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I Am Married to a Self-centered Person

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 85 People

    Lied To And Cheated On

    My husband cheated on me and said it was because i did not pay enough attention to him. I have 3 daughters from a previos marriage, i pay most of the bills, and work 2 jobs. I want to leave. My first husband was the same way. I want marriage couseling, but he will not go. I want...
    motherrof3 motherrof3 41-45 Sep 8, 2012

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    Married To A Taker Not A Giver.

    i have been with this people for twenty years, two children.She is totally self centered to the point that her needs and wants come before everyones in the family.She,s been to rehab. several times. And every time, I hope that went she's clear and sober, she'll change, but all...
    gnhard gnhard 61-65, M 4 Responses May 7, 2010

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    Never Listens To Me

    My husband is a true Irish Traveller man, and we have a very traditional marriage as our culture dictates. I stay at home and clean, and soon I will be caring for the children, and he goes out and makes the money as a tree surgeon. I like being a housewife and can't wait to be a...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy 18-21, F 1 Response May 29, 2013

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    I Give, He Takes...

    i married my husband, knowing he had strong opinions. i didn't realize that 18 years later it would mean that the world revolves around him. his idea of making decisions together is - i want a dog, he doesn't want a dog. end of story...no dog. christmas lights outside. me...
    cerene cerene 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    This Man No One Can Figure Out, But Me,,.......

    Have been with this man for 7 years, Claimed to be a minister of music and this was a fact, and we got involved, he was previously married with 2 daughters and 2 step children, who are all married and have children of their own, his two daughters are now divorced and his step...
    allabotyou allabotyou 46-50 Nov 19, 2011

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    It's called narcissism in psychological circles.

    Not necessarily the "in love with ones image"/beauty angle, but a total focus on themselves. In their lives nothing is more important than *their* desires. In my case, my spouse doesn't even see it and would deny it if confronted. But if everything isn't just perfect, in...
    MatureNotDead MatureNotDead 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 9

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    Tell Me How To Survive My Marriage!!

    I am married to a wonderful man who, sometimes, has a generous nature.  Sometimes, has a considerate side.  Occasionally will do house work or yard work for me.  The majority of the time though, he is selfish and self-centered.  He believes the only thing he...
    frustratedgal frustratedgal 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    Everything Was About Him

    Not anymore but I was. It even got to the point that I was handing over my pay check because he deserved it so much.  My whole world revolved around him, no exceptions allowed.Finally it got to be too much and we are no longer married.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    He thinks about no one

    but himself. I started school about a month ago. We both agreed for him to watch our five month old daughter while I'm in school at nights. He also works two jobs and I thought we were managing it well. Tonight, he tells me that I need to quit school because he can't take it...
    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    Prince Or Frog ?? I Think Frog

    I had a bad marriage that I hung on to for way to long than after 16 years divorced. I had married very young so had never gone out or really dated so at 30 when I was single it was amazing and scary because I had no idea what to believe or not believe...even bought the book he's...
    Faith11us Faith11us 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Husband & His Ego!

    I have been married to my husband for 10 years this Oct. Married young and very in love. We have a perfect 7 year-old daughter and a baby boy-due any day. When we met and were married my husband was reserved, exceptionally sweet and always aware of the people around him...
    gluvss gluvss 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Is My Fiance Too Young To Show Support & Appreciation?

    I am a 30 year old woman in love with & engaged to a 22 year old man. I can obviously remembering my relationship when I was 22 with another 22 year old and he was not selfish at all. The man I am currently with is very loving in his own unique way, but as the honey moon period...
    lsvidahr lsvidahr 26-30 2 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Really Peeved

    Well, I've posted (vented more like) in other forums but I'm finding this one the most relative for me. I've been with this lovely man for 4 years and it just gets worse and worse.  Today we had a fight over $20. Can you believe it. Ridiculous it is. My brother died a couple of...
    bekahnz bekahnz 31-35 Feb 19, 2012

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    Self-Centered Vs. Selfish

    When I met my husband he was thoughtful and kind.  Then it was all about us, what we wanted to do, what our plans were, etc.  He was very considerate.  Within the first couple months of being married, I started seeing a trend that, well, it may have been there and...
    Katija Katija 51-55, F 33 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    Unknowing

    I wish I would have known how self centered the man I married was before I married him. How he twists things around to make him look like a victim or the good guy. I had no idea that he had a I love me book. A book that shows everything he did. Certificates, medals and stuff like...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2013

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    My Wife Is Making Me Lose My Smile.

    I have never written into any websites like this butt I am in desparate need for clear unbiased advice.  I am 35 years old, a father to three great daughters, and married to my highschool sweetheart.  Our relationship has been difficult at times all the way back to our...
    jaghf221 jaghf221 31-35 12 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    My Husband Forgot My Birthday....Again

    It's not unusual for him to forget my Birthday. Normally, even if he does remember, there's no gifts, no cake, no card. He "treats" me to birthday sex. Whoop-dee-do. Not that I don't appreciate or enjoy sex, but it seems like a self-serving act when that's the only recognition I...
    BethanyRose BethanyRose 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    Thinking Of One

