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I Am Married to Someone With Ptsd

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    My husbands having a bad night.

    .. Even asked to go to the va! But we have no way of getting there and he doesn't want me to call an ambulance. Our car is busted, and we are staying with friends till my husbands check comes in. We are suppose to be moving to Arkansas when his check comes in.... This is all...
    RebeccaReynolds RebeccaReynolds 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    My Husband And I Both Have Ptsd

    My Complex PTSD seems to effect me more at times but I've seen my husbands play out with our boys more now that our daughter has been born. He's constantly on top of them berating any "girly" choice they make. I'm just absolutely trapped inside my head at times to the point I don...
    justme8903 justme8903 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2013

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    Ptsd Medications????

    I have known my boyfriend for about 6 years now. We liked each other from day one, but just recently we officially became boyfriend/girlfriend. Since then I have been seeing more and more signs of PTSD. Not surprising since we have been spending more time together. So I decided...
    AngelAndDemon AngelAndDemon 22-25 1 Response Nov 12, 2012

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    Something Helpful

    For those who have in a family someone with PTSD is helpful this program, especially if sufferer refuses to go to a therapist. I was thinking that here are many people in my situation and this program would be helpful. https://cpt.musc.edu/
    ila1977 ila1977 36-40, F Apr 29, 2013

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    Married To Ptsd

    My husband has been suffering since 2005 with PTSD. He was a detective and loved his job. Taking a life stopped him dead in his tracks. I am not going to lie, it's not easy but it is worth every step to make sure he knows he's loved and cared for. I just want to share my...
    copptsd copptsd 36-40, F Jun 12, 2013

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    I think my husband may have PTSD.

    He has every symptom in the book and I was thinking of bringing it up to his therapist. He was in basic training and had an "accident" that he can't remember a thing about, he remembers going to sleep and waking up across the street from the barracks. He had a subdural hematoma...
    smbb smbb 31-35 Mar 10

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    Impossible Arguments...

    SO A mutual friend of our today (my best friend, grew up with us together) told me I should look at his facebook today...she said she was disgusted with him and she wanted to dropkick him. SO...I go to his facebook and there I see TWO facebook pages he liked one labeled "damn she...
    ignite555 ignite555 22-25, F Aug 19, 2013

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    My husband has been diagnosed with PTSD

    but is in denial. He deployed between 2009-2010 on operation enduring freedom in Afghanistan. Our daughter (first born) was a month old when he left. He had nightmares during his deployment of bad things happening to her or us because he wasn't able to protect us. He was injured...
    CaitlinK08 CaitlinK08 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

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    I Have No Idea What to Do......

    I'm Joshua. My fiance' was brutally brutally raped about a year and a half ago. I have been with her for 7 months, so it happened before I was with her. She's the most beautiful, kind sweet person...I don't know how someone could have done this to her. Not only that, but she was...
    meyerjm758 meyerjm758 26-30 8 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Married To My Husband Or Ptsd?

    I have been with to my husband for 13 years. He has PTSD from a trauma suffered during childhood and had only (finally) sought help for his issues last summer. The birth of our son is what finally made him take the steps to getting better. I always thought he had PTSD but since...
    mamatt mamatt 36-40 3 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Sit Tight, This Is a Long One

    I grew up with a very protective mother. I grew up not knowing what sort of evil existed in this world. My husband, unfortunatly, wasn't as lucky. He had a really horrible childhood. He was abused my his mother, physically. She would beat him with sticks, spank him with...
    Queen82 Queen82 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2009

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    My Husband Has Ptsd

    My husband and I were together for almost 4 years before we decided to get married. We have been married for 2 months. During the 4 years there was a time when we were broke up for almost a year and a half. During that year he got another girl pregnant and they had baby girl. The...
    tngrl3510 tngrl3510 18-21, F Aug 21, 2012

