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I Am Married to a Bipolar Man

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    I can not believe how many similar experiences

    there are on here. Although I am so sorry you all are going through this as well, I am also glad I am not alone. I just filed for divorce from my bipolar husband of a little over 3 years. I found out he was bipolar just after we returned from our honeymoon. The week we returned...
    jude36 jude36 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 20

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    "you Always Blame Me For Everything! You Know I'm Under So Much Pressure! You Always Play The Victim! Are You Going To Cry Again?"

    My eyes filling up with tears, I can't help but cry and feel sorry. Sorry that I'm apparently wrong again and wrong for asking him a question. Yet again, he says he wants a divorce. Is he serious this time? He asks me where I will be moving....I talk myself through every bad day...
    yogagirlly yogagirlly 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 20, 2012

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    I Waited 28 Years For This??

    My husband and I were high school sweethearts; each other's first love. After high school, we broke up and had very different lives. I always just wanted "normal." You know, husband, kids normal happy life. He started partying as soon as we broke up. He was 17. Even back then, he...
    braindrained braindrained 46-50 4 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    My husband is the kindest,

    most hardworking person I have ever met. However, when he drinks (which we all know he shouldn't) he has almost a mini-mania where he is promiscuous and abusive towards me. We have a young child together and are living as ex-pats so have no family around for support. We have...
    MayburyHill MayburyHill 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    Enough Is Enough

    i am misserable.i finally told him his morally insulting values,temporary or not,are somthing i cant be with,and the lying and abuse.ofcourse hes gonna try to backstep but thats fine cuz i really dont wanna solve this anymore,not for relationship/marraige purposes,i will stay...
    rachael23invermont rachael23invermont 22-25, F 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    My Bipolar Husband

    We have been together for 12 years and have 2 sons. I call him my husband but in fact we have never married. This is my choice and while I tell him its financial or find another excuse, if I'm honest its because I feel I could never walk away if I made that commitment - and the...
    kyp1972 kyp1972 36-40 1 Response Jul 13, 2011

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    Trying to Hold On

    When I married my husband 4 years ago I thought he had major depressive disorder that was under medication.  I have a less severe case of depression so I thought I understood it.  As it turns out, he has been diagnosed since with bipolar type two disorder.  He can...
    karenina karenina 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2007

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    Looking Forward To Some Boring, Uneventful Days

    I married a bipolar man. It became clear to me that something was wrong almost immediately after saying I do. He “woke up” one day as the “angry guy” and couldn’t put a finger on why. Then after a few days to a week he was the wonderful big hearted loving man I fell...
    Mpm70 Mpm70 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    It Is So Exhausting. What Am I Doing?

    I'm confused, and worried and afraid. My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. He is 23 and I am 20. I got married young and moved out of state to "play house" So i feel as if i've had to mature faster than the years i am. My husband is bi-polar. When we began...
    lrspears lrspears 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    Me Too.....me Too....

    I am in the same shoes after 25 years.  I have wanted to leave for the last 21.  He was undiagnosed when we met and I was coming from an extremely abusive home and I clung to him so I would not have to go back.  He has always been almost....well I guess...obsessed with my...
    elizabethgrace23 elizabethgrace23 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 18, 2012

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    Trying To Make It Day By Day

    Hi there, I am new on here and read some of your stories, I found them so helpful and comforting. I hate to think anyone is living this type of topsy turvy life that I live, but it helps a lot to get advise and support. Well here is my story. I have been married to my husband for...
    crazybusylife crazybusylife 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 26, 2011

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    Healing Together, The Emotional Rollercoaster Ride

    Four years ago I met the most wonderful man and made a choice to marry him. One year after marriage he had rapid cycling episodes, and the onset of his night terrors took flight. At the time, I figured it was PTSD or something related to his military experiences as an officer...
    stardustbloom stardustbloom 36-40 2 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    What Is The Right Thing To Do?

    In have been married for almost twi years, and my husband was recently diagnosed bipolar type 3. Before we got married he used to be fun and friendly. This madness started couple of months after we got married, when he started having this aggressive episodes, to the point of...
    Starstar001 Starstar001 22-25 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    This Last Week.

