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I Am Married to Someone Disabled

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    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel 51-55 58 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    Question

    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa 46-50 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together and I would noticed that she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, we got married and we were happy, according to me. Her family is a lovely family but...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 2, 2014

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    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    Hot Mess

    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    Wow do I truely understand what your going

    through 2 years ago my wife of 15 years and the mother of our 11 and 12 year old daughters had double strokes one mornining which left her disabled but she can still drive get around she just lost ability to speak properly , use of her right hand limps when she walks and forgets...
    bjballard41 bjballard41 46-50, M Nov 2, 2014

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    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together, I would noticed she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, her family is a lovely family but they had shown to be overprotective, I never read or...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M Sep 2, 2014

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    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5 31-35 11 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully 46-50 5 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14, 2014

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    Marry a nice guy from a good family. Everybody tells you that. It's not enough
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Known hubby for 10yrs now. Married for 3yrs. I love him dearly but he is such an angry bird. Really. It's as if my love has gone to waste to such an undeserving heartless beast...
    lonelyhumanbeing lonelyhumanbeing 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    I saw a topic from 2011. I bet that women is not around. I'd like to hear from her now. LOTS OF PEOPLE SHARED about their experience with a spouse with an alcohol problem. Some...
    pigloverbrown pigloverbrown 56-60, F Feb 7

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    For those who think it is funny to make fun of kids/teens who are disabled it's not funny at all Image you are disabled how would you feel? Let me tell you something I'm disabled...
    Rach1544 Rach1544 16-17, F 6 Responses Feb 15

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    I have cp and because if it most things in my life take long and are harder for even going to college, i take so long to type up a paper(bad hands)if a friends helps it takes 5...
    me0883 me0883 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 28

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    i have been working as a caregiver for disabled ppl for 15 months now. and i love it. it has taughtr me alot about other ppl. and definitly has taught me to be much more...
    gurldeleted gurldeleted 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    My mom is disabled and. She get made fun of a lot.
    samsam2343 samsam2343 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    Yes I am disabled love to have lots fun if anyone want to talk I am there !!!!
    Rockwheelchair25 Rockwheelchair25 22-25, F Feb 15

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    Hate People Who Make Fun Of Disabled Kids And Adults
    underjams22 underjams22 22-25, M Feb 20

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    Am I the only one that feels so left out cause your so called friends say they'll be back but you find them doing something you can't with other friends? God I hate that every one...
    Hollybird17 Hollybird17 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am sick of being single. The biggest problem is that I hate going places where it is likely to meet someone. I don't really drink, hate loud noise, can't dance, and am not...
    Stongarn Stongarn 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    I hate being disabled I hate being lonely
    silveroo silveroo 31-35, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Hate People Who Make Fun Of Disabled Kids And Adults
    goodnites1011 goodnites1011 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    Hate People Who Make Fun Of Disabled Kids
    goodnites1011 goodnites1011 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Well; It's a big commitment and isn't it a big mess when it doesn't work out.. I think too many people jump into "marriage" too quickly.. So here's 25 reasons not to marry/settle...
    TheMightyAphrodite TheMightyAphrodite 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 20

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    Hello Everyone, let's see where to start.....I got married in 2009 so been married for 5 and a half years now, I feel like I've been cheated. The man i said YES to when he had...
    tiredofboringhusband tiredofboringhusband 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I've been married for 39 years to a girl I met in high school. We married because she was going to have a baby...I dd the responsible thing at the time. We lost the baby at 6...
    linkbelt6335 linkbelt6335 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 5

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    So I guess I'm just like every other person here that says they are married but lonely. So to start, I have been with my wife for 20+ years, and married for almost 18. We met...
    dgob1 dgob1 41-45, M 6 Responses Feb 6

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    Please don't ever get involved romantically with someone in prison. 90% of the relationships don't work out. Unless you knew the person prior to their incarceration, don't "date...
    Beth1218 Beth1218 51-55 1 Response Feb 2

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    My husband is addicted to pain killers. We have to kids together. The past couple have been insane. At least to me. I don't even know where to begin on how I feel about this. Last...
    hm3mac hm3mac 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    I have been married for less than a year now. To be honest, I didn't want to get married at the time, I would have much preferred to wait a couple more years. However, I was...
    languishing languishing 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 13

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    This is not a regret, it's something I've known would happen. Parents thankfully divorced at age 4. My dad had weekend custody and is a great dad. Still, I saw how hard being a...
    MissASC77 MissASC77 36-40, F 1 Response a week ago

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    wait.....does that even make any since? anyways, there is a difference between love and marriage. i bet you've heard that one before too many times. Getting married has to be done...
    ThatOneSomaliGirl ThatOneSomaliGirl 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I appreciate this is long but I am truly devastated, I would really really appreciate some insight or advice into this. I am completely and utterly with all my body mind and soul...
    garden5680 garden5680 18-21, F Feb 1

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    well, not married, but living with someone. It started 3 months ago. He didn't tell me there was someone else. We hit it off right away. He was amazing and so much fun to be...
    irishred122 irishred122 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 14

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