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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    I want to feel alive in the arms of a woman.

    Someone that cares about who I really am and not just what I can provide for her.
    mwessley mwessley 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Okay so I'm not lonely,

    I just don't want to be with my hubby. I married him just to help him get a green card, but there was never any love. I would like to experience that, but I can't do it with him.
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 5

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    I was trying to find a group

    that would best fit my "story" and this one seemed to fit well. Although I am married, I am lonely and crave intimacy....yes. Actually this has been a problem for quite some time---infrequent intimacy, little affection, lots of harsh criticism and insults.... but NOW due to the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 21

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    This Is A Classic Example Of "married, Lonely And Craving..."

    My wife is not a monster. She is not evil. But she is terribly messed up and in her world of a huge pile of mentally debilitating s*** she has brought on herself, one of the things that crops up in her life almost every day is paranoia. She's paranoid about me and my kids. Yes...
    deleted deleted 26-30 23 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    Over

    I'm over bein married it's over rated it really is I am drained emotionally physically and mentally I am in a marriage where I am the only adult and the only one fighting for marriage!!
    mommaof3boys1girl mommaof3boys1girl 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Hi looking for someone to chat to in the same

    position as me. If your interested please pm me
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    I'm contemplating moving back into my husband's

    house after being away all summer. I have no real reason for going back, except that going back is what I know a good wife would do. I'm still not sure I can do it at all. Hubs's counselor advised him to make a list of expectations that he has for our fractured marriage. So...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 5

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    Being lonely and wanting intimacy have got to

    be some of the worst feelings ever. It's not even about sex, I can get sex, I can initiate it, and I'll even enjoy it to a point, but I don't feel connected. There are so many things that I just don't share anymore. It's like I'm not important...me, the part on the inside. I...
    Xroads1017 Xroads1017 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 1

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    Another night, wide awake ,

    while she goes to bed early, rolls to her side as far from me as possible. Another night, like all the nights for the past 8yrs I crave to hold, touch, kiss. There's no kissing me. I always have to initiate it. Why? Why? Why? I'm 37. Too damn young for this.
    Jblonely1 Jblonely1 36-40, M 13 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Dinner Date

    We don't go out much any more, mostly due to finances, but sometimes its nice... Last night was totally worth it, too! It was the usual, crowded room, her going on about herself, loud music... But then I saw you across the room. I noticed you first, your face glowing in the...
    2feetApart 2feetApart 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 28, 2013

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    Light From A Dark Place

    Pretty cool and completely unexpected thing happened tonight… I looked at my wife and was captivated by her beauty, all over again. It had been a long while since I looked at her that way. I had target fixation. I couldn’t turn away. I haven't seen her in that light for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I know what's lacking.

    Affection on both sides. We've been together for 14 years, have one child, we've changed. We've stuck it out cause it's not a completely miserable marriage. We've walked through fire together, on our own and have remained united. We've put each other to the test, both done the...
    idleheart idleheart 26-30, M 2 Responses May 20

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    I have been married for 27 years

    and want out! I married him because we had sex on our first date and I got pregnant. I was 15 and he was 18. I was too young to know what love was but we were forced to marry. After 27 years and 4 kids, I want out. He is a sweet man, very caring and a great provider but I am not...
    ThatchickAMarie ThatchickAMarie 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    Not so much lonely for company

    as lonely for intimacy. My wife likes having me at home as much as possible, but she has little interest in being phsycial with me. She has an autoimmune disorder so she is sick much of the time and not really in a good mood to talk, touch, or do anything. I admit that I am a...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 8

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    Roseahome Roseahome 46-50, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    The Conversation

    Finally. A real honest to goodness conversation. One in which neither of them loses their temper and they both say what they want to say. She tells him about the pain of the rejection and why now she feels their intimacy degenerated into something she could no longer tolerate...
    backtovanessabet backtovanessabet 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    I'm envious of women

    because they can so discreetly take care of their own needs in bed next to a sleeping spouse. I can't tell you how humiliating it is when you wake your spouse because you were shaking the bed!
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 22

