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I Am Married to Someone Disabled

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    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa 46-50 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5 31-35 11 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together, I would noticed she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, her family is a lovely family but they had shown to be overprotective, I never read or...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M Sep 2, 2014

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    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Wow do I truely understand what your going

    through 2 years ago my wife of 15 years and the mother of our 11 and 12 year old daughters had double strokes one mornining which left her disabled but she can still drive get around she just lost ability to speak properly , use of her right hand limps when she walks and forgets...
    bjballard41 bjballard41 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    Hot Mess

    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully 46-50 5 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together and I would noticed that she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, we got married and we were happy, according to me. Her family is a lovely family but...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 2, 2014

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    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14, 2014

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    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel 51-55 59 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    My mum teaches in a school for disabled children.She taught me from a young age not to make fun of or laugh at anyone disabled.I hate the word 'disabled' anyway.I reckon it makes...
    hazelflower12 hazelflower12 13-15, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    My husband had an accident about a year ago, since he came home after being in the hospital for months - nothing will ever be the same. Our lives have been flipped upside down and...
    SweetFireD SweetFireD 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    So a new person came to our school in September, and she is such a total awful person. If you walk past her she would start to mouth at you for no reason and she shouts at people...
    imnamedleah imnamedleah 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 14

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    Hello everyone I'm Rachel I'm 17 I'm in a wheelchair since a baby can't walk never will I used to self harm but have been clean for two years now I used to get bullied I move...
    Uniquesouls Uniquesouls 18-21, F 14 Responses Apr 5

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    I post under this experience because it hurts my feelings when disabled kids or adults are made fun of. To those that are I give my sincere apology, I would never put anyone...
    Daivancey Daivancey 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 5

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    I am disabled and during the winter I am house bound to a degree as I cant afford to get cold as it plays havock with my back . I also have a hole in my heart which upsets my...
    nakednudist nakednudist 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Am disabled. Did a post here. On how ugly grammar nazis are. One reply said get my head checked. Lol. Wanted to say that caused my hate. Lmao. Instead me...
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I'm Kimmie, 21 years old with Spina Bifida. I'm paralyzed from waist/down. I am looking for friends that are disabled like me :)
    Lovelybaby18 Lovelybaby18 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 12

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    The mood disorder hit. Before the muscle disorder. Then heart attacks. While smoking. And on seroquel. Me thought cigs caused attacks. Me thought muscle disorder at...
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    People who make fun of disabled kids should get their legs broken and their head bashed in so that they can't walk or think straight anymore. They won't think so its so funny then...
    paradox42 paradox42 31-35, M 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Just wondering if there are any other lesbian or bi girls here that are also in a wheelchair. Just be interesting to talk with someone similar to myself.
    cpettit757 cpettit757 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I can honestly say that I think I am married to my best friend, soul mate and the best lover and father I could have ever dreamed of! We have been married for almost 33 years and...
    dreamerintexas dreamerintexas 51-55, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm 29, The oldest of 3 girls. Both of my younger sisters are in commited relationships. My 26 year old sister is married with a 2 year old baby boy, and my 21 year old sister is...
    bella61219 bella61219 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 13

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    My husband and I have been married for 7 years. The past two years it seems like we are room mates. He even sleep in the living room instead of our room. We go on doing our...
    Brokenbipolar Brokenbipolar 31-35, F Mar 27

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    I am married for 12 yrs now. My husband has always been someone that everyone likes, he is always doing things for everyone. He is good natured with everybody and at that stage...
    durbs durbs 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    All through my early teen years I was very anti-marriage and I was that anarchistic misfit girl who was aberrant from the whole picket fence dream. I still am that misfit girl and...
    DaffodilDeary95 DaffodilDeary95 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I know I have been fighting myself about this matter for awhile now...I just have to have a better understanding of why I want to not be married...well do you really think I want...
    MMMartin MMMartin 51-55, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm a 30 year old woman with three young children, ages 6, 4 and 1. I'm in my second marriage with a man I thought loved me. He was always there for me throughout my divorce with...
    anastasiablu20 anastasiablu20 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I haven't been posting anything lately because my husband and I have been good over the last couple of months. More hugging and kissing and affection and I've been loving it all...
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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