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I Am Newly Separated

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    I am newly separated

    because i filed for divorce earlier this year. My soon to be ex and I agreed to the separation and subsequent divorce because of several differences beyond repair in our lives and marriage.
    familybeachparty familybeachparty 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Still living in same house,

    but 1.5 months into separation and I am sleeping better and feel so much calmer and happier. Lots of changes ahead, but feeling optimistic! #batman!
    molly3493 molly3493 41-45, F May 23

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    If you have a fb please log on & take the time

    to share the post you see on the cover photo here.
    BillyLovette BillyLovette 22-25, M Jun 14

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    I'm actually not separated yet.

    I'm about to initiate the process but I'm having so much difficulty dealing with the ramifications of this decision to leave my wife. It would be easier if we hated each other but we don't. In fact, she still loves me as she's always done. I've stopped loving her for a multitude...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 25

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    He left and I dream of him every night.

    Nothing romantic but he's there. I'm just so mad that I can't seem to let him go. I don't want to dream of him. He has already stolen so much if my peace. I dont sleep well either because I'm worried about what's to come. Please tell me it gets better.
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 2 Responses May 10

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    My husband and I have recently separated.

    He just decided abruptly over day (last month). That is was over, he's tired of pretending. That he wasted 15 years and wanted me to leave. It crushed me... I could have faught. I didn't because I agreed. He is begging for me to come back. I won't, and to keep myself busy. I...
    theophaneia theophaneia 31-35, F 2 Responses May 8

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    Why Did I Get Married On My Birthday ! Lol

    I am hittin 37 today and today would have also been my 13 year anniversary. This is my first anniversary without her and its been tough. Honestly I am looking forward to the day ending and trying to get back to normal. I just pray for strength, courage, and hope. Best of luck to...
    Sodapopcur Sodapopcur 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Between the drinking

    and drug use on his part, the constant neglect and then finally the cheating, it was time I kicked him out of the house. It wasn't good for me or our son. I miss him a lot to be quite honest, but I know it was the right decision.
    HalesBells91 HalesBells91 22-25 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I'm single and I'm happy .

    .... I do not want my ex back... at all!!!
    Serenita Serenita 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    I see some posts on here in

    which the author says they're separated but they live in the same house. Help me understand that, please. How can two people be separated yet still live together? Sounds to me just like awkward family life and not separation. I'm not being judgmental. I want to understand in...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 26

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    I've been separated for almost 4 months now.

    I never saw it coming. It was the shock of a lifetime, a cruel surprise. I thought everything was fine. Just two days before he left, I remember thinking I'd never been happier. Blindsided. Devastated. Crushed. Betrayed. Humiliated. Broken. The range of emotions I've...
    Ticia Ticia 26-30, F 1 Response May 21

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    it's been 6 months and I'm devastated.

    together 8 years and just bought a house then I get kicked out and wasn't sure why. come to find out it was another guy. I put so much into our relationship and building our life together. now she has house, new guy lives there with my daughter, now I only get my daughter on...
    needbetter needbetter 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 17

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    Recently Seperated

    I have been with my husband since I was 18, together for 20years. He had an affair last year, but we worked through it, he promised never to hurt me like that again, so many promises made, recently found out he is still cheating with the same woman. He had stopped but started...
    Eeyore76 Eeyore76 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    'He Cheated, So Why Do I Feel Guilty?' Update

    Nearly six months now since separating after 24 years. After the initial feeling of devastation, I felt a sense of calm and happiness and wondered if that was just a phase, like some sort of mental coping mechanism. Well, I still feel genuinely happier! I think after so long...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 26, 2013

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    Ok so here it is, 2 weeks

    before Christmas my wife tells me she wants a divorce. Wow I am 25, 3 beautiful children and I'm getting divorced. I don't even know what to say or think. I tried to talk sense into her but she doesn't want to hear a word of it. Since then I have seen her maybe 2 or 3 times when...
    Kwreka89 Kwreka89 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    We have been through this before,

    my wife an I, a couple of years ago. We separated for 8 months. But soon my compassion for her feelings led me to reconcile with her. However, things haven't changed and here we are again. And although the situation is different, the reactions from her are still the same. I...
    drknght75 drknght75 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 5

