I Am Not a Social Butterfly

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 678 People

    … But I wish I could be.

    I am secretly jealous of extroverts.
    Lynessence Lynessence
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2015

    I really try to push myself to talk to people.

    Im bad with words, im weird, but I actually love talking to people! I am a great listener, and i've been told several times that I am funny. Feel free to have a conversation with me
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jul 14, 2015

    Can Totally Relate..

    I am totally NOT a socail butterfly... I do find a need a balance between going out w/ people..and having my alone time..3 hrs is my limit! lol It really IS nothign personal..its juts. ..i get drianed after a certain number of hrs around ppl... lookin forward to connecting w...
    tarotstar tarotstar
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 16, 2010

    I'm Not Good At Being Social

    I do fine behind the screen, but when I am out in the real world it's completely different. I am withdrawn and tense, I can't relax. My mind races I feel like I can't breathe and I am constantly worried that I will make a mistake. Then when I do make a mistake...
    college101 college101
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Dec 29, 2009

    Do. Not. Want.

    Alright bear with me while I vent for a second here, I HATE shallow people. Vanity, greed, arrogance and all those other things people think is 'cool' these days annoy me like nothing else. I know plenty of wonderful people, and then I see these self-absorbed self-centered...
    WolfieGirl3 WolfieGirl3
    13-15, F
    Oct 5, 2011

    I really am not. Even

    though I'm quite friendly, I'm so socially awkward that it's hard for me to make new friends... I wish I wasn't and could just be like others and make friends really quickly. .__.
    Madobsession Madobsession
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 26, 2015

    I don't have Facebook,

    Twitter, Instagram or what else everyone is doing. It's just a cyber space to keep up drama to me. I don't care about looking at people's status or liking pictures. Or inviting people to every aspect of my life. Everything is not for the world to see. It's like nobody respects...
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2015

    Quiet One

     Yeah, it may seem strange. But i dont relate to people well. I get really anixous when there is a large group of people around. It's like every single one of them is staring me down, and i freak because i think my outfit looks funny, or my hair is messed up...its always...
    chickwithglasses1 chickwithglasses1
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jun 15, 2010

    I go out daily just to come back at the end of

    the day to Google. I cannot tell how many self-help articles I've read. What I can tell is that I can never get it right. I cannot fix myself and I can never become the socialite I'd like to someday be. What I am is a misfit, lacking identity, missing precisely all circles...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 4, 2014

    Definitly Not A Social Butterfly

    I am very much a loner not that is a bad thing I like my solitary time but I dislike it too, because lonliness can get to the point that it drives you crazy, I am entering my 49th year of life and I would like to be a bit more out going and I have not even been on a decent date...
    photog1 photog1
    51-55, M
    1 Response Feb 13, 2012

    I Have Social Anxiety, And No One Understands.

    My parent's don't really get it, nor does many of my friends. I flip out internally with the simplest of tasks and over analyze everything I do. I just need someone to say that they understand and that it's gotten better.
    kitkatNYC kitkatNYC
    13-15
    Nov 13, 2012

    So many jobs requires you to talk to

    and meet people and I hate that... I want to be able to just shut off when I've had enough..
    lindamerja lindamerja
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    People might consider me a wallflower,

    loser, geek, nerd or even freak. Not my fault because social caterpillars aren't butterflies, we can't fly gracefully from person to person. We will just linger; unable to fly. However, we might just be ready to undergo change, ready for the cocoon. With time, we will probably...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 6, 2015

    Not Afraid Of Being Alone

    I like to spend time with myself, and am not afraid of being alone.  I like my silent time and need space sometimes, deep space.  That includes almost every morning as I need time to focus and get ready. I almost demand silence even though there are others in my...
    DeepForest DeepForest
    46-50
    3 Responses Dec 28, 2009

    Yesterday, at my brother's basketball game,

    I noticed a boy sitting on the bleachers. He was drawing what appeared to be a panoramic view of a city in his sketchbook. My mom noticed me looking and nudged me. "That's the boy I've been telling you about," she said. "I've talked to his mom, and you two are very similar. You...
    DrowningInRed DrowningInRed
    13-15
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    Not Social!!

    now i must say, im not like anti social or anything, but its just that no matter how hard i have tried, i just cant understand the appeal of being sociable!! i prefer to be the quiet introverted person i was born to be!!! lol
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2011

    I have like 2-3 people whom I can call friends.

    I am shy at school. I try my best to talk with people but can only do so virtually. I suck at talking in real life.
    dzzlr dzzlr
    16-17, M
    1 Response Jul 15, 2015

    I'm The Wall

    I'm definitely not a social butterfly.I can be the wall if you want. I'll even volunteer for it. But social butterfly? My stomach is turning already.
    mareliberum mareliberum
    26-30
    Jan 23, 2013

    Maybe I need to change myself..

    Even when I get over self esteem issues that may be holding me back, or even when I get really close to someone and we've been friends forever. I still get confused and have trouble talking to them sometimes. I cause so much trouble just, because, well I don't know...
    imustbecrazy imustbecrazy
    18-21
    6 Responses Feb 15, 2010

    Born This Way?

    I am definitely not a social butterfly and never have been even when I was a little girl. I was always the shy, quiet smart person and immersed myself in something else. I tried to be social but it just drains me for some reason, maybe I am too sensitive and people suck my...
    kazzrie kazzrie
    41-45, F
    Jul 18, 2012

    Never Was

    I never has many friends.  In school I was labeled The Quiet, Smart Girl.  They didn't know what to think of me.  I get along well with others, but I am too shy to initiate conversation.  All my friends I ever had used me, so I am scared to make new friends in...
    BBUDS BBUDS
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

    I hate not having many friendships outside of

    work. At work I can focus on my job and virtually everyone likes me. I have quiet a few people I would call my friends and even the people I manage over say they enjoy working with me the most. But it turns into an akward tight rope between social interaction and professionalism...
    jsuggs1217 jsuggs1217
    22-25, M
    Jul 15, 2015

    I Panic ... I Need Some Advice

    I am aware of it and need to do something about it, recently I've been going to university which is hard for me sometimes interacting with others and I blackout during a conversation, I really don't feel like apologizing every time I mess up but everybody can tell how nerves I...
    OoLunaoO OoLunaoO
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 19, 2011
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