001 18-21, F 4 Responses May 19

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    I am not new to this site

    but I guess new to the fact I have become in touch with reality....for years I have surpressed the feelings of lonliness, no desire from my husband but all the while I have tried to be a good wife...a supporting...wife....I have given up my dreams to make sure my H lives his...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    How can you live with someone

    for 25 years and they just don't even show that they care if your sad, sick or unhappy. I just need someone to hug me and notice that something is wrong and care. I feel like if I just was gone one day he wont even notice or care. I am so sad right now. I tried talking to...
    Tdisney Tdisney 46-50, F 35 Responses 1 day ago

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    There is a point in time

    when the love you feel for your other is stale enough.....that you must reach out for another,,,, for the touch, the feel of another.....OMG I want to feel again!!!!
    pigger3 pigger3 61-65, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 274 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I love my husband....

    .but I'm IN LOVE with with another man. I let the other man go months ago but feel like I can't get him out of my mind and heart. I'm trying to recommit myself to my marriage of over 20 years but at this point we're more like roommates. I love my husband but feel like I left my...
    girlseekinglife girlseekinglife 41-45, F 33 Responses Jan 2

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 22 Responses Apr 13

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    When life to be harder Chang your self to be

    stronger .. Who can do this
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 24 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 43 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I'm not married but I still feel lonely lol how

    weird is that lol anyone want to chat?
    riderz4christ riderz4christ 31-35, M May 19

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 46-50, M 61 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    My Husband is a wonderful person .

    The best big brother to his Sisters.My fathers favorite Son in Law.The most caring father to his children and he gives me a wonderful home.Every night we say a formal goodnight part ways and walk towards our seperate rooms ...Am i being reckless in asking the universe for more?
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 57 Responses Jan 16

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 32 Responses Mar 29

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 60 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Some nights I feel the loneliness more

    than others. Tonight's one of those nights.
    Mike405 Mike405 51-55, M 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    He is gone so often,

    and even when he's here he isn't present, that I have started to forget what it was like to actually miss him. There is a numbness that grew without me noticing over time. Like when your foot falls asleep and you suddenly have to get up for something. You didn't notice it was...
    VanessaGodi VanessaGodi 36-40, F 5 Responses May 14

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 13 Responses Jan 20

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 25

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 29 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    you don't realize how lonely your are

    until it's the end of the day and you have a bunch of things to talk about, but no one to tell them
    choko0541 choko0541 26-30, M 1 Response May 20

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    My wife is both physically

    and mentally ill. The meds she takes at night knock her out cold. Even now she's just sitting in her recliner. Snoring. I feel bad. I know it's not her fault and she can't help it. But I'm the one who is awake. I'm the one who works all day to pay for all the Dr. visits and meds...
    Toynbeetile Toynbeetile 41-45, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 55 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I have been Married for almost 2 decades,

    yet, I feel like we are strangers. He has his own life, and I really don't know that I have mine, At least I know this is not what I had signed up for. We're in the same room yet as I write this, I wonder if he even notices I'm here. What has become of me? I have good...
    Jenna1972 Jenna1972 41-45, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 25 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 11

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    I want to feel loved.

    I feel so alone in this world, I have no one to turn to about the pain I feel inside because I'm embarrassed of what they will think and say. Everyone thinks I live in a happy marriage, and that I'm happy. They are so wrong. I feel like I'm just surviving day to day. I don't...
    1disguise 1disguise 22-25, F 7 Responses May 18

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    I'm married, all in all its been a pretty good

    twenty years, two kids, two dogs, house in the suburbs, the standard middle class story I suppose. But over the past several years its begun to feel as if my wife and I are in some sort of competition with each other and I'm worn out by this. The feeling of loneliness that has...
    wisurf wisurf 46-50, M 7 Responses May 19

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    Every time something upsetting

    or traumatic has happened to me since my husband and I became a couple, he has managed to **** on me. Make me feel worse. Upset me and find a way to make his crappy feelings my fault. My grandma died in September. I love her so much. She is a big reason I didn't commit suicide...
    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F 4 Responses May 14

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    I really don't know what to do.

    I think since I've been married my husband hasn't been into me. I catch him looking at other women, ****, and recently I caught him sending pictures of his penis to someone he says he met. I just feel so unloved, but the thing is I love him. I've given him chance after...
    ClickCloser ClickCloser 31-35, F 9 Responses a week ago

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    I am deeper in love with my lower

    than ever before. It's been almost 8 months. We are so alike, text all day, always find the time to see one another...He fills my needs...He understands me...We are actually a lot alike: thinkers, sensual people, caring, sensitive, etc...He understands me like no one else...he...
    sweetfreespirit sweetfreespirit 31-35, F 6 Responses May 19

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    Hello everyone I know how all of you feel.

    I have been married for 23 years and I am bored with my husband. He is a good man, but he has always had problems letting go with me. Lovemaking became stale at least when we were intimate. As the years went bye so did our sex life. It has been years and I don't remember what...
    fullfigured7 fullfigured7 41-45, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    sarahccaa sarahccaa 26-30, F 2 Responses May 18

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