I Am Married But Separated

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    Push Me Off the Cliff Already!

    I’ve been separated since November 2008 after a year of marriage counseling, which I didn’t take as seriously as I should have, what I thought was a bump in the road was a fricken crater, and I jumped into it.  I am on/off with her, I don’t...
    RecycledDaily RecycledDaily
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Mar 11, 2009

    Looks like he wants a divorce.

    The drinking got really bad after we moved down by his family he wasn't spending any time with the kids and I was working 12 hour shifts, while teenagers (his nieces) raised my kids, finally it was to much when he decided to be driving drunk with the kids in the car. I left with...
    oversimplification oversimplification
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

    Been separated of over a year.

    Thought we were making small progress recently. Then found out my DH got his 2nd DUI. We own a home together and am worried that with all the lawyer and court fees he won't be able to keep up with his half of the mortgage payment. Want to put a plan in place to mitigate any...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2014

    So my wife has had an apartment

    for three months now. She has stayed at my house for 80 percent of the time. I really love her and want to work things out. We have not been intimate since last August. When she stays at my home we sleep in the same bed. Last week I asked her if she was feeling better about us...
    Cnfsddad Cnfsddad
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2015


    Why do I stay with a spouse who confesses to an affair and then recants it saying he just said it cause I was acccusing him of fooling around with a co-worker ? All this happened one month after my mom passes away. He thinks I shouldn't be hurt because he made it up. Whether...
    lizzy63 lizzy63
    51-55, F
    Jul 30, 2013

    We have been separated

    for 2 months now and i have had 2 in-depth conversations with him and we have both decided that its time to file our paperwork. One thing I am thankful for is that both of us are being mature about the whole thing and are being civil to each other. Most likely we will be able to...
    zooloothe1st zooloothe1st
    26-30, F
    Mar 1, 2014

    I've screwed up so bad.

    My wife said we are never getting back together again. After 26 years and she and I both realize I was just in it for the sex. I never really cherished her the way she needed it. It's ugly, but it is the truth. I'm a horrible person. We may never get divorced but I will forever...
    Monty0809 Monty0809
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Oct 9, 2015

    After years of being married

    and while my wife wasn't, I am finally free! For the first time in a long while, I can say I'm happy! I think that is why she is so upset now and that makes me even happier! :-)
    Matte201422 Matte201422
    41-45, M
    May 8, 2014

    Any Advice?

    I am married, but seperated for 16 months. It ended once my husband became very abusive. I wish I could get the courage to move on. I am attractive and have a great job. I am a kind person. I just don't know how to take that first step. Even though my ex had various affairs...
    2 Responses Jan 16, 2013

    Trying to be strong. My life isn't what I

    thought it would be. I was with him for five years, lived together for four and a few months after the marriage my "rock" wanted out. I never doubted him and his love before. I fought for him only to hear him say he wasnt happy didnt want to live with me anymore he wanted a...
    wall1384 wall1384
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 17, 2014

    Married for almost 8 years,

    moved out on New Years. Was unhappy for a while, I wanted to leave. Now here I am, hurt and alone. He was a giant jerk, controlling and verbally abusive so I wanted to get away for long time. Went through some very bad fights. I made mistakes and he did too. We agreed that we...
    Taaaaaahny Taaaaaahny
    36-40, F
    Feb 3, 2015

    I have been separated

    for 6 months now. I left my husband on January 15th. Making that decision tore me up. After 2 months (yes it took me that long) I realized that indeed I had done the right thing. I was sitting looking back at our 6 years of marriage and realized that all he had done was talk...
    zooloothe1st zooloothe1st
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2014

    My emotions are all over the page.

    . First thanksgiving I have been alone. The H has our son since I work all weekend. I'm trying to focus on myself and what will make me happy.. Which is actually so hard. He's been denying how bad we have been.. He's been pleading his case everyday until I finally told him last...
    kathryn30 kathryn30
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 28, 2014
    jjass12 jjass12
    70+, M
    Jan 12, 2014

    I am married with 4 kids.

    Recently, I found out my husband had an indiscretion. He swears that it did not get to the point if the sleeping together. I'm confused and do not know what to do. I've been with him since I was a teenager. I love my husband, but I want to beat the crap out of both of them...
    whathappened77 whathappened77
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 22, 2014

    Married for 9 years, with 2 kids.

    My husband moved out a year ago when I found out he was cheating on me, someone told me but he has never once admitted it. I have no idea where he lives. He will not a sign separation agreement and will not say he wants a divorce. This is making it hard for me to do it all on my...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 26, 2014

    I am married and started having casual sex with

    another man. Being away from my husband for the last 6 months due to his work has been hard in more ways than one. I have met with someone that i met thru another social app on 3 different occasions. The passion and sexual satisfaction that I get from this man is indescribable...
    Happinessmeans Happinessmeans
    31-35, F
    Dec 26, 2013

    All I want is a straight up answer from him.

    Talked to him last night, he said he loves me and is wanting to come home. I feel like he is playing with my head!! Just wish he'd figure out what he truly wants. I know it sounds like I'm a doormat waiting, and in a sense I am. I am feeling good on my own most of the time until...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    Jan 31, 2014

    The more I try to hate her the more I want her.

    I hate it and it's driving me crazy!
    Cnfsddad Cnfsddad
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 28, 2014

    So I have a big problem.

