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I Am Not Close With My Father

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    My father and I have had a very.

    . Turbulent relationship. In the end it just comes out to I'm too forgiving of the **** he does. Recently he just got out of prison and with my mother and nana no longer being alive and my favorite and most supportive sister leaving the state, I'm very conflicted. Honestly he's...
    Kimi0 Kimi0 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I used to be, but everything just went downhill

    and I don't really see him often. Last time I saw him was on my birthday for a couple of minutes, and that was towards the end of April. And last I talked to him was the beginning of May. He doesn't even try to get a hold of me. I don't really see him like I used to. He doesn't...
    Kayla429 Kayla429 13-15, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    My first EP question.

    How do you deal with a father who hates you because he's jealous of you? How can you be jealous of your own child? Why can't he be proud of me ? I'm over it now I guess but I want to know if I'm the only one who has to deal with this.
    blackjack1808 blackjack1808 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 2

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    He doesn't realize how much he scares me.

    .. He doesn't realize how much his words hurt, how much I care about and remember everything he says... as well as everything he doesn't say. The best compliment I've ever got from him is "not bad". The worst insult... "irresponsible". "ungrateful". "pathetic". He gets angry at...
    TryingMyBestToSmile TryingMyBestToSmile 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2014

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    He was never really in my life

    and now that we live closer to each other, whenever we hang out it's incredibly awkward. We don't really say much. I try to ask him questions about what's going on in his life or he'll ask me some. But it's always the same questions. The same things we do. The same short...
    lookingtovent lookingtovent 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    I am not close with my dad.

    I don't really ever speak to him unless something is needed. I don't know why. Although sometimes I figure out why. My dad doesn't know how to say sorry. He only says sorry through food and buying us things we want. He also makes my mom pay all the bills in the house. And when I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've Tried For Years............

         A "Daddy's Girl", I'll never be. I'm not sure why but it seems my father just doesn't know how to be a father. At least not to me. He's a great uncle, brother, but father seems to confuse him to no end. I use to think if I was just smart enough, thin enough, pretty...
    WynsHeart WynsHeart 36-40, F 3 Responses May 25, 2011

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    I am almost twenty-three years old

    and the first time I saw my biological father was when I was in the sixth grade and that was for ten minutes. After that time I did not see him or speak to him or his side of the family again until after my high school graduation (A family member had to find him in another state...
    Nichole1992 Nichole1992 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I've dealt with daddy issues,

    I've dealt with being totally obsessed with a man who didn't ever love me, I dealt with trying to prove I was worth his love, I've dealt with all that I know still I had problems in my life that I couldn't deal with because of him...now he has no affect on me..it took a long...
    raggedeagle raggedeagle 31-35, F Jul 15

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    Three Little Stories

    Dad and Me and Grandad The Swimming Lesson ‘No, please, stop.’ I struggled in his arms. He held me tighter by the waist and legs. Rough palms, tight grip. Through my tears I could see...
    BeththeButterfly BeththeButterfly 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    My father passed away about 12 years ago,

    so this is reflective. My first real story on here and I am pretty sure that very few will read it, so not writing to impress or entertain. You should probably stop reading. For me this is an experiment to see if writing things that are partially public, although anonymous...
    runningsage runningsage 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I have never been terribly close with my father,

    though it probably doesn't help that even my earliest memories I have are bad ones. When I was very very young, maybe three, my parents had a big fight causing them to separate temporary, I chose to stay with my father who went to live with my aunt during this separation. For...
    DemonFeyLove DemonFeyLove 18-21, F Sep 4, 2014

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    (Sigh) Where do I even begin.

    ..............well I'm just a little confused about my dad? sometimes I don't even know if he cares about me, he always has this mean look to his face, he never expresses himself towards me, we lack in communication, we barely even talk it has always been like that, wish he was...
    KidSantana KidSantana 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 7

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    my father and I had a good relationship

    until my freshman year of high school. he became emotionally and verbally abusive. There is no way that I can cut ties and it affects me everyday. He talks to me as if I'm an object, not a human being.
    aacbluey aacbluey 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Sometimes I don't feel like he loves me.

