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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    Not so much lonely for company

    as lonely for intimacy. My wife likes having me at home as much as possible, but she has little interest in being phsycial with me. She has an autoimmune disorder so she is sick much of the time and not really in a good mood to talk, touch, or do anything. I admit that I am a...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 8

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    If You Only Knew

    After being married to the same person for almost 36 years I thought I knew my husband. Turns out everything I thought about my husband was all wrong. All these years I really thought he loved me and now I really believe that he never really loved me. With each day that passes...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 15 Responses Jul 25, 2011

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    Wanting to put this in the sexless marriage

    cause that's where this started. But seeing as to how he actually had sex with me I'm not gonna. The only reason we did? For his birthday, but he waited till a few days after. So I don't know. I am at the point of ***** given are coming close to none. The nightmares of loosing...
    tristaspuella tristaspuella 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 22

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    I'm amazed that I can be surrounded by people

    all day and still be so lonely. I've been married less than 5 years and crave a true connection. We have sex less than once a year, and it's killing me! I'm a Scorpio. I need sex and intimacy. Our courtship was based on lies and fraud, but I can't get divorced. It goes against...
    Shelby2511 Shelby2511 41-45, F 16 Responses Sep 26

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    Anyone else up late tonight (1:44am) not able

    to sleep after being turned down yet again? It's even worse when it was promised earlier this evening, and then denied once in bed ... again. . This is getting really, really old. Somethings got to give.
    Calif42 Calif42 46-50, M 8 Responses Nov 23

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    My husband works out of town most of the week

    and sometimes through the weekend. I did the math and he is home 12 days a month and 6 of those days I work, so we just have the evenings. It's better than nothing but I am incredibly lonely. Lately when he is home, he is distracted and distant. He is only...
    lena81 lena81 31-35 7 Responses Dec 6

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    Maybe I'm just having a pity party

    but slowly I'm learning that feelings are real and cannot just be swept under a rug. Maybe I just need to vent and afterwards I'll feel better so here goes. I'm usually a positive person and can always find the bright side of any situation but the past few days I guess this...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots 36-40, M 11 Responses Nov 10

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    The need for a companion has been overwhelming

    at times. I have started to open myself to accepting things as they are, I am ready to find that filling my needs will occur outside of marriage, both mental and physical. I will be opening myself up to having an online internet relationship, finding women to communicate with...
    ronniepaulmichigan ronniepaulmichigan 51-55, M 3 Responses Oct 4

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    I'm very lonely in my marriage.

    However, recently I met someone at work and I love going there to see her....yeah it's a woman and she's a lesbian openly and I'm so attracted to her. She's amazing...
    Shia35 Shia35 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2

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    Light From A Dark Place

    Pretty cool and completely unexpected thing happened tonight… I looked at my wife and was captivated by her beauty, all over again. It had been a long while since I looked at her that way. I had target fixation. I couldn’t turn away. I haven't seen her in that light for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    Recently, we agreed to divorce

    after the holidays. In my mind, we have been separated for months. Separate lives. Separate bedrooms. Separate priorities. I am thinking about my life ahead as a single mom. How in the world does one start to date after a divorce? I feel that I "settled" for my husband. I even...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 16 Responses Dec 4

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    My husband doesn't talk to me.

    We don't go on dates. We don't have sex. He snores so loudly that we hardly even sleep together. And he literally sleeps so far away from me that I can't even touch him. We have 3 kids, ages 9, 13, and 16. I seriously fantasize about dating someone else and having romance again...
    Tejaschick Tejaschick 46-50, F 9 Responses Jun 18

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    Being lonely and wanting intimacy have got to

    be some of the worst feelings ever. It's not even about sex, I can get sex, I can initiate it, and I'll even enjoy it to a point, but I don't feel connected. There are so many things that I just don't share anymore. It's like I'm not important...me, the part on the inside. I...
    Xroads1017 Xroads1017 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 1

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    Yes I do. I have been married

    for 9 yrs and seem to have lost that should have been there. I crave intimacy and don't know if I am going to get it.
    sweetgal42 sweetgal42 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 1

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    I just want to be wanted again.

    I'm in a loveless marriage with a controlling husband and just can't get the courage to leave.
    Roseahome Roseahome 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 15

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    My husband is a joke.

    All he does is play video games every evening. I guess I'm no better all I do is watch tv. I'm so miserable. But I can't leave we have a baby together and I don't want him to grow up and be like his father.
    Shia35 Shia35 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 33 Responses Mar 21

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    I came home from work today in a good mood,

    which doesn't happen much recently. I wanted to go out for a coffee just my wife and I and maybe have a good talk. You know, communicate like in a good healthy relationship (which we don't have). I should have known better. She had to go watch our daughter at a cheer...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 11 Responses Nov 6

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    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 18

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    Any women in the Toronto Canada area

    who want to talk about their situation pls message me.
    Elcoman115 Elcoman115 51-55, M Dec 5

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    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 49 Responses May 24

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    Sleeping in bed by myself gets very very lonely.

    I just miss having some one next to me and holding each other. Some one to kiss good night, some one to cuddle with on cold mornings, some one who actually wants me laying beside them and likes these same things. I really miss simple things, like waking up first with his back...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 24 Responses Nov 19

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    whitneycc11 whitneycc11 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    I am an American Male 56 year old

    now Married to a Mexican woman now over 11 years. We live in a house she owns in Mexico. She says showing Love and be Affectionate it a problem for her and her sisters and brother due to their up bringing. Her mother raised 10 children and I can maybe see where it may have been...
    karma58 karma58 56-60, M 4 Responses Dec 5

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    I want to feel alive in the arms of a woman.

