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I Am Newly Separated

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    My girlfriend of three years broke up with me a

    little over a month ago. It's putten me into a pretty deep depression spell and I can't seem to get out of it. She was was world, and every day feels strange and not worth going through without her. I grew extremely co dependent on her for my happiness and I haven't felt any...
    jmarr12 jmarr12 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    Expected to have my teenage sons over

    for dinner tonight, they stay with their mom at the house I still pay for. I guess they were busy, too bad they could not have told me, with their fancy *** phones, (I pay for those too). WTF
    HarryOsbourne HarryOsbourne 56-60, M Oct 22, 2015

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    Devastated still, after three months of him

    being gone crying every frigging day like it just happened yesterday. Married 23 yrs, I'm 46; we started this journey when I was 13. We have two 20 something yr olds. It's been a long road for us, details not necessary, but we've had our fair share of ups and downs. This...
    MsKita MsKita 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2015

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    I met my husband at 14,

    started going out together at 15 . He was my first love and I have never been with anyone else. We married when I was 22 and he was 23. Fast forward 27 years later and 4 children and years of fighting and silence so we have decided to separate. Unfortunately we have to live in...
    Cody66 Cody66 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2015

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    Newly Separated

    Im newly separated from my wife of 4 years and not by choice. I got into a car accident and she kept the insurance money. She left me to struggle to pay for school on my own without even a way to my job. All because I told her 6 months ago that i was sick of our life and wanted...
    LoneAlpha LoneAlpha 31-35, M 32 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    I still find my ex sexy

    as hell. Do you end up sleeping with your ex again? I feel that it would only make things more messy, but it is hard to not want to when I find that person attractive and I had an emotional connection at some point.
    Nico2390 Nico2390 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    'He Cheated, So Why Do I Feel Guilty?' Update

    Nearly six months now since separating after 24 years. After the initial feeling of devastation, I felt a sense of calm and happiness and wondered if that was just a phase, like some sort of mental coping mechanism. Well, I still feel genuinely happier! I think after so long...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 26, 2013

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    Flip flopping... After our long talk over the

    weekend. He's texting me from work and trying to get me to sleep in the bed with him again. I feel like I need to hurt him over and over to get him to see, what we both already agreed on. This is so, very hard. Roller coaster of a marriage for years and now a roller coaster of...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 10, 2014

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    After 15 years of being together

    and 11 and half years of marriage.....it's over. He says he loves me and wants us to be family but our relationship as husband and wife is over and he never wants to get back. It has been 4 months since he declared he wants to separate and it hurts cause I tried so hard in so...
    beingme36 beingme36 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    After 33 years of marriage,

    my husband and I have separated. Our marriage had been over for a very long time, and I finally found the courage to leave him. It’s been about 2-½ weeks since he moved out. I am glad he is gone, and don’t miss him at all. I just don’t know what to do with myself at...
    sheltielady4 sheltielady4 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 3, 2015

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    So today was the first day in accepting the

    change in my life. It's not something I have control over but I have the control from here on out! I don't have much social life and that's gonna take some time to fix. But the friends I do have are there for me. New stage in life.
    seanv14 seanv14 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    I've been married for 10 years.

    I found pictures of my husband having sex with someone else. I forgave him and tried to move on. He then went missing for 4 days and comes back saying he loves me and he can explain. I haven't let him back home. I feel pathetic saying it but I miss him even though we never talk...
    reena786 reena786 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    I'm new to this group,

    matter a fact this is my first time ever posting anything like this. I find myself to this group because I will often use Google and ask questions in regards to what I may be feeling that day or what I am experiencing in life at that moment. Currently, as I write this, I have an...
    jslewis82 jslewis82 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 28, 2015

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    Heartbroken sad Let me start from the beginning

    I was in a abusive marriage for 9 years and I had enough and got out! I was a mum with 2 small kids and decided to try out a dating site and see what happens after awhile! I signed up and met a few males until I met the man of my dreams he was everything and more we got married...
    brokenhearted1976 brokenhearted1976 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    It is going to be okay.

