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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    Maybe I'm just having a pity party

    but slowly I'm learning that feelings are real and cannot just be swept under a rug. Maybe I just need to vent and afterwards I'll feel better so here goes. I'm usually a positive person and can always find the bright side of any situation but the past few days I guess this...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots 36-40, M 8 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    We had a good sex life & had fun together.

    I'm sure its my fault not much of a romantic. She won't even get naked in front of me anymore. It's Been over 5 years now since we've had sex. I so need to be be snuggled up with a woman
    rbc102 rbc102 61-65, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    I have seen so many people on here

    that are, as the topic suggests, they're married and having little to no physical contact with their spouse. I found EP when I started searching for answers because I too am in this situation. It amazes me that so many of us are so lonely but we all stay married, why? We get...
    handymann4u handymann4u 51-55, M 7 Responses Apr 9

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    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jul 7

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    So sick of a dead end marriage.

    I'm alone all week and tomorrow is my birthday. I'm looking for a real present.
    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M 6 Responses Jul 5

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    Thought I married my high school sweetheart 19

    yrs ago, she was great. Not long after the wedding, it was like a struggle for her to like me. I know nobody is perfect, but I have tried. Brought home flowers for no reason and I get "great, now I have to take care of flowers". Try to make her birthday special by taking out to...
    mustangman5pt0 mustangman5pt0 36-40, M 5 Responses Aug 24

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    britjones06 britjones06 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 16

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    I have been married for 15 years this year.

    We just welcomed our 4th child 8 months ago. We haven't slept in the same bed since that baby was born and have just recently set up our very own rooms in our house. My husband has not lost a wink of sleep since the baby was born. I feel as if we are roommates who not only share...
    Hawaii808gurl Hawaii808gurl 26-30, F 15 Responses Aug 1

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    When I want to speak to you about my day,

    your eyes are distracted and you interrupt and speak about your day instead. When I tell you how ****** my day is, you tell me you had a shittier day dismissing mine. When I hug you, you give me a brief one and walk away like I don't exist. When you need sex, you kiss me like...
    lpch lpch 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 21

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    I joined EP almost 2 months ago now

    and boy a lot has not happened since joining. The first thing I did after joining was wrote a post about my marriage. I am another person in one of these marriages that has no intimacy, very little sex and I feel more lonely than I do love. The thing is we used to have a...
    Paul47C Paul47C 46-50, M 5 Responses Aug 15

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    Recently, we agreed to divorce

    after the holidays. In my mind, we have been separated for months. Separate lives. Separate bedrooms. Separate priorities. I am thinking about my life ahead as a single mom. How in the world does one start to date after a divorce? I feel that I "settled" for my husband. I even...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 14 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 45 Responses May 24, 2014

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    It's so crazy to share your whole existence

    with someone, a child, a house, finances, families etc but to feel so lonely! It really saddens me that I've committed everything I have to one person but that person won't even hold my hand.....
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 23 Responses Jun 26

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 27 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Someday, I will wake up

    and be someone's type. Be wanted by that someone....
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 32 Responses Aug 15

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    So it begins again...

    . I told my wife I wanted us to separate 3 weeks ago and after hours of talking, being completely honest & facing some hard truths we agreed to both really try to make it work.... Initially things were amazing, sex, intimacy, talking, making quality time etc...but it seems only a...
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 26

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    I'm amazed that I can be surrounded by people

    all day and still be so lonely. I've been married less than 5 years and crave a true connection. We have sex less than once a year, and it's killing me! I'm a Scorpio. I need sex and intimacy. Our courtship was based on lies and fraud, but I can't get divorced. It goes against...
    Shelby2511 Shelby2511 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Janeccaa Janeccaa 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    This is one of the largest groups on this site!

    ! How has this happened? Didn't we get married to stop the loneliness and fulfill the intimacy?? Share your story in 140 characters or less (Tweet Style).
    greggo2 greggo2 46-50 Aug 16

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    I love him, he loves me.

    But he doesn't want me. I've been told I'm pretty and sexy but he never touches me. He stays downstairs when I go to bed until I've gone to sleep. He's on Facebook/his phone ALL the time, takes them to the toilet with him...I'm pretty sure he's pining for someone else. He needs...
    cherryangel cherryangel 46-50, F 23 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    lvycc11 lvycc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I have been with my husband

    for 7 years and we have three kids. We barely see each other because I am in school and he works a lot. I am a very affectionate person and he isn't. We are still intimate...well kind of...there's no passion, no butterflies, and I am not sure what to do. I recently talked...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I was a stay at home mom

    and begged for attention. Since I started working now he is lonely, jealous, and sad ....
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    This beautiful poem is what i think of

    when i think about intimacy... The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 7

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    Tears. I just want to feel loved.

