I Am Married to Someone With Ptsd

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    I am married to someone with PTSD

    and chronic pain. He has had both for the past 5 years and has been going to therapy. It has been very hard living with him, but at the same time I feel bad for him because he did not ask for this. I don't think I can keep living a life with him. He has no emotional highs...
    littlebetsy littlebetsy
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Sep 21, 2014

    My Husband Has Ptsd

    My husband and I were together for almost 4 years before we decided to get married. We have been married for 2 months. During the 4 years there was a time when we were broke up for almost a year and a half. During that year he got another girl pregnant and they had baby girl. The...
    tngrl3510 tngrl3510
    18-21, F
    Aug 21, 2012

    I am done making excuses.

    this man as hurt me so much. I feel suicidal. my bday was friday. we had plans. (little back story) he told me he's never left America except for when he went to iraq. family, girlfriends never did anything special or out of the way for his bday so it's not a big deal to him. in...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2015

    My husband was diagnosed with PTSD not from

    combat but from some past childhood experience/trauma. Anyway, he refuses to take his meds, I can hardly stand being around him anymore. I do anything and everything to not be in the same room with him. I never know what is going to set him off and I am sick and tired of...
    SoHopeless SoHopeless
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    Sit Tight, This Is a Long One

    I grew up with a very protective mother. I grew up not knowing what sort of evil existed in this world. My husband, unfortunatly, wasn't as lucky. He had a really horrible childhood. He was abused my his mother, physically. She would beat him with sticks, spank him with...
    Queen82 Queen82
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 7, 2009

    sigh... has wife or girl friends of soldiers

    who suffer from ptsd figure out how to deal with them as yet. everything these days is an issue.
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    I am currently going through the hardest thing

    I have ever gone through. The man I married was the most gentle, wonderful, supportive and amazing man I had ever known. I gave up a career, a home of my own, and closeness to my family to pursue what I had thought would be a lifelong journey with my soldier. When he returned...
    kelliekocsis kelliekocsis
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2014

    Engaged To Someone W/ Ptsd

    I met my fiance about 2 years ago after he returned from Iraq. He told me up front that he had PTSD and I appreciated his honesty. I hit it off with him right away and we had an amazing connection. However, it wasn't long before I started realizing that he had some serious mood...
    BellaItalia02 BellaItalia02
    6 Responses Jul 12, 2012

    Simple Messages Can Turn Everything Upside Down 8/22/2013

    This morning around 2am I received an email from him. He called me sweetheart and let me know that his travel went alright (to where he will be in Afghanistan) and he said he hopes that everything is going good here for me. SUCH a simple message. But still meant so much. He...
    ignite555 ignite555
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2013

    the past 3 years have been an absolute roller

    coaster with my husband. since he came home from Afghanistan nothing has been the same. every year his ptsd seems to just get worse and worse. he's attempted counseling but just quits. we've talked about separation and divorce but we both just end up just staying. he's told me...
    yamz02 yamz02
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 27, 2014

    I don't know how some people can be

    so cruel. when my husband and I first moved in together. two days later he got a drunk called his Boss and was being paranoid despite me trying to tell him not to call. he got fired. and I had to work more days to cover the bills. it was fine. I held it together. to the point...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 1, 2015

    My name is irrelevant.

    My husband and I have a long history together. We met 15 years ago, as kids. He was my soul mate. Because of past drama with me I didn't act and he knew and respected everything about me and didn't act. We were best friends. He watched me go through bad choice after bad choice...
    needjhim14 needjhim14
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2014

    I fell in love passionately

    and quickly, my husband is such a lovable guy everyone who meets him is drawn to him, he is also incredibly handsome. We have been married 7 years and have young children, things started great enough for me to fall in love, once we lived together I figured that was basically...
    Theymattertoo Theymattertoo
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2015

    New To Group =)

    Hello every one, my name is Sarah.  I am new to this group, unfortunately not new to PTSD.  My husband is an Iraqi war Veteran living with PTSD.  He has been out of the service for 2years now, and unfortunately he is struggling with PTSD.  His PTSD, and his stubbornness have...
    OoSare127 OoSare127
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 30, 2011

    I am my husband's caregiver I stay at home

    and take care of 7 kids and take care of my husband's medical needs,I get paid for it,it makes me feel hurt that he can just say that I only get the money because of him,and that if things go sour his mom will be his caregiver.he always thinks I'm just going to leave or in an...
    shoni853 shoni853
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 25, 2015

    what I'd give to have my husband back,

    the man he once was. the loneliness is overwhelming tonight
    yamz02 yamz02
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

    My Gf (Now My Ex) Has PTSD I Believe

    Hello. I as well am really liking this site because for the last few months I have had a very difficult time dealing with my gf (now my ex) and I strongly believe she has PTSD. I posted this on another section of this website and got some good feedback, but this area may be...
    MissingMyGf MissingMyGf
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Oct 7, 2013