    He only thinks of one..himself. He has been talking about getting another vehicle for him. Just because he wants to be higher off the ground. Never thinking of anybody else or who needs one the most. This makes his second vehicle sense I got mine. I have had mine for about eight...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Amen to that. Some forget that I am a real person with real feelings. Mostly those self-centered people I've known. I should learn to stay away from people like that.
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    I'm always the problem, always the issue. Always the one that makes everything worse and puts everyone in a bad mood. I'm just a horrible bad person. Who cares if I'm sad because...
    Natharm Natharm 13-15 Dec 17

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    Have always believed that if you married the right person, you got a pass on lots of mistakes. Marrying my wife is the single best move I ever made.
    ILoveAmy ILoveAmy 56-60, M 1 Response Nov 28

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    Okay, so I got back home today from college (I go to college from home) and my mother opened the door. Her eyes were swollen and red from crying. I had no idea what had happened at...
    aphoenix7777 aphoenix7777 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 17

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    i met a wonderful woman in 2012,she was going through a divorce,she is from Melbourne,has three teenagers,i am a single dad to a beautiful daughter..but regardless of all the...
    kieran78 kieran78 36-40, M 2 hrs ago

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    --Choosing to become a better person, or a worse one-- There can be a state of soul against which Love itself is powerless because it has hardened itself against Love... a...
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 26-30, M 4 hrs ago

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    The fact that I am writing here saddens me. I have been married to my husband for 4 years, with him 9. We have a pre-school age son and I have two adult stepsons. Our marriage...
    whenitsgooditsamazing whenitsgooditsamazing 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 5

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    Here's what you need to know about me. "The INTP personality type is fairly rare, making up only three percent of the population, which is definitely a good thing for them, as...
    Theworldisminenow Theworldisminenow 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 6

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    My experiences growing up haven't been good ones I was befriended a lot and didn't have anyone to take care of me I came from a broken family and didn't care much about myself. My...
    Bella70 Bella70 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 27

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    Is it wrong for me to ask of my husband to stay fit? We've been married for 8 years, like everyone I over eat during the holidays and sometimes allow myself to gain about 5lbs but...
    evolvinggirl evolvinggirl 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 7

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    My english isnt so good im from italy.i been with my wife for 10 years 8 dating two years married. i feel if i can never do any thing right or im walking on egg shell's. her mood...
    wedtoaborderline wedtoaborderline 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 10

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    My english isnt so good im from italy.i been with my wife for 10 years 8 dating two years married. i feel if i can never do any thing right or im walking on egg shell's. her mood...
    wedtoaborderline wedtoaborderline 31-35, M Dec 10

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    I married an alcoholic 16 years ago. We have 3 kids. I just graduated college and I finally have a way to support my kids and I. I also realized that I am not the problem. I have...
    vhupka14 vhupka14 41-45 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Self esteem issues are real! In fact they are more real now, than they have ever been! Living in a society obsessed by Image! Image! Image!, a society where the world is at the tip...
    pristee88 pristee88 22-25, F Dec 2

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    I really am hoping to be with that special person in my life and get married when we can, at 34 going on 35 people say ooohhh your still young live a little more and some say don't...
    xxSTEVE7xx xxSTEVE7xx 31-35, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hi, my name is Laura and I'm 21 years old. Two years ago (start of 2013) I moved from my hometown in NSW, Australia, to South Australia to start university. I'm a musician and...
    Lesmall Lesmall 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I am married to a woman who was married before I met her. We met years after her divorce. We met and got married and have been together 5 years. she had 2 kids who I accepted as...
    lonelyinohio31 lonelyinohio31 31-35, M 7 Responses Nov 28

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    I am nothing but a shadow of my former self . I was lost somewhere in the deep darkness of hell . Because what I been trough and how people treated me all my life....I changed . I...
    Sjenka Sjenka 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 7

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    I'd like to be honest with you. I don't know you, and you don't know me, and that makes it easier for me to get all of this out. I want to be really honest with someone other than...
    kurioussubmissive kurioussubmissive 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 9

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    This is only my 2nd post on this website. Back in February, I was confused about my orientation and that prompted me to search the internet for help, which is how I stumbled on the...
    confusedboomer confusedboomer 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I have two more funny kind of person questions for any guy brave enough to answer. 1. When men lay naked on the beach some but their toy (u have to use you words careful on here...
    loopylue loopylue 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    It was to the person who I thought loved me. Turns out it was love for a while it lasted. Now I have did four men in total. Yeah go ahead judge me. But hey at least I didn't just...
    ti777 ti777 18-21 1 Response Dec 8

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    A true friend I met on EP (thanks you) sent me this Clifton StrengthsFinder test for free. I now know what my dominate abilities are capable of and also what I needed to STOP doing...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 14

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    Nov. 20, 2014 5:30pm I don't know what is wrong with me. I felt so happy when I got home. I felt so much love for mj and I was just on cloud nine. But I guess my flight reached...
    yonnie97 yonnie97 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 12

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    i dont know if its a sign of weakness or if am a chicken but whenever someone tells me something hurtful i just cry or not respond to them or run away, people always where...
    collegegirl20 collegegirl20 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 30

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    It's almost spot on. I'm just not usually lost in thought. I'm absent minded because I don't sleep. That and I don't work on life-changing theories. XD "Portrait of an INTP...
    Twichl Twichl 18-21, F Dec 1

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    I'm not married, but I see so many young women my age that are. Most of my friends are married, but they really don't have a career. Granted, I am happy for them and respect their...
    agathashelly agathashelly 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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