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    I Didn't Want Him to Leave, Just to Love Me

    I know this is going to come off as "needy" or emotionally troubled, and maybe I am, but when my husband of 10 years left 3 weeks ago after a minor disagreement (not even a fight!) and didn't call of take my calls for two days, I was devastated. I think that's what he...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 31 Responses Sep 12, 2008

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    My wife moved out of the house yesterday

    after 19.5 years. I love her with all my heart but she said that there's a block in her mind when it comes to me (she knows she loves me but doesn't feel it) ever since the memories and details of her abuse came back. Started drinking regularly after the death of my father and...
    broalmight44 broalmight44 41-45, M 3 Responses May 24

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    I newly single,coming out of 12yr realtionship

    (4yr Married)I Horny all time but not ready4realtionship so gonna read some real life sexy experiences other people have had&how people satisfy. their urges without starting relationships??
    AreUReady4This AreUReady4This 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 13

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    Not Quite. Even though I could be Socially

    Separate with daddy in one half. I am married at the same time with Kaku in my other half. I ownder if my bio dad was not Blind what else he could have would have should have trained me with? I am Thankful to my American sister- partner of Crime to trained me to be a Daddy-Kaku...
    peaboobs78 peaboobs78 36-40, M May 30

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    Finally settled into my new place!

    It is cozy and comfy and especially with my dog at my side....I am excited and have pangs of loneliness but I am excited for this new start!
    MFeisty MFeisty 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 1

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    I Left My Wife For A Woman I Love

    What's so wrong with that? Honestly, I understand the meaning of marraige but when it comes down to it, do you go through life as a zombie, staying with someone because you're comfortable, or do you make a move that makes both you and potentially your wife a lot happier on the...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 8 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    I have learned through the years,

    that life is too short to stay in a marriage that is unhealthy. First one, I was with a mental controller. Second one I have just left was with a person who has depression and anxiety. For four years, the meds were not being taken and the struggle of living with a person...
    willowofthewoods willowofthewoods 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm 17 years old . I have a one year old baby .

    My boyfriend of 4 years and I have just recently broke up. I feel so alone and unwanted . He has told me horrible things . But yet I still love him . I need help. Or motivation in life Bc I don't know where I'll end .
    jackiebustillo jackiebustillo 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I tell everyone I'm fine,

    I'm doing great, I put on a smile and go about my day. But deep down inside I am falling apart. From time to time I even convince myself, but when I'm alone and have nothing to occupy my attention the pain becomes all to real. To point where I can feel myself sliding into a deep...
    starrman92 starrman92 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 2

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    foresttrail foresttrail 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 16

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    I Am 34 Years Old And Single Again After Being Married For 8 Years...

    this sounds odd... I often feel lost because now I am on my own, as before I was used to do "couples stuff". I find myself alone and not sure sometimes, we never had kids and for that I am thankful... I have already a history posted in the affair section here in the E.P which...
    devilwife devilwife 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    My bf dumped me. We hv been on

    and off for 16 years, it's always I love him more. He always dumped me for new gals and even transmitted chlamydia to me. But I still love him, I still think he's a great person. I know that this time will be a real over between us. I'm devastated and hv insomnia. I can say that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 8

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    I've been married for 23 years

    and have known for 18 of those years that my husband and I are better as friends. It's so extremely lonely!! We want the same things for our family, but out of a relationship we don't. I've felt so trapped. I've tried counseling, hobbies, outside interests to find contentment...
    Brookief Brookief 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    She Destroyed My Soul

    It's been about 45 hours since I found out. Exactly 4 days since the fuse was lit to the end of my life, as I know it. And now, I am newly, involuntarily, separated. Homeless, family-less, just less. The best years of my life are gone. I can't get those back to spend with...
    phatdog phatdog 36-40, M 3 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    How does one get over the separation of the

    other partner keeps inserting themselves into the others life?
    Newnina Newnina 36-40, F Jun 14

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    It seemed to happen so suddenly.

