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I Am Married to a Self-centered Person

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    I Give, He Takes...

    i married my husband, knowing he had strong opinions. i didn't realize that 18 years later it would mean that the world revolves around him. his idea of making decisions together is - i want a dog, he doesn't want a dog. end of story...no dog. christmas lights outside. me...
    cerene cerene 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    My Husband Forgot My Birthday....Again

    It's not unusual for him to forget my Birthday. Normally, even if he does remember, there's no gifts, no cake, no card. He "treats" me to birthday sex. Whoop-dee-do. Not that I don't appreciate or enjoy sex, but it seems like a self-serving act when that's the only recognition I...
    BethanyRose BethanyRose 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    Prince Or Frog ?? I Think Frog

    I had a bad marriage that I hung on to for way to long than after 16 years divorced. I had married very young so had never gone out or really dated so at 30 when I was single it was amazing and scary because I had no idea what to believe or not believe...even bought the book he's...
    Faith11us Faith11us 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    He thinks about no one

    but himself. I started school about a month ago. We both agreed for him to watch our five month old daughter while I'm in school at nights. He also works two jobs and I thought we were managing it well. Tonight, he tells me that I need to quit school because he can't take it...
    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    Never Listens To Me

    My husband is a true Irish Traveller man, and we have a very traditional marriage as our culture dictates. I stay at home and clean, and soon I will be caring for the children, and he goes out and makes the money as a tree surgeon. I like being a housewife and can't wait to be a...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy 18-21, F 1 Response May 29, 2013

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    Really Peeved

    Well, I've posted (vented more like) in other forums but I'm finding this one the most relative for me. I've been with this lovely man for 4 years and it just gets worse and worse.  Today we had a fight over $20. Can you believe it. Ridiculous it is. My brother died a couple of...
    bekahnz bekahnz 31-35 Feb 19, 2012

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    This Man No One Can Figure Out, But Me,,.......

    Have been with this man for 7 years, Claimed to be a minister of music and this was a fact, and we got involved, he was previously married with 2 daughters and 2 step children, who are all married and have children of their own, his two daughters are now divorced and his step...
    allabotyou allabotyou 46-50 Nov 19, 2011

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    Self-Centered Vs. Selfish

    When I met my husband he was thoughtful and kind.  Then it was all about us, what we wanted to do, what our plans were, etc.  He was very considerate.  Within the first couple months of being married, I started seeing a trend that, well, it may have been there and...
    Katija Katija 51-55, F 33 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    Tell Me How To Survive My Marriage!!

    I am married to a wonderful man who, sometimes, has a generous nature.  Sometimes, has a considerate side.  Occasionally will do house work or yard work for me.  The majority of the time though, he is selfish and self-centered.  He believes the only thing he...
    frustratedgal frustratedgal 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    Thinking Of One

    He only thinks of one..himself. He has been talking about getting another vehicle for him. Just because he wants to be higher off the ground. Never thinking of anybody else or who needs one the most. This makes his second vehicle sense I got mine. I have had mine for about eight...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Everything Was About Him

    Not anymore but I was. It even got to the point that I was handing over my pay check because he deserved it so much.  My whole world revolved around him, no exceptions allowed.Finally it got to be too much and we are no longer married.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    Lied To And Cheated On

    My husband cheated on me and said it was because i did not pay enough attention to him. I have 3 daughters from a previos marriage, i pay most of the bills, and work 2 jobs. I want to leave. My first husband was the same way. I want marriage couseling, but he will not go. I want...
    motherrof3 motherrof3 41-45 Sep 8, 2012

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    Is My Fiance Too Young To Show Support & Appreciation?

    I am a 30 year old woman in love with & engaged to a 22 year old man. I can obviously remembering my relationship when I was 22 with another 22 year old and he was not selfish at all. The man I am currently with is very loving in his own unique way, but as the honey moon period...
    lsvidahr lsvidahr 26-30 2 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Husband & His Ego!

    I have been married to my husband for 10 years this Oct. Married young and very in love. We have a perfect 7 year-old daughter and a baby boy-due any day. When we met and were married my husband was reserved, exceptionally sweet and always aware of the people around him...
    gluvss gluvss 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Unknowing

    I wish I would have known how self centered the man I married was before I married him. How he twists things around to make him look like a victim or the good guy. I had no idea that he had a I love me book. A book that shows everything he did. Certificates, medals and stuff like...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2013

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    It's called narcissism in psychological circles.

    Not necessarily the "in love with ones image"/beauty angle, but a total focus on themselves. In their lives nothing is more important than *their* desires. In my case, my spouse doesn't even see it and would deny it if confronted. But if everything isn't just perfect, in...
    MatureNotDead MatureNotDead 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    My Wife Is Making Me Lose My Smile.

