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I Am Never Comfortable In Social Situations

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    Inferior.

    That's how I feel. Everyone else seems to be prettier or a better dancer, or is more witty and has more to talk about. EP is building my confidence though, When I first joined I thought, what have I got to share? but then you find yourself writing about all kinds and people reply...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    Complicated...

    I have been told by my mother that I am destined to be a people-person. I have been told that I am very polite and I make my parents proud with my ability to socialize... Internally... I am sweating buckets, squirming, mentally exhausted, fidgetting, constant worrying...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    Situationally Shy

    I am great in one on one situations... actually I thrive on them.  I am just someone who does not like to be in massive groups.  I had a suprise hen night and it took me a few drinks just to make sure that I did not pass out.  I had fun in the end... but I was...
    Oregano Oregano 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2008

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    Seriously. I just don't like being around

    that many people. I prefer staying in my own comfortable little world away from society.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 1 Response Aug 23, 2014

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    A Life of Silence

    I just never know what to say when I'm around strangers or even acquaintances--I even have trouble talking with old friends that I haven't seen for several years. When I was younger people would find my shyness endearing, but now that I'm an "adult" it feels like people...
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2008

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    Always Have Doubt and Feel Insecure

    I can fake confidence most of the time, depending upon the situation. But I am never completely comfortable and at-ease. I'm always second-guessing everything I do and say. I'm afraid others just won't like me or will judge me. I think I have just had a lot of negative...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Vroom Vroom *no Relation to the Entry*

    I'm good in one on ones, and talking to a small group, but more than three people gets a bit uncomfortable. More than three and I'm only talking to a select few, simply cuz I still don't know how to talk to multiple people at once, give them equal attention, and walk away from it...
    mixedview mixedview 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    I Am a Loner In Social Situations

    I'd rather not say uncomfortable, but somehow end up being isolated in social situations. For instance, yesterday I was at a social function at work, farewell party really. I had went with a friend, but she knew most people there...so i'd be left all by myself and when I looked...
    kkgal kkgal 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    My Step-Daughter'S College Graduation.

    This weekend, my beautiful step-daughter, Janene, made her college graduation from SUNY New Paltz. This was an outdoor event, which consisted of 5,000 people all together. 1,000 graduates and the rest relatives. Well, it rained the entire day. I couldn't wait to get indoors...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F May 21, 2013

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    Where Are My Training Wheels???

    I'm trying to do this whole being social thing.  But i feel like a kid trying to learn to ride a bike.  I don't understand social rules, i mean they are different in every situation, social circle and venue. Then you have to learn how to read all the social cues that...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Jun 18, 2010

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    Mini Shirt and Heels??

    hello, just thought I would share a little about me, the first time I went out dressed as a female it was in a short skirt and heels, My makeup was really bad and I had a lot of beer that day, belive it or not everyone was very sweet to me and of course there were always a few to...
    2bmtruely 2bmtruely 51-55 1 Response Dec 21, 2008

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    I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

    Maybe I'm just too introverted or maybe it's social anxiety, but I don't like being around too many people. I'm okay with hanging out with 1-3 people, but even then I have to know them or else I won't want to go. Just today I was invited to go hang out at a house party of my...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    i try to be nice to everyone

    and then i get mixed up with the wrong people
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Being Around Many People

    I've always had trouble being around groups of people. I feel like I don't fit in and suddenly I become quiet and shy to the point I feel like I want to start crying. I can't even be together with 2 friends. I won't do any talking. I am a very friendly person and I love...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3, 2014

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    I Dont Know Why!!

    social situations have just never been my thing, i mean, i do go out occasionally, but thats about it!!! i prefer being in the company of just a couple of people!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    Different

    I believe I am in need of some advice from more experienced people. I always feel shaken by social events. I tend to speak in metaphors and the like. As a young person who is viewed as enept and creepy when I feel I am eloquient and insightful for my age,I am asking what should I...
    Ginnie Ginnie 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    Small Talk?? Kind of a Rant

    I never know what to say to people.  How do you learn the art of small talk anyways?  And what exactly is the point of being able to rattle on and on about a topic that you don't care about? This is why i am socially inept...  because i don't say anything...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    Shy and Awkward

    I've always felt socially shy and awkward.  When I was a kid, I didn't have any huge problems socially.  I'd say it was maybe around fourth grade when I started to feel a little shy socially.  I started a new school that year and started to feel a little physically...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    Yeah, I'm going to kinda rant here

    because this has been bugging me lately.I am so sick of people saying "If a girl is wearing revealing clothing she is 'asking for it'". Seriously, shut up.Just...shush.Why should what a girl chooses to wear excuse the behavior of a guy does to her? IT SHOULDN'T. You can argue...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 Aug 26, 2014

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    Annoys Me

    There was a time when I was the life and soul of a party! No one would dream of going for a drink without inviting me! A night out with me was the best - and everyone would have great fun.... so what happened? I have no idea, the most obvious answer would seem to be marraige, but...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F Jul 24, 2008

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    Tired Of Feeling Like This

    I am afraid to admit how I feel in social situations because of my age.  I have been feeling out of place for as long as I can remember.  I have never felt comfortable around people and have been avoiding social situaltions all my life. Even with family members.  Leaving the...
    Trafe Trafe 56-60 4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Mouse-y

    People always see me as quiet, shy or mousey... but that's not how I see myself. My internal world is pretty rich but I find it so hard to bring those thoughts, feelings and ideas out when I speak with people (especially people I don't know that well). I get nervous and I think...
    NorthernSky NorthernSky 22-25 Apr 30, 2009

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    My Blog

    everyone please check out my blogs. i want everyone to check it out with social anxiety.. because  WE ARE NOT ALONE !!!! (: pleaase comment them saying anything thats on your mind. read my blog. it is truely powerful. i have social anxiety and i write about how i feel. please...
    amandabanana1 amandabanana1 18-21, F Dec 20, 2010

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    I Am Always the Quiet One.

