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I Am Never Comfortable In Social Situations

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 408 People

    I Am Quiet And Seemingly Anti-social..but Am I?

    I am not capable of really talking to people. I think my ability to make friends has been decreasing. its really sad. At the end of last year i told myself i would make lots of amazing new friends who would adore me and that didn't turn out well. now I've got some friends, but...
    wecry04 wecry04 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    A Life of Silence

    I just never know what to say when I'm around strangers or even acquaintances--I even have trouble talking with old friends that I haven't seen for several years. When I was younger people would find my shyness endearing, but now that I'm an "adult" it feels like people...
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2008

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    My Blog

    everyone please check out my blogs. i want everyone to check it out with social anxiety.. because  WE ARE NOT ALONE !!!! (: pleaase comment them saying anything thats on your mind. read my blog. it is truely powerful. i have social anxiety and i write about how i feel. please...
    amandabanana1 amandabanana1 18-21, F Dec 20, 2010

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    I Am Always the Quiet One.

    Usually I avoid  situations with just me and another person, especialy if it is someone I dont know that well. But even around my group of friends they always describe me as the quiet one. I have also ben described as shy, sensitive, introverted, and even socialy awkward and...
    PXL77 PXL77 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2007

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    Shy and Awkward

    I've always felt socially shy and awkward.  When I was a kid, I didn't have any huge problems socially.  I'd say it was maybe around fourth grade when I started to feel a little shy socially.  I started a new school that year and started to feel a little physically...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    Always Have Doubt and Feel Insecure

    I can fake confidence most of the time, depending upon the situation. But I am never completely comfortable and at-ease. I'm always second-guessing everything I do and say. I'm afraid others just won't like me or will judge me. I think I have just had a lot of negative...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Vroom Vroom *no Relation to the Entry*

    I'm good in one on ones, and talking to a small group, but more than three people gets a bit uncomfortable. More than three and I'm only talking to a select few, simply cuz I still don't know how to talk to multiple people at once, give them equal attention, and walk away from it...
    mixedview mixedview 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Seriously. I just don't like being around

    that many people. I prefer staying in my own comfortable little world away from society.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 1 Response Aug 23, 2014

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    Annoys Me

    There was a time when I was the life and soul of a party! No one would dream of going for a drink without inviting me! A night out with me was the best - and everyone would have great fun.... so what happened? I have no idea, the most obvious answer would seem to be marraige, but...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F Jul 24, 2008

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    Yeah, I'm going to kinda rant here

    because this has been bugging me lately.I am so sick of people saying "If a girl is wearing revealing clothing she is 'asking for it'". Seriously, shut up.Just...shush.Why should what a girl chooses to wear excuse the behavior of a guy does to her? IT SHOULDN'T. You can argue...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 Aug 26, 2014

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    My Step-Daughter'S College Graduation.

    This weekend, my beautiful step-daughter, Janene, made her college graduation from SUNY New Paltz. This was an outdoor event, which consisted of 5,000 people all together. 1,000 graduates and the rest relatives. Well, it rained the entire day. I couldn't wait to get indoors...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F May 21, 2013

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    Small Talk?? Kind of a Rant

    I never know what to say to people.  How do you learn the art of small talk anyways?  And what exactly is the point of being able to rattle on and on about a topic that you don't care about? This is why i am socially inept...  because i don't say anything...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    Tired Of Feeling Like This

    I am afraid to admit how I feel in social situations because of my age.  I have been feeling out of place for as long as I can remember.  I have never felt comfortable around people and have been avoiding social situaltions all my life. Even with family members.  Leaving the...
    Trafe Trafe 56-60 4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Where Are My Training Wheels???

    I'm trying to do this whole being social thing.  But i feel like a kid trying to learn to ride a bike.  I don't understand social rules, i mean they are different in every situation, social circle and venue. Then you have to learn how to read all the social cues that...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Jun 18, 2010

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    Being Around Many People

    I've always had trouble being around groups of people. I feel like I don't fit in and suddenly I become quiet and shy to the point I feel like I want to start crying. I can't even be together with 2 friends. I won't do any talking. I am a very friendly person and I love...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    I Am a Loner In Social Situations

    I'd rather not say uncomfortable, but somehow end up being isolated in social situations. For instance, yesterday I was at a social function at work, farewell party really. I had went with a friend, but she knew most people there...so i'd be left all by myself and when I looked...
    kkgal kkgal 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3, 2014

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    I Dont Know Why!!

    social situations have just never been my thing, i mean, i do go out occasionally, but thats about it!!! i prefer being in the company of just a couple of people!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    Mouse-y

    People always see me as quiet, shy or mousey... but that's not how I see myself. My internal world is pretty rich but I find it so hard to bring those thoughts, feelings and ideas out when I speak with people (especially people I don't know that well). I get nervous and I think...
    NorthernSky NorthernSky 22-25 Apr 30, 2009

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    I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

    Maybe I'm just too introverted or maybe it's social anxiety, but I don't like being around too many people. I'm okay with hanging out with 1-3 people, but even then I have to know them or else I won't want to go. Just today I was invited to go hang out at a house party of my...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Situationally Shy

    I am great in one on one situations... actually I thrive on them.  I am just someone who does not like to be in massive groups.  I had a suprise hen night and it took me a few drinks just to make sure that I did not pass out.  I had fun in the end... but I was...
    Oregano Oregano 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2008

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    Inferior.

