I Am Married to An Alcoholic

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 150 People

    Relative Anonymity Really Brings Out The Brazenness In People

    I've been reading your stories. I see a varied bunch of experiences with common threads. But what I don't understand is how eager people seem to be to condemn you once you've decided you need to walk away from your alcoholic. Sure, sure, there is plenty of commiseration and...
    prettyeffedup prettyeffedup
    31-35, F
    Jun 28, 2012

    I'd like to hear from MEN

    who are (or were) married to an alcoholic WIFE. What is it like to live with a drunk woman? How did you feel? Why are you still with her, or why did you divorce? Did you love HER, or did you love feeling needed? How long were you together? Thank you for sharing your experiences...
    StillLearningYup StillLearningYup
    61-65, F
    Sep 22, 2015

    Hi everyone. I had a particularly tough weekend

    with my husband. I was so upset & disappointed. I was searching for support and found this site. Read many of your experiences, felt like they were so close to mine. What's sad is I really love this man. We have a son together. He's only 3 years old. Thinking about us...
    kbella814921 kbella814921
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 22, 2014

    My wife has gone from being a functioning

    alcoholic to a non functioning one. I feel like I am trapped in a hole that I cannot get out of. I am torn between my need to take care of her and the need to take care of myself.
    vmxguy vmxguy
    61-65, M
    Dec 26, 2013

    My husband was an alcoholic.

    I didn't think that it was too bad- until I got a call from the hospital where he had been for a week. They needed my permission to disconnect life support- he had heart disease and end stage liver disease due to his drinking. He was 39. Never did I think someone that young...
    nikiilovesyou nikiilovesyou
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 4, 2014

    The hardest thing I have ever been through.

    Pending a divorce now and getting counseling. I hope now he can get his life together for his kids at least.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2015

    A Happy Drunk Is Still A Drunk

    Last night, my husband and I went to a potluck with the members of my dream group, a group I have been meeting with monthly for over ten years. Someone proposed that we have a gathering and invite our spouses.  I told my husband they don’t drink much and asked him to...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest
    56-60, F
    16 Responses Sep 7, 2010

    My husbands alcoholism caused us to be attacked

    on our way home after a night out. He mouthed off and ended up beaten. I took a push to the ground myself. After that, I could no longer trust him out.
    macabre00 macabre00
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2015

    Not Sure If I Can Keep My Promise I Made Myself ...

    I have always tuned down the fact that I was married to an alcoholic.  I always stated that I would be done once he crosses the line; the line being him getting a DUI.  Well, he has crossed that line and now I'm lost.
    MsZona MsZona
    1 Response Mar 13, 2012

    How Can He ??!??!

    He's been gone over a week now. And this isn't our first separation as a result of his drinking. The first time was two years ago. I never denied him visitation with our son. On the contrary, I encouraged it, and left it wide open. When I worked nights, I let him stay at my...
    clorany clorany
    46-50, F
    Oct 7, 2013

    If You Live With Someone And You Drink.....

    All I ask is why do you hurt the people u love the most? No excuses. Be real. Why do you do it? What is the cause???
    QueenV63 QueenV63
    46-50, F
    Jun 13, 2013

    The End Is Here.

    I posted a story here back in 2010 on the situation here at home. First let me state that you get only half a story here and you are only hearing my side of it. I have more than made my share of mistake's in this marriage and I am not the perfect husband. At the posting of the...
    Robert1256 Robert1256
    51-55, M
    8 Responses Feb 6, 2012

    It's all such a waste of time.

    I'm not sure about using this platform to express my anger anymore, but then again, I'm not sure about anything anymore. I know I've written stories about my man and how dysfunctional our relationship is and here I sit angry and doing nothing but writing a story again. I should...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi
    46-50, F
    Oct 26, 2012

    No Way Out

    30 years with an alcoholic, I'm the sole support, he's now old, disabled, and drunk day in and day out, smoking up the house, so I have to hide in my job until late enough to go home and crawl into bed in the spare room. Just took a pay reduction, don't earn enough to divorce...
    polinc polinc
    1 Response Jun 25, 2013

    Today he mowed the lawn without my having to

    say anything. I should have known there was ulterior motive behind it. When I returned from the store who knows how many beers in he was. He took a shower as I cleaned up And started getting things ready for company due later in the evening. Then I heard the crash. He fell...
    bethany444 bethany444
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    Married To A Loser

    I came to the realization about 5 months ago that my husband is indeed an alcoholic. Looking back, he has been an A for years, but I didn't realize it until his behavior became strange. 5 months ago I asked him to buy some vents for my son's bedroom. My husband had an absolute...
    lmichels13 lmichels13
    Aug 22, 2013

    I knew he was an alcoholic

    and I married him anyway...we partied a lot together and had a blast. When I turned 30, I declared the decade of partying over and announced we were going to start a family. We did. 2 kids later and he is still drinking most days. Last year we saw a councilor and quit drinking...
    veronica2nd veronica2nd
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 9, 2014