    -_- I know i shouldn't be complaining as he does a lot for me. He is a busy man. I am his spoiled daughter, at least thats what people imply. He gives me $1500 a month, credit cards, a car, a house, a job, full college tuition, etc. But I would appreciate it if he just spent...
    JessieTheGreekGoddess JessieTheGreekGoddess 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14, 2014

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    My dad was In the military

    until I was 3, my parents separated when i was 4 and divorced when I was 5. Once the divorced happened I did live with my father but stayed in my room. I hate my father for tearing me away from my mom. I grew up with guys in the house I didn't have a female to teach me anything...
    Backwoodsbeautyqueen Backwoodsbeautyqueen 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    ever since I was little i HATED smoking!

    I made my dad stop smoking, then about 6 years ago my dad's best friend died.. he started smoking, behind our backs again. it's been 6 years of him smoking behind our backs. I hate my dad.
    lilcharlotte lilcharlotte 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 9, 2014

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    I still love my dad eventho we're not close.

    Because without him, I won't be here.
    TikaTikaTika TikaTikaTika 18-21, F May 5

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    I'm not close with my father.

    I don't willingly talk to my father. I don't love my father.
    PendulEmPlum PendulEmPlum 18-21, F 1 Response May 4

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    I have one fond memory of my father.

    One evening when I was very young I acted like I was deep in sleep when my father came to wake me up so we could go home after a trip to my grandmothers house. After many attempts to wake me up, he picked me up in his arms and carried me home. My heavy head tucked safely in the...
    carminedesert carminedesert 18-21, F Jul 3

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    I was daddy's little girl

    but I feel like I'm not anymore. He says I'm not who I used to be, he says I turned weak, dumb, and fat once I went to college. He wants to change the way I am. I feel like he's embarrassed because of me. I have lost weight since I got here but he still says I'm fat. I have...
    garcia9 garcia9 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Why?

    Paul, Do you understand what you really did? Not just to our family…but to each of us individually? You won’t admit it…I know you won’t…you emotionally, mentally, and physically abused my sister and me. It was mostly me. Why did you? What did we do? What did your...
    yamihirugashi yamihirugashi 22-25, F Mar 6, 2011

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    The Old Grey Beard

    Recently, a woman whom I am not related to called me daddy. Quite a shocking experience that I attributed to my gray beard.  This comment immediately brought my father to mind.  I remembered him sitting in his red easy chair, reading his paper. He didn't have a beard but a...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    left me when I was 6 months old

    and I only talk to him once a year for court standards
    62katrina 62katrina 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's like a curse on my father's side.

    My dad told me how my grandpa didn't get along with his dad, and I found out how my dad didn't get along with my grandpa a few years ago. Now, I don't get along with my dad. We have no common interests.
    MarioT96 MarioT96 18-21, M Feb 20

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    I need to say this: he is a good man.

    However, he made many choices in his life that created this distance between us. He worked really hard and provided to us , 6 children . He taught me how to have a work ethic. Circumstances and distance separated us. Besides, there was a generational and educational gap that...
    breathingeasy breathingeasy 41-45, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    My dad just told me he's proud of me.

    He's never done that before ever. "I'm proud you're my son. Me and my dad are close but we never say 'I love you' it just doesn't happen. I'm happy to know I can tell you I love you when I have the chance. I know you're gonna make a lot of people happy in your life." We've...
    SkollHati SkollHati 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 25

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    Today is extremely painful"fathers day" I was

    raised without a father, a few of my moms in between boyfriends, but not close to father figures. My dad finally found me when I just turned 18(probably avoiding child support) my mom never spoke bad of my father, but stressed how hurt I would be meeting him. So I met him at 18...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    Yes, as a father it is your obligation to

    provide us the brighter future thru sending us to a prestige school. When it comes with financial matters, I never questioned you because you definitely gave us the things we need and even what we want. But on contrary, I never felt like you've really gave the best for us. You...
    imerosiie imerosiie 18-21, F Aug 18, 2014

