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I Am Married to Someone Disabled

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 76 People

    Lonely With a Disabled Wife

    I've been married for 15 years.  My wife has been disabled for nearly 10 years now.  She gets extremely fatigued and makes it so every weekend I have off, we are stuck at home.  No place to go, but can''t anyway even if we wanted.  No camping, out to dinner...
    authenticangel authenticangel 51-55 53 Responses Jun 7, 2009

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    My Wife,my Love,my Life

    We've been married for alittle over 37 years.Her disability started when she was around 19.It slowly got worse thru the years.Even with her disability,she isstill the same girl i married.What ever happens in the future, we will face it together.That's what marriage is about.
    cindyloulove cindyloulove 56-60, M 1 Response Jan 26, 2012

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    Question

    I am wondering if anyone struggles with the same issues I do, and how you cope? Issues like resentment, lack of intimacy, feeling alone, feeling like "normal" people/couples/families can't understand? There is sooo much painful emotional baggage that I wrestle with everyday.Can...
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Married To Woman With Cerebral Palsy

    I have been married to a wonderful gal now for over ten years. I knew she had problems with her legs when we met. I didn't know what cerebral palsy was, but she was beautiful and I wanted to spend all my time with her. Over time her legs have become a problem. I feel...
    Chinups Chinups 36-40, M 3 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    Is It Terrible To Think About Leaving- I Think Probably Not

    I am a female and my husband and I have been married 20 years and have 2 sons one is 20 and one is 7. My husband became disabled 16 years ago - everything fell apart between us. He became very depressed, stopped trying to live, just started existing. I have handled this well...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    How Do I Stay Strong For My Family

    (My wife isn't disabled in the traditional sense, but her disease is a very disabling one and this is the only group I could find that matched what I was looking for)My wife was diagnosed with hypothyroidism early in her life, and has been taking the daily pill for it. A few...
    gifes gifes 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

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    I am an extremely passionate person.

    I used to have sex all the time, I got married 1 yr ago to my husband who is disabled, before we got married we had plenty of sexual experiences which I thought would continue in out marriage. I did have to do all the 'work' like get him out of his chair take off cloths get on...
    passi0nfruit passi0nfruit 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 30

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    When Is Enough????????????

    Married and lonely - carrying the load. Yes I said the vows but simple things like helping while I have vertigo (pick up a towel so I don't have to bend). Get out of the bed before 10. Enjoy the lifestyle a nice home, nice vehicles- thank me some way by helping!!!! Wishing I...
    lonelytoo2 lonelytoo2 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    39, Kids, Disabled Husband

    I am 39, with two kids, and my husband was severely disabled in a car wreck. I just need a support group. My heart goes out to each person on here, as I know what you are going through.
    amyfarafowler amyfarafowler 36-40 1 Response Nov 10, 2012

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    Husband No Longer Himself

    My husband was declared disabled five years ago due to degenerative disk disease ( DDD) of the lower spine. He takes morphine along with other painkillers to help with the pain. Then a few years ago he became diabetic, and in may of this year, had his left leg amputated below the...
    Mountaingirl07 Mountaingirl07 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    I Don'T Know What To Do Right Now

    Hubby is worse than ever and the past two weeks I've been dealing with a miscarriage culminating in a semi-emergency surgery last night. He needs someone to take care of him and I can't do it. I need someone to take care of me and he can't do it. So right now we're both just in...
    Glewellin Glewellin 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Don't Let Your Illness Define Your Relationship

    Chronic illness and disability have been a part of my marriage now for a number of years yet we refuse to allow it to define who we are or define our relationship. My husband was stricken at the age of 39 and for the past 12 years has gotten progressively worse. The hardest part...
    FollowHimFaithfully FollowHimFaithfully 46-50 4 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Just A Guy

    I love my husband. I loved him a few months after we met. We clicked and it's wonderful to be around him, he is funny, clever and respectful. He loves me and his disabilities are of a secondary concern. Most important is who he is, as who he is hasn't changed though his body...
    BloodyMary82 BloodyMary82 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2013

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    Not Coping With Disabled Husband And Two Young Children

    I am 31 years old living with my disabled husband our two young children (aged 5 and 2). When we first got together ten years ago my husband was a fit young man (he was 39, but was young in attitude and full of life), over the next few years his health deteriorated due to back...
    ninam5 ninam5 31-35 10 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    I Am Tired Of It ...

    What I am tired of is hearing those people who tell me that I am a Saint for "putting up with" the issues that my wife goes through with her disabilities. It wasn't always this way and I meant what I said about the "love honor and cherish" (there was no OBEY in our vows) and we...
    RAYT721 RAYT721 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    Opinions From Those Married To Disabled

    My son has been dating a disabled girl for about a year now. He is 22 years old. She was a crack baby, but raised by a loving adoptive mother. Her problems are physical, not mental. Among the things she deals with are severe tremors, social anxiety, inability to speak much...
    sombrisa sombrisa 46-50 3 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    Not Even 3 Weeks

    My husband and I were in a car accident less than 3 weeks ago. He broke his neck and is now paralyzed. We still don't know how much movement he will regain in the coming months. We are a young couple. I am 26 and he is 29. We got married 6 months ago after 6 years of being...
    nicothepotato nicothepotato 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    I Am The Girlfriend To Someone Disabled.

