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I Am Not A Friend Collector

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 173 People

    Nahh

    Adding friends randomly makes me feel less important, because they just add me to have more friends. They don't want to talk or give feedback or whatever. If somebody adds me, I'll add them back. But the few people that I add first, I add because they gave insightful advice or...
    StrippedxPride487 StrippedxPride487 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 4, 2011

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    Must Be A Record

    I don't think I've ever added this many people in a week let alone a day . I just happened to get fanned by the right people today .
    certifiable certifiable 70+, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2013

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    I Love My Block Button

    Yes, I realize I have made posts about the things lacking in my love life. That, however, does not mean I have any interest what so ever in you or the sad and pathetic little attempt you want to try and make to somehow "fulfill" me. I am not going to exchange erotic emails or...
    PandoraAdore PandoraAdore 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2011

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    Small Groups

    I like small groups because they are more manageable.  I'm extremely busy and don't have time to catch up on everybody's every little thing.  I collect things not people so a friend collector is not my style.  For those that are, you can pass me by.  I'm not interested in...
    Sweetertnu Sweetertnu 41-45, F Dec 27, 2011

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    I'll be blunt about it: Amassing tens

    and hundreds of people never mattered to me in real life and it doesn't online. I question people who do that. Like, are you that insecure, that lonely you need so many people to form a cult of personality around you when you know good and well you will talk to maybe less than a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 30

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    Not A Friend Collector

    As everyone can see, I'm a solitaire, don't have anyone in my circle and this is the way I want it...later can be a different ball game, right now, being alone is the way I want it.  :)
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2011

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    Friends

    IT amazes me how many friends members have in their circle,some number in the thousands, many in the hundreds. How in the world can you be "friends" with so many people? What is the point here? I receive numerous mail notifing me of fans, i check their profiles and see they have...
    scubafever scubafever 46-50, M 8 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    I Take My Circle Seriously

    Although I said with this new profile I would do things a little different I will still not add people who have too many friends .My last profile I would add a person who had more than 150 friends but decided to be less strict this time but I just got a friend request from...
    Smackhead Smackhead 70+, F May 24, 2013

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    It's Fun But Unreal

    I was a "friend" collector when I first was on MySpace over 4 years ago but quickly realized many of them were anonymous fans of my blogs or just wanted to share/promote their music which is totally fine. Some of them write to me on occassion and I appreciate the personal touch...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2011

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    Friends Are Not For Collecting

    Friends are a rarity and the ones that come into my life are treasured. I won't add just anyone, and it's not because I am a snob, it's because i prefer to have something in common with those that fan me and those that I add to my circle. .I don't judge others if the choose to...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    I Am Not

    I am going to try and keep my circle manageable. I was on EP before and added too many people and it got crazy. This time will be different. I'm going to be careful about who I add and really I will delete people if there is no interaction at all over time.
    friendlynudist friendlynudist 36-40, F Sep 11, 2012

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    Pet Peeve

    I admit I have no love for the friend collectors and please don't tell me that you know anything unique about the 300-1200 people you've added for an audience. The term for you folks is attention hounds and you should really see about getting that fixed. Don't get me wrong, I...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M Oct 24, 2012

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    Getting To Know You . . .

    I tend to add a lot of people to my circle but not because I'm a 'collector', it's because having you in my circle is the best way to get to know you. If after several weeks we haven't had much interaction, I just remove. Sounds cruel but it means that after a while I end up with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    I Won't Add, Just For The Sake Of Adding

    I made that mistake a month or two ago. I added about 15 followers yet never talked to them. I kept getting followers, and adding yet I only spoke to about a quarter of them. In the span of a 2 weeks, I was up to about 80 people. I finally realized that yes, I shared a lot of...
    ImToolazyforaWittyUseName ImToolazyforaWittyUseName 31-35, M May 5, 2012

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    I would like for people to send a message

    before you add me as a friend or I will not except. I will not except a request from someone that has hundreds of friends. I clean my friends list regularly of people that I do not talk to. If you wish to friend me feel free to send me a message, I will most likely add you but...
    mcm99701 mcm99701 61-65, M Apr 9

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    Friends Are Not Friends

    I have seen EP members with a list of more than a 1,000 friends. I believe these are connections MAYBE with other members with a similar interest, but not actual friends. I really doubt they could tell you ten things about these so called friends.
    Jones47 Jones47 61-65, M Jan 14, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    You know, the ones that add you to their circle but never respond to your mails. It's like they think they will receive a special award for having the most "friends" come the end...
    travis43 travis43 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 13

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    ...If you want to talk to me, send me a message that contains more than two letters . I mean, really? two freaking letters? "Hi" might be a fine way to start a conversation with...
    PennySterling PennySterling 51-55, T 3 days ago

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    HellButterfly, you are the best friend I made here on EP so far. I shared some of my inner weirdness to you, please remain a friend forever :)
    T3chmupp3t T3chmupp3t 18-21, M 3 hrs ago

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    I'm looking for friends of any gender, sexuality, race, nationality and beliefs as long as they speak English and are 13-17
    xCaleb13 xCaleb13 13-15, M 4 hrs ago

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    I have had many friends in my life, some true and others not. However, I still feel that I would like to have that one good lifelong friend to laugh with about our great...
    queenruth queenruth 18-21, F Oct 2

