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I Am Not Close With My Father

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    To start off with, my nan died a year ago of

    cancer. Nobody even told me she had cancer. My dad didn't talk to me once about her and he still hasn't mentioned her to this day. I excused it as it probably isn't easy for him to talk about. After years of wanting to see my father I was finally able to start seeing him again...
    emmysauraus emmysauraus 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Just had a heart to heart with my father.

    Got to say some things that were quite hard. We shall deal with tha fall out tomorrow. I hate crying :(
    hayzkid hayzkid 13-15, F Apr 3

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    ...showing Me How To Be A Man...

    My father is a marine who was in Vietnam... Throughout my childhood, I thought dads did not hug their children, or tell anyone they loved them... First time I saw my friends dad hug him and say those three words, I was baffled... That wasnt very "...
    SuicideSilent SuicideSilent 18-21, M Dec 6, 2009

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    Does it make you a bad person

    if you can't feel sympathy for someone? I did though, but I guess I have just given up...Last year, my father was diagnosed with Afib or this heart rhythm disorder. Well, being the stubborn and gluttonous person he is. He did not even try to change his diet or lifestyle for that...
    hopelessaddict hopelessaddict 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    My Father Molested Me For 9 Years

    Last year, 2 days before New Years, was the last time my father molested me. I don't live with him, but I did visit him every school break that I got. I first met him when I was 6. When I went to visit him, he'd be very nice and courteous. We'd do everything that I wanted to do...
    Biorayzz Biorayzz 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    I Kinda Wish I Was Though

    I'm not sure when we started to grow apart. There have been a number of confrontations between us over the years for a lot of reasons. When I think about the relationship we have it bothers me that we aren't closer. And I think the worst part of it is that I don't know if my...
    wordsmith85 wordsmith85 22-25, M 4 Responses Oct 22, 2009

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    Daddy's Little Girl

    Growing up Mom and Dad fought, a lot. And every time they got into it (that I can remember) I blamed myself. Something I still do to this day. My father was one of those men that were never ready to be a father. He lost his first daughter Renee when her mother kidnapped her. We...
    AngelofStone AngelofStone 22-25, F Apr 16, 2010

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    Dear Dad

    Dear Dad,  I can't help but get this feeling that I am burdening you.......however if that be the case..then that is fine..I don't mind to let you be...Calling you "dad" has never been easy for me to say anyway...always felt like I was saying something foreign.I just wish...
    decembertillmarch decembertillmarch 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    My dad, he's.. got his other family to worry

    about and I love my mom so much. I'm not close with him but then again I don't put any effort in trying. It's just not that big a deal to me. Makes me feel guilty sometimes.
    mahnouls mahnouls 16-17 1 Response Apr 13

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    Three Little Stories

    Dad and Me and Grandad The Swimming Lesson ‘No, please, stop.’ I struggled in his arms. He held me tighter by the waist and legs. Rough palms, tight grip. Through my tears I could see...
    BeththeButterfly BeththeButterfly 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    Recently He Basically Dis-owned Me.

    IT's taken nearly 17 years but this week my father finally let his true feelings out and told my boyfriend that he may as well have me... the second time in the past week he has basically disowned me. And he wonders why i would rather sleep on the floor at my sisters over the...
    LunaWolff LunaWolff 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2011

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    ever since I was little i HATED smoking!

    I made my dad stop smoking, then about 6 years ago my dad's best friend died.. he started smoking, behind our backs again. it's been 6 years of him smoking behind our backs. I hate my dad.
    lilly2136 lilly2136 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I used to be a daddy's girl

    when I was young. Not every a mamas girl. When I got older I stopped hanging with my dad. He got more into drugs and Drinking. I saw him get beat up one time right in front of me. Ever since that I become a mamas girl. I care about my mom more. I still care about my dad. Now I'm...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 6

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    Why?

    Paul, Do you understand what you really did? Not just to our family…but to each of us individually? You won’t admit it…I know you won’t…you emotionally, mentally, and physically abused my sister and me. It was mostly me. Why did you? What did we do? What did your...
    yamihirugashi yamihirugashi 22-25, F Mar 6, 2011

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    My father walked out of my life

    when I was 13. He had a drinking problem and would fight with my mother all the time. One day I came home from school with my baby sis and all of his stuff was gone. He sent us Christmas presents that year but I haven't seen him in years now. My mother said he remarried and...
    courtneyblue courtneyblue 18-21, F Mar 26

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    You & my mom fell for each other

    as teenagers, but it was fleeting romance as you married another woman & had 4 kids. So obviously I took the backseat with your wife wanting you to have nothing to do with me, on one occasion however you met up with us in Miami but I was toddler so I have no recollection. The...
    livelymind livelymind 18-21, F Apr 28

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    I Think About It All The Time

    There are nights where I think about how our relationship would be if things were different If we could laugh if we could joke around if we could cry together and share our deepest thoughts, If I could tell you my secrets and you could tell me yours if you could hold me when...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 7, 2011

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    Fool Me Twice

    Caution: This is a rant, and may not make sense to any reader.To this day I'm not sure why it went through my head to contact him. On social networking of all things in 2010. Sheer desperation more than anything else I suppose. From meeting in secret at a pool tournament, to the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 27, 2013

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    I've never been close to my father growing up,

    he was always there physically, but not mentally. He was always sucked into the computer playing EverQuest or World of Warcraft or some s*** and never spent time with me unless I got on one of those games and met up with him in the virtual worlds. Sorry, but I don't have time to...
    eanchantedeyes eanchantedeyes 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 6

