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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 89 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I got out. Best decision of my life.

    Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious endeavor that should be a last resort. However... There are some people in the world who are just not ever going to care, or ever going to...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I married my best friend,

    someone I knew for 15 years now. After 6 years of marriage, we are fast realising that this is not going to work out. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for months and the loneliness and helplessness is really getting to me. A part of me says it's time to let go and be free...
    pirng pirng 31-35, F 10 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 52 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    So much to say and no idea

    where to start...I have been married for 20 years and as time has progressed, the more emotionally unavailable she has become. At this point, I live my life without intimacy from my wife – no emotional intimacy, no physical intimacy, no intimacy of any kind in any form. I...
    Rebigulator Rebigulator 46-50, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I really hate sleeping alone.

    It's been way too long since I felt arms around me at night.. I find my self longing and craving touch.. And it just worsens at night.
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 14 Responses 6 days ago

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    I work all weekend and come home to a messy

    house. Then I discover he's running around town with the kids and doesn't bother combing their hair or making sure they're dressed appropriately. Instead of cooking supper, he is working on an unimportant project. So I make dinner...and clean up afterwards, while he goes to the...
    bookwormgrl bookwormgrl 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    Shelly0905 Shelly0905 26-30, F 17 Responses Apr 9

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    I am the bread winner.

    I am female. and my husband had a seizure 3 years ago. it changed him. he has no interest in s ex or romance,. he is abusive. and I just feel stuck. I have no family . it's just me. I know total victim mentality. but it's put my confidence down to a new low. never...
    newstarthelp newstarthelp 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 54 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 24 Responses Jan 22

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I am married and am the bread winner.

    My husband is on disability and all he does is sit around. My mother stayed with us for a while and paid rent. My husband verbally abused her so i asked her to Move in with my sister. I work constantly and still cant make ends meet. My husband doesnt have a care in the world...
    janean59 janean59 51-55, F 19 Responses a week ago

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 272 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 57 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    Is ignorance a good thing.

    .....if we dont know something, isnt it better so we crave it less. In olden times, people's satisfaction levels were easier met and they lived a hard life, with little or no certainty. Now in this modern world we are bombarded with so much information on lives, cultures...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 11

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    i clean i cook work 40 hour's.

    then. come. home. and. have. to beat. off
    pgable pgable 46-50, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My husband and I have been married

    for nine years and together for fourteen. We got married just after my 24th birthday. In that time we've moved all across north america and had a baby. He is a terrific Dad and a kind, honest and intelligent person. I love him and I love being around him. My problem is he...
    thelifeandtimes thelifeandtimes 31-35, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Last night I approached her gently (as always),

    hoping to make love to her... She rebuffed me, insisting that she was tired and so... I can understand that of course, it wasn't the first time after all... The thing that hurts though is, throughout the entire 12 years that we are together, I have never said no to her intimate...
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 34 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 30 Responses Mar 29

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bettycc11 bettycc11 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 57 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Married happy couple on the outside

    but inside the wife alone and tired and ditched in the house all day to clean and cook and other womanly things... It would be nice to be included in SOMETHiNG, how can he not tell
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 19

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    Extreme- More than words Bryan Adams-

    Everything I do, I do it for you Kodaline- All I want All express how I've been feeling.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My conscience is clear.

    Yes.... I look outside for little brief encounters with strangers that I happen into or with recurring ladies, such as a mom or two at the school..... I really enjoy a smile, a compliment, a touch, a look. It really makes my day and becomes a supplement to the rest of...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    There is a big lack of communication between us.

    I feel like there is a big empty space that needs to be filled.
    SimpliLovely SimpliLovely 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    My Husband is a wonderful person .

    The best big brother to his Sisters.My fathers favorite Son in Law.The most caring father to his children and he gives me a wonderful home.Every night we say a formal goodnight part ways and walk towards our seperate rooms ...Am i being reckless in asking the universe for more?
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 58 Responses Jan 16

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    When I told my friends

    and family I was engaged they all told me to take it slow. I was 18 and would be getting married at 19, but I was "in love." 10 years later all of those voices linger in my head. I should have listened. I should have left so many times, but I never could. I needed him and could...
    Adrianna7182 Adrianna7182 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 65 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    However, lamenting my circumstances does me no

    good. I want to enjoy life and experience friendship. I enjoy conversing about ideas and experiences, making intellectual and emotional connections. For some reason, I have had trouble making those connections. I fear I'm doomed to live a life of solitude and missed...
    ImperfectHuman ImperfectHuman 46-50, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    So sometimes I like to show off my naked body

    and see if anyone else would me...
    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 9 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 29 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Now screening: "the big fight.

    " Next up we have a double header lineup! "The apology," followed by "the shrug"
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 18

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    His shift brings him home late in the evenings.

    I don't know why I force myself to stay awake. Maybe hoping that he will engage me in some sort of conversation. Instead at midnight I sit up watching a show with him. What I really need is conversation and maybe for him to take a little interest in what is going on at home. In...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 16

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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