I Am Newly Separated

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    how do i describe myself ?

    Im a hollow person , Im empty. outside people see me as a strong independent person. Some even say I look young for my age but that doesnt make me the person I want to be. I came from a broken family so my lifelong dream is to have a complete family. I didnt focus much on what...
    Juzmimi Juzmimi
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 22

    I am so beside myself.

    Right now. It took me an hour to get dressed this morning. I was crying so hard. I don't know how I am going to get through another day without the only person that I have ever loved. I just do not understand what I did so horrible to deserve to hurt so damn bad. I've been...
    a11wayson a11wayson
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Jul 11, 2014

    New to this site. Hello everyone.

    I married a man with two children from two different women. We have been married for less than a year, I am pregnant, and feel very lost. Our marriage seemed to go downhill quickly and I soon realized that the victim he pretended to be in his former relationships was far from...
    teachdobe24 teachdobe24
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 20

    'He Cheated, So Why Do I Feel Guilty?' Update

    Nearly six months now since separating after 24 years. After the initial feeling of devastation, I felt a sense of calm and happiness and wondered if that was just a phase, like some sort of mental coping mechanism. Well, I still feel genuinely happier! I think after so long...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Aug 26, 2013

    Flip flopping... After our long talk over the

    weekend. He's texting me from work and trying to get me to sleep in the bed with him again. I feel like I need to hurt him over and over to get him to see, what we both already agreed on. This is so, very hard. Roller coaster of a marriage for years and now a roller coaster of...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 10, 2014

    Newly Separated

    Im newly separated from my wife of 4 years and not by choice. I got into a car accident and she kept the insurance money. She left me to struggle to pay for school on my own without even a way to my job. All because I told her 6 months ago that i was sick of our life and wanted...
    LoneAlpha LoneAlpha
    31-35, M
    30 Responses Jul 1, 2012

    Been married since I was 16

    which is almost 20 yrs now. He was abusive verbally and physically for the first half then got better but cheated many times and has a **** addiction. I forgave hI'm evert me and he always got better but I just realizing he only got better at hiding it and lying. I have been a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 17

    People.....I encourage all of you

    that God the Almighty does not want anyone divorced. The first institution he created was marriage. Marriage is so important to God. Don't give up. Pray without ceasing. Believe in Yahweh, and he will save you. He loves each one of you so much he died on the cross for your...
    cmh35 cmh35
    31-35
    Feb 23

    I am newly separated

    and have 2 children. My daughter is 14 and is doing fine with the separation. My son is 12 and is not fine. Right now I just left my place to take a walk after my son does his best to be so fresh and talk back. We have a 9 month old puppy who can be nippy he gets do angry when...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    After an 8 year relationship

    and marriage with an alcoholic I have finally decided to move on. The freedom I feel is indescribable! There will definitely be an adjustment period for our two children...but I can be happy knowing that this is ultimately the best decision for all of us. Feeling free and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Apr 13, 2015

    Been 8 months now, as time passes I see things

    with more clarity. Tonight during counseling I hinted that my wife was abusive, counselor confirmed. Kind of blows my mind. Wasn't like physical, all emotional. Withholding love, affection, intimacy. Isolating me from friends and family. Abuse comes in many different ways...
    HarryOsbourne HarryOsbourne
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    Heartbroken sad Let me start from the beginning

    I was in a abusive marriage for 9 years and I had enough and got out! I was a mum with 2 small kids and decided to try out a dating site and see what happens after awhile! I signed up and met a few males until I met the man of my dreams he was everything and more we got married...
    brokenhearted1976 brokenhearted1976
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    She Destroyed My Soul

    It's been about 45 hours since I found out. Exactly 4 days since the fuse was lit to the end of my life, as I know it. And now, I am newly, involuntarily, separated. Homeless, family-less, just less. The best years of my life are gone. I can't get those back to spend with...
    phatdog phatdog
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

    My husband and I have recently separated.

    He just decided abruptly over day (last month). That is was over, he's tired of pretending. That he wasted 15 years and wanted me to leave. It crushed me... I could have faught. I didn't because I agreed. He is begging for me to come back. I won't, and to keep myself busy. I...
    theophaneia theophaneia
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 8, 2015

    Married January 19, 2016.

    As I write this....I'm a little neutral about completely splitting up. Hell the last two months. 1. She was caught up in a lie about searching for other men while we was dating. I believed her. Now every time my suspicious arose..I broke up with her and tried to move on. Didn't...
    Justme7540 Justme7540
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 3

    It's been on the cards

    for a long time, we married young, had lots of ups & downs over the years, but we stayed together, for us for our children because we didn't want to give up. Neither of us have been happy for a while but I put this down to his mid-life crisis' (he's had a few) Anyway I caught...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    Why Did I Get Married On My Birthday ! Lol

    I am hittin 37 today and today would have also been my 13 year anniversary. This is my first anniversary without her and its been tough. Honestly I am looking forward to the day ending and trying to get back to normal. I just pray for strength, courage, and hope. Best of luck to...
    Sodapopcur Sodapopcur
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Oct 6, 2013

