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I Am Never Comfortable In Social Situations

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    Being Around Many People

    I've always had trouble being around groups of people. I feel like I don't fit in and suddenly I become quiet and shy to the point I feel like I want to start crying. I can't even be together with 2 friends. I won't do any talking. I am a very friendly person and I love...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    Different

    I believe I am in need of some advice from more experienced people. I always feel shaken by social events. I tend to speak in metaphors and the like. As a young person who is viewed as enept and creepy when I feel I am eloquient and insightful for my age,I am asking what should I...
    Ginnie Ginnie 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    Tired Of Feeling Like This

    I am afraid to admit how I feel in social situations because of my age.  I have been feeling out of place for as long as I can remember.  I have never felt comfortable around people and have been avoiding social situaltions all my life. Even with family members.  Leaving the...
    Trafe Trafe 56-60 4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

    Maybe I'm just too introverted or maybe it's social anxiety, but I don't like being around too many people. I'm okay with hanging out with 1-3 people, but even then I have to know them or else I won't want to go. Just today I was invited to go hang out at a house party of my...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    My Blog

    everyone please check out my blogs. i want everyone to check it out with social anxiety.. because  WE ARE NOT ALONE !!!! (: pleaase comment them saying anything thats on your mind. read my blog. it is truely powerful. i have social anxiety and i write about how i feel. please...
    amandabanana1 amandabanana1 18-21, F Dec 20, 2010

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    Shy and Awkward

    I've always felt socially shy and awkward.  When I was a kid, I didn't have any huge problems socially.  I'd say it was maybe around fourth grade when I started to feel a little shy socially.  I started a new school that year and started to feel a little physically...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    Where Are My Training Wheels???

    I'm trying to do this whole being social thing.  But i feel like a kid trying to learn to ride a bike.  I don't understand social rules, i mean they are different in every situation, social circle and venue. Then you have to learn how to read all the social cues that...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Jun 18, 2010

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    I Am Quiet And Seemingly Anti-social..but Am I?

    I am not capable of really talking to people. I think my ability to make friends has been decreasing. its really sad. At the end of last year i told myself i would make lots of amazing new friends who would adore me and that didn't turn out well. now I've got some friends, but...
    wecry04 wecry04 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Mouse-y

    People always see me as quiet, shy or mousey... but that's not how I see myself. My internal world is pretty rich but I find it so hard to bring those thoughts, feelings and ideas out when I speak with people (especially people I don't know that well). I get nervous and I think...
    NorthernSky NorthernSky 22-25 Apr 30, 2009

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    Always Have Doubt and Feel Insecure

    I can fake confidence most of the time, depending upon the situation. But I am never completely comfortable and at-ease. I'm always second-guessing everything I do and say. I'm afraid others just won't like me or will judge me. I think I have just had a lot of negative...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Vroom Vroom *no Relation to the Entry*

    I'm good in one on ones, and talking to a small group, but more than three people gets a bit uncomfortable. More than three and I'm only talking to a select few, simply cuz I still don't know how to talk to multiple people at once, give them equal attention, and walk away from it...
    mixedview mixedview 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    My Step-Daughter'S College Graduation.

    This weekend, my beautiful step-daughter, Janene, made her college graduation from SUNY New Paltz. This was an outdoor event, which consisted of 5,000 people all together. 1,000 graduates and the rest relatives. Well, it rained the entire day. I couldn't wait to get indoors...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F May 21, 2013

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    Small Talk?? Kind of a Rant

    I never know what to say to people.  How do you learn the art of small talk anyways?  And what exactly is the point of being able to rattle on and on about a topic that you don't care about? This is why i am socially inept...  because i don't say anything...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    I Am Always the Quiet One.

    Usually I avoid  situations with just me and another person, especialy if it is someone I dont know that well. But even around my group of friends they always describe me as the quiet one. I have also ben described as shy, sensitive, introverted, and even socialy awkward and...
    PXL77 PXL77 19-21, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2007

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    Mini Shirt and Heels??

    hello, just thought I would share a little about me, the first time I went out dressed as a female it was in a short skirt and heels, My makeup was really bad and I had a lot of beer that day, belive it or not everyone was very sweet to me and of course there were always a few to...
    2bmtruely 2bmtruely 51-55 1 Response Dec 21, 2008

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    Inferior.

    That's how I feel. Everyone else seems to be prettier or a better dancer, or is more witty and has more to talk about. EP is building my confidence though, When I first joined I thought, what have I got to share? but then you find yourself writing about all kinds and people reply...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    A Life of Silence

    I just never know what to say when I'm around strangers or even acquaintances--I even have trouble talking with old friends that I haven't seen for several years. When I was younger people would find my shyness endearing, but now that I'm an "adult" it feels like people...
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2008

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    Complicated...

