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I Am Married to An Addict

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    Fiance Addicted To Spice...

    I've been stressing for the last year about my fiance smoking spice, and now I see i'm not alone.  It hurts me everyday to see him do this to his self and knowing he might not ever quit.  He started smoking spice when he could not smoke weed anymore. I did not no much about...
    butterflykitty07 butterflykitty07 31-35 7 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    i have been married 6 months

    but been with my husband 3 years. i knew he had a drug problem but since he had no family i could give him enough love he needed to be sober. yes we got into fights but he has never hit or hurt me. never has cheated on me he really is a good man but he was sober for 6 months and...
    jessicaxa jessicaxa 18-21, F 2 Responses May 5

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    Spice Ruined My Marriage

    I was so glad to find some of these stories on here about women trying to cope with husbands who are addicted to spice and to know that i am not alone in what i have been through. My soon to be ex-husband started smoking spice because he could not smoke weed while he was in the...
    whitp1 whitp1 22-25 18 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    Update: I Hate Oxycodone

    After letting my husband take control of his pill bottle, I think he finally realized what a problem this has become. He took his first step to getting off them and is now starting suboxone with his pain management dr. I know it's still going to be a long and bumpy road but i'm...
    ofcd24 ofcd24 26-30 1 Response Sep 8, 2011

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    I Can't Do This Anymore

    I had been happily married for 6 years. 4 years ago my Husband got a back injury and has been on pain pills. He abused them and was trying to quit, at times he wouldn't even admit to having a problem. Then I found him unconscious last year, he almost died. He promised me it...
    ritycan ritycan 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2012

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    I hate insurance companies!

    !! My husband finally took the step to come off painkillers back in February of this year. He has been on suboxone ever since and was working toward weaning off of them. We got a letter in the mail yesterday that stated he would need to be officially diagnosed and in outpatient...
    asterinight asterinight 31-35, F Jul 27

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    Husband Addicted To "spice"

    My husband is addicted to smoking this legal "incense" called Spice (it goes under lots of other names).  He's been smoking for over a year.  He started smoking it because he couldn't smoke weed due to his job.  This substance is much worse than weed: it's more...
    HRobsonGriffin HRobsonGriffin 26-30 230 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Married To A Meth Addict

    I really just don't know what to say anymore, it is  recurring cycle.  We have nothing the only thing that he has accomplished is giving me my 4 sons. I HATE METH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm angry. Sorry I'm a good person just a prisoner in my own house, not a house.
    kimintheclouds kimintheclouds 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Hes The Most Loving Man, But....

    He's addicted to pain pills! I've been married to the most wonderful man for 16 years! We have 2 wonderful children who love and adore their dad. He's my best friend. My everything. I never thought I would have to envision my future without him. We have so many hopes and dreams...
    Lori1118 Lori1118 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 15, 2013

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    Spice/k2

    I am 21 yrs with a 11 month old son . I am with his father who is also 21. Last night i came down from my moms, i had spent a wk visitin her. I go to my apartment. Its trashed, and he wasnt home. I waited for him with my mom and son. He comes in stoned. I was so embarassed and...
    Smilesandaggers Smilesandaggers 18-21 9 Responses Nov 7, 2011

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    He Should Be My Safe Place

    I know it sounds bad because my husband has an addiction issue and for him, he needs to stop...but if he would do it only at bedtime, I wouldn't care. He wouldn't end up spending tons of money on it and it wouldn't be his primary focus. I did tell him that if he didn't quit and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2013

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    Ash Inferno Is Dark And Scary

    my partner of 8 years started smoking ash inferno around 8 months ago. now his habbit is 7 grams in around 4 days. he works at a gas plant and does 2 weeks on 2 weeks home. the 2 weeks home have now become my biggest nightmare.. i work from home so i get no escape from it myself...
    peara peara 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    My husband and I have been married over a year,

    and I've known him all my life! I love and honor my husband! But here lately this stress is over whelming and I fell like soon I'm gonna crack! I'm overwhelmed, and losing hope and faith fast!
    wifey628 wifey628 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    The past 4 yrs have been a nightmare!

    I've never felt more alone in my entire life! We live in separate homes and have for several yrs I just can't be around him. I have had no physical contact w him in two years either I just can't! It's awful to say but it disgust me and I feel as if he chose drugs over me n...
    SkylaBW SkylaBW 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    I'M Never Good Enough For Him On My Own... - My Heart Hurts

    My husband has only been off "hard" drugs for about 7 months now... I know he is off now, but it has been a long, hard journey - and my trust is shattered. He has betrayed me and hurt me so much throughout our relationship -even when he let me help him, he was using me it would...
    MzAmphetamineSpeed MzAmphetamineSpeed 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 7, 2013

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    Hope Street Memoir - Dr. Jekyl And Mr. Hyde

    I was in a similar situation as all of you. I was with my husband for 12 years, married for 6 and had a daughter with him. I called him Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I never knew what was really going on, there were so many amazing times but they were short lived and when reality...
    HopeStreetMemoir HopeStreetMemoir 36-40, F Jun 24, 2013