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    My Ex/friend With Ptsd

    My ex boyfriend who is now just a friend has PTSD. He got discharged from the army for it. Went over to Iraq and everything. I love him dearly and want to be with him but he keeps telling me that he doesn't. I don't know if this is true or not because we have been dating on and...
    casa88 casa88 22-25, F Jul 6, 2012

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    My Husband Have Ptsd & I'm Scare

    My Husband  is in the military as been receiving treatment for PTSD for almost 2 years Know,We are been married for 4 years and have 2 children together,My Husband  is not the same men I married 4 years Ago, I Think that guy that in Iraq  over 2 years ago.I'm been...
    angelitadedios08 angelitadedios08 22-25, F Aug 17, 2010

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    Baboons

    Last night I got in bed about 1 am, not at all what I would consider late. As I was searching for something to watch on television, I came accross a documentary about Baboons.. it was called National Geographic: Stress, Protrait of a killer. It's a documentart about the work of...
    beccabee420 beccabee420 36-40, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2011

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    My husband was diagnosed with PTSD not from

    combat but from some past childhood experience/trauma. Anyway, he refuses to take his meds, I can hardly stand being around him anymore. I do anything and everything to not be in the same room with him. I never know what is going to set him off and I am sick and tired of...
    SoHopeless SoHopeless 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Engaged To Someone W/ Ptsd

    I met my fiance about 2 years ago after he returned from Iraq. He told me up front that he had PTSD and I appreciated his honesty. I hit it off with him right away and we had an amazing connection. However, it wasn't long before I started realizing that he had some serious mood...
    BellaItalia02 BellaItalia02 26-30 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    Marrying Soldier With Ptsd

    My fiance and I began dating at the beginning of his Afghanistan deployment in March 2011.We began planning our wedding that summer. Our relationship, though so far away from each other, was absolutely perfect in every way. In September of the same year, he was involved in a...
    Steph0225 Steph0225 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    I am currently going through the hardest thing

    I have ever gone through. The man I married was the most gentle, wonderful, supportive and amazing man I had ever known. I gave up a career, a home of my own, and closeness to my family to pursue what I had thought would be a lifelong journey with my soldier. When he returned...
    kelliekocsis kelliekocsis 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 21

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    I Am Not Willing To Let Ptsd Destroy My Marriage

    Hi everyone I am new here and thought I would share my story. My husband had PTSD. He was in Desert Storm, Mogadishu and Somolia. Since I have known him he has had a struggle with alcohol and drugs (his own attempts to self medicate). We have been married for 4 years (together...
    mollyhart mollyhart 31-35 12 Responses Nov 18, 2010

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    Trying to Hold On

     I am not married to someone with PTSD, although I am in a serious relationship with someone with PTSD.  My boyfriend of almost two years has PTSD from serving in Iraq nearly four years ago.  Most of the time our relationship is fine, and while he will have...
    mla479 mla479 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 14, 2009

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    Who Is He Really?

    I met my husband after his tour in Iraq and after a lot of other stuff happened that further worsened his condition. I was not the cause of any of his current PTSD. I did not know him before he had PTSD and this is where the real confusion for me is. What parts of him are PTSD...
    twinklestarz twinklestarz 36-40 1 Response May 14, 2013

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    I'm About To Be Married With Someone Who Has Ptsd!

    I have been going with my partner for just over 2 years we have a little girl who is almost one and i'm getting married next year. right now at this stage of my relationship we should be still having fun enjoying ourselves but its not like that one bit im so lonely,sad, upset...
    kimberleyj kimberleyj 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I read on here that their husbands show

    excessive anger. But mine shows it passive aggressively any one else getting emotionally beat up? Lied to by omission? Sugar coated insults? Sex being withheld for months? Back stabbing? Ect ect
    jjflygirl1 jjflygirl1 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    Hopeful...

