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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    I've read through so many posts

    and none seem familiar so I'm starting a new one. Married 3 yrs. Wife says she loves me. Wont kiss me on the lips, cant hug, wont sleep in the same bed. At times can really be hateful but I attribute that to perimenopause, I hope. But Im at the end of my rope. I ferl worse than...
    whendoestwoequalone whendoestwoequalone 56-60, M 6 Responses Jan 3

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    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 37 Responses Oct 22, 2015

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    "If you like Pina Coladas,

    and getting caught in the rain If you're not into yoga, if you have half a brain If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape I'm the love that you've looked for, write to me, and escape"
    dejectedindallas dejectedindallas 46-50, M 4 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    My marriage confuses me.

    We are great parents, we work hard, we do for our kids. At the end of the day, when it comes to being intimate, we are worlds apart. It has become work for me, when I need something that comes so much more naturally.
    mancation1 mancation1 36-40, M 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    It would be nice to talk to others

    who are undergoing similar circumstances.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I wish there was somewhere i could go

    when i just need to be held and feel as if i was 100%of the focus of the person embracing me. They are there just for me. To comfort me or encourage me or make me feel like i matter. Just positive, safe, protective warm arms holding me. I realized last year that haven't felt an...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Why do I stay, when I feel this way?

    ! Why do I hold the importance of my faith and my commitment higher than I hold myself? Is this how it is supposed to be? I have been struggling in my marriage for a decade...how much longer will I continue to do this to myself? What is my problem? Why am I so afraid? I am in...
    mysteriousmarie27 mysteriousmarie27 41-45, F 17 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    When I first was introduced to my wife we had a

    whirlwind romance. She was exciting, and chill. I fell in love with her quickly. Mostly because I wanted to, but I also knew that her and I would be great together for the long term. At that time she was very passionate which is something that is important to me. After a while...
    wjwtac78 wjwtac78 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 19

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 27 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    My partner and I have been together

    for 15 years and I love her very much. I am 10 years younger than her, but she has a great personality,  looks really tops and I adore her. She is pretty much my perfect woman, (maybe a little too feisty being a Taurus ) but the sort of woman who I dreamed of.  I always tell...
    juggdrainer juggdrainer 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

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    Wow..... Rejection is a f**ker!

    ! I thought I was so used to it now & that I stopped caring.....apparently not!
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 25 Responses Jun 30, 2015

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    I guess we're not legally married

    but have been together for 12 years and have a 5 year old. He's an great dad and a nice guy for the most part. I noticed over a year ago that it was only me who initiated any sort of intimacy. I suddenly stopped and I don't think he even noticed. I stopped asking him about his...
    Bee71 Bee71 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 11

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    Hi friends, I'm new here.

    I'm so called married and have been seperated for 15 yrs..I'm just trying to get out. it's been very hard and stressful cuz I'm dealing with a psychotic *******.
    Joanne6767 Joanne6767 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 11

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    It's sad that I don't

    even think of my spouse when I'm craving intimacy.. I do miss the connection but the spark is gone. I'm not going to cheat but my eyes wander all the time. I long for that relationship where u can't keep your hands off each other (sober). I'm not a bad person, I just want...
    deleted deleted 26-30 33 Responses Jan 20

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    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    I am married lonley and crave intimacy .

    I don't know where it went.
    gcmartin2 gcmartin2 51-55, M 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Monsieur, if a wife's nature loathes

    that of the man she is wedded to, marriage must be slavery. Against slavery all right thinkers revolt, and though torture be the price of resistance, torture must be dared: though the only road to freedom lie through the gates of death
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 10 Responses Nov 17, 2015

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    I was just browsing and reading some of the

    posts and came to this title of experience..and its a perfect description of my predicament right now. At my age, i often say to myself that I shouldnt think of this stuff anymore and just divert my focus to other things,but my body is telling me otherwise... Im a romantic and...
    glenden74 glenden74 41-45, F 11 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    When a woman thinks her husband is a fool,

    her marriage is over. They may part in one year or ten they may live together until death. But if she thinks he is a fool, she will not love him again. Philippa Gregory, The Other Queen (The Tudor Court, #7)
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 10 Responses Oct 31, 2015

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    Someday, I will wake up

    and be someone's type. Be wanted by that someone....
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 25 Responses Aug 15, 2015

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    So last night after he gets off late

    for his shift. He texts me to tell me to be ready I wait and wait. He finally shows Im livid. Im tired and cranky. I get in the car and we head to the store. We needed a few things. As Im about to get out he hands me a card and a nice box of chocolates. He was late because he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 14, 2015

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    It has been made clear to me

    that until our home looks close to those in the pages of Better Homes and Gardens, I am not worthy of affection! What the hell!?!? My life makes his possible! I work full-time, wait on him, take care of him when he's sick, even leaving work to do so sometimes! I keep 3 kids...
    DeterminedMed DeterminedMed 31-35, F 27 Responses Nov 8, 2015

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    I awake in the wee hours of this morning.

