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I Am Married to Alcoholic

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    Our Life So Far

    I am a 23 year old mother of two children, a 4 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and I am married to a man who is 23 himself that is an alcoholic. We are childhood sweethearts and best friends. Since the age of 7 my husband and I have been best friends and lovers since we...
    merrill88 merrill88 22-25, F Sep 19, 2012

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    Tired....

    Same crap, different day. I'm tired of having to take care of everything because he is drunk...again. I feel like I'm a caretaker not a wife most of the time.
    Heartline777 Heartline777 36-40, F Aug 6, 2013

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    He Just Don't Get It.

    When he drinks he says hurtful things. He is always telling me if I don't like him drinking than leave. What is wrong with him. Does he love me or does he keep me around to take care of his 8 yr old daughter?
    mistypswald mistypswald 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    I Am An Alcoholic Magnet!

    I am married to an alcoholic.  My Father, step mother, grandparents, and last 2 husbands were alcoholics as well.  My current husband was "clean & Sober" when I married him.  We have been together 8 years, the first 2 were awsom...Then he began...
    rsutr rsutr 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 13, 2009

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    Done

    I am so sick of being in this relationship. He messes around on me he verbally abuses me and I can't take it. I feel ill just hearing his voice. I am also physically ill due to the stress. Every night he drinks. I am gonna loose everthing because of this man.
    Beautytrose Beautytrose 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2012

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    Just Sick Of It All

    My fifteen year marriage to this alcoholic/drug addict has finally taken its toll on me. I have tried to leave him, live with him, tried everything. Nothing has worked for me.But I now have an out. My kids are grown and the grandkids are now here. So I come and stay with the kids...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 2 Responses May 22, 2012

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    Just Worn Out

     My husband was sober 16 years.. infact was sober several years before I even met him.. we had this fun quirky relationship full of passion and laughs...    For about 3 years he on and off drinks... and I am just at the end of my rope.  I am overweight and so...
    crystalgem crystalgem 51-55 Jul 30, 2009

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    Time Again

    Again last night the husband was drunk. Instead of ignoring it and dealing with things as normal I threw a fit about him not getting up to help me put groceries away and for trying to pass out at the dinning room table. I yelled at him saying some pretty hatefully things and at...
    merrill88 merrill88 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    Tired And Unhappy

    I am married to an alcoholic. We were together for a couple of years before getting married. We have been together for 8 years but his drinking is getting worse as time goes on.We don't have kids together, I have a son 15, he has two sons that don't live with us. He does nothing...
    downtruthere667 downtruthere667 41-45 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    First I Blamed The Alcohol, Then The Alcoholic And Now The Person

    I have been with the alcoholic for 17 years and married for 16. I have suffered abuse during the entire relationship. Some of the abuse that I suffered during that time, I was not even aware of it being abuse. Recently I attended an abuse support group and discovered that some...
    Eeyoremyfriend Eeyoremyfriend 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    New Tv Series - Save Your Loved One From Addiction

    DO YOU HAVE AN OUT OF CONTROL LOVED ONE BEHAVING SO BADLY THAT THEY ARE A DANGER TO YOU OR THEMSELVES? Are they sex addicts, gamblers, runaway teenagers, cult members or gang affiliated? Do they have weird obsessions? Are they hoarders or extreme addicts? DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT...
    FamilyRescue FamilyRescue 26-30 Jan 24, 2013

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    Kicking Myself Into Action

    I gave up handwritten journals years ago, because inevitably my husband would find and read them, and my personal entries - just like every deep, dark secret I ever revealed to him in confidence - would become fodder for the next bullying session. As I'm getting older and more...
    time4planB time4planB 46-50 1 Response May 1, 2012

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    Married To A Semi Functioning Alcoholic

    My husband is able to work and hold down a job (for now). The minute he gets home or on the weekends he drinks. He is the type of person that when he drinks he gets mean and irrational. We have 2 kids and I don't know what to do. I live on pins and needles waiting for something...
    msshouldistayorgo msshouldistayorgo 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    I Am Married To Alcoholic

