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I Am Married to a Self-centered Person

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 92 People

    Prince Or Frog ?? I Think Frog

    I had a bad marriage that I hung on to for way to long than after 16 years divorced. I had married very young so had never gone out or really dated so at 30 when I was single it was amazing and scary because I had no idea what to believe or not believe...even bought the book he's...
    Faith11us Faith11us 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    It's called narcissism in psychological circles.

    Not necessarily the "in love with ones image"/beauty angle, but a total focus on themselves. In their lives nothing is more important than *their* desires. In my case, my spouse doesn't even see it and would deny it if confronted. But if everything isn't just perfect, in...
    MatureNotDead MatureNotDead 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    Tell Me How To Survive My Marriage!!

    I am married to a wonderful man who, sometimes, has a generous nature.  Sometimes, has a considerate side.  Occasionally will do house work or yard work for me.  The majority of the time though, he is selfish and self-centered.  He believes the only thing he...
    frustratedgal frustratedgal 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    My Husband Forgot My Birthday....Again

    It's not unusual for him to forget my Birthday. Normally, even if he does remember, there's no gifts, no cake, no card. He "treats" me to birthday sex. Whoop-dee-do. Not that I don't appreciate or enjoy sex, but it seems like a self-serving act when that's the only recognition I...
    BethanyRose BethanyRose 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    He thinks about no one

    but himself. I started school about a month ago. We both agreed for him to watch our five month old daughter while I'm in school at nights. He also works two jobs and I thought we were managing it well. Tonight, he tells me that I need to quit school because he can't take it...
    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    Lied To And Cheated On

    My husband cheated on me and said it was because i did not pay enough attention to him. I have 3 daughters from a previos marriage, i pay most of the bills, and work 2 jobs. I want to leave. My first husband was the same way. I want marriage couseling, but he will not go. I want...
    motherrof3 motherrof3 41-45 Sep 8, 2012

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    I Give, He Takes...

    i married my husband, knowing he had strong opinions. i didn't realize that 18 years later it would mean that the world revolves around him. his idea of making decisions together is - i want a dog, he doesn't want a dog. end of story...no dog. christmas lights outside. me...
    cerene cerene 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    Married To A Taker Not A Giver.

    i have been with this people for twenty years, two children.She is totally self centered to the point that her needs and wants come before everyones in the family.She,s been to rehab. several times. And every time, I hope that went she's clear and sober, she'll change, but all...
    gnhard gnhard 61-65, M 4 Responses May 7, 2010

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    This Man No One Can Figure Out, But Me,,.......

    Have been with this man for 7 years, Claimed to be a minister of music and this was a fact, and we got involved, he was previously married with 2 daughters and 2 step children, who are all married and have children of their own, his two daughters are now divorced and his step...
    allabotyou allabotyou 46-50 Nov 19, 2011

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    Unknowing

    I wish I would have known how self centered the man I married was before I married him. How he twists things around to make him look like a victim or the good guy. I had no idea that he had a I love me book. A book that shows everything he did. Certificates, medals and stuff like...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2013

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    Really Peeved

    Well, I've posted (vented more like) in other forums but I'm finding this one the most relative for me. I've been with this lovely man for 4 years and it just gets worse and worse.  Today we had a fight over $20. Can you believe it. Ridiculous it is. My brother died a couple of...
    bekahnz bekahnz 31-35 Feb 19, 2012

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    So sick of a dead end marriage.

    I'm alone all week and tomorrow is my birthday. I'm looking for a real present.
    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M Jul 5

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    Is My Fiance Too Young To Show Support & Appreciation?

    I am a 30 year old woman in love with & engaged to a 22 year old man. I can obviously remembering my relationship when I was 22 with another 22 year old and he was not selfish at all. The man I am currently with is very loving in his own unique way, but as the honey moon period...
    lsvidahr lsvidahr 26-30 2 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Everything Was About Him

    Not anymore but I was. It even got to the point that I was handing over my pay check because he deserved it so much.  My whole world revolved around him, no exceptions allowed.Finally it got to be too much and we are no longer married.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    My Wife Is Making Me Lose My Smile.

    I have never written into any websites like this butt I am in desparate need for clear unbiased advice.  I am 35 years old, a father to three great daughters, and married to my highschool sweetheart.  Our relationship has been difficult at times all the way back to our...
    jaghf221 jaghf221 31-35 12 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    Never Listens To Me

    My husband is a true Irish Traveller man, and we have a very traditional marriage as our culture dictates. I stay at home and clean, and soon I will be caring for the children, and he goes out and makes the money as a tree surgeon. I like being a housewife and can't wait to be a...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy 18-21, F 1 Response May 29, 2013

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    Husband & His Ego!

