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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 105 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I miss the romance and the passion we used to

    have. I want someone that is going to take me by my hand and make wild passionate love to me. I love the idea of being outdoors but he really doesn't. I don't like the same dull routine. On another note, I'm not sure if it's their for us anymore. He's always on his phone...
    Countrylovin68 Countrylovin68 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 13

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    Feeling extremely alone my husband has

    abandoned me in more ways then one. He won't sleep in bed with me he's not there for me emotionally . We have had marriage counseling . He has not followed through on any advice that she has given . I feel there is no hope . He doesn't want to separate or divorce . I have two...
    itsme29 itsme29 26-30, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 19 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I'm starting to wonder

    if he realizes how lucky he is... probably not.
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 10 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Yep, must be nice out again.

    ... 10:00... I've barely seen my husband. I guess I have to figure out how to handle yet another spring/summer of this.
    dewkissedrose dewkissedrose 36-40, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    No responses needed..

    .just wanted to post this... I feel like I care for and nurture everyone close to me, but when I need it there is no nurturing in return. Just a hug I don't have to ask for or an I love you that I don't have to say 1st...it would take so little, but even when I ball up my...
    LifelongTomboy LifelongTomboy 41-45, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I am married to a red hair stunning Irish man.

    he's 9 yrs my senior and was blessed with a beautiful daughter. He has 5 kids prior to our marriage and I had one from my ex. So in total we have 7 kids. But only 2 lives with us. I just recently started working night shifts as I work full time mom day time and hubby takes over...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses a week ago

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    I married my best friend,

    someone I knew for 15 years now. After 6 years of marriage, we are fast realising that this is not going to work out. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for months and the loneliness and helplessness is really getting to me. A part of me says it's time to let go and be free...
    pirng pirng 31-35, F 9 Responses Apr 26

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    I wore a dress today

    for the first time in forever and the first time wearing it out, not just to church . (when I went to that.) He didn't say anything except that I picked a perfect windy day to wear one. V_V sigh. I had shorts and a shirt on underneath it. It was a little discouraging. . .he was...
    BabyDoll23p BabyDoll23p 22-25, F 14 Responses 3 days ago

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    However, lamenting my circumstances does me no

    good. I want to enjoy life and experience friendship. I enjoy conversing about ideas and experiences, making intellectual and emotional connections. For some reason, I have had trouble making those connections. I fear I'm doomed to live a life of solitude and missed...
    ImperfectHuman ImperfectHuman 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 24

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 29 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    This morning I wake up

    and he is beside me sleeping away. He only rolls over for a brief moment to tell me he was up till 5 am. And that he expects me to try and keep the kids quiet. I think not, we are currently having a dance party.
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 25

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 45 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    My dear husband informed me

    that on Christmas Eve the bar is having a Christmas party and he is going and I can tag along if I like!!! merry freaking Christmas to me!! Fu-king A-- hole
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I miss you. I need you.

    I want you. Please come back to me.
    Troutflies Troutflies 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    My hubby managed to ruin

    yet another holiday for me with his negativity and no tree or presents I bought the kids Christmas presents and all he does is complain and gripe about the money spent and that I'm a hoarder Kids need gifts I'm sorry his parents were too busy fighting each other to buy their...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 36 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    I wake up every morning crying.

    I am having trouble accepting that my marriage is sexless. I don't believe in divorce or infidelity. So I know I have to find acceptance. It's just so hard. We never touch, cuddle, there's 2 feet between us every night in bed. I can not even talk about this with him unless I...
    lmd333 lmd333 31-35, F 24 Responses Jan 22

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 57 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    I don't know what to think anymore.

    I feel like I'm just around to be the maid. No conversation. It seems like a competition more so than a marriage. I keep trying to make it work. This is my second marriage. I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant. All he does is play the game from sun up to sun down. I watch television. I...
    LonelyandLoyal LonelyandLoyal 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 26

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 272 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    Anymore things just don't seem right,

    the fluid emotions and attractions that i once had have faded away. Routines have set in and i just don't even know if its worth trying or leaving for that matter. I'm afraid to leave her because she leans on me for everything that goes wrong, I'm her Stability, and with her is...
    TimeTwistedSoul TimeTwistedSoul 26-30, M 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    My husband started working opposite shifts from

    me. I see him for about 26 hours a week, which works out to an average of 2-3 hours a day. It's sad.
    butters510 butters510 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 27

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    "It would be too easy to say

    that I feel invisible. Instead, I feel painfully visible and entirely ignored."
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 16 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    My Husband is a wonderful person .

    The best big brother to his Sisters.My fathers favorite Son in Law.The most caring father to his children and he gives me a wonderful home.Every night we say a formal goodnight part ways and walk towards our seperate rooms ...Am i being reckless in asking the universe for more?
    warriormama warriormama 41-45, F 58 Responses Jan 16

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    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Who ever thought that

    when they got married they would eventually find themselves feeling like the loneliest person on earth? I have too much life left in me and too much love to give to continue down this path.
    lonelysmile77 lonelysmile77 36-40 12 Responses Jan 20

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    Just admitted & discussed with my family

    that we're having problems...think I'm going to try therapy on my own since he refuses to go and I'll see what happens...starting to realize how stuck I really am...if I stay, we'll keep fighting or pretending it's all ok...if I leave I'll have a difficult time leaving the state...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Apr 9

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    When did it happen? 15 years of marriage.

    Sounds nice and sounds like an achievement that I should be proud of. Yes I am proud of it and surprised too. How did I pull it along for so long. What makes me tick inside this marriage. It was all fun and exciting and life was like a dream. And then boom, one day I realized...
    livinglifetoday livinglifetoday 36-40, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 24 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Anyone in this forum

    because your spouse is having an emotional affair?
    Mike405 Mike405 51-55, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 46 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I spend most of the time home alone.

    My wife and I work different shifts, so we don't get to spend too much time together. I get up in the morning and she is working. I get ready for work and she is still working. When I get off of work she is home, but asleep. She usually wakes up 2 hours before I go to bed...
    happilymarriedguy happilymarriedguy 51-55, M 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    So sometimes I like to show off my naked body

    and see if anyone else would me...
    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 19 Responses Apr 27

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    my husband likes to drink on the weekends

    leaving me to feel alone and less than his drinking. we've discussed his excessive drinking but it seems he doesn't care or truly realize how it really effects me.
    r3dclover r3dclover 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just want to be held

    and cared for.....
    Papuflower Papuflower 18-21, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    It's one of those lonely nights again.

    As I sit here having a one sided conversation with my husband, I'm getting very little response in return. Then I wonder why I constantly crave communication from someone else. Someone who is 1,000 miles away but always makes me feel special.
    Macy21 Macy21 36-40, F 29 Responses Mar 29

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    sunnyup sunnyup 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 27

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 3 days ago

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