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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jul 7

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    Some days are so much harder

    than others... Some days I don't think about being lonely other days it kills me... Some days I'm grateful for my marriage other days I resent it..... Some days I get lost in routine other days I want to get in the car & drive to nowhere... Some days I love be surrounded by...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 29

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    I have been married for 16 years.

    For probably the past 6 years we have barely spoken. Neither of us have even rembered our wedding anniversary in years. I have had more than one affair. Each time I feel guilty and try to make things work for a while. My problem is that this time I actually developed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jun 27

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    Tears. I just want to feel loved.

    Again. Anyone. Looking for that too. :( I need to be held.
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 7

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    I had an affair over a month ago,

    and couldn't believe how it jump started my marriage. it took the pressure I was putting on him off. all of a sudden he responded. he doesn't know about the affair, but something changed. I feel I have not changed but I must of. now we have sex 3 to 4 times a week, all quickies...
    tiffsica tiffsica 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 25

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    Wow, this is kinda crazy

    that I've even considered posting this. My wife and I have been together for 13 years. Kid, white picket fence, dogs living the suburban life. And for the most part we get along great, other than a little squabble here and there. Where things get complicated is she is very...
    SecretNudist SecretNudist 36-40 5 Responses May 28

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    I am finding myself becoming jealous of happy

    couples...really hating this feeling
    gemgirlforyou14 gemgirlforyou14 41-45, F 25 Responses Jul 26

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    I have been married for 12 years.

    My husband does not like to be touched other than kissing hugging and oral sex. No foreplay,no making out, no slight touches. I have never been so lonely in my life. I have expressed my feelings. He does not show emotion EVER! It's driving me crazy. I feel like I live with my...
    findingme9525 findingme9525 31-35, F 23 Responses Jun 23

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 28 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I have been with my husband

    for 7 years and we have three kids. We barely see each other because I am in school and he works a lot. I am a very affectionate person and he isn't. We are still intimate...well kind of...there's no passion, no butterflies, and I am not sure what to do. I recently talked...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    I have been married for 15 years this year.

    We just welcomed our 4th child 8 months ago. We haven't slept in the same bed since that baby was born and have just recently set up our very own rooms in our house. My husband has not lost a wink of sleep since the baby was born. I feel as if we are roommates who not only share...
    Hawaii808gurl Hawaii808gurl 26-30, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

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    lvycc11 lvycc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Janeccaa Janeccaa 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Why do I stay, when I feel this way?

    ! Why do I hold the importance of my faith and my commitment higher than I hold myself? Is this how it is supposed to be? I have been struggling in my marriage for a decade...how much longer will I continue to do this to myself? What is my problem? Why am I so afraid? I am in...
    momnga momnga 41-45, F 10 Responses a week ago

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    My husbands been gone

    for four months now. My son keeps me occupied but I'm emotionally deprived. I hate being alone. I know no one in this military hell hole. My husband won't talk to me cause he has other things to do like drink and party. While I'm home with our son 24/7. I miss that touch, a man...
    vanessamoomoo vanessamoomoo 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    So it begins again...

    . I told my wife I wanted us to separate 3 weeks ago and after hours of talking, being completely honest & facing some hard truths we agreed to both really try to make it work.... Initially things were amazing, sex, intimacy, talking, making quality time etc...but it seems only a...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 26

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    I've been in control about not seeking outside

    my marriage, but boy do I crave like crazy!
    kevvy832 kevvy832 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 5

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    i love helping everyone,

    but i'm not sure if anyone loves helping me, & of course nobody have to. i'm married, but i live like any single unmarried, no passion, no body contact, no fun, & even no beautiful love words. i'm human, & i need someone to share everything with, to breathe with, to laugh...
    Dolunay80 Dolunay80 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Why is it that I always feel alone

    and that no seems to care?
    Dawnofanewage Dawnofanewage 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 25

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    So last night after he gets off late

    for his shift. He texts me to tell me to be ready I wait and wait. He finally shows Im livid. Im tired and cranky. I get in the car and we head to the store. We needed a few things. As Im about to get out he hands me a card and a nice box of chocolates. He was late because he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 14

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    This beautiful poem is what i think of

    when i think about intimacy... The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 7

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    Wow..... Rejection is a f**ker!

    ! I thought I was so used to it now & that I stopped caring.....apparently not!
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 31 Responses Jun 30

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    I have seen so many people on here

    that are, as the topic suggests, they're married and having little to no physical contact with their spouse. I found EP when I started searching for answers because I too am in this situation. It amazes me that so many of us are so lonely but we all stay married, why? We get...
    handymann4u handymann4u 51-55, M 7 Responses Apr 9

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    So sick of a dead end marriage.

