I Am Never Comfortable In Social Situations

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 405 People

    A Life of Silence

    I just never know what to say when I'm around strangers or even acquaintances--I even have trouble talking with old friends that I haven't seen for several years. When I was younger people would find my shyness endearing, but now that I'm an "adult" it feels like people...
    bluepepper bluepepper
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 4, 2008

    Situationally Shy

    I am great in one on one situations... actually I thrive on them.  I am just someone who does not like to be in massive groups.  I had a suprise hen night and it took me a few drinks just to make sure that I did not pass out.  I had fun in the end... but I was...
    Oregano Oregano
    26-30, F
    Jan 3, 2008

    My Step-Daughter'S College Graduation.

    This weekend, my beautiful step-daughter, Janene, made her college graduation from SUNY New Paltz. This was an outdoor event, which consisted of 5,000 people all together. 1,000 graduates and the rest relatives. Well, it rained the entire day. I couldn't wait to get indoors...
    tickleshy tickleshy
    46-50, F
    May 21, 2013

    Inferior.

    That's how I feel. Everyone else seems to be prettier or a better dancer, or is more witty and has more to talk about. EP is building my confidence though, When I first joined I thought, what have I got to share? but then you find yourself writing about all kinds and people reply...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 25, 2007

    Where Are My Training Wheels???

    I'm trying to do this whole being social thing.  But i feel like a kid trying to learn to ride a bike.  I don't understand social rules, i mean they are different in every situation, social circle and venue. Then you have to learn how to read all the social cues that...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    Jun 18, 2010

    Mini Shirt and Heels??

    hello, just thought I would share a little about me, the first time I went out dressed as a female it was in a short skirt and heels, My makeup was really bad and I had a lot of beer that day, belive it or not everyone was very sweet to me and of course there were always a few to...
    2bmtruely 2bmtruely
    51-55
    1 Response Dec 21, 2008

    My Blog

    everyone please check out my blogs. i want everyone to check it out with social anxiety.. because  WE ARE NOT ALONE !!!! (: pleaase comment them saying anything thats on your mind. read my blog. it is truely powerful. i have social anxiety and i write about how i feel. please...
    amandabanana1 amandabanana1
    18-21, F
    Dec 20, 2010

    Being Around Many People

    I've always had trouble being around groups of people. I feel like I don't fit in and suddenly I become quiet and shy to the point I feel like I want to start crying. I can't even be together with 2 friends. I won't do any talking. I am a very friendly person and I love...
    tickleshy tickleshy
    46-50, F
    Apr 8, 2013

    I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

    Maybe I'm just too introverted or maybe it's social anxiety, but I don't like being around too many people. I'm okay with hanging out with 1-3 people, but even then I have to know them or else I won't want to go. Just today I was invited to go hang out at a house party of my...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2008

    Tired Of Feeling Like This

    I am afraid to admit how I feel in social situations because of my age.  I have been feeling out of place for as long as I can remember.  I have never felt comfortable around people and have been avoiding social situaltions all my life. Even with family members.  Leaving the...
    Trafe Trafe
    56-60
    4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

    Yeah, I'm going to kinda rant here

    because this has been bugging me lately.I am so sick of people saying "If a girl is wearing revealing clothing she is 'asking for it'". Seriously, shut up.Just...shush.Why should what a girl chooses to wear excuse the behavior of a guy does to her? IT SHOULDN'T. You can argue...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity
    18-21
    Aug 26, 2014

    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 3, 2014

    Vroom Vroom *no Relation to the Entry*

    I'm good in one on ones, and talking to a small group, but more than three people gets a bit uncomfortable. More than three and I'm only talking to a select few, simply cuz I still don't know how to talk to multiple people at once, give them equal attention, and walk away from it...
    mixedview mixedview
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2008

    Seriously. I just don't like being around

    that many people. I prefer staying in my own comfortable little world away from society.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity
    18-21
    Aug 23, 2014

    I Am Always the Quiet One.

