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I Am Married But Lonely

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    Married 26 years, but I feel

    so alone. I sleep in one room while she sleeps on the sofa.. And seems happy to do so. No "I love you", never a hug, kiss, a gentle touch. I go to bed at night and cry... I thought things were supposed to get better as we got older. I'm sort of lost. No companionship, my heart...
    ejdevildog ejdevildog 51-55, M 13 Responses Dec 5

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    41 male from near London would like to chat to

    any married women also from the UK
    Philip624 Philip624 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    I love my husband, but sometimes I feel like

    the small dog who is circling around, jumping at the big dog saying "HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! HEY! LOOK AT ME! HEY!" I'm exhausted. I just want his attention. :( Why am I not good enough?
    isoanything isoanything 36-40, F 57 Responses Nov 17

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    So, I've been trying to get the wife to go see

    Christmas lights with me and the kids for the last couple weeks. She's declined every time I ask her. It then her friendcalls wanuts her to see the Christmas light boat parade, and off she goes,with one of the kids.....oh and by the way, no guys allowed. I also took the day...
    WtfAmIHearing WtfAmIHearing 41-45, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    animalbuck animalbuck 26-30, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Marriage = Loneliness = Divorce?

     He is a great man, kind, easy going, funny, intelligent but I do not respect him, I am not in love him nor do I want be intimate with him. We haven't been together intimately since Aug 19/2008. It was his birthday and well, I felt guilty. And prior to that, we had sex maybe...
    wickedties wickedties 41-45, F 77 Responses Jan 12, 2010

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    I think my husband is a cheater.

    He spends all his free time away from home. When I confront him about it, he gets overly angry. I wish I could just catch him in the act!! Then I could easily leave him. I should not be this lonely and starved for attention and be married!! In plain English I said to him...
    kekelt kekelt 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Isn't it ironic that the only person

    who can make you really happy in the same person who makes you sad and lonely.
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 15 Responses Aug 26

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    Once again I sit alone on Friday night.

    It really wouldn't matter if he were here, I would still be alone.
    lonelyone80 lonelyone80 31-35, F 29 Responses Jul 26

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    Any women in the Toronto Canada area

    who want to talk about their situations pls message me.
    Elcoman115 Elcoman115 51-55, M Dec 5

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    Tell me about it ,...

    ,............
    geronimooo geronimooo 36-40, M 6 hrs ago

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    Hi. Would you say that being on ep pushed you

    further away from your spouse? Why? Why not? Thank you!
    BonneNouvelle BonneNouvelle 41-45, F 30 Responses Dec 8

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    Time Wasted

    I married way too young, at the age of 19. I was an insecure, scared child at the time, and all I knew was that I loved this fun-loving guy and I was comfortable and safe with him. So when he proposed, I said yes, even though I knew I wasn't ready. I didn't want to hurt him, and...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 90 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    of course i'm lonely!

    I come second to video games!That's why i'm on ep:(
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 51 Responses Nov 8

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    I'm married but lonely.

    It's complicated. I hate looking across the room at a man I feel nothing with anymore. I love him as a man that has always been there for me and taking me place I would have never dreamed of going. He's a great father. He would make a great husband for someone else just not for...
    dsuzy dsuzy 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Wisdom Of Oscar Wilde

    He sums up my marital situation perfectly. "A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude, without providing you with company."
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Hi, this is my first experience in any kind of

    "chat" or "talk forum", not sure what to call it. I have been married 26 years. I have know him since I was 11 years old. We were actually divorced, then we remarried, lol. We were quite young in our marriage I suppose. Thing is, I am just a much more "intimate" person than he...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 19

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    I do not feel wanted

    or enjoy being around my wife anymore it actually feels like hell some days but she will not get a divorce
    anton88 anton88 26-30, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I consider myself a strong independent woman,

    but tonight is hard. Not for any reason out of the ordinary. Maybe it's because he is away tonight. Maybe it's because I just made myself a drink. Maybe it's because it the holidays. Maybe it's because I know my life is about to get very difficult once the divorce process starts...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 20 Responses Dec 6

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    My loneliness is usually like a cloud hovering

    over me. But today it is solid. I can almost touch it.
    BonneNouvelle BonneNouvelle 41-45, F 14 Responses Dec 6

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    I am here for any women

    that need a friend
    openmarried openmarried 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    Should There Be Something Special ?

    I don't ask for too much from what can be offered. My marriage is purely a facade of few simple beautiful things. But inside, there is always the hunger for true companioship between married couples. I long for a good conversation. Something that would add up to spice an endowing...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 55 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    "I've got the feeling the feelings gone,

    my heart has gone to sleep, one of these mornings I'll be gone, my heart belongs to me.....can we believe in fairy tales, can love survive when all else fails....."
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 27 Responses Nov 14

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    I am married, lonely

    and drunk....anybody wanna make out....
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 43 Responses 6 days ago

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    Often I am the bad guy.

    .. Because I am the enforcer. I don't cave to the children's demands when they whine. I don't tell them that they have to finish their dinner if they want dessert and then give them dessert anyway. I only give them things when they say "I want..." I only accept polite...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    It comes out of nowhere.

    Ive been feeling strong and rebuilding myself since August. But today I'm down. Angry at my wife for the continued behaviors, tired of being treated like sh$t, trapped in a loveless, affectionless marriage. I am so angry at her for who she has become and how much capacity she...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 6 Responses Dec 5

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    I swear there are times these days

    when I can't even remember why I married my husband. I can barely recapture that feeling of being in love and having him as the center of my universe. I know it was there for a long, long time... I vaguely remember wanting no one but him and him feeling the same about me, and...
    pinkpussycat4u pinkpussycat4u 51-55, F 19 Responses Aug 3

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    Why Oh Why...

