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I Am Newly Separated

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    Newly Separated

    Im newly separated from my wife of 4 years and not by choice. I got into a car accident and she kept the insurance money. She left me to struggle to pay for school on my own without even a way to my job. All because I told her 6 months ago that i was sick of our life and wanted...
    LoneAlpha LoneAlpha 26-30, M 34 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Quotes That Help Me To Move On...

    It's not what you go through that defines you; you can't always help that. It's what you do AFTER you've gone through it that really tests who you are. Kwame Floyd
    erfra7 erfra7 46-50, M Sep 7, 2013

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    When i first met her i thought we were meant

    for each other. I tried so hard to see her as much as i could. I always wanted to be there for her and make her happy but then i guess she didnt feel what i felt. She left me and i feel so alone i just want to cry and never stop. 😢
    klown110 klown110 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1

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    Alone But Happy

    Alone but happy is the only way I can describe how I feel. Even though there are many emotions that run through my mind. I know i've done the right thing. I've been living in an unhealthy marriage that just wore me down and took away who I am and I let it happen for so long. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    I'm single and I'm happy .

    .... I do not want my ex back... at all!!!
    Serenita Serenita 41-45, F 7 Responses Sep 19

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    Emotional Roller Coaster - Pulled & Pushed

    After just over 5 months of separation, I still find myself at times in deep despair - looking for a way to purge the pain from within. Tears that pour down my face during those times seem to help rid some of the paralyzing pain. I feel better for a moment, a day or even...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 11 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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    We broke up 2 weeks before our wedding,

    now I'm pregnant with his kid and he is saying he's going to have full custody. Any advice.
    kellerbyc kellerbyc 22-25, F 10 Responses Oct 29

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    Another night alone. Wish somehow this would

    end! What does she want, What do I do? And why do I care so much since she walked out on me?
    mark664 mark664 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 13

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    My wife told me that she wants to separate

    for a while today. I have mixed feelings about it. I feel sadness but also feel like maybe this is the right thing to do...
    Handsome78 Handsome78 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 19

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    Twenty four years married

    and separated for two days. He was having an emotional affair with a co-worker. Her husband followed her. She was at my house with my husband while I was at work. Her husband then called me at work - not a clue as to how he could have found where I work. Talk about a punch in...
    lexsyd lexsyd 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Why Did I Get Married On My Birthday ! Lol

    I am hittin 37 today and today would have also been my 13 year anniversary. This is my first anniversary without her and its been tough. Honestly I am looking forward to the day ending and trying to get back to normal. I just pray for strength, courage, and hope. Best of luck to...
    Sodapopcur Sodapopcur 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    My boyfriend and I were together

    for over a year, and I broke it off because we fought several times a day. I still love him and I know the feelings will go away eventually but none of my friends have had serious boyfriends and they don't understand why I'm so upset. I'm not good at sharing things, I like to...
    amarielou amarielou 13-15, F Nov 9

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    Right Decision

    For 6 years of my 8 year marriage I have been uneasy about who my husband really was. Knowing down deep that something just wasn't right. FINALLY all the questions I had to ask him were answered and the truth was finally known. A recent affair and inappropriate behaviors...
    broken131 broken131 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Relationships are bullshit.

    They all take the same course...for the most part. You meet someone, this person peaks your interest, you have a lot of fun with this person, this goes on for a while, you fall in love, then one of two things happen: 1. You break up OR 2. You get married. If option 2 is the case...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    sunbaby sunbaby 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 8, 2013

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    I am so beside myself.

    Right now. It took me an hour to get dressed this morning. I was crying so hard. I don't know how I am going to get through another day without the only person that I have ever loved. I just do not understand what I did so horrible to deserve to hurt so damn bad. I've been...
    a11wayson a11wayson 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    After 18 years of marriage,

    my wife took our children and went to a rent house a week ago, one week after a hysterectomy. I'm hoping that after a while to heal her body, mind, and spirit, she will consider reconciling. For now however, I'm just devastated. We have had relationship problems in the past but...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 18

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    'He Cheated, So Why Do I Feel Guilty?' Update

    Nearly six months now since separating after 24 years. After the initial feeling of devastation, I felt a sense of calm and happiness and wondered if that was just a phase, like some sort of mental coping mechanism. Well, I still feel genuinely happier! I think after so long...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 26, 2013

