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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

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    I am reading all of these posts

    and thinking wow there are other people like me. I want intimacy!!! Hell at this point a conversation over the dead silence. I miss those afternoons of laying in bed, talking and cuddling. What I wouldn't give for that now. Unfortunately, there is too may things going on in...
    KCecil73 KCecil73 41-45, F 14 Responses May 12

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    Work has been pretty rough the last few weeks.

    A shoulder massage would've been nice last night, but the hockey game was on.
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 25 Responses May 6

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    Whether you are on the couch.

    Watching TV. Sitting next to the one ur married to. Wanting to cuddle up, hold hands. Tease with a kiss or two. Or your in bed sitting watching TV, laying to sleep. Cuddled up to that person. If you just cuddle up, touch a bit, kiss goodnight....Or maybe you get the feeling for...
    Leftyss Leftyss 46-50, M 3 Responses May 19

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    My husbands been gone

    for four months now. My son keeps me occupied but I'm emotionally deprived. I hate being alone. I know no one in this military hell hole. My husband won't talk to me cause he has other things to do like drink and party. While I'm home with our son 24/7. I miss that touch, a man...
    vanessamoomoo vanessamoomoo 22-25, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    Sleeping in bed by myself gets very very lonely.

    I just miss having some one next to me and holding each other. Some one to kiss good night, some one to cuddle with on cold mornings, some one who actually wants me laying beside them and likes these same things. I really miss simple things, like waking up first with his back...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 28 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Tears. I just want to feel loved.

    Again. Anyone. Looking for that too. :( I need to be held.
    sassygirl42 sassygirl42 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 7

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    at the beginning of this month I wrote about my

    husband not putting me as a priority. he would go out all night drinking with his guy friends, coming home the next day sometimes not until afternoon. it was devastating to me, I felt disrespected and abandoned. finally, after much compromise, we came to an agreement and last...
    mochalocalatte mochalocalatte 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    33 yr old and never thought it would come to

    this I just need that butterflies feeling again
    kikthegoodguy11 kikthegoodguy11 31-35, M 6 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Wow, this is kinda crazy

    that I've even considered posting this. My wife and I have been together for 13 years. Kid, white picket fence, dogs living the suburban life. And for the most part we get along great, other than a little squabble here and there. Where things get complicated is she is very...
    SecretNudist SecretNudist 36-40 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am married but yet feel

    so alone, our sex life is very minimal and I have cravings that are so intense yet ignored.. I am a very sexual female and I live think and breathe it! I'm not really sure if my husband is just going through changes in his sexual appetite. Whatever the case maybe it is very...
    TandT0420 TandT0420 36-40, F 31 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Married for 16 years with two girls,

    one 12 and one 8. Wife has no sex drive and she is pretty controlling. We can hangout and watch TV together or go places with the girls on the weekends but don't hold hands, don't kiss and have had sex twice in the last two years. I started sleeping on the couch and don't...
    mousergoodwin mousergoodwin 41-45, M 5 Responses May 3

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    I have seen so many people on here

    that are, as the topic suggests, they're married and having little to no physical contact with their spouse. I found EP when I started searching for answers because I too am in this situation. It amazes me that so many of us are so lonely but we all stay married, why? We get...
    handymann4u handymann4u 51-55, M 7 Responses Apr 9

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    As individuals we are self aware beings.

    Marriage is supposed to bond us together yet so many never gain the awareness that it takes to secure that bond. We learn through companionship the "signs" of our partners. We are to read them as if they are a book. Dating is like a learning process and by marriage we should...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 14

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    MrOttawa MrOttawa 46-50, M May 1

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    I have a great body,and used to post my pics

    online,just for some attention from someone.Most of the attention came from other guys though!
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 16

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    So last night after he gets off late

    for his shift. He texts me to tell me to be ready I wait and wait. He finally shows Im livid. Im tired and cranky. I get in the car and we head to the store. We needed a few things. As Im about to get out he hands me a card and a nice box of chocolates. He was late because he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 14

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    This beautiful poem is what i think of

    when i think about intimacy... The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 7

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    This is my 2nd marriage

    and she is a wonderful woman. She would do anything for anybody and you don't have to even ask her! Pretty good so far! When we got married, I had health issues and still do! My health is at the root of my being lonely! When we first started out we played around often, not a lot...
    cougar1967 cougar1967 66-70, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    I used to think that we would always be this

    close while I laid in his arms. Boy was I naive. I miss that more than anything.
    KCecil73 KCecil73 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 22

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    I have left food behind.

    .... Now I'm just hungry for what food was taking the place of. I want to have a man that wants to be with me. Wants to dance in the kitchen.... Kiss my neck while I'm doing the dishes. He will tell me a song made him think of me. He will pour a glass of wine and want to sit with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 48 Responses May 24, 2014

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    I am married for the second time

    and feel so lonely. I lay in bed just wanting to be held and not be the strong one anymore, but to be loved and cherished. this has gone on years and sometimes feel like ******* anyone. haven't, and won't. with the social media connection with people, I made a mistake. my first...
    tiffsica tiffsica 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 12

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    Want to hear something pathetic?

