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I Am Not Close With My Father

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    The thing is: About 12 years ago,

    I reached the first grade. My mom was currently leaving away doing her second residence and my dad and I lived with her parents. My dad was under a lot of stress because the hospital he worked at was like an hour away, and living with someone like my grandmother, immersed into...
    Gorstone36 Gorstone36 18-21, M Jan 25

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    Used To Be

    My dad and I have been really close from the day I was born. He saved me from a very bad situation in which my mother was abusing me (mostly verbal). However in the last couple years he has dragged me and my whole family back into a very similar (almost identical) situation. I'm...
    BandNerdLife BandNerdLife 13-15, F Jan 31, 2013

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    A Wall In Between Us

    In many ways I am just like my father. We share the same dry sense of humor, the same little quirks, the same taste in food, the temper. I was even born on his birthday. Unfortunately I was my father's first child, the unplanned child with the wrong woman, the daughter that...
    libraneyes libraneyes 18-21 Aug 24, 2013

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    I Am Not Close With My Father Well I

    guess the best place to start on this one is from the start. I was born less then seven months. Need to stay in one of them OX boxs. For a few months to finish cooking. Well it was about 6 day after I was born. My dad was watching me at the hospital. Got in to a fight of some...
    chat68chat chat68chat 31-35, M Jan 15

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    Just had a heart to heart with my father.

    Got to say some things that were quite hard. We shall deal with tha fall out tomorrow. I hate crying :(
    hayzkid hayzkid 13-15, F Apr 3

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    The Old Grey Beard

    Recently, a woman whom I am not related to called me daddy. Quite a shocking experience that I attributed to my gray beard.  This comment immediately brought my father to mind.  I remembered him sitting in his red easy chair, reading his paper. He didn't have a beard but a...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Another Chance

    yesterday i tried to give my dad another chance he blew it..the whole time i was there he kept thretening me and my friend. and the sad thimg is we weren't even gone for an hour ... because of this i almost started cutting again.i have been clean for almost two weeks now... wish...
    JeSt0099 JeSt0099 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 10, 2013

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    He Left Before I Was Born For Drugs

    well before i was even born my dad left me and never talked to me or anything but i always had a step dad he was ok but i dont really talk to him anymore and well i meet my real dad once i didnt like him at all i hope i never meet him again
    foreveralone14 foreveralone14 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 5, 2011

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    My Dad And Me

    Ever since I was a boy I loved and admired my dad. I wanted to be just like him: strong, confident, able to handle himself and deal with any situation. At times I was intimidated by him as well, especially if I misbehaved and made him angry. He could seem very threatening at...
    CosmoLang CosmoLang 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 3, 2011

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    On Father'S Day... No.

    I wish I could say I wish my dad a Happy Father's Day. The fact is, I don't, won't and haven't for nearly two decades. My father was an extremely lazy human being. He still is, but he's retired now, so it doesn't hurt anyone. I come from a family with five kids, and due to my...
    CakeEater57 CakeEater57 51-55, F Jun 15, 2013

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    My dad, he's.. got his other family to worry

    about and I love my mom so much. I'm not close with him but then again I don't put any effort in trying. It's just not that big a deal to me. Makes me feel guilty sometimes.
    mahnouls mahnouls 16-17 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It Also Makes Me Sick

    that to this day, Martin still manipulates me and intimidates me. It nauseates me knowing that he still is such a control freak and he still manages to have a lot power over me, one way or another. I hate to say this, but I am a still a coward when it comes to these this. If I...
    MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F Oct 2, 2009

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    My Father

    My father actually left when I was4. He has a new wife and at least 2 kids with her. I grew up with his parents and he hasn't talked to any of us since then except when he was filing to not pay child support anymore.
    Sghetti Sghetti 22-25, F Oct 9, 2009

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    I don't think I can show much forgiveness.

    My old man has torn our family apart. He was never really there for me and my sister. Not even my ma. It happened back in 2002. My ma caught him cheating on her with this chick he picked up at the bar. She felt devestated. Started giving him the silent treatment and ignored him...
    DudeOnAHorse DudeOnAHorse 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 24

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    Daddy's Little Girl

    Growing up Mom and Dad fought, a lot. And every time they got into it (that I can remember) I blamed myself. Something I still do to this day. My father was one of those men that were never ready to be a father. He lost his first daughter Renee when her mother kidnapped her. We...
    AngelofStone AngelofStone 22-25, F Apr 16, 2010

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    Martin -

    that's my father's name, has always been terrible at parenting. I often wonder why he even bothered to get married, let alone have a family. I understand that parents are not perfect and they make mistakes too, but they always have this excuse that they had a bad relationship...
    MySweetLord MySweetLord 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2009

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    Fool Me Twice

    Caution: This is a rant, and may not make sense to any reader.To this day I'm not sure why it went through my head to contact him. On social networking of all things in 2010. Sheer desperation more than anything else I suppose. From meeting in secret at a pool tournament, to the...
    TheStarSinger TheStarSinger 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2013

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    19 years ago I asked

    for your help, the first time in my life, and you wouldn't help. It's not that you didn't want too, it was because my mom told you not too. How you were able to take her side over mine is beyond me, but now things have changed. My mom is gone and here i am. The hardest thing I...
    Willowtree78 Willowtree78 31-35, F Mar 6

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    ...showing Me How To Be A Man...