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    The thing is: About 12 years ago,

    I reached the first grade. My mom was currently leaving away doing her second residence and my dad and I lived with her parents. My dad was under a lot of stress because the hospital he worked at was like an hour away, and living with someone like my grandmother, immersed into...
    Gorstone36 Gorstone36 18-21, M Jan 25, 2014

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    my father died when I was younger

    so I never had the chance to get close with him. my step dad, who has been apart of my life far a long time, has never been close to me either. he has problems with addiction(drugs,gambling, alcohol) and it was incredibly bad when I was younger. he would constantly scream...
    nicolieflowergirlie nicolieflowergirlie 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I haven't seen my Father in 10 years.

    I found out today that he is flying over from the other side of the world to the UK (me) and wants to meet up. My step mother and two brothers (one of which I have yet to meet) are coming too. Is it normal for me to feel nervous?
    PikaRoarrk PikaRoarrk 18-21, F Jun 9

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    I Think About It All The Time

    There are nights where I think about how our relationship would be if things were different If we could laugh if we could joke around if we could cry together and share our deepest thoughts, If I could tell you my secrets and you could tell me yours if you could hold me when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 7, 2011

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    I wish I didn't feel this way,

    but I feel only bitterness,and hatred toward my father.
    Nate2488 Nate2488 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 10

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    I was close to my dad.

    ... but one day I found my momcon Facebook and I never seen my mom for 16 years so I wanted to see her and I was talking to her and my dad found out and he got mad and broke my phone.... then we with to court cuz I wanted to see my mom and she got custody of me and he moved to...
    jojorigal jojorigal 16-17 3 days ago

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    whatonmars whatonmars 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    and I'm not really sad about that.

    I mean he left since I was 7 years old and I had to live all those years without a father and now he wants to be back in my life, **** him! I'm glad he's gone and I'm sad he's back. I wish he go and never come back
    20ShadesOfMe 20ShadesOfMe 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    I was "gifted" to a widow from Western

    Sahara[in Africa] as a little tiny baby since my mother couldn't look after a weak helpless baby AND work for 12 hours a night&6 days a week to take care of my big sister&brother who were already going to school. This woman had me speaking her 1st language Berber and calling...
    OmmisLove OmmisLove 16-17, F Feb 4, 2014

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    There has always been something missing,

    it took me a long time to figure out that it was him, not me.
    TheFrozenSun TheFrozenSun 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I dislike my biological father.

    My mum admires his family and always puts effort into calling them and talking to them. She doesn't talk to him but she talks to his cousins and she made me talk to them on the internet even though I didn't know them. In the past , back in our home country when I was 3 years...
    T055 T055 16-17, F Dec 31, 2014

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    I wish if i could be close with him,

    we live at the same house, yet he is very cold towards us, he rarely smiles at us.... I really do not know much about him, what his likes and dislikes...etc heh..
    crazytank crazytank 26-30, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    My father and I were close

    as ever until he dropped the bomb that he started talking to his other daughter again. I didn't mind it until I decided to go on Instagram and look at her since it's been 8 years since I've seen her. I saw a photo where she posted saying that my dad was "never there". Which I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 10, 2014

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    Not close is a massive understatement,

    I've never seen or heard from him my entire life and I hate it, all I want is to just meet him once that's all I want :(
    xxSatansDemonxx xxSatansDemonxx 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    And I distance myself from him.

    That's for the best. I fear I might explode one day and regret.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    Hell no. **** that man.

    I can't stand him. 3 more years , I'm kicking him out of my life completely.
    alyssabay alyssabay 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2014

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    I was never really close to my father.

    My parents got divorced when I was 4. He was a stay at home dad and didn't want to get a job, so my mom worked to jobs. He was an alcoholic. He had physically abused my mother. I was too young to remember it. We would see him every other weekend. My mom would drop me and my...
    EvoKinevil EvoKinevil 26-30, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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