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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Snowed in with my estranged husband.

    He asked for a divorce 6 months ago and has yet to file for even a legal separation. He moved out but comes home daily supposedly to see the kids but is on his phone thw whole time Facebooking and texting other women I suppose. I have caught him out on a date with another woman...
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    Well I'm almost positive my marriage is over

    with my wife. I'm devastated.
    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    Being married is truly like having another

    career. It is a lot of hard work and dedication. It is very over rated. If only I could go back in time. I would have stayed single 4 life and only had friends. I feel like I have a roommate not a husband. Other times it's like having another child. I am so over it. My advice to...
    F1rstLadi F1rstLadi 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 19

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    Ok here goes....I used to be on here years ago

    but decided to quit because I thought I would be able to sort out my life ...but seemingly to no avail. So here is my story. I am married to an amazing man....super sweet, loving, attentive, caring, puts me first (well you get the drift) we have been together for a long time and...
    worldtravels123 worldtravels123 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    All I want is a husband

    who will spend time with me. I don't want any more clothes, jewelry, bags, cars, or vacations! I want attention, affection, hand holding and lots of kissing. Thirteen years is a long time to go without a hug or a kiss.
    Allthatglitters80 Allthatglitters80 31-35, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    ttsj0120s ttsj0120s 56-60, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 27 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I am just sitting here,

    drinking wine and crying. I've had enough. I am a very attractive woman not considered attractive enough to have sex with by my husband. He is a liar, addicted to **** who doesn't want to have sex with me. Sometimes we do petting but I feel like I married a teenager. I love him...
    cheshca cheshca 26-30, F 36 Responses Jul 28, 2015

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    Should I stay or should I go?

    It's been 19 years, but it's been bad for so long, I don't even know what a healthy relationship is anymore. I think about leaving every day. I've come very close to having affairs. I've tried separation. I went to marriage counseling for 5 years...by myself. That can't possibly...
    AndFlowersInHerHair AndFlowersInHerHair 41-45, F 22 Responses Aug 5, 2015

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    Dear Husband.... So today I decided to be

    honest with myself and allow you to blame me for the failure of our marriage.... It is my fault I strayed after 19 years of sexual neglect... It is my fault that I wanted soft sweet kisses before I fell asleep - you denied me It is my fault that I wanted a hug when I felt sad...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 20 Responses Sep 10, 2015

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    My heart and soul are screaming

    for more, as this life I've become entrapped in feels cold and desolate, so very lonely to me. We have grown into very different people in our life together, and so far apart. My mind and ego tell me to work it out, it's what I'm supposed to do, it's the sensible thing to do. My...
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Aug 2, 2015

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    I am a married man from Philippines.

    Any female takers? Lol
    citygensan citygensan 41-45, M Jan 21

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    deleted deleted 26-30 30 Responses Mar 29, 2015

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    Hello. It seems like

    so many people have similar experiences to mine.. I want to say I feel reassured but that's not right I guess. I'm a 46 year old man, my wife is 43. We've been together for 20 years, have 2 boys 9 & 11. Our realtionship was normal but in the last 3 months my wife has stopped...
    therainhorse therainhorse 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 25

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    Most of the time we don't talk much.

    He assumes I know his feelings. Still it would be great to hear him say it or to want to do things with me.
    tamanne tamanne 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 27

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    I came on here feeling really bad about

    everything until I read others post .I have it bad but there is so many people on here that are going through worst . I just want to say I'm sorry to everyone . and you are not alone
    lilmousey1 lilmousey1 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    This is the first time I've written on this

    or any other site. I didn't know there were so many other people in the world who are in the same situation, so reading others' stories is reassuring in that I realise I'm not alone in my aloneness. Over the past 15 years of marriage, but particularly the last 10, I've felt...
    Oncewascontent Oncewascontent 41-45, M 33 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    So, I need to vent a little.

    My husband didn't sleep in our bed again last night. I was apparently rude to him. Wonder what tonight's excuse is going to be. I don't know where things went wrong for us. It's not always bad, there are good times, even if they are far too few. He's always working, so I...
    Samy27 Samy27 26-30, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 95 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 45 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Funny how things change.

    ..for 19 Years much was a refuser....self centred....mean....cruel and due to his sexual neglect I strayed from the marriage. My friends that are following my story I can't understand life....my h has now seen the light. Wants to change. Wants to be sexual...for goodness sake...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    I am sitting out here around a fire alone.

