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I Am Married But Seperated

Living seperate lives 118 People

    Any Advice?

    I am married, but seperated for 16 months. It ended once my husband became very abusive. I wish I could get the courage to move on. I am attractive and have a great job. I am a kind person. I just don't know how to take that first step. Even though my ex had various affairs...
    2 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    How It Started And How It Ended So Far..

    October 28th, 2007. A young teen aged 18 years was excited for working for the first time in his life at a YMCA community gym located in the never-stopping town of Elizabeth, New Jersey. That day changed his life, he was on duty, standing and watching the TV in the fitness area...
    forceforgood forceforgood 18-21, M Mar 31, 2010

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    Trying to Protect Myself

    I am Married but seperated. It is scary and lonley. I feel like a flounder in a tank of sharks. Afraid I will make mistakes I will regret. But..I need validation from the male sex that I still got it!
    Peaches11 Peaches11 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2007

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    Looks like he wants a divorce.

    The drinking got really bad after we moved down by his family he wasn't spending any time with the kids and I was working 12 hour shifts, while teenagers (his nieces) raised my kids, finally it was to much when he decided to be driving drunk with the kids in the car. I left with...
    oversimplification oversimplification 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    Push Me Off the Cliff Already!

    I’ve been separated since November 2008 after a year of marriage counseling, which I didn’t take as seriously as I should have, what I thought was a bump in the road was a fricken crater, and I jumped into it.  I am on/off with her, I don’t...
    RecycledDaily RecycledDaily 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    Breaking Point Is Here!

    I have been married for 15 years to my high school sweetheart and if I wasn't so freakin' afraid I could admit ,out loud, that it is slowing coming to an end. We are 2 very different people and we have both changed as much as we can for the other. If I change anymore I will lose...
    Seibella Seibella 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    I am married with 4 kids.

    Recently, I found out my husband had an indiscretion. He swears that it did not get to the point if the sleeping together. I'm confused and do not know what to do. I've been with him since I was a teenager. I love my husband, but I want to beat the crap out of both of them...
    whathappened77 whathappened77 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    I am handling the separation

    as if it were a roller coaster - I have moments of ups, downs and all around. Coping has not been easy, yet so far I am still breathing. I say that communication between is remains closed, I feel my opinion counts for nothing. At this point I am moving on, as reluctant as I...
    LigeGaveMeLemons86 LigeGaveMeLemons86 26-30, F Jun 10

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    All I want is a straight up answer from him.

    Talked to him last night, he said he loves me and is wanting to come home. I feel like he is playing with my head!! Just wish he'd figure out what he truly wants. I know it sounds like I'm a doormat waiting, and in a sense I am. I am feeling good on my own most of the time until...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Confused And Needs Help

    I just dont know what to do anymore. I have been in this on again off again relationship for years now.We were living together, but about a year ago after a very heated arguement i ended up moving out. Me and my two kids moved in with my mother. For the first three months i would...
    lostandconfused34 lostandconfused34 22-25 5 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    I have been separated

    for 6 months now. I left my husband on January 15th. Making that decision tore me up. After 2 months (yes it took me that long) I realized that indeed I had done the right thing. I was sitting looking back at our 6 years of marriage and realized that all he had done was talk...
    zooloothe1st zooloothe1st 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    I am married and started having casual sex with

    another man. Being away from my husband for the last 6 months due to his work has been hard in more ways than one. I have met with someone that i met thru another social app on 3 different occasions. The passion and sexual satisfaction that I get from this man is indescribable...
    Happinessmeans Happinessmeans 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    Married for 9 years, with 2 kids.