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    Kind Of A Poem Written Tonight ..Another Day

    another deal another day another pill to take you away another high to kill the pain another fight for you to stop another pill to snort or pop night is here the dealings done the buzz is gone the pain as come i watch you sleep so peaceful now i know you safe in gods embrace but...
    butterflytears butterflytears 36-40, F Jun 1, 2013

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    I Fell In Love With a Heroin Addict

    As a teen, I used to believe that--in the depths of my depression--I could never be happy. All I wanted was to BE HAPPY. I just wanted to be happy, and not wake up every day wishing I would die. Not feeling like I was in pain all the time. I didn't realize it then, but it wasn't...
    somedaygreat somedaygreat 21-25, F 8 Responses Nov 16, 2007

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    I married An alcoholic,

    addict and she has left me once again, she has cheated on me numerous times stole from, lied to me and yet stood at the alter and said I do, I believe there is a part of her that wants this marriage to work but when will she see that, she has told me on many occasions that she...
    loveisalwaysthecure loveisalwaysthecure 41-45, M Sep 1

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    I'm Addicted To Herbal Incense

    Hi my name is Brandon I'm trying stop smoking incense I jar been smoking for two years straight Everyday non stop I haven't had it today and I'm withdrawing and just need someone to talk to that may have a loved one in my position or maybe somEone in my position I'm so unhappy...
    Brandon12349 Brandon12349 18-21 26 Responses Mar 12, 2012

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    I Hate Oxycodone!

    My husband and I have been together for 11 years (married for 3). We're 28 & 29.While we were in high school we both did our share of drinking and partying. He quit drinking in his early 20's because he wasn't a very nice drunk. 2.5 years ago his oxycodone addiction began.My...
    ofcd24 ofcd24 26-30 6 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    I am sick and tired of all the drama

    that comes with addiction. It is hard enough being married to an addict, but now his friend (well more than friend) is adding more drama to our life. Isn't sleeping with my husband enough? Hasn't she done enough damage? Now her husband is sticking his nose in my life. I was at...
    Tess6 Tess6 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Hi everyone. This is my first time doing

    something like this but I'm in need of support, help, and opinions. I've been with my fiance now for over a year now and my spouse is addicted to pain killers. He has been taking them for ten years or so, well since he was in a bad car accident. He has pinched nerves in his back...
    concernedfiance2 concernedfiance2 22-25, F 5 Responses May 27

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    I Cant Handle It Anymore

    my husband is also addicted to this crap now it was called scooby snax and he started smoking everyday allday litterally from the time he opened his eyes till they are closed. i cant handle it anymore you see we have two beautiful children together both under 3 and i have already...
    wreckedmarriage wreckedmarriage 22-25, F 10 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Positive Evening

    "Your husband has problems that are not you. If he is going to get better he is going to have to get honest. If he is that insecure it has to do with how he is treating you, not whether or not you are cheating on him. He knows he isn't doing this right and has every reason to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    I sit alone tonight. I wonder

    why my love is never enough. Logically I know its really not me. He simply loves the drugs more. But somehow, my heart can't quite grasp the truth. Not the full truth. That voice so deep inside doesn't want to be pushed aside. It taunts me. You are not enough. I turn to my...
    Lisajo50 Lisajo50 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 15

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    I know what you mean.

    I am very stress right now cuz my husband have been recovering but the sexless and passionless relationship still there. It's hard to support somebody else but it's also selfish from them. This is painful. Those things are also important in the relationship. They were important...
    cidi3922 cidi3922 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 15

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    Spice, aka synthetic marijuana,

    is ruining my marriage. My husband started using it about 4 months ago, and he is totally addicted to it. Our budget has always been tight, but he is now $300/month on it, and we are behind on our mortgage payment. I am so disgusted by him. Our sex life has dwindled, and for...
    Sadwife334 Sadwife334 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    We have been married

    for 12 and together for 21. He has been injecting drugs for 5 years. He has been through rehab 3 times in the last 5 years. The last time was an absolute joke. He didn't even try to hide the fact that he was using while he was there and got thrown out. He now has started...
    raeanne77 raeanne77 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    When all that comes out of his mouth is a lie,

    when do stop 2nd guessing the little things? When you spend every waking moment playing "detective" to try to piece together the reasoning behind his actions, when do you find time for yourself? When you start thinking "maybe if i did this, or didnt do that, maybe im just...
    megan777 megan777 26-30, F 4 Responses May 18

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    What Makes It Easier

    I woke up this morning and felt sad. Then while having my coffee I realized I slept all night. I was not driving around looking for him. I was not up all night waiting for a call. Or cleaning him up taking care of him like a baby. I do still worry about him but he walked out. And...
    mendydee mendydee 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2013

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    Its Hell

    My husband has a pain pill addiction. At his worst he was taking upwards of 50 pills a day. Over a year ago he got out-patient help and hasn't touched the pills since. The problem is the dr gave him a medication to take away withdrawal symptoms - suboxone. Suboxone is just a...
    marriedintx marriedintx 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2010