    I have been married to my husband for 10 years this Oct. Married young and very in love. We have a perfect 7 year-old daughter and a baby boy-due any day. When we met and were married my husband was reserved, exceptionally sweet and always aware of the people around him...
    gluvss gluvss 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Thinking Of One

    He only thinks of one..himself. He has been talking about getting another vehicle for him. Just because he wants to be higher off the ground. Never thinking of anybody else or who needs one the most. This makes his second vehicle sense I got mine. I have had mine for about eight...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Self-Centered Vs. Selfish

    When I met my husband he was thoughtful and kind.  Then it was all about us, what we wanted to do, what our plans were, etc.  He was very considerate.  Within the first couple months of being married, I started seeing a trend that, well, it may have been there and...
    Katija Katija 51-55, F 34 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    I know this looks really bad, but please don't judge me. I was 17 when I started working as a waitress in a restaurant in my hometown. One day, as I was about to leave work and...
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    I know this looks really bad, but please don't judge me. I was 17 when I started working as a waitress in a restaurant in my hometown. One day, as I was about to leave work and...
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    I think the root problem of the world is lack of individualism. People are blind, they lack education, character integrity and critical judgment. They are insecure and weak and...
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    It's funny, isn't it? The notion that we don't change over time, that we all stay exactly the same. Nothing challenges that like reconnecting with someone you haven't seen in a...
    lavendersea lavendersea 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Which is stupid, considering how much confidence I have. Anxiety attacks are rare now. I maybe have one a few times a month. PTSD, will torment me for the rest of my life. Oh...
    NoRegretsAndNoRemorse NoRegretsAndNoRemorse 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I got bullied in high school by a bunch of girls. They treated me really badly like someone who wasn't worthy of being their friends. My best friend, only nice friend, eventually...
    Justventingg Justventingg 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    This is hard for me to talk about, I have given this a lot of thought for a long time, for those of you that have read my stories and experiences and who communicate with me on a...
    aerosnz aerosnz 56-60, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I used to read them all the time every single game I would read our messages back and forth over and over but as time has gone by I realized you're not coming back and I don't...
    rayinman02 rayinman02 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    I used to read them all the time every single game I would read our messages back and forth over and over but as time has gone by I realized you're not coming back and I don't...
    rayinman02 rayinman02 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    some days I don't even want to be seen knowing how fat I am. I've starved and that led to counceling. now I'm a depressed, self harmer. see what self confidence can do to a person...
    xXNeverGoodEnoughXx xXNeverGoodEnoughXx 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I never thought myself as pretty or beautiful.I was often teased and bullied as a child.Those experiences affected me in such a way that I began to develop low self-esteem at a...
    KAYDUBAU KAYDUBAU 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    Does anyone here struggle with finding people who won't victim blame or attribute everything you think or do to borderline personality? It just makes it harder to trust one's self...
    rainbowsmangos2015 rainbowsmangos2015 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I think I am looking down on my own self. Yes, I suffered a lot, but I already gave up in wallowing on self-pity. I don't want to attract NEGATIVE people ever again... I believe...
    greenamythese77 greenamythese77 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Ok so I will acknowledge that this is way weird, but here it goes. I met a guy here on ep who turned my world upside down. He pursued me after seeing a few of my experience posts...
    bellyluv3478 bellyluv3478 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    So, this started about a year ago when my husband of five years went to Alexandria Bay for a motorcycle weekend with my stepson and I wasn't allowed to go, even though some of our...
    dawnlw0418 dawnlw0418 31-35, F 13 Responses 5 days ago

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    Dear future self, We both know that pointless niceties mean nothing to us. So, I'll get straight to the point. What have you done? Can you honestly say that you're happy with the...
    PianoChan PianoChan 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    For about two to three years, I have self-harmed. Mostly cutting, but I also punched myself, punched objects, starved and made myself throw up {not sure if that the last two are...
    luciethedepressedllama luciethedepressedllama 16-17, F a week ago

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    It's funny where life takes you sometimes. You can meet one person who can change the entire course of your life. Would you be willing to give up your future goals, give up seeing...
    Milesaway3 Milesaway3 26-30, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Very happily married! It's amazing how well we go together. We're both a little nuts in our own way. I'm a hothead and he tolerates me somehow. He's even helped me become a better...
    kRypt0lite kRypt0lite 22-25 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I am a 58 year old woman who is married to a, ah, how do I describe him. Nice guy when you meet him in a bar, where he spends most of his time if he doesn't find a 'jack of all...
    Debneedshelp Debneedshelp 56-60, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I self-harm my mouth. And I do consider it a serious issue. My boyfriend has seen the effect it has on my mental health. I have bitten 1/2-1 inch white scars on my lips, tongue...
    Chrossy Chrossy 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    He's so awesome and I couldn't be happier. When I was growing up I was afraid to get close to someone because I thought they would judge me and tell me I'm weird since I have...
    MrMenShow MrMenShow 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I was in denial about being a lesbian. I married my best friend, I think a lot of the reason, I was subconsciously trying to find a "normal family." 2 months after getting married...
    michellebella46 michellebella46 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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