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I Am Married But Lonely

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    I am almost in 17 years of my marriage with two

    angle girls. My husband is a nice man but has never been able to touch my feelings. He says there is no problem... I passed a 2years therapy and felt much better myself but our relationship got worse after! I love being with him but he doesn't know how treat a woman. He works...
    Motheroftwoangles Motheroftwoangles 36-40, F 21 Responses Apr 4

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    I AM SO SICK OF THIS.

    Talking about it. Thinking about it. I just want to love my life. I don't want marital problems. I don't want to be always thinking about the man I had an emotional affair with that no longer speaks with me. I am exhausted. I am even frustrated that I needed to look online for...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    I have been married for 20 years now.

    I am the loneliest I have ever been in my life. My marriage started after I found out that my wife was pregnant with my oldest son, when I was on my way to break off our engagement. I decided, I was always told love was a decision, to stay because I did not want my son growing...
    boatingJunkie boatingJunkie 46-50, M 6 Responses Apr 12

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    Been married 18 years.

    My wife and I have no intimacy or much affection any more. Last few years I have felt trapped. She has had multiple affairs and has threatened my life. Years of emotional and physical abuse has left me as a pile of fat and damaged mess. I try to talk to her but she doesn't want...
    budkelly budkelly 41-45, M 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I would love to interact with an interesting

    person of the opposite sex. I enjoy stimulating conversation and the intimate sharing that can come when people trust and respect each other. This is my first foray, and I am skeptical, but I will still put it out there, just in case...
    erednecsa erednecsa 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Don't ask me why I'm crying,

    don't ask me why I'm sad! Just take my hand and hold me tight and I will b so glad!
    Sandyshaw13 Sandyshaw13 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 18

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 24 Responses Feb 13

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    Marriage To Me Was Never Suppost To Include Other People But It Did How Do I Get Past This

    Married since 2010 been with my husband for about 8 years. We have four children together and I am a stay at home mom. I like to think that I'm a good wife I do my best to keep upkeep of our home and bills and children. One day a couple months back he told me he needed a break...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    My husband and I have been together

    for 21 years. He is a great man and I am truly blessed to have him in my life. I would be lost without him. But our life seems to be at a stand still. The excitement is gone. I miss the passion, the communication, the adventure we used to have. Those days are long gone...
    UGonnaKissMeOrNot UGonnaKissMeOrNot 31-35, F 28 Responses 6 days ago

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    My husband is lying right here.

    ..he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings etc make him frustrated. He enjoys working eating and then relaxing by himself. If I bother him he sighs heavily but if I don't talk...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 49 Responses Apr 6

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I am here to connect with others

    that share experiences with me. I do not want horny men messaging me and taking advantage of my marital problems as a way to think I'm needy and vulnerable right now. Please do not message me unless you are seriously interested in supporting each other on a mature, platonic...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 3

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    anyone on here married over 30 years

    and lonely.. can make love but don't really like there spouse or feel connected with them? Nothing in common anymore and feel unloved out of the bedroom? any ideas on how to make a man do what you need them to do? so frustrated... and lonely.
    acountrylady acountrylady 51-55 11 Responses Apr 9

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    It is January 1st, 2014 at about 12:11 a.

    m, my children and I hugged and kissed and wished each other a happy new year. Where is my husband in all of this? In the kitchen on his laptop not speaking to any of us....especially me. We have been married for 4 years but been together for over 8. As I sit in our bed alone...
    Nolongerinterested Nolongerinterested 31-35, F 26 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    If I can break the ice with my husband.

    We seem that we don't talk as much. If I talk I will only get his attention for a minute. He won't start a nice conversation. If he talks he will ask me for something. If I ask what changed him he will come up with a lame excuse of tell me I am crazy. He is not like that with...
    jjcairo jjcairo 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 9

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    Thumbelina With A Botox

    Thumbelina with a Botox After 12 years of marriage and 2 kids, Thumbelina woke up to the alarm of her phone. Her prince was snoring right next to her. She gazed at him as she thought, was this her happily ever after? She walked towards her dressing mirror and started checking...
    Coquette1 Coquette1 36-40, F 20 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I Am Married But Lonely

    As I've now been on this site for a few weeks I've come to realize how we as people are all the same. We all look for attention and affection and have a basic need to feel wanted. How can a person you've shared your life with not see what a total stranger can sense from a few...
    fatherof5 fatherof5 41-45, M 14 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    I am freaking out right now.

