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I Am Newly Separated

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    this pain is so intense.

    letting my family go. knowing that I will never do right by her even though I have tried and even though I do love her so much. I continue to mistreat her. this will never change, even though she says she will wait forever for me. I cannot hijack her life like that. I miss my...
    thykstyk thykstyk 31-35, M 6 Responses Jun 16

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    Ok so here it is, 2 weeks

    before Christmas my wife tells me she wants a divorce. Wow I am 25, 3 beautiful children and I'm getting divorced. I don't even know what to say or think. I tried to talk sense into her but she doesn't want to hear a word of it. Since then I have seen her maybe 2 or 3 times when...
    Kwreka89 Kwreka89 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    Much Better Now...

    It's been a while since my last post. My wife (er ex?) and I have been ignoring the whole divorce scenario, we both know it is going to happen. As of now, being separated is the BEST thing she and I have agreed on. So nice to come home (to my apartment) stress-free, no worries...
    xjoseph xjoseph 31-35, M 8 Responses May 23, 2012

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    Tonight I filled out the financial declaration

    for our temporary hearing scheduled for next week. It amazes me how 28 years together can be broken down into mere figures on a page.
    BeachGypsy BeachGypsy 46-50, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    The most important thing I have learned from my

    long term relationship....This goes for anyone, relationship or not. ....if you're trying to make someone happy, set a limit and don't cheat yourself. We all want to hear our lovers say they'd do anything for us....it makes you feel safe, naturally as comfort overcomes us, we...
    BillyLovette BillyLovette 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 15

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    Not Sure...

    I spoke to a clergy member who said if perhaps I journaled that it would be helpful to me... being a guy to start off with talking about feelings is difficult... this is somewhat an extension to the original idea - perhaps something I say will have meaning for another person...
    Liminalghost Liminalghost 36-40, M 11 Responses May 23, 2010

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    it's been 6 months and I'm devastated.

    together 8 years and just bought a house then I get kicked out and wasn't sure why. come to find out it was another guy. I put so much into our relationship and building our life together. now she has house, new guy lives there with my daughter, now I only get my daughter on...
    needbetter needbetter 31-35, M 5 Responses Jun 17

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    Quotes That Help Me To Move On...

    It's not what you go through that defines you; you can't always help that. It's what you do AFTER you've gone through it that really tests who you are. Kwame Floyd
    erfra7 erfra7 46-50, M Sep 7, 2013

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    I am so beside myself.

    Right now. It took me an hour to get dressed this morning. I was crying so hard. I don't know how I am going to get through another day without the only person that I have ever loved. I just do not understand what I did so horrible to deserve to hurt so damn bad. I've been...
    a11wayson a11wayson 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 11, 2014

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    Finally settled into my new place!

    It is cozy and comfy and especially with my dog at my side....I am excited and have pangs of loneliness but I am excited for this new start!
    MFeisty MFeisty 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 1

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    I newly single,coming out of 12yr realtionship

    (4yr Married)I Horny all time but not ready4realtionship so gonna read some real life sexy experiences other people have had&how people satisfy. their urges without starting relationships??
    AreUReady4This AreUReady4This 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 13

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    Not Quite. Even though I could be Socially

    Separate with daddy in one half. I am married at the same time with Kaku in my other half. I ownder if my bio dad was not Blind what else he could have would have should have trained me with? I am Thankful to my American sister- partner of Crime to trained me to be a Daddy-Kaku...
    peaboobs78 peaboobs78 36-40, M May 30

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    I've been separated for almost 4 months now.