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    This is the perfect heading

    for soevil8 soevil9 soevil10 and now known as pleasestoplying!! Lol. He is married, lonely and craves intimacy which is why he can't stop trolling the affairs posts!! Troll away you loser!!!
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    I'm a good person in most aspects of my life,

    but I've not been a good wife, but my husband thankfully does not know this. I don't want to stop the affair I'm having but want to understand why I need to do it??? My husband works offshore, home a month then away a month, he's extremely tired when he comes home and all I want...
    goodgirldoingbad goodgirldoingbad 36-40, F 41 Responses Aug 5

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    I Understand Now, But Struggling To Accept

    The very condensed version - I was happily married and had a romantic intimate relationship with my husband. We were the world to each other. He died suddenly. I was so alone. I dated, but still felt very alone. I did finally accept that no one would ever replace the love I had...
    baystar baystar 46-50, F 2 Responses May 19, 2013

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    I am Married, Unhappily Married,

    very complex situation...I am the father of 2 Sons, ages 17 & 15, younger son was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 3...Autism Sucks...My wife and I have been married for 18 years, our relationship suddenly changed we she was pregnant with our Special Needs Son, for some...
    Groundhog69 Groundhog69 41-45, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I just want to be wanted again.

    I'm in a loveless marriage with a controlling husband and just can't get the courage to leave.
    Roseahome Roseahome 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 15

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    Yes I do. I have been married

    for 9 yrs and seem to have lost that should have been there. I crave intimacy and don't know if I am going to get it.
    sweetgal42 sweetgal42 41-45, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    So, my wife bought a babydoll last Saturday.

    We had a quick session, but that is the only affection we've had all week.
    cardsfan72903 cardsfan72903 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 6

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    There Is No Intimacy, In Any Form, In My Marriage

    My husband and I have become no more than roommates. While he seems perfectly content this has made me incredibly unhappy and sad to the point I am considering leaving. I don't want to live like this any longer. For many years we couldn't keep our hands off on another, always...
    Moonwillow85 Moonwillow85 41-45, F 22 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    Together Yet Alone

    Sitting in the silence, the years brought absence.Loves grown distant and cold. Two ships that pass in the night, one no longer aware of the other. As something misplaced, but no longer sought, who would had known, who would had thought. This love dies a lonely death, where lies...
    Waymor Waymor 46-50, M 6 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    So today I went and got my wife her b-day

    present. I mowed the yard for her family coming over for her b-day. I take a shower and come out naked, I come up behind her. She says she is hot and sweaty and needs a shower. She gets out of the shower, and comes out in her old pajamas like always.
    cardsfan72903 cardsfan72903 36-40, M Aug 7

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    Living in a marriage

    when you are lonely and wanting intimacy is just existing , it is not truly living life...........it should not be this way ....
    Steven49WPG Steven49WPG 46-50, M May 9

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    Having the biggest sexual frustration.

    I have a hard time getting off. I can go for pretty much 24 hrs and it bugs me a lot of times. ******* off makes it worse and **** does nothing for me. And it doesn't help. My woman feels bad after words cuz she taps out and well then I am left standing there still hard. She...
    saint0928 saint0928 18-21, M 1 Response May 10

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    It is Friday tonight I will go home my teenage

    kids will go off to the movies or some social event. My Wife well its girls night out (every friday is) they will go shopping get manicures eat dinner etc. She will come back home at 9 and get on her Ipad till bed. Me i will come home walk in to an empty house and sit alone...
    monty71 monty71 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 8

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    The thing about this is.

    .. We are applying an antiquated, Victorian moral landscape to marriage and relationships. They take a ton of work (married 20 years this August) and people evolve (or devolve) over time of course but the question is are humans meant to be sexual omnivores? I read our DNA is...
    3rdestate 3rdestate 46-50, M May 12

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    I am married and crave intimacy b/c there is

    none where I am now. I never had this trouble when I was single isn't that odd?
    blondeambition1975 blondeambition1975 36-40, F 8 Responses May 21

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    I crave to hold and kiss my wife,

    for the first time since being married, I am actively looking for the opportunity to have an affair . I do not condone an affair, but I really want someone to hold, kiss, and have sex with. The sex I get at home, but the intimacy of the act is what I really desire.
    Dowright Dowright 46-50, M 2 Responses Feb 16

