I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    Ugh! I dread tomorrow.

    Valentine's day. I will pretend to love my husband for my children. I have such a difficult time now pretending like I am happy and I care. I can do it in front of our kids but why do I have to do it for him? I've been in this marriage without any emotional intimacy and support...
    netherose netherose
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Feb 13, 2015
    DadOfTwoBoys DadOfTwoBoys
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    my husband is gonna start working nights,

    is it bad that I'm happy about it lol
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    20 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    There is NOTHING like being in the same house

    with someone but feeling so alone!! I expect this on a daily basis! Just sayin'!
    angelpumpkin36 angelpumpkin36
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Apr 11, 2016

    My partner and I have been together

    for 15 years and I love her very much. I am 10 years younger than her, but she has a great personality,  looks really tops and I adore her. She is pretty much my perfect woman, (maybe a little too feisty being a Taurus ) but the sort of woman who I dreamed of.  I always tell...
    juggdrainer juggdrainer
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    This desrciption fits fairly well.

    This has been the case for so many years and I am stuck in the situation. The emotional and intimate aspects have been turned off years ago. I miss the touch, the closeness and emotions that used to be. The romance, the fun all that went with it. The simple hug's, kisses...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Feb 6, 2016

    It's sad that I don't

    even think of my spouse when I'm craving intimacy.. I do miss the connection but the spark is gone. I'm not going to cheat but my eyes wander all the time. I long for that relationship where u can't keep your hands off each other (sober). I'm not a bad person, I just want...
    deleted deleted
    25 Responses Jan 20, 2016

    Hi friends, I'm new here.

    I'm so called married and have been seperated for 15 yrs..I'm just trying to get out. it's been very hard and stressful cuz I'm dealing with a psychotic *******.
    Joanne6767 Joanne6767
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2016

    I can relate to aronne ,

    the issues at hand
    biggeeme biggeeme
    66-70, M
    Feb 17, 2016

    I'm a wedding videographer

    and I've filmed a lot of weddings.Being in a troubled marriage I used to be very envious of my clients but after years and years I've come to realize there is no reason to be jealous of these people because they are going to be in the same boat as me in a few years.Now I just...
    howsab howsab
    31-35, F
    16 Responses May 21, 2015

    It's so crazy to share your whole existence

    with someone, a child, a house, finances, families etc but to feel so lonely! It really saddens me that I've committed everything I have to one person but that person won't even hold my hand.....
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    36-40, F
    15 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    I am married one child almost three.

    Our schedules are not the same she works 24 48 and sometimes 72 hr shifts. then when she is off not much relationship there. we haven't fked or made love or shared much time holding each other in the last two years. I need contact I need love I want sex and am old enough to know...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2016
    Amnik Amnik
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    So last night after he gets off late

    for his shift. He texts me to tell me to be ready I wait and wait. He finally shows Im livid. Im tired and cranky. I get in the car and we head to the store. We needed a few things. As Im about to get out he hands me a card and a nice box of chocolates. He was late because he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Feb 14, 2015

    It would be nice to talk to others

    who are undergoing similar circumstances.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2016

    I am married lonley and crave intimacy .

    I don't know where it went.
    deleted deleted
    Jan 11, 2016

    After marriage, a woman's sight becomes

    so keen that she can see right through her husband without looking at him, and a man's so dull that he can look right through his wife without seeing her.
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    I don't have much more to say

    than that. It has been so long.....
    nhman1963 nhman1963
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    Where did the man I married go?