    The lies a alcoholic will tell his self I cant be a drunk I don’t stumble and fall down and slurr my words. He is a alcoholic. I dont know how long my marriage will last . my ex was a drunk and a controler and abuser . I am ready to get off the train . A functional alcoholic is...
    theheartkeeper theheartkeeper 51-55, F 5 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    My Life

    I married when I was 18 years old, my spouce was dischard from the ervice I droped out of school.I knew he drank but didn't know what Alcholicsm meant. I started trying to stop him from drinking ,, having my 3 childen, tying to be a good mother , life was indeed hard. In what...
    sevier777 sevier777 70+, T 2 Responses Feb 22, 2013

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    Worst Luck In The World

    Ive been married to an alcoholic for 5 years, but he doesnt think he is an alcoholic, but he has a love affair with alcohol, it feels like he is cheating onmenwhen he is drinking because, that is all that matters to him and we are nothing. We have a boy who is 2 years old and we...
    Lara085246 Lara085246 22-25 1 Response Mar 23, 2012

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    Married to Alcoholic

    Married 9 years, pregnant with 3rd child, Husband is an Alcoholic and I feel like I'm going crazy. Long story... He has been drinking for years and blaming all of our marriage problems on me. He won't stop drinking but blames me for everything else. Mostly money issues. I have...
    Nuggetssoul Nuggetssoul 36-40 6 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    My Life

    I married this wonderful man knowing he is an alcoholic.. but now I see his already flirty nature getting worse.. Hitting on waitresses and our neighbors. Hes the maintenance man and we live on property so EVERY ONE knows where we live, what we do and HIM.. He doesn't include me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 21, 2012

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    I Am So Trapped

    As I sit here today the tears finally stop as his words cut straight into my heart.I struggled but went to church this morning. Wonderful.Home=hellI was forced to sit here and listen to him ramble on and on about hitting me, oh it was a pat on the head.as I am forced to listen to...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I've been married for 17 years to my alcoholic husband. His drinking is completely destroying our family. Tomorrow he goes to court for driving on a suspended license initially...
    winterqueen76 winterqueen76 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    So I got married 6 weeks ago today. As soon as we said I do all the love stopped. He is an alcoholic and promised to detox and go to treatment. He did do the detox and I stayed by...
    mischa1975 mischa1975 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    I'm 24 years old, married, and have 3 kids. My children are my life, there all I have left in this world. I'm married to a guy that drinks every other day. He suffers from anxiety...
    Precious2009 Precious2009 22-25, F a week ago

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    The long and short of it, I was married 7 years to my alcoholic husband, divorced from him for 6 years and we recently remarried after he seemed to be clean and sober and dedicated...
    tracylpiatt tracylpiatt 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I married An alcoholic, addict and she has left me once again, she has cheated on me numerous times stole from, lied to me and yet stood at the alter and said I do, I believe there...
    loveisalwaysthecure loveisalwaysthecure 41-45, M Sep 1

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    'If You Love Someone with Alcoholic Parents' It's a great article by a blogger Amy Eden and all credit goes to her, absolutely, I don't mean to steal it, just to share because it...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Sep 6

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    I rushed into a relationship almost 10 years ago with blinders on and the only thought was I am thirty time to find the one and settle down. I met a man who was the son of my...
    Change75 Change75 36-40, F a week ago

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    "Both of you STOP DRINKING in front of your damned children! How can you say you want them to upstanding citizens with prestigious careers yet you present immortality to them on a...
    AlphahatesOmega AlphahatesOmega 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    First of all, "I am an alcoholic and addict" Secondly, I'm a sixteen year old girl, I've been addicted to cutting for 5/6 years, addicted to sex for 2 years, addicted to weed for...
    RavenEP RavenEP 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 22