    Someone that cares about who I really am and not just what I can provide for her.
    mwessley mwessley 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Want to hear something pathetic?

    I'm sitting in the chair getting my hair cut and I realized how much I missed a woman touching me. Not sexual, but sensual. The way she brushed my hair with her fingertips, her arms brushing my face. Leaning over me smelling so nice.  Catching her look at me in the mirror with...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 9 Responses Oct 11

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost 20 years. We spend our time at home in separate rooms. I get very lonely and feel like I'm living with someone I don't know. There is no kissin hugging or affection we barely talk. The only affection is if he wants sex which is now once a month. I reached out to hug...
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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    Dinner Date

    We don't go out much any more, mostly due to finances, but sometimes its nice... Last night was totally worth it, too! It was the usual, crowded room, her going on about herself, loud music... But then I saw you across the room. I noticed you first, your face glowing in the...
    2feetApart 2feetApart 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    Another frustrating night

    but I'm not gonna whine about it ... Time for a different approach
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 24

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    Even though we've been together

    for 8 years, he forgot about our 1 year marriage anniversary. ;( 9/16/13
    vanessamoomoo vanessamoomoo 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    So I have recently developed a little interest

    in a new neighbour who has moved into the street recently. I see him daily as out kids go to the same school. He made a point of standing about a foot away from me the other day when there was plenty of other space around for him. I talked to him briefly. I so want him! Lol. But...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 28

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    tristaspuella tristaspuella 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    Together Yet Alone

    Sitting in the silence, the years brought absence.Loves grown distant and cold. Two ships that pass in the night, one no longer aware of the other. As something misplaced, but no longer sought, who would had known, who would had thought. This love dies a lonely death, where lies...
    Waymor Waymor 46-50, M 6 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I've tried so hard to make my relationship work

    over 6 years.. My husband makes my cry every other day. Don't think he means to we have just become horrible to each other. I can't even sleep next to him anymore. Lately I've been feeling so lonely, is that crazy? I've been having day dreams about other guys and the kind of...
    js82 js82 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 27

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    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M Nov 6

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    To ME, A woman is NEVER sexier

    than when she is standing in the room, in her underwear, or part of it, with her wet hair, getting dressed for the day..... There is just something about the beauty of a woman who is NOT trying to look sensuous, and might just be feeling the exact opposite... but as i have...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 15

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    Commando!!!! Yes..

    . thats me tonight. And I'm headed out to the garage/shop to work on a few things as I am. I hope that I don't get too cold!!!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    33 yr old and never thought it would come to

    this I just need that butterflies feeling again
    kikthegoodguy11 kikthegoodguy11 31-35, M 6 Responses Nov 30

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    Why Won't he Let Me Go?

    We're in therapy and I'm irritated because I've been saying the same thing for years and he's been promising to fix things for years. Why can't he just admit it's over and let me go? How much longer do I have to wait? Why do I have to fight him for this?
    yrjkng yrjkng 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 28

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    Where did the man I married go?

    We fight almost constantly. He says he has no need for affection or attention from me and I'm being needy because my needs for those thing are still there. He had become so cold and distant.
    MLH205 MLH205 41-45, F 13 Responses Oct 13

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    Over

    I'm over bein married it's over rated it really is I am drained emotionally physically and mentally I am in a marriage where I am the only adult and the only one fighting for marriage!!
    mommaof3boys1girl mommaof3boys1girl 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    My husbands been gone

    for four months now. My son keeps me occupied but I'm emotionally deprived. I hate being alone. I know no one in this military hell hole. My husband won't talk to me cause he has other things to do like drink and party. While I'm home with our son 24/7. I miss that touch, a man...
    vanessamoomoo vanessamoomoo 22-25, F 10 Responses Sep 18

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    I'm a good person in most aspects of my life,

    but I've not been a good wife, but my husband thankfully does not know this. I don't want to stop the affair I'm having but want to understand why I need to do it??? My husband works offshore, home a month then away a month, he's extremely tired when he comes home and all I want...
    goodgirldoingbad goodgirldoingbad 36-40, F 40 Responses Aug 5

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    My husband has had sex twice with me in this

    month. Before that we had a dry spell of two months. I can see him already heading down the path of forgotten intimacy leaving me hanging in the dark cloud of lonely worries. He offers no comfort to my fears, no places to rest my crying head. He was trying for a while and all...
    tristaspuella tristaspuella 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 22

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    I Understand Now, But Struggling To Accept

    The very condensed version - I was happily married and had a romantic intimate relationship with my husband. We were the world to each other. He died suddenly. I was so alone. I dated, but still felt very alone. I did finally accept that no one would ever replace the love I had...
    baystar baystar 46-50, F 2 Responses May 19, 2013

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    Any suggestions for how to get a pregnant wife

    more interested in fooling around? She isn't feeling it lately. I would love to hear from ladies that have been through this.
    KinkFukr88 KinkFukr88 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 13

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    I am married but since she found my FB page she

    sent me to therapy. Months of talking only confirmed I was a woman Inside and should become her now. I have always wanted a loving tender sexual relationship as a woman with a man. To feel a woman
    Lyndaloves1957 Lyndaloves1957 56-60, T 3 Responses Nov 5

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