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I Am More Of The Suffer In Silence Type

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    I Keep My Problems To Myself.

    I like helping people. I assist people in trying to resolve their current dilemmas. I listen to their woes, counsel them. But when I have a problem, I clam up. And when I'm juggling too many concerns, I withdraw further into myself and become incommunicado. I'm stressed...
    brighteyedstargazer brighteyedstargazer 36-40, F May 27, 2013

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    The Outside

    To everyone who sees me, I laugh, I joke around, I smile. I look happy. You believe that I am, you think I have friends and everything is okay. But what I wish you would know is that when I go home, when I'm alone, I have only myself to talk to, and I cry almost every night. It...
    SolarBird SolarBird 16-17, F Sep 19, 2013

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    AchingSoul AchingSoul 22-25, F Mar 20

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    I Can't Handle It Much Longer

    My entire life I have been struggling with depression and self-esteem issues. I was bullied for part of middle school and even though years have passed since, the things that people said about me have stuck with me. It ruined my whole persona. Their words made me hate myself and...
    taylorietot taylorietot 16-17, F 8 Responses Feb 2, 2013

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    Definitely This....

    I work in childcare and there is one parent which comes in and talks nonstop about her problems. She is often on the verge of tears. She is the opposite to me. When something is wrong, I keep silent especially on big topics. Like my depressed younger sister, the rejection of my...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    I'm the type who holds all of my emotions inside

    until I'm ready to pop. I don't really tell anyone how I really feel because I feel as if no one understands me or no one even cares. I also don't want to come off as weak. I may look like this tough as a nail girl on the outside, but on the inside, I'm super vulnerable. So when...
    laubrown1 laubrown1 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Looking At Me

    When you look at me, you might see a bit of weariness in my eyes, a bit of exhaustion in my face, yet you'll almost never know why. I can put on a brave face, grin and bare the pain, but there are times where I will just express my emotions. I won't tell you my problems, I won't...
    Sleaxor Sleaxor 18-21, M Oct 2, 2013

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    I started getting over my crush 2 days ago.

    Yesterday and the day before: I barely smiled. I talked very little. I went to bed early. Yesterday he asked one of my best friends out. I laughed with her because it was weird. I came home and went straight to my room. I the fell asleep moping. Then went back downstairs to...
    secrets1can2be3told secrets1can2be3told 16-17, F Jun 7

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    It's so much easier not to tell people how

    you're feeling, that way you're not needing to rehash everything and they don't look at you any differently. It's kind of at the point now where if I've got something going on, i just can't be bothered to tell people.
    nottobevelealed nottobevelealed 16-17, F May 6

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    My friend has liked this one guy

    for forever and he apparently doesn't like her back. I promised her that I would never do anything with this guy because she really liked him. Maybe even love. I like him too and it's painful to think that I'll probably never even get to tell him how I feel. It's killing me. I...
    aelizabeth3300 aelizabeth3300 13-15, F 6 Responses Jun 9

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    I used to be but i won't anymore.

    I'll say what i want to say.
    Itscookiemonster Itscookiemonster 16-17, F Jul 9

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    This is so true. I adopted this way

    when I was young. I never wanted to burden my Father, he worked hard enough and had enough daily stress so I just got silent. I probably should have been more open though. It would be great to be open with friends but it is scary non the less.
    XxTheInsanePegasixX XxTheInsanePegasixX 18-21, M Apr 23

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    I try not to release it on other people,

    though sometimes it comes out that way. Especially since my dad is that way too and will randomly explode at people, and my mom always screams at everything whether her argument makes any sense or not. Friends are strange too. So I cry a lot at night. I sleep with a stuffed...
    Dev4444 Dev4444 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    Appearance And Society.

    My appearance is all the opposite of what I'm really am, I am 20 and I look like 24, my face reflects maturity,confidence and intelligence, I'm tall and body average, I go to college and I own a car so what would you think about that? -wow,she is attractive and she must work and...
    Cassy77 Cassy77 22-25 1 Response May 12, 2013

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    Out of suffering have emerged the strongest

    souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. -Khalil Gibran
    FullCircleO FullCircleO 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    When All Els Fails

    most people like to think that when they are depressed they are staring into an abyss and that they feel lonely. i feel like i was born in there not above looking in but already part of the darkness engaged with it and let it be my place of resignation. only when i drift above to...
    shadedsly shadedsly 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    Oh Yeah

    That's definitely me, i'm ******* stubborn when it comes to that. I will let it all build up, act like it's all ok, then i'll cave in. I'll do it behind closed doors, just quiet prolonged pain, oblivious to the outside world. I'd like to say that I don't know why I am the way...
    MiracleWhipTrickster MiracleWhipTrickster 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 17, 2011

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    I don't tell anyone how I'm feeling

    because my problems are just forgotten because of my sister.
    SianWendy SianWendy 16-17, F 1 Response May 15

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    I don't bother telling people how I feel.

    I don't like burdening them with my issues. My signature saying is "I'm fine", or "I'm great, really". I don't like people making a fuss about me so I'll suffer in silence. Even when I'm sick, I'll lock myself up in my room and take care of myself. I hate bothering and...
    BobFrost BobFrost 36-40, M Apr 23

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    The Mask.

