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I Am Not A Friend Collector

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    I Take My Circle Seriously

    Although I said with this new profile I would do things a little different I will still not add people who have too many friends .My last profile I would add a person who had more than 150 friends but decided to be less strict this time but I just got a friend request from...
    Smackhead Smackhead 70+, F May 24, 2013

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    Friends Are Not Friends

    I have seen EP members with a list of more than a 1,000 friends. I believe these are connections MAYBE with other members with a similar interest, but not actual friends. I really doubt they could tell you ten things about these so called friends.
    Jones47 Jones47 61-65, M Jan 14, 2013

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    I'll be blunt about it: Amassing tens

    and hundreds of people never mattered to me in real life and it doesn't online. I question people who do that. Like, are you that insecure, that lonely you need so many people to form a cult of personality around you when you know good and well you will talk to maybe less than a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 30

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    Friends Are Not For Collecting

    Friends are a rarity and the ones that come into my life are treasured. I won't add just anyone, and it's not because I am a snob, it's because i prefer to have something in common with those that fan me and those that I add to my circle. .I don't judge others if the choose to...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    Not A Friend Collector

    As everyone can see, I'm a solitaire, don't have anyone in my circle and this is the way I want it...later can be a different ball game, right now, being alone is the way I want it.  :)
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2011

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    It's Fun But Unreal

    I was a "friend" collector when I first was on MySpace over 4 years ago but quickly realized many of them were anonymous fans of my blogs or just wanted to share/promote their music which is totally fine. Some of them write to me on occassion and I appreciate the personal touch...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2011

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    Nahh

    Adding friends randomly makes me feel less important, because they just add me to have more friends. They don't want to talk or give feedback or whatever. If somebody adds me, I'll add them back. But the few people that I add first, I add because they gave insightful advice or...
    StrippedxPride487 StrippedxPride487 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 4, 2011

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    I Love My Block Button

    Yes, I realize I have made posts about the things lacking in my love life. That, however, does not mean I have any interest what so ever in you or the sad and pathetic little attempt you want to try and make to somehow "fulfill" me. I am not going to exchange erotic emails or...
    PandoraAdore PandoraAdore 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2011

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    I would like for people to send a message

    before you add me as a friend or I will not except. I will not except a request from someone that has hundreds of friends. I clean my friends list regularly of people that I do not talk to. If you wish to friend me feel free to send me a message, I will most likely add you but...
    mcm99701 mcm99701 61-65, M Apr 9

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    I Am Not

    I am going to try and keep my circle manageable. I was on EP before and added too many people and it got crazy. This time will be different. I'm going to be careful about who I add and really I will delete people if there is no interaction at all over time.
    friendlynudist friendlynudist 36-40, F Sep 11, 2012

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    Friends

    IT amazes me how many friends members have in their circle,some number in the thousands, many in the hundreds. How in the world can you be "friends" with so many people? What is the point here? I receive numerous mail notifing me of fans, i check their profiles and see they have...
    scubafever scubafever 46-50, M 8 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Getting To Know You . . .

    I tend to add a lot of people to my circle but not because I'm a 'collector', it's because having you in my circle is the best way to get to know you. If after several weeks we haven't had much interaction, I just remove. Sounds cruel but it means that after a while I end up with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    Small Groups

    I like small groups because they are more manageable.  I'm extremely busy and don't have time to catch up on everybody's every little thing.  I collect things not people so a friend collector is not my style.  For those that are, you can pass me by.  I'm not interested in...
    Sweetertnu Sweetertnu 41-45, F Dec 27, 2011

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    Pet Peeve

    I admit I have no love for the friend collectors and please don't tell me that you know anything unique about the 300-1200 people you've added for an audience. The term for you folks is attention hounds and you should really see about getting that fixed. Don't get me wrong, I...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M Oct 24, 2012

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    Must Be A Record

    I don't think I've ever added this many people in a week let alone a day . I just happened to get fanned by the right people today .
    certifiable certifiable 70+, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2013

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    I Won't Add, Just For The Sake Of Adding

    I made that mistake a month or two ago. I added about 15 followers yet never talked to them. I kept getting followers, and adding yet I only spoke to about a quarter of them. In the span of a 2 weeks, I was up to about 80 people. I finally realized that yes, I shared a lot of...
    ImToolazyforaWittyUseName ImToolazyforaWittyUseName 31-35, M May 5, 2012

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    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 2 Responses Aug 31

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    I had two girls bestfriends last year but imperetly they had been using me to help them at school so I started to make friends with boys but now everyone thinks I'm a ***** for...
    beata14 beata14 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    i'm sorry but i don't add friends if you want to talk or do you have any think to say just message me and ill answer back ..
    khaalleed khaalleed 26-30 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I have discovered that one could really make true, real friends here, online!! I am very excited and looking forward to build on this!!
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    I know there is another female out there...looking for someone like me...for friendship/lovers/roommates/& more:)
    sublimelife sublimelife 26-30, F 52 mins ago

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    Okay.. I'm willing to skype with those people who wants somebody to listen to them .. Or if you have any problem.. I'll be your friend:)
    Toffee23 Toffee23 22-25, F 36 mins ago

