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I Am Married to a Workaholic

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    I'm Breaking Up

    Ours was an arranged marriage. From the very first I noticed my husband always seemed very busy. To make it worse my mother in law always made me feel that I was not good enough for my hubby. I was quite pretty but very naive. As years passed he seemed to get busier. Innitially...
    bamboozled bamboozled 26-30 1 Response Apr 11, 2009

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    Wife of 20 Years Overworks.

    Hello,   My wife used to be an artist and an art teacher. She worked part-time. I worked as a handyman. We didn't have much money but we were relativley happy. Then I became a free-lance computer technician. My wife discovered that she too liked...
    seekerofwisdom seekerofwisdom 61-65 3 Responses Jun 14, 2009

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    I'm Thinking of Leaving My workaholic Girlfriend

     My fiance and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now (We are both women). We don't live together yet, but are building a house. I have sold my house in preparation for this (but she pays for me and my young daughter to stay in an apartment, instead of moving in with her...
    inkandpaper inkandpaper 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 26, 2009

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    How Do We End Up With A Workaholic Or In A Loveless Relationship...

    I've been married to possibly a workaholic, but at least an indifferent spouse for many years.  I more accurately perceive my spouse as lacking the ability to be intimate emotionally and therefore, physically.  My story is the same as all those I've read over the...
    mydiversion mydiversion 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 17, 2010

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    Husband Changed Careers And Now Won't Stop Working

    My husband is 35 years old and just made a career change last year to become a chef. Recently he started at a new job and now everything has become the job. It has lead to part of my depression which in turn has made things not right between us. He works constantly, everything...
    want2bstronger want2bstronger 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2011

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    32 Years Of Nothing

    I have been married to a workaholic for 32 years. Now I realize that my children have their own lives and I don't have a life at all. I have been doing and living for these people since I was 17. Now I am almost 50 and the kids have moved out and my husband continues to work...
    lonelycfo lonelycfo 46-50 5 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    At My Wits End...

    I am at a point where I dont know what to do anymore in my relationship. I want things to work out, but frankly I dont know how to make that happen. Heres a bit of background, my spouse just recently had a very decent position literally fall into his lap. He had been working...
    KAT80 KAT80 26-30 7 Responses Oct 28, 2010

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    The Psychological Battle

    Yesterday, after 16 years of being married to my workaholic husband, I finally realized that this is mentally abusive. My husband is the one with a problem not me. Yet, since I've known him, he's made me feel guilty for wanting him home. He's said, "I'm earning this kind of...
    2cztheday 2cztheday 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 1, 2009

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    I know this is a story

    as old as the stars. So here I am. Surrounded by my three kitties who are probably the closest I will get to having children since I refuse to start a family with someone who is never around. I have anxiety pretty bad which means that I basically hang around the house keeping...
    lnvisible lnvisible 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I Stay With Him For The Money

    I've never really told my story to anyone. It's easier to put on a fake smile and pretend everything's perfect. Husband is addicted to work. He can't relax away from the office. He works from early morning until the middle of the night. He's never, ever home. And when he's home...
    Inkiri Inkiri 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 27, 2011

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    Doesn't Desire Me A Bit

    So I had just gotten out of the shower, and was bent completely over at the waist to towel off my hair. My husband walks in, with my "attributes" fully exposed and does nothing but chuckle. Way to make a girl feel sexy. The few times we do have sex, it's a 5-minute event. He...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    I Should of Known....

    I should of known when we were dating that he was a workaholic.  The job he was working on took most of his time but he constantly made excuses (deadlines, project not going well, etc...).  When we got engaged there was no ring.  He told me that he wanted to buy...
    tiredandsad tiredandsad 31-35 1 Response Sep 23, 2008

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    Going Out For Drinks

    My husband invited all of his employees out for drinks the Wednesday before Thanksgiving. Funny, he invited me too (the irony: he often treats me like one of his employees). Funny thing is, once I got there his guys (entirely male dept.) were all over me. There used to be a woman...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    Completely Exasperated

    Today I realized that the reason my 17 year marriage is so volatile is because my husband is addicted to his work. He never leaves work behind, his office is in our home, kitchen, dining room, family room & worse bedroom. He is successful at his career but our marriage is...
    shorty90 shorty90 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 3, 2012

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    Tired of Feeling Like a Single Parent...

    We just had our 22nd anniversary, we have three kids the youngest is 5. My husband had to change careers several years back because of his health...so he went into the medical field which began the graveyard shift. This is right around the time I had my last baby, so the combo of...
    sostinkinlonely sostinkinlonely 41-45 2 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    My Relationship With A Workaholic.

