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I Am Married to a Self-centered Person

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 86 People

    Thinking Of One

    He only thinks of one..himself. He has been talking about getting another vehicle for him. Just because he wants to be higher off the ground. Never thinking of anybody else or who needs one the most. This makes his second vehicle sense I got mine. I have had mine for about eight...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Is My Fiance Too Young To Show Support & Appreciation?

    I am a 30 year old woman in love with & engaged to a 22 year old man. I can obviously remembering my relationship when I was 22 with another 22 year old and he was not selfish at all. The man I am currently with is very loving in his own unique way, but as the honey moon period...
    lsvidahr lsvidahr 26-30 2 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Tell Me How To Survive My Marriage!!

    I am married to a wonderful man who, sometimes, has a generous nature.  Sometimes, has a considerate side.  Occasionally will do house work or yard work for me.  The majority of the time though, he is selfish and self-centered.  He believes the only thing he...
    frustratedgal frustratedgal 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    This Man No One Can Figure Out, But Me,,.......

    Have been with this man for 7 years, Claimed to be a minister of music and this was a fact, and we got involved, he was previously married with 2 daughters and 2 step children, who are all married and have children of their own, his two daughters are now divorced and his step...
    allabotyou allabotyou 46-50 Nov 19, 2011

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    He thinks about no one

    but himself. I started school about a month ago. We both agreed for him to watch our five month old daughter while I'm in school at nights. He also works two jobs and I thought we were managing it well. Tonight, he tells me that I need to quit school because he can't take it...
    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    My Wife Is Making Me Lose My Smile.

    I have never written into any websites like this butt I am in desparate need for clear unbiased advice.  I am 35 years old, a father to three great daughters, and married to my highschool sweetheart.  Our relationship has been difficult at times all the way back to our...
    jaghf221 jaghf221 31-35 12 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    It's called narcissism in psychological circles.

    Not necessarily the "in love with ones image"/beauty angle, but a total focus on themselves. In their lives nothing is more important than *their* desires. In my case, my spouse doesn't even see it and would deny it if confronted. But if everything isn't just perfect, in...
    MatureNotDead MatureNotDead 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    Married To A Taker Not A Giver.

    i have been with this people for twenty years, two children.She is totally self centered to the point that her needs and wants come before everyones in the family.She,s been to rehab. several times. And every time, I hope that went she's clear and sober, she'll change, but all...
    gnhard gnhard 61-65, M 4 Responses May 7, 2010

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    My Husband Forgot My Birthday....Again

    It's not unusual for him to forget my Birthday. Normally, even if he does remember, there's no gifts, no cake, no card. He "treats" me to birthday sex. Whoop-dee-do. Not that I don't appreciate or enjoy sex, but it seems like a self-serving act when that's the only recognition I...
    BethanyRose BethanyRose 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    Lied To And Cheated On

    My husband cheated on me and said it was because i did not pay enough attention to him. I have 3 daughters from a previos marriage, i pay most of the bills, and work 2 jobs. I want to leave. My first husband was the same way. I want marriage couseling, but he will not go. I want...
    motherrof3 motherrof3 41-45 Sep 8, 2012

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    Unknowing

    I wish I would have known how self centered the man I married was before I married him. How he twists things around to make him look like a victim or the good guy. I had no idea that he had a I love me book. A book that shows everything he did. Certificates, medals and stuff like...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2013

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    I Give, He Takes...

    i married my husband, knowing he had strong opinions. i didn't realize that 18 years later it would mean that the world revolves around him. his idea of making decisions together is - i want a dog, he doesn't want a dog. end of story...no dog. christmas lights outside. me...
    cerene cerene 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    Everything Was About Him

    Not anymore but I was. It even got to the point that I was handing over my pay check because he deserved it so much.  My whole world revolved around him, no exceptions allowed.Finally it got to be too much and we are no longer married.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    Husband & His Ego!

    I have been married to my husband for 10 years this Oct. Married young and very in love. We have a perfect 7 year-old daughter and a baby boy-due any day. When we met and were married my husband was reserved, exceptionally sweet and always aware of the people around him...
    gluvss gluvss 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    Self-Centered Vs. Selfish

    When I met my husband he was thoughtful and kind.  Then it was all about us, what we wanted to do, what our plans were, etc.  He was very considerate.  Within the first couple months of being married, I started seeing a trend that, well, it may have been there and...
    Katija Katija 51-55, F 33 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    Prince Or Frog ?? I Think Frog

    I had a bad marriage that I hung on to for way to long than after 16 years divorced. I had married very young so had never gone out or really dated so at 30 when I was single it was amazing and scary because I had no idea what to believe or not believe...even bought the book he's...
    Faith11us Faith11us 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Really Peeved

    Well, I've posted (vented more like) in other forums but I'm finding this one the most relative for me. I've been with this lovely man for 4 years and it just gets worse and worse.  Today we had a fight over $20. Can you believe it. Ridiculous it is. My brother died a couple of...
    bekahnz bekahnz 31-35 Feb 19, 2012

