I Am Married to a Workaholic

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 101 People

    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 17, 2015

    Last night he said he was feeling tired

    and would come to bed "early", getting me excited about sleeping next to him. That was at around 1:30a. When I woke up for our son about an hour later, I asked if he was still coming to bed. He says "soon!" in an aggravated tone like I'm nagging him. He didn't get to bed till...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    Sep 15, 2015

    It's Friday night. Kids are at grandma's.

    I'm home earlier than usual. Everything somehow worked out *perfectly* to be able to have a childless, relaxed night out with my husband. Like the whole dinner-movie-sex package without rushing. But, instead............he wants to go out and shop for more inventory. And he...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Oct 9, 2015

    Doesn't Desire Me A Bit

    So I had just gotten out of the shower, and was bent completely over at the waist to towel off my hair. My husband walks in, with my "attributes" fully exposed and does nothing but chuckle. Way to make a girl feel sexy. The few times we do have sex, it's a 5-minute event. He...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2011

    Tired of Feeling Like a Single Parent...

    We just had our 22nd anniversary, we have three kids the youngest is 5. My husband had to change careers several years back because of his health...so he went into the medical field which began the graveyard shift. This is right around the time I had my last baby, so the combo of...
    sostinkinlonely sostinkinlonely
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2008

    She is hot but never wants to have sex.

    She work more than 14hs a day. I'm needing a beautiful girl, an affair.
    rioBrazil rioBrazil
    41-45, M
    Jan 1, 2014

    Married to a Man, Who Is Married to a Business

    My husband works approx 85 hours a week in a family business.  I feel like this is the worst type of workaholic.  Work is emotional because it is your family who isn't pulling their weight, the people your husband chooses to spend all of his time with are his parents...
    married2aghost married2aghost
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2008

    Workaholic Partner

    I feel like I'm in a relationship where I am never going to get back the man I loved. I never bargained for any of this. All I seem to do is give, give, give to him, for his happiness. I feel like keeping him happy IS my career.What about my happiness? I don't ever think I will...
    Bitter1313 Bitter1313
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    coryleecc11 coryleecc11
    26-30, F
    Oct 10, 2015

    My Boyfriend Is Obsessed With Work...

    Okay, so I'm not married. But I live with my boyfriend and I believe he's a workaholic, so I hope it counts. We've been together for 3 years.  I adore him. Except for the workaholic thing, we're golden.  I love being with him: we challenge each other intellectually, we...
    queenofmeh queenofmeh
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jan 8, 2008

    I'm Breaking Up

    Ours was an arranged marriage. From the very first I noticed my husband always seemed very busy. To make it worse my mother in law always made me feel that I was not good enough for my hubby. I was quite pretty but very naive. As years passed he seemed to get busier. Innitially...
    bamboozled bamboozled
    1 Response Apr 11, 2009

    Husband Chose Job Over Family

    I am a mother of 4 young children ages 18 months, 4, 7, and 8. I work full time as a kindergarten teacher. My husband chose to move out of state to "advance his career." I have been teaching for 10 years at the same school, both sets of the kids grandparents live within 5 miles...
    Girlonfire4 Girlonfire4
    4 Responses Mar 3, 2013

    Getting A Promotion

    My husband is working towards a promotion of worker to manager. Now travels 4 out of 7 days a week just about every week. When he is home, he works from home and my children and I have go be quiet. If we do something together I feel like it's a waste of his time. Wasted time he...
    gott2teach gott2teach
    Feb 17, 2012

    My Relationship With A Workaholic.

      I went out with someone for 18 months who was a workaholic and I want to share what I learnt for anyone else who is in the same situation, we'd talked about getting married. She worked as a store manager and always worked hard and quite long hours, but we still had a...
    dan1234a dan1234a
    31-35, M
    Jun 25, 2012


    I have been married to a man that has been a workaholic for almost 35 years. My husband was a police officier and that is a very time consuming job. He was hardly ever home and I had to take care of my children alone. Most of our holidays were spent with my family and we attended...
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2008

    The Psychological Battle

    Yesterday, after 16 years of being married to my workaholic husband, I finally realized that this is mentally abusive. My husband is the one with a problem not me. Yet, since I've known him, he's made me feel guilty for wanting him home. He's said, "I'm earning this kind of...
    2cztheday 2cztheday
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 1, 2009

    When I told my husband yesterday

    that I don't feel that important due to his preference to work all the time, his response was, and I quote, "Feeling important comes at a high cost. I'm sorry if that upsets you." I'm tired of sex being the only thing he makes time for. And even that one is becoming a stretch...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2015

    Workaholic And Now Has Own Business

    Actually, my husband is an alcoholic who has been sober 10 years. (no program) And he is a workaholic. He went into business for himself a year ago and things have gotten worse. I try to tell myself to be grateful as I have a girlfriend whose husband didn't work for 2 1/2...
    Goddess65 Goddess65
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012

    32 Years Of Nothing

    I have been married to a workaholic for 32 years. Now I realize that my children have their own lives and I don't have a life at all. I have been doing and living for these people since I was 17. Now I am almost 50 and the kids have moved out and my husband continues to work...
    lonelycfo lonelycfo
    5 Responses Mar 9, 2013

    I'm starting to grow tired of his mistress known

    as Work. Work always comes before anything else. Weekends are the worst; the kids and I miss him but "there is so much to get done still!" I have been extremely supportive of the family business...but I can only cope with emotional deprivation for so long. I can't keep managing...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    Going Out For Drinks

