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I Am Never Comfortable In Social Situations

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    Yeah, I'm going to kinda rant here

    because this has been bugging me lately.I am so sick of people saying "If a girl is wearing revealing clothing she is 'asking for it'". Seriously, shut up.Just...shush.Why should what a girl chooses to wear excuse the behavior of a guy does to her? IT SHOULDN'T. You can argue...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    A Life of Silence

    I just never know what to say when I'm around strangers or even acquaintances--I even have trouble talking with old friends that I haven't seen for several years. When I was younger people would find my shyness endearing, but now that I'm an "adult" it feels like people...
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2008

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    I Am a Loner In Social Situations

    I'd rather not say uncomfortable, but somehow end up being isolated in social situations. For instance, yesterday I was at a social function at work, farewell party really. I had went with a friend, but she knew most people there...so i'd be left all by myself and when I looked...
    kkgal kkgal 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

    Maybe I'm just too introverted or maybe it's social anxiety, but I don't like being around too many people. I'm okay with hanging out with 1-3 people, but even then I have to know them or else I won't want to go. Just today I was invited to go hang out at a house party of my...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Mouse-y

    People always see me as quiet, shy or mousey... but that's not how I see myself. My internal world is pretty rich but I find it so hard to bring those thoughts, feelings and ideas out when I speak with people (especially people I don't know that well). I get nervous and I think...
    NorthernSky NorthernSky 22-25 Apr 30, 2009

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    My Step-Daughter'S College Graduation.

    This weekend, my beautiful step-daughter, Janene, made her college graduation from SUNY New Paltz. This was an outdoor event, which consisted of 5,000 people all together. 1,000 graduates and the rest relatives. Well, it rained the entire day. I couldn't wait to get indoors...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F May 21, 2013

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    Tired Of Feeling Like This

    I am afraid to admit how I feel in social situations because of my age.  I have been feeling out of place for as long as I can remember.  I have never felt comfortable around people and have been avoiding social situaltions all my life. Even with family members.  Leaving the...
    Trafe Trafe 56-60 4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Agoraphobia??? Ptsd?

    ?? Social anxiety??? Or allergy to jerks??? Or all four??? Who the fok knows??? But i tense up and want to trounce My personal space is huge. Heart attacks on seroquel did that. Was spooked before. But could handle walmart. And elevators. Now??? Holy crap...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 day ago

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    Small Talk?? Kind of a Rant

    I never know what to say to people.  How do you learn the art of small talk anyways?  And what exactly is the point of being able to rattle on and on about a topic that you don't care about? This is why i am socially inept...  because i don't say anything...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    Complicated...

    I have been told by my mother that I am destined to be a people-person. I have been told that I am very polite and I make my parents proud with my ability to socialize... Internally... I am sweating buckets, squirming, mentally exhausted, fidgetting, constant worrying...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    Always Have Doubt and Feel Insecure

    I can fake confidence most of the time, depending upon the situation. But I am never completely comfortable and at-ease. I'm always second-guessing everything I do and say. I'm afraid others just won't like me or will judge me. I think I have just had a lot of negative...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Annoys Me

    There was a time when I was the life and soul of a party! No one would dream of going for a drink without inviting me! A night out with me was the best - and everyone would have great fun.... so what happened? I have no idea, the most obvious answer would seem to be marraige, but...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F Jul 24, 2008

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    I Dont Know Why!!

    social situations have just never been my thing, i mean, i do go out occasionally, but thats about it!!! i prefer being in the company of just a couple of people!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    Mini Shirt and Heels??

    hello, just thought I would share a little about me, the first time I went out dressed as a female it was in a short skirt and heels, My makeup was really bad and I had a lot of beer that day, belive it or not everyone was very sweet to me and of course there were always a few to...
    2bmtruely 2bmtruely 51-55 1 Response Dec 21, 2008

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    Different

    I believe I am in need of some advice from more experienced people. I always feel shaken by social events. I tend to speak in metaphors and the like. As a young person who is viewed as enept and creepy when I feel I am eloquient and insightful for my age,I am asking what should I...
    Ginnie Ginnie 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    Shy and Awkward

    I've always felt socially shy and awkward.  When I was a kid, I didn't have any huge problems socially.  I'd say it was maybe around fourth grade when I started to feel a little shy socially.  I started a new school that year and started to feel a little physically...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    Seriously. I just don't like being around

    that many people. I prefer staying in my own comfortable little world away from society.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Vroom Vroom *no Relation to the Entry*

    I'm good in one on ones, and talking to a small group, but more than three people gets a bit uncomfortable. More than three and I'm only talking to a select few, simply cuz I still don't know how to talk to multiple people at once, give them equal attention, and walk away from it...
    mixedview mixedview 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Inferior.

    That's how I feel. Everyone else seems to be prettier or a better dancer, or is more witty and has more to talk about. EP is building my confidence though, When I first joined I thought, what have I got to share? but then you find yourself writing about all kinds and people reply...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    I Am Always the Quiet One.

    Usually I avoid  situations with just me and another person, especialy if it is someone I dont know that well. But even around my group of friends they always describe me as the quiet one. I have also ben described as shy, sensitive, introverted, and even socialy awkward and...
    PXL77 PXL77 19-21, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2007

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    My Blog

    everyone please check out my blogs. i want everyone to check it out with social anxiety.. because  WE ARE NOT ALONE !!!! (: pleaase comment them saying anything thats on your mind. read my blog. it is truely powerful. i have social anxiety and i write about how i feel. please...
    amandabanana1 amandabanana1 18-21, F Dec 20, 2010

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    I Am Quiet And Seemingly Anti-social..but Am I?

