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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Is it him or is it me?

    Is it the money? Why do I not like myself so much when I'm around him? I feel more as a live in chef and housekeeper than lover. What I hate more is this feeling when I should be enjoying my time with my little girl.
    MegMichelle29 MegMichelle29 26-30, F 24 Responses Aug 3

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    Lord help me not to slap him

    when he wakes up!
    mrstonie mrstonie 46-50, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    The Lingerie!

    The lingerie! This story is all part of my 20th wedding anniversary dinner. We had been growing apart, and intimacy of any sort seemed a thing of the past.I separated this part out as it has merits as a story unto itself. In preparation for our 20th wedding anniversary, I was...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M 39 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    I'm having the hardest time in my marriage.

    ... I'm been cheated on more than once and i'm trying to move past it but he still doesn't show me the love I need. I still feel like i'm not a priority... I feel like I did this to myself because I was stupid enough to think love was enough.. I moved my life twice for this man...
    mixedfeelings2014 mixedfeelings2014 26-30, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 41 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 256 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    My husband and I have been together

    for 21 years. He is a great man and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I would be lost without him. But our life seems to be at a stand still. The excitement is gone. I miss the passion, the communication, the adventure we used to have. Those days are long gone...
    UGonnaKissMeOrNot UGonnaKissMeOrNot 31-35, F 33 Responses Apr 14

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    Would love to meet a new friend i can chat with

    it would be nice to talk to someone interested in me not what i can do for them.
    monty71 monty71 41-45, M Jul 31

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    my husband harry is on a stadium tour with his

    band mates and i miss him :((
    queentheresa queentheresa 13-15, F 7 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 29 Responses Aug 11

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 78 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    Yes, married for 31 yrs.

    and I'm more alone with him here! This is an awful feeling...,
    Faith2008 Faith2008 46-50, F 26 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    My husband never loved me.

    He always listen to his sister, he always obey his sister, his sister wants us to separate. His sister said were not a family coz we dont have kids. He always made me feel so alone. Always shouts at me. He's mean to me everyday. He always leave me anywhere he wants too. He...
    yodatheching yodatheching 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 31

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    Lonely , sad , confused

    and even bitter . My husband took a new job in another state . His job is the most important thing to him. I wish he had that type loyalty and passion for us, out family , our kids . At one time, he was gone across country training for six months . We live In Nv. He is I'm Ca...
    aloneinvegas aloneinvegas 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    I swear there are times these days

    when I can't even remember why I married my husband. I can barely recapture that feeling of being in love and having him as the center of my universe. I know it was there for a long, long time... I vaguely remember wanting no one but him and him feeling the same about me, and...
    pinkpussycat4u pinkpussycat4u 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 3

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    I am married but I often feel lonely in the

    marriage. I feel really misunderstood and emotionally rejected often. The emotional void pushes me further and further away to the point where I don't even try to get emotional relief from him anymore because I know he just is unavailable in the way that I need. In addition...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 32 Responses Jul 1

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    So I've been trying to spend more time with my

    wife and talk to her and be nice and engaging. I've made dinner most evenings, watched reality TV with her (which she knows that I hate). Last night I did all of the household cleaning that she asked me to, watched 2 hours of reality TV and made her dinner. Off to bed, and...
    Iltcp Iltcp 41-45, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Update:We are back home from our beach weekend!

    Things went very well! Last night was a lot of fun. We enjoyed great food, music, and a wonderful time all night and all day today. He was very complimentary last night and today.It has been very pleasant between us and he confirmed that he definitely is still going to marriage...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 6

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 44 Responses Mar 16

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    I am married and my marriage is ending (posted

    a big long back story about my marriage) and currently I live about a good twelve hour drive from my nearest family member besides my daughter who's five My husbands pushed all my friends away so they really don't want to hang around and I understand I really do I just want...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 16 Responses Aug 6

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    In my younger years I was everyones friend

    or at least it seemed that way . Then when I owned a business I couldn't go out without running into someone I knew. Then I had a stroke and a a series (3) of heart attacks,I had to retire and sell my business. Any and all "friends" disappeared. I have wonderful adult children...
    Irishdaddy5 Irishdaddy5 56-60 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 88 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    I can't imagine feeling anymore lonely

    than I do right now. We had a "date" last night. His mom watched our kids. We went out to eat. Not even an hour and we were already home. I begged him to stay and just talk and have a drink with me. He wouldn't. He had to go home... Today he's been in his office all day. I told...
    lonelyhousewife2 lonelyhousewife2 26-30, F 43 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    My wife and I love each other

    but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our son came at only 28 weeks. He is a happy and healthy five year old now, so no worries there (thankfully!). After the birth, I...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am a fifty year old man

    and my wife and I have drifted very far apart. The sad truth is that the responsabilty is mostly mine. I am guilty of ignoring her in every meaningful way for a very long time. I have no excuses or meaningful reasons for why this has happened but is has happened. Recently we had...
    itsnevertoolateforlove itsnevertoolateforlove 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 5

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    Wife and I have a lot of issues with money

    and honesty. In the past she has maxed out credit cards on three separate occasions, basically putting our lives on hold while it's being paid off. Last year I rolled her remaining 17 k into our mortgage which basically wiped out the payments I had been putting in it for the...
    Iltcp Iltcp 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 4

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 42 Responses Feb 12

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 21 Responses Jan 19

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    Twenty-six years. 26.