    I am newly separated with a daughter

    who is just turning a year old. The separation was not my choice, but I am trying hard to accept the space we need. I never thought I'd be in this position in my life, especially after all the obstacles we've overcome, including infertility. I miss my best friend, husband, and...
    dirami39 dirami39
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Aug 8, 2014

    I am!. I just wanted to treat my wife like a

    queen. I wanted to welcome her home with open arms, and a kiss. When she leaves for work, I like to say, “ be safe and I love you”. I like to open her doors, hold her hands, write crazy love letters and show how much I love her. I like to show her off and I am proud she was...
    Joseph502 Joseph502
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 21

    Recently Seperated

    I have been with my husband since I was 18, together for 20years. He had an affair last year, but we worked through it, he promised never to hurt me like that again, so many promises made, recently found out he is still cheating with the same woman. He had stopped but started...
    Eeyore76 Eeyore76
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 2, 2013

    It's been one month since my husband of 15

    years moved out of our marital home. Our relationship is now a business transaction. Who gets the kids when? Mediation? Collaboration? I've never felt so betrayed. The feeling in my heart is something I never expected. It is all so hard. There is no other woman, There is no...
    threegirlsandadog threegirlsandadog
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2015

    I Left My Wife For A Woman I Love

    What's so wrong with that? Honestly, I understand the meaning of marraige but when it comes down to it, do you go through life as a zombie, staying with someone because you're comfortable, or do you make a move that makes both you and potentially your wife a lot happier on the...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody
    26-30, M
    9 Responses Sep 28, 2013

    Not Sure...

    I spoke to a clergy member who said if perhaps I journaled that it would be helpful to me... being a guy to start off with talking about feelings is difficult... this is somewhat an extension to the original idea - perhaps something I say will have meaning for another person...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost
    41-45, M
    10 Responses May 23, 2010

    My husband of 9 years confessed

    that he was "getting his needs met by someone else" 6 months ago. I had no idea and it completely turned my world upside down. He claimed that he wanted to work on the marriage so I (being a Christian woman) decided I wanted to make it work as well. About 4 months ago I found...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 3, 2015

    It has been 5 months

    since my husband and I separated. Let me start by saying that we married in May 2013. I learned that I was pregnant with our baby in June 2013. We are both in our 30's. He was in school starting on a new career. I was working in my career. He was unhappy that I was pregnant and...
    newlyover newlyover
    36-40, F
    Jan 26

    I've been separated from my wife

    and kids since Valentine's Day. This has been the worst experience of my life.
    RoorhSE RoorhSE
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Apr 3

    After weeks of talking

    and not getting to the main issue as to why our marriage failed. Yesterday, we finally spoke really spoke. It was painful hearing that your not loved and haven't been for a long time. That all that time you had spent making things right was a waste. That your only really thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 8, 2014

    I've recently separated

    and am now trying to get used to a single lifestyle again. Any advice on the best way forward. It's the boredom of being alone in a place that I don't know anybody that is hard to deal with
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 5

    After 33 years of marriage,

    my husband and I have separated. Our marriage had been over for a very long time, and I finally found the courage to leave him. It’s been about 2-½ weeks since he moved out. I am glad he is gone, and don’t miss him at all. I just don’t know what to do with myself at...
    sheltielady4 sheltielady4
    56-60, F
    5 Responses Dec 3, 2015

    My boyfriend who I have been dating

    for 3 years broke up with me because he lost interest. I then found another guy but he likes my best friend. Then when my ex decides to ask another girl out after a month of being single, I begin to get sad again. I am a hopeless romantic. So now my best friend is about to have...
    gabriellewhitford gabriellewhitford
    13-15, F
    Apr 19

    I'm starting a new life

    after being with a man for the past 26 years married for 19. I did lonely I did forever now I want fun I want crazy I want breath taking!!!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    New to this!! Hope this is a place I can get

    out what I need to say. Always had my in laws to vent to but, no longer the case. This is hard after so long with the same man. Just lost.....
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 25

    It sucks to let go. I know I have to,

    but I really don't want to. I'm still 100 percent in love with this girl and picturing her with somebody else kills me inside. Fuuuuck :/
    jmarr12 jmarr12
    18-21, M
    Dec 16, 2015

    I'm single and I'm happy .

    .... I do not want my ex back... at all!!!
    Serenita Serenita
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 19, 2014

    Quotes That Help Me To Move On...

    It's not what you go through that defines you; you can't always help that. It's what you do AFTER you've gone through it that really tests who you are. Kwame Floyd
    erfra7 erfra7
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 7, 2013

    I still find my ex sexy

    as hell. Do you end up sleeping with your ex again? I feel that it would only make things more messy, but it is hard to not want to when I find that person attractive and I had an emotional connection at some point.
    Nico2390 Nico2390
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jan 8

    I feel a little bit scared starting over!

    At the same time I'm relived that's it's over (well soon it will be final) looking forward to a new beginning!
    Dolce00 Dolce00
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 11

    I've been separated for almost 4 months now.

