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I Am Married to a Self-centered Person

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    My Husband Forgot My Birthday....Again

    It's not unusual for him to forget my Birthday. Normally, even if he does remember, there's no gifts, no cake, no card. He "treats" me to birthday sex. Whoop-dee-do. Not that I don't appreciate or enjoy sex, but it seems like a self-serving act when that's the only recognition I...
    BethanyRose BethanyRose 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    Married To A Taker Not A Giver.

    i have been with this people for twenty years, two children.She is totally self centered to the point that her needs and wants come before everyones in the family.She,s been to rehab. several times. And every time, I hope that went she's clear and sober, she'll change, but all...
    gnhard gnhard 61-65, M 4 Responses May 7, 2010

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    Self-Centered Vs. Selfish

    When I met my husband he was thoughtful and kind.  Then it was all about us, what we wanted to do, what our plans were, etc.  He was very considerate.  Within the first couple months of being married, I started seeing a trend that, well, it may have been there and...
    Katija Katija 51-55, F 33 Responses Jul 2, 2007

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    Lied To And Cheated On

    My husband cheated on me and said it was because i did not pay enough attention to him. I have 3 daughters from a previos marriage, i pay most of the bills, and work 2 jobs. I want to leave. My first husband was the same way. I want marriage couseling, but he will not go. I want...
    motherrof3 motherrof3 41-45 Sep 8, 2012

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    Is My Fiance Too Young To Show Support & Appreciation?

    I am a 30 year old woman in love with & engaged to a 22 year old man. I can obviously remembering my relationship when I was 22 with another 22 year old and he was not selfish at all. The man I am currently with is very loving in his own unique way, but as the honey moon period...
    lsvidahr lsvidahr 26-30 2 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    Never Listens To Me

    My husband is a true Irish Traveller man, and we have a very traditional marriage as our culture dictates. I stay at home and clean, and soon I will be caring for the children, and he goes out and makes the money as a tree surgeon. I like being a housewife and can't wait to be a...
    poppyjoy poppyjoy 18-21, F 1 Response May 29, 2013

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    Everything Was About Him

    Not anymore but I was. It even got to the point that I was handing over my pay check because he deserved it so much.  My whole world revolved around him, no exceptions allowed.Finally it got to be too much and we are no longer married.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 6, 2007

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    Unknowing

    I wish I would have known how self centered the man I married was before I married him. How he twists things around to make him look like a victim or the good guy. I had no idea that he had a I love me book. A book that shows everything he did. Certificates, medals and stuff like...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2013

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    Really Peeved

    Well, I've posted (vented more like) in other forums but I'm finding this one the most relative for me. I've been with this lovely man for 4 years and it just gets worse and worse.  Today we had a fight over $20. Can you believe it. Ridiculous it is. My brother died a couple of...
    bekahnz bekahnz 31-35 Feb 19, 2012

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    Thinking Of One

    He only thinks of one..himself. He has been talking about getting another vehicle for him. Just because he wants to be higher off the ground. Never thinking of anybody else or who needs one the most. This makes his second vehicle sense I got mine. I have had mine for about eight...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 19, 2013

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    Prince Or Frog ?? I Think Frog

    I had a bad marriage that I hung on to for way to long than after 16 years divorced. I had married very young so had never gone out or really dated so at 30 when I was single it was amazing and scary because I had no idea what to believe or not believe...even bought the book he's...
    Faith11us Faith11us 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Tell Me How To Survive My Marriage!!

    I am married to a wonderful man who, sometimes, has a generous nature.  Sometimes, has a considerate side.  Occasionally will do house work or yard work for me.  The majority of the time though, he is selfish and self-centered.  He believes the only thing he...
    frustratedgal frustratedgal 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    This Man No One Can Figure Out, But Me,,.......

    Have been with this man for 7 years, Claimed to be a minister of music and this was a fact, and we got involved, he was previously married with 2 daughters and 2 step children, who are all married and have children of their own, his two daughters are now divorced and his step...
    allabotyou allabotyou 46-50 Nov 19, 2011

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    I Give, He Takes...

    i married my husband, knowing he had strong opinions. i didn't realize that 18 years later it would mean that the world revolves around him. his idea of making decisions together is - i want a dog, he doesn't want a dog. end of story...no dog. christmas lights outside. me...
    cerene cerene 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    Husband & His Ego!

    I have been married to my husband for 10 years this Oct. Married young and very in love. We have a perfect 7 year-old daughter and a baby boy-due any day. When we met and were married my husband was reserved, exceptionally sweet and always aware of the people around him...
    gluvss gluvss 26-30 4 Responses Jun 2, 2011

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    My Wife Is Making Me Lose My Smile.

    I have never written into any websites like this butt I am in desparate need for clear unbiased advice.  I am 35 years old, a father to three great daughters, and married to my highschool sweetheart.  Our relationship has been difficult at times all the way back to our...
    jaghf221 jaghf221 31-35 12 Responses Dec 28, 2010

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    He thinks about no one

    but himself. I started school about a month ago. We both agreed for him to watch our five month old daughter while I'm in school at nights. He also works two jobs and I thought we were managing it well. Tonight, he tells me that I need to quit school because he can't take it...
    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2014

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    It's called narcissism in psychological circles.

    Not necessarily the "in love with ones image"/beauty angle, but a total focus on themselves. In their lives nothing is more important than *their* desires. In my case, my spouse doesn't even see it and would deny it if confronted. But if everything isn't just perfect, in...
    MatureNotDead MatureNotDead 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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