    At The End Of My Rope

    My Husband is a Vietnam War Veteran and he was wounded while serving over there. He is in his middle 60's and I am 49.  We have been together for 4  1/2 years. The first two years were "okay", but these last 2 1/2 have been hell. He is like Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde and I...
    vietnamptsd vietnamptsd
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2010

    my husband tells me all the time

    that he wants to be left alone, give him space. I've tried. I've left the house for a week or a weekend. I will spend evenings not even talking to him or just spending the rest of my night alone in my room. do I just have to shut down completely like him. do I have to be inhuman...
    yamz02 yamz02
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2014

    Ptsd Ruined Our Relationship

    I'm relieved to find this website.  I recently broke up with my boyfriend because of the same things I am reading here.  He returned from Afghanistan a couple of months ago.  He was so nice when he was in Afghanistan...he sent me flowers, he was very communicative...
    sinamonsgirl sinamonsgirl
    10 Responses Oct 6, 2010

    The last two days were amazing.

    we (my husband and i) laid up...talked alot about the issues we were having made a few compromises and are willing to work through our issues. for now all seems blissful and I'm happy
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    Jun 5, 2015

    so I bartend. the thing about

    that is I'm good at my job. my boss loves me. so when I'm stressed out he allows me to take my personal days. In the past one or two days now two weeks. because I'm waiting on my bruises to go away. my husband burnt me in my cleavage because he was drunk and he was smoking...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 10, 2015

    the crazy thing is I'm hurting

    and my hearts breaking. my husband came home stressed from work. didn't sleep drank an entire bottle of tequila and started arguing. broke the tv. threw bottles got really aggressive n i got scared because he was escalating. I called the cops and he ran away. the cops came. took...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2015

    My Wife Has Pstd, I Am Alone!

    Been with my now wife for 10years, mariied 3! My wife and I were so in love for along time had problems but nothing out of the ordinary? I was well aware of her childhood molestation when we first started dating, she was up front with me and told me from time to time it effected...
    chad1276 chad1276
    3 Responses Apr 21, 2009

    My Husband And I Both Have Ptsd

    My Complex PTSD seems to effect me more at times but I've seen my husbands play out with our boys more now that our daughter has been born. He's constantly on top of them berating any "girly" choice they make. I'm just absolutely trapped inside my head at times to the point I don...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 20, 2013

    My Ex/friend With Ptsd

    My ex boyfriend who is now just a friend has PTSD. He got discharged from the army for it. Went over to Iraq and everything. I love him dearly and want to be with him but he keeps telling me that he doesn't. I don't know if this is true or not because we have been dating on and...
    casa88 casa88
    22-25, F
    Jul 6, 2012

    I have read so many of your experiences it's

    like a mirror to my own life. Who knew 21 years ago when I married my husband I would suffer like this daily! I didn't know my husband before Desert Storm we met shortly after he came back and in a whirlwind of romance got married quickly. PTSD wasn't always evident, but the...
    Niff73 Niff73
    41-45, F
    Sep 30, 2014

    I Have No Idea What to Do......

    I'm Joshua. My fiance' was brutally brutally raped about a year and a half ago. I have been with her for 7 months, so it happened before I was with her. She's the most beautiful, kind sweet person...I don't know how someone could have done this to her. Not only that, but she was...
    meyerjm758 meyerjm758
    8 Responses Jan 17, 2008

    Living With the One You Love Who Suffers With Ptsd

    I will start off by saying it is not easy living with someone who is suffering from PTSD.  I am an easy going, happy, love life and people but dealing with this daily takes it's toll.  I love my husband with all my heart.  I have to walk around him on egg shells because I...
    rondat rondat
    41-45, F
    71 Responses Dec 7, 2007

    I found this discussion board several years ago

    when I was engaged to my husband. Now, we will have been married 3 years in September. Our journey has been tumultuous. We are on the right track now, but still have a long way to go. If you are looking for someone to talk to who has walked where you are walking, please feel...
    BellaItalia02 BellaItalia02
    1 Response Jul 13, 2015

    so I'm at work... and it's strange how a single

    thing can change my entire mood. I was contented even happy maybe this morning. then of course my husband had to **** me off again. he's not appreciative and he's just a lying bastard...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 3, 2015

    My husband has had a life full of trauma.

    His dad left when he was 5 and started a new family halfway across the country. His mother shifted from man to man; they were ALL abusive in different ways. He was finally taken away by the state and adopted by his grandparents. His grandfather was sick and he was not able to be...
    LonelyMom214 LonelyMom214
    31-35, F
    Mar 7, 2015

    PTSD Destroyed My Marriage!