    I never saw it coming. It was the shock of a lifetime, a cruel surprise. I thought everything was fine. Just two days before he left, I remember thinking I'd never been happier. Blindsided. Devastated. Crushed. Betrayed. Humiliated. Broken. The range of emotions I've...
    Ticia Ticia 26-30, F 1 Response May 21

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    Between the drinking

    and drug use on his part, the constant neglect and then finally the cheating, it was time I kicked him out of the house. It wasn't good for me or our son. I miss him a lot to be quite honest, but I know it was the right decision.
    HalesBells91 HalesBells91 22-25 1 Response Dec 9, 2014

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    So today was the first day in accepting the

    change in my life. It's not something I have control over but I have the control from here on out! I don't have much social life and that's gonna take some time to fix. But the friends I do have are there for me. New stage in life.
    seanv14 seanv14 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    I have learned through the years,

    that life is too short to stay in a marriage that is unhealthy. First one, I was with a mental controller. Second one I have just left was with a person who has depression and anxiety. For four years, the meds were not being taken and the struggle of living with a person...
    willowofthewoods willowofthewoods 41-45, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    foresttrail foresttrail 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 16

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    I Left My Wife For A Woman I Love

    What's so wrong with that? Honestly, I understand the meaning of marraige but when it comes down to it, do you go through life as a zombie, staying with someone because you're comfortable, or do you make a move that makes both you and potentially your wife a lot happier on the...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 8 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Flip flopping... After our long talk over the

    weekend. He's texting me from work and trying to get me to sleep in the bed with him again. I feel like I need to hurt him over and over to get him to see, what we both already agreed on. This is so, very hard. Roller coaster of a marriage for years and now a roller coaster of...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 10, 2014

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    Everything is so hard now.

    I miss her. I need someone i feel so alone. I'm scared and I don't know what to do what if she was the one and I lost her forever?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 16

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    My bf dumped me. We hv been on

    and off for 16 years, it's always I love him more. He always dumped me for new gals and even transmitted chlamydia to me. But I still love him, I still think he's a great person. I know that this time will be a real over between us. I'm devastated and hv insomnia. I can say that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 8

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    She Destroyed My Soul

    It's been about 45 hours since I found out. Exactly 4 days since the fuse was lit to the end of my life, as I know it. And now, I am newly, involuntarily, separated. Homeless, family-less, just less. The best years of my life are gone. I can't get those back to spend with...
    phatdog phatdog 36-40, M 3 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    If you have a fb please log on & take the time

    to share the post you see on the cover photo here.
    BillyLovette BillyLovette 22-25, M Jun 14

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    I'm actually not separated yet.

    I'm about to initiate the process but I'm having so much difficulty dealing with the ramifications of this decision to leave my wife. It would be easier if we hated each other but we don't. In fact, she still loves me as she's always done. I've stopped loving her for a multitude...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 25

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    I Am 34 Years Old And Single Again After Being Married For 8 Years...

    this sounds odd... I often feel lost because now I am on my own, as before I was used to do "couples stuff". I find myself alone and not sure sometimes, we never had kids and for that I am thankful... I have already a history posted in the affair section here in the E.P which...
    devilwife devilwife 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    My husband and I have recently separated.

    He just decided abruptly over day (last month). That is was over, he's tired of pretending. That he wasted 15 years and wanted me to leave. It crushed me... I could have faught. I didn't because I agreed. He is begging for me to come back. I won't, and to keep myself busy. I...
    theophaneia theophaneia 31-35, F 2 Responses May 8

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    After an 8 year relationship

    and marriage with an alcoholic I have finally decided to move on. The freedom I feel is indescribable! There will definitely be an adjustment period for our two children...but I can be happy knowing that this is ultimately the best decision for all of us. Feeling free and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Apr 13

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    I am newly separated

    because i filed for divorce earlier this year. My soon to be ex and I agreed to the separation and subsequent divorce because of several differences beyond repair in our lives and marriage.
    familybeachparty familybeachparty 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    We have been through this before,

    my wife an I, a couple of years ago. We separated for 8 months. But soon my compassion for her feelings led me to reconcile with her. However, things haven't changed and here we are again. And although the situation is different, the reactions from her are still the same. I...
    drknght75 drknght75 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 5

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    Life. It happens. And

    while we're fussing over the meaningless stuff, the real stuff is passing us by!!!
    justanotherbloke justanotherbloke 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 16, 2014

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    He left and I dream of him every night.

