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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Another lonely night .

    . I really don't know how long I can do this.. It's been too long already.. On top of it all, I did make a decision about one of our kids that he was against.. Granted I do own up to the mistake , but now I'm really paying for it.. Like I committed a sin. No one is perfect..
    MandLLS MandLLS 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 16

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 27 Responses Feb 13

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    Wow. She just called.

    We spent about a half an hour talking about anything and everything. She talked a lot about college and her new job. She has no idea that I have this boyish crush on her. I have for a while now. Talking to her makes me so happy. It's dumb. It's so dumb. We don't even know each...
    dcguy123 dcguy123 36-40, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    I have been married for 10 years

    but has been feeling lonely . She has been like a best friend but now we barely even talk . Its sucks and feels like a single again .
    lotusfan5 lotusfan5 36-40, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 26

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 39 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I have been married 10 yrs.

    . And have never felt soooo alone . My heart craves for the love and tenderness from my spouse but it's never there. We never do anything together. Alone or with out kids. I feel that there is no way out bit. I get jealous when I see couples or families together . It hurts...
    MandLLS MandLLS 41-45, F 12 Responses Sep 8

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    I am married, but I feel

    so distant from my wife. Our relationship seems so forced. She gets upset when she has to tell me to do things around the house, but doesn't see it strange that I have to tell her to be affectionate towards me. She blames her lack of affection on my inability to clean up the...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30, M 7 Responses Sep 9

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the

    marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the point where I don't even try to get emotional relief from him anymore because I know he just is unavailable in the way that I need. In addition...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    I appreciate these stories,

    and was looking to post on one of them. However, many of the men and women seem to be young; with children. Mine are grown up or almost there: 20 and 17. My husband spends all his time in his newfound land Game of War, or something like that. If I say, I am lonely: he says, I...
    missingtranslation missingtranslation 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 13

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4

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    I'm crushed and continue to be.

    Like an orphaned child who is reminded of his present situation in contrast to the potential of his new life only to awake and find it was a dream and never real.
    ukblak ukblak 41-45, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 78 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 99 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Been married for twenty four years.

    That is more than half my life. Things were okay until the kids moved out to make lives of their own. Maybe our marriage has always been this way, but I was not lonely because I had a house and kids to take care of. I always took care of my family, including my husband. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Sep 11

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 19

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 28 Responses Aug 11

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    The chill of fall has quietly moved into the

    morning air and soon the leaves will turn. Before you know it, fall will be in place and then the winter holidays I dread. I tell myself this season will be different, but I know that'll hold together for my family. So, let's spike the egg nog and go shopping then gift wrap...
    Elsiboney Elsiboney 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    I do sometimes feel lonely,

    but I have done plenty of things that have been hurtful to my wife, so I understand why she has withdrawn. But I have been making some changes in hopes of us drawing closer again.
    tryingchange tryingchange 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 16

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    Update:We are back home from our beach weekend!

    Things went very well! Last night was a lot of fun. We enjoyed great food, music, and a wonderful time all night and all day today. He was very complimentary last night and today.It has been very pleasant between us and he confirmed that he definitely is still going to marriage...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 6

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    Some of have no lack of sexual contact

    but without the love or connection. Others get no sex and know the other person cares for them but here is no connection. How come it seems so rare to have all three things in a relationship at one time? Especially as time passes?
    Jakomcbean Jakomcbean 46-50, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 44 Responses Mar 16

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    I Want A Playmate

    I want a playmate. Someone whose company I really enjoy, and we can go to dinner, the movies, a walk, work out together, play games, go the beach, take a vacation...oh I don't know....and so many more things to do together. I'm tired of going everywhere alone. I've heard it say...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 41 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 51 Responses Apr 6

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    I am a 33 year old homeschooling stay @ home

    mom. I put the needs & happiness of everyone before mine but never get the same done for me, especially when I need it the most. Seeking for a platonic friendship . Someone to talk to.
    eishaq23 eishaq23 31-35, F 14 Responses Sep 12

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    It doesn't matter how much I do,

    or all that I've forgiven...it's all about sex. If I were home all day, everyday, but chose not to clean the house, not to cook or do the laundry.... And if I decided to go out with friends every single weekend. As long as he gets sex every day, it's all good. Wow...
    prsunshine prsunshine 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    My husband made supper!