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    I know ive said that i only had one person i can talk to and count on but the more i think about it, its not true. I want to have a friend, just a friend, not someone that wants...
    HojaCaida HojaCaida 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    I was really depressed last November to the point that I didn’t believe I was depressed and told my 2 best friends I was bipolar when I wasn’t. I also told one of them I was...
    em27soccer em27soccer 16-17, F Oct 7

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    2 and a half years ago I was dumped by a male friend, who I would consider the best friend I’ve ever had. We connected on every level and I had never emotionally been as close to...
    iwannaLIVE iwannaLIVE 22-25, F Oct 15

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    I am in my early 20's, recently graduated college and I am friendless. Unfortunately, this isn't something that just dawned on me now.. I have realized this for a while ...5 years...
    Mela22 Mela22 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 15

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    I am close friends with a whole bunch of people they are all different to me and all have different problems going on in their life that I haven't gone through. Two of my close...
    ScarM3 ScarM3 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    I don't get how people can be able to have hundreds of friends... Most of the people I know are somewhere between acquaintances and friends. And there is a smaller group that I...
    Roccondil Roccondil 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 1

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    I met my BF 7 yrs ago. During our friendship i noticed that her daughter was very demanding of her mother's time. Many people have found that it is really disrespectful to them...
    Dragonlady2 Dragonlady2 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 4

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    Preview I was 15 when I couldn’t handle it anymore, so I decided to go and talk to him. I told him it was great that they were such good friend, but that it was getting too much...
    mydailylifeasme mydailylifeasme 18-21, F Oct 5

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    I've noticed with most of the male "friends" I had wanted to be more than friends (only two weren't like this but one is gay, so that is obvious. Three if you count the one who was...
    ChanelLove12 ChanelLove12 70+, F 2 Responses Oct 7

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    Hey! I am so happy because I've finally got a friend! This is the first friend I have got down here that I think actually likes to talk to me and actually want to form a friendship...
    lacunatrip lacunatrip 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    When I was in high school I had been friends with everyone. There weren't any cliques, everyone knew everyone. But after I graduated, and everyone went away it was just me n' a few...
    LadyOfPuzzles LadyOfPuzzles 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    No promises. I could never find it in my heart to completely turn my back on someone who wants to be my friend. Once I know your do I try but if I don't think we can be friend...
    RandomDudeFriend RandomDudeFriend 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 10

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    I met my FF about five years ago through work, and now I consider her one of my best friends. I am happily married to a terrific woman, so felt no need to pursue a friendship with...
    regitca regitca 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 10

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    It has been a little over a month since our break up. Everyday is hard but everyday is getting easier. I was best friends with my ex before our relationship, and we decided we...
    Hohjo Hohjo 18-21, M Oct 12

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    This is Merle. I am Jennifer's now husband. have been about eight months now. I'm posting because I'm so damn pissed that I could shoot the freaking ***** who has caused my wife...
    IAMNUTSFORFREDDY IAMNUTSFORFREDDY 18-21, F Oct 13

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    I lost all my friends because of a relationship i was in. I was in this relationship for 8yrs and at the time, i thought he was the one but he wasn't. One of the problems we had...
    Navia55 Navia55 26-30, F Oct 13

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    Growing up I was always the social butterfly. My Dad always said I had a way of making people feel comfortable and at ease, which made it so at one point I had about 7,000 friends...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 15

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    I don't know what I did wrong in this life but I just can't stand my friends anymore most of whom I have known for over 5 years . I don't know why but I always end up alone and at...
    nanagirl95 nanagirl95 18-21, F Oct 15

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    This is a long story, let me warn you! Six years ago when I started college, I had literally zero friends as I hadn't attended high school due to social anxiety issues. I met so...
    icecreamjunk icecreamjunk 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I'm not sure if my best friend is still my best friend. 3 years ago I started to become really good friends with her at school because we had common interest and were basically the...
    rachel0817 rachel0817 16-17 1 Response 3 days ago

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    There was a girl I was friends with. I was 11 at the time. Let's call her friend A. A was bossy and controlling and I didn't want to be friends with her anymore. She could be mean...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 70+, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am best friends with my ex girlfriend. It was originally her idea to be friends after we broke up. And I liked that idea since it was her idea also to break up in the first place...
    Hohjo Hohjo 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    Two friends Once two friends argued, and one of them slapped another. This man felt a pain, but telling nothing and wrote on the sand: — Today my best friend slapped me. They...
    TheShalottLady TheShalottLady 61-65, F Sep 24

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    Am I really that naive? I don't let people in my life often because I'm shy but when I do those people tend to take advantage of me.my first real best friend I've known for 11...
    hiddenjem hiddenjem 22-25, F Sep 24

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    I have 2 best friends. I am glad that they're my best friends because they are awesome,funny,amazing, they give really good advice lol. I'm also glad they're my best friends...
    Zay15 Zay15 13-15, F Sep 27

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    I love my husband dearly, but I need a friend or two. You know...just somebody to talk to about anything...go to have coffee with or shop. I used to have that...but I made a bad...
    catsmeow59 catsmeow59 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    Since I was seven and first met my best and only friend,I had a crush on her. I didn't believe that's what it was when I was little,cause for YEARS my mom decided not to tell me...
    GorillazIsEpic GorillazIsEpic 31-35 1 Response Sep 28

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    Need advice... I started a very unexpected friendship with a teacher at my children's' school. It came completely out of nowhere; I didn't even see it coming. But it's light...
    ShouldntFeelEmpty ShouldntFeelEmpty 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 29