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I Am Married to Someone Disabled

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 78 People

    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully 46-50 5 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together and I would noticed that she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, we got married and we were happy, according to me. Her family is a lovely family but...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M Sep 2

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    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    My Wife,my Love,my Life

    We've been married for alittle over 37 years.Her disability started when she was around 19.It slowly got worse thru the years.Even with her disability,she isstill the same girl i married.What ever happens in the future, we will face it together.That's what marriage is about.
    cindyloulove cindyloulove 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 26, 2012

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    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel 51-55 54 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14

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    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Wow do I truely understand what your going

    through 2 years ago my wife of 15 years and the mother of our 11 and 12 year old daughters had double strokes one mornining which left her disabled but she can still drive get around she just lost ability to speak properly , use of her right hand limps when she walks and forgets...
    bjballard41 bjballard41 46-50, M Nov 2

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    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Hot Mess

    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5 31-35 11 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 30

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    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa 46-50 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together, I would noticed she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, her family is a lovely family but they had shown to be overprotective, I never read or...
    joepepe25 joepepe25 31-35, M Sep 2

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    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Question

    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Lesmall Lesmall 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    Hello good people. I'm new to this so bare with me. I married my best friend...a 400lb big guy( I mention this for reason). I have been married for almost 13 years. The first 3...
    ValleyAnn ValleyAnn 36-40, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    hi my name is doug I am a 43 year old man basically had to quit my jobs 3 years ago I was a licensed firemen and paramedics and I also worked on small engines and vehicles all my...
    1971douglas 1971douglas 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 3

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    i am married...but i too feel alone. i went seeking passion and i found it in a younger woman....now she has gotten herself a younger man than i. now i feel alone again..hurt...sad...
    ruxlall ruxlall 41-45, M 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    A REMINDER After a terrific ski weekend at Thanksgiving and a wonderful blossoming friendship with someone I met on EP, I was beginning to actually consider myself as...
    Martha1982 Martha1982 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 17

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    For those of you who think it's ok to make fun of disabled kids/teens it's not funny at all it makes me so mad to see this or hear of this going on in the world it's not right at...
    Rach1544 Rach1544 16-17, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Today is international disabled persons day. Make sure you treat those who have a disability like the PEOPLE that they are!
    lbear57 lbear57 16-17 Dec 3

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    How can the thought of getting married be such a driving goal in my life and terrify me so much at the same time. I want to find someone and get married but I see so many people...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 7

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    I want to be someone's everything. Someone that worth thousand miles. Someone that be wanted to grow old together with. Someone that can be depended on. Someone that can make a...
    rockettothemoon08 rockettothemoon08 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    I want to be someone's everything. Someone that worth thousand miles. Someone that be wanted to grow old together with. Someone that can be depended on. Someone that can make a...
    rockettothemoon08 rockettothemoon08 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    i had an uncle one,i dont really remwmber how old he was but in his 40s,he was mentally ill,hell i dont look him that way though,i loved him amd i still miss him,my cousin told.me...
    tones714677 tones714677 22-25, M a week ago

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    It is sad, I live in a society where girls are brought up in such a way that their only dream becomes to get married and have kids. Regardless of all the changes that happened to...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    Married to a PA for 42 years that I still love, but hate the way he treats me and I just can't do it anymore. I am feeling so guilty because I have finally made the decision to...
    Jeannie1952 Jeannie1952 61-65, F a week ago

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    His name is Robert. I forget his last name. But that's not important. When I went to class, I only noticed him in passing at first. He was just someone who sat next to me and I...
    madelinefish madelinefish 16-17, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I disappointed someone today that I truly did not want to disappoint. I disappointed her unintentionally, by not expressing that I was married. It was not an intentional omission...
    Jacob63 Jacob63 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 30

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    I'm not married, but I see so many young women my age that are. Most of my friends are married, but they really don't have a career. Granted, I am happy for them and respect their...
    agathashelly agathashelly 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    I met my child's father, Z at work. He was married and I I was engaged to H. It was a volatile relationship. I befriended Z. He was someone new to talk to. Something besides the...
    lostinmommyview lostinmommyview 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    I am 22. I got married at the age of 18, my husband and I don't have children. Well anyway my marriage wasn't all that great we began to disrespect eachother and things were just...
    LindaJohnson10 LindaJohnson10 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 12

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    I have been married twice before and it has never worked out. First marriage was full of arguments almost everyday about the stupidest stuff, and my second marriage was full of...
    thebaddkidd thebaddkidd 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    I am a newly wed and I'm loving it so much. I got married on the 6th of December to someone I met thru twitter. He lived in London and I live in Los Angeles. The first time he came...
    susflower susflower 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 16

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    I really am hoping to be with that special person in my life and get married when we can, at 34 going on 35 people say ooohhh your still young live a little more and some say don't...
    xxSTEVE7xx xxSTEVE7xx 31-35, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I miss my boyfriend too much right now. He left on monday morning and we message back and forth a little and had a phone call. I have to wait till saturday and I'm really sad right...
    Vampireloveless Vampireloveless 18-21, F 8 hrs ago

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    I don't want just someone, I want the "one for me" let me explain, I've learned love isn't a fairy tale... As a little girl we expect to find " Prince Charming" so many false...
    Beanbella Beanbella 31-35, F 3 Responses 37 mins ago

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    I don't have many goals in life but I do want to get married someday. I've been told that this is a stupid thing to want to achieve. But my family has had a run of bad luck when it...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26

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