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I Am Not A Friend Collector

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    Friends

    IT amazes me how many friends members have in their circle,some number in the thousands, many in the hundreds. How in the world can you be "friends" with so many people? What is the point here? I receive numerous mail notifing me of fans, i check their profiles and see they have...
    scubafever scubafever 46-50, M 7 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Moreover, I am not a friend collector friend

    collector. If you have nothing on your profile but a bunch of likes and a bunch of friends and have not shared anything else about yourself, I'm not going to add you to my circle. Also, if you can't think of anything better to say to me in a message than 'Hi" or "You're cute...
    PennySterling PennySterling 51-55, T 3 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    I Take My Circle Seriously

    Although I said with this new profile I would do things a little different I will still not add people who have too many friends .My last profile I would add a person who had more than 150 friends but decided to be less strict this time but I just got a friend request from...
    Smackhead Smackhead 70+, F May 24, 2013

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    Friends Are Not For Collecting

    Friends are a rarity and the ones that come into my life are treasured. I won't add just anyone, and it's not because I am a snob, it's because i prefer to have something in common with those that fan me and those that I add to my circle. .I don't judge others if the choose to...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    Must Be A Record

    I don't think I've ever added this many people in a week let alone a day . I just happened to get fanned by the right people today .
    certifiable certifiable 70+, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2013

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    I would like for people to send a message

    before you add me as a friend or I will not except. I will not except a request from someone that has hundreds of friends. I clean my friends list regularly of people that I do not talk to. If you wish to friend me feel free to send me a message, I will most likely add you but...
    mcm99701 mcm99701 61-65, M Apr 9, 2014

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    It's Fun But Unreal

    I was a "friend" collector when I first was on MySpace over 4 years ago but quickly realized many of them were anonymous fans of my blogs or just wanted to share/promote their music which is totally fine. Some of them write to me on occassion and I appreciate the personal touch...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2011

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    I Won't Add, Just For The Sake Of Adding

    I made that mistake a month or two ago. I added about 15 followers yet never talked to them. I kept getting followers, and adding yet I only spoke to about a quarter of them. In the span of a 2 weeks, I was up to about 80 people. I finally realized that yes, I shared a lot of...
    ImToolazyforaWittyUseName ImToolazyforaWittyUseName 31-35, M May 5, 2012

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    I'll be blunt about it: Amassing tens

    and hundreds of people never mattered to me in real life and it doesn't online. I question people who do that. Like, are you that insecure, that lonely you need so many people to form a cult of personality around you when you know good and well you will talk to maybe less than a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 30, 2014

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    Getting To Know You . . .

    I tend to add a lot of people to my circle but not because I'm a 'collector', it's because having you in my circle is the best way to get to know you. If after several weeks we haven't had much interaction, I just remove. Sounds cruel but it means that after a while I end up with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    I don't understand people

    who treat others like a collection to their supposed popularity. If you don't value the people that you are surrounded by you are not friends. If you pretend to value them until someone else comes along that you perceive as better than you are not friends. Just treat others with...
    blackrabbit815 blackrabbit815 22-25, F Nov 23, 2014

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    Not A Friend Collector

    As everyone can see, I'm a solitaire, don't have anyone in my circle and this is the way I want it...later can be a different ball game, right now, being alone is the way I want it.  :)
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2011

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    Friends Are Not Friends

    I have seen EP members with a list of more than a 1,000 friends. I believe these are connections MAYBE with other members with a similar interest, but not actual friends. I really doubt they could tell you ten things about these so called friends.
    Jones47 Jones47 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 14, 2013

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    I Love My Block Button

    Yes, I realize I have made posts about the things lacking in my love life. That, however, does not mean I have any interest what so ever in you or the sad and pathetic little attempt you want to try and make to somehow "fulfill" me. I am not going to exchange erotic emails or...
    PandoraAdore PandoraAdore 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2011

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    Small Groups

    I like small groups because they are more manageable.  I'm extremely busy and don't have time to catch up on everybody's every little thing.  I collect things not people so a friend collector is not my style.  For those that are, you can pass me by.  I'm not interested in...
    Sweetertnu Sweetertnu 41-45, F Dec 27, 2011

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    Nahh

    Adding friends randomly makes me feel less important, because they just add me to have more friends. They don't want to talk or give feedback or whatever. If somebody adds me, I'll add them back. But the few people that I add first, I add because they gave insightful advice or...
    StrippedxPride487 StrippedxPride487 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 4, 2011

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    I like to keep my circle of friends small.