    I had a "date" with my ex-husband (we were married for 53 years). He just went through 18 months of high mania on Klonopin, Prozac and other meds. He is currently off all meds. His decision. He became very drunk on this date and started to become very belligerent. I had...
    Julyredhead Julyredhead 70+ 1 Response Aug 24, 2012

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    Feeling Slighted In Love, And Life

    All I ever wanted was to get married, and have a family. I used to daydream as a child about my future husband, and how nice he'd be to me. How we'd be so happy together in a wonderful, loving relationship. I suppose no relationship exists the way I dreamed it. I met my...
    candicebean candicebean 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    The Choices We Make Are the Roads We Take- Married to An Mdp

    A young man I just got to know,told me he was on 'drugs' at times. That was my introduction to a manic depressive personality 22years ago. I promised to support him to get over it. Caught in being protective about him and loving someone who needed me, we were married within 2...
    reflectingback reflectingback 41-45 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    Enough?

    I have been married to my husband for 18 years.  I am at the point where I don't know if I love him anymore.  I feel lots of resentment towards him.  He has been diagnosed as bipolar for about 2 years, however our son who has just turned 18 has been diagnosed since he was...
    niknup4christ niknup4christ 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 4, 2011

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    I have finally separated from my bipolar

    husband. It is fantastic to be away from the negativity surrounded by this illness. The emotional abuse was unbearable but it is not until you are out of the situation that you realise how bad it is. It has been hard but such a blessing it is over. The blame for everything has...
    Panasonic123 Panasonic123 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    Holy Hell

    Turns out he's bipolar. And a very angry aggressive bipolar. With a very addictive personality. I've been thru the ringer, everything from verbal abuse to metal and emotional and when he drinks, physical abuse. He's mean to our dog, he speaks down to me in front of our six year...
    Itsgettingold Itsgettingold 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 21, 2012

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    Upside Down, Boy You Turn Me Inside Out And Round And Round

    My life is never stable, never peaceful with my bipolar husband.  When I married him, I didn't know he was mentally ill.  I thought he was a little hyper, perhaps with a bad temper.  Now, after almost 9 years of marriage and two children, he's been finally...
    msmagnolia msmagnolia 41-45, F 14 Responses Oct 22, 2006

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    I've been married 15 years.

    The good times are good, awesome! Then the slump hits. It is so hard Sometimes I hate him because it's like he's not him- and he's mean. He's on meds but we are constantly having to adjust. I feel like I can't talk about it to anyone.
    Pepper7squared Pepper7squared 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I Married My Best Friend...and Enemy

    When I met my husband, I was a single parent of 2. He was the funniest person I had ever met and was very sincere. We were friends for 3 years before we started dating. He was my best friend and was amazing with my children. I think back then I made excuses for the anger that he...
    msprtyldy msprtyldy 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2010

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    I Didn't Think This Would Be My Happily Ever After

    I met my husband 7 years ago. When I first met my husband I was over the moon. He was everything I ever thought I wanted in a man. He was hand sum caring and I felt he would never lie cheat or hurt me. Well before know it I was pregnant with our beautiful daughter. My pregnancy...
    saramong saramong 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    Tired Of Trying To Save My Marriage I Need To Save Me

    first of all i want to say how thankful i am that i found this site....  I have been w my bi polar man 2 and a 1/2 years.  and of that 2 and 1/2 years he has tried to make me think im the crazy one to hide his own insanity and it worked for two years!  Now i see...
    trying2findme trying2findme 36-40 4 Responses Sep 28, 2010

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    Confused

    Ive been married to my hubby for 14 years. 2 years ago he was diagnosed with bipolar 2. He religiously takes his meds but he gets so severely depressed he wont get off the couch. This can last for a week straight! He is nice for about 4 days, then can become nasty. I cant handle...
    mammaof6 mammaof6 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    Don't Want To Stay But Can't Walk Away

    I am married going on 20 years to my husband who Is a good person. He was recently diagnosed. They were treating him for major depression but by chance I asked if I could go with him to talk to the therapist and I educated her on what was REALLY going on with him. I was convinced...
    Gam52 Gam52 51-55, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2012

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    Feeling Slighted In Love, And Life

    All I ever wanted was to get married, and have a family. I used to daydream as a child about my future husband, and how nice he'd be to me. How we'd be so happy together in a wonderful, loving relationship. I suppose no relationship exists the way I dreamed it. I met my...
    candicebean candicebean 31-35, F Jul 29, 2013