    I thought I would be miserable, but I am actually okay. I laugh and cry everyday and it is normal to even do both in the same day! I did not know. Overall I believe in me. I may find Mr.Right and in the other hand I may become Ms.Singleforever. I could careless about the...
    2006Tina 2006Tina 31-35, F Nov 22, 2015

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    It's been one month since my husband of 15

    years moved out of our marital home. Our relationship is now a business transaction. Who gets the kids when? Mediation? Collaboration? I've never felt so betrayed. The feeling in my heart is something I never expected. It is all so hard. There is no other woman, There is no...
    threegirlsandadog threegirlsandadog 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2015

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    Finally settled into my new place!

    It is cozy and comfy and especially with my dog at my side....I am excited and have pangs of loneliness but I am excited for this new start!
    MFeisty MFeisty 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 1, 2015

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    I am going through hell.

    My ex was taken away to the police for domestic abuse.I had 7 years of it.He was so controlling and manipulative. After time in jail and on bail he was found not guilty.I cannot blame police for not doing it the job properly, but thats what happend in my case. My ex partner had...
    sunshone sunshone 26-30, F 4 Responses May 18, 2014

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    My husband of 9 years confessed

    that he was "getting his needs met by someone else" 6 months ago. I had no idea and it completely turned my world upside down. He claimed that he wanted to work on the marriage so I (being a Christian woman) decided I wanted to make it work as well. About 4 months ago I found...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 3, 2015

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    How do you do it? The conversation,

    I mean. I will probably be getting separated soon. Married for 13 years. Miserable for most of that time, but afraid I can't make it on my own. I probably can, but I've never had to (went from living at home to living with wife, who makes 3x as much as me). I'm also afraid that...
    Kareem840 Kareem840 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 8

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    Recently Seperated

    I have been with my husband since I was 18, together for 20years. He had an affair last year, but we worked through it, he promised never to hurt me like that again, so many promises made, recently found out he is still cheating with the same woman. He had stopped but started...
    Eeyore76 Eeyore76 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    Why Did I Get Married On My Birthday ! Lol

    I am hittin 37 today and today would have also been my 13 year anniversary. This is my first anniversary without her and its been tough. Honestly I am looking forward to the day ending and trying to get back to normal. I just pray for strength, courage, and hope. Best of luck to...
    Sodapopcur Sodapopcur 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    I have learned through the years,

    that life is too short to stay in a marriage that is unhealthy. First one, I was with a mental controller. Second one I have just left was with a person who has depression and anxiety. For four years, the meds were not being taken and the struggle of living with a person...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 27, 2015

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    I've been separated for 10 months now.

    Been the longest time of my life! I feel lost and confused still. I know I wasn't happy, but at the same time I feel obligated to my family to work it out. My husband is someone who would always rather stay home and not get out and live. We treat each other terrible and argue a...
    Elle340 Elle340 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    I Left My Wife For A Woman I Love

    What's so wrong with that? Honestly, I understand the meaning of marraige but when it comes down to it, do you go through life as a zombie, staying with someone because you're comfortable, or do you make a move that makes both you and potentially your wife a lot happier on the...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    My Husband always had female friends to talk to.

    He had old ones, and new ones. I had an issue with him always talking to the other women. I asked him to end the new "talking" relationships. Long story short and 2 years later, he couldn't stop. I broke up with him in marriage counseling, 2 weeks after our 4 year wedding...
    chocolateeri chocolateeri 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 25, 2015

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    I am newly separated with a daughter

    who is just turning a year old. The separation was not my choice, but I am trying hard to accept the space we need. I never thought I'd be in this position in my life, especially after all the obstacles we've overcome, including infertility. I miss my best friend, husband, and...
    dirami39 dirami39 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    She Destroyed My Soul

    It's been about 45 hours since I found out. Exactly 4 days since the fuse was lit to the end of my life, as I know it. And now, I am newly, involuntarily, separated. Homeless, family-less, just less. The best years of my life are gone. I can't get those back to spend with...
    phatdog phatdog 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Ok so here it is, 2 weeks

    before Christmas my wife tells me she wants a divorce. Wow I am 25, 3 beautiful children and I'm getting divorced. I don't even know what to say or think. I tried to talk sense into her but she doesn't want to hear a word of it. Since then I have seen her maybe 2 or 3 times when...
    Kwreka89 Kwreka89 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    After weeks of talking

    and not getting to the main issue as to why our marriage failed. Yesterday, we finally spoke really spoke. It was painful hearing that your not loved and haven't been for a long time. That all that time you had spent making things right was a waste. That your only really thought...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    I am new here as well

    and looking for a place to belong. Where do I start? It's been 6 weeks now since I've separated from my (ex)wife & children. We were married for 17 years and have 3 boys together. We've separated 4 times in the past (a few days, a week, a month) and each time I've swallowed my...
    Shockwave00 Shockwave00 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 12, 2015

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    It has been 5 months

    since my husband and I separated. Let me start by saying that we married in May 2013. I learned that I was pregnant with our baby in June 2013. We are both in our 30's. He was in school starting on a new career. I was working in my career. He was unhappy that I was pregnant and...
    newlyover newlyover 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    My husband and I have recently separated.

