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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    Recently, we agreed to divorce

    after the holidays. In my mind, we have been separated for months. Separate lives. Separate bedrooms. Separate priorities. I am thinking about my life ahead as a single mom. How in the world does one start to date after a divorce? I feel that I "settled" for my husband. I even...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    My husbands been gone

    for four months now. My son keeps me occupied but I'm emotionally deprived. I hate being alone. I know no one in this military hell hole. My husband won't talk to me cause he has other things to do like drink and party. While I'm home with our son 24/7. I miss that touch, a man...
    vanessamoomoo vanessamoomoo 22-25, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    Being lonely and wanting intimacy have got to

    be some of the worst feelings ever. It's not even about sex, I can get sex, I can initiate it, and I'll even enjoy it to a point, but I don't feel connected. There are so many things that I just don't share anymore. It's like I'm not important...me, the part on the inside. I...
    Xroads1017 Xroads1017 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 1, 2014

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    Working out of town this week.

    Feel very lonely in the hotel, and even though I am more and more distant from my STBX, I find it odd that the notion of having her here with me would not cure the loneliness at all. Guess that's a sign. I'd love to have a companion for the evening that would share good...
    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M Jan 18

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    I can't wait to get home from a hard days work

    to watch the wife play games and snapchat all night. It's going to be so fun!!
    slim156 slim156 41-45, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Not even sure where to begin.

    No sex/intimacy for 5 years. I can't even keep track anymore. For years I hoped and believed through my own mind that things would get better. One little gesture would have me second guessing every thing. When you have hope it seems possible, but when you finally wake up and...
    lonely1201 lonely1201 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Commando!!!! Yes..

    . thats me tonight. And I'm headed out to the garage/shop to work on a few things as I am. I hope that I don't get too cold!!!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 17, 2014

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    Dinner Date

    We don't go out much any more, mostly due to finances, but sometimes its nice... Last night was totally worth it, too! It was the usual, crowded room, her going on about herself, loud music... But then I saw you across the room. I noticed you first, your face glowing in the...
    2feetApart 2feetApart 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    About a 3 weeks ago I found my wife with

    another man at her work at 3:00 am. She denies anything happened and swears she's been faithful . She has restricted me from her FB, stopped wearing her ring, stopped saying she loves me, stopped being intimate, and try's her best not to spend any time with me. She says if I don...
    Amalonewolf Amalonewolf 41-45, M 7 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Trying everything to get my husbands attention

    and do the things I know he likes and got nothing but now sitting alone in the closet crying
    LostinLove4ever LostinLove4ever 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 1

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    Not so much lonely for company

    as lonely for intimacy. My wife likes having me at home as much as possible, but she has little interest in being phsycial with me. She has an autoimmune disorder so she is sick much of the time and not really in a good mood to talk, touch, or do anything. I admit that I am a...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 8, 2014

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    My husband works out of town most of the week

    and sometimes through the weekend. I did the math and he is home 12 days a month and 6 of those days I work, so we just have the evenings. It's better than nothing but I am incredibly lonely. Lately when he is home, he is distracted and distant. He is only...
    lena81 lena81 31-35 7 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    About to start another year married,

    alone and horny,even if she was home I would still be alone. Maybe to someone on the outside looking in the solution is simple.....
    BeenWithout BeenWithout 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 1

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    To ME, A woman is NEVER sexier

    than when she is standing in the room, in her underwear, or part of it, with her wet hair, getting dressed for the day..... There is just something about the beauty of a woman who is NOT trying to look sensuous, and might just be feeling the exact opposite... but as i have...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 49 Responses May 24, 2014

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost 20 years. We spend our time at home in separate rooms. I get very lonely and feel like I'm living with someone I don't know. There is no kissin hugging or affection we barely talk. The only affection is if he wants sex which is now once a month. I reached out to hug...
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M Nov 6, 2014

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 32 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Anyone else up late tonight (1:44am) not able

    to sleep after being turned down yet again? It's even worse when it was promised earlier this evening, and then denied once in bed ... again. . This is getting really, really old. Somethings got to give.
    Calif42 Calif42 46-50, M 7 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I'm a good person in most aspects of my life,

    but I've not been a good wife, but my husband thankfully does not know this. I don't want to stop the affair I'm having but want to understand why I need to do it??? My husband works offshore, home a month then away a month, he's extremely tired when he comes home and all I want...
    goodgirldoingbad goodgirldoingbad 36-40, F 37 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    I hope to meet with a woman

    who says that. 
    fuckityfun fuckityfun 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I've been married for 11 years

    and have a son and daughter I love very much. For the majority of the past 11 years I have lived with a serious lack of intimacy. I crave passion, desire and all the excitement that comes with it, I miss it terribly. I don't know what to do. I love my kids and I don't want to...
    Wyoming04 Wyoming04 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    Why Won't he Let Me Go?

    We're in therapy and I'm irritated because I've been saying the same thing for years and he's been promising to fix things for years. Why can't he just admit it's over and let me go? How much longer do I have to wait? Why do I have to fight him for this?
    yrjkng yrjkng 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Want to hear something pathetic?

