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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    Hollow

    I hate the feeling of being alone, really hate it sometimes. It seems like getting married should have guaranteed you'd have one person in your life, by your side, no matter what. I hate how hollow it makes me feel, the empty look in his eyes, the blank stare, the robotic way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 3, 2012

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    I crave to hold and kiss my wife,

    for the first time since being married, I am actively looking for the opportunity to have an affair . I do not condone an affair, but I really want someone to hold, kiss, and have sex with. The sex I get at home, but the intimacy of the act is what I really desire.
    Dowright Dowright 46-50, M 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Light From A Dark Place

    Pretty cool and completely unexpected thing happened tonight… I looked at my wife and was captivated by her beauty, all over again. It had been a long while since I looked at her that way. I had target fixation. I couldn’t turn away. I haven't seen her in that light for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 27 Responses Mar 21

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    Why

    Every day i start my day happy and positive while inside im lonely yet nobody knows, or would believe it. I have spent years covering it up with work, material things etc. Ive been married now for 12 years to a wonderful wife who loves me yet our needs are so different. We have...
    liverpoolnut liverpoolnut 41-45, M 8 Responses May 9, 2013

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    The first night I met her,

    I was doing the Wobble at a small bar and she was behind me. She said to her friend to check out my *** and I glanced back smiling. She then said, "Oh my, he heard me" and covered her mouth in such a cute way. Friend me 4 rest because dumb thing is blocking me and I didn't even...
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 28

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    I am trying to discover

    if I am indeed lonely or it is just me who expects too much from my relationship. I have a beautiful 3yo son and a partner who seem to put me - talk, cuddles, intimacy, last priority. I feel sad and frustrated....
    nuduude nuduude 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 28

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    When Will It Be Enough?

    I admit. I am guilty. I am guilty of withholding sex in order to "punish" my husband when he doesn't do what I want. I am guilty of being the one who will ask for him to hold my hand, only to drop it when he rolls his eyes. But I am I am tired of this. I am tired of...
    TryAnStopMe TryAnStopMe 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    The Conversation

    Finally. A real honest to goodness conversation. One in which neither of them loses their temper and they both say what they want to say. She tells him about the pain of the rejection and why now she feels their intimacy degenerated into something she could no longer tolerate...
    backtovanessabet backtovanessabet 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Rescue Me!

    I can't live without affection and attention for one more minute! A physical affair is out of the question, but maybe having an emotional connection again can fill this emptiness I feel. It's like a crushing weight that I can't push off. I have been with my husband for nearly 20...
    saphirah saphirah 41-45, F 11 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Is it possible to still be lonely

    even though I have a boyfriend and a husband but neither seem to have time for me which seems crazy cause I'm the one with two jobs and taking care of a four and two year old but I always feel like they could care less if I was ever around them
    Jessmesspen Jessmesspen 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Is it really possible?

    ...for a marriage to last with an unfulfilling sex life? I've shared couple of my writings about this. It's not that my husband and I don't have sex because we do, but three to four times a month is just not enough for me. We've been married two years and my mind just couldn't...
    gypsysoul08 gypsysoul08 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    What happens when you ask 20 complete strangers

    to pair up and kiss for the first time? What this link. It is beautiful. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/11/tatia-pileva-first-kiss-strangers_n_4940669.html?icid=maing-grid7|maing7|dl13|sec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D452850
    OutOfPatience OutOfPatience 61-65, M 1 Response Mar 12

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    I Understand Now, But Struggling To Accept

    The very condensed version - I was happily married and had a romantic intimate relationship with my husband. We were the world to each other. He died suddenly. I was so alone. I dated, but still felt very alone. I did finally accept that no one would ever replace the love I had...
    baystar baystar 46-50, F 2 Responses May 19, 2013

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    I am craving attention from my husband

    or any other form of human reaction. I don't get out of the house because I can't drive and he is gone 5 days a week. I sit home 5 of those days and feel like I am withering away. He is seeing a world without me. When he comes home we don't even sleep in the same bed. He comes...
    mrcrackers mrcrackers 36-40 2 Responses Mar 1

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    I Am Married But I Am Always Lonely

    I am in my 30's, married 6 yrs , 2 kids , great job but my life feels empty. I try to consume myself with projects, church, crafts and my kids, but it seems so lonely at times. I dont have any real friends anymore. i crave companionship. i found out my husband was less than...
    121berry 121berry 36-40 5 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    I have been married since I was 19.

