I Am Married Forum & Chat Board | wife sharing

My wife is out to meet a man she met online today for drinks and sex if the mood is right.  Has anybody else experienced this.

Is this something new you two discussed befoer she went out? Has it happened before or are their problems in your marriage? Women going out today and having sex w/o their husbands is more common than men doing it in years past. The Womens lib movement over the past 30 years has in my opinion done wonders in multiple ways for everyone. The wife sharring thing can be quite exciting and lead down many roads. If your interested in our experience let me know exactly what your situation is.

yes it has happened to me,i even shared her a fiew times with friends.they say she was the best they ever had

i have had a heart attack which left me with ed...i cannot take sex enhancements and my wife loves sex.i have always told her if she feels the need for sex tell me and i may want to join in .

Really?? How can you be ok with this? When she gets home..what do you guys say to one another? I definitely believe the saying "Everyone to their own" but I would just like to understand how you can deal with this psychologically!?! And can it really improve your relationship??

I can so identify with your plight...Same here...Let's correspond!!

my husband and i talked about it a few times but it never happend

i so would not be okay with my husband doing this and he wouldnt be okay with me doing it...ive heard of people doing this some say that it makes their sex life better but I just couldnt deal with it that would just eat me alive!!

If your marraige is strong and you are mature enough you set you own boundries. My wife and I have discussed swinging but haven't encountered a suitable cuple yet. We continue to keep open minded about it but if either one becomes apprehensive we back off.

I did something like that when I was with my ex.  He set boundaries, and I stuck to them.  Ok, it was exciting and all that, but the ultimate result was a lot of heartache.  Sex (or not-quite-sex, in this case) has never been 'just sex' to me even if that's all it was originally meant to be.  I ended up going all crush-y over people who I couldn't have and who didn't make me their first priority, and I couldn't complain since I couldn't make them a first priority either.  It hurt even though it wasn't supposed to, and there was nobody I could talk to about it.  All in all, I'm putting this one on the "things not to do again" list.

I did something like that when I was with my ex.  He set boundaries, and I stuck to them.  Ok, it was exciting and all that, but the ultimate result was a lot of heartache.  Sex (or not-quite-sex, in this case) has never been 'just sex' to me even if that's all it was originally meant to be.  I ended up going all crush-y over people who I couldn't have and who didn't make me their first priority, and I couldn't complain since I couldn't make them a first priority either.  It hurt even though it wasn't supposed to, and there was nobody I could talk to about it.  All in all, I'm putting this one on the "things not to do again" list.

This can be done...I don't suggest it for people who have not been married long...and be prepared that even if you set boundaries & rules, that lines will get crossed...have a game plan for how to handle conflicts, expectations, changes in mood/belief...and remember that while sex is fun, be respectful of the other people involved...try to be selective...i speak from experience here...for example, don't agree to a ********* with a married woman who isn't telling her husband...too much potential for DRAMA....once desires and fantasies are set loose, things can get a little wild & crazy...just hang on and enjoy the ride!

I shared my wife for several years and for us it was not just an exciting time in our lives but we both learned many lessons about life and ourselves.  It had an extremely positive effect on our lives and we have never been so happy since that time.

It was one of the most rewarding things I have done in my life.

It is not for everyone and it is definitely not a fix for a rocky marriage, in fact in my opinion, if your relationship is shaky then don't do it, wife sharing will make it worse as the emotional roller coaster would be just too hard to handle if either of you are insecure to start with.

i have. are you sure you want this to happen?

I have witness wife with several men and it turns me on like nothing else.I can't belive that most women can't seperate love from sex.simple you love your husband, but can't remain sexual active with other men I can't figure that out. to me love is love and sex is sex.of course some will be better in bed than us. thats the whole point.we want our wifes happy.and I feel a woman should be glade to have a man that will let her experience these sexual things.not to mention what she learns along the way to please her man at home.so I belive both parties benifit from this .

how can i get my wife to have a man do her in front of me

its not that u go looking for the wright ones if u got good close friend or some one u meet  if u r out with some good long time friends and u all get on well u have some drinks then u start to losen up a bit talk about sex and more drink and se how u go from there but dont go to these swingers glubs try some u know  like and trust most of all that what we did it was not pland it just happend and not just onece a few time s we still enjoy it some time  we have been together 20 odd year and still have a good sex live

its not that u go looking for the wright ones if u got good close friend or some one u meet  if u r out with some good long time friends and u all get on well u have some drinks then u start to losen up a bit talk about sex and more drink and se how u go from there but dont go to these swingers glubs try some u know  like and trust most of all that what we did it was not pland it just happend and not just onece a few time s we still enjoy it some time  so good lok

Sharing one's wife is not for everyone. Just like anything else some people just can't understand it and think you're crazy while others know your desires exactly. If someone would've told me I would enjoy watching her with another when we were first married, I would've disagreed. It is however something you need to be sure you can handle. You need to be secure and have a loving, strong relationship with open communication. There's nothing wrong with establishing rules for the encounter or taking things slow. But above all, even though it may be your fantasy, it's all about your wife. Make sure she is comfortable from start to finish, isn't disrespected/degraded in any way, and can opt out of the encounter at any time. After a successful encounter you may find yourselves thinking "Wow, I can't believe we just did that" all the while turned on by the adventure and ripping each other's clothes off for days after.