    He just decided abruptly over day (last month). That is was over, he's tired of pretending. That he wasted 15 years and wanted me to leave. It crushed me... I could have faught. I didn't because I agreed. He is begging for me to come back. I won't, and to keep myself busy. I...
    theophaneia theophaneia 31-35, F 2 Responses May 8, 2015

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    Been 8 months now, as time passes I see things

    with more clarity. Tonight during counseling I hinted that my wife was abusive, counselor confirmed. Kind of blows my mind. Wasn't like physical, all emotional. Withholding love, affection, intimacy. Isolating me from friends and family. Abuse comes in many different ways...
    HarryOsbourne HarryOsbourne 56-60, M 4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    It's been on the cards

    for a long time, we married young, had lots of ups & downs over the years, but we stayed together, for us for our children because we didn't want to give up. Neither of us have been happy for a while but I put this down to his mid-life crisis' (he's had a few) Anyway I caught...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 15, 2015

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    Hi iv been separated now

    for nearly 5months and still feel heart broken and raw I keep thinking of the past and it's eating me up inside some days are good and others are bad feel alone useless crying inside and hurting in my heart if that makes sence I have a daughter and she s 7 and I have her wed to...
    gjwood gjwood 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2015

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    After an 8 year relationship

    and marriage with an alcoholic I have finally decided to move on. The freedom I feel is indescribable! There will definitely be an adjustment period for our two children...but I can be happy knowing that this is ultimately the best decision for all of us. Feeling free and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Apr 13, 2015

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    Much Better Now...

    It's been a while since my last post. My wife (er ex?) and I have been ignoring the whole divorce scenario, we both know it is going to happen. As of now, being separated is the BEST thing she and I have agreed on. So nice to come home (to my apartment) stress-free, no worries...
    xjoseph xjoseph 31-35, M 8 Responses May 23, 2012

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    I am so beside myself.

    Right now. It took me an hour to get dressed this morning. I was crying so hard. I don't know how I am going to get through another day without the only person that I have ever loved. I just do not understand what I did so horrible to deserve to hurt so damn bad. I've been...
    a11wayson a11wayson 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 11, 2014

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    I Am 34 Years Old And Single Again After Being Married For 8 Years...

    this sounds odd... I often feel lost because now I am on my own, as before I was used to do "couples stuff". I find myself alone and not sure sometimes, we never had kids and for that I am thankful... I have already a history posted in the affair section here in the E.P which...
    devilwife devilwife 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 26, 2012

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    I am new to this so not sure

    where to start..my husband of 20 years (been togetherfor 25) told me 5 weeksago that he was leaving, he says he still loves me with all his heart and soul but he cant live with me anymore. We have had a shocking year he was injured at work in march and has only just gone back...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    I am newly separated

    and have 2 children. My daughter is 14 and is doing fine with the separation. My son is 12 and is not fine. Right now I just left my place to take a walk after my son does his best to be so fresh and talk back. We have a 9 month old puppy who can be nippy he gets do angry when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I've been separated for almost 4 months now.

    I never saw it coming. It was the shock of a lifetime, a cruel surprise. I thought everything was fine. Just two days before he left, I remember thinking I'd never been happier. Blindsided. Devastated. Crushed. Betrayed. Humiliated. Broken. The range of emotions I've...
    Ticia Ticia 26-30, F 1 Response May 21, 2015

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    I am recently separated

    although this is not the first time... This time is by far the worst. I am searching everything trying to find answers. His facebook being one and I am beginning to wonder if he has had an affair with any woman on there. It gives me a sick feeling when I think about it. I...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 7

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    Mrs began moving out.

    Has her new place. The house is super quiet without her and the children. Meals for one. Nothing will be moved from where I leave it. This will take some getting used to after 24 years together!
    grower629 grower629 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 27, 2015

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