    I can't take it anymore. I asked him to seriously leave. I think he finally sees how much pain I am in. But is this really what I want? I have been thinking about this for 3 years now! I asked him to move out back in early December, and that is when he made the supposed 180...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 26 Responses Apr 3

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    We love each other but my interests are not his.

    I just wish I had someone to talk to about creation, evolution, etc. He would rather talk cars and guns...
    Leighway Leighway 31-35, F 13 Responses Apr 8

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    Staying Positive

    So I have a sexless marriage. This year, I had sex with my husband exactly TWICE. And I initiated one of them. Last year, AND the year before that, I begged and begged for sex, lol. Yes I begged, exactly 12 times per year. Because I don't know why.. once a month, I get SOO...
    micchan4u micchan4u 41-45, F 9 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    I have been married for 43 years.

    I met him when I was just 16 and he's the only man I've ever been with. Now I just feel so alone. I have no family, just him. He never, never talks to me. I am desperate for conversation. I cannot talk to him about anything serious or important. I am too old to leave and start...
    ginnie97 ginnie97 61-65, F 36 Responses Mar 16

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    My husband is a high flying corporate lawyer.

    He works long hours and spends a lot of time away from home. I too work in the corporate world and we made the decision early in our marriage not to have children. I have my work, my family and my friends but I'm lonely. I miss my husband and sometimes I don't even feel like I...
    Annelle70 Annelle70 41-45, F 17 Responses Mar 31

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    I can't imagine feeling anymore lonely

    than I do right now. We had a "date" last night. His mom watched our kids. We went out to eat. Not even an hour and we were already home. I begged him to stay and just talk and have a drink with me. He wouldn't. He had to go home... Today he's been in his office all day. I told...
    lonelyhousewife2 lonelyhousewife2 26-30, F 44 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    He Prefers Looking At Other Women

    My husband likes to look at other women online. We have only been married 5 months and hes done it countless times (that I know of) iv spoken to him and told him how it makes me feel and he seems sorry only to do it again. I suggested watching it together but he said no. I feel...
    emilyporb emilyporb 22-25, F 38 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 39 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I have never felt more alone in my life!

    I have a wonderful five year old who keeps me so busy but I have no one to share my hopes, dreams, feelings with, no one to make me feel special nothing and it's the worst feeling ever! I am married but we don't talk, we're not intimate ever and it's like we're room mates, I...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 19 Responses Jan 19

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    I am almost to nine years of marriage

    and 19 years in my relationship with my wife. We have two beautiful and amazing children together (ages 4 and 2). My wife recently expressed her desire to be separated. She said that she has been unhappy for a long time and that we don't connect emotionally anymore (which I take...
    Allboutmykids Allboutmykids 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 3

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    I feel like we are more roommates

    than husband and wife :(
    iDntCurr iDntCurr 22-25, F 41 Responses Feb 12

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    The worst thing in life is not to end up all

    alone, the worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.
    mylife2002 mylife2002 36-40, F 16 Responses Jan 25

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 251 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    i could have writen this story several times

    maybe i did where to begin thers a lot of back ground and history but my wife acts a talks very violently divorce is to expensive it will cost more then i earn here the law is totally for the woman unless proven crazy somthing i dont realy want to get into that kind of war...
    sirpercival sirpercival 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I have more than 120 characters to ask this

    question. How do you know if your sig.other uses his/her mental illness/learning disability as a crutch-excuse-learned helplessness OR if it's real? I am trying to work in my marriage am not enable my husbands behavior. But his anxiety gets in the way so much. He worries...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Well, more like an extended engagement -

    for two reasons, saving money for marriage, and his seemingly disinterest in planning for it. We've been together for 10 years (he ignored anniversary which was a few days ago). In fact he ignores everything, birthdays, valentines, anything that requires effort (?). Everything...
    irritatednutbar irritatednutbar 36-40 7 Responses Mar 31

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    Is it possible to have someone to talk to

    that's not your wife without it being an affair? I want someone to talk about any subject without freaking out.
    october004 october004 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 5

