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I Am Never Comfortable In Social Situations

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 408 People

    I Am Always the Quiet One.

    Usually I avoid  situations with just me and another person, especialy if it is someone I dont know that well. But even around my group of friends they always describe me as the quiet one. I have also ben described as shy, sensitive, introverted, and even socialy awkward and...
    PXL77 PXL77 19-21, M 1 Response Dec 3, 2007

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    Seriously. I just don't like being around

    that many people. I prefer staying in my own comfortable little world away from society.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 1 Response Aug 23, 2014

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    Tired Of Feeling Like This

    I am afraid to admit how I feel in social situations because of my age.  I have been feeling out of place for as long as I can remember.  I have never felt comfortable around people and have been avoiding social situaltions all my life. Even with family members.  Leaving the...
    Trafe Trafe 56-60 4 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Mini Shirt and Heels??

    hello, just thought I would share a little about me, the first time I went out dressed as a female it was in a short skirt and heels, My makeup was really bad and I had a lot of beer that day, belive it or not everyone was very sweet to me and of course there were always a few to...
    2bmtruely 2bmtruely 51-55 1 Response Dec 21, 2008

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    I Am a Loner In Social Situations

    I'd rather not say uncomfortable, but somehow end up being isolated in social situations. For instance, yesterday I was at a social function at work, farewell party really. I had went with a friend, but she knew most people there...so i'd be left all by myself and when I looked...
    kkgal kkgal 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3, 2014

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    Mouse-y

    People always see me as quiet, shy or mousey... but that's not how I see myself. My internal world is pretty rich but I find it so hard to bring those thoughts, feelings and ideas out when I speak with people (especially people I don't know that well). I get nervous and I think...
    NorthernSky NorthernSky 22-25 Apr 30, 2009

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    A Life of Silence

    I just never know what to say when I'm around strangers or even acquaintances--I even have trouble talking with old friends that I haven't seen for several years. When I was younger people would find my shyness endearing, but now that I'm an "adult" it feels like people...
    bluepepper bluepepper 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2008

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    My Blog

    everyone please check out my blogs. i want everyone to check it out with social anxiety.. because  WE ARE NOT ALONE !!!! (: pleaase comment them saying anything thats on your mind. read my blog. it is truely powerful. i have social anxiety and i write about how i feel. please...
    amandabanana1 amandabanana1 18-21, F Dec 20, 2010

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    Annoys Me

    There was a time when I was the life and soul of a party! No one would dream of going for a drink without inviting me! A night out with me was the best - and everyone would have great fun.... so what happened? I have no idea, the most obvious answer would seem to be marraige, but...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F Jul 24, 2008

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    Different

    I believe I am in need of some advice from more experienced people. I always feel shaken by social events. I tend to speak in metaphors and the like. As a young person who is viewed as enept and creepy when I feel I am eloquient and insightful for my age,I am asking what should I...
    Ginnie Ginnie 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2008

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    Vroom Vroom *no Relation to the Entry*

    I'm good in one on ones, and talking to a small group, but more than three people gets a bit uncomfortable. More than three and I'm only talking to a select few, simply cuz I still don't know how to talk to multiple people at once, give them equal attention, and walk away from it...
    mixedview mixedview 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    I Dont Know Why!!

    social situations have just never been my thing, i mean, i do go out occasionally, but thats about it!!! i prefer being in the company of just a couple of people!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    i try to be nice to everyone

    and then i get mixed up with the wrong people
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Shy and Awkward

    I've always felt socially shy and awkward.  When I was a kid, I didn't have any huge problems socially.  I'd say it was maybe around fourth grade when I started to feel a little shy socially.  I started a new school that year and started to feel a little physically...
    RandomFortune RandomFortune 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    I Am Quiet And Seemingly Anti-social..but Am I?

    I am not capable of really talking to people. I think my ability to make friends has been decreasing. its really sad. At the end of last year i told myself i would make lots of amazing new friends who would adore me and that didn't turn out well. now I've got some friends, but...
    wecry04 wecry04 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    Always Have Doubt and Feel Insecure

    I can fake confidence most of the time, depending upon the situation. But I am never completely comfortable and at-ease. I'm always second-guessing everything I do and say. I'm afraid others just won't like me or will judge me. I think I have just had a lot of negative...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    My Step-Daughter'S College Graduation.

    This weekend, my beautiful step-daughter, Janene, made her college graduation from SUNY New Paltz. This was an outdoor event, which consisted of 5,000 people all together. 1,000 graduates and the rest relatives. Well, it rained the entire day. I couldn't wait to get indoors...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F May 21, 2013

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    Inferior.

    That's how I feel. Everyone else seems to be prettier or a better dancer, or is more witty and has more to talk about. EP is building my confidence though, When I first joined I thought, what have I got to share? but then you find yourself writing about all kinds and people reply...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    Being Around Many People

    I've always had trouble being around groups of people. I feel like I don't fit in and suddenly I become quiet and shy to the point I feel like I want to start crying. I can't even be together with 2 friends. I won't do any talking. I am a very friendly person and I love...
    tickleshy tickleshy 46-50, F Apr 8, 2013

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    I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

    Maybe I'm just too introverted or maybe it's social anxiety, but I don't like being around too many people. I'm okay with hanging out with 1-3 people, but even then I have to know them or else I won't want to go. Just today I was invited to go hang out at a house party of my...
    RatsieRizzo RatsieRizzo 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Where Are My Training Wheels???