    We fight almost constantly. He says he has no need for affection or attention from me and I'm being needy because my needs for those thing are still there. He had become so cold and distant.
    MLH205 MLH205
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    I guess we're not legally married

    but have been together for 12 years and have a 5 year old. He's an great dad and a nice guy for the most part. I noticed over a year ago that it was only me who initiated any sort of intimacy. I suddenly stopped and I don't think he even noticed. I stopped asking him about his...
    Bee71 Bee71
    46-50, F
    9 Responses Jan 11, 2016
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    31 Responses Oct 22, 2015

    My husband is going on a business trip

    for 3 days so I prepared his stuff, iron his clothes, etc. I used the cleaner luggage we have but kinda small since he is the one traveling and I don't cause am no longer allowed to travel because am pregnant. When am done he didn't say anything or say thank you or whatever but...
    miserablemarried miserablemarried
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    I'm married and although things are affectionate

    and there's little drama there's almost no intimacy. I wish I knew how to make things better.
    nickthegeek nickthegeek
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jan 2, 2016

    When a woman thinks her husband is a fool,

    her marriage is over. They may part in one year or ten they may live together until death. But if she thinks he is a fool, she will not love him again. Philippa Gregory, The Other Queen (The Tudor Court, #7)
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Hello. This is my very first post here.

    Not sure where to begin as there is so much history so I'm going to be as brief as I can. First off I love my wife. She is my best friend. We've shared so many adventures together in our ten year marraige I can hardly believe all the places we've lived and all the things we've...
    Flytolive01 Flytolive01
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Feb 29, 2016

    I sleep most days of the week in a different

    bedroom from my wife... Even nights where I try to sleep in the same bed with her, ends in me just waiting for her to fall asleep and then I go to another room.
    anomaly29 anomaly29
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 10, 2016

    Some days are so much harder

    than others... Some days I don't think about being lonely other days it kills me... Some days I'm grateful for my marriage other days I resent it..... Some days I get lost in routine other days I want to get in the car & drive to nowhere... Some days I love be surrounded by...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 29, 2015

    Sleeping in bed by myself gets very very lonely.

    I just miss having some one next to me and holding each other. Some one to kiss good night, some one to cuddle with on cold mornings, some one who actually wants me laying beside them and likes these same things. I really miss simple things, like waking up first with his back...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys
    36-40, F
    23 Responses Nov 19, 2014

    I travel back in time,

    falling back into what I know for certain, the historical data I cling to in order to not go mad, not assume I made a suicidal and well-informed error in marrying this man-
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    add me pls, skype - mengak
    mengak mengak
    26-30, M
    Apr 10, 2016

    Distance: something my husband

    and I have overcome a great deal of. We dated long distance for a year and a half. I moved to his city four months before our wedding. Although physical intimacy has been lacking for some time, the emotional and mental intimacy sort of ebbs and flows. And I can handle that just...
    andie2007 andie2007
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    I've read through so many posts

    and none seem familiar so I'm starting a new one. Married 3 yrs. Wife says she loves me. Wont kiss me on the lips, cant hug, wont sleep in the same bed. At times can really be hateful but I attribute that to perimenopause, I hope. But Im at the end of my rope. I ferl worse than...
    whendoestwoequalone whendoestwoequalone
    56-60, M
    6 Responses Jan 3, 2016
    like2forplay like2forplay
    56-60, M
    1 Response Apr 11, 2016

    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420
    41-45, F
    20 Responses Mar 21, 2014

    You have to laugh:-) I have slept nude

    for years, my wife doesn't know, we sleep in the same bed. LMAO!!!!
    chilango04 chilango04
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    Happy Anniversary. Not!

    Twenty two years married, twenty six together. We had a nice dinner, flirted, talked, laughed. You could cut the sexual tension with a knife it was so thick. Then she said, in a very seductive voice, " take me home and ravish me". Those were her words, not mine. I couldn't...
    RoughRed RoughRed
    46-50, M
    15 Responses Mar 24, 2015

    Nothing like the warmth of a man.

    That electric feeling when he touches you. Knowing he needs and wants you just as much as you need him. You feel safe and happy. I need this.....
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    36-40, F
    21 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    I hate feeling alone

    when I sleep next to my husband every night. Why doesn't he kiss me , hug me , or hold me anymore ? I try to talk to him and he brushes me off. He says without me his life would be hard! What the fudge does that even mean? So I asked and it's because I take care of everything...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Mar 11, 2016

    Wow..... Rejection is a f**ker!