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    So tomorrow I fly home from being gone 4 weeks

    for work. Thought my wife was gonna meet me n pick me up at the airport...nope she just texted me saying my father will cause she is gonna be too tired cause she has a long day at work tomorrow. Yeah she probably does...just bummed she's not gonna be the one there to welcome...
    fixitnfly fixitnfly 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 10

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    The last 8 months, I have been separated from

    my husband. He left the house and lives at the station he's an EMT at. It really doesn't bother me he's gone, I just hate the feeling of being lonely. My bed is empty. My heart is wanting to be loved. I expressed this to him, but he doesn't ever want to talk. He left for no...
    OneWayHisWay OneWayHisWay 36-40, F 31 Responses Mar 20

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    dont know who talk to,

    feeling very sad and lonely, i aready sleep sadness had wake me up fill with tears and emotion....happyness doenst know me, they didnt came to me... i always need to face with tears and a sad life.....
    sadmarrage sadmarrage 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I would give anything right

    now to have a wife that wanted me
    fixitnfly fixitnfly 31-35, M 7 Responses Apr 2

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 58 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Yup I am.............

    ......... I need some intimacy................. Help me....................... Please......,.,,,.,.,,,,,?
    ugho ugho 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 9

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    I Want A Playmate

    I want a playmate. Someone whose company I really enjoy, and we can go to dinner, the movies, a walk, work out together, play games, go the beach, take a vacation...oh I don't know....and so many more things to do together. I'm tired of going everywhere alone. I've heard it say...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 40 Responses Oct 2, 2012

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    I lost my job 3 years ago

    and went back to school to change my career. During the process my husband said he was lonely, but I didn't know what that meant. I found out he needed more of me, and because I wasn't there for him he had a 2 year affair that has now destroyed our family.
    lonligirl lonligirl 41-45 5 Responses Apr 4

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    Marriage is work. But it shouldn't be draining

    and exhausting. Everyday I expect to be there emotionally for my children and my job ( I am a psychotherapist) but I cannot keep doing this with my husband. It's a catch 22. He gets agitated and defensive whenever I bring up any concerns it issues. If I hold it it, I end up...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 18 Responses Apr 2

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    Can Compassion Be Taught?

    I can be sad and crying and my husband doesn't acknowledge my feelings. This is not a personal thing because he can not be emotional with anyone and is a good hearted person. Maybe he has mild Aspergers? We have an otherwise good marriage. I told him that I felt really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    I have been married 1 year

    and 1 month. However my husband has left me 4 times just in the first year every single time an argument has taken place, bills are overdo, his feelings get hurt etc & he takes off which I'm devastated!!! He also is suppose to be a preacher which hurts me even more because he...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 12 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 86 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 19 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Yes, married for 31 yrs.

    and I'm more alone with him here! This is an awful feeling...,
    Faith2008 Faith2008 46-50, F 27 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    The Lingerie!

    The lingerie! This story is all part of my 20th wedding anniversary dinner. We had been growing apart, and intimacy of any sort seemed a thing of the past.I separated this part out as it has merits as a story unto itself. In preparation for our 20th wedding anniversary, I was...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M 39 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 19 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Married for 32 yrs. to a good man-

    but since we have been working together for 5 yrs. it is way too much time together and this has been very hard. I am very critical of him and we do not do as much together anymore. I have become unhappy and he does not understand nor does he care too much. Our marriage could be...
    irenei irenei 56-60, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    I'm married but lonely.

    I have no friends, no one I can trust. There's something's I don't want to tell my husband but I have no one else to talk to. The next person I could talk to is mom, but I don't need her to worry. Lately I've been wanting to cry about everything, but I just don't want to talk to...
    2O5E4 2O5E4 22-25, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Dixiechic66 Dixiechic66 46-50, F 19 Responses Feb 1

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 98 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I wrote recently about the problems my husband

    was having in coming to terms with my rather creamy bowel movements. Thanks to everyone who responded and offered their help and guidance. Your comments have been taken to heart and we are finally working out our issues. The reason for writing now is that a new problem has...
    JennyFilth JennyFilth 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I have been married for 19 years

    and have two kids. My husband has totally detached himself from me in the last few years. It all started when he meet this group of friends. He loves to be with them, drinking and partying . I tried to keep up but couldn't. I had to take care of kids and the house too so I just...
    MonaLeesa MonaLeesa 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 7

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