    I feel like we are just roommates. But, he lives his life and I live his life. Not a typo. I sacrificed a lot to live the way he wanted. And over the years I've slowly lost feelings for him. I've stopped voicing my concerns as they echo back to me unheard. He wants to live this...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 5

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 49 Responses Apr 6

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 26 Responses Feb 13

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 4

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 98 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    My husband only spends time with friends

    and no time with my baby and me. The time he is home, he is working on the computer and does not like to be bothered at all. As soon as a friend calls to do something, he drops everything and runs to go out with them. You should see the excitement and desperation. I do not mind...
    runninggal runninggal 31-35, F 59 Responses Jun 24

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 19 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Lonely or trapped? Victim

    or choice? Married ..not married? This does not simply apply to married people but those who found someone they believed to be their one and only. Marriage in these instances come from a persons complete soul. A place so deep that you open your delicate heart...
    topboy1968 topboy1968 41-45 13 Responses May 9

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    There are days I wish I had a buddy to hook up

    with during the lunch hour. Go back to work as if nothing happened. I hate these bouts of bring miserably unhappy! And I wonder with where I live of there are good looking professionals that wish for the same thing? Small town and everyone knows everything about everyone! I...
    Dreamer359 Dreamer359 31-35, F 14 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    We live together and see each other every day.

    But he does not want to talk to me. He can get on the phone and talk, but he is just not interested in me. Our son died 5 years ago in a terrible car accident and that brought us closer for a while. He is upset because I have gained weight since our son died. So there is no...
    Jacobsmomdec20 Jacobsmomdec20 51-55 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Being alone is scary

    but not as scary as feeling alone in a relationship.
    jjcairo jjcairo 31-35, F 16 Responses a week ago

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    beachdrinks beachdrinks 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 7

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    So excited...if anyone has read my story you

    know my husband and I are like strangers in our home. Wellllllllll yesterday he took me out on a date ...dinner and a movie still not much conversation but hey it was nice and I really felt like he was trying. Then this morning he offered to take me to the park where I typically...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 18 Responses May 4

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer.

    He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our marriage not to have children. I have my work, my family and my friends but I'm lonely. I miss my husband and sometimes I don't even feel like I...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 18 Responses Mar 31

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    I am married and mother of 5 children,

    ages 8-7mths. I am very tired all day. One of my twin boys (33mths old) is severly disabled and I must always be there for him 24hrs. He takes many medications and has therapy. He sees many doctors. I have another daughter who has severe anaphylactic food allergies. I must...
    tran30 tran30 26-30 1 Response Aug 9

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 27 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Do any of you just bury yourself alive in your

    work to avoid feeling the void at home?!
    Dreamer359 Dreamer359 31-35, F 32 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just want someone to share my life with,

    go on adventures, hang with friends and do domestic things! I am in a relationship where I love the person very much but his priorities are hanging out with his friends regularly and late with out me. I know he is not cheating but it still bothers me. We have been together for 5...
    leahtard37 leahtard37 26-30, F 28 Responses Aug 4

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    I go to school and work full time.

    I then have to come home and cook dinner, clean house and do Laundry each day while my wife plays games and watches TV for 10+ hours each day. She gets mad if I even ask for help and then turns around and says I never help her.
    DJones183 DJones183 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 9

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    Thumbelina With A Botox

    Thumbelina with a Botox After 12 years of marriage and 2 kids, Thumbelina woke up to the alarm of her phone. Her prince was snoring right next to her. She gazed at him as she thought, was this her happily ever after? She walked towards her dressing mirror and started checking...
    Coquette1 Coquette1 36-40, F 20 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    And i haven't had sex with my wife in about six

    months and I'm so freaken horny I need to find a fwb in northern Cali . I'm retired so I play video and work on my old truck or my crotch rocket. I have no one to talk to without giving me a bunch of shot.
    jokerstwn jokerstwn 46-50, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Married...That's a very loosely used term to

    describe what I have here! Lol. My grandson whom I love so much has gone home today after spending the past 6 weeks with me. My heart feels even more broken again as I think about him and the rough life he's had. No security, mother who mistreated him terribly, step-mother who...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 6 Responses Jul 31

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 20 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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