    My Life With A Some-What Functional Alcoholic Husband

    I married my husband almost 11 years ago. When we met, he was a recovering alcoholic who had been sober for six years. He remained sober for three more years after we got married. His downfall was ordering a virgin drink on a cruise that WASN'T virgin! Needless to say, the week...
    deejayesworld deejayesworld
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Feb 14, 2013

    I'm not actually married to an alcoholic,

    or even dating one. I am just joining this group because anything involving addiction, especially alcoholism, I am interested in.
    Profclouseau Profclouseau
    16-17, F
    Oct 4, 2014

    Hanging On By A Thread

    I met my husband 7 years ago and it was love at first sight. We worked together and became friends. I knew he had issues and drank a lot and did drugs. He also had a gf so I never tried anything with him. I moved away for college. When I came back he was single and told me he...
    missbones86 missbones86
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 10, 2013

    The number of beers tonight was easily 12 plus.

    I can hear him snoring from across the hall. Every so often there is a silence followed by a sucking in of air as if he forgot to breathe. My mind races and the shame of my thoughts weighs heavily upon me. Yet I don't move. I just listen.
    bethany444 bethany444
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jan 24

    And When He's Drunk, He's Satan.

    If only people could see the person I see night after night. The person who when sober, is everybody's friend and fun loving. And when he's drunk, he's Satan. The anger and frustration that I keep inside is near boiling point. I live with a drunk. I ask a simple question...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

    He'S Gone And I'M Still Invested

    It's been four years since I married what turned out to be the worst partner I've ever had. When we met, I knew he liked to have a 'few drinks', but the first time I saw what a sloppy drunk he was, I called him on it and told him that if that's the type of guy he was, then I was...
    clorany clorany
    46-50, F
    1 Response Sep 29, 2013

    Small update to my post a couple weeks ago.

    Husband didn't drink at all (in front of me) and said he was cutting back. Maybe for that week. I know in my heart he is an addict and won't change. For now I've been thinking about my future. The little one is 3 and I'm praying I can stick it out til he's about 10 years old...
    kbella814921 kbella814921
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 1, 2014

    Good News And Bad News

    Christmas was awful because of her drinking, but eventually she came out of it and I took the opportunity to let her know how badly it had upset me. Miraculously, she took what I said to heart and the good news is that she didn't drink at all from the 29th December to the 31st...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 1, 2013


      I have been married for 17 years to my husband.  Most of the time things were good.  His drinking has gotten out of control over the last five years probaly longer if I am being honest with myself.  He recently got back from Edge wood and did well for...
    opustess opustess
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 22, 2010

    I married an alcoholic 16 years ago.

    We have 3 kids. I just graduated college and I finally have a way to support my kids and I. I also realized that I am not the problem. I have been verbally and physically abused for years. I thought I was worthless and dumb because that's all he would tell me. When I went back...
    vhupka14 vhupka14
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    Due to his alcoholism,

    my husband & I are living apart which means we have done so now for more than half of our marriage. I feel resentful and angry with him for leaving me as the sole provider & caregiver for our two young children. He is living states away to work on his recovery, so I should be...
    PerfectRage PerfectRage
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2013

    Im feeling really lonely

    and hopeless right now...i fake a smile for everyone when deep down i am very unhappy...im sick of trying to make this marriage work
    melissameli22 melissameli22
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 27, 2014

    I married my alcoholic husband in 2004.

    He was a fun drunk back then but over the years, that has changed. We have separated off and on due to his drinking and verbal abuse when he is drunk (he is Mr. Wonderful the next day). On Christmas eve, he stopped at the bar he stops at every day and then headed home. As I was...
    vonkmil vonkmil
    51-55, F
    Jan 22, 2014

    My Update.

    Since I last wrote, he had a heart attack. July 19th. He should have died! But he's doing the same thing before the heart attack. I have found peace in God. I do not find happiness in this man anymore. I get up feeling grateful to be alive, and things have been great on my...
    QueenV63 QueenV63
    46-50, F
    Sep 22, 2013

    Oh, what I wouldn't give

    for just one sober day that he could spend with us as a real family and do something, anything; together. just one day! or one evening that he could sit down and have dinner with us. I can count on one hand how many times that has happened in all our years together.
    BreeVandekamp BreeVandekamp
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 6

    He wakes up and the first thing he does is

    smoke pot. Smokes throughout the day and then in the evening drinks 6 cans of 7% beer EVERYDAY. Snores like he's friken going to war. I can't sleep properly since we got married I started sleeping in another room and he doesn't care. He puts me down and puts everyone else...
    jewel2016 jewel2016
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 9

    Is anybody else in the same boat

    as me? I have been married for 30 years and it has never been smooth sailing but over the last 10 or so years it has gotten worse and worse. My husband has always wanted to call the shots and as I am not the sort of person to just be a doormat this has always caused a lot of...
    lynnieB1 lynnieB1
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2014

    I am all your shoes also… love him

    but hate him. The smell pushes me away. My husband has been drinking for over 10 years. We have a rough marriage from the get go….jail, drugs, accidents, and now drinking. First it would be heavy drinking weekends and then also on weekdays. It just got really bad 8 years...
    stuckindia stuckindia
    Oct 4, 2014
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