    ! I thought I was so used to it now & that I stopped caring.....apparently not!
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    36-40, F
    19 Responses Jun 30, 2015

    I was just browsing and reading some of the

    posts and came to this title of experience..and its a perfect description of my predicament right now. At my age, i often say to myself that I shouldnt think of this stuff anymore and just divert my focus to other things,but my body is telling me otherwise... Im a romantic and...
    glenden74 glenden74
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    kerenccaa kerenccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 15, 2015

    Why do I stay, when I feel this way?

    ! Why do I hold the importance of my faith and my commitment higher than I hold myself? Is this how it is supposed to be? I have been struggling in my marriage for a decade...how much longer will I continue to do this to myself? What is my problem? Why am I so afraid? I am in...
    mysteriousmarie27 mysteriousmarie27
    41-45, F
    13 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    When I first was introduced to my wife we had a

    whirlwind romance. She was exciting, and chill. I fell in love with her quickly. Mostly because I wanted to, but I also knew that her and I would be great together for the long term. At that time she was very passionate which is something that is important to me. After a while...
    wjwtac78 wjwtac78
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016

    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Sep 18, 2014

    one day at a time. ?

    just take it one day at a time. ?
    deleted deleted
    23 Responses Feb 18, 2015

    To ME, A woman is NEVER sexier

    than when she is standing in the room, in her underwear, or part of it, with her wet hair, getting dressed for the day..... There is just something about the beauty of a woman who is NOT trying to look sensuous, and might just be feeling the exact opposite... but as i have...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013
    46-50, M
    Nov 15, 2014

    my wife is very controlling

    and she's never going to change. every airmen we have turns into a court battle basically. she is a 3rd year criminal law student, so she is very smart and knows how to twist things back on me to make me feel guilty about it. I have basically just given up on trying to talk to...
    Scythe511 Scythe511
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Mar 10, 2016

    Woke up this morning

    and finally decided to find what I've been looking for my whole life... Honestly, it starts here and now, no apologies! I finally realize, to find what I want, I need to start by asking for it...The key being, asking out loud to that special female who may be of like mind...
    fortysome12day fortysome12day
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 12, 2016

    Maybe I'm just having a pity party

    but slowly I'm learning that feelings are real and cannot just be swept under a rug. Maybe I just need to vent and afterwards I'll feel better so here goes. I'm usually a positive person and can always find the bright side of any situation but the past few days I guess this...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Nov 10, 2014

    it is very sad that I am married

    and that I have to crave intimacy from my own wife...
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Mar 12, 2016

    I wish there was somewhere i could go

    when i just need to be held and feel as if i was 100%of the focus of the person embracing me. They are there just for me. To comfort me or encourage me or make me feel like i matter. Just positive, safe, protective warm arms holding me. I realized last year that haven't felt an...
    netherose netherose
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Dec 27, 2014

    We got invited to a party

    as a couple. He asked me to go with him more than once. I just couldn't bring myself to go and watch him fake how happy he is with me. I couldn't watch as he makes others think he is someone who he isn't. So, I stay home and choose to be lonely. I am lonely everyday anyways...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    36-40, F
    8 Responses May 2, 2015

    Respect yourself enough to walk away from

    anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or make you happy.
    lobosluv lobosluv
    41-45, F
    16 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted
    40 Responses May 24, 2014

    My wife and I never loved each other,

    we met way back when she was young and smoking hot (she still is) and I was a young stud, thats all there was to it back then, we had a daughter and as we raised her the years clicked by and three more kids came along, we tried for years to love each other for the kids sake but...
    sunsetblue sunsetblue
    46-50, M
    6 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    I'm crawling in my skin.

    i need to cut the cord are stay and take more on the battle field, I'm the leader of the broken heart. Now I know what it feels like to give your all and to stand on the battle field with a broken heart and they blow it up and walk away **** me
    semiman semiman
    51-55, M
    Mar 12, 2016

    So for the past almost five years of marriage

    it has basically been like living with a roommate. My husband treats me like a maid and nanny and I am so sick of it. Last night he told me he's not in love with me. He's not cheating, doesn't want a divorce, but just wants me to be a housewife and stay out of his hair. All I...
    SusanAlexander SusanAlexander
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 19, 2016
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