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I Am Newly Separated

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    Quotes That Help Me To Move On...

    It's not what you go through that defines you; you can't always help that. It's what you do AFTER you've gone through it that really tests who you are. Kwame Floyd
    erfra7 erfra7 46-50, M Sep 7, 2013

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    You may or may not have known

    that last night was the Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse. It started at 1:48 am and lasted until 3:00 am. I watched the moon shadow over by the earth and slowly turn a deep orange. It was beautiful. I starred out the kitchen while occasionally glancing over at you sleeping. I wanted...
    angiede angiede 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    Currently separated from my husband right

    now it doesn't look like we will try to work it out. My question is should I move on?
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Numb!

    I just recently moved out and separated from my husband of 25 years. It's not the first time but hopefully the last. I just learned that I have been emotionally abused from a passive-aggressive husband. For years, since the beginning, there has been issues between us. I've...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 14, 2012

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    Alone But Happy

    Alone but happy is the only way I can describe how I feel. Even though there are many emotions that run through my mind. I know i've done the right thing. I've been living in an unhealthy marriage that just wore me down and took away who I am and I let it happen for so long. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Much Better Now...

    It's been a while since my last post. My wife (er ex?) and I have been ignoring the whole divorce scenario, we both know it is going to happen. As of now, being separated is the BEST thing she and I have agreed on. So nice to come home (to my apartment) stress-free, no worries...
    xjoseph xjoseph 31-35, M 7 Responses May 23, 2012

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    Another night alone. Wish somehow this would

    end! What does she want, What do I do? And why do I care so much since she walked out on me?
    mark664 mark664 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    How Can I Be Me Again?

    My husband of 11 years told me yesterday that "it wasn't there for him anymore".  He had been lying to me for months and had now found someone new that made him happy.  We were married at 20 which is young I know but I always felt it was the real thing. ...
    crushed2009 crushed2009 31-35 6 Responses May 24, 2009

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    Recently Seperated

    Its been about 5 months and i still can't get over the fact that this has happened after 23 years... Even though i knew it was heading that way after all the kids had grown and left home...i tried to prepare myself...but that didnt seem to work i still cry and go threw these...
    redrose83 redrose83 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    I Reached Out To My Wise Grandfather Last Night.

    I E-Mail my papa telling him my soul, body, and mind was tired from my wife, work, and everything going on right now. He E-Mailed me back with this info and I think it should be shared to more than just me. Here it is. That's right, (the writer without a book), you are just...
    thewriterwithnobook thewriterwithnobook 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    A Long Sad Drive...

    I had an opportunity this weekend to go back to our house to get a few more of my things and pick up my boys for a few hours. I never knew how hard it was going to be. It's a 3 hour drive from where i'm staying now to get to the home my children and my ex lives in. That's a long...
    lonelyonthemountain lonelyonthemountain 41-45, M 6 Responses Jan 14, 2013

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    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Update after last night assault.

    Police have been fab. Still not sure if there's a case but giving a detailed statement ( took 6hrs) made me see my life through others eyes. Also they were able to challenge a lot if what he's told me for year. I've realised several things today; I am a victim of domestic...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Living Beyond The Fear

    Recently I found out that my husband was not happy. He did says he didn't feel loved and recently met a girl online who makes him feel alive. So one night I was sitting and watching tv and he tells me that he wants to leave. My mouth and heart dropped. I was in shock. He...
    daffiana daffiana 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    Not Sure...

    I spoke to a clergy member who said if perhaps I journaled that it would be helpful to me... being a guy to start off with talking about feelings is difficult... this is somewhat an extension to the original idea - perhaps something I say will have meaning for another person...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 11 Responses May 23, 2010

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    It's me again. I'm very lonely

    and don't have anyone to talk to so am using EP as a way of ordering my thoughts or just tracking my progress. Please feel free to comment and advise. So my update - my hubby didn't respond to my sexy texts but he did come over today and we talked a lot. Taking for us is...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    Right Decision

    For 6 years of my 8 year marriage I have been uneasy about who my husband really was. Knowing down deep that something just wasn't right. FINALLY all the questions I had to ask him were answered and the truth was finally known. A recent affair and inappropriate behaviors...
    broken131 broken131 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    My Life Seems Empty

    My wife and i have separated, we have been together for 22 years. Like any other marriage we had our up's and down's. I belived she was my soul mate and still do. She came home one day a told me we were finished, and she wanted to leave taking our children with her, l was...
    tigermoth1234 tigermoth1234 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    I've recently put my spouse out

    after he clearly chose his ow over his family. But all of his things except of a few items are still here. Even though he isn't living here anymore, every now and then he try's to be intimate with me and often makes advances. He still does things with me and turns around to go...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 17

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    Broken Faith

    I know this sounds a little silly and I know I have been judged behind it many of times but I met my husband last June, from the moment he opened his mouth and started talking, I knew he was it (so I thought). Now, I believe in God and my faith is huge-- I try to be the best...
    ByFaith727 ByFaith727 26-30, F 10 Responses Apr 18, 2013

