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I Am Married to Alcoholic

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    Married To A Semi Functioning Alcoholic

    My husband is able to work and hold down a job (for now). The minute he gets home or on the weekends he drinks. He is the type of person that when he drinks he gets mean and irrational. We have 2 kids and I don't know what to do. I live on pins and needles waiting for something...
    msshouldistayorgo msshouldistayorgo 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    First I Blamed The Alcohol, Then The Alcoholic And Now The Person

    I have been with the alcoholic for 17 years and married for 16. I have suffered abuse during the entire relationship. Some of the abuse that I suffered during that time, I was not even aware of it being abuse. Recently I attended an abuse support group and discovered that some...
    Eeyoremyfriend Eeyoremyfriend 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    Time Again

    Again last night the husband was drunk. Instead of ignoring it and dealing with things as normal I threw a fit about him not getting up to help me put groceries away and for trying to pass out at the dinning room table. I yelled at him saying some pretty hatefully things and at...
    merrill88 merrill88 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    I Am An Alcoholic Magnet!

    I am married to an alcoholic.  My Father, step mother, grandparents, and last 2 husbands were alcoholics as well.  My current husband was "clean & Sober" when I married him.  We have been together 8 years, the first 2 were awsom...Then he began...
    rsutr rsutr 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 13, 2009

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    Just Worn Out

     My husband was sober 16 years.. infact was sober several years before I even met him.. we had this fun quirky relationship full of passion and laughs...    For about 3 years he on and off drinks... and I am just at the end of my rope.  I am overweight and so...
    crystalgem crystalgem 51-55 Jul 30, 2009

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    Tired And Unhappy

    I am married to an alcoholic. We were together for a couple of years before getting married. We have been together for 8 years but his drinking is getting worse as time goes on.We don't have kids together, I have a son 15, he has two sons that don't live with us. He does nothing...
    downtruthere667 downtruthere667 41-45 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    Tired....

    Same crap, different day. I'm tired of having to take care of everything because he is drunk...again. I feel like I'm a caretaker not a wife most of the time.
    Heartline777 Heartline777 36-40, F Aug 6, 2013

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    Kicking Myself Into Action

    I gave up handwritten journals years ago, because inevitably my husband would find and read them, and my personal entries - just like every deep, dark secret I ever revealed to him in confidence - would become fodder for the next bullying session. As I'm getting older and more...
    time4planB time4planB 46-50 1 Response May 1, 2012

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    Done

    I am so sick of being in this relationship. He messes around on me he verbally abuses me and I can't take it. I feel ill just hearing his voice. I am also physically ill due to the stress. Every night he drinks. I am gonna loose everthing because of this man.
    Beautytrose Beautytrose 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2012

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    Our Life So Far

    I am a 23 year old mother of two children, a 4 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and I am married to a man who is 23 himself that is an alcoholic. We are childhood sweethearts and best friends. Since the age of 7 my husband and I have been best friends and lovers since we...
    merrill88 merrill88 22-25, F Sep 19, 2012

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    My husband is out walking in the cold

    because he drank an entire bottle of vodka this evening and forgot to deposit money to pay rent. I am super frustrated because he is recovering from a craniotomy and shouldn't be drinking at all. His father is an alcoholic and he is too. I was actually hoping that with the gap...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 Dec 1, 2014

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    I Am Married To Alcoholic

    The lies a alcoholic will tell his self I cant be a drunk I don’t stumble and fall down and slurr my words. He is a alcoholic. I dont know how long my marriage will last . my ex was a drunk and a controler and abuser . I am ready to get off the train . A functional alcoholic is...
    theheartkeeper theheartkeeper 51-55, F 5 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    New Tv Series - Save Your Loved One From Addiction

    DO YOU HAVE AN OUT OF CONTROL LOVED ONE BEHAVING SO BADLY THAT THEY ARE A DANGER TO YOU OR THEMSELVES? Are they sex addicts, gamblers, runaway teenagers, cult members or gang affiliated? Do they have weird obsessions? Are they hoarders or extreme addicts? DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT...
    FamilyRescue FamilyRescue 26-30 Jan 24, 2013

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    He Just Don't Get It.