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    Any moms who separated

    and left their kids with the husband?
    2infinityandbeyond 2infinityandbeyond 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    She Destroyed My Soul

    It's been about 45 hours since I found out. Exactly 4 days since the fuse was lit to the end of my life, as I know it. And now, I am newly, involuntarily, separated. Homeless, family-less, just less. The best years of my life are gone. I can't get those back to spend with...
    phatdog phatdog 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    He was charged! I am

    so shocked. If you've read my posts you'll no my police officer husband assaulted me in February and my daughter saw. That was the last straw and I asked him to leave. Since I've done everything to beg him to give us another chance to the point where him going put on a date with...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I came home today and all the things she

    brought to the marriage were gone. From her clothes to the furniture to the trashcans. She says she needs some space and some time, but she still loves me. We haven't even been married a year and a half. I feel like our life together was just getting started.
    NickNayme1 NickNayme1 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 16

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    I have been separated from my wife

    for over a month now. I recently found out that she had an affair. When I caught her she denied it, threw me out of the house, asked for a separation and lied to me for over two weeks before coming clean. I was devastated but took a few days to think about the situation. For the...
    swraa22 swraa22 36-40, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    I Didn't Want Him to Leave, Just to Love Me

    I know this is going to come off as "needy" or emotionally troubled, and maybe I am, but when my husband of 10 years left 3 weeks ago after a minor disagreement (not even a fight!) and didn't call of take my calls for two days, I was devastated. I think that's what he...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 30 Responses Sep 12, 2008

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    Not Sure...

    I spoke to a clergy member who said if perhaps I journaled that it would be helpful to me... being a guy to start off with talking about feelings is difficult... this is somewhat an extension to the original idea - perhaps something I say will have meaning for another person...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 11 Responses May 23, 2010

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    justlookin2see justlookin2see 36-40, M 6 Responses Nov 10

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    I Am 34 Years Old And Single Again After Being Married For 8 Years...

    this sounds odd... I often feel lost because now I am on my own, as before I was used to do "couples stuff". I find myself alone and not sure sometimes, we never had kids and for that I am thankful... I have already a history posted in the affair section here in the E.P which...
    devilwife devilwife 31-35, F 11 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    So last night my wife came to my house

    and we watched a movie . After she went to bed with me. We laid down she went to sleep while I stroked her head... Wtf don't understand.. Is she trying to get close to me ..? Confused
    Cnfsddad Cnfsddad 31-35, M 5 Responses Nov 15

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    My husband of 13 years walked out on me

    and my 3 children 1 week ago. He is in love with a new girl and its time to move on. I am a homemaker with no job and hes left for her. We have filed for legal seperation so I am safe with money and insurance but I am honestly lost on how he can do this to his family
    MNGirlatHeart MNGirlatHeart 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 7

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    Between the drinking

    and drug use on his part, the constant neglect and then finally the cheating, it was time I kicked him out of the house. It wasn't good for me or our son. I miss him a lot to be quite honest, but I know it was the right decision.
    HalesBells91 HalesBells91 22-25 2 Responses Dec 9

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    I'm a verbal and emotional abused victim by my

    ex wife. Is there any support also for Men??
    Mark0082 Mark0082 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 7

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    Recently Seperated

    I have been with my husband since I was 18, together for 20years. He had an affair last year, but we worked through it, he promised never to hurt me like that again, so many promises made, recently found out he is still cheating with the same woman. He had stopped but started...
    Eeyore76 Eeyore76 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    How Can I Be Me Again?

    My husband of 11 years told me yesterday that "it wasn't there for him anymore".  He had been lying to me for months and had now found someone new that made him happy.  We were married at 20 which is young I know but I always felt it was the real thing. ...
    crushed2009 crushed2009 31-35 7 Responses May 24, 2009

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    I have become seperation from my wife

    after a 10 year relationship but only 1 year marriage - I made mistakes and let my wife down and now she is done but I just want to make it up to her - I can't stop getting upset - advice please
    newcastleuk newcastleuk 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 1

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    Update after last night assault.