    Usually I avoid  situations with just me and another person, especialy if it is someone I dont know that well. But even around my group of friends they always describe me as the quiet one. I have also ben described as shy, sensitive, introverted, and even socialy awkward and...
    PXL77 PXL77
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 3, 2007

    i try to be nice to everyone

    and then i get mixed up with the wrong people
    soymari soymari
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2014

    Small Talk?? Kind of a Rant

    I never know what to say to people.  How do you learn the art of small talk anyways?  And what exactly is the point of being able to rattle on and on about a topic that you don't care about? This is why i am socially inept...  because i don't say anything...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

    Always Have Doubt and Feel Insecure

    I can fake confidence most of the time, depending upon the situation. But I am never completely comfortable and at-ease. I'm always second-guessing everything I do and say. I'm afraid others just won't like me or will judge me. I think I have just had a lot of negative...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

    I Am a Loner In Social Situations

    I'd rather not say uncomfortable, but somehow end up being isolated in social situations. For instance, yesterday I was at a social function at work, farewell party really. I had went with a friend, but she knew most people there...so i'd be left all by myself and when I looked...
    kkgal kkgal
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jan 27, 2009

    Different

    I believe I am in need of some advice from more experienced people. I always feel shaken by social events. I tend to speak in metaphors and the like. As a young person who is viewed as enept and creepy when I feel I am eloquient and insightful for my age,I am asking what should I...
    Ginnie Ginnie
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jun 22, 2008

    I Dont Know Why!!

    social situations have just never been my thing, i mean, i do go out occasionally, but thats about it!!! i prefer being in the company of just a couple of people!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 24, 2010

    Complicated...

    I have been told by my mother that I am destined to be a people-person. I have been told that I am very polite and I make my parents proud with my ability to socialize... Internally... I am sweating buckets, squirming, mentally exhausted, fidgetting, constant worrying...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2008

    Shy and Awkward

    I've always felt socially shy and awkward.  When I was a kid, I didn't have any huge problems socially.  I'd say it was maybe around fourth grade when I started to feel a little shy socially.  I started a new school that year and started to feel a little physically...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jan 6, 2008

    Mouse-y

    People always see me as quiet, shy or mousey... but that's not how I see myself. My internal world is pretty rich but I find it so hard to bring those thoughts, feelings and ideas out when I speak with people (especially people I don't know that well). I get nervous and I think...
    NorthernSky NorthernSky
    22-25
    Apr 30, 2009

    I Am Quiet And Seemingly Anti-social..but Am I?

    I am not capable of really talking to people. I think my ability to make friends has been decreasing. its really sad. At the end of last year i told myself i would make lots of amazing new friends who would adore me and that didn't turn out well. now I've got some friends, but...
    wecry04 wecry04
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