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    Let's Help Each Other:

    I am so thankful for all of you and appreciate you sharing your stories.  Our lives are so similar. with this entry I am not sharing "my story" but I did want to start a dialogue of how we might help each other.  You might think, "is she really going to...
    GloriaDLiverer GloriaDLiverer 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2009

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    We Were Young And In Love....we Are Still In Love

    After reading a few stories and doing some research I see that I am not alone. I have been with my husband since I was 19. We have been married for 12, years and together 14. He is truly the love of my life when he's not in self destruct mode. We were young parents, but pushed...
    Froggyabr Froggyabr 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 23, 2012

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    The Love of My Life Is Bipolar

    I met my husband when we were 17 yrs old in highschool. Back then he was so fun and adventuresome. I fell head over heels in love with him. He was wonderful!  We got married when we were 21yrs old. He went into the Navy. I just thought my life was perfect. At 23 we had our...
    Headevas Headevas 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 13, 2008

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    I Love You....I Hate You

    Its like being married to two different people. One is sweet and attentive the other is mean and destructive. Had i known you were like this Iwould have never given you the time of day,nor would i have had children with you. You somehow managed to hide your other side from me...
    tricksareforkids tricksareforkids 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 12, 2013

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    I Dunno...

    Hi, I'm not certain how to start so I will tell you my story. I married my husband 5 years ago. I knew prior to us getting married he had been diagnosed being bipolar in 2002. He had a major episode and was hospitalized, at the time he was married to his first wife.When I met him...
    tougherthanithought tougherthanithought 41-45 7 Responses Aug 31, 2011

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    Medication Change

    In so many ways, I have been fortunate.  My husband has accepted his diagnosis of Bi-Polar and was always faithful with taking his medication. For the last few months, I have lived in fear and fell into a depression.  Fear that the new medication was not...
    PeedeeDog PeedeeDog 12919 9 Responses Aug 2, 2009

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    Dr. Jekyl Or Mr. Hyde

    when i met my husband he was so sweet, the perfect gentleman...he bought me things that had a personal meaning to me..wrote love letters..very romantic...i got pregnant and we got married....my mother in law told me he has a pretty bad temper...but i shrugged her off cause i had...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 9, 2009

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    The Truth

    I want to share my story with others. Not only for myself, but for others who feel desperate, and alone. I purposely did not read any other stories before writing my own. I want to put my story out there; unbiased as possible. I have been with my husband, for 12 years. The moment...
    Kc74 Kc74 36-40 3 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Through It All....

    So, I am one of the odd ones that actually WANT to stay married to my bipolar man. People call me crazy but we are celebrating our 25th anniversary soon. I love him more today than the day we met and that is not a small feat. His bipolar is type 2 rapid cycle and I have been to...
    craftykat craftykat 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 4, 2012

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    To Hell With Him,not Me!

    we met and became inseperable instantly.we wer married 3 weeks after we met.none the less i shouldve ran when he told me he was bipolar.but he had so many other things to offer besides that problem that i ignored it.well its 2 years later,he had a blackout a few weeks ago,hurt my...
    rachael23invermont rachael23invermont 22-25, F 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    i met my husband early this year

    and we dated for a month then he proposed and at first he was so sweet and he showed me the love that ive been longing for my whole life but just after we set the wedding date joo he started been agressive and sometimes says hurtful words to me and when i told him im cancelling...
    mvuli mvuli 31-35, F 1 Response May 5

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    Tall Dark And Dangerously Bi- Polar.

    I am married to my husband for 13 yrs we have one child. We have just been through a horendous time (two years) with my husband. He lost all sense of responsibility for his phyical and mental. I suppose it all started when I got cancer( 2and half yrs ago). He just did not want to...
    macanatha macanatha 51-55 Aug 5, 2013

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    I met him when he started attending the same

    church I do. We had a lot of late night conversations about what we both hoped to find in a spouse and fell in love. He was divorced and had his stories about the reasons. I was approached with information about the other side of the story but only found it comical because I...
    19hope 19hope 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Growing up I never understood bipolar and still don't. If you are reading this and you want answers I can not give them, but if your story is the same as mine. Please leave the...
    pedgy1 pedgy1 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 5

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