    Usually I avoid  situations with just me and another person, especialy if it is someone I dont know that well. But even around my group of friends they always describe me as the quiet one. I have also ben described as shy, sensitive, introverted, and even socialy awkward and...
    PXL77 PXL77 19-21, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2007

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    I Am Quiet And Seemingly Anti-social..but Am I?

    I am not capable of really talking to people. I think my ability to make friends has been decreasing. its really sad. At the end of last year i told myself i would make lots of amazing new friends who would adore me and that didn't turn out well. now I've got some friends, but...
    wecry04 wecry04 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Define friend. I was invited to a social event today and I was able to talk with 5 or 6 (?) people that belongs to my school. We had kind of a long talk ( or conversation? except...
    FallingWind FallingWind 18-21, F Feb 22

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    Every since highschool started I think I'm starting to get really anxious in social situations. I was never really the shy kid in junior high nor elementary I was always just a...
    TanyaQiu TanyaQiu 70+, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    I tend to stay to myself in social situations. I even dance alone when I'm out, just to avoid being awkward.
    adamsks1 adamsks1 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    My daughter is getting married in less than two months, and I am very nervous about all of the father-of-the-bride responsibilities. Most of all, the hosting of the reception...
    rolywynne rolywynne 46-50, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I've never been the best at making a smooth conversation. Silence makes it feel awkward so I always am trying to fill it haha I have very light autistic asperger a syndrome as well...
    PartyGuy21 PartyGuy21 18-21, M 4 hrs ago

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    [PLEASE READ]!>> I WANT PEOPLE LEARN WHAT I HAVE LEARNED> Its kinda a long post, but worth the read, I promise. To begin with, I actually dont suffer from it anymore, but I...
    athion64 athion64 22-25, M 5 Responses Feb 2

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    I have never had a real job before and now I do and I love everything about it except how my office expects me to attend their parties and social events. I have social anxiety...
    Lucyshrimp Lucyshrimp 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My friends know that I can't handle certain things..and they know I don't like being in certain situations. I happened to be in the worst situation by far for me and they were so...
    AlexisOwO AlexisOwO 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    I'm becoming socially awkward even with my own friends now :/
    LastLove96 LastLove96 18-21, M 4 hrs ago

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    You flatter me with "sometimes" when it's actually all the time. And here's a list why. See if you're one too. Or is it just me? It's not, I'm sure :) 1. Your nervous laughters in...
    Bumblebeat Bumblebeat 61-65, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    iam looking for someone to skype with.just to get comfortable with talking to strangers face to face.i think this will be a start to sociallizing better.im not just looking for...
    voyagetoheaven voyagetoheaven 18-21, M 3 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    My anxiety problems are getting worse, it seems. Hopefully, I will be able to get my anxiety medication soon. Every time I'm around someone, I panic and can't think of what to say...
    CeruleanWolf CeruleanWolf 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    I am a nurse and like working with people affected by death and dying. It's my preferred area. We all crave social interaction, and to experience someone's presence and help them...
    Sparklestefffy Sparklestefffy 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 5

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    I am so embarrassed, but I need to let it out. I am terrified of strangers and large crowds of people. This is super unfortunate for me because I want to travel the world and be a...
    traveltonowhere traveltonowhere 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    I know that there are many times when I make people nervous. I see them scratch nervously. I think it's because I am afraid to be myself; I feel I have to be whatever will make the...
    laylonolonger laylonolonger 41-45, M 14 hrs ago

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    I'll keep it short and simple. I'm greedy. I always feel as though I want more social power even when I have a tremendous amount. I always try to outdo myself day in and day out...
    TretmanTJ TretmanTJ 16-17, M Feb 19

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    My name is Michael, I'm a tall and skinny, bony guy who's a senior in high school. Let me just say, it's a real b*tch to know that you can't control your mind and body when it...
    ghostrefy ghostrefy 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 4

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    What is Social Status and it's expectations? Social status is based off success for the most part. How much we have accomplished in our lives, how much money we earn, save...
    Lemartes Lemartes 31-35, M Feb 6

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    So what is social phobia? Putting it simply it's the fear of being around people in any 'social situation' be it at work, at the gym, going shopping, going the pub, simple...
    reesewardley reesewardley 41-45, M Feb 10

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    My wife asked me to go with her to attend a surprise 50th birthday party for her boss, which included a room full of people I did not know. Just her asking me caused immediate...
    rolywynne rolywynne 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    Never thought I would use this metoo thing because I've always be against social networks but for some odd reason, I'm liking this a bit. Maybe I didn't like social networks...
    Goodiegood Goodiegood 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I never was comfortable but after visiting a naked spa, have gradually become quite addicted to it. The cliche don't knock it till you've tried it couldn't be more appropriate.
    verytallman verytallman 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 18

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