    Nothing romantic but he's there. I'm just so mad that I can't seem to let him go. I don't want to dream of him. He has already stolen so much if my peace. I dont sleep well either because I'm worried about what's to come. Please tell me it gets better.
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 2 Responses May 10

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    I tell everyone I'm fine,

    I'm doing great, I put on a smile and go about my day. But deep down inside I am falling apart. From time to time I even convince myself, but when I'm alone and have nothing to occupy my attention the pain becomes all to real. To point where I can feel myself sliding into a deep...
    starrman92 starrman92 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 2

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    I've been married for 23 years

    and have known for 18 of those years that my husband and I are better as friends. It's so extremely lonely!! We want the same things for our family, but out of a relationship we don't. I've felt so trapped. I've tried counseling, hobbies, outside interests to find contentment...
    Brookief Brookief 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I Didn't Want Him to Leave, Just to Love Me

    I know this is going to come off as "needy" or emotionally troubled, and maybe I am, but when my husband of 10 years left 3 weeks ago after a minor disagreement (not even a fight!) and didn't call of take my calls for two days, I was devastated. I think that's what he...
    sagegirl sagegirl 36-40, F 31 Responses Sep 12, 2008

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    He was charged! I am

    so shocked. If you've read my posts you'll no my police officer husband assaulted me in February and my daughter saw. That was the last straw and I asked him to leave. Since I've done everything to beg him to give us another chance to the point where him going put on a date with...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    My wife called me while I was away on travel

    for work because she wants me to move out. Things have been bad the last couple of years. There were faults on both sides, but no infidelity or beating or hiding money. My wife simply told me she shouldn't have said yes 17 years ago. I had gained weight. I have sleep apnea...
    barsalas barsalas 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 1

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    How does one get over the separation of the

    other partner keeps inserting themselves into the others life?
    Newnina Newnina 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    I am newly separated with a daughter

    who is just turning a year old. The separation was not my choice, but I am trying hard to accept the space we need. I never thought I'd be in this position in my life, especially after all the obstacles we've overcome, including infertility. I miss my best friend, husband, and...
    dirami39 dirami39 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    It has been nearly 2 months.

    His temper became too much and I ended up trying to get a protection order when I had to step between him and my 14 year old son. This happened day after I had an epidural shot put on my back. I had a herniated disc and bad sciatica. But, he did not seem to care. He would not...
    newdays123 newdays123 41-45, F 1 Response May 31

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    Heading toward divorce

    after 14 years...will it ever get easier...will I be happy again...will I ever be able to trust a man again...so many feelings and questions, don't know how to get through this
    stacyl1979 stacyl1979 36-40, F 1 Response May 23

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    Still living in same house,

    but 1.5 months into separation and I am sleeping better and feel so much calmer and happier. Lots of changes ahead, but feeling optimistic! #batman!
    molly3493 molly3493 41-45, F May 23

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    April 8th, 2015 - It's been 5 weeks

    and 2 days since we officially separated. He's still sleeping on the couch. How much time am I supposed to give him?? I just want it to be over already. I'm tired of looking at his sad, mopey face. I made every excuse for him. Oh but he's a good man, he's a nice person, he's...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F May 14

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    I'm single and I'm happy .

    .... I do not want my ex back... at all!!!
    Serenita Serenita 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    I'm 17 years old . I have a one year old baby .

    My boyfriend of 4 years and I have just recently broke up. I feel so alone and unwanted . He has told me horrible things . But yet I still love him . I need help. Or motivation in life Bc I don't know where I'll end .
    jackiebustillo jackiebustillo 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    After weeks of talking

    and not getting to the main issue as to why our marriage failed. Yesterday, we finally spoke really spoke. It was painful hearing that your not loved and haven't been for a long time. That all that time you had spent making things right was a waste. That your only really thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    I am newly separated

    and have 2 children. My daughter is 14 and is doing fine with the separation. My son is 12 and is not fine. Right now I just left my place to take a walk after my son does his best to be so fresh and talk back. We have a 9 month old puppy who can be nippy he gets do angry when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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