    I'm trying to do this whole being social thing.  But i feel like a kid trying to learn to ride a bike.  I don't understand social rules, i mean they are different in every situation, social circle and venue. Then you have to learn how to read all the social cues that...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F Jun 18, 2010

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    Situationally Shy

    I am great in one on one situations... actually I thrive on them.  I am just someone who does not like to be in massive groups.  I had a suprise hen night and it took me a few drinks just to make sure that I did not pass out.  I had fun in the end... but I was...
    Oregano Oregano 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2008

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    Small Talk?? Kind of a Rant

    I never know what to say to people.  How do you learn the art of small talk anyways?  And what exactly is the point of being able to rattle on and on about a topic that you don't care about? This is why i am socially inept...  because i don't say anything...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2007

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    Yeah, I'm going to kinda rant here

    because this has been bugging me lately.I am so sick of people saying "If a girl is wearing revealing clothing she is 'asking for it'". Seriously, shut up.Just...shush.Why should what a girl chooses to wear excuse the behavior of a guy does to her? IT SHOULDN'T. You can argue...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 Aug 26, 2014

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    Complicated...

    I have been told by my mother that I am destined to be a people-person. I have been told that I am very polite and I make my parents proud with my ability to socialize... Internally... I am sweating buckets, squirming, mentally exhausted, fidgetting, constant worrying...
    Neur0ticism Neur0ticism 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Don't get me wrong i can speak my mind and when i speak it you'll be shocked i even spoke and shocked that i actually can have a normal conversation, but about more deeper topics...
    Autumnflowers Autumnflowers 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    In addition to recently starting therapy, I bought a book: "Overcoming Social Anxiety" The book recommends keeping a notebook and writing certain things down. I'm going to share...
    ludix ludix 41-45, M Jan 2

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    Sometimes I think my social anxiety is weird, too me it is. People respond differently too social situations, so its all not exactly the same. But for me, it all depends on where i...
    AfraidOfMyOwnMind AfraidOfMyOwnMind 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    I forgot about this site. I found it 2 years ago and shared two stories. I read them again today and I realized something... I will never be normal. I know I know, there is no...
    ambmo1 ambmo1 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I'm 38 year old man who has never been in a relationship and I feel like my life has passed me by, and I didn't even get the chance to participate in it. Until recently, I was...
    spyder3311 spyder3311 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 12

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    Today I just got accepted into cooking school today and I'm really excited except.... It's in Wellington the capital city in nz, so i Have to move, I have no where to live, no...
    lifeisnottoobad lifeisnottoobad 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I was never very social but it's not that I never tried I just never stood out. So I was never noticed And no one cared But at the same time it Didn't even matter. I found myself...
    DexterPyro DexterPyro 13-15, M 2 Responses Jan 17

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    I think I've turned awkwardness into an art form. I just freeze up when a social gathering ensues, and when I attempt to make conversation, it ends up coming out the wrong way...
    Sohryuden Sohryuden 18-21, F Jan 20

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    I have social anxiety so I had to leave school at 16 years old. I'm now being home schooled, and have been for two weeks now and the thought of them coming over terrifies me...
    emilythegreat emilythegreat 16-17, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Safety Behaviors Safety behaviors are the things we do to "protect" ourselves from the situations that we fear. Some of them may be hard to recognize because they can be automatic...
    ludix ludix 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 2

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    I wanted to be normal so bad, but every time I tried to open my mouth, I froze up. My earliest memory of this was in 5th grade when my teacher tried to force me to read my...
    whisperedthing whisperedthing 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 18

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    Especially i get nerveous talking to someone who i like or have good impression. I don't pay attention to people who is just ignorant. But about them...i get upset easily 'cos i'm...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F Jan 17

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    A life in social work gave me a grounding in how to find humour in the darkest of situations. If you couldn't laugh, it would have pulled you under!!
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Jan 10

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    I think I have social anxiety and always could not mingle when I am in large groups , I feel so useless and powerless when I see crowds of people but when the target audience is...
    asianahyang96 asianahyang96 18-21, M Jan 1

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    Not really social anxiety.. I am comfortable around others, I'm just not to keen on interacting. I feel right at home in large crowds and bars watching the ants at work in there...
    NihilSineNefas NihilSineNefas 22-25, M Jan 17

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    I dance in public. Randomly. Music optional. I sing all the time. I have a loud laugh. One of those laughs where if you hear it you know it's me. But the one thing that always...
    MoMolicious93 MoMolicious93 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    This is the fifth month I have been at my new job and social anxiety has made me suffer in every way at work. The other people who have joined the company in the same period have...
    littlemacintosh littlemacintosh 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 8

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    Today I had to go to a meeting and give my ideas. Guess what I did sit in the back and not say a word. I felt tired and the anxiety was coming face. By the look on my face people...
    trulyspoken trulyspoken 18-21, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Not particularly awkward I've just never got into the whole social media fad, I'm 13 and I just can't be ****** to do the whole Facebook and snapchat stuff. So ever since I can...
    DeathlyLlama459 DeathlyLlama459 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Social media is going to destroy me!Destroy my comfortablility in life! Worst of all, destroy my inner stability!
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 17

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    I have always enjoyed getting out and meeting new people. I use to meet people randomly online when I was 16 to about 20 years old... When I travel or just am in random situations...
    sumaura85 sumaura85 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    First off, I have to laugh at the title of this experience. Good one, creator of title, considering this is social media. As far as Facebook is concerned... I love it, too. There...
    secretme1970 secretme1970 41-45, F Jan 4

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