    But I guess I was in denial for the past couple of years. I was hoping that things would work themselves out and we would be back to being a happy couple and family. I want to think that there's still a chance to make it work. But she seems to have moved on.
    scrubbe scrubbe 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    After weeks of talking

    and not getting to the main issue as to why our marriage failed. Yesterday, we finally spoke really spoke. It was painful hearing that your not loved and haven't been for a long time. That all that time you had spent making things right was a waste. That your only really thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    Not Sure...

    I spoke to a clergy member who said if perhaps I journaled that it would be helpful to me... being a guy to start off with talking about feelings is difficult... this is somewhat an extension to the original idea - perhaps something I say will have meaning for another person...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 11 Responses May 23, 2010

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    I am newly separated with a daughter

    who is just turning a year old. The separation was not my choice, but I am trying hard to accept the space we need. I never thought I'd be in this position in my life, especially after all the obstacles we've overcome, including infertility. I miss my best friend, husband, and...
    dirami39 dirami39 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    My wife called me while I was away on travel

    for work because she wants me to move out. Things have been bad the last couple of years. There were faults on both sides, but no infidelity or beating or hiding money. My wife simply told me she shouldn't have said yes 17 years ago. I had gained weight. I have sleep apnea...
    barsalas barsalas 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 1

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    Life. It happens. And

    while we're fussing over the meaningless stuff, the real stuff is passing us by!!!
    justanotherbloke justanotherbloke 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 16, 2014

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    Update after last night assault.

    Police have been fab. Still not sure if there's a case but giving a detailed statement ( took 6hrs) made me see my life through others eyes. Also they were able to challenge a lot if what he's told me for year. I've realised several things today; I am a victim of domestic...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2014

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    Heading toward divorce

    after 14 years...will it ever get easier...will I be happy again...will I ever be able to trust a man again...so many feelings and questions, don't know how to get through this
    stacyl1979 stacyl1979 36-40, F 1 Response May 23

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    He was charged! I am

    so shocked. If you've read my posts you'll no my police officer husband assaulted me in February and my daughter saw. That was the last straw and I asked him to leave. Since I've done everything to beg him to give us another chance to the point where him going put on a date with...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    Everything is so hard now.

    I miss her. I need someone i feel so alone. I'm scared and I don't know what to do what if she was the one and I lost her forever?
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 16

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    I am going through hell.

    My ex was taken away to the police for domestic abuse.I had 7 years of it.He was so controlling and manipulative. After time in jail and on bail he was found not guilty.I cannot blame police for not doing it the job properly, but thats what happend in my case. My ex partner had...
    sunshone sunshone 26-30, F 4 Responses May 18, 2014

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    My wife is Bi-polar. Probably enough said

    for anyone who has been in such a relationship. We are married 25 years. The manic episodes first surfaced after my son was KIA in Iraq 8 years ago. I have always been faithful to her. Despite the fact that she has not I have tried tried to forgive and renew our marriage. It...
    Alanri2 Alanri2 56-60, M 3 Responses Apr 26

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    Flip flopping... After our long talk over the

    weekend. He's texting me from work and trying to get me to sleep in the bed with him again. I feel like I need to hurt him over and over to get him to see, what we both already agreed on. This is so, very hard. Roller coaster of a marriage for years and now a roller coaster of...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 10, 2014

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    It has been nearly 2 months.

    His temper became too much and I ended up trying to get a protection order when I had to step between him and my 14 year old son. This happened day after I had an epidural shot put on my back. I had a herniated disc and bad sciatica. But, he did not seem to care. He would not...
    newdays123 newdays123 41-45, F 1 Response May 31

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    So today was the first day in accepting the

    change in my life. It's not something I have control over but I have the control from here on out! I don't have much social life and that's gonna take some time to fix. But the friends I do have are there for me. New stage in life.
    seanv14 seanv14 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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