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    I got so mad at my soon to be ex

    that I wanted to cause harm to him. I need space to think my thoughts out.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Difficult week but thankful

    for my girls. I thought I was breaking this week but the bit that's a mom is unbreakable so I survived picked up the pieces and decided my hubby is nicer in my head than in person. Holding my girls hands every step of the way I'm taking my First steps on the road to my single...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Newly Separated

    Im newly separated from my wife of 4 years and not by choice. I got into a car accident and she kept the insurance money. She left me to struggle to pay for school on my own without even a way to my job. All because I told her 6 months ago that i was sick of our life and wanted...
    LoneAlpha LoneAlpha 26-30, M 34 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Another days grace. He's still not been

    charged. It's been nearly as week now so something's Gota be causing them to look into things hard. I expected with little evidence and his word against mine that it'd be thrown out quickly Domestic violence cases are hard at the best of times. But it means that the bail...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Happy Easter. Very weak today.

    Ex hadn't tried to let the girls no he cares n leave eggs in porch or card through door. I no he restricted by bail conditions but there's ways if showing you care without breaking the bail. My daughters godmother n wife to ex's best mate came over today. She made a real...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 14 hrs ago

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    Long sad day. My girls are with my husband

    and I'm sad and lost without them and him. They've had a fantastic day. He's invested the whole day into them and they've loved it. Feel I can't compete when I'm still running the house n making them do home work. He's at parents so hasn't got house to organise or even to cook...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Why Did I Get Married On My Birthday ! Lol

    I am hittin 37 today and today would have also been my 13 year anniversary. This is my first anniversary without her and its been tough. Honestly I am looking forward to the day ending and trying to get back to normal. I just pray for strength, courage, and hope. Best of luck to...
    Sodapopcur Sodapopcur 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    I wish I can turn back the hands of time.

    I don't to get a divorce I wish my husband would fight for my marriage like I am. Our problem is communication we didn't and still don't know how to talk to each other. I know one thing I want to keep family together.
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    She Destroyed My Soul

    It's been about 45 hours since I found out. Exactly 4 days since the fuse was lit to the end of my life, as I know it. And now, I am newly, involuntarily, separated. Homeless, family-less, just less. The best years of my life are gone. I can't get those back to spend with...
    phatdog phatdog 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Well things are degenerating.

    Hubby invited mrs l out with girls again on sat. I was angry that once again my girls weren't getting any alone time with him We ended up meeting to discuss girls at which point he said he was having doubts about separating and I should keep inviting him out on my days with...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F Apr 8

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    Depressed And Lonely

    My husband left me and my eight year old son and I am also pregnant . He is showing no signs of reconciling he said he is not interested. It is so difficult at present but i have to try to move on for the sake of my baby and son
    Sueann1302 Sueann1302 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    newly separated after 20 years of marriage,

    was completely fed up of spending every night in on my own while other half was having some sort of mid life crisis, so called it a day
    deni45 deni45 51-55, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    I just separated from the love of my life 10

    days ago which was what my husband wanted. He told me that he wanted his freedom and that he was not in love with me anymore after being together for 22 years. I asked him if there was anyone else, he told me no. And, the other woman busted him out on facebook. I confronted...
    rsawyer rsawyer 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    Well this weeks been up

    and down. 1. I went out drinking up town with my girl mate and got chatted up by a bloke nearly 15 year younger than me! 2. My husband reacted Bradley to me going out ( and the Facebook pic my mate posted of her me and a bloke. Done to wind her man up but backfired on me!) he...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F Mar 20

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    I think there is little hope

    for me and my husband. As it was his weekend of he had them all weekend. I was distraught- see my other posts I had a lovely night with them sun and min night although he stayed Monday evening loner than expected. We were talking about his work n girls so I didn't want to ask...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F Mar 26

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    Husband moved out 4 weeks ago

    after he decided he did not want to stop affair. I found out the affair had been going on for only 3 months. He's told me he hasn't been happy in the marriage for a year! I feel deceived and blindsided.
    timl1224 timl1224 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So I randomly receive a message from the hubby

    saying this: "IDK how 2 be ur friend. It's hard cuz I do care but because I don't care 4 u like a husband should love a wife is not enough. N you don't allow me to care and that's fine because of wat I've put u through" He messaged me out of nowhere. I had no ideal of what...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    Just an update because I'm sad.

