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I Am Not A Friend Collector

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    I Am Not

    I am going to try and keep my circle manageable. I was on EP before and added too many people and it got crazy. This time will be different. I'm going to be careful about who I add and really I will delete people if there is no interaction at all over time.
    friendlynudist friendlynudist 36-40, F Sep 11, 2012

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    I don't understand people

    who treat others like a collection to their supposed popularity. If you don't value the people that you are surrounded by you are not friends. If you pretend to value them until someone else comes along that you perceive as better than you are not friends. Just treat others with...
    blackrabbit815 blackrabbit815 22-25, F Nov 23, 2014

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    Friends

    IT amazes me how many friends members have in their circle,some number in the thousands, many in the hundreds. How in the world can you be "friends" with so many people? What is the point here? I receive numerous mail notifing me of fans, i check their profiles and see they have...
    scubafever scubafever 46-50, M 7 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Getting To Know You . . .

    I tend to add a lot of people to my circle but not because I'm a 'collector', it's because having you in my circle is the best way to get to know you. If after several weeks we haven't had much interaction, I just remove. Sounds cruel but it means that after a while I end up with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 4, 2011

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    Small Groups

    I like small groups because they are more manageable.  I'm extremely busy and don't have time to catch up on everybody's every little thing.  I collect things not people so a friend collector is not my style.  For those that are, you can pass me by.  I'm not interested in...
    Sweetertnu Sweetertnu 41-45, F Dec 27, 2011

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    I Won't Add, Just For The Sake Of Adding

    I made that mistake a month or two ago. I added about 15 followers yet never talked to them. I kept getting followers, and adding yet I only spoke to about a quarter of them. In the span of a 2 weeks, I was up to about 80 people. I finally realized that yes, I shared a lot of...
    ImToolazyforaWittyUseName ImToolazyforaWittyUseName 31-35, M May 5, 2012

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    Pet Peeve

    I admit I have no love for the friend collectors and please don't tell me that you know anything unique about the 300-1200 people you've added for an audience. The term for you folks is attention hounds and you should really see about getting that fixed. Don't get me wrong, I...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M Oct 24, 2012

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    It's Fun But Unreal

    I was a "friend" collector when I first was on MySpace over 4 years ago but quickly realized many of them were anonymous fans of my blogs or just wanted to share/promote their music which is totally fine. Some of them write to me on occassion and I appreciate the personal touch...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 12, 2011

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    I Take My Circle Seriously

    Although I said with this new profile I would do things a little different I will still not add people who have too many friends .My last profile I would add a person who had more than 150 friends but decided to be less strict this time but I just got a friend request from...
    Smackhead Smackhead 70+, F May 24, 2013

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    Not A Friend Collector

    As everyone can see, I'm a solitaire, don't have anyone in my circle and this is the way I want it...later can be a different ball game, right now, being alone is the way I want it.  :)
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2011

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    I would like for people to send a message

    before you add me as a friend or I will not except. I will not except a request from someone that has hundreds of friends. I clean my friends list regularly of people that I do not talk to. If you wish to friend me feel free to send me a message, I will most likely add you but...
    mcm99701 mcm99701 61-65, M Apr 9, 2014

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    I Love My Block Button

    Yes, I realize I have made posts about the things lacking in my love life. That, however, does not mean I have any interest what so ever in you or the sad and pathetic little attempt you want to try and make to somehow "fulfill" me. I am not going to exchange erotic emails or...
    PandoraAdore PandoraAdore 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2011

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    I'll be blunt about it: Amassing tens

    and hundreds of people never mattered to me in real life and it doesn't online. I question people who do that. Like, are you that insecure, that lonely you need so many people to form a cult of personality around you when you know good and well you will talk to maybe less than a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 30, 2014

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    Must Be A Record

    I don't think I've ever added this many people in a week let alone a day . I just happened to get fanned by the right people today .
    certifiable certifiable 70+, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2013

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    Friends Are Not For Collecting

    Friends are a rarity and the ones that come into my life are treasured. I won't add just anyone, and it's not because I am a snob, it's because i prefer to have something in common with those that fan me and those that I add to my circle. .I don't judge others if the choose to...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2012

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    Nahh

    Adding friends randomly makes me feel less important, because they just add me to have more friends. They don't want to talk or give feedback or whatever. If somebody adds me, I'll add them back. But the few people that I add first, I add because they gave insightful advice or...
    StrippedxPride487 StrippedxPride487 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 4, 2011

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    Moreover, I am not a friend collector friend

    collector. If you have nothing on your profile but a bunch of likes and a bunch of friends and have not shared anything else about yourself, I'm not going to add you to my circle. Also, if you can't think of anything better to say to me in a message than 'Hi" or "You're cute...
    PennySterling PennySterling 51-55, T 3 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    Friends Are Not Friends