    I married the woman of my dreams. We gave been married for almost 18 years. The only issue I have is my insatiable sex drive. She does not deny me sex on purpose. She has lupus and one if the side effects is dry mucous membranes. She does not get excited very often due to this...
    Fixinsickies Fixinsickies 36-40, M 6 Responses Jan 13

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    Being practical, I don't believe a solution

    will be created to solve the feelings of emptiness that I seek to fill. The best possible outcome, is this would be an outlet to rant and rave the thoughts to the internet. While my situation is not much different from those who wrote before, so many factors and conditions exist...
    ronniepaulmichigan ronniepaulmichigan 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 15

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    Try Again Or Walk Away?

    I am not one of these guys who has been cut off from sex; we have sex whenever I initiate it; she used to initiate sex but after turning her down a few times she no longer does. As it is, whenever she does try to snuggle with me I pull away, its almost a reflex now. I no...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I have been married for 21 years,

    the first 20 and 1/2 were awesome, but suddenly she has changed, I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I think she is pre-menopausal, I have been VERY patient and understanding with her, but sometimes she doesn't even want to talk to me, it tears out my heart, but I am a...
    lonelyman46 lonelyman46 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 21, 2013

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    Not so much lonely for company

    as lonely for intimacy. My wife likes having me at home as much as possible, but she has little interest in being phsycial with me. She has an autoimmune disorder so she is sick much of the time and not really in a good mood to talk, touch, or do anything. I admit that I am a...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 8

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    Like Everyday

    This morning I made a pot of coffee and poured your cup as I've done most every morning since we married. Last night I came to bed with you and put aside my interests & things I still needed to do, so you could sleep. You asked all the customary questions; Did you?..lock the...
    Elsiboney Elsiboney 46-50, M 5 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Intimacy = In 2 Me See

    Little bit about me. We got married in 2007 but been together since 2001. We have two kids together, and she has two more kids from other men that I have raised as my own. I work full time, in college working on counseling degree, I run an outreach that works with young adults...
    boss21519 boss21519 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 21 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    Some Days More Than Others

    Today is definately one of those. Even though I've known this for a few years now, it is still hard when I'm reminded that I'm totally alone. At least in my marriage. When I have a bad day the only thing I can count on is him making it worse. It is my fault because we never...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 5, 2013

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    This Is A Classic Example Of "married, Lonely And Craving..."

    My wife is not a monster. She is not evil. But she is terribly messed up and in her world of a huge pile of mentally debilitating s*** she has brought on herself, one of the things that crops up in her life almost every day is paranoia. She's paranoid about me and my kids. Yes...
    deleted deleted 26-30 23 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    I love sex just as much

    as any man. I think a lot of men would agree thy after you get married the sex dries up and it shouldn't be that way.
    quintero86 quintero86 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I think the institution of marriage is very

    outdated and should be changed. Maybe have the option every ten years to renew the contract or just divide assets and go your separate ways. How can two people commit for a lifetime in these changing times when you are such a different person at age 40 vs. 20. Let's be...
    mwessley mwessley 41-45, M 4 Responses Feb 25

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    I am recently married,

    but our intimate moments are few and far between. I love to cuddle and be touched, but can't have sex because of ED. I suppose that I could solve this, but I really am looking for a woman who understands what I am going through.
    2tall4u2014 2tall4u2014 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 15

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    What About My Birthday...?

    Well I've been married almost 2 years now and things have just been getting steadily worse in our marriage, sex, is almost nonexistent. I treat her amazing, have a great career, and am always there for her when she needs me. Lately she just doesn't care and nothing I do is good...
    AZmichael21 AZmichael21 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    I have been married for only seven months

    but we dated for seven years we have always had a hard time communication but generally loved each other but things have changed I feel like I'm alone have no one to talk to and every time we talk we argue I'm nots ire what to do just really confused
    Jessmesspen Jessmesspen 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    So, I speak up and say my thoughts

    and instead he's screaming and I am calm,too frightening, because for the 2nd time I didn't give a **** nor did I care I looked at him and said don't talk to me that way I am not your servant or your kid. I realize I have no more care for him just tolerate him I no longer am...
    Greneyes2148 Greneyes2148 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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    I am so tired of this situation.

    My husband used to treat me so well before we were married, which was less than a year ago. We were rushed to get married so that he could live with me and my children. (Gotta love the South) I told him I only asked if he would REALLY kiss me at least once a day and that I...
    allgirlsdont allgirlsdont 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    Over

    I'm over bein married it's over rated it really is I am drained emotionally physically and mentally I am in a marriage where I am the only adult and the only one fighting for marriage!!
    mommaof3boys1girl mommaof3boys1girl 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Me and my partner havnt had physical intamacy

    in 6 yrs + ...he insists on a hug and kiss ..peck kiss when he comes and goes and thats it and ED isnt the problem I can get it hard if he would let me but he dont ...and it was a sudden stop in sex the first two yrs or so were normal with intense attraction in the beginning and...
    xdanax xdanax 46-50, F 9 Responses Jan 16

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    I have accepted that our marriage was going to

    take the back seat over this past year as my husband tries to heal after the unexpected loss of his mother. I have accepted that my husband will act all pervy and "like" facebook pages that I do not find apporpriate. I have accepted that I am no longer number one in his eyes...
    TryAnStopMe TryAnStopMe 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Friend With Benefits

    I'm a married Canadian man looking for a female friend with benefits ! No drama, no commitments , just a friend for fun and sex ....
    Bhtfun Bhtfun 56-60 1 Response Oct 6, 2013

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    Perfect Endings?