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    My husband and I have been married for 20 years. He didn't start drinking heavily until one of his childhood friends tragically died around 10 years ago. He doesn't still drink...
    Michol84 Michol84 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    Hi im new here... im not the one who has an alcohol problem but my boyfriend.. I would like to hear some advice from this forum.. because our relationship is really getting shakey...
    septemberlane septemberlane 36-40 1 Response Sep 2

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    Actually, I am probably the child of two alcoholics, and a sibling to one. One parent is a drunk for certain, but the other never "crashed" during his lifetime, and he was probably...
    nostromo77 nostromo77 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    I'm an alcoholic. I just...felt the need to say that and don't know how to feel now that I've said that. Oh boy.
    Lucile199 Lucile199 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I Know that I am an alcoholic. I know that. I want to give up but I can't. I'm very tired of keeping this secret. But I'm afraid of stopping. I'm 22 and don't want to miss out. But...
    nautistar10 nautistar10 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder because of him.......my mom divorced him when I was 7. I was devestated...that was my dad. My hopes went up after a while- he...
    Jackiebh Jackiebh 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    My dad is an alcoholic and has been in jail like 7 times for drunk driving. He was never really there as a child cuz he was either out gambling away all our money or in jail. He...
    butterflyannah butterflyannah 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    My girlfriend is an alcoholic. I love her dearly. She's in rehab now and has been for a month. I'm so proud of her, and I pray she comes out all the better for it. We verbally...
    eammat eammat 36-40, M Aug 26

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    Until now, I have felt completely lost when it comes to understanding certain aspects of my significant other. We are in a committed, long-term relationship, and I love and care...
    nic225 nic225 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    9 weeks and 2 days. Had a major breakdown today emotionally. But, I'm still sober and who really gives a ****. No body gives you an award... In fact most people want to run away...
    mysticdragonlady mysticdragonlady 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 30

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    my boyfriend Alcoholic and that cost problems in our relationship because anytime he drink he have a argument with me without a reason sometimes when he come back very late he...
    loooorin loooorin 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    ok i'm 21 years old i still go By my given name yes i'm a at home house wife yes i know he was gay from the get go we started it off as high school friends when we started college...
    thelostboyxxx thelostboyxxx 18-21 6 days ago

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    I am not married. I can't really see it ever happening to be honest. If I did ever get married I would want a very low-key affair. I hate being the centre of attention so the idea...
    SarcasticCommentLoading SarcasticCommentLoading 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I have been married for 10 years, together for 14. My husband and I have two children together. Almost our entire relationship he has worked two jobs, almost never home and even...
    dragonflydreams dragonflydreams 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    i wanted to get married ,,but now im not too sure any more .maybe too many near misses ...but what ever the reason i dont know any more just sitting on the fence i guess..i know a...
    amie26 amie26 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hello Everyone, My first post here, and the first time I've ever expressed this to anyone. I've been going crazy inside for years now and feel like I'm going to explode if I don...
    theunfree theunfree 41-45, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Preparing for our wedding years ago like most brides I had this romantic view of commitment and marriage etc. I remember being excited to be marrying the love of my life, vowing...
    gagal2014 gagal2014 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 17

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    I'm married, been married about a year now and we have a 5 month old. Been having a lot of trouble getting along and iv always thought/blamed my wife thinking she's hormonal or...
    kingston13 kingston13 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I am A God fearing woman, but right now I am so confused. I have been married for 18 years. My husband has beat me, cheated on me and put me threw hell. I have a daughter that's...
    Sweetestrose Sweetestrose 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 18

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    Now, I would like to get married and spend the rest of my life with someone, but I would rather spend my life with someone I'll be happy with, and who'll be happy with me. What's...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M Aug 18

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    My husband and i celebrated our 2 year anniversary of being married, and we got into a huge argument the next day..I have been looking for a job and the places i have applied dont...
    bizzyy bizzyy 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 19

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