    My father is a marine who was in Vietnam... Throughout my childhood, I thought dads did not hug their children, or tell anyone they loved them... First time I saw my friends dad hug him and say those three words, I was baffled... That wasnt very "...
    SuicideSilent SuicideSilent 18-21, M Dec 6, 2009

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    Does it make you a bad person

    if you can't feel sympathy for someone? I did though, but I guess I have just given up...Last year, my father was diagnosed with Afib or this heart rhythm disorder. Well, being the stubborn and gluttonous person he is. He did not even try to change his diet or lifestyle for that...
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Untitled

    I was at 3rd grade when I started questioning my 'existence'(why am I here and so on). Well this was the time when i started being curious of 'cutting' (that made me attempt suicide at this age w/out anyone else knowing) My father works out of the country and mostly just comes...
    Chryxenna2 Chryxenna2 22-25, F Sep 28, 2013

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    I Kinda Wish I Was Though

    I'm not sure when we started to grow apart. There have been a number of confrontations between us over the years for a lot of reasons. When I think about the relationship we have it bothers me that we aren't closer. And I think the worst part of it is that I don't know if my...
    wordsmith85 wordsmith85 22-25, M 4 Responses Oct 22, 2009

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    My Father Molested Me For 9 Years

    Last year, 2 days before New Years, was the last time my father molested me. I don't live with him, but I did visit him every school break that I got. I first met him when I was 6. When I went to visit him, he'd be very nice and courteous. We'd do everything that I wanted to do...
    Biorayzz Biorayzz 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Would You Know Me, If I Saw You?

    I never remember my father. It was always my mom, and my uncle jorge and aunt hope as my family. Hope and jorge soon had a beautiful baby girl, her name was leah. Hope would pick me up from school with leah. I would tell everyone at school that leah was my beautiful and amazing...
    XtapoutX XtapoutX 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 4, 2013

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    It Made Me Felt Sad Sometimes

    I don't really talk to my father. I don't really know what to say to him. He is almost never home because of work anyway. When I think about my father, I feel like crying because he was never there for me. When I was a little girl, I remembered my father brought me with him to...
    amethyst91 amethyst91 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2010

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    If i would ever define him to someone,

    I will always start by saying that he is a man who fears risks bu knows how to place his principles. When i was 4 years old and sick, my father decided to leave the country in order to work in spain, where he could make more money than he made in his home country, in order to...
    Andrei2090 Andrei2090 18-21, M a week ago

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    A Father, But Not A Dad.

    My sister and I had been molested by my father. It's taken me a long time to accept the fact that it happened. Especially being a guy and bipolar. I'm also gay which made me question my sexuality a bit more. Anyways, it started when I was like 11 and ended at 14. My mom took me...
    robetech robetech 26-30, M Jul 19, 2013

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    Three Little Stories

    Dad and Me and Grandad The Swimming Lesson ‘No, please, stop.’ I struggled in his arms. He held me tighter by the waist and legs. Rough palms, tight grip. Through my tears I could see...
    BeththeButterfly BeththeButterfly 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    My Dad Doesn't Know Me.

    I feel like my dads not interested in me,he doesn't make any attempt to talk to me. We had a decorator painting our house the other day and when i came home from college, he asked 'how my day was?' i thought it was weird since my own dad has never asked me that question before...
    lozza14 lozza14 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    I Just Don't Know Him

    I used to be close to my dad. But then he quit taking his medicine like he needed to, drank while taking his medicine when my mom told him he couldn't do that, and he and my mom got divorced when I was 4. I visited him on the weekends, but then he just faded out of my life when I...
    caitiebug1119 caitiebug1119 18-21, F Jul 9, 2013

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    Resentment

    All the built up resentment manifested in my teenage years & only now have i been able to reflect & utter i love you to the s.p.e.r.m who contributed to my existence.. My father is a great man , don't get me wrong. But for the longest time I blamed him for my bad experiences as a...
    lovewcaution143 lovewcaution143 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2013

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    I grew up with both parents till 13 then my

    parents split. My dad was close with me till I grew up a bit then he started working more and more till I just got really close with my mom. When they split my dad was awful to me and my mom and still continues to be selfish and we still have not moved past a hello and quick...
    lovelylasscan lovelylasscan 18-21, F Feb 11

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    What Am I Supposed To Do??

    Ok, this is kind of a long story so here it goes. A while ago, maybe a year, my dad was close to me, but I didn't really want to be close to him. He would talk to me all the time, and tell me about his day, etc. and I would always respond, but in my mind I always wanted him to...
    JTN1993 JTN1993 13-15, M Aug 20, 2013

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    Material Girl

    I always see my dad but we rarely have a connection because he is often focused on his own world and mine. Just yesterday, I asked him to buy me a microphone he offer me to buy a karaoke set but I quickly deny it because I know we not always use it in other words...
    Dumstey Dumstey 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 29, 2010

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    Making Our Own Family Connections

    I never had much of a family or was stable enough when I was younger to maintain healthy relationships however over time I have been part of Hugssociety and learned not only how to maintain and keep friendships alive but make a family that I could support and who I could accept...
    Hugsdirector Hugsdirector 36-40, F Nov 4, 2013

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    Dredged Up.