    ***Language warning - this will be ugly***I ******* HATE YOU PTSD!!! You stole my husband and replaced him with a monster who makes it crystal clear how much he HATES me! The truth came out today: he has only been staying because he knows he can't get custody of our son if we...
    mom2ahrj mom2ahrj
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Nov 11, 2013

    Well, we are not married

    but we are engaged. We have been together for four years. Our relationship was something people dream of having. We were the couple everybody envied and was jealous of because we were just so happy. Ever since he returned from deployment I don't feel like that same couple. I...
    kiley9 kiley9
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 5, 2014

    I am not married to but have been in a serious

    relationship for 2 years with a retired soldier who suffers with severe PTSD at 34 years old. He is the first soldier I have dated and I love him more than I thought was possible. We are going through a really difficult time and I was just looking to talk to others in a similar...
    AB81713 AB81713
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 28, 2015

    I am not married, not yet,

    but hope to be in the near future. My boyfriend is a retired infantry soldier who served two tours in Iraq. I have only known him since he was retired, so I was not there to experience him being gone or when he came back. He has PTSD not only from his military career but from...
    Serenity14 Serenity14
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 21, 2014

    I'm married the love of my life 5yr ago

    and when he survived a life threatening medical condition that was service connected the man I knew died and left behind the worst in human I have ever come to know. I'm the widow of a living corpse. Now the years of stress have taken it's toll and I'm the one sick. He threatens...
    endlessstruggle endlessstruggle
    46-50, F
    Mar 20, 2015

    I just left the house n I'm in a park nearby

    walking crying and talking to myself... he's horrible. he attacked me and shove me out of the house half naked because I didn't tell him how much money/tips I made bartending. he thinks I'm hiding money. my arms r bruised up and I'm just in a terrible state. he goes on social...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    my husband is being distant.

    at this present moment. I'm watching him sleep. he sleeps in the couch when he wants to get away from me. so I wait until he falls asleep n I Lay blankets on the floor in front of the couch and sleep. I don't know if I'm being silly. but I love sleeping with him that is the...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 1, 2015

    Imagine. What If There Were A Way?

    Imagine. What if there were a way? What if there were a way that you could get rid of all that emotional pain from your past? What if you could just pack it all up and get rid of it for good? What if those painful memories weren't controlling your decisions?  Your...
    newhopehealth newhopehealth
    46-50, M
    Jun 11, 2010

    If you ask that to your mother.

    . She will tell you, that, how she passed her time with your father. it is alright.
    arabchaosinbiltmore777 arabchaosinbiltmore777
    56-60, F
    Jun 1, 2015

    I have been with my husband

    for almost 4years now married almost 1. we have 7 kids between us and one of them is our own, I didn't meet him while in the military, but he's depression is really getting me down,I love him so much and it hurts me when he's hurting,we argue a lot ,but there is times when he's...
    sargeswife2014 sargeswife2014
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 2, 2015


    Last night I got in bed about 1 am, not at all what I would consider late. As I was searching for something to watch on television, I came accross a documentary about Baboons.. it was called National Geographic: Stress, Protrait of a killer. It's a documentart about the work of...
    beccabee420 beccabee420
    36-40, F
    24 Responses Aug 4, 2011

    I'm not married to someone with Ptsd

    but in a relationship with my bf. He has it. He just retired from serving 7 years in the military. Sometimes he won't talk to me for a few days. I asked him what was wrong if he was upset with me for something. He said no and finally told me that it was ptsd that sometimes he...
    ladrians ladrians
    26-30, F
    Mar 8, 2015

    Married To The Army And A Man

    i have been married to Ron for 24 years now.  He has been back from his last tour in Iraq for two years now and It has been one of the hardest things to go through in all of the 24 years I have been married to him. I feel as if the man I married 22 years ago died in Iraq...
    Boo1967 Boo1967
    4 Responses May 1, 2010

    My husbands ptsd and intimacy issues has

    changed the person I am today. I have never felt this alone in my life. I'm so sick of it!!
    christy6964 christy6964
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    It's like the wind got knocked out of me.

    ..cause I can hardly breathe... I feel like I keep setting myself up for disappointment and hurt. if I could just turn it off...my emotions,my love. sigh...my husband is the most disrespectful person I've ever had to deal with. my heart is shattered in z million pieces. I've...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 9, 2015

    been crying all night.

    so he has is Co workers convince I have issues and I'm acting crazy.. because i stood up to him yelled on top of voice, curse, threw things . I exploded and it wasn't pretty. I've been physical and verbally abused I've had all money consumed I've been humiliated. he took my...
    PhoenixGoddess PhoenixGoddess
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    I read on here that their husbands show

    excessive anger. But mine shows it passive aggressively any one else getting emotionally beat up? Lied to by omission? Sugar coated insults? Sex being withheld for months? Back stabbing? Ect ect
    jjflygirl1 jjflygirl1
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2014


    Just thought I would share my story.  I met my husband 5 years ago right before his 3rd and final tour to Iraq.  Since then we have been through a lot.  There are many positives, we got marriend, had two beautiful children, and bought a home just a year ago. ...
    WifeandMom05 WifeandMom05
    4 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    My husbands having a bad night.

    .. Even asked to go to the va! But we have no way of getting there and he doesn't want me to call an ambulance. Our car is busted, and we are staying with friends till my husbands check comes in. We are suppose to be moving to Arkansas when his check comes in.... This is all...
    RebeccaReynolds RebeccaReynolds
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 15, 2014
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