      I went out with someone for 18 months who was a workaholic and I want to share what I learnt for anyone else who is in the same situation, we'd talked about getting married. She worked as a store manager and always worked hard and quite long hours, but we still had a...
    dan1234a dan1234a 31-35, M Jun 25, 2012

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    I Deserve Better....

    I am probably like so many other people out there. I tried everything to make my marriage work. I made every attempt to find middle ground. I really tried to explain to my husband that there is this great theory out there called "work-life-balance". Unfortunately for me, I...
    cablegirl01 cablegirl01 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2010

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    Workaholic Partner

    I feel like I'm in a relationship where I am never going to get back the man I loved. I never bargained for any of this. All I seem to do is give, give, give to him, for his happiness. I feel like keeping him happy IS my career.What about my happiness? I don't ever think I will...
    Bitter1313 Bitter1313 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    I Can't Walk Away

    I have been dating the guy of my dreams for many years.  He is everything I have ever wanted in a man.  However, he is an entrprenuer and a workaholic to the 10th power!!!  I used to second guess his feelings for me, but I have grown to realize that he really does...
    Kyra1973 Kyra1973 31-35 2 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Husband Chose Job Over Family

    I am a mother of 4 young children ages 18 months, 4, 7, and 8. I work full time as a kindergarten teacher. My husband chose to move out of state to "advance his career." I have been teaching for 10 years at the same school, both sets of the kids grandparents live within 5 miles...
    Girlonfire4 Girlonfire4 36-40 4 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    Question For All Of You In This Group.

    What do you consider quality time with your spouse.In trying to talk to my partner last night about my loneliness and the fact his mind is on work even when he is home.  His response was that quality time is when we do things together like going to the grocery store or running...
    MariaGeorgeB MariaGeorgeB 36-40 5 Responses Dec 2, 2011

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    My Boyfriend Is Obsessed With Work...

    Okay, so I'm not married. But I live with my boyfriend and I believe he's a workaholic, so I hope it counts. We've been together for 3 years.  I adore him. Except for the workaholic thing, we're golden.  I love being with him: we challenge each other intellectually, we...
    queenofmeh queenofmeh 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 8, 2008

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    Aw

    I have been married to a man that has been a workaholic for almost 35 years. My husband was a police officier and that is a very time consuming job. He was hardly ever home and I had to take care of my children alone. Most of our holidays were spent with my family and we attended...
    RESCUE RESCUE 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2008

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    Where Do I Fit In?

    My girlfriend and i have been together for two years now, were getting married in a year and a half, we work at the same place. Its summer so were working more, weve gone from 25 during the school year to 40 during the summer. But my girlfriend insists on taking more shifts...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 13, 2008

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    Married to a Man, Who Is Married to a Business

    My husband works approx 85 hours a week in a family business.  I feel like this is the worst type of workaholic.  Work is emotional because it is your family who isn't pulling their weight, the people your husband chooses to spend all of his time with are his parents...
    married2aghost married2aghost 36-40 2 Responses Sep 27, 2008

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    Getting A Promotion

    My husband is working towards a promotion of worker to manager. Now travels 4 out of 7 days a week just about every week. When he is home, he works from home and my children and I have go be quiet. If we do something together I feel like it's a waste of his time. Wasted time he...
    gott2teach gott2teach 41-45 Feb 17, 2012

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    She is hot but never wants to have sex.

    She work more than 14hs a day. I'm needing a beautiful girl, an affair.
    rioBrazil rioBrazil 36-40, M Jan 1

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    Workaholic

    My hubby is a good worker and a workaholic. I can say the same about me.  I was also told.  BUT being ill, screwed some stuff for me.  Anyway, healing and dedication needs being met before we can take over again and reinvent ourselves.  Positive is key!
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Aug 8, 2011

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    Mr. Works A Lot

    He's mostly thinking about work. Even while were on vacation, he thinks about work. By the time we get to our vacation destination, he's ready to go back to work on Monday. And when he works, he works late. I didn't know computer repair and sales was such a big deal. That's what...
    flower4life flower4life 26-30, F Jul 13, 2010

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    New Documentary Focusing On Work Addiction

    A major cable network brings you the life changing new series…“I’M A WORKAHOLIC” Does working give you an adrenaline rush more than anything else? Do you think you are the only one who can do the job right? Do you take work with you to bed? On weekends? On...
    WorkaholicDocumentary WorkaholicDocumentary 36-40, M Nov 14, 2012

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    High Profile Cable Network Casting Couples Dealing With The Work/life/home Balance

    My name is Josh Paris and I work for Bizzy Blondes Entertainment in Los Angeles, Ca. I am casting families for a well-respected network and a high profile media personality who is producing a show on the work/life balance issue. I know this is a very sensitive issue, so read...
    worklifecasting worklifecasting 36-40 1 Response Jul 12, 2010