    I am not capable of really talking to people. I think my ability to make friends has been decreasing. its really sad. At the end of last year i told myself i would make lots of amazing new friends who would adore me and that didn't turn out well. now I've got some friends, but...
    wecry04 wecry04 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Situationally Shy

    I am great in one on one situations... actually I thrive on them.  I am just someone who does not like to be in massive groups.  I had a suprise hen night and it took me a few drinks just to make sure that I did not pass out.  I had fun in the end... but I was...
    Oregano Oregano 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2008

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    Being Around Many People

    I've always had trouble being around groups of people. I feel like I don't fit in and suddenly I become quiet and shy to the point I feel like I want to start crying. I can't even be together with 2 friends. I won't do any talking. I am a very friendly person and I love...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    Where Are My Training Wheels???

    I'm trying to do this whole being social thing.  But i feel like a kid trying to learn to ride a bike.  I don't understand social rules, i mean they are different in every situation, social circle and venue. Then you have to learn how to read all the social cues that...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Jun 18, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Augh I wish I wasn't so awkward, like I get really shy and quiet and stutter a lot especially if it's with new people *sigh*
    nadaSmiley nadaSmiley 13-15, F Jul 31

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    So one day my friend told me that there was this cute guy who I should meet. They were in theater together and she though he would be perfect for me. We are walking to Colorguard...
    dropdeadbrunette dropdeadbrunette 13-15, F Jul 31

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    i cant talk to people holy i hate this man . i just tried calling someone to get my phone fixed , they didnt pick up but i got nervous as hell.
    miz0217 miz0217 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 15

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    I really hate when my friends tell me stuff like "Being social isn't that hard" or "You are just being dramatic." Its hard for me to talk to anyone and to deal with a lot of social...
    Teresag2875 Teresag2875 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Should I go out and have fun tonight? My bf is at a lake with his friends getting drunk and having a good time. I don't wanna sit around like a loser lol. But social situations...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 2

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    I'll admit; I do. I know it is because I have low self-esteem and I feel like the biggest goober in social situations even though that may not be the case. It all ties back to my...
    jlynnaz jlynnaz 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Its a good and bad habit. I do things for the sake of the "greater good" which usually puts me in a lot of messed up situations. Im trying not to fail myself or the others that...
    xxmisslynnxx xxmisslynnxx 22-25, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    All of these things seem to have been getting worse with time. It's nothing like cheese or wine. ._. I remember when I first came to EP I had a bunch of people in my circle and I...
    Friability Friability 18-21 1 Response Aug 6

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    Taxation on goods was imposed for The very first time from the country, and import responsibilities ended up decreased in lots of products and companies. Social welfare Positive...
    Jeffrybup Jeffrybup 31-35, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am soo dissapointed in myself! Last weekend was my ultimate social test and I failed. It was my "sister in laws" babyshower. (boyfriend's brother's girlfriend). We dont really...
    viavleiviax viavleiviax 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    it bugs me that my boyfriend pushes me into uncomfortable situations as hard and often as he does even thou he knows I have social Anxiety and i hate how his whole family hates me...
    ForgetMeNotMyLove ForgetMeNotMyLove 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I can get along with anyone. I don't know how I am able to talk to anyone, it's just a gift. I can talk to people from all ages, different personality types, I can talk to socially...
    Robertjames9 Robertjames9 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 17

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    I laugh when in serious, painful, shameful situations, its really awkward! If i did something wrong i get the urge to smile, if I'm getting a shot i try to suppress my urge to...
    amazing97 amazing97 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    So I know this is social media too and even EP annoys me sometimes, but I'm most annoyed with mainstream social media like Instagram, Facebook, and especially Twitter. There's...
    mattihope mattihope 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    Actually shocking. What about yourself Alan? Have observed lots time individuals/users referred you and rated amid most effective. You also serves perth as you have described...
    Carriele83 Carriele83 31-35, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I only started expressing symptoms over the last 2 years. It's getting to the point where I don't even want to go grocery shopping. There's always too many people, and their...
    iamrae22 iamrae22 22-25, F Aug 12

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    It was my first day of my Senior year today. My last first day of high school, by this time around you'd think that'd I would have figured out how to fit in and socialize like a...
    ThatDarnKatz ThatDarnKatz 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I have found this site and I have been reading everybody's situations about their biological father. I would love the input and advice that I can get in my situation. I was dating...
    meglb13 meglb13 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I didn't quite know why I couldn't dare get change from the teenager at the register, or ask a stranger for help in public until about two years ago. I did some research and found...
    thegreatsideshow thegreatsideshow 13-15, F Jul 28

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    I'm not here to confess to you all that I am socially awkward. Which is not the case! I am here so people can talk to me, those who feel like they are socially awkward. The...
    Robertjames9 Robertjames9 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I wanted to write out my whole entire battle with social anxiety. I remember it clearly the first day I chocked up I had cold palms and sweaty forehead, I could feel my heart...
    dassays dassays 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I attended social clubs many years ago. I met a lady, lets call her Jane. I talked a lot with Jane, danced a bit. She even asked me to take her out dancing which I did. But during...
    whitevan whitevan 41-45, M 2 days ago

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    Most situations either have an innuendo that I can pick out or I end up laughing or trying to hide my laughter at how serious the situation would be
    jacithepanda jacithepanda 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    Yes I do have social anxiety because if I am in social sitting... I tend to tension up and coughing. Those