    There's a chill in the air, in our bedroom, so I sink deeper under our down comforter, and nestle lovingly against your warm body. Wrapping an arm around your waist, my fingers graze the elastic of your boxer shorts...and I feel you jerk and pull away from me, almost in disgust...
    badassgirrrrrl badassgirrrrrl 41-45, F 28 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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    My wife and I never loved each other,

    we met way back when she was young and smoking hot (she still is) and I was a young stud, thats all there was to it back then, we had a daughter and as we raised her the years clicked by and three more kids came along, we tried for years to love each other for the kids sake but...
    sunsetblue sunsetblue 46-50, M 7 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    No intimacy for nine months now

    because she 'doesn't feel any attraction' to me (for one or more of a half dozen reasons she's given). This means I live in a Bizarro world where ... ... she can slap me on the rear and make comments like "ooo la la" about the positive results of my working out a lot the last...
    drjacksonii drjacksonii 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 4, 2015

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    Hubby was gone all weekend with our oldest

    for a tournament. While gone, he said he missed me. When he returned home, again, he told me that he missed me & beckoned me to the bedroom. I thought I was going to get lucky! Apparently not. He needed a massage & wanted some oral. What did I get in return? He rested his...
    DeterminedMed DeterminedMed 31-35, F 31 Responses Oct 25, 2015

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    When two people are under the influence of the

    most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950 Irish writer.
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 21, 2015

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    I'm a wedding videographer

    and I've filmed a lot of weddings.Being in a troubled marriage I used to be very envious of my clients but after years and years I've come to realize there is no reason to be jealous of these people because they are going to be in the same boat as me in a few years.Now I just...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 20 Responses May 21, 2015

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    Nothing like the warmth of a man.

    That electric feeling when he touches you. Knowing he needs and wants you just as much as you need him. You feel safe and happy. I need this.....
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 22 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    After marriage, a woman's sight becomes

    so keen that she can see right through her husband without looking at him, and a man's so dull that he can look right through his wife without seeing her.
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    Amnik Amnik 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 22

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    Some days are so much harder

    than others... Some days I don't think about being lonely other days it kills me... Some days I'm grateful for my marriage other days I resent it..... Some days I get lost in routine other days I want to get in the car & drive to nowhere... Some days I love be surrounded by...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 9 Responses Jun 29, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kerenccaa kerenccaa 26-30, F Dec 15, 2015

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    You have to laugh:-) I have slept nude

    for years, my wife doesn't know, we sleep in the same bed. LMAO!!!!
    chilango04 chilango04 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 9, 2015

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    I'm married and although things are affectionate

    and there's little drama there's almost no intimacy. I wish I knew how to make things better.
    nickthegeek nickthegeek 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 2

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    I travel back in time,

    falling back into what I know for certain, the historical data I cling to in order to not go mad, not assume I made a suicidal and well-informed error in marrying this man-
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 11 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    All the above are true (married,

    lonely, and crave intimacy), but the intensity with which I feel the emotional aspects of loneliness and intimacy seem to vary quite a bit. There are times where I feel so lonely that every part of me just aches. I don't want to eat, get out of bed, go to work, or do anything...
    jhayek jhayek 46-50, M 5 Responses Feb 1

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    3am... I awake, to the sounds of your light

    snoring, in our pitch black bedroom... your body perfectly molded into the contours of mine as you lay, snuggled close behind me... I immediately ache for a deeper connection... one that reinforces our 18 year marriage... that, without words, reminds me that at 45 I am still as...
    badassgirrrrrl badassgirrrrrl 41-45, F 33 Responses Nov 8, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    emilyccaa emilyccaa 26-30, F Dec 8, 2015

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    Respect yourself enough to walk away from

    anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or make you happy.
    lobosluv lobosluv 41-45, F 18 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    Ugh! I dread tomorrow.

    Valentine's day. I will pretend to love my husband for my children. I have such a difficult time now pretending like I am happy and I care. I can do it in front of our kids but why do I have to do it for him? I've been in this marriage without any emotional intimacy and support...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 11 Responses Feb 13, 2015

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    My husband is going on a business trip

    for 3 days so I prepared his stuff, iron his clothes, etc. I used the cleaner luggage we have but kinda small since he is the one traveling and I don't cause am no longer allowed to travel because am pregnant. When am done he didn't say anything or say thank you or whatever but...
    miserablemarried miserablemarried 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 8, 2015

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    I woke up very early this morning.

    ..or so I thought .. let me explain... I got woken up by you running your hand down my hip and thigh...and you proceeded to waken me further by caressing my body..teasing..touching ..kissing nipping ..s*cking...arousing me to the point of no return.. only to wake up and find...
    Powerof1 Powerof1 51-55, M 1 Response Nov 18, 2015

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    I sleep most days of the week in a different

    bedroom from my wife... Even nights where I try to sleep in the same bed with her, ends in me just waiting for her to fall asleep and then I go to another room.
    anomaly29 anomaly29 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 10

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    I am just tired of being lonely.

    Just because someone is in the same house / space as you, does not offer any comfort. A peck on the cheek, is not substantial. I want to be held, have conversations that are not ego centric. I want you to be an actual partner, help when you see me doing dishes, don't just...
    Amysplus Amysplus 41-45, F 9 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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