    I'm not here to collect friends...I don't consider ep a popularity contest...and if you do, we definitely won't be friends. I don't even send out friend requests...not since my first year here...many years ago. I also don't add everyone who sends me a request... There are...
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    No I am not.I am happy with the ones I have .I don't like friend collectors or Indians who flirt with me at the first instance just because I happen to be Indian.I am quite...
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 10

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    1-please don't be a 'leavdonteller' if we start talking and become friends just don't leave or disappear for days without telling me-2-i rather to slap by the truth instead of...
    Amirmohammad Amirmohammad 16-17, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I have friends but I'd like to make friends here! To talk about things that have happened to each other, share experiences and advice, those kind of things, I'm 16 years old but if...
    DivaNacht DivaNacht 18-21, M 19 hrs ago

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    Hey Kiran Here, I've joined EP to make good loyal friends. I don't have no friends, I'm always alone. I wish I had a close friend that will just talk and get to know me well. If...
    KIRAN7897 KIRAN7897 16-17, F 3 hrs ago

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    I wish I had a friend I could play guitar with. I haven't had any friend's in over 10 years.
    mitchmiller1969 mitchmiller1969 41-45, M 19 hrs ago

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    Now I live abroad , alone < no family no friends , from work to home from home to work , soo it will be nice to have a new friends here
    as3adsamy as3adsamy 22-25, M 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    So I know I've posted a lot about being in love with my best friend. As of recently, I finally drew up the courage to leave my unhappy relationship and after a good while I've...
    CutttieBaby CutttieBaby 18-21, F 17 hrs ago

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    me and a friend used to go to a mini market down the street walk to the river, sit on a boulder and watch the water. we could talk there for hours. we never wanted to go home on...
    amaracherish amaracherish 18-21, F 6 hrs ago

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    Twice. By the same guy. He was my friend. He went on to rape another friend of mine. She took him to trial and he wasn't even convicted. The second time haunts me always. He...
    samcanread samcanread 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    I will only share on here with my EP friends and not the family or freinds in real life. Here I can express myself virtually freely (censorship) and enjoy the company of men with...
    Brian1953 Brian1953 61-65, M 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    Talking to your BEST FRIEND is sometimes all the therapy you need...
    cat20079 cat20079 36-40, M 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    hi everyone i just want to make some friends from other nations. my s-k-ype is b2nevera. pm me if you like to talk.
    b2never b2never 22-25, M 15 hrs ago

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    What's the best way to make friends in a new city without coming across as a creep
    Pablo67 Pablo67 46-50, M 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I couldn't breath. I cried. My tears were warm, and my stomach was in knots. I've got so close to this person that I forgot where I was. I became another half with this person. I...
    Latiaaaa Latiaaaa 16-17, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Would love to find new people to just talk to about random things. My friends are always busy with their own lives so it just gets kind of boring not having anyone to talk to.
    Soccergirl23 Soccergirl23 26-30, F 4 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Ive been through a lot just looking for a friend i can talk to not go to bed with
    oranges29 oranges29 26-30 8 hrs ago

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    Uh, yes. It's hard for me to find someone who can keep my interest and I can goof around with and be comfortable. The people where I live always take advantage of my friendship and...
    Good4It Good4It 18-21, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I thought I made REAL FRIENDS on EP but I was wrong & it hurts!!!
    jeffster72 jeffster72 41-45, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry for who I am and that I'm a horrible but if you understood my life a bit more you would understand. Right now my I feel like my life is over and I just want to die. If I...
    vanessa5290 vanessa5290 13-15, F 7 hrs ago

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    But my best friend hurt me so badly, that I don't know how to forgive him or if I'm even able. I want to forgive him more than anything, I love him more than I have ever loved...
    Mellangela Mellangela 26-30, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    hello, i'm not gay but i do enjoy being friends with gay people so please feel free to add me.
    girlyboy1987 girlyboy1987 26-30, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    hello, i'm not gay but i do enjoy being friends with gay people so please feel free to add me.
    girlyboy1987 girlyboy1987 26-30, M 4 hrs ago

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    My gf agreed to have sex with a close friend while I get off to it best night ever
    bKitKati bKitKati 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    I need friends Plz help :/
    IntellectualGuy13 IntellectualGuy13 13-15, M 38 mins ago

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    I fell in love with a friend (we'll call him 'Zach') 6 years ago. We met through a mutual best friend (we'll call her 'Lily'). Shortly before finding out this other chick (call her...
    Bethstar Bethstar 26-30, F Feb 3

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    I have had several people tell me - "I will not contact you first. If you want to be in my life, you will have to contact me." These people said this to all their "friends...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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