    This really bothers me on a tremendously deep level. I just had to dredge this up in one of my Psychology classes tonight and couldn't really go into detail there. I've written here, probably many times, about my rocky relationship with my father. Well, even in all of these...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    To say I'm not close to my father is an

    understatement I hate him and he knows it In fact I'm closer to my step dad than my real dad
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M Apr 3

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    Love Hate Relationship

    My father has been in and out of my life for as long I can remember. I don't remember what it was like when my parents were together from when I was born until I was five. I don't remember what it was like when my father kidnapped me for an entire day because he got into it with...
    philosophicmyth philosophicmyth 26-30, F Sep 24, 2010

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    Why?

    Paul, Do you understand what you really did? Not just to our family…but to each of us individually? You won’t admit it…I know you won’t…you emotionally, mentally, and physically abused my sister and me. It was mostly me. Why did you? What did we do? What did your...
    yamihirugashi yamihirugashi 22-25, F Mar 6, 2011

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    To start off with, my nan died a year ago of

    cancer. Nobody even told me she had cancer. My dad didn't talk to me once about her and he still hasn't mentioned her to this day. I excused it as it probably isn't easy for him to talk about. After years of wanting to see my father I was finally able to start seeing him again...
    emmysauraus emmysauraus 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Dear Dad

    Dear Dad,  I can't help but get this feeling that I am burdening you.......however if that be the case..then that is fine..I don't mind to let you be...Calling you "dad" has never been easy for me to say anyway...always felt like I was saying something foreign.I just wish...
    decembertillmarch decembertillmarch 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    My father walked out of my life

    when I was 13. He had a drinking problem and would fight with my mother all the time. One day I came home from school with my baby sis and all of his stuff was gone. He sent us Christmas presents that year but I haven't seen him in years now. My mother said he remarried and...
    courtneyblue courtneyblue 18-21, F Mar 26

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    I Am Not Close With My Dad...

    I think it all began when I was just four years old. My Dad accidentally broke my leg. He claims it was just an accident, because I wasn't doing what I was told. It was one winter night, when my parents were going out to visit their friends. I didn't want to come in to the house...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Jun 11, 2013

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    Nor Do I Want To Be.

    Another rant about my ******* of a father. I don't even know why I call him my dad. Like Jesus Christ. The last time I remember actually liking him when I was 7, and naive. He's a terrible person. Like ****. I wish he would just leave my family already. I don't care about him...
    123IMissYou321 123IMissYou321 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    I Have Never Met My Real Father

    i have never met my real dad, must've decided i wasn't worth staying around for so he split. When i was a kid i screamed hi daddy! in the middle of the mall and he just ran, and after 14 years he finally decided to give me his address so i could get in touch with him. It's been...
    irishlady98 irishlady98 13-15, F Sep 6, 2013

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    I Think About It All The Time

    There are nights where I think about how our relationship would be if things were different If we could laugh if we could joke around if we could cry together and share our deepest thoughts, If I could tell you my secrets and you could tell me yours if you could hold me when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 7, 2011

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    My father is the cruelest human being i know

    and the worst role model. He abuses my entire family, but my mum won't divorce him. Often, I have thought about ending my life because of the abuse I have endured. I dont know what to do.
    NatPechanats NatPechanats 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My mother would tell me how excited you were to

    have a son, your first and only child. I remember how much I'd praise you and view you as the most important man in the world. How I hungered for your approval. "Good job son, I'm proud of you" that's all I wanted to hear. Of course I could never live up to your expectations...
    LostAlien LostAlien 18-21, M Jan 20

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    I've Tried For Years............

         A "Daddy's Girl", I'll never be. I'm not sure why but it seems my father just doesn't know how to be a father. At least not to me. He's a great uncle, brother, but father seems to confuse him to no end. I use to think if I was just smart enough, thin enough, pretty...
    WynsHeart WynsHeart 36-40, F 3 Responses May 25, 2011

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    I was "gifted" to a widow from Western

    Sahara[in Africa] as a little tiny baby since my mother couldn't look after a weak helpless baby AND work for 12 hours a night&6 days a week to take care of my big sister&brother who were already going to school. This woman had me speaking her 1st language Berber and calling...
    OmmisLove OmmisLove 13-15, F Feb 4

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    I always put clothes in the Closet. The majority of my clothes are hanged up in the closet with the exception of my laying around the house clothes, and my lingerie, but for the...
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    I love being held close with an e**ction pressed against me. I love the smell of a man. I love him gripping me from behind, whispering sweet nothings in my ear. I love how he...
    Thorbulous Thorbulous 16-17, F Apr 9

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    ugh. I wish! Lol looking forward to be close with "some" or more people in here. Don't be pervs or rude though
    lovelycee lovelycee 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 27

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