    I wanted a perfect ending, now I've learned, the hard way, that some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing. It's about having to change. Then taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    If You Only Knew

    After being married to the same person for almost 36 years I thought I knew my husband. Turns out everything I thought about my husband was all wrong. All these years I really thought he loved me and now I really believe that he never really loved me. With each day that passes...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 15 Responses Jul 25, 2011

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    I have been married for 27 years

    and want out! I married him because we had sex on our first date and I got pregnant. I was 15 and he was 18. I was too young to know what love was but we were forced to marry. After 27 years and 4 kids, I want out. He is a sweet man, very caring and a great provider but I am not...
    ThatchickAMarie ThatchickAMarie 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    Together Yet Alone

    Sitting in the silence, the years brought absence.Loves grown distant and cold. Two ships that pass in the night, one no longer aware of the other. As something misplaced, but no longer sought, who would had known, who would had thought. This love dies a lonely death, where lies...
    Waymor Waymor 46-50, M 6 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    Do You Remember Having Butterflies?

    Do you remember how you felt when you first met someone that you were overwhelmingly attracted to and they felt the same way? How amazing was it to feel the anticipation butterflies that you get when you find someone that is attracted to you as much as you are to them and when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    Dinner Date

    We don't go out much any more, mostly due to finances, but sometimes its nice... Last night was totally worth it, too! It was the usual, crowded room, her going on about herself, loud music... But then I saw you across the room. I noticed you first, your face glowing in the...
    2feetApart 2feetApart 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    Another night, wide awake ,

    while she goes to bed early, rolls to her side as far from me as possible. Another night, like all the nights for the past 8yrs I crave to hold, touch, kiss. There's no kissing me. I always have to initiate it. Why? Why? Why? I'm 37. Too damn young for this.
    Jblonely1 Jblonely1 36-40, M 11 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I am hoping someone can understand

    and tell me how to deal with this. Now i might sound like being a wuss when i say leaving my wife is not an option as i have 2 beautiful and awesome kids. Divorce is tough on us but more tougher on the kids. But intimacy is important to me and when i cannot get to hold or...
    manchalaladka manchalaladka 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 28

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    Untouchable

    Now I'm at the point where I can't even be in the same room with anymore. I find myself dreaming of a life without him and it excites me. Days spent doing what I want. Days watching movies I want to watch. Days of being lazy without the anxiety of him becoming angry because...
    baabes72 baabes72 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    I want to feel alive in the arms of a woman.

    Someone that cares about who I really am and not just what I can provide for her.
    mwessley mwessley 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 24

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    Need To Be Held By My Wife In Bed

    Well it's Tuesday we get along in all other catagories but our sex life is not to be found.I am needing the comfort of my wife but she is not a sexual person.I don't know what to do.I have talked with her but every 6 to 8 weeks we have sex and then wait for it again.It's not...
    allthefrills allthefrills 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    rahulmahi rahulmahi 22-25, M Mar 29

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    Final Curtain Call

    If u have followed my stories i gave My husband an ultimatum . Either give me some physical release or i will find someone that will. After a 24 hour cold shoulder and (yes) txting. We had another talk. He would not say a word. 2 hours frustrated i crawl into bed with...
    selective82 selective82 46-50, F 8 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I'm married but lonely. I have no friends, no one I can trust. There's something's I don't want to tell my husband but I have no one else to talk to. The next person I could talk...
    2O5E4 2O5E4 22-25, F 7 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I have been married for 20 years now. I am the loneliest I have ever been in my life. My marriage started after I found out that my wife was pregnant with my oldest son, when I was...
    boatingJunkie boatingJunkie 46-50, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    Women age 30 - 45: I have many friends that have all accepted that their wives are no longer interested in intimacy, it's happened to me. They accept it, I can not as I am very...
    lonedogTPA lonedogTPA 46-50, M 9 Responses Mar 26

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    My husband is lying right here...he is so disengaged that he pays 0 attention to what I do. I barely say two words to him because all requests for conversation, intimacy, outings...
    Hedoesnotloveme Hedoesnotloveme 36-40, F 49 Responses Apr 6

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    Yup I am...................... I need some intimacy................. Help me....................... Please......,.,,,.,.,,,,,?
    ugho ugho 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 9

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