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    It's been a long time since my best friend and I had ended our friendship. She was the most caring person that I know and the most crazy of all. Everyday we chat, talk to each...
    Guin2ne1 Guin2ne1 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I've lived by this my whole live (close friends over many acquaintances), but I'm starting to wonder if I'd be happier with many fake friends? I mean, don't they seem happier? I've...
    Tory102 Tory102 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    My name is Gabriel. I shall start from my first friend. His name was Alex. Unlike the other kids in kinder he didn't judge me based on how I dressed or even on how I refused to let...
    GARLITH GARLITH 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 4

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    Definition of a best friend; The person you can't be mad at for even an hour because you have something important to tell them... Well if that important thing you need to tell her...
    stupidlyinlove stupidlyinlove 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I am in love with my best friend - it all started in junior year when I met my best friend, I met her thanks to her sister that I had met the previous year, my best friend's sister...
    Silverfang40 Silverfang40 18-21, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    'Listen' If a friend tells you their problem and you tell them don't feel bad or you just try to cheer him up it's like you're saying their feelings are wrong & to turn them...
    GBFrnz GBFrnz 46-50, F 4 days ago

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    When I was 8 in grade to I met a girl who was very annoying. Then one day she called me over for a play date (I regret asking her to be best friends) so I asked to be best friends...
    catlover031 catlover031 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    Friends for Life Hi everyone, I'm Spencer! Some people are able to keep the same friends for several decades while some just move on every couple years. I'm both ways. A...
    spencerhaber spencerhaber 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 23

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    So here's the deal. I've had guy friends only since as long as I can remember. Guy friends are easy... Making friendships with females has been difficult for me, but I don't know...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 24

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    There were some people I met in my life that if I knew now, I'd love to be around. I'm a different person. I want to engage. I wish I had maintained relationships with certain...
    shameinnoshame shameinnoshame 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    Disposable It's funny how you can mean the world to someone one minute and be nothing to them the next. Online friendships are new to me. I never did the chat room thing, and my...
    livelaughlovedream3 livelaughlovedream3 41-45, F 12 Responses Aug 27

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    Her cousin, after 3 years of battling leukemia, died the other day. Today was her wake, and I went to support my friend, because I knew that she and her cousin were close, and I...
    quietorloud quietorloud 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    I can't really say I'm in the friendzone with anybody at the moment. I think the whole notion of "friendzone" needs to be defined clearly. A lot of people seem to think that you...
    Tarik19 Tarik19 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 29

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    Had you ever have an unexpected friendship with someone? You weren't really on good or bad terms in the beginning, you two were just like wind gushing whenever you walk past each...
    switch357 switch357 18-21, F Aug 31

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    I had a "BFF" for 3 years. It all began when my friends constantly fought over stupid things. I became sick and tired of it, so I left the "group". (We are all friends still) I...
    KyokoXD KyokoXD 13-15, F Sep 1

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    In summer 2012, I moved to a new country with my family. I was looking forward to starting school and meeting new people. I was very social and not shy at all. First day of school...
    Meghan00 Meghan00 13-15, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    All I want is a true, proper friend. All my life I've had all this mean people around me and being treated like crap by so-called friends. I'm a really friendly, decent person and...
    ElviraGoth ElviraGoth 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    Friendship When I first joined EP almost 5 years ago, I friended everybody. I am pretty easy going, upbeat and easy to talk to. I had well over 3500 friends at one point. I was...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 14 Responses Sep 4

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    Okay, so probably a lot of people have some problems with friends. but maybe you can give me advice if you take the time out and read all this because it's gonna be a lot but i don...
    sarahellie9088 sarahellie9088 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Hi everyone. How are you? Good I hope. I found this site 2 days ago, and I really like how open people seem to be about the things that are going on in their lives...so I figured...
    JaseNZ JaseNZ 31-35, M Sep 14

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    My best friend, I've known her for about 13 yrs now and just this year she became so distant with me. It hurts. She went to a UC university and dorm there. About 2hrs away from L...
    janedoe9021 janedoe9021 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    The first thing you should know about me is that I am an outsider. Yes, I have friends. Yes, we hang out. Once a month. That's about it. Those are my friends. That's my social life...
    hunniebunney hunniebunney 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I've known my best friend, I guess I could call her Amber, from ever since kindergarten. She has been more than a best friend to me always, we've been like soul mates: I know...
    sunflowerheaven sunflowerheaven 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I went to eat at 1 church today for lunch. Later I went to another church I frequent on Saturday for dinner. My friend has been bad-mouthing someone she made up with, another lady...
    LovelyChris71 LovelyChris71 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    I have already talked about my friends mom before but there are so many stories that I have decided to post another. So after sniffing my friends mothers panties I wanted to go...
    YoYo2428 YoYo2428 18-21, M 22 hrs ago

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    Fake friends make me so freaking angry. I've had to deal with fake friends in the past and in this era, this one girl and I used to be so close but we drifted and now she's calling...
    SavedByBands SavedByBands 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    i had a best friend, then i had a frienemy and now i have an enemy. As i moved up to high school, my friends and i were put into different classes, forcing us to find new friends...
    aStarGirl aStarGirl 13-15, F Aug 26