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 33 Responses Mar 21

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    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 52 Responses May 24

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    i gues theres no option

    or no gateway to be through this... i feel so blurting things out at times!!
    nowayitsthesame nowayitsthesame 26-30 1 Response May 21

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    Why

    Every day i start my day happy and positive while inside im lonely yet nobody knows, or would believe it. I have spent years covering it up with work, material things etc. Ive been married now for 12 years to a wonderful wife who loves me yet our needs are so different. We have...
    liverpoolnut liverpoolnut 41-45, M 7 Responses May 9, 2013

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    I Am Married But I Am Always Lonely

    I am in my 30's, married 6 yrs , 2 kids , great job but my life feels empty. I try to consume myself with projects, church, crafts and my kids, but it seems so lonely at times. I dont have any real friends anymore. i crave companionship. i found out my husband was less than...
    121berry 121berry 36-40 5 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    What has happened to my sex life?

    ????? I'm sure my wife could go the rest of her life without having sex again and wouldn't care. I don't think she thinks that intimacy is important in a marriage but I think it's a huge part. What really ****** me off is that she won't tell me why she is the way she is. I have...
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 7 Responses Aug 16

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    Massages, Roses, Nothing Seems To Help

    We've been in this sexless marriage for a long time and i'm trying to do everything i can think of. Seeing a counselor (until she decided she'd had enough). For Christmas I got her a 1-hour massage and other fun stuff at a spa. For Valentines day I got her two dozen red roses...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    Preparing for our wedding years ago like most

    brides I had this romantic view of commitment and marriage etc. I remember being excited to be marrying the love of my life, vowing before God family and friends to love honor cherish etc with this huge wedding with all the bells and whistles. We had completed counseling with...
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 17

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    I want to feel passion

    when I kiss somebody, I want to feel excited about coming home, I want to sleep naked and wake up to each other, I need more excitement in life.
    cardsfan72903 cardsfan72903 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    5 years of marriage-and I feel like a stranger.

    Like he just doesn't see me. We have reduced our relationship to polite hellos and obligatory kindness. No-I am not waiting for him to do all the work-I have done what I could to try and keep us as intimate as possible. I have suggested, planned, surprised him-done things...
    bellaenchant95 bellaenchant95 41-45, F 9 Responses May 14

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    I've felt like this for quite some time now.

    He has cheated and disrespect me so much. That I'm no longer attracted to him. I miss that feeling of having a connection with not just my husband but my friend. Now, I'm having an affair. I know it's not right but i feel stuck..
    Shawneeluv Shawneeluv 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    If You Only Knew

    After being married to the same person for almost 36 years I thought I knew my husband. Turns out everything I thought about my husband was all wrong. All these years I really thought he loved me and now I really believe that he never really loved me. With each day that passes...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 15 Responses Jul 25, 2011

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    I've tried so hard to make my relationship work

    over 6 years.. My husband makes my cry every other day. Don't think he means to we have just become horrible to each other. I can't even sleep next to him anymore. Lately I've been feeling so lonely, is that crazy? I've been having day dreams about other guys and the kind of...
    js82 js82 31-35, F 18 Responses Apr 27

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    Another frustrating night

    but I'm not gonna whine about it ... Time for a different approach
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 24

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    My husband doesn't talk to me.

    We don't go on dates. We don't have sex. He snores so loudly that we hardly even sleep together. And he literally sleeps so far away from me that I can't even touch him. We have 3 kids, ages 9, 13, and 16. I seriously fantasize about dating someone else and having romance again...
    Tejaschick Tejaschick 46-50, F 9 Responses Jun 18

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    In many ways my wife

    and I get along great. We enjoy each others company and have fun together. But she often struggles, and when she struggles she is mean and anxious and I just don't feel safe being genuine with her. I never know when I will say the wrong thing and she will be triggered. And I...
    ThroughAGlassDarkly ThroughAGlassDarkly 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 11

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    I have been with my husband

    for almost 20 years. We spend our time at home in separate rooms. I get very lonely and feel like I'm living with someone I don't know. There is no kissin hugging or affection we barely talk. The only affection is if he wants sex which is now once a month. I reached out to hug...
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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