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    Never Listens To Me

    My husband is a true Irish Traveller man, and we have a very traditional marriage as our culture dictates. I stay at home and clean, and soon I will be caring for the children, and he goes out and makes the money as a tree surgeon. I like being a housewife and can't wait to be a...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy 18-21, F 1 Response May 29, 2013

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    I hate my anxieties. I hate my self destructive persona. I hate how I am on the outside. I hate how I am on the inside.
    betelgeusex3 betelgeusex3 22-25, F Apr 25

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    I Need to Decide If I'll Stay In My Marriage I have been in a relationship for 4 years plus with my bf 4 years younger than me. my question to him back then was that i wanted to...
    tinggal123 tinggal123 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    Moving anymore is arduous. Every muscle, every joint groans complaining on the attempts in getting out of bed. My morale has abandoned ship as I sit on the side while the alarm...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 41-45, M 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    My husband and his oldest son both use marijuana to self-medication their Borderline Personality. But honestly, it does nothing for the anger, rage, and other negative behaviors...
    Amanda205 Amanda205 31-35, F 12 hrs ago

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    It is impressed upon us to accept the positives and negatives of the people in our lives for it to be classified as true care. But what is the line where this changes from true...
    Ilovetohearmostofyourthoughts Ilovetohearmostofyourthoughts 70+, F 3 hrs ago

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    I HAVE DONE A LOT OF BAD THINGS TO PEOPLE...... SOME DESERVED IT...SOME DID NOT......JUDGE ME IF YOU WILL...... My whole life has been one disaster after another. I was...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 3 Responses May 4

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    Communication......Merriam Webster tells us the following....": the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 10 Responses May 2

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    1994: He was everything to me when we met, just a strong quiet gentleman, an inexperienced one but at the time I thought that would be better than all those jerks I was with before...
    jenbuck69 jenbuck69 41-45, F May 1

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    Its happening again. At the moment my self esteem, as I've realised over the years is faltering and recently flatlinning. These days its just barely beyond functioning. I've lived...
    lass1 lass1 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 3 Responses May 5

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    I've been thinking about something for a while now, to no avail. So, when asked what I consider to be the worst thing about being transgender, and if I'm being serious, I tend to...
    SourPennies SourPennies 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    I've been married once and he ruined it after just 2 weeks into it. I continued to stay in a marriage for 3 years and it turned me into a really ugly person. Plus getting married...
    LUzunov LUzunov 18-21, F May 7

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    I woke up this morning and realized that I don't have many friends or a girlfriend, because I have low self esteem and self confidence, I have always known there was something...
    JodyValero JodyValero 18-21, M 1 Response May 12

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    Crushes are beyond weird. So far, I had crushes on two married guys. I had no idea they were married until I found out. One was my neighbor, who was often shirtless and played the...
    JumpingTomatoes JumpingTomatoes 18-21 a week ago

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    So much to say and no idea where to start...I have been married for 20 years and as time has progressed, the more emotionally unavailable she has become. At this point, I live my...
    Rebigulator Rebigulator 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 23

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    I am inlove with a MM. But unlike alot of you, I went into this with my eyes wide open. As in, he told me from day one, his not looking to break his family or hurt his wife. He...
    tklovesjh tklovesjh 31-35, F Apr 26

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    I got out. Best decision of my life. Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I am legally married to my husband, and we have been together since 2001, married since 2008. I am only here for friendships with kind and like minded people. Please do not send me...
    NeoGeo70 NeoGeo70 41-45, M Apr 30

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    Am I too young to be married? I'm almost 20 now and I got married 18. I have a baby 7 months. I feel like my mind is affected emotionally to a lot of things. Maybe is it becos im...
    loveumybabyliam loveumybabyliam 18-21, F May 3

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    We met on EP actually. His name was Jason. We talked all the time about anything and everything, being intimate over the phone quite a bit. I thought I was in love. I thought he...
    BeautifulxDelusions BeautifulxDelusions 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6

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    I am very conflicted in my approach to this. I told my wife soon after we married, after our first son was born (his being a very large part of why we married, resulting from my...
    NorthCoast1 NorthCoast1 41-45, M 1 Response May 7

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    I actually wanted to share this very personal message to everyone with self-harm scars... This isn't anything to prevent you to get more or anything like that, but it's a haunting...
    HighEndofYourLow HighEndofYourLow 18-21, F 2 Responses May 7

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    In person, if you just push yourself into my personal bubble and force yourself into my personal space, then I become uncomfortable. If you're extroverted, do that and think I hate...
    THISarcane THISarcane 18-21, F May 8

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    Is there anyone here who is truly happily married? Not just in the moment, but generally usually very happy? What is the key to the happiness? And what would make a happy married...
    lit4love lit4love 26-30, F 14 Responses May 9

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