    That's how I feel. Everyone else seems to be prettier or a better dancer, or is more witty and has more to talk about. EP is building my confidence though, When I first joined I thought, what have I got to share? but then you find yourself writing about all kinds and people reply...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    Mini Shirt and Heels??

    hello, just thought I would share a little about me, the first time I went out dressed as a female it was in a short skirt and heels, My makeup was really bad and I had a lot of beer that day, belive it or not everyone was very sweet to me and of course there were always a few to...
    2bmtruely 2bmtruely 51-55 1 Response Dec 21, 2008

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    Different

    I believe I am in need of some advice from more experienced people. I always feel shaken by social events. I tend to speak in metaphors and the like. As a young person who is viewed as enept and creepy when I feel I am eloquient and insightful for my age,I am asking what should I...
    Ginnie Ginnie 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    Complicated...

    I have been told by my mother that I am destined to be a people-person. I have been told that I am very polite and I make my parents proud with my ability to socialize... Internally... I am sweating buckets, squirming, mentally exhausted, fidgetting, constant worrying...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    i try to be nice to everyone

    and then i get mixed up with the wrong people
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    I like to sit in the corner and listen. I think about answers and analyse everything. I want to say something because I do have a lot to say, but they usually don't follow my train...
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    I'm the one on my own while everyone else talk to each other
    brenda4696 brenda4696 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    It seems like I'm supposed to know what to say around people, put I have no idea! I don't have a script and I'm not sure how to fee style, in short I'm the enigma
    pavel150 pavel150 16-17, M Mar 15

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    I like to just watch everyone and listen to what they say. I swear I'm not judging you, I'm just memorizing your movements and everything you say so if need be I can throw it in...
    Raewyn95 Raewyn95 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I'm 6 months into being social and having friends. I'm still learning pretty much how to act, how to deal with friends, and how to deal with social situations. It's not my fault...
    tortillarose tortillarose 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    Most people don't know I have it, but it controls my life. I stay to myself most of the time. I fear the phone and refuse to answer it unless I have to, even if I know who is on...
    AmyOnEP AmyOnEP 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    Childhood was awful. But my teenage years were worse. I'm not sure if I've shared the story in particular of my childhood? Think I have just not sure where. I realised quite a...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Mar 3

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    I can't remember when it started but I know that as I grow older it is getting worse. Everyday I go throw the motions trying to keep my face in a calm smile, but inside I am...
    Cogsy Cogsy 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    My youngest daughter came home from college this weekend and brought a new female friend with her to visit. I immediately became nervous and anxious at the thought of a stranger...
    rolywynne rolywynne 46-50, M 3 Responses Mar 8

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    I have social anxiety and I hate it but I can't change the way I act. What I hate is that I get EXTREMELY nervous around someone of the opposite gender. I can't even speak...
    infiniteJourney infiniteJourney 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I know a few people who's birthday's are in March and April. Today is one of my childhood friend's birthday. She wanted to gather a few of her closest friends and go to an event...
    Stickwithmebaby Stickwithmebaby 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    And I am not all that sure why. I do try to socialize when the moment and situation demand it, and I don't have that much of a problem with it. I don't hate people so I am not a...
    Jugemu Jugemu 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 9

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    I really believe this is because I am so self absorbed. I have heard that for years but never thought it was true about me. I am not vain or conceited, I just enjoy myself. I have...
    bossvixen bossvixen 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    I Think Social Media Does More Harm Than Good The problem with facebook and instagram is that you put yourself out there for the whole world to see. If you go to apply for a job...
    Jackson2222 Jackson2222 26-30, M Mar 14

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    I feel like **** all the time. I feel inferior and act like I am guilty of something when I am around people. I wasn't born with any anxiety or phobia.I blame this world for my...
    karmicsouls karmicsouls 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    People expect you to get help= that's people People expect you to have friends= that's people People expect you to have outdoor hobbies or be in a community=that's people People...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 9

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    I am going on a music course tomorrow and I'm very anxious as I won't know anyone there. It's been a while since I've had to make friends on my own and my anxiety always gets the...
    yellowrose29 yellowrose29 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Even though I was a loner in middle school, it was never an issue till JrHigh. I didnt learn how to make like minded friends till highschool. Thankfully, by my junior/senior years...
    LivingToLearnLearningToLove LivingToLearnLearningToLove 22-25, M Mar 10

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