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I Am Married to Alcoholic

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    Just Sick Of It All

    My fifteen year marriage to this alcoholic/drug addict has finally taken its toll on me. I have tried to leave him, live with him, tried everything. Nothing has worked for me.But I now have an out. My kids are grown and the grandkids are now here. So I come and stay with the kids...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 2 Responses May 22, 2012

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    I Am An Alcoholic Magnet!

    I am married to an alcoholic.  My Father, step mother, grandparents, and last 2 husbands were alcoholics as well.  My current husband was "clean & Sober" when I married him.  We have been together 8 years, the first 2 were awsom...Then he began...
    rsutr rsutr 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 13, 2009

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    First I Blamed The Alcohol, Then The Alcoholic And Now The Person

    I have been with the alcoholic for 17 years and married for 16. I have suffered abuse during the entire relationship. Some of the abuse that I suffered during that time, I was not even aware of it being abuse. Recently I attended an abuse support group and discovered that some...
    Eeyoremyfriend Eeyoremyfriend 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    Tired....

    Same crap, different day. I'm tired of having to take care of everything because he is drunk...again. I feel like I'm a caretaker not a wife most of the time.
    Heartline777 Heartline777 36-40, F Aug 6, 2013

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    Kicking Myself Into Action

    I gave up handwritten journals years ago, because inevitably my husband would find and read them, and my personal entries - just like every deep, dark secret I ever revealed to him in confidence - would become fodder for the next bullying session. As I'm getting older and more...
    time4planB time4planB 46-50 1 Response May 1, 2012

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    Done

    I am so sick of being in this relationship. He messes around on me he verbally abuses me and I can't take it. I feel ill just hearing his voice. I am also physically ill due to the stress. Every night he drinks. I am gonna loose everthing because of this man.
    Beautytrose Beautytrose 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2012

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    Our Life So Far

    I am a 23 year old mother of two children, a 4 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and I am married to a man who is 23 himself that is an alcoholic. We are childhood sweethearts and best friends. Since the age of 7 my husband and I have been best friends and lovers since we...
    merrill88 merrill88 22-25, F Sep 19, 2012

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    Married To A Semi Functioning Alcoholic

    My husband is able to work and hold down a job (for now). The minute he gets home or on the weekends he drinks. He is the type of person that when he drinks he gets mean and irrational. We have 2 kids and I don't know what to do. I live on pins and needles waiting for something...
    msshouldistayorgo msshouldistayorgo 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    My Life

    I married when I was 18 years old, my spouce was dischard from the ervice I droped out of school.I knew he drank but didn't know what Alcholicsm meant. I started trying to stop him from drinking ,, having my 3 childen, tying to be a good mother , life was indeed hard. In what...
    sevier777 sevier777 66-70, T 2 Responses Feb 22, 2013

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    I Am So Trapped

    As I sit here today the tears finally stop as his words cut straight into my heart.I struggled but went to church this morning. Wonderful.Home=hellI was forced to sit here and listen to him ramble on and on about hitting me, oh it was a pat on the head.as I am forced to listen to...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 2 Responses May 27, 2012

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    Tired And Unhappy

    I am married to an alcoholic. We were together for a couple of years before getting married. We have been together for 8 years but his drinking is getting worse as time goes on.We don't have kids together, I have a son 15, he has two sons that don't live with us. He does nothing...
    downtruthere667 downtruthere667 41-45 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    My husband is out walking in the cold

    because he drank an entire bottle of vodka this evening and forgot to deposit money to pay rent. I am super frustrated because he is recovering from a craniotomy and shouldn't be drinking at all. His father is an alcoholic and he is too. I was actually hoping that with the gap...
    Countrychicky Countrychicky 26-30 Dec 1, 2014

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    Just Worn Out

     My husband was sober 16 years.. infact was sober several years before I even met him.. we had this fun quirky relationship full of passion and laughs...    For about 3 years he on and off drinks... and I am just at the end of my rope.  I am overweight and so...
    crystalgem crystalgem 51-55 Jul 30, 2009

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    New Tv Series - Save Your Loved One From Addiction

    DO YOU HAVE AN OUT OF CONTROL LOVED ONE BEHAVING SO BADLY THAT THEY ARE A DANGER TO YOU OR THEMSELVES? Are they sex addicts, gamblers, runaway teenagers, cult members or gang affiliated? Do they have weird obsessions? Are they hoarders or extreme addicts? DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT...
    FamilyRescue FamilyRescue 26-30 Jan 24, 2013

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    Worst Luck In The World

    Ive been married to an alcoholic for 5 years, but he doesnt think he is an alcoholic, but he has a love affair with alcohol, it feels like he is cheating onmenwhen he is drinking because, that is all that matters to him and we are nothing. We have a boy who is 2 years old and we...
    Lara085246 Lara085246 22-25 2 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    Time Again

    Again last night the husband was drunk. Instead of ignoring it and dealing with things as normal I threw a fit about him not getting up to help me put groceries away and for trying to pass out at the dinning room table. I yelled at him saying some pretty hatefully things and at...
    merrill88 merrill88 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    Married to Alcoholic

    Married 9 years, pregnant with 3rd child, Husband is an Alcoholic and I feel like I'm going crazy. Long story... He has been drinking for years and blaming all of our marriage problems on me. He won't stop drinking but blames me for everything else. Mostly money issues. I have...
    Nuggetssoul Nuggetssoul 36-40 6 Responses Nov 23, 2008

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    I Am Married To Alcoholic

    The lies a alcoholic will tell his self I cant be a drunk I don’t stumble and fall down and slurr my words. He is a alcoholic. I dont know how long my marriage will last . my ex was a drunk and a controler and abuser . I am ready to get off the train . A functional alcoholic is...
    theheartkeeper theheartkeeper 51-55, F 6 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    He Just Don't Get It.