    Nothing's changed for me. Ex still on bail. We're still living like prisoners in our house safe he can't come to the street. I'm on edge waiting for police to call and tell me if charges are being pressed - they won't be as dv cases rarely are and I have no marks on me as usual...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So today is my anniversary

    but we are separated, second one in a roll my husband and I haven't celebrated. To be honest I wasn't really looking forward to this day, it started off kind of gloomy. Marriages are something that is of God and it is intended to be set up with God being first, the man and then...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F Mar 20

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    Recently Seperated

    I have been with my husband since I was 18, together for 20years. He had an affair last year, but we worked through it, he promised never to hurt me like that again, so many promises made, recently found out he is still cheating with the same woman. He had stopped but started...
    Eeyore76 Eeyore76 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    And I absolutely cannot stop feeling guilty

    about the relief I feel. How much conflict can one person feel when they ask to be released from their marriage, feel so much happier when they are not with their partner, but then feel so incredibly guilty for putting someone they love through the pain. This is what I have...
    bellaball22 bellaball22 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    He got worse tonight

    and assaulted me after smashing the front door in with his head. For the first time I was brave enough to call police. I don't know if there enough evidence to do anything ( he threw me across room but didn't leave a mark) but for tonight he can't hurt us.
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    The Packing, The Cleaning, The Retrospectives

    Thinking back, looking back at old stuff, now filtered thru a gauze of forgotten arguments and with only now-dulled senses of the anger, disappointment, feelings of abandonment, of being run over and left flat, all faded away, it's easy to think "maybe this isn't the right thing...
    BrainiumCranium BrainiumCranium 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    Found out that my husband of 34 years has a

    daughter and girlfriend who live in another borough. He has been carrying this secret for ten years. I knew something was up but chose to try and ignore it until he started treating me indifferently. I finally put him out of our home 6 weeks ago when i realized that he had no...
    cdstark cdstark 56-60, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    What do women want. Gave 28yrs of faithfulness

    good jobs, two when i needed to. Good father, no abuse, no drinking and still here I am alone for the first time in 30yrs???? Cause she needs time??? Just so damn confused what is good enough????
    mark664 mark664 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Upset And Left Holding The Bag.

    I have been with my soon to be ex for 10 years now, married for 6 of them and if I was honest knew it was over for over 1 year now. 1 week ago my ex told me she wants a separation. She spent alot of time talking about finding her self and possibly getting into a new...
    davdd davdd 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 16, 2010

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    I Am 34 Years Old And Single Again After Being Married For 8 Years...

    this sounds odd... I often feel lost because now I am on my own, as before I was used to do "couples stuff". I find myself alone and not sure sometimes, we never had kids and for that I am thankful... I have already a history posted in the affair section here in the E.P which...
    devilwife devilwife 31-35, F 11 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    I Left My Wife For A Woman I Love

    What's so wrong with that? Honestly, I understand the meaning of marraige but when it comes down to it, do you go through life as a zombie, staying with someone because you're comfortable, or do you make a move that makes both you and potentially your wife a lot happier on the...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    My almost five year old daughter just asked me

    why I haven't been sleeping in the bed with my wife. We have been separated for seven weeks now and I knew she was going to notice. I talked briefly with my wife and she said to tell her we need more space to sleep. I guess that isn't technically a lie so I went with that...
    Allboutmykids Allboutmykids 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 8

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    I have been married for 13 years

    but with my wife for 16 years we have a beautiful six-year-old daughter that just started kindergarten and my wife just moved out of our home. I have never experienced such a loss or hurt like this and have sought help and knowledge from many sources to try and stay strong for...
    jonmadf jonmadf 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 8

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    Feeling worried today.

    I'm expecting ex to be notified of cps decision tomorrow and think that charges will be dropped and bail conditions lifted which means he can get access to us again. I'm trying to get new front door n locks fitted by tomorrow He's been asked to resign from chair of governors...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F a week ago

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    I Didn't Want Him to Leave, Just to Love Me

    I know this is going to come off as "needy" or emotionally troubled, and maybe I am, but when my husband of 10 years left 3 weeks ago after a minor disagreement (not even a fight!) and didn't call of take my calls for two days, I was devastated. I think that's what he...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 30 Responses Sep 12, 2008

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    Life On My Own Terms

    In the end, he found out before I could tell him I was leaving.  Actually, that is a much better way - clean, smooth and quiet.  No crying, no emotions.  He called from work and said that he had been reading my EP stories.  He got in through a mutual friend...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 11 Responses Sep 1, 2008

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    Angry, Hurt And Scared

    A month and a half ago my husband of 21 years told me that he would rather be with someone else. The person he was choosing to leave me for was I thought a friend of mine(you never really know who your friends are). I was devastated when he told me, I felt like my whole world had...
    tsparkes tsparkes 41-45, F 10 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    So I am newly separated my story isn't like

    most. So my husband and I have a 3 year old together, we lost our other baby girl at 2 months and 1 day around this time last year. So how did the coming about of my separation to the man I still love happen? I gave him an ultimatum his family or this other woman, but he couldn...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F Mar 21

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    sunbaby sunbaby 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 8, 2013

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    Emotional Roller Coaster - Pulled & Pushed

    After just over 5 months of separation, I still find myself at times in deep despair - looking for a way to purge the pain from within. Tears that pour down my face during those times seem to help rid some of the paralyzing pain. I feel better for a moment, a day or even...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 10 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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