    I'm alone all week and tomorrow is my birthday. I'm looking for a real present.
    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M 6 Responses Jul 5

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    We got invited to a party

    as a couple. He asked me to go with him more than once. I just couldn't bring myself to go and watch him fake how happy he is with me. I couldn't watch as he makes others think he is someone who he isn't. So, I stay home and choose to be lonely. I am lonely everyday anyways...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 12 Responses May 2

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    Today has not been a good day,

    feelings of loneliness and sadness are knocking at the door. I try desperately to keep them at bay - but the reality of how lonely and alone I am, is forever waiting just in the shadows. I am surrounded by people - loved ones, friends and you - my husband....And yet, I feel so...
    remyington remyington 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    Trying to figure out exactly what has happened

    over the years . Not sure how we have grown so far apart.
    ml101 ml101 46-50, F 7 Responses May 28

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    Iamdusk Iamdusk 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I wish there was somewhere i could go

    when i just need to be held and feel as if i was 100%of the focus of the person embracing me. They are there just for me. To comfort me or encourage me or make me feel like i matter. Just positive, safe, protective warm arms holding me. I realized last year that haven't felt an...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Iamdusk Iamdusk 36-40, M Jul 25

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    I'm amazed that I can be surrounded by people

    all day and still be so lonely. I've been married less than 5 years and crave a true connection. We have sex less than once a year, and it's killing me! I'm a Scorpio. I need sex and intimacy. Our courtship was based on lies and fraud, but I can't get divorced. It goes against...
    Shelby2511 Shelby2511 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    tonysouza tonysouza 36-40, M 2 Responses May 28

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    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 46 Responses May 24, 2014

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    I am reading all of these posts

    and thinking wow there are other people like me. I want intimacy!!! Hell at this point a conversation over the dead silence. I miss those afternoons of laying in bed, talking and cuddling. What I wouldn't give for that now. Unfortunately, there is too may things going on in...
    KCecil73 KCecil73 41-45, F 12 Responses May 12

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    I want to feel that spark of life come back To

    feel that slow burn inside building To share my all with someone who can give it back To feel the warmth and strength of another's arms. I want to be the reason for the smile on their face. To feel alive.
    ADreamBroughtBackToLife ADreamBroughtBackToLife 26-30, F 6 Responses May 30

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    It's so crazy to share your whole existence

    with someone, a child, a house, finances, families etc but to feel so lonely! It really saddens me that I've committed everything I have to one person but that person won't even hold my hand.....
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 25 Responses Jun 26

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    Recently, we agreed to divorce

    after the holidays. In my mind, we have been separated for months. Separate lives. Separate bedrooms. Separate priorities. I am thinking about my life ahead as a single mom. How in the world does one start to date after a divorce? I feel that I "settled" for my husband. I even...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 14 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    one day at a time. ?

    just take it one day at a time. ?
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Feb 18

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    I used to think that we would always be this

    close while I laid in his arms. Boy was I naive. I miss that more than anything.
    KCecil73 KCecil73 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 22

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    Ugh! I dread tomorrow.

    Valentine's day. I will pretend to love my husband for my children. I have such a difficult time now pretending like I am happy and I care. I can do it in front of our kids but why do I have to do it for him? I've been in this marriage without any emotional intimacy and support...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 12 Responses Feb 13

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    Nothing like the warmth of a man.

    That electric feeling when he touches you. Knowing he needs and wants you just as much as you need him. You feel safe and happy. I need this.....
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Where did the man I married go?

    We fight almost constantly. He says he has no need for affection or attention from me and I'm being needy because my needs for those thing are still there. He had become so cold and distant.
    MLH205 MLH205 41-45, F 10 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    To ME, A woman is NEVER sexier

    than when she is standing in the room, in her underwear, or part of it, with her wet hair, getting dressed for the day..... There is just something about the beauty of a woman who is NOT trying to look sensuous, and might just be feeling the exact opposite... but as i have...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2014

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    Sleeping in bed by myself gets very very lonely.

    I just miss having some one next to me and holding each other. Some one to kiss good night, some one to cuddle with on cold mornings, some one who actually wants me laying beside them and likes these same things. I really miss simple things, like waking up first with his back...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 28 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    astrudcc11 astrudcc11 26-30, F Jul 27

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