    Just thought I would share my story.  I met my husband 5 years ago right before his 3rd and final tour to Iraq.  Since then we have been through a lot.  There are many positives, we got marriend, had two beautiful children, and bought a home just a year ago. ...
    WifeandMom05 WifeandMom05 22-25 4 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    I have read so many of your experiences it's

    like a mirror to my own life. Who knew 21 years ago when I married my husband I would suffer like this daily! I didn't know my husband before Desert Storm we met shortly after he came back and in a whirlwind of romance got married quickly. PTSD wasn't always evident, but the...
    Niff73 Niff73 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30

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    My Gf (Now My Ex) Has PTSD I Believe

    Hello. I as well am really liking this site because for the last few months I have had a very difficult time dealing with my gf (now my ex) and I strongly believe she has PTSD. I posted this on another section of this website and got some good feedback, but this area may be...
    MissingMyGf MissingMyGf 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Married To The Army And A Man

    i have been married to Ron for 24 years now.  He has been back from his last tour in Iraq for two years now and It has been one of the hardest things to go through in all of the 24 years I have been married to him. I feel as if the man I married 22 years ago died in Iraq...
    Boo1967 Boo1967 41-45 4 Responses May 1, 2010

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    PTSD Destroyed My Marriage!

    ***Language warning - this will be ugly***I ******* HATE YOU PTSD!!! You stole my husband and replaced him with a monster who makes it crystal clear how much he HATES me! The truth came out today: he has only been staying because he knows he can't get custody of our son if we...
    mom2ahrj mom2ahrj 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    Is This PTSD?

    My husband is in the USMC and just returned from Afghanistan two weeks ago. Before he left, he declared I was the woman of his life, his best friend and that we should have another baby (we have a one year old). We immediately got pregnant right before he left. He started getting...
    Maricota Maricota 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2013

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    At The End Of My Rope

    My Husband is a Vietnam War Veteran and he was wounded while serving over there. He is in his middle 60's and I am 49.  We have been together for 4  1/2 years. The first two years were "okay", but these last 2 1/2 have been hell. He is like Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde and I...
    vietnamptsd vietnamptsd 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2010

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    Well, we are not married

    but we are engaged. We have been together for four years. Our relationship was something people dream of having. We were the couple everybody envied and was jealous of because we were just so happy. Ever since he returned from deployment I don't feel like that same couple. I...
    kiley9 kiley9 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Simple Messages Can Turn Everything Upside Down 8/22/2013

    This morning around 2am I received an email from him. He called me sweetheart and let me know that his travel went alright (to where he will be in Afghanistan) and he said he hopes that everything is going good here for me. SUCH a simple message. But still meant so much. He...
    ignite555 ignite555 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    An Interesting Study

    I think a good start in helping our beloved is to document as much and find out the latest research made ​​by specialists. Here's what I read. http://www.uofmhealth.org/news/archive/201304/mindfulness-therapy-might-help-veterans-combat-related-post
    ila1977 ila1977 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 30, 2013

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    My Husband Has Ptsd

    I wasn't an army wife. I married my husband after he retired from the army and I knew he had the PTSD but I really didn't know what it was all about. He's not violent, he doesn't yell he just seems to be empty. Its not an everyday thing or even weekly but when it hits I feel...
    cheryl13 cheryl13 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2013

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    Imagine. What If There Were A Way?

    Imagine. What if there were a way? What if there were a way that you could get rid of all that emotional pain from your past? What if you could just pack it all up and get rid of it for good? What if those painful memories weren't controlling your decisions?  Your...
    newhopehealth newhopehealth 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 11, 2010

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    My name is irrelevant.