    When he drinks he says hurtful things. He is always telling me if I don't like him drinking than leave. What is wrong with him. Does he love me or does he keep me around to take care of his 8 yr old daughter?
    mistypswald mistypswald 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    I Am So Trapped

    As I sit here today the tears finally stop as his words cut straight into my heart.I struggled but went to church this morning. Wonderful.Home=hellI was forced to sit here and listen to him ramble on and on about hitting me, oh it was a pat on the head.as I am forced to listen to...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    My Life

    I married when I was 18 years old, my spouce was dischard from the ervice I droped out of school.I knew he drank but didn't know what Alcholicsm meant. I started trying to stop him from drinking ,, having my 3 childen, tying to be a good mother , life was indeed hard. In what...
    sevier777 sevier777 70+, T 2 Responses Feb 22, 2013

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    My Life

    I married this wonderful man knowing he is an alcoholic.. but now I see his already flirty nature getting worse.. Hitting on waitresses and our neighbors. Hes the maintenance man and we live on property so EVERY ONE knows where we live, what we do and HIM.. He doesn't include me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 21, 2012

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    Just Sick Of It All

    My fifteen year marriage to this alcoholic/drug addict has finally taken its toll on me. I have tried to leave him, live with him, tried everything. Nothing has worked for me.But I now have an out. My kids are grown and the grandkids are now here. So I come and stay with the kids...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 2 Responses May 22, 2012

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    Worst Luck In The World

    Ive been married to an alcoholic for 5 years, but he doesnt think he is an alcoholic, but he has a love affair with alcohol, it feels like he is cheating onmenwhen he is drinking because, that is all that matters to him and we are nothing. We have a boy who is 2 years old and we...
    Lara085246 Lara085246 22-25 2 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    Married to Alcoholic

    Married 9 years, pregnant with 3rd child, Husband is an Alcoholic and I feel like I'm going crazy. Long story... He has been drinking for years and blaming all of our marriage problems on me. He won't stop drinking but blames me for everything else. Mostly money issues. I have...
    Nuggetssoul Nuggetssoul 36-40 6 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I'm getting married July 10th and I'm suppose to be planning all this stuff. my fiancé is a over the road truck driver so he can't really be here to help and I've always been kind...
    Happythoughts7771 Happythoughts7771 22-25, F 40 mins ago

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    I saw a topic from 2011. I bet that women is not around. I'd like to hear from her now. LOTS OF PEOPLE SHARED about their experience with a spouse with an alcohol problem. Some...
    pigloverbrown pigloverbrown 56-60, F Feb 7

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    I been married to my husband for nine years hes been an alcoholic for five to six of those years and still is he cn be such a great person till night falls then the alcohol starts...
    tracye456 tracye456 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am a mother of 2 beautiful children and unfortunately a wife of an alcoholic. I have about an ounce of hope left and I feel so lost. We have been married for 5 years and I no...
    TomasAva TomasAva 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I am not an alcoholic but I married a man who became one, we are no longer together but I am reading your stories to better understand what he is experiencing in hopes i will be...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    Getting married in 3 months. I have an alcoholic abusive mother who I haven't spoken to in 4 years. My real dad is not on the scene and my step dad lives miles away. My grandma...
    Smallone91 Smallone91 18-21 Feb 2

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    A Quick Background: I am an introvert. I have a great deal of social anxiety. The only real dating experiences I had in my 20's were some very short lived relationships. That...
    ExperienceisMyProject ExperienceisMyProject 26-30, F Feb 16