    Again. Anyone. Looking for that too. :( I need to be held.
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 7

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    I wish there was somewhere i could go

    when i just need to be held and feel as if i was 100%of the focus of the person embracing me. They are there just for me. To comfort me or encourage me or make me feel like i matter. Just positive, safe, protective warm arms holding me. I realized last year that haven't felt an...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    hello ladies would pove to be messaged by a

    lady with simmilar intrests
    Iamdusk Iamdusk 36-40, M Jul 26

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    We got invited to a party

    as a couple. He asked me to go with him more than once. I just couldn't bring myself to go and watch him fake how happy he is with me. I couldn't watch as he makes others think he is someone who he isn't. So, I stay home and choose to be lonely. I am lonely everyday anyways...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 12 Responses May 2

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    Where did the man I married go?

    We fight almost constantly. He says he has no need for affection or attention from me and I'm being needy because my needs for those thing are still there. He had become so cold and distant.
    MLH205 MLH205 41-45, F 10 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Wow..... Rejection is a f**ker!

    ! I thought I was so used to it now & that I stopped caring.....apparently not!
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy 31-35, F 31 Responses Jun 30

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    I'm a wedding videographer

    and I've filmed a lot of weddings.Being in a troubled marriage I used to be very envious of my clients but after years and years I've come to realize there is no reason to be jealous of these people because they are going to be in the same boat as me in a few years.Now I just...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 20 Responses May 21

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    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    Well I guess we all have a story.

    Mine, I was married for 19 yrs to a redhead who like to do two things. Fight and ****, and was great at both. I just got tired of fighting. Second wife was blonde and beautiful, and life of the party. Till she hit 40 and started having sex with men half mine and her age and lost...
    JoeFish50 JoeFish50 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Iamdusk Iamdusk 36-40, M Jul 25

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    Iamdusk Iamdusk 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 27

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    So last night after he gets off late

    for his shift. He texts me to tell me to be ready I wait and wait. He finally shows Im livid. Im tired and cranky. I get in the car and we head to the store. We needed a few things. As Im about to get out he hands me a card and a nice box of chocolates. He was late because he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 14

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    I have been married for 12 years.

    My husband does not like to be touched other than kissing hugging and oral sex. No foreplay,no making out, no slight touches. I have never been so lonely in my life. I have expressed my feelings. He does not show emotion EVER! It's driving me crazy. I feel like I live with my...
    findingme9525 findingme9525 31-35, F 20 Responses Jun 23

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    one day at a time. ?

    just take it one day at a time. ?
    deleted deleted 26-30 25 Responses Feb 18

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    Today has not been a good day,

    feelings of loneliness and sadness are knocking at the door. I try desperately to keep them at bay - but the reality of how lonely and alone I am, is forever waiting just in the shadows. I am surrounded by people - loved ones, friends and you - my husband....And yet, I feel so...
    remyington remyington 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    Sleeping in bed by myself gets very very lonely.

    I just miss having some one next to me and holding each other. Some one to kiss good night, some one to cuddle with on cold mornings, some one who actually wants me laying beside them and likes these same things. I really miss simple things, like waking up first with his back...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 28 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Ugh! I dread tomorrow.

    Valentine's day. I will pretend to love my husband for my children. I have such a difficult time now pretending like I am happy and I care. I can do it in front of our kids but why do I have to do it for him? I've been in this marriage without any emotional intimacy and support...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 11 Responses Feb 13

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    http://myverydarkside.

    tumblr.com/post/126269038257/the-opposite-of-loneliness-its-not-togetherness
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 7 Responses Aug 9

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    Happy Anniversary. Not!

    Twenty two years married, twenty six together. We had a nice dinner, flirted, talked, laughed. You could cut the sexual tension with a knife it was so thick. Then she said, in a very seductive voice, " take me home and ravish me". Those were her words, not mine. I couldn't...
    RoughRed RoughRed 46-50, M 19 Responses Mar 24

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    i love helping everyone,

    but i'm not sure if anyone loves helping me, & of course nobody have to. i'm married, but i live like any single unmarried, no passion, no body contact, no fun, & even no beautiful love words. i'm human, & i need someone to share everything with, to breathe with, to laugh...
    Dolunay80 Dolunay80 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 10

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