    I have seen EP members with a list of more than a 1,000 friends. I believe these are connections MAYBE with other members with a similar interest, but not actual friends. I really doubt they could tell you ten things about these so called friends.
    Jones47 Jones47 61-65, M Jan 14, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I really need some real friends doesn't matter how old are they doesn't matter where are they from doesn't matter if they were boys or girls, ugly or beautiful doesn't matter if...
    turki2550 turki2550 16-17, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    It's been a more than a year when this incident happened. I had a friend (she wasn't that close or anything, just in between an acquaintance to being a friend). She calls me...
    VVmommy VVmommy 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    I had some online friends( almost not anymore ) and almost zero offline friend . I will say since I use Internet . I have zero offline friend . I grow up at an Internet world .
    MrsHouhouland MrsHouhouland 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    Hey people, I am an Asian, a friendly girl who likes chatting and making friends. Just deliver me a message if you are interested in having a friend like me.
    noreennor noreennor 26-30, F 8 hrs ago

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    Looking for friends preferred female friends people who will actually meet and become friends
    Lonelywitthaman Lonelywitthaman 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I really find EP ,entertaining for the most part.The only thing is it's hard to keep friend's on here!I talk to people ,get to know them,then,they are gone without even saying...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 4 Responses 48 mins ago

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    I Looked at my journal from 6th grade and even back then all I wanted to do was make new friends.
    HumbleMe HumbleMe 18-21, M 10 hrs ago

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    I want to have a friend that I can count on. Seriously I just want someone that is the same age as me and are into things I'm into like kpop, korean fashion, tumblr and anime...
    Dollylike Dollylike 16-17, F 10 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    few days ago my dearest and nearst friend is ill therefor I need someone to talk with you
    albert352015 albert352015 26-30, M 7 hrs ago

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    I'm bored and I don't have xbox live anymore and I new some friends pm if u want
    dominick6 dominick6 13-15, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I'd like talk about life with someone. Where I live now, I don't have friends that I can be honest with.
    interference interference 36-40, M 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    When I used to date, one of the best parts was getting to know someone that's interesting. I miss it, since I've been married. My wife doesn't think there should be any emotions...
    interference interference 36-40, M 3 hrs ago

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    My friend loves me with all his heart and he gives me all emotional support that I need when I was very sick (for about a year). He is 7 years old younger than me. I never met...
    phoebesoo phoebesoo 26-30, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Though, treating your lover as a best friend only and forgetting the lover bit can be really aweful
    squiffels squiffels 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Yes, she's my wife. And how do I know she's the love of my life? Simple, cause in the same day I couldn't love her anymore than I fo, while at the same time periodically thinking...
    pittdaddy pittdaddy 36-40, M 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    After a harsh break up with a girl I thought I would have forever, I didn't know how I would ever get on with my life. My thoughts always wandered back to her in some way, but she...
    Palestra Palestra 16-17, M 1 hr ago

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    I want a friend. I want a friend who is a friend I want a friend who I can talk to. I want a friend who actually wants to get to know me I want a friend who listens I want a...
    HeySafaaJust HeySafaaJust 13-15, F Jan 6

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    True Friendship comes when you least expect it. Being a friend doesn't guarantee anything other than self-respect. I believe that people are hung up with the notion that people...
    CaptainRoberts CaptainRoberts 51-55, M Dec 27, 2014

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    I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now and I do love him I really really do but I am so confused. my boyfriend and I have been through hell and back mostly because of...
    purplegirl1991 purplegirl1991 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I'm a 16 year old girl and I have quite a long experience to tell. See, I have a whole world of imaginary friends-even best friends- and yes, some imaginary enemies, too. (Hey...
    ImaginaryBFF ImaginaryBFF 16-17, F Dec 28, 2014

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    Pretty much always have been, and it's only gotten stronger as I've gotten older and the friendships became deeper and more meaningful. I only have/want 1 or 2 friends at a time...
    skyhook2612 skyhook2612 18-21, F Jan 8

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    I hate those friends who only invite you to events that involve you giving money or a gift to them of some sort. Like, seriously. I know someone from an old job, who was always...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    I've lost quite a few close friends.. I had a girl that I first met in sixth grade. At first, her and I were enemies. We would argue, and we thought that she lied, but I decided to...
    RhinosaurusRex RhinosaurusRex 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I haven't had a girl best friend since I lost my 5 best friends gradually throughout middle school and high school. I lost the last one towards the end of 10th grade. I haven't had...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    I don't know why but it is so hard to find true female friends. I'd love to have BFFs (like in that movie, Bridesmaids) or someone I can confide in. The female friends I have - I...
    amc888 amc888 22-25, F Jan 17

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    In my case, it's not really a 'new' person. I've known this girl since primary school and for some reason I've never been able to establish, she's always disliked me. I've a very...
    AliasTaylor AliasTaylor 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    From the first day of school to January (now) I tried to befriend a girl who I was seemingly drawn to. She seemed intriguing, someone worth getting to know. It was the first time I...
    DarkOnTheInside13 DarkOnTheInside13 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    I don't hate his best friend. I am actually good friends with his best friend. He's the only friend that I don't mind at all. It's his other 5 friends that irritate me. I act like...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    I have TWO childhood friends and they have been my BEST FRIENDS all my life! The first is Chris (Christopher) who has been my best friend from the moment we were born. He was born...
    ChildOfHarmony ChildOfHarmony 16-17, F Dec 26, 2014

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