    When he drinks he says hurtful things. He is always telling me if I don't like him drinking than leave. What is wrong with him. Does he love me or does he keep me around to take care of his 8 yr old daughter?
    mistypswald mistypswald 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    My Life

    I married this wonderful man knowing he is an alcoholic.. but now I see his already flirty nature getting worse.. Hitting on waitresses and our neighbors. Hes the maintenance man and we live on property so EVERY ONE knows where we live, what we do and HIM.. He doesn't include me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 21, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Well I'm new here, just really flustrated. I've been married for 4 years. Guess when I'm married him I thought he would feel content. He spent years in his past drinking at bars...
    shelovesherdogs shelovesherdogs 46-50, F 1 hr ago

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    I made a BIG mistake! I should have never married her, I think we would have been better off as BFFs. I met my wife a few months before my best friend died and I think God sent...
    mlihere mlihere 46-50, M 9 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    But probably not for much longer. I got in a small spat with my husband two nights ago, he hasn't talked to me since. Now I see on the find my friends app that he is staying at a...
    danteflorz danteflorz 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Why do all married men, and I mean ALL, lie about the most basic of things? I've met and had affairs with a few married men and friends with some. Each and everyone lied about...
    tinkerbell71 tinkerbell71 41-45, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Full moons were meant to be spent alone, I think. We couldn't sleep, so we started to talk about big, stupid, hypothetical questions, just to play with ideas until we felt tired...
    Searchingformyshalom Searchingformyshalom 22-25, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Today in therapy, my therapist called attention to the way I'm still mad at my mother (non-alcoholic parent) for so many things that happened in my childhood, whereas the things my...
    greensapphire greensapphire 31-35, F a week ago

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    I just want to put it out there. I am HAPPILY married to a very loving and supportive man. He is my rock, and my best friend. I would never even think of doing anything to hurt...
    Lotusflower80 Lotusflower80 31-35, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    I was raised by a alcoholic mother
    sandralusk sandralusk 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I don't know if I'm an alcoholic or not ... but I love to drink my wine in the evening and I can't have a night without the drink. I do want to drink the wine, not sure if I am...
    itsmemm itsmemm 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 27

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    It was always gradual, her progression to becoming more and more intoxicated as the night dragged on, that is. My mother would come home from a long day at work, and in that...
    light108 light108 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Yep been married since 07. waited till it was three days before I turned 30 and got married. She is a great mom to my kids, I have awesome kids.
    cruise77 cruise77 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 25

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    I have been married for 16 years, together 17. We married fairly young, and quickly. My husband is a good guy (overall)and there is no abuse or red flags. Though, there are...
    emk38 emk38 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    It isn't that I don't think I'll ever get married, it is that I don't think I'll ever want to get married. With divorce rates over 50% and a biased divorce court, I don't want to...
    AdArbitrium AdArbitrium 18-21, M Aug 25

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    I've known my ACoA for 35 yrs, been married 29, six kids, one grandchild. I have never been "happy", something has always been off. I've been hurt for decade with constant...
    missycon missycon 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I am in the process of putting a book together about myself and my history of alcoholism and drug addiction, many parts of this book may bring you to tears, put a smile on your...
    aerosnz aerosnz 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I have been married 41 years. The first 15 were good. I stayed married for many reasons. Always the children or what I had accomplished. One thing then the other. Time went on and...
    Christmas74 Christmas74 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    I'll start from the beginning. When I was about 3 or 4 my mum met my first step dad. Early on we discovered he was an alcoholic. From then on a lot of days off were spent searching...
    Travellingmagnet Travellingmagnet 26-30, F Aug 22

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    its my dream also.. at my age im still single and never been married. its not too late for me to dream..hope i will find the right man for me..coz i wanna get married once and be...
    empire28 empire28 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I know many people will make judgmental comments. I don't really care. I just need to get this out. My relationships in the past have always ended with me hurt due to infidelity...
    BrittBratz BrittBratz 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    haven't wanted to admit I am an alcoholic. "I don't drink everyday. I may go a week or two without drinking alcohol at all." I would tell myself. I don't want to be an alcoholic...
    Kindalost Kindalost 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 20

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    Here's my story: I grew up in a tiny, deeply Southern town. With a small, close minded, religious family. Being different was difficult and coming out as gay was downright...
    lovelyconflict lovelyconflict 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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    I've been thinking about whether or not I have a drinking problem for some time now. I don't fit the after school special version of an alcoholic. My closest friends and family...
    tbsphotogirl tbsphotogirl 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 19

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    I would love to get married one day and have a beautiful baby. my bf said that he is open to getting married again and having more kids. maybe one day he will ask and give me his...
    LadyLyric311 LadyLyric311 22-25, F Aug 19