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I Am Married to Someone Disabled

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    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel 51-55 56 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    Wow do I truely understand what your going

    through 2 years ago my wife of 15 years and the mother of our 11 and 12 year old daughters had double strokes one mornining which left her disabled but she can still drive get around she just lost ability to speak properly , use of her right hand limps when she walks and forgets...
    bjballard41 bjballard41 46-50, M Nov 2, 2014

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    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    Question

    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa 46-50 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together and I would noticed that she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, we got married and we were happy, according to me. Her family is a lovely family but...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M Sep 2, 2014

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5 31-35 11 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14, 2014

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    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully 46-50 5 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together, I would noticed she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, her family is a lovely family but they had shown to be overprotective, I never read or...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M Sep 2, 2014

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    Unlike a ton of people I know I haven't been married as of yet. Two of my closest friends are married. I feel like if I was in a much better financial situation than my life has...
    eartheyes82 eartheyes82 31-35, M 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I'm not one of those sensitive people who gets offended when someone uses the word retarded. What ****** me off is when people try to make fun of or harass disabled people for...
    saeteurn saeteurn 22-25, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am married to a wonderful man for 10 years now and we have 3 year old son. He is not aware that I am bi . Everybody thinks I am the most straight person in the planet, lol. I...
    therockies2015 therockies2015 36-40, F 1 hr ago

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    I became disabled due to a car accident. I never really knew what citizens in the disability community went through until afterwards. Now, I work with a non-profit charity who...
    SocialFlutterBy SocialFlutterBy 18-21, M Jan 5

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    I'm getting married in may! Whoohoo! :)
    Mizpoppy Mizpoppy 26-30, F 13 hrs ago

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    Looking for a good dating site. I'm married to a man and have children. I'm looking for a dating site where I can find people in a similar situation and possibly live near me. I'm...
    Alwaysbeenbi Alwaysbeenbi 31-35, F 6 hrs ago

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    I'm married. All was good in our relationship for a long time...... Just lately though I am being called his late wife's name more often and our sex life is non existent. It feels...
    Justdadswoman Justdadswoman 46-50, F 5 hrs ago

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    Would you say you contributed to the situation resulting in 'I am married but lonely'? I know I have (although I tend to feel wronged). There is pain in realising that I have a...
    BonneNouvelle BonneNouvelle 41-45, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I have the most beautiful niece in the world. Her name is Shiloh and she has Down syndrome. But that doesn't define her, in my opinion it is nothing more than a trait of hers. She...
    j1494 j1494 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 14

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    I happen to be a disabled person. My disabilities stem from being brain dead for 9 minutes when I was born premature. As a result of that I have static brain damage and that has...
    wolf70jc wolf70jc 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I understand people make jokes because they are uncomfortable. doesn't make it right. I made sure my kids were raised with an understanding of people with disabilities. one life...
    regalshewolf regalshewolf 41-45, F Jan 8

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    Being disabled is not the problem, it's how you perceive yourself and how people react around you.. Stay strong and always stay positive!!!
    simplegirl25 simplegirl25 22-25, F Jan 14

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    Yes I am disabled I got hit by a car when I was 3 1/2 yrs. old . The car killed me when it hit me and a guy following bhind the accident revived me . I spent 14 days in aroma and...
    Wildman43055 Wildman43055 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    No, I am not in love with someone. I have never experienced anything like this actually. I think it'd be cool to know this feeling of "falling in love" and be "in love" with...
    Lila2088 Lila2088 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    I really hate it when people do that. I mean, I don't understand how it's funny. I also don't underhand the point of making fun of someone for those reasons. I find it completely...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm 38, disabled wife is 48, I'm emotionally divorced, lonely, poor, but have 3 kids so it's my duty to stay, but unhappily? IDK what to do!
    jgoffe10 jgoffe10 36-40, M 6 Responses Jan 8

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    Part 2- ...'allo children, where were we? Oh, rightio! After experiencing some massive trauma we decided to move down to Southern California where her family resides. I found a...
    Tterbow Tterbow 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 5

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    Moments to remember... I have asked my attorney to file. Although we have been married 26 years almost, he had me sign a prenup I did not understand. She has been researching...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 10 Responses Jan 11

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    I really hope this doesn't make me sound like a terrible person, if it does, please know that I am just trying to speak from the heart. If I am terrible, I guess I will realize it...
    sevensouth sevensouth 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    I was already "married but lonely" for quite some time but this past year put a brand new spin on it for me. Due to a job loss and relocation, my wife and I ended up physically...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

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    I am married to a woman whom i love. I care very deeply for her. However, we make love approximately three times a year. This has gone on for the past several years now. I simply...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jan 6

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    Short version I married my high school sweetheart(more like sweet-tart). We have been married for 10 years and the parents of two. In the beginning of our marriage he wasn't...
    HeartbrokenATL HeartbrokenATL 31-35, F Jan 13

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    I want someone I can talk too whom I can trust cause I have been cheated on and hurt n I'm finding it hard trust someone again but hope there will be someone whose is there far me
    harpsingh harpsingh 26-30, M 2 Responses 56 mins ago

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    My parents are married. Their relationship is about as stale as prisoners' food. I've seen what marriage did to th