    I never saw it coming. It was the shock of a lifetime, a cruel surprise. I thought everything was fine. Just two days before he left, I remember thinking I'd never been happier. Blindsided. Devastated. Crushed. Betrayed. Humiliated. Broken. The range of emotions I've...
    Ticia Ticia
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 21, 2015

    I recently separate from my husband.

    We've been married for four years and together for seven. I retired from the military and quit traveling to help him realize his dream. Two weeks ago his dream began to include another woman. I will not dwell on the amount of pain and heartache that comes with the infidelity...
    Selene73 Selene73
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 23, 2015
    sunbaby sunbaby
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jan 8, 2013

    It is going to be okay.

    I thought I would be miserable, but I am actually okay. I laugh and cry everyday and it is normal to even do both in the same day! I did not know. Overall I believe in me. I may find Mr.Right and in the other hand I may become Ms.Singleforever. I could careless about the...
    2006Tina 2006Tina
    36-40, F
    Nov 22, 2015

    Hi iv been separated now

    for 9 months now and still finding it hard trying to get on with my life but still feel hurt had to move back in my moms but it's been hard there to and trying to get my own place but feel scared at the same time like wot if I can't cope on my own or feel lonely as this site is...
    gjwood gjwood
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 4

    I married my best friend at an early age.

    When it feels right because you both get along so well, but never had that "love" element. After kids and years of marriage you become lonely when you need more then a friend but someone to show you affection and physical love. It took 18 years for us both to realize we needed...
    tinysharkbait tinysharkbait
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 28

    My girlfriend of three years broke up with me a

    little over a month ago. It's putten me into a pretty deep depression spell and I can't seem to get out of it. She was was world, and every day feels strange and not worth going through without her. I grew extremely co dependent on her for my happiness and I haven't felt any...
    jmarr12 jmarr12
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 7, 2015

    Much Better Now...

    It's been a while since my last post. My wife (er ex?) and I have been ignoring the whole divorce scenario, we both know it is going to happen. As of now, being separated is the BEST thing she and I have agreed on. So nice to come home (to my apartment) stress-free, no worries...
    xjoseph xjoseph
    31-35, M
    8 Responses May 23, 2012

    I am new here as well

    and looking for a place to belong. Where do I start? It's been 6 weeks now since I've separated from my (ex)wife & children. We were married for 17 years and have 3 boys together. We've separated 4 times in the past (a few days, a week, a month) and each time I've swallowed my...
    Shockwave00 Shockwave00
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    It's not worth staying in a Marriage

    when one is being continuously UNFAITHFUL. Currently on my 5th month of being separated after months of going thru hell.....and now, I am doing great. Hopefully the divorce is also over soon.
    UnveiledWife UnveiledWife
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 28

    I Am 34 Years Old And Single Again After Being Married For 8 Years...

    this sounds odd... I often feel lost because now I am on my own, as before I was used to do "couples stuff". I find myself alone and not sure sometimes, we never had kids and for that I am thankful... I have already a history posted in the affair section here in the E.P which...
    devilwife devilwife
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Nov 26, 2012

    How do you do it? The conversation,

    I mean. I will probably be getting separated soon. Married for 13 years. Miserable for most of that time, but afraid I can't make it on my own. I probably can, but I've never had to (went from living at home to living with wife, who makes 3x as much as me). I'm also afraid that...
    Kareem840 Kareem840
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 8

    After 15 years of being together

    and 11 and half years of marriage.....it's over. He says he loves me and wants us to be family but our relationship as husband and wife is over and he never wants to get back. It has been 4 months since he declared he wants to separate and it hurts cause I tried so hard in so...
    beingme36 beingme36
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015
    tommy71683 tommy71683
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 20, 2015

    So today was the first day in accepting the

    change in my life. It's not something I have control over but I have the control from here on out! I don't have much social life and that's gonna take some time to fix. But the friends I do have are there for me. New stage in life.
    seanv14 seanv14
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Aug 7, 2014

    I have learned through the years,

    that life is too short to stay in a marriage that is unhealthy. First one, I was with a mental controller. Second one I have just left was with a person who has depression and anxiety. For four years, the meds were not being taken and the struggle of living with a person...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jun 27, 2015

    I've been separated for 10 months now.

    Been the longest time of my life! I feel lost and confused still. I know I wasn't happy, but at the same time I feel obligated to my family to work it out. My husband is someone who would always rather stay home and not get out and live. We treat each other terrible and argue a...
    Elle340 Elle340
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

    Because my late wife died Sep 1 2015,

    after an op to remove a cancer tumour went wrong!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 3, 2015

    Hi can any tell me is there any support groups

    out there for free as finances low been separated for 6 months now and still up set crying inside every day and feeling really really down and low can any one help me please .
    gjwood gjwood
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 16

    My husband of 14 years (17

    if including dating) has a serious mental health issue. After I left him, we tried marriage counseling and the counselor felt that he is bipolar but he really needs to commit to getting diagnosed. After 3 months, that has not happened. I left because he goes into rages at me...
    akc765 akc765
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 9

    I am recently separated

    although this is not the first time... This time is by far the worst. I am searching everything trying to find answers. His facebook being one and I am beginning to wonder if he has had an affair with any woman on there. It gives me a sick feeling when I think about it. I...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 7
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