    Here I am lying in bed writing this and another night by myself. where's my husband? He's asleep in a single bed with our 9 year old daughter. It started a few months ago and our daughter asked my husband (h) and her father to sleep in her bed with her. That was on a friday...
    UnhappySmiles UnhappySmiles 36-40, F 41 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I am done how much can a human being take

    when is enough when do you say I've had enough and once you said that what do you do?
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 27 Responses Dec 5

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    Got Glue?

    Sex is the lubricant that eases the wear and tear of daily life.  It's the glue that binds a couple emotionally.  
    1OHD 1OHD 51-55, M 22 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Considering Divorce. I just need someone to

    care. I just want him to want to be with me. I want the fairytale. Even if it was just for a night.
    WantNeedMore WantNeedMore 26-30, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    So, my wife is a drunk.

    She is on a week long bender. She's been to rehab, we see how effectual that was. I've fought with her, hid her keys because she will drive drunk to get more, I park in the way so she cant leave, she runs into my truck, disabke her car, she walks to the store, called the cops on...
    Luchs Luchs 41-45, M 71 Responses Dec 7

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carecc13 carecc13 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I slept on the couch last night

    because I could not sleep and I needed some time to myself. This morning he pouted and left with out a word. I don't know how to make it work or even if I want to.
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 29 Responses Aug 11

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    My Wife Shows No Affection

    I am a 39 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and fairly good looking.  I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not.  I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact.  I don't understand why she's so...
    raptor660 raptor660 36-40, M 263 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I've been married 24 yrs this year.

    During this time, I totally devoted my life to being a loyal wife and a good mother. Now that my baby is 17, we finally have time for us. But we have nothing in common. Being total opposites has helped us in the past. We kind of leveled each other out. Now, it's working against...
    wantingattentionbad wantingattentionbad 46-50, F 23 Responses Jun 25

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    kerencc12 kerencc12 26-30, F 11 mins ago

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    I am married and lonely,

    but probably not for the reasons you'd think. My wife has DID and OCD. Not real sure why or where it came from except in the last couple years, they've made their presence known. She is affected by these which take a toll on her and takes a toll on me too. I know if she...
    WtfAmIHearing WtfAmIHearing 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 9

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    "It's raining, it's pouring.

    ...my love life is boring me to tears, after all these years"
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 16 Responses Nov 7

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    i live in spain, but i am in canada

    for few weeks now drinking a beer, feeling lonely anybody wanna chat?
    nuki212 nuki212 36-40, M 6 days ago

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    I wasn't married but felt it.

    My bf and I lived together. Things started going wrong... He left me 3 days ago and brought pizza. Over pizza he was staring me on the floor crying, sobbing. He is a selfish man, eight years older than me and then decided oh btw I don't want kids.... Deep down I wasn't happy. I...
    honeybee86 honeybee86 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 8

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    I am so lonely, I try

    so hard to talk to my husband but he doesn't want to communicate anymore because we can't do it without arguing. He wants to pray before and after saying anything to each other which I don't mind, but this morning I just wanted to small talk with him and he basically ignored me...
    love2hrd love2hrd 26-30, F 49 Responses Nov 14

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    I Asked For A Hug

    This morning, the need to be held was so overwhelming, I didn't think I could bear it. I kept looking at my husband, wondering if I should ask for a hug. There is no physical contact between us for years, and it does my self esteem no good, when I have to ask my own husband to...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 102 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    A new survey has revealed

    that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The study, conducted by online dating site www.agemeet.com, collected data from 53,233 users with the results being quite...
    Juliecc11 Juliecc11 26-30, F Dec 1

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    Is anyone else married to a narcissist

    and who is also a drug addict.....I need a friend who gets this......help..lol.
    candyone candyone 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 7

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    Good day! ....skiving today.

    Anyone care to help me waste some time?
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Have you ever felt like every single thing u do

    is wrong....it's always your fault no matter how hard u try?
    Wonderwoman25 Wonderwoman25 36-40, F 84 Responses Dec 1

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    I live in this marriage knowing my husband has

    cheated on me. That he has no interest in me and I can live with that. I am staying because of my kids and it will be over soon as my youngest is 17. I never nag or moan About taking care of the house the kids the dogs and him cooking every night when I get home from work...
    Jofree Jofree 41-45, F 27 Responses Feb 13

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    I want something totally different.

    I know many days he does as well. Yet there are these tiny strings of love that bind us. I have no sexual desire. Just these little strings of love that hold on.I feel selfish butI want to be playful again. And optimistic. And silly. 
    sunny3875 sunny3875 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 4

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    I go to bed alone every night.

    I know he doesn't get tired at the same time as I do, but even on weekends I go to sleep alone.
    thevioletblue thevioletblue 22-25, F 10 Responses Dec 7

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    me and my wife both work,

    I work 4 nights Thurs - sun, my wife can work up to 6 days. when she works on a sat or Sunday she automatically thinks I will take care of the kids while I've just done an 8 hour shift. when I say something about it. she just tells me to deal with it almost. between Thurs...
    stonecold31625 stonecold31625 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 10

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    I married a bipolar man,

    I feel so lonely and depressive now. I was so happy before and I'm not stronger woman that I used to be!
    LatinWoman1 LatinWoman1 31-35, F 15 Responses