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    I have been married to my husband

    for 15 years. I was in a very abusive marriage b4 this one that I was luck to get out alive and when I met my husband I fell madly in love with him. He use to be my best friend and my soul mate but he became addicted to drugs and it has went down hill from there. I just couldn't...
    crphillips74 crphillips74 36-40, F 2 Responses May 4

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    Baby And An Addict

    I married my high school sweetheart about two years ago. When I was 8 weeks pregnant he told me that he had a cocaine addiction. Now 13 months later he has relapsed multiple times, his longest time clean was 6 months. I recently kicked him out of the house, and my daughter and I...
    fisheyesblue fisheyesblue 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Surviving My Husband'S Spice Addiction

    My original story here on ExperienceProject was almost a year ago. My husband was a scary, unpredictable spice addict. We went from the perfect couple, to a couple with some struggles, to an absolute disaster. He was arrested after years of being a great man and good citizen...
    calbrack3 calbrack3 31-35 3 Responses Mar 25, 2013

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    He Should Be My Safe Place, Cont'D

    My friend texted me the next day to see if I was okay and it occurred to me that this was the role a husband should be playing. Instead of attacking me and lying to me, he should be my protector, my listening ear, my safe place. D said the fact that I had to talk to another guy...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 1, 2013

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    The Brady Bunch

    Long story, only the brave should start this ha! Ok my parents did their best to bring me up and I was a model daughter till I hit 15 when I lost my way. From 15 to about 20 I was a nightmare of a daughter, I smoked, had too many boyfriends. At 16 I ran moved in with my...
    Mrsnotsoperfect Mrsnotsoperfect 31-35, F Sep 9, 2013

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    Fighting For My Husbands Life

    My husband is addicted to smoking spice, the synthetic marijuana that is sweeping the nation. The first thing I have to say about this drug is it is pure evil; it will entrap you, suffocate you, and destroy you. For over a year now I have been faced with the horrid evils that...
    AmbNatureslove AmbNatureslove 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    Married To A Meth Addict

    I really just don't know what to say anymore, it is  recurring cycle.  We have nothing the only thing that he has accomplished is giving me my 4 sons. I HATE METH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm angry. Sorry I'm a good person just a prisoner in my own house, not a home.
    kimintheclouds kimintheclouds 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Today feels so very lonely.

    Why I wonder. He's been clean and sober for 42 days now and doing so well with it. It is what I have prayed so long for. I have believed God for this miracle. It is here and yet all I can feel is sadness lonliness and even grief. Now that I can finally stop pouring 1000% of my...
    Lisajo50 Lisajo50 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 28

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    How Do You Save Someone From Themselves

    I believe all my stories will run with this ongoing theme cause it is what brung me to search this site out. here we go   I dont understand the concept of addiction I live with it I see people with them I am no angel myself but I know where...
    blindexplorer blindexplorer 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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    Cant Stand It

    I can't stand the lies, and the secrets. iI hate him right now
    Jltorgerson Jltorgerson 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2013

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    My Husband Is Recovering From Opiate Addiction

    My husband is a wonderful man that has a great family. We started dating in 2011 and married a few months ago. I had no idea when we started dating that he was addicted to opiates and in a drug program to get off the opiates. He was going to a methadone clinic for 1 1/2 years...
    myloveforwater myloveforwater 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 31, 2013

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    Ive been married to my husband

    for almost 7 years, we have 2 beautiful children together. I've always know he had a problem when it comes to drugs, but I guess I never realized how bad it was. Just recently I witnessed it first hand. I was updating our iPad and un-intentionally left his phone number...
    LuckyStina LuckyStina 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    Where to begin.. im a mother to 3 amazing boy

    (4, 18mos, & 5mos) been married for going on 8 years.my husband is a disabled vetran, & a pain pill addict. He was medically retired in 2011, due to a shoulder injury shortly after his 2nd surgery which he was prescribed vicodin. I had mixed feelings about the RX bc he had told...
    megan777 megan777 26-30, F 1 Response May 18

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    He Chose Getting High Over Our Happily Ever After

    I found the love of my life two years ago. We fell fast and hard and got engaged only 8 months after dating. I loved this man with all my heart. He was kind, funny, and my best friend. When we got together it was no secret he smoked what they call "mojo" or "spice", legal weed...
    GivinguphopeAPG GivinguphopeAPG 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    Your Love Is A Rollercoaster - Oxycodone Story #3

    So my first post was about my husbands 2 year oxycodone addiction, my second post was my happiness in his decision to come off the oxycodone and start the suboxone on his "road to recovery"....now in my 3rd post I'm back to square 1 again. He did well from what I know the first 5...
    ofcd24 ofcd24 26-30 5 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    The Cold Hard Truth

         Addicts don’t love themselves...how in the world do you think they could love you? Addicts chose drugs vs. sobriety, not drugs vs. "you." A "true drug addict" has already found the love of his/her life - and it's not you. Bullshit. A true addict has found a...
    ncirishchic1 ncirishchic1 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 7, 2011

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