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    I don't even know where to begin with. My dad has been an alcoholic since him and my mother's whole entire marriage which I'd say, 27 years?I couldn't just imagine the pain my...
    marebare303 marebare303 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My father died of alcoholism when I was 21, now just over 20 years ago. I was blessed in the fact that he quit on his own when I was a baby. He was sober most of my life and I...
    winnhasmyheart winnhasmyheart 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 5

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    I was researching alcoholism and came across this site. I married to a retired military man and he has severe PTSD and alcoholism. I feel like I'm slowly dying everyday. I kicked...
    stephanie42 stephanie42 41-45, F Feb 11

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    My MM and I have known each other for 11 years. The first time we met and dated we were both single but lived in different states. Actually he had a fiancé but broke up with her...
    Jennnnni Jennnnni 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    As a wife of an alcoholic I feel so disconnected from my husband. I no longer want to be intimate bc I don't feel love in that way anymore. Can I get that back?? I still care for...
    TomasAva TomasAva 26-30, F 32 Responses 4 days ago

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    hello everyone. my name is kat and I am an alcoholic. it's hard to comprehend how much damage alcohol can cause to someone, to themselves, to people around them.. I woke up 5 days...
    missundertood2015 missundertood2015 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    Best friend I've known since freshman in high school is an alcoholic. He's been in AA, got DUI, spent time in jail, and countless times in hospital for alcohol poisoning, injuries...
    Quiettimeplease Quiettimeplease 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 7

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    im 18 years old and my dad is an alcoholic. My mother has told me his drinking got a lot worse ever since i was born. My parents marriage is a joke to me since they both act like...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    This is the first place I have found where people's experiences sound even vaguely familiar.my dad just died a few days ago at 57. I ghink he had been an alcoholic since a very...
    hols84 hols84 26-30, F a week ago

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    I 'am ,indeed an alcoholic.Started out as no big deal ,next thing i know things have gotten ,"out of control".I function ,don't drink in the morning or early afternoon,but i drink...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 43 Responses 3 days ago

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    My sister is 18 years old. I ask myself where did I go wrong. We were raised with my father, who was an alcoholic. She was the baby and never did I think she would be struggling...
    Miszdehlyla Miszdehlyla 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I am having an affair with a married man who I used to date 15 years ago. He is twelve years older than me and I was very much in love with him. At the time I think I was too young...
    ma4466 ma4466 36-40, F Feb 4

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    Hello Everyone, let's see where to start.....I got married in 2009 so been married for 5 and a half years now, I feel like I've been cheated. The man i said YES to when he had...
    tiredofboringhusband tiredofboringhusband 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am sick of being single. The biggest problem is that I hate going places where it is likely to meet someone. I don't really drink, hate loud noise, can't dance, and am not...
    Stongarn Stongarn 31-35, M 6 days ago

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    wait.....does that even make any since? anyways, there is a difference between love and marriage. i bet you've heard that one before too many times. Getting married has to be done...
    ThatOneSomaliGirl ThatOneSomaliGirl 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I know that i'm going to be getting married soon. I'm in my late 20s and I'm finally ready for marriage. My partner has yet to ask me, but I can feel that he's going to soon...
    ksmith0315 ksmith0315 26-30 1 Response 5 days ago

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    So I guess I'm just like every other person here that says they are married but lonely. So to start, I have been with my wife for 20+ years, and married for almost 18. We met...
    dgob1 dgob1 41-45, M 6 Responses Feb 6

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    Hi, I don't know who yo turn to, so I decides to post in here because u can't talk about this with my husband. we got married last may after almost two years of dating, he's not...
    csa0883 csa0883 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 8

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    As much as I hate being single, I'm happy I'm not married. I turned 21 in 2014 and I think it's ridiculous that people get married before 21. Just have a little bit of your youth...
    tgf12 tgf12 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    My husband (who we shall call Bug) and I met when I moved to his small town (we're talking less than 2,000 people) halfway through 7th grade. We were in the same year, but it...
    quirkygirl520 quirkygirl520 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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