    Police have been fab. Still not sure if there's a case but giving a detailed statement ( took 6hrs) made me see my life through others eyes. Also they were able to challenge a lot if what he's told me for year. I've realised several things today; I am a victim of domestic...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    Hi all, I was with someone

    for over 12 and about 6 months she said she wanted a brake so I said ok. After months of silence I thought enough is enough so I messaged her and asked what's going on and she told that's she's moved and found someone else. I'm really struggling to come to terms with it and can...
    Craigslaney1978 Craigslaney1978 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 17

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    So today was the first day in accepting the

    change in my life. It's not something I have control over but I have the control from here on out! I don't have much social life and that's gonna take some time to fix. But the friends I do have are there for me. New stage in life.
    seanv14 seanv14 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I just ruined a relationship

    because of my insecurities and lost everything I worked for.
    needbetter needbetter 31-35, M Dec 8

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    I Left My Wife For A Woman I Love

    What's so wrong with that? Honestly, I understand the meaning of marraige but when it comes down to it, do you go through life as a zombie, staying with someone because you're comfortable, or do you make a move that makes both you and potentially your wife a lot happier on the...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 8 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    I am going through hell.

    My ex was taken away to the police for domestic abuse.I had 7 years of it.He was so controlling and manipulative. After time in jail and on bail he was found not guilty.I cannot blame police for not doing it the job properly, but thats what happend in my case. My ex partner had...
    sunshone sunshone 26-30, F 2 Responses May 18

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    Flip flopping... After our long talk over the

    weekend. He's texting me from work and trying to get me to sleep in the bed with him again. I feel like I need to hurt him over and over to get him to see, what we both already agreed on. This is so, very hard. Roller coaster of a marriage for years and now a roller coaster of...
    DeadHeartsAreEverywhere DeadHeartsAreEverywhere 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 10

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    i am 30 year old woman,

    beautiful, legally married to a 35 year old man. we have 2 kids, 3 and 3 months. i decided to leave coz i know it time. i just cant afford that he is going to abused me financially, physically, and emotionally. But before i leave, i already made an assessment of our relationship...
    etheldeposoy etheldeposoy 26-30, F Nov 2

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    Life On My Own Terms

    In the end, he found out before I could tell him I was leaving.  Actually, that is a much better way - clean, smooth and quiet.  No crying, no emotions.  He called from work and said that he had been reading my EP stories.  He got in through a mutual friend...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 10 Responses Sep 1, 2008

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    Much Better Now...

    It's been a while since my last post. My wife (er ex?) and I have been ignoring the whole divorce scenario, we both know it is going to happen. As of now, being separated is the BEST thing she and I have agreed on. So nice to come home (to my apartment) stress-free, no worries...
    xjoseph xjoseph 31-35, M 8 Responses May 23, 2012

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    Not quite a week ago my husband of over 23 year

    accidentally "butt dialed" me and I could hear him talking to another woman...although the conversation was innocent enough when I asked him about it, he lied over and over again about it...The problem with is, 5 years ago I found out that he was having an affair. We went...
    Chelle25 Chelle25 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Life. It happens. And

    while we're fussing over the meaningless stuff, the real stuff is passing us by!!!
    justanotherbloke justanotherbloke 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 16

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    So my ex has found out I was going to propose

    on our anniversary.. I know only 3 ppl I told that could of told her that. But she decided tonight would be the night to ask me. I have had a good weekend, I've struggled with my depression and anxiety well today for the first time in 2 months since the break up.. My friends...
    seanv14 seanv14 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 10

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    My insecurities just ruined an 8 year

    relationship, we just bought a house a year ago and have a daughter together, I don't know how to start over on my own.
    needbetter needbetter 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    I've been separated for 10 months now.

    Been the longest time of my life! I feel lost and confused still. I know I wasn't happy, but at the same time I feel obligated to my family to work it out. My husband is someone who would always rather stay home and not get out and live. We treat each other terrible and argue a...
    Elle340 Elle340 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    I have been seperated

    for a while and it still is hard everyday. I wish I could get over HIM!!!
    supamom supamom 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    My husband of 14 years moved out 2 weeks ago

    and i hurt so much , We have been having problems > well i say problems he been meeting women he was chatting online for sex>>> yes i know i am well rid but my heart aches and i miss us .. Well what we were like before all this happened AAAARRRRGGHHH ....SORRY BUT THAT HOW I...
    betrayedwife67 betrayedwife67 41-45 3 Responses Sep 18

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