    My husband invited all of his employees out for drinks the Wednesday before Thanksgiving. Funny, he invited me too (the irony: he often treats me like one of his employees). Funny thing is, once I got there his guys (entirely male dept.) were all over me. There used to be a woman...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 27, 2011

    New Documentary Focusing On Work Addiction

    A major cable network brings you the life changing new series…“I’M A WORKAHOLIC” Does working give you an adrenaline rush more than anything else? Do you think you are the only one who can do the job right? Do you take work with you to bed? On weekends? On...
    WorkaholicDocumentary WorkaholicDocumentary
    36-40, M
    Nov 14, 2012


    My hubby is a good worker and a workaholic. I can say the same about me.  I was also told.  BUT being ill, screwed some stuff for me.  Anyway, healing and dedication needs being met before we can take over again and reinvent ourselves.  Positive is key!
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Aug 8, 2011

    How Do We End Up With A Workaholic Or In A Loveless Relationship...

    I've been married to possibly a workaholic, but at least an indifferent spouse for many years.  I more accurately perceive my spouse as lacking the ability to be intimate emotionally and therefore, physically.  My story is the same as all those I've read over the...
    mydiversion mydiversion
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2010

    When he has time to himself,

    he works. When I have time to myself, I relax. He may be the more successful one between the two of us, but I feel (ironically) more satisfied at the end of the day.
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    Aug 29, 2015

    I am married (22 years together today) to

    workaholic but contrary to most- this one is broke. He has stolen hundreds of thousands of dollars under a disguise of business needs (from me- money I had before married to him) leaving me bankrupt. He has stolen my jewelry by selling it to a pound shops for pennies (I only...
    SonomaDream SonomaDream
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 26, 2014

    Work Is The Only Thing On His Mind

    He works 10- to 12-hour days. When he gets home, he talks about work. After dinner, he falls asleep watching TV. I barely get a chance to talk to him in the morning.
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Oct 28, 2011

    Question For All Of You In This Group.

    What do you consider quality time with your spouse.In trying to talk to my partner last night about my loneliness and the fact his mind is on work even when he is home.  His response was that quality time is when we do things together like going to the grocery store or running...
    MariaGeorgeB MariaGeorgeB
    5 Responses Dec 2, 2011

    Husband Changed Careers And Now Won't Stop Working

    My husband is 35 years old and just made a career change last year to become a chef. Recently he started at a new job and now everything has become the job. It has lead to part of my depression which in turn has made things not right between us. He works constantly, everything...
    want2bstronger want2bstronger
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 14, 2011

    I Deserve Better....

    I am probably like so many other people out there. I tried everything to make my marriage work. I made every attempt to find middle ground. I really tried to explain to my husband that there is this great theory out there called "work-life-balance". Unfortunately for me, I...
    cablegirl01 cablegirl01
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 20, 2010

    I Stay With Him For The Money

    I've never really told my story to anyone. It's easier to put on a fake smile and pretend everything's perfect. Husband is addicted to work. He can't relax away from the office. He works from early morning until the middle of the night. He's never, ever home. And when he's home...
    Inkiri Inkiri
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jul 27, 2011

    I Can't Walk Away

    I have been dating the guy of my dreams for many years.  He is everything I have ever wanted in a man.  However, he is an entrprenuer and a workaholic to the 10th power!!!  I used to second guess his feelings for me, but I have grown to realize that he really does...
    Kyra1973 Kyra1973
    2 Responses Jul 5, 2009

    At My Wits End...

    I am at a point where I dont know what to do anymore in my relationship. I want things to work out, but frankly I dont know how to make that happen. Heres a bit of background, my spouse just recently had a very decent position literally fall into his lap. He had been working...
    KAT80 KAT80
    7 Responses Oct 28, 2010

    I just realized something: I don't think my

    husband is planning on changing anything in his routine once the baby is here... Looks like I'll have to remind him that I won't be able to get the kids to and from preschool and to plan accordingly. He can't keep having "hire some help" be his go to response for everything...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 16, 2015

    I'm Thinking of Leaving My workaholic Girlfriend

     My fiance and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now (We are both women). We don't live together yet, but are building a house. I have sold my house in preparation for this (but she pays for me and my young daughter to stay in an apartment, instead of moving in with her...
    inkandpaper inkandpaper
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 26, 2009

    A lot of times this feels no different from

    living with an addict. Heaven forbid I ever mention not needing to work so much. Which I really only do when there is puh-lenty of money-making work to do right here at home. It's plain as crystalline balls that he's in it for the rush he gets from finding valuable items to...
    Kettei Kettei
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 15, 2015

    Completely Exasperated

    Today I realized that the reason my 17 year marriage is so volatile is because my husband is addicted to his work. He never leaves work behind, his office is in our home, kitchen, dining room, family room & worse bedroom. He is successful at his career but our marriage is...
    shorty90 shorty90
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 3, 2012

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11
    26-30, F
    Sep 18, 2015

    I'm not married to him,

    we've been together for almost a year after over 7 years of knowing each other and being friends. He left his girlfriend and I left my boyfriend to be with each other, my ex was his best friend at that time, we all grew close and the break up was costly. I lost a dear friend I...
    madsa madsa
    26-30, F
    Sep 13, 2015

    Wife of 20 Years Overworks.

    Hello,   My wife used to be an artist and an art teacher. She worked part-time. I worked as a handyman. We didn't have much money but we were relativley happy. Then I became a free-lance computer technician. My wife discovered that she too liked...
    seekerofwisdom seekerofwisdom
    3 Responses Jun 14, 2009
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