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I Am Not A Friend Collector

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    Moreover, I am not a friend collector friend

    collector. If you have nothing on your profile but a bunch of likes and a bunch of friends and have not shared anything else about yourself, I'm not going to add you to my circle. Also, if you can't think of anything better to say to me in a message than 'Hi" or "You're cute...
    PennySterling PennySterling 51-55, T 1 Response Nov 4

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    Getting To Know You . . .

    I tend to add a lot of people to my circle but not because I'm a 'collector', it's because having you in my circle is the best way to get to know you. If after several weeks we haven't had much interaction, I just remove. Sounds cruel but it means that after a while I end up with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    I Am Not

    I am going to try and keep my circle manageable. I was on EP before and added too many people and it got crazy. This time will be different. I'm going to be careful about who I add and really I will delete people if there is no interaction at all over time.
    friendlynudist friendlynudist 36-40, F Sep 11, 2012

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    Must Be A Record

    I don't think I've ever added this many people in a week let alone a day . I just happened to get fanned by the right people today .
    certifiable certifiable 70+, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2013

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    I Love My Block Button

    Yes, I realize I have made posts about the things lacking in my love life. That, however, does not mean I have any interest what so ever in you or the sad and pathetic little attempt you want to try and make to somehow "fulfill" me. I am not going to exchange erotic emails or...
    PandoraAdore PandoraAdore 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2011

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    Friends Are Not For Collecting

    Friends are a rarity and the ones that come into my life are treasured. I won't add just anyone, and it's not because I am a snob, it's because i prefer to have something in common with those that fan me and those that I add to my circle. .I don't judge others if the choose to...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    I Won't Add, Just For The Sake Of Adding

    I made that mistake a month or two ago. I added about 15 followers yet never talked to them. I kept getting followers, and adding yet I only spoke to about a quarter of them. In the span of a 2 weeks, I was up to about 80 people. I finally realized that yes, I shared a lot of...
    ImToolazyforaWittyUseName ImToolazyforaWittyUseName 31-35, M May 5, 2012

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    Pet Peeve

    I admit I have no love for the friend collectors and please don't tell me that you know anything unique about the 300-1200 people you've added for an audience. The term for you folks is attention hounds and you should really see about getting that fixed. Don't get me wrong, I...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M Oct 24, 2012

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    Small Groups

    I like small groups because they are more manageable.  I'm extremely busy and don't have time to catch up on everybody's every little thing.  I collect things not people so a friend collector is not my style.  For those that are, you can pass me by.  I'm not interested in...
    Sweetertnu Sweetertnu 41-45, F Dec 27, 2011

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    Friends

    IT amazes me how many friends members have in their circle,some number in the thousands, many in the hundreds. How in the world can you be "friends" with so many people? What is the point here? I receive numerous mail notifing me of fans, i check their profiles and see they have...
    scubafever scubafever 46-50, M 7 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    I'll be blunt about it: Amassing tens

    and hundreds of people never mattered to me in real life and it doesn't online. I question people who do that. Like, are you that insecure, that lonely you need so many people to form a cult of personality around you when you know good and well you will talk to maybe less than a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 30

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    Friends Are Not Friends

    I have seen EP members with a list of more than a 1,000 friends. I believe these are connections MAYBE with other members with a similar interest, but not actual friends. I really doubt they could tell you ten things about these so called friends.
    Jones47 Jones47 61-65, M Jan 14, 2013

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    I Take My Circle Seriously

    Although I said with this new profile I would do things a little different I will still not add people who have too many friends .My last profile I would add a person who had more than 150 friends but decided to be less strict this time but I just got a friend request from...
    Smackhead Smackhead 70+, F May 24, 2013

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    I would like for people to send a message

    before you add me as a friend or I will not except. I will not except a request from someone that has hundreds of friends. I clean my friends list regularly of people that I do not talk to. If you wish to friend me feel free to send me a message, I will most likely add you but...
    mcm99701 mcm99701 61-65, M Apr 9

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    It's Fun But Unreal

    I was a "friend" collector when I first was on MySpace over 4 years ago but quickly realized many of them were anonymous fans of my blogs or just wanted to share/promote their music which is totally fine. Some of them write to me on occassion and I appreciate the personal touch...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2011

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    Not A Friend Collector

    As everyone can see, I'm a solitaire, don't have anyone in my circle and this is the way I want it...later can be a different ball game, right now, being alone is the way I want it.  :)
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2011

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    I don't understand people

    who treat others like a collection to their supposed popularity. If you don't value the people that you are surrounded by you are not friends. If you pretend to value them until someone else comes along that you perceive as better than you are not friends. Just treat others with...
    blackrabbit815 blackrabbit815 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    Nahh

    Adding friends randomly makes me feel less important, because they just add me to have more friends. They don't want to talk or give feedback or whatever. If somebody adds me, I'll add them back. But the few people that I add first, I add because they gave insightful advice or...
    StrippedxPride487 StrippedxPride487 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 4, 2011

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    I need to ask you something, and I want you to be very honest with me okay. I noticed that you have a lot of women on your friends list and then it dawned on me that you are...
    Domini7 Domini7 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 2