    My wife and I are recently separated but still living together out of necessity as we have 4 kids living off my income. She is already seeing other people and often spends the night at her boyfriends house when it's "my turn" to stay with the kids. This happened so fast that I...
    Brian0714 Brian0714
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2014

    I am handling the separation

    as if it were a roller coaster - I have moments of ups, downs and all around. Coping has not been easy, yet so far I am still breathing. I say that communication between is remains closed, I feel my opinion counts for nothing. At this point I am moving on, as reluctant as I...
    LifeIsWonderful86 LifeIsWonderful86
    26-30, F
    Jun 10, 2014

    Been hanging out with my stbxh

    and kids every Saturday for the last couple months and we are having soooo much fun together, just like old times but almost better. We are going through a divorce and it was pretty bad in the beginning, so strange that we are now getting along so well. He is living with someone...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 20, 2015

    Married 23 years. Been apart

    for two months as of tomorrow. I was guilty of infidelity. A few times. If I could go back in time and undo everything I certainly would. She doesn't seem to want me back. I can't blame her but I hate hearing that I'm still THE love of her life but that's not enough. We have 4...
    Spark812 Spark812
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 1, 2015

    My wife and I have been separated

    for a few weeks now. It's not something I really wanted but here we are. We have 4 young kids and I never thought this could happen. I've come to realize that she has been ready for this for some time. We have been together for 18 years and got married young. We both didn't have...
    Brian0714 Brian0714
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 7, 2014

    August of 2014, will be 16 months

    since he walked out the door. Never leaving me with our boys to raise alone. Some ppl think I'm crazy for saying this, but I'm actually glad he did leave. Because of him walking out on us, I have grown attached closer to my boys. There's a stronger mother/son bond. The respect...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jul 12, 2014

    Hey so I am married (9 years)

    and been separated for a year now. Doesn't look like he is coming back, have no idea where he lives and assume it's with a girl he works with. Anyway, my question is this, since we are still married how do I file my taxes, married but separate? Also I have the kids and live in...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2014

    How do you deal with a man

    that doesn't want to see his kids? Makes no room for them in his life? My kids ask me if he's dead 😢 they see him when I call and remind him to, so about once every six weeks. What is normal during a separation? (We have been apart for 1.5yrs)
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    Jul 11, 2014

    Been separated for over a year,

    my husband lives with someone else but was over the other day, tells me he loves me over and over, refers to me as his wife, kisses me for 20 mins, cries, says he's not happy, that their relationship is not what I think and then leaves to go back to her, wtf?!
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jun 29, 2014

    How It Started And How It Ended So Far..

    October 28th, 2007. A young teen aged 18 years was excited for working for the first time in his life at a YMCA community gym located in the never-stopping town of Elizabeth, New Jersey. That day changed his life, he was on duty, standing and watching the TV in the fitness area...
    forceforgood forceforgood
    18-21, M
    Mar 31, 2010


    Hi I'm Stuart I have been seperated for my wife now for 1 month,she says she loves me because im the father of our children 15 & 8? but she feels empty inside, i have had depression for some time & feel she did not know how to handle it,which made me feel like she did not care,i...
    stuboy1905 stuboy1905
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 1, 2012

    We have been together

    for 4 years, married a little over 1 year and am extremely upset and confused. One year ago I was on top of the world, I had everything I could have dreamed of, a wonderful husband, great kids ( 3 his, 1 mine, none together) and had just started nursing school. I was in heaven...
    LostandConfused01 LostandConfused01
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 10, 2014

    So it's really nice outside

    and I was so happy to get off work and go home to my family and I thought I can't wait to see my husband. Go out to dinner, and I caught myself in the thought, realized he doesn't come home anymore. Funny.😏
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 13, 2014

    I just talked to my husband.

    . He talked about how he and my son put up the Christmas tree and all of our decorations.. He's doing all of the house projects that have been slacked on.. And talked about how they have gone to see the city lights and now to a waterpark.. All things I've begged to do in the...
    kathryn30 kathryn30
    31-35, F
    14 Responses Nov 29, 2014

    Any stories of long separations

    where your spouse returned? Did u stay together after their return or did you marriage end anyway? Would love to hear your story!
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2014

    Confused And Needs Help

    I just dont know what to do anymore. I have been in this on again off again relationship for years now.We were living together, but about a year ago after a very heated arguement i ended up moving out. Me and my two kids moved in with my mother. For the first three months i would...
    lostandconfused34 lostandconfused34
    5 Responses Dec 10, 2012

    I am not sure if I still love my husband

    or if I still get with him bc that means he is cheating on her too. :| Probably both; Love dies hard.
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2014

    It's seems like my desires

    for sex and kissing are getting stronger. I am starting to have dreams about it more and more frequently. I used to watch **** but stopped doing that over a month ago because it really did not do anything for me. I keep thinking I wii reconcile with my wife but nothing would...
    Monty0809 Monty0809
    56-60, M
    Feb 8, 2015

    It is INCREDIBLY painful to lose some

    who was the love if ur life but once you realize u are truly better off without them..AMAZING!!!
    Guavajelly Guavajelly
    36-40, F
    Jun 14, 2014

    Breaking Point Is Here!

    I have been married for 15 years to my high school sweetheart and if I wasn't so freakin' afraid I could admit ,out loud, that it is slowing coming to an end. We are 2 very different people and we have both changed as much as we can for the other. If I change anymore I will lose...
    Seibella Seibella
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2013

    I really want to have a divorce

    but cant afford one right now. I have been separated for 9 months. so ya whats up ya'll
    colorpurple33 colorpurple33
    36-40, F
    Oct 17, 2014

    Trying to Protect Myself

    I am Married but seperated. It is scary and lonley. I feel like a flounder in a tank of sharks. Afraid I will make mistakes I will regret. But..I need validation from the male sex that I still got it!
    Peaches11 Peaches11
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2007
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