    I have never written into any websites like this butt I am in desparate need for clear unbiased advice.  I am 35 years old, a father to three great daughters, and married to my highschool sweetheart.  Our relationship has been difficult at times all the way back to our...
    jaghf221 jaghf221 31-35 12 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    Married To A Taker Not A Giver.

    i have been with this people for twenty years, two children.She is totally self centered to the point that her needs and wants come before everyones in the family.She,s been to rehab. several times. And every time, I hope that went she's clear and sober, she'll change, but all...
    gnhard gnhard 61-65, M 4 Responses May 7, 2010

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    We married after knowing each other for a few months. Big mistake. I don't know the person I thought I knew and now we have a family. My thoughts are unclear and this is hunting me...
    Beyondthelines Beyondthelines 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    Lately I feel like I have been acting like my former self, the person I tried so hard to suppress. She was a not-so-nice person who did some things that she later regretted. I...
    lillyforever4 lillyforever4 16-17, F Feb 22

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    I lost it long ago and now i have rediscovered it within again.Well being traumatized has made me a weakling and dependent person and i ended up being clingy and a bit over polite...
    GenuineAngel GenuineAngel 18-21, F 22 hrs ago

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    While having a needed discussion about custody of our daughter, it occurred to me that one of their best manipulation tactics is to feign confusion. This is with the intent to not...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Lately I have had very low self confidence When my boyfriend and I started dating I didn't care who or what he looked at but now I find myself doing whatever I can to make sure he...
    curvycutie101 curvycutie101 18-21, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I found this online and wanted to post it To see if it helps anyone "THE DISCOURAGED BORDERLINE – This subcatetory has personality traits similar to the dependent personality...
    cutie7710 cutie7710 36-40, F Feb 9

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    Well; It's a big commitment and isn't it a big mess when it doesn't work out.. I think too many people jump into "marriage" too quickly.. So here's 25 reasons not to marry/settle...
    TheMightyAphrodite TheMightyAphrodite 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 20

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    in a scary way to the point where I rehearse the possible thoughts of OTHERS about who I am. while you're reading this, are you totally taken by my awesome vocabulary? totes love...
    youareme33 youareme33 26-30, F 18 hrs ago

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    Everything that i do and what i hope to do is achieve this goal of mine. Yes it is to be married, some ask me why and i shall tell you . I have lived with my mother and father...
    ImNotRice ImNotRice 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 9

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    This is not a regret, it's something I've known would happen. Parents thankfully divorced at age 4. My dad had weekend custody and is a great dad. Still, I saw how hard being a...
    MissASC77 MissASC77 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I feel like I'm on a roller coaster, I'm constantly going up and down. I feel confident and raring to go one minute and I'm feeling despair, desperate and empty the next. I hate...
    dte21 dte21 18-21, F Feb 19

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    Honestly you can't find people with self-respect anymore ... I really admire a person who can take the time to really understand their self-worth . Exposing yourself isn't...
    xolex18 xolex18 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    First and foremost let me apologize, of the skills I possess my writing happens to be the weakest of them and has always left me feeling at somewhat of a disadvantage when trying...
    nustalja nustalja 51-55, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    So many people in my age group are beginning to self harm and it makes me sick. I wish I could stop. This is my story: When I was younger, I would look at self harmers and go, "My...
    lily13576349 lily13576349 13-15, F Feb 17

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    I just started posting here and I do have to say, the negativity on here in this category is mind blowing. I want to share my experience about how I met my husband. When we met, he...
    Lil5 Lil5 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I have been married for less than a year now. To be honest, I didn't want to get married at the time, I would have much preferred to wait a couple more years. However, I was...
    languishing languishing 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 13

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    wait.....does that even make any since? anyways, there is a difference between love and marriage. i bet you've heard that one before too many times. Getting married has to be done...
    ThatOneSomaliGirl ThatOneSomaliGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 23

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    I know that i'm going to be getting married soon. I'm in my late 20s and I'm finally ready for marriage. My partner has yet to ask me, but I can feel that he's going to soon...
    ksmith0315 ksmith0315 26-30 1 Response Feb 23

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    So my husband and I. We've been together for 12 years, married for 8. We have 2 kids together. We met when we were both abroad, and he pretty much moved to a different continent...
    quira00 quira00 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Just remember this... if someone is putting you down, hurting you emotionally, making you feel like crap because of something you say or do, because of how you look, or because...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I guess I'm just like every other person here that says they are married but lonely. So to start, I have been with my wife for 20+ years, and married for almost 18. We met...
    dgob1 dgob1 41-45, M 6 Responses Feb 6

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    not in the meaning of selfish but I spend 70% of my day time alone in my work I tried not to talk to others I left home some times I stop the car and set with my self I love my...
    tetomni tetomni 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    As much as I hate being single, I'm happy I'm not married. I turned 21 in 2014 and I think it's ridiculous that people get married before 21. Just have a little bit of your youth...
    tgf12 tgf12 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    I married my wife almost 27 years ago. Over the years she has done some pretty out of character things. I guess the first time was after we were married about 5 years. My daughter...
    shohawk shohawk 46-50, M a week ago

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    just a heads up my spelling is not the greatest nor is my grammar so please be easy xP. my entire life it has been so easy for me to find the greatness in others and bring it out...
    Lugelogistics93 Lugelogistics93 18-21, M 2 days ago

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