    The wife has not been off the couch all day. I took my girls kayaking then I cooked dinner and am now sitting by myself. It doesn't usually bother me. But tonight I feel alone. Very much alone. I want to run away and hide. I want to love again. To feel. To...anything else but...
    btorn btorn 36-40, M 17 Responses Sep 26, 2015

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    My husband ran out to get cigarettes 4 hours

    ago. I hope I don't have to bail him out of jail again, from another DUI.. What a fun life....
    KISSB00TS KISSB00TS 46-50, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    hello...i don't know

    where to post this exactly, sorry if it ends up in the wrong category/group. i have a situation that i cannot discuss with anyone, but i need some feedback from others. i'm not sure why i need the feedback, but i just do. i've been married 9 years and have 3 AMAZING children...
    mommajllc mommajllc 36-40, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    note to husband: your dinners in the cookbook,

    pg. 32. And the ingredients are at the store.
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 19 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 28 Responses Apr 13, 2015

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    every woman wants a man who's trustworthy,

    dependable, good in bed and that listens. unfortunately, the law only allows one husband :(
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 18 Responses Oct 30, 2015

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 41-45, F 20 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 41-45, F 66 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    RedMaster19 RedMaster19 51-55, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I cry most nights and take my antidepressants

    at night just so i can fall asleep. Why does he hate me so much but still here. I think he's here for the kids and not me. He won't say that. But I need a man's perspective because I'm a real idiot for leading with my heart. You can't help who you love. But I think he hates me...
    rosiebonilla rosiebonilla 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 21

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    DRTD DRTD 56-60, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Come home late tonight.

    .. Stand in front of him.. No hug.. No kiss... *sigh*
    deleted deleted 26-30 36 Responses Jun 17, 2015

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    Dear husband You have the world at your feet.

    U are so self centred u can't see 2 feet ahead of u. Someday ur gonna miss all the times I asked for a kiss and u didn't give me one Someday ur gonna miss me asking for a foot massage after a 12 hour set up day and u didn't bother with me Someday ur gonna miss having me...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 41-45, F 27 Responses Nov 5, 2015

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    pdm01215 pdm01215 26-30, M Jan 30

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    Honest, normal, sincere,

    and stand up people are truly hard to find these days.... Especially here... So ladies... And for the guys too, if you find that here as we paddle our way through our lonely marriages- consider yourself lucky!
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 17 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 21

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    I hate feeling so unbelievably lonely

    when I'm married!! I hate not having someone to sit up with, chat to, laugh with & be intimate with. Someone who knows when I need some attention, when I need to offload & talk about my day. I hate answering by saying "I'm fine" when really I'm not! But being treated like a...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 18 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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    It seems like a lot of people are in the same

    scenario. I hope I can make a couple friends on here.
    AnonymouslyHopeful AnonymouslyHopeful 31-35, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    To all my "teammates"

    that are living in a lonely marriage... May this new year bring some positive changes your way... I understand reasons why people stay and I try hard not to look at it others and say "how do you do it"? (When it comes to staying for the reasons they stay)... Every...
    journey6812 journey6812 36-40, F 23 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    I haven't been married

    for a long time but I feel alone even when he's here. He doesn't understand my struggle with addiction and thinks that just because I crave it that means I'll use. When he's here he's on the Playstation and nothing else. I know he loves me but dang, sitting on my tail watching...
    justme081 justme081 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 25

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    Morning sex after kids is like Mission:

    Impossible so *any* opportunity the presents itself is jumped on (pun intended). This morning I made two attempts at a quickie while the kids were adequately occupied. OH was asleep at the time, so I tried waking him up with kisses down his back. I was met with an elbow to my...
    Kettei Kettei 31-35, F 26 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    As I sit alone again today

    as my husband is busy helping other people, I wonder why I am so unhappy... Crazy thing is when I ask him for something or to go out and do some with me or for me answer is always a big fat NO.. I just hate my life!!
    Thatsodd35 Thatsodd35 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 23

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    I woke up sick. But it was my baby niece's

    birthday so with a pounding head and I got m three kids up, fed, dressed and off to her two birthday parties. I took them to the first one at the skating rink then to the second one at her grandparents house. My te time we made it home my youngest was sick too. Finally my...
    dzse dzse 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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