    Great! Then left the mess and fell asleep! This is the way it is. Even when he is home I feel alone. We don't go out or see friends. He speaks to his mother and father more then me. I am unhappy and so alone. I can't seem to talk to him about it as he says it's my fault that I...
    Penelopeallalone Penelopeallalone 36-40, F 9 Responses Sep 3

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 21 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 22 Responses Jun 25

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    Indeed. ...and would welcome messages from

    anyone in a similar boat looking to alleviate the loneliness...
    tryagainuk tryagainuk 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 16

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 23 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Being alone is scary

    but not as scary as feeling alone in a relationship.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 12

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    The Lingerie!

    The lingerie! This story is all part of my 20th wedding anniversary dinner. We had been growing apart, and intimacy of any sort seemed a thing of the past.I separated this part out as it has merits as a story unto itself. In preparation for our 20th wedding anniversary, I was...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M 41 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    Today has been a challenge.

    I am tired but don't want to sleep yet. Two weeks ago I was in the same place. My husband wants nothing to do with me again. I don't want to sit here and complain. But, I am tired of getting to this same place so often.
    missingtranslation missingtranslation 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 21

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    Lonely or trapped? Victim

    or choice? Married ..not married? This does not simply apply to married people but those who found someone they believed to be their one and only. Marriage in these instances come from a persons complete soul. A place so deep that you open your delicate heart...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 14 Responses May 9

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    Have you ever been next to the person you love

    more than life it self, wanting affection and touch so bad it hurts. But you know that they will be mad or ignore you. I have gone through so much and done so much to keep this marriage together .. I just feel alone
    Darkpriest85 Darkpriest85 26-30, M 13 Responses Sep 4

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    Thumbelina With A Botox

    Thumbelina with a Botox After 12 years of marriage and 2 kids, Thumbelina woke up to the alarm of her phone. Her prince was snoring right next to her. She gazed at him as she thought, was this her happily ever after? She walked towards her dressing mirror and started checking...
    Coquette1 Coquette1 36-40, F 21 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    my wife is a career woman!

    for her its like all work and no fun! seriously! she is a fashion designer and interior decor . she takes pride in her work, im over elated she found something that she loves so much BUT she has forgotten about her husband and sometimes our daughter. we have only one child and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 3

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    ....and it's a strange comfort to find

    so many others in similar positions... Looking for intimacy and fun- in the true senses of both words- any other UK based souls around?
    tryagainuk tryagainuk 46-50, M Sep 21

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    I am married and was lonely,

    but I have met someone on here that has made me rethink the lonely. Not as lonely as I was by far.
    oriolesfan464 oriolesfan464 46-50, M 7 Responses Sep 11

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 262 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I got shot down for date night.

    Technically I guess I got downgraded for date night. I was trying to plan a date night with my wife for not this Saturday but next Saturday. I suggested it yesterday but got no response. I asked about it today and was told "I don't want the kids gone for a night, I don't...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 12 Responses Sep 11

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 41 Responses Feb 12

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 58 Responses Jun 24

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 4

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    Husband and I are both gamers,

    we love playing pc games together. But I know that he is more important then any game I will ever play, he's my partner in crime. :) So why is it whenever he's playing a game, I get ignored and get the cold shoulder if I ask a simple question, whether its about what would he...
    MistressMeow MistressMeow 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    Sometimes I feel disconnected from my husband

    and my heart begins to ache. Sometimes I feel foolish, like I rushed into marriage. I know it was God's timing and His timing is perfect. Other times I will be perfectly fine. I know Satan wants to wreck my marriage. He has tried everything he can to get a foothold in my...
    watermelonbliss watermelonbliss 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 22

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    I am married and I have a baby.

    On top of dealing with my son having some health issues and financially responsible for a lot more than I should, my husband is behaving like the biggest ****. All I just asked him to do was to play on his phone while watching our baby sleep in the bedroom. I didnt ask him to...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 15

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 28 Responses Aug 19

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    Couple of years ago I thought I was dying. I couldn't fall asleep, sometimes for a whole night, and when eventually I was so exhausted that I would manage to go to sleep, I would wake up in a couple of minutes, couple of hours maximum, with my heart racing, and my eys wide open...
    benharmon benharmon 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 18

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    And then just when you think you've found

    that one person you connect with, it turns out they are connected to a dozen more at the same time. Don't know which is worst...
    prsunshine prsunshine 31-35, F 6 Responses Sep 22

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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