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    I never really thought of it before as collecting, but it has certainly been there to some degree. Bird photographs and plastic models of birds, for one thing. My huge library...
    perseverer perseverer 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    There are so many collectors on here it seems to me. People who are just after adding people, or looking at their pictures. They are time wasters, or gamers, or whatever! I won't...
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 19 Responses Nov 17

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    I really enjoy and love being a good friend to others. I do not gossip about my friends or spread rumors about them either. This is what being a friend to another person is all...
    matureolderwife matureolderwife 56-60, F 3 hrs ago

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    I would love to invite each and every ep friend to my house for a Thanksgiving dinner. That would be such a blessing to my heart!! I would love to be able to cook all sorts of...
    vaylorie vaylorie 46-50, F 5 hrs ago

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    I love girls and like to be my friend on Skype :)
    hobahoba hobahoba 18-21, M 3 hrs ago

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    Most of my friends are male. I like hanging with the guys. Guys don't have drama.
    Imtoosexy42 Imtoosexy42 41-45, F 2 Responses 56 mins ago

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    Right now my friend and I are naming all the emojis yeah I know what you all are thinking weird right?
    Loverforsweets Loverforsweets 18-21, F 2 Responses 38 mins ago

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    So about this "best friend". I didn't have an actual really "best best friend" until the other year. I became close to this girl one summer and eventually became "best friends...
    coconutmeraki coconutmeraki 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 28

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    Another instance with friend A. This was two years after the last experience I posted. She was with a new friend of hers and came up to me with friend B who I was friends with...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses Oct 29

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    The problem is everyone assumes everyone has friends. It’s such an anomaly to some people, but that’s just plain false. Lots of guys automatically assume I have friends. They...
    mimiw mimiw 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    So this was friend B, whom I have mentioned before in other experiences. It grew to the point where all we did was fight. She would easily ditch me, it seemed like she was hiding...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Nov 13

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    I think friend B saw me as 'clingy' because I had told her to keep away from friend A. I know this is wrong, but friend A treated me so badly and I didn't want to 'share'. It was...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Nov 13

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    August 18, 2014. That was the day before the best night of my life. August 18th is my birthday, and 2014 happened to be my 16th. My friend Kaycee had planned a surprise party for...
    caitlynbroedel caitlynbroedel 16-17, F Oct 28

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    My interests: 1. Minecraft 2. Anime 3. Game in general 4. Trying new things Traits I'd like in a friend: 1. Isn't trying to f*** with me (I mean this both figuratively AND...
    YuriXWolfram86 YuriXWolfram86 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    Here's a long story. I am a freshman in college and I am also a lesbian. I have had a girlfriend, let's call her Jen, for almost 2 years. Jen is my best friend and I can't imagine...
    Dashtoaster Dashtoaster 18-21, F Oct 31

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    I feel horrible! I had made a friend here on EP earlier this week. We had a lot in common and I enjoyed reading the stories and comments that he wrote. I don’t know how I could...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F Nov 1

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    Since I met my Internet Friends in person for the first time about two weeks ago, how could I not believe Internet friends are real? Let's face it: I had no friends when I was...
    kiyokichan kiyokichan 13-15, F Nov 1

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    This will be random and most likely scattered so please bear with me if you read this. I'm not sure why but recently I reflected back on when I first joined EP...and why I joined...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots 36-40, M 5 Responses Nov 3

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    This past weekend it was Halloween, and so to celebrate, my friend and I went trick or treating for the last time. When we returned back to my house, it was time to drive her home...
    whyphy whyphy 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 3

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    What is the big idea behind friendship exactly? Because I just don't understand it anymore. I'm mentally tracking my brain for any definitions, any files I might have on it, any...
    spotofhope spotofhope 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 4

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    First thing, I am a male. So, let's get going... I met this girl in 9th grade and we got along really well from the beginning (I'm pretty sure she liked be back then for a couple...
    ghioagabou ghioagabou 16-17, M Nov 4

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    One thing I will always know for sure: You can't be friends with everyone. Some people will never accept all the good things you do for them, even when you give them the whole...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    I have a girl best friend were gunna call her k (she's not the one I'm in love with) we'll we were best friends for like 3 years over all and I knew my guy best friend since 4th...
    thecatso thecatso 13-15, F Nov 13

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    I recently met her and I thought we were going to be best friends forever. I was naive and stupid. I was recently getting I've a brief period of sadness because one of my other...
    LittleRose18 LittleRose18 16-17, F Nov 15

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    I have never been popular, I have always been that shy person that doesn't have many friends but I've always had a few and I'm thankful for that. I guess everyone wants to have...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 16

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    HHHHEEEEELLLLLLPPPPPP!!!!!! Should I keep her or dump her? So it's been months since I talked to her. Long story short, not going to bore you with the details, but she came over...
    LoveisBeautiful5013 LoveisBeautiful5013 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    Love is an illusion, your "love" today is your nightmare tomorrow. The illusion of true love is a sad and lonely thought based on a hope to find someone that the thoughts of you...
    TypoKytty TypoKytty 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    This was early 2012 and I met my lost best friend at a party where we talked about personal things and exchanged things. We became best friends after that. I don't think she...
    jacithepanda jacithepanda 13-15, F 5 days ago

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