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I Am Married to Someone Disabled

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    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel 51-55 51 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    Question

    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5 31-35 10 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    My Wife,my Love,my Life

    We've been married for alittle over 37 years.Her disability started when she was around 19.It slowly got worse thru the years.Even with her disability,she isstill the same girl i married.What ever happens in the future, we will face it together.That's what marriage is about.
    cindyloulove cindyloulove 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 26, 2012

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    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 30

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14

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    Hot Mess

    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully 46-50 4 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa 46-50 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    I Am Disabled But

    i am disabled (sci) and  my abled bodied wife refuses to have anythingto do with me sexually - i think i should find sexal satifaction outside the house - what should i do?
    wheelchairr wheelchairr 51-55, M 4 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I got married at 26, living in my parents house, and my mom and I didn't get along. I felt she was controlling and woo ride too damn much. She still does, but I only have to deal...
    mrsklemzak mrsklemzak 36-40, F Jul 3

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    met someone on this list, connected with him not sexually but mentally , wit wise ..was really enjoying the repartee , he got spooked did not want to get close to anyone, he is...
    westwoman westwoman 56-60, F 3 hrs ago

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    I swear my motive for posting this story is NOT to get sympathy and attention. I don't necessarily want people to feel sorry for me, but I also understand that I can't stop them...
    Fallensparrow Fallensparrow 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Voluntary and charity. I think the greatest job as we can do is to support each other. The relation of society to the disabled is such a different that we are overminded by thought...
    michalmos michalmos 31-35, M Jun 26

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    Marriage is retarded. You give someone access to your most precious stuff, the most intimate parts of yourself, and expect them not to take advantage of it.
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I thinking making fun of disabled people is one of the most ignorant things someone can do. Honestly, I think people who make fun of disabled people have issues with themselves and...
    XxMarxX XxMarxX 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    People don't understand disabled people because they are, (excuse my language) stuck up little *******. They think people that are a bit different from them are weird. If you've...
    Mikaylaxo Mikaylaxo 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    When I see someone that may be disabled in some sort of way physically, emotionally, behaviorally, or mentally and that they are made fun of, it really irritates me!!! These...
    SummerJasmine SummerJasmine 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 5

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    I am very happily married and have been for well over 20 years. My husband and I have four kids together. I have two boys and two girls.
    femalenakedathome femalenakedathome 41-45, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    My question is so what if I am married and being the other woman? I like to ride on the thrills and love to face challenges!! I am the other woman and He is the other man.. No...
    prettygoddess prettygoddess 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Uh oh... No way to live... Not passing judgement here on anyone in these situations Been there too myself, but i do know that youve got too look deep inside why you are both...
    Janeysunshine Janeysunshine 36-40, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I was married once, my marriage was annulled. I have a daughter who lives with me. She is always a part of me, and will always be with me. I need a man who will understand and...
    MissKassandra MissKassandra 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Marriage is what you make of it. I got married 12 years ago at the age of 19. We've had good years and bad years, but I believe the best years are always the ones where we both...
    jlestep jlestep 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    People who make fun of someone who is disabled are some of the lowest people on earth. 👊
    brizle brizle 22-25, F 15 Responses Jul 5

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    This is my first post, so please bear with me: My husband and I had been together for only 2 months when the first vehicle accident took place and the hospital placed him in an...
    josnyder72 josnyder72 41-45 Jun 26

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    Hi. I Am a 48 year old woman in a bad situation. I have been independent and hard working my entire life, until I was injured, TBI (traumatic brain injury), 2.5 years ago. My...
    GoodIntentionGirl GoodIntentionGirl 46-50 1 Response Jul 12

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    Do you know even staring too long is rude? I always try to avoid staring at someone who has disabilities. It's because if you stare too long at someone, it may cause them to think...
    flyoffsomewhere flyoffsomewhere 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I remember riding the bus to school as a kid and this one kid calling the bus for mentally and physically disabled kids "the retard bus" I don't remember his name but I resent...
    SuperblackSER SuperblackSER 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 4

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    I'm disabled & I can't understand how some people can be so cruel
    JustaConfusedteen JustaConfusedteen 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    Or... so I'm classified... but, I'm looking for other physically disabled people. I'm thinking about starting a website for us, and making all kinds of connections for various...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 7

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    Hi I am 33 year old Woman who is severely disabled and looking to chat with men. Don't be shy :)
    wheelchairwonder wheelchairwonder 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    I recently became disabled. Over a year ago, a leg was amputated below the knee. I have a cousin that I think is ashamed of it, because if he takes me out,he wants me to wear long...
    vasekjohn vasekjohn 51-55, M 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Dang, it's hard being disabled. I'm on disability, but most of what I am getting is going to the assisted living facility I'm staying at. I have a cousin who is supposed to be...
    vasekjohn vasekjohn 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    I don't like being different from everybody else. I get called disabled just because of my eyesight problem, why? Things that are really easy for lots of people are really hard for...
    Mahsa99 Mahsa99 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    I may be disabled,but i'm not lonely and desperate . I won't date just anybody who comes in and messages my box, I don't think I have plans to date anyone on here.-_-
    divinegimp divinegimp 22-25 2 Responses Jul 14

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    My mother is a Special Education teacher and her sister, my aunt, was severely disabled and died at the age of 17 due to a bad lung transplant. I hate to hear the word "retard...
    HappyHart5 HappyHart5 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    It disgusts me to no end to see people actively insulting or making fun of a disabled person, for something which cannot be helped. It makes me want to smack them over the back of...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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