I Am Married to Someone Disabled

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    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together and I would noticed that she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, we got married and we were happy, according to me. Her family is a lovely family but...
    joepepe25 joepepe25
    31-35, M
    1 Response Sep 2, 2014

    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully
    46-50
    5 Responses Apr 24, 2012

    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa
    46-50
    3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

    I've been with my husband

    for 7 years and his disability never was a main issue in our relationship. He has Cerebral palsy and is fully functional and independent, we always knew he would have good days and bad days. About 3 months ago he had a really bad episode so bad he is no longer able to drive or...
    alphagigi510 alphagigi510
    26-30, F
    Aug 29, 2015

    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Sep 24, 2013

    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda
    31-35, F
    Jul 14, 2014

    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel
    51-55
    64 Responses Jun 7, 2009

    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 5, 2013

    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Mar 20, 2013

    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453
    56-60, M
    5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

    Hot Mess

    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07
    51-55, F
    8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler
    36-40
    1 Response Nov 10, 2012

    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2013

    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2013

    Wow do I truely understand what your going

    through 2 years ago my wife of 15 years and the mother of our 11 and 12 year old daughters had double strokes one mornining which left her disabled but she can still drive get around she just lost ability to speak properly , use of her right hand limps when she walks and forgets...
    bjballard41 bjballard41
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 14, 2013

    Question

    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler
    36-40
    7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Apr 30, 2014

    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5
    31-35
    13 Responses Jan 26, 2012

    My wife is a quadriplegic

    who broke her neck in a car crash when she was 15. We met 4 years later, and married when she was 21. Now she is 45. We've been happily married for almost 24 years. She can not feel below her upper chest and has only limited arm movement with no hand movement. Nothing below that...
    SirKiwi SirKiwi
    46-50, M
    May 24, 2015

    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 13, 2013

    9 years ago my hubby (J) was in a car accident

    and suffered a tbi. It was at night, J was on his way to his office when a drunk driver, who fled the scene, hit his car and sent him into a ditch on the side of the road. He wasn't found until several hours later. Among other injuries, J had a massive brain bleed. For the first...
    PrairieButterfly PrairieButterfly
    36-40, F
    Nov 4, 2015

    I'm Married for almost 7 years,

    my wife suffers from CP (Cerebral Palsy), I remember falling in love and planing our wedding together, I would noticed she would stress out over simple things but didn't bother me much, her family is a lovely family but they had shown to be overprotective, I never read or...
    joepepe25 joepepe25
    31-35, M
    Sep 2, 2014

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