    Sometimes I feel like a go through my days on autopilot, sucked into my own mind and begin to spiral. Somehow though I seem to go through the motions and fake my way through the day to family member and colleagues, almost like I have a mask on. My mask is lovely, always...
    thisoldroutine thisoldroutine 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    One of my biggest mistakes was not getting help

    when I really needed it. I tend to ignore problems thinking they'll go away on their own but they never do.
    LazyApe LazyApe 31-35, M May 22

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    Not Noticeable

    I struggled with serious depression for a good five or six years, and no one ever noticed, not really. My mother worried about me because she saw me the most, but she didn't realize its extent. She thought it was a phase, that it would go away with time. It didn't. If life hadn't...
    reciprocal reciprocal 16-17, F Nov 23, 2010

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    Really I only talk about my problems on here,

    because I'm anonymous. I don't believe in putting your problems on other people.
    davidginsberg davidginsberg 13-15, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    S.D.

    It's hard to admit when I'm hurting. When the pain is so intense that I have to stare long and hard in the mirror, telling myself over and over that it will be okay, that I will be okay. I do not like to go out of my way to find help, I feel odd, like I am purposely trying to get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 20, 2011

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 8

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    I'M The Suffer In Silence Type

    I'm the suffer in silence type. I guess I don't like people reading me or knowing what hurts me because it makes me feel vulnerable, naked and that's one thing that I just cannot deal with. Vulnerable because it's my heart that I'd be sharing and I cannot put things that are dear...
    lunaloveegood lunaloveegood 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2013

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    My First Scary Experience

    The day I had finally got help for myself, It was a great feeling. I had finally listen to my boyfriend, Which felt good. I had never let anyone get to me or me listening to them. So, I guess he's special. I was finally getting help. I was suppose to go to a karate class, But I...
    QueenOfPoetry QueenOfPoetry 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2013

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    I hate feeling depressed

    but I don't talk to anyone about my situations that are very difficult in my life right now.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    I Dont Think Someone Would Understand

    Ive always tried to do things myself. ive been taught that i should try to do things myself and rely on myself to get things done. but i know that i need help sometimes. but its been so long since ive had to rely on someone that i just suffer by myself. i dont know how to aproch...
    Silent20 Silent20 18-21, F Jan 21, 2012

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    Such a scream, a power,

    an aura and vibe; Her silence deafening the hardest of souls. No one knows what on earth could be going on inside.. All they see is a ghost. If only someone took the time, peered into her eyes; The depth of an ocean, the volume of space. Come forth a revelation of sorrow...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 22

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    I never tell anyone what's bothering me

    until it boils over and I break down. It's hard to trust that people care and won't use your troubles against you so I keep to myself.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Well most of the time I am.

    Basically I was a bit unfortunate as a baby. I got retino blastoma, (some sort of eye cancer), so they removed my left eye and I had to have radio therapy which made me loos most of my site in my right eye. I always think to myself, is there really anyone who would marry someone...
    Mahsa99 Mahsa99 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    The two most classic comments ever used are

    "I'm fine!" and "I'm just tired..." which we really mean is "I'm upset because...." "I hate my life!" "I'm fed up...." "Things aren't great...." It's just easier and quicker to just say 2 words so that we don't get all the questions and having to explain as not everybody always...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    Silence

    I don't like others to know the hurt I'm feeling inside. I am an extremely private person, when it comes to my feelings on particular subjects. EP gives me a sense of security in that way. I'm able to express my irritation and stress without the possibility of being judged by...
    MissMoxy MissMoxy 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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    xColdxWorldx xColdxWorldx 22-25, M Jun 15

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    I Prefer It This Way.

    I'm sure we've all seen some people who prefer to suffer as loudly as possible, like they've caught themselves in a bear trap, loud panic with no thought to just solve their own problems. On the other hand, people like myself who don't show what they feel are the stronger type...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 24, 2013

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    Wow I haven't written in a while.

    .. Well... I guess I'm alone again. I guess I need someone to talk to again. So here I am. So my aunt, cousin, and cousins' stepdad all went to Peru for a two weeks for a mini vacation. Okay whatever I guess they needed it. Everyone told me and my cousins dm my sister that they...
    secrets1can2be3told secrets1can2be3told 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    Camouflage Camouflage 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 24, 2013

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    Lonely

    I didn't tell them how I felt I didn't tell them a word I kept it all inside my shell this shell I cannot even afford. I kept my face solid and straight when I was screaming aloud. I was feeling dreadfully lonely standing amidst this crowd. I didn't tell them anything not a...
    Yeshmanthi Yeshmanthi 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2011

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    I dont think anyone can guess it.

    ..but I do suffer a lot in silence.I am talkative,speak all but the deep pain never comes out because it is so profound I am not able to find anyone able to understand it. It seems things doesnt affect me but it does.
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I'm Not Okay (I Promise)

    I don't even know where to begin... So many thoughts are racing through my mind but I can't seem to find the right words to form the sentence that I want so desperatley to say. I'm 20, and for the past 6 years I've had a kind of sadness inside of me that I just can't seem to put...
    Evie007 Evie007 18-21, F May 27, 2013

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    I just don't know why I can't talk to people

    about things. I'm so socially awkward and I don't want to bother anyone with what I feel. It's almost like they will be so sick of me telling them about my problems they will just give up. So I just keep it all locked up in this little brain of mine.
    margaret707 margaret707 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 27

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    Been like this my whole life I don't like

    opening up to ppl not as much as I used to. I would rather just deal with it all by myself
    cartoonblankets cartoonblankets 18-21, M Apr 22

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    I don't like telling people my problems,

    I like keeping my demons inside where no one can see them. Which really works in my favor because no one expects me to cut myself or to drink and do drugs and stuff, just because I always have a smile on my face and the fact that I like to wear dresses and be all "girly". But...
    Lanigga14 Lanigga14 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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