    I have been told by my mother that I am destined to be a people-person. I have been told that I am very polite and I make my parents proud with my ability to socialize... Internally... I am sweating buckets, squirming, mentally exhausted, fidgetting, constant worrying...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    I Dont Know Why!!

    social situations have just never been my thing, i mean, i do go out occasionally, but thats about it!!! i prefer being in the company of just a couple of people!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    Situationally Shy

    I am great in one on one situations... actually I thrive on them.  I am just someone who does not like to be in massive groups.  I had a suprise hen night and it took me a few drinks just to make sure that I did not pass out.  I had fun in the end... but I was...
    Oregano Oregano 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2008

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Annoys Me

    There was a time when I was the life and soul of a party! No one would dream of going for a drink without inviting me! A night out with me was the best - and everyone would have great fun.... so what happened? I have no idea, the most obvious answer would seem to be marraige, but...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F Jul 24, 2008

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    I Am a Loner In Social Situations

    I'd rather not say uncomfortable, but somehow end up being isolated in social situations. For instance, yesterday I was at a social function at work, farewell party really. I had went with a friend, but she knew most people there...so i'd be left all by myself and when I looked...
    kkgal kkgal 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    When you meet someone for the first time do you ever just like spit or stutter or like slur your words or some **** and just completely ruin there first impression of you and you...
    goats4lyfe goats4lyfe 13-15, F Jun 30

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    Hello I suffer anxiety and deppresion, had it ever since i was 8. It sucks, and I barely have any friends.. I am 19 male in U.S. I just joined to hopefully meet people on here...
    Lambertt Lambertt 18-21, M Jul 8

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    It's hard for me to talk to people. Conversations are just painful for me. It's always been like that, but I'm hoping it'll change.
    YoungAndAwkward YoungAndAwkward 13-15, F Jul 17

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    It has been said that we are social animals. I think that's true. Even introverts like me value connections, we just value fewer and deeper connections than what the social media...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I didn't realise that I had social anxiety until I took the Liebowitz Social Anxiety test 2 days ago. I scored a 91, saying that I have severe social anxiety. My doctor made me...
    Hazelgrace22 Hazelgrace22 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I have to type this ASAP before my mind decides that I should forget it. I have been thinking about something and somehow stumbled onto why I think I am depressed at the moment...
    30Hemm 30Hemm 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 4

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    My boyfriend thought this would be a good idea but I fear I'll just be a voice lost among many here. I don't know that I have social anxiety. I haven't seen a doctor. And I don...
    PrivateB PrivateB 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I have low self esteem. I hate looking at myself in the mirror. I don't like my body or my face. When people compliment me I often accept what they say but I never believe any of...
    dianeemariee dianeemariee 13-15, F a week ago

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    Most situations either have an innuendo that I can pick out or I end up laughing or trying to hide my laughter at how serious the situation would be
    jacithepanda jacithepanda 13-15, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I certainly have social anxiety but not to the point that I cannot function socially at all. But each time that I go into a social situation, I do need to mentally prepare myself...
    NerdyGirl78 NerdyGirl78 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    All my life I have lived in fear of social rejection. My family immigrated to the U.S. when I was 6 and I could not speak a word of English. I was sent to live with my aunt who...
    MNRR MNRR 36-40 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Sometimes it's hard to remember that I used to be comfortable around people as a kid. Since I was 9 or 10 years old I've had trouble going to school. At first I had no idea why. My...
    Nakuki Nakuki 22-25 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I think the worst way in which social anxiety affects me is with finding employment. I get so nervous when job hunting in person i'll often just do it online but I know it's...
    genericidiot genericidiot 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    To those that have Social Anxiety and feel trapped, here is a message that I sent to one of my friends on here. I want you guys to read it: "Hey!, Thank you. I used to be a gamer...
    athion64 athion64 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    How do you learn to read social cues??? I am tired of being lonely and misrable.
    whatupdoc54 whatupdoc54 18-21, M 17 hrs ago

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    I can barely talk to anyone without feeling awkward. My ex had social problems too, so when he moved out of state we kind of just babbled nonsensically into a 'breakup'... I mean...
    JustOldLight JustOldLight 13-15, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I could watch a meteorite strike a building next door and still be like...'so... How've you been?'. This is half the time for me. I have gotten much better at it tho, but I never...
    ThisIsANewMe ThisIsANewMe 18-21, M Jul 14

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    Look into the DEC Campsites Internet site To learn more about camping in Western Australia's countrywide parks. When the camping services at lots of nationwide parks are rather...
    Kit1739qm Kit1739qm 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Author's note: I'm sorry if all this doesn't make sense. It was written to understand, and I worked through a lot writing it. It feels odd posting it but I haven't posted here in a...
    theologian theologian 18-21, M Jul 4

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    I dwell on an awkward moment much longer than necessary, never go anywhere without someone that makes me feel comfortable, follow that person around way too much, worry about being...
    SensitiveSelf SensitiveSelf 13-15 1 Response Jul 17

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    I have been diagnosed with clinical depression from the age of 15. I guess what got me started was the constant bullying I endured through my school years. At the age of 14, I...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I really hate being in situations where you are in a huge group of people where you don't know anyone except for the one friend and you just stand there looking around and smiling...
    tediousjpg tediousjpg 16-17 5 Responses Jul 11

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    A message to all parents. Hi. I haven't been diagnosed, not yet but I'm pretty sure I've had it for nearly 4 years now. In the recent years though, my situation has significantly...
    mayhems mayhems 36-40 1 Response Jul 17

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    I am sick & tired of being sick & tired! My mother & I got into a major fight about my social life. What do you think I should do?
    bigvi bigvi 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    This weekend I have been visiting my grandfather on he fathers side. And of course that meant multiple visits from my dad's cousins and other people I have never met. Add to that...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My social anxiety has gotten worse. I get horrible panic attacks and sometimes I become angry ( not entirely sure why angry but it happens...) I can't even go outside without...
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F Jul 7

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