    I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months now. He has brain damage from a car accident several years ago. He struggles using the left side of his body. He doesn't have a job and acts like his settlement money will last forever. I wish he would see things from my side when...
    emilymarie1995 emilymarie1995 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    Hot Mess

    Divorced twice. Alone. Celibate. Looking for someone to penetrate my mind.
    Unique2aT Unique2aT 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    My Poor Wife

    My wife had been diagnosed with a seizure condition at the age of 51.  After doing a bunch of tests the doctor said she was surprised that my wife had her first seizure so late in life.  According to her brain scans she should have been having them all along. It is a...
    rw5453 rw5453 56-60, M 5 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    I Am Disabled But

    i am disabled (sci) and  my abled bodied wife refuses to have anythingto do with me sexually - i think i should find sexal satifaction outside the house - what should i do?
    wheelchairr wheelchairr 51-55, M 4 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    Hello. I'm new here. I've been dating a man

    with muscular dystrophy for close to a year now and we've been getting pretty serious. My family has not been supportive (to say the least) and it's been really hard. He's a great guy. I've been really hopeful with ISIS SMNrx but I am not sure if that's premature. We both...
    AnaKhanda AnaKhanda 26-30, F Jul 14

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    Related Experiences

    Ok here it is I met my wife at jobcorp, while we were there we dated for the 3-4 months we were there she went home first, when I got back home she contacted me (keep in mind I was...
    tdavis82 tdavis82 31-35, M Jul 27

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    It's sad that I married someone despite everyone in my life telling me not too. I'm now in a marriage where everyday I find more reasons not to love home. Regretting means not...
    rloves rloves 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I'll do you one better. I MARRIED someone who turned out to be crazy!!! Crazy as in: turning up at my place of work. Just because she wanted a row at 3 in the morning! Phoning my...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 28

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    Where do I start, how do I not blame myself, how did I let things get like this. We've been together for 8 years (not legally married) and have a six and seven year old. Things...
    1forever 1forever 26-30, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I met someone on here and I thought we had a connection we talked all night and now they have blocked me with no explanation! Sorry if I offended you!
    BiinVa BiinVa 46-50, M 5 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am married and mother of 5 children, ages 8-7mths. I am very tired all day. One of my twin boys (33mths old) is severly disabled and I must always be there for him 24hrs. He...
    tran30 tran30 26-30 1 Response Aug 9

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    I went to target and there was a disabled kid in a wheel chair he couldn't talk or any of that and some old lady walked by and sterred and more people passed and just looked and...
    Sprinklesnstuff Sprinklesnstuff 13-15, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am married and I have one son... Well.. In this life they are such a blessing for me...
    YRIN YRIN 26-30, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    If you're told you only have six months to live. Immediately get married. It will make those six months seems like eternity.
    jojo0915 jojo0915 31-35, M 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Ur mean pooheads. Does it make u feel good hurting others, especially disabled people. Practically no-one wants to be disabled but we are. So don't make our lives harder 😊
    Nickstar13 Nickstar13 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 11

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    Do you know even staring too long is rude? I always try to avoid staring at someone who has disabilities. It's because if you stare too long at someone, it may cause them to think...
    flyoffsomewhere flyoffsomewhere 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I lost my little brother to a heroin overdose two years ago. He was nineteen, only a year younger than me. I had no memory of a life without him. He was my best friend and we were...
    MonetChere MonetChere 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Good morning I need someone to talk to ;( I wish I had someone who understand what I'm going through:(
    Rach1544 Rach1544 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I really need someone to talk to ;(I feel alone on this app ;;( Iwwant someone who i can tell anything to l im sick of been judged on this app you don't know me so please don't...
    Rach1544 Rach1544 16-17, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Ok I'm not full on disabled like in a wheelchair but I have a disability called drop foot, which means I can't life my feet up so I have to lift my knees high and it makes me walk...
    Itscaitlin Itscaitlin 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 30

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    I wasn't always though. I got sick about four years ago with a fairly uncommon neurological disorder called neurosarcoidosis. It mimics MS, but it's not progressive, which is nice...
    traurigerpanda traurigerpanda 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    I can't even describe the anger that runs through me when it happens. This girl used to make fun of the disabled kids at my school all the time. And each time I got pissed off and...
    Rayven1997 Rayven1997 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I honestly don't know what is so funny about disabled kids+adults. Some people are just so rude and don't think about how their actions can affect that person. It's not something...
    Seaaaturtle Seaaaturtle 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    My step brother Drew is physically and mentally disabled. He has the mentality of a 7 year old on good days, but on bad days it's that of 2 or 3 year old. He's my buddy and I have...
    WigginsEP WigginsEP 26-30, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I became disabled after being as the state says victim but I like to say survivor of criminal domestic violence of a high and aggravated nature, intent to kill, and kidnapping. Its...
    ashchris ashchris 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I work for an organization in Iowa that provides services for individuals with mental illness, intellectual disabilities, and brain injuries. I currently work one on one with an...
    BigOwlEyes BigOwlEyes 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    When someone stares to demean or yells out a slur, it proves that they have no heart. We are stronger than they will EVER be. If they are just curious, I am open to genuine...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 2 Responses Jul 27

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    Hello people! As a person, we all tend to belong to a society. A society that unfortunately builds unrealistic goals for us. For example being super skinny and having thigh gaps...
    farahway farahway 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 3

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    I think it's really sad that I've seen alot of women get romantically involved with married men. As a single person like myself, I feel like it's not really worth it because you're...
    texaschic35 texaschic35 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    I just hate it when people at school joke about people being autistic and a downie.. It's not funny it hurts peoples feelings and how do you know if that person isn't best friends...
    NobodyCaresOkai NobodyCaresOkai 13-15, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    This is a long story so please bear with me if you can. I met a man back in 2008 through his sister who was a good friend of mine at the time. I knew he was married from the start...
    plmagnet29 plmagnet29 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    I met my wife through a Christian dating service called "Equally Yoked." I wanted to meet someone who had the same beliefs and values as I did. She and I hit it off from the first...
    ludix ludix 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 31

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