    My husband and I have a long history together. We met 15 years ago, as kids. He was my soul mate. Because of past drama with me I didn't act and he knew and respected everything about me and didn't act. We were best friends. He watched me go through bad choice after bad choice...
    needjhim14 needjhim14 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I am not married, not yet,

    but hope to be in the near future. My boyfriend is a retired infantry soldier who served two tours in Iraq. I have only known him since he was retired, so I was not there to experience him being gone or when he came back. He has PTSD not only from his military career but from...
    Serenity14 Serenity14 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I am married to someone with PTSD

    and chronic pain. He has had both for the past 5 years and has been going to therapy. It has been very hard living with him, but at the same time I feel bad for him because he did not ask for this. I don't think I can keep living a life with him. He has no emotional highs...
    littlebetsy littlebetsy 46-50, F Sep 21

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    Our War At Home

    My husband and I were newly married when he left for Iraq and we were very young. He was only 19 while in combat. He came home with PTSD 8 years ago, and we have struggled since. It took years to get him to admit to himself there was a problem. In the meantime, I feel I've...
    werbroken werbroken 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    A Small Victory!

    Yesterday I managed to communicate with him again. Not much, but it's more than anything. I made a few changes. I go to a military psychologist, and he guides me how to educate my attitude towards to my boyfriend. He persuaded me to not feel heart hurt when he ignores me...
    ila1977 ila1977 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 27, 2013

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    Ptsd Ruined Our Relationship

    I'm relieved to find this website.  I recently broke up with my boyfriend because of the same things I am reading here.  He returned from Afghanistan a couple of months ago.  He was so nice when he was in Afghanistan...he sent me flowers, he was very communicative...
    sinamonsgirl sinamonsgirl 41-45 9 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    Living With the One You Love Who Suffers With Ptsd

    I will start off by saying it is not easy living with someone who is suffering from PTSD.  I am an easy going, happy, love life and people but dealing with this daily takes it's toll.  I love my husband with all my heart.  I have to walk around him on egg shells because I...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 67 Responses Dec 7, 2007

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    My Version Of Dante's Inferno...

    First of all, let me start by saying my husband and I were together before he ever joined the military. We got married shortly after he got to the fleet and everything was perfect. Then he went to Iraq. My husband was the kind of man who would never call a woman a disrespectful...
    icenfire0525 icenfire0525 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    My Wife Has Pstd, I Am Alone!

    Been with my now wife for 10years, mariied 3! My wife and I were so in love for along time had problems but nothing out of the ordinary? I was well aware of her childhood molestation when we first started dating, she was up front with me and told me from time to time it effected...
    chad1276 chad1276 31-35 3 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    The Last Time We Spoke. 9/6/2013

    About a week ago I got a facebook IM. "how's it going?" is how the IM's always start. Never loving or sweet. Very cold and to the point. So we begin talking. Recently, viewing some things on his facebook that are LESS than thrilling to a girlfriend on his page...im slightly...
    ignite555 ignite555 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    Thinking of Leaving Him....

    This has been the worse thing I have ever been through in my life.  I went to school with this man, he loved me and charmed me and we started a life of challenges together.  Ha a child young, moved away from family while in the military.  Change in jobs...
    RetroBeehive RetroBeehive 41-45 3 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    Losing My Mind

    After 13 years of marriage, I just couldn't take it any more. The lies, the mood swings, the lies... You get the picture. I had met my husband in college and we were friends for 5 years before we even started dating. We have 2 children, went through a lot of good and bad times...
    caseycutie123 caseycutie123 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 19, 2010

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    I Am Not Married...

    but I am crazy about someone with PTSD. He is in the National Guard and it was triggered in his first deployment when he got shot. He told me within a couple of weeks about his disorder and since my uncle has it from his days in 'Nam I really thought that it would be no big deal...
    MerciAlexis MerciAlexis 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    I Think My Boyfriend Has Ptsd

    My boyfriend is a police officer, but went to Afghanistan and Iraq before we met. I first met my boyfriend a year ago. We went on a few dates and then he quit talking to me. Well this year we started dating again in April and have been together ever since. At first...
    mandyz555 mandyz555 26-30 1 Response Nov 5, 2010

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    I have just gotten engaged after 4 months of dating (may seem fast, but when you know...you know). I am an NT woman. I have dated many men in my life, and married once too. I wasn...
    bddthatsme bddthatsme 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 11

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