    Related Experiences

    My last story. So that maybe someday, When I suddenly remember you or when I remember there was a site named ep, I can re-read this post and smile remembering how we broke each...
    Ciflo Ciflo
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 21
    Today I shopped. I shopped!!!! which I have never done by myself before! :D. I brought myself new clothes (ALL BY MYSELF). I can't feel more happy about that :'). Small things are...
    nousernameindeed nousernameindeed
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 21
    I can never hate a person. I never had the ability to hate anything. I can only hate the actions that one commits in this life. I am not in control of a person's character. I...
    AmaterasuNoOkami AmaterasuNoOkami
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 21
    This will have to be written early since on April 25 this site will be gone. On April 25, 2008 my best friend gave birth to a precious baby boy. His name was Levi. on April 25, 2...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 20
    As EP comes to a close, I have mixed emotions. Within the first three days if joining back in November of 2014, unexpectingly I met and connected with someone on the emotional...
    Purpleorchid777 Purpleorchid777
    46-50, F
    Apr 20
    If you give up, it means you never wanted it. This is my last post.
    Ruben1970 Ruben1970
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 20
    never been in love or ever been kissed.
    Knickster24 Knickster24
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 19
    Never have i ever had a girlfriend, been kissed, went on a date, or hold hands with a female ever in my whole existence. I was always like the deep, strict, quiet and much slightly...
    Knickster24 Knickster24
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Apr 19
    All of this, this group and all the stories here, are really impressive... in the most horrible of the possibile ways. What I'm most impressed with are the amount and similarity of...
    TotalVoid TotalVoid
    26-30
    Apr 19
    I am so beyond damaged. These memories burn in my mind. Why couldn't he just confront the fact that he has hurt me? Having a girlfriend shouldn't make you not care about other...
    Redstrings Redstrings
    22-25, F
    Apr 19
    I may be a little more reserved but I seldom back down if I know I am right about an issues at work. However, I never back down from my family, friends, and even strangers if I...
    southernnudistlifestyle southernnudistlifestyle
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 19
    I never knew I would make so many frenemies on EP that I'm getting emotional
    LauraBowker LauraBowker
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 18
    I've denied it for years. But admittedly, it's something I have and can't seem to rise above. It effects much more than most can imagine. So last night, I was at my cousins' 19th...
    TheMasterMan1 TheMasterMan1
    16-17, M
    1 Response Apr 17
    I cant make new friends at my school. I've been with my current friends for years and I love them. But this girl I know she told me that I am antisocial at some point. It made me...
    raspberri raspberri
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 17
    Right now I'm online schooled (because I used to do gymnastics), but next year, for senior year, I'm going to a normal high school, and it's already all I can think about. I know...
    BellaGrace1 BellaGrace1
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Apr 16
    My friend had a surprise party yesterday. She is such a close friend to me and I love her to death but I have terrible anxiety and the last few days were horrible on me. I didn't...
    Blurryface5936 Blurryface5936
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 16
    You had no idea How lucky you were I always Had your back Never a doubt In my mind Until you Put them there, With your lying And manipulative ways
    EscapingUrLies EscapingUrLies
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 16
    there are times when this is true. sometimes the "right" thing seems impossible, but I think that is just doubt messing with your head. Fear and doubt are never easy to overcome...
    kk1874 kk1874
    31-35, F
    Apr 16
    I've had some really MEAN people REALLLLLY try to bring me down lately. I've had to leave them all behind. Its just me now. BUT , I still will NEVER give up, even if I have no...
    amnotthattired amnotthattired
    26-30, F
    Apr 16
    I recently completely left a very violent abusive guy who nearly killed me. Um. He tried to make me stop having fun on life. Ha. I'm free now,and I will NEVER give up. Plus there's...
    amnotthattired amnotthattired
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 16
    Oh well... My life is drifting and drifting. I live another day in this lonely world wondering if there is someone for me. But it seems like with all this lack of communication...
    YourSecretAdmire22 YourSecretAdmire22
    22-25, M
    Apr 15
    so what are some social sites that are similar to ep that will let a person who doesn't kiss ***. to speak her mind? lol :) and no I am not looking for sites rated NC 17 I don't...
    Kornisone Kornisone
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Apr 15
    I come from a broken home my mom as a crack head, my brother in jail for life for murder and we don't know our dad. I was in foster care from when I was 13 til 18 then I had...
    karabrown karabrown
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Apr 15
    Once upon a time, there was a girl. A small skinny girl. She had purple hair and blue striking eyes. She walked so certain, as if she knew exactly where she was going. I felt those...
    nikolatasic nikolatasic
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 14
    I'm asexual and I'm comfortable with my sexual orientation.
    Nonotu Nonotu
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Apr 14
    Yeah me too! Hahahahahaha! After I have taken risks and conquered fear.. I feel like i can do anything now. Hahhaha :D Yesterday I walked around the house naked. And i never felt...
    yayepisoverimsad yayepisoverimsad
    22-25, F
    17 Responses Apr 13
    Most days i really wish that i hadn't found this place 3 years ago. This place has taught me things I never needed to know. it's really bad when one thing completely overshadows...
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 13
    You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 13
    I once had a profile on a social media outlet that really let me vent with no boundaries. Share my thoughts with out risk of punishment. I made several accounts be aside I lost...
    imreal1999 imreal1999
    26-30, M
    Apr 13
    help me plz So when I first found out about him, I was 12 and he was 16. This was on a virtual reality site thing. He lives in a different county and doesn't know I exist and I...
    friedchickenwing friedchickenwing
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 12
    http://www.economist.com/news/briefing/21696507-social-network-has-turned-itself-one-worlds-most-influential-technology-giants?fsrc=scn/tw_ec...
    Awkward26 Awkward26
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 12
    I'm 19 but I've never been kissed. I mean I dont blame anyone because I dont date and stuff. But the whole idea of a person getting in my personal space scares me!
    Donnaen Donnaen
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 12
    I will Never Forget EP, the site that brought so many people together, the site that let me share with others what I hadn't been able to before Never forget your friends 
    FluttershyLabeouf FluttershyLabeouf
    18-21, M
    Apr 12
    I am depressed and find it challenging to beat my depression when I have to be social. Having to be social with people I don't know makes me self conscious and I act robotic and...
    agirl987 agirl987
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 11
    I see humans kissing dogs all the time yet i'm 28 and never been kissed. I'm disgusting, right? That's what humans think, especially women. A dog is so 'cute' but I'm jus ta 'creep...
    LuSyD LuSyD
    26-30, T
    1 Response Apr 11
More Stories