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    Workaholic And Now Has Own Business

    Actually, my husband is an alcoholic who has been sober 10 years. (no program) And he is a workaholic. He went into business for himself a year ago and things have gotten worse. I try to tell myself to be grateful as I have a girlfriend whose husband didn't work for 2 1/2...
    Goddess65 Goddess65 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2012

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    Work Is The Only Thing On His Mind

    He works 10- to 12-hour days. When he gets home, he talks about work. After dinner, he falls asleep watching TV. I barely get a chance to talk to him in the morning.
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I am a workaholic trying to overcome the addiction. I feel I will die soon if I continue this way. Today is the first step of a long way for health and making my family happy.
    lirielbaenre lirielbaenre 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    To complicate matters, I am also married. But I am madly attracted to a male coworker. We are both married teachers and have adjacent classrooms. I've known him for four years and...
    Keeks1 Keeks1 41-45 Mar 26

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    I am married for 7 years with one lovely daughter. From day 1, I knew I can never give him the love that I had for my ex boyfriend whom I left because I thought he has someone. My...
    icanneverhaveu icanneverhaveu 26-30 Mar 27

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    For almost two years I have been in love with someone else. The first part of my story is at: EP Link That was in Sept 2012, I also posted an update to that part of the story in...
    browneyedgirl1234 browneyedgirl1234 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years is married. Finally..finally...starting the divorce process. But I think its too late, I dont think I can deal with it anymore. So he was married...
    Marieflwr1 Marieflwr1 22-25, F Mar 25

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    my mom keeps on telling me that she wants a grandchild so she told me to get married.. my best friends who's married and have kids also keep on telling me to have my own family...
    mcindygrace mcindygrace 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I was married once and my marriage failed... quite miserably.. I have always thought that I am just one of those people who were never meant to be married; even from a very young...
    prettyredhead2650 prettyredhead2650 26-30, F Apr 4

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    I am in love with a married man. Please no harsh judgements and just hear my side of the story. I am 21 years old (he is 45) and in college I met a guy 3.5 months ago and on our...
    sava1993 sava1993 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I can't even watch commercials with proposals or wedding type shows or see pictures of people getting married or engagement photos without wanting to burst into tears. I have never...
    AshCatSilver AshCatSilver 31-35, F Apr 1

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    I rather get married in court because just the thought of standing in front of people and saying the wrong thing or something goes wrong scares me so much, almost scares me so much...
    Silverfeather1993 Silverfeather1993 18-21, F Apr 1

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    I wish women could propose to men for marriage. Because I know if I was the man in the relationship, I would've proposed already. Have you ever just hated yourself and wondered...
    GenineFilS GenineFilS 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    Been married for 2 years, together for 6. My husband and I separated in 2012 because of his drinking problem. During our separation, a friendship between me and another man...
    jcr0610 jcr0610 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    How is it possible to be surrounded by people every day and yet feel so lonely? I got married 6 years ago and as scary and sad as it is, when I look honestly deep within myself, I...
    Lonelyskeptic Lonelyskeptic 26-30, M 13 Responses Apr 12

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    My experience started a little over a year ago...my ex left me after 21 years of marriage and so with a hurt heart and a lonely disposition, I sought out a new mate...my addict. We...
    ACKKMK ACKKMK 41-45, F Apr 12

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    I'm 24 and met my husband in college when I was 18. We got married, and we've been together for about 6 years total. I've had bad depression my whole life, and an obsessive...
    FeelsTooMuch FeelsTooMuch 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    As the title says...I recently fell in love with someone. Sparkles are in the air. He woos me and my feet is off the ground. I feel so excited to see him. Even talking to him gives...
    sleeplessin sleeplessin 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    i fell in love with a married man and he was my first. He was the one who initiated and i lied to him about my experience. He came to my house, we had sex, he said he was very...
    mayamasala mayamasala 26-30, F Mar 26

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    Next month will be a year I have been seeing my married man. Sometimes I go over the year and wonder how I really got here. Why am I dating a married man?? I never expected to fall...
    Lishadntplay Lishadntplay 26-30, F Mar 27

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    Married for 22 years....why? That is right, it is two primary reasons...1) Wonderful daughter and it is my responsibility to keep her world as healthy as possible. Her mother and...
    Therapy4therapist Therapy4therapist 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I am married to a functioning alcoholic. I'm 32 years old and have been married to my husband for 5 years. We have 3 kids (my son, his daughter, and our daughter). He has always...
    Jlk081981 Jlk081981 31-35 Mar 28

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    I had seen an old English couple hold hands and take walks together.They had come to India for some work and were friends of my dad.You hardly see any Indian couples,esp.married...
    mona87 mona87 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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