    I'm sitting in the chair getting my hair cut and I realized how much I missed a woman touching me. Not sexual, but sensual. The way she brushed my hair with her fingertips, her arms brushing my face. Leaning over me smelling so nice.  Catching her look at me in the mirror with...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 9 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    paulacc11 paulacc11 26-30, F Jan 3

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    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    I used to think that we would always be this

    close while I laid in his arms. Boy was I naive. I miss that more than anything.
    KCecil73 KCecil73 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 22

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    I've tried so hard to make my relationship work

    over 6 years.. My husband makes my cry every other day. Don't think he means to we have just become horrible to each other. I can't even sleep next to him anymore. Lately I've been feeling so lonely, is that crazy? I've been having day dreams about other guys and the kind of...
    js82 js82 31-35, F 18 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    So i took a break from EP

    and tried really really hard to work on my marriage. Guess what, it sucked. Wife did not even try to understand or realize that i was giving my 100% to make the marriage work. So am again back to sleeping in different bedroom and back here looking to see how things are. I...
    manchalaladka manchalaladka 36-40, M 6 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    So my neighbor talked to me today about setting

    up a play date with our kids. He's the one I want so bad!! Lol. I'm hoping to finish the convo later today with giving him my cell num!!! So excited :) lol
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F Jan 20

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    Another frustrating night

    but I'm not gonna whine about it ... Time for a different approach
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    My husband doesn't talk to me.

    We don't go on dates. We don't have sex. He snores so loudly that we hardly even sleep together. And he literally sleeps so far away from me that I can't even touch him. We have 3 kids, ages 9, 13, and 16. I seriously fantasize about dating someone else and having romance again...
    Tejaschick Tejaschick 46-50, F 9 Responses Jun 18, 2014

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    I am married but since she found my FB page she

    sent me to therapy. Months of talking only confirmed I was a woman Inside and should become her now. I have always wanted a loving tender sexual relationship as a woman with a man. To feel a woman
    Lyndaloves1957 Lyndaloves1957 56-60, T 2 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    I wish there was somewhere i could go

    when i just need to be held and feel as if i was 100%of the focus of the person embracing me. They are there just for me. To comfort me or encourage me or make me feel like i matter. Just positive, safe, protective warm arms holding me. I realized last year that haven't felt an...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    In a household of 6,

    but still always lonely. Here it is New Year's Eve and I have no plans. My kids are too old to "hang out" with mom, and so far my partner has not mentioned going out, but that doesn't mean he doesn't have plans. So here I am on EP. Just needed to vent! Hope you all have a...
    Lyssak Lyssak 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I think in 2015 I'm simply going to embrace the

    fact that I will forever feel this way. I will abandon hope because it's only a false feeling. I'm tired of feeling like this. It was only fulfilled when I had an affair, which regretfully I wish hadn't happened because I know what it's like to be wanted and it haunts me...
    idleheart idleheart 31-35, M 7 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I want to feel alive in the arms of a woman.

    Someone that cares about who I really am and not just what I can provide for her.
    mwessley mwessley 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    33 yr old and never thought it would come to

    this I just need that butterflies feeling again
    kikthegoodguy11 kikthegoodguy11 31-35, M 6 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Where did the man I married go?

    We fight almost constantly. He says he has no need for affection or attention from me and I'm being needy because my needs for those thing are still there. He had become so cold and distant.
    MLH205 MLH205 41-45, F 13 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 22 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    Together Yet Alone

    Sitting in the silence, the years brought absence.Loves grown distant and cold. Two ships that pass in the night, one no longer aware of the other. As something misplaced, but no longer sought, who would had known, who would had thought. This love dies a lonely death, where lies...
    Waymor Waymor 51-55, M 7 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I came home from work today in a good mood,

    which doesn't happen much recently. I wanted to go out for a coffee just my wife and I and maybe have a good talk. You know, communicate like in a good healthy relationship (which we don't have). I should have known better. She had to go watch our daughter at a cheer...
    Blueeyedboy70i Blueeyedboy70i 41-45, M 11 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Sleeping in bed by myself gets very very lonely.

    I just miss having some one next to me and holding each other. Some one to kiss good night, some one to cuddle with on cold mornings, some one who actually wants me laying beside them and likes these same things. I really miss simple things, like waking up first with his back...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 28 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Not just physical intimacy,

    but the emotional. Where we can talk openly about anything. Where we can just lay on the sofa together reading books and not have to say a word. The kind of intimacy where you call when I am thinking of you.
    jfar123 jfar123 41-45, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been married for 21 years.

    For many of those years I have been lonely and hurting and confused. I get brief glimpses of the man I fell in love with. Just enough to keep hope alive. We hardly talk. I get a perfunctory kiss hello and goodbye every day, but that is the limit of physical interaction. He...
    MLH205 MLH205 41-45, F 15 Responses Jan 6

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    If You Only Knew

    After being married to the same person for almost 36 years I thought I knew my husband. Turns out everything I thought about my husband was all wrong. All these years I really thought he loved me and now I really believe that he never really loved me. With each day that passes...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 15 Responses Jul 25, 2011

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    I'm amazed that I can be surrounded by people

    all day and still be so lonely. I've been married less than 5 years and crave a true connection. We have sex less than once a year, and it's killing me! I'm a Scorpio. I need sex and intimacy. Our courtship was based on lies and fraud, but I can't get divorced. It goes against...
    Shelby2511 Shelby2511 41-45, F 16 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    I am an American Male 56 year old

    now Married to a Mexican woman now over 11 years. We live in a house she owns in Mexico. She says showing Love and be Affectionate it a problem for her and her sisters and brother due to their up bringing. Her mother raised 10 children and I can maybe see where it may have been...
    karma58 karma58 56-60, M 4 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    Maybe I'm just having a pity party

    but slowly I'm learning that feelings are real and cannot just be swept under a rug. Maybe I just need to vent and afterwards I'll feel better so here goes. I'm usually a positive person and can always find the bright side of any situation but the past few days I guess this...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots 36-40, M 10 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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