    My husband moved out a year ago when I found out he was cheating on me, someone told me but he has never once admitted it. I have no idea where he lives. He will not a sign separation agreement and will not say he wants a divorce. This is making it hard for me to do it all on my...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Seperated

    Hi I'm Stuart I have been seperated for my wife now for 1 month,she says she loves me because im the father of our children 15 & 8? but she feels empty inside, i have had depression for some time & feel she did not know how to handle it,which made me feel like she did not care,i...
    stuboy1905 stuboy1905 41-45, M 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Trying to be strong. My life isn't what I

    thought it would be. I was with him for five years, lived together for four and a few months after the marriage my "rock" wanted out. I never doubted him and his love before. I fought for him only to hear him say he wasnt happy didnt want to live with me anymore he wanted a...
    wall1384 wall1384 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I'm An Addicted Fool.

    the following may not have happened, but i'm pretty sure it did. Angela, as you were called then you were perfect. In the moment my diseased brain as it is/was made me reject the fruition of my destiny. Not the first time. Anyway, I know my reaction to reality gave you the...
    jehova jehova 22-25, M Jul 26, 2013

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    We have been together

    for 4 years, married a little over 1 year and am extremely upset and confused. One year ago I was on top of the world, I had everything I could have dreamed of, a wonderful husband, great kids ( 3 his, 1 mine, none together) and had just started nursing school. I was in heaven...
    LostandConfused01 LostandConfused01 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    So it's really nice outside

    and I was so happy to get off work and go home to my family and I thought I can't wait to see my husband. Go out to dinner, and I caught myself in the thought, realized he doesn't come home anymore. Funny.😏
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    Is It Over

    I've been married for 24 years, we have 2 kids 18 and 16. We had a good marriage until a few years ago my health started to deteriorate, at this point our relationship seemed to go under a change. I feel we are living separate lives, I don't seem to be able to talk to him anymore...
    Jules64 Jules64 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Been separated of over a year.

    Thought we were making small progress recently. Then found out my DH got his 2nd DUI. We own a home together and am worried that with all the lawyer and court fees he won't be able to keep up with his half of the mortgage payment. Want to put a plan in place to mitigate any...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I am not sure if I still love my husband

    or if I still get with him bc that means he is cheating on her too. :| Probably both; Love dies hard.
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    It is INCREDIBLY painful to lose some

    who was the love if ur life but once you realize u are truly better off without them..AMAZING!!!
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F Jun 14

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    We have been separated

    for 2 months now and i have had 2 in-depth conversations with him and we have both decided that its time to file our paperwork. One thing I am thankful for is that both of us are being mature about the whole thing and are being civil to each other. Most likely we will be able to...
    zooloothe1st zooloothe1st 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    mstud17 mstud17 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 10

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    Hey so I am married (9 years)

    and been separated for a year now. Doesn't look like he is coming back, have no idea where he lives and assume it's with a girl he works with. Anyway, my question is this, since we are still married how do I file my taxes, married but separate? Also I have the kids and live in...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    jjass12 jjass12 66-70, M Jan 12

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    Any stories of long separations

    where your spouse returned? Did u stay together after their return or did you marriage end anyway? Would love to hear your story!
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Devestated

    Why do I stay with a spouse who confesses to an affair and then recants it saying he just said it cause I was acccusing him of fooling around with a co-worker ? All this happened one month after my mom passes away. He thinks I shouldn't be hurt because he made it up. Whether...
    lizzy63 lizzy63 46-50, F Jul 30, 2013

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    Six Months Waiting

      I didn't expect my marriage to be so short, I didn't expect that I would find a problem that would be unsurpassable. I knew that the economy sucked, which would of course be also our most major problem. I even admitted to my husband if we could just outlive...
    Dormantdrakon Dormantdrakon 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 12, 2009

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    How do you deal with a man

    that doesn't want to see his kids? Makes no room for them in his life? My kids ask me if he's dead 😢 they see him when I call and remind him to, so about once every six weeks. What is normal during a separation? (We have been apart for 1.5yrs)
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F Jul 11

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    Been separated for over a year,

    my husband lives with someone else but was over the other day, tells me he loves me over and over, refers to me as his wife, kisses me for 20 mins, cries, says he's not happy, that their relationship is not what I think and then leaves to go back to her, wtf?!
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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