    I'm sitting in the chair getting my hair cut and I realized how much I missed a woman touching me. Not sexual, but sensual. The way she brushed my hair with her fingertips, her arms brushing my face. Leaning over me smelling so nice.  Catching her look at me in the mirror with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Ugh...my neighbor is

    so damn hot!! But he's married too with kids. I can't just throw it out there and see what happens! I wish I could. His wife is nothing to look at, like I mean NOTHING. I know I'm much better in that department but that doesn't mean he would be open to it. I'm worried I would...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 30

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    To ME, A woman is NEVER sexier

    than when she is standing in the room, in her underwear, or part of it, with her wet hair, getting dressed for the day..... There is just something about the beauty of a woman who is NOT trying to look sensuous, and might just be feeling the exact opposite... but as i have...
    Drummer1013 Drummer1013 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 15, 2014

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    I've been married for 11 years

    and have a son and daughter I love very much. For the majority of the past 11 years I have lived with a serious lack of intimacy. I crave passion, desire and all the excitement that comes with it, I miss it terribly. I don't know what to do. I love my kids and I don't want to...
    Wyoming04 Wyoming04 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 30

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    My husband and I have been together 12 years.

    He's present, he's a good dad, we spend time together, have sex, but I feel so lonely. I ask him about his day, but he doesn't ask about mine. When I tell him about my day, my ideas, or my plans, he either doesn't listen, interrupts with a "better idea," or passes judgement...
    BrokenTreeHouse BrokenTreeHouse 31-35, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was in the same situation.

    Married for too many years without sex and intimacy. One day I just decided that life was too short and I deserved to be happy. It was difficult and heartwretching---but the best decision I ever made. If you're unhappy and your partner is not willing to work with you to find...
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 18, 2014

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    Ugh! I dread tomorrow.

    Valentine's day. I will pretend to love my husband for my children. I have such a difficult time now pretending like I am happy and I care. I can do it in front of our kids but why do I have to do it for him? I've been in this marriage without any emotional intimacy and support...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 13

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    is it so ******* wrong

    that I would like some attention from the wife? I try and try and still get rejected, disrespected and pushed aside. This has been going on now for close to a year and I can't take it anymore. I guess I'll be stuck like this till the kids are grown up and out of the house. I...
    JackRabbit77 JackRabbit77 36-40, M 3 Responses May 6

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    Nothing like the warmth of a man.

    That electric feeling when he touches you. Knowing he needs and wants you just as much as you need him. You feel safe and happy. I need this.....
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 24 Responses Apr 30

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    Recently, we agreed to divorce

    after the holidays. In my mind, we have been separated for months. Separate lives. Separate bedrooms. Separate priorities. I am thinking about my life ahead as a single mom. How in the world does one start to date after a divorce? I feel that I "settled" for my husband. I even...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 14 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    I'm amazed that I can be surrounded by people

    all day and still be so lonely. I've been married less than 5 years and crave a true connection. We have sex less than once a year, and it's killing me! I'm a Scorpio. I need sex and intimacy. Our courtship was based on lies and fraud, but I can't get divorced. It goes against...
    Shelby2511 Shelby2511 41-45, F 14 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    I want to feel that spark of life come back To

    feel that slow burn inside building To share my all with someone who can give it back To feel the warmth and strength of another's arms. I want to be the reason for the smile on their face. To feel alive.
    ADreamBroughtBackToLife ADreamBroughtBackToLife 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I wish there was somewhere i could go

    when i just need to be held and feel as if i was 100%of the focus of the person embracing me. They are there just for me. To comfort me or encourage me or make me feel like i matter. Just positive, safe, protective warm arms holding me. I realized last year that haven't felt an...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I have been married quite a long time.

    And, like other long-term relationships, the "fizz" has dissipated. I take responsibility for virtually all of what has happened to bring my marriage, my relationship, my friendship, with my wife to the point that it now is. I made mistakes, I trusted the wrong people, I didn...
    rcrumb69 rcrumb69 61-65, M 4 Responses Mar 27

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    Happy Anniversary. Not!

    Twenty two years married, twenty six together. We had a nice dinner, flirted, talked, laughed. You could cut the sexual tension with a knife it was so thick. Then she said, in a very seductive voice, " take me home and ravish me". Those were her words, not mine. I couldn't...
    RoughRed RoughRed 46-50, M 20 Responses Mar 24

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    literally just got into an argument

    because I made him horny...FML
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 3 Responses May 19

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    Being lonely and wanting intimacy have got to

    be some of the worst feelings ever. It's not even about sex, I can get sex, I can initiate it, and I'll even enjoy it to a point, but I don't feel connected. There are so many things that I just don't share anymore. It's like I'm not important...me, the part on the inside. I...
    Xroads1017 Xroads1017 41-45, F 8 Responses Jun 1, 2014

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    one day at a time. ?

    just take it one day at a time. ?
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Feb 18

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    I'm a wedding videographer

    and I've filmed a lot of weddings.Being in a troubled marriage I used to be very envious of my clients but after years and years I've come to realize there is no reason to be jealous of these people because they are going to be in the same boat as me in a few years.Now I just...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 25 Responses May 21

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    I have been married for almost 4 years

    and my wife and I have not been as intimate as I think we should. She is never in the mood for sex and I am ready 24/7
    dawg1994 dawg1994 36-40, M 3 Responses May 2

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    I have been off EP for a few months.

    This story bears sharing. Wife and I haven't had sex in over a year. Once the year before that. We cooled to the point of meeting with attorneys and came within an inch of divorce. I ended up staying in it for my kids. I don't want to share time with them. We are very...
    CravingSomething CravingSomething 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 20

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    Maybe I'm just having a pity party

    but slowly I'm learning that feelings are real and cannot just be swept under a rug. Maybe I just need to vent and afterwards I'll feel better so here goes. I'm usually a positive person and can always find the bright side of any situation but the past few days I guess this...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots 36-40, M 8 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    When is enough enough?

    What would your breaking point be?
    LivvyMonroe LivvyMonroe 31-35, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    tonysouza tonysouza 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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