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    He's very sick now. He might have a few more

    years left at best. I kind of feel bad that I don't feel sad. I only met him once when he was on a hospital bed and he didn't even know who I was. He was in the military. He got deployed a few times. He got very sick. He lost his mind. By the time I was two, he was out of my...
    tendersoul22 tendersoul22 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    He Left Before I Was Born For Drugs

    well before i was even born my dad left me and never talked to me or anything but i always had a step dad he was ok but i dont really talk to him anymore and well i meet my real dad once i didnt like him at all i hope i never meet him again
    foreveralone14 foreveralone14 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 5, 2011

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    Used To Be

    My dad and I have been really close from the day I was born. He saved me from a very bad situation in which my mother was abusing me (mostly verbal). However in the last couple years he has dragged me and my whole family back into a very similar (almost identical) situation. I'm...
    BandNerdLife BandNerdLife 13-15, F Jan 31, 2013

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    Yes, as a father it is your obligation to

    provide us the brighter future thru sending us to a prestige school. When it comes with financial matters, I never questioned you because you definitely gave us the things we need and even what we want. But on contrary, I never felt like you've really gave the best for us. You...
    imerosiie imerosiie 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    Would You Know Me, If I Saw You?

    I never remember my father. It was always my mom, and my uncle jorge and aunt hope as my family. Hope and jorge soon had a beautiful baby girl, her name was leah. Hope would pick me up from school with leah. I would tell everyone at school that leah was my beautiful and amazing...
    XtapoutX XtapoutX 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 4, 2013

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    The Old Grey Beard

    Recently, a woman whom I am not related to called me daddy. Quite a shocking experience that I attributed to my gray beard.  This comment immediately brought my father to mind.  I remembered him sitting in his red easy chair, reading his paper. He didn't have a beard but a...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    I'm the oldest out of his 3 children,

    when I was 4 he left my mom due to the fact of him having an affair. It's like he's a factor in my life but he isn't there. And when he is he's not what I've wanted in a father. I don't ask him for anything and yet he feels like I ask for the world. My mom does her best to...
    drewbond drewbond 16-17, M Aug 6

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    You're not the only one.

    I never met mine but I ain't mad at him because he believed i would be a better man growing up without him, without him I wouldn't be here. Don't get me wrong my mother too, she was the gateway to this world.
    kamachulu kamachulu 22-25, M Aug 6

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    My dad will take ANY opportunity to criticize me

    and let me know he disapproves of me. His favourite topics are the clothes I wear and how my hair looks like. Fixing my hair or wearing "dressier" clothes doesn't help, instead he will say I am full of myself. I'm 26 and I live abroad so we don't fight much these days but...
    yellowtrees yellowtrees 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    My father is the cruelest human being i know

    and the worst role model. He abuses my entire family, but my mum won't divorce him. Often, I have thought about ending my life because of the abuse I have endured. I dont know what to do.
    NatPechanats NatPechanats 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    My father and I were close

    as ever until he dropped the bomb that he started talking to his other daughter again. I didn't mind it until I decided to go on Instagram and look at her since it's been 8 years since I've seen her. I saw a photo where she posted saying that my dad was "never there". Which I...
    dannielong1 dannielong1 16-17, F May 10

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    To say I'm not close to my father is an

    understatement I hate him and he knows it In fact I'm closer to my step dad than my real dad
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M Apr 3

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    I Have Never Met My Real Father

    i have never met my real dad, must've decided i wasn't worth staying around for so he split. When i was a kid i screamed hi daddy! in the middle of the mall and he just ran, and after 14 years he finally decided to give me his address so i could get in touch with him. It's been...
    irishlady98 irishlady98 16-17, F Sep 6, 2013

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    The thing is: About 12 years ago,

    I reached the first grade. My mom was currently leaving away doing her second residence and my dad and I lived with her parents. My dad was under a lot of stress because the hospital he worked at was like an hour away, and living with someone like my grandmother, immersed into...
    Gorstone36 Gorstone36 18-21, M Jan 25

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    And don't care to be.

    He made dumb decisions which led him to be in prison for most of my life. Thus leaving me with a psychopathic excuse for a Mother. I don't care if it wasn't his fault, should have used his common sense. Oh well.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Jul 5

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    Untitled

    I was at 3rd grade when I started questioning my 'existence'(why am I here and so on). Well this was the time when i started being curious of 'cutting' (that made me attempt suicide at this age w/out anyone else knowing) My father works out of the country and mostly just comes...
    Chryxenna2 Chryxenna2 22-25, F Sep 28, 2013

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    I've Tried For Years............

         A "Daddy's Girl", I'll never be. I'm not sure why but it seems my father just doesn't know how to be a father. At least not to me. He's a great uncle, brother, but father seems to confuse him to no end. I use to think if I was just smart enough, thin enough, pretty...
    WynsHeart WynsHeart 36-40, F 3 Responses May 25, 2011

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    19 years ago I asked

    for your help, the first time in my life, and you wouldn't help. It's not that you didn't want too, it was because my mom told you not too. How you were able to take her side over mine is beyond me, but now things have changed. My mom is gone and here i am. The hardest thing I...
    Willowtree78 Willowtree78 36-40, F Mar 6

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    Sometimes I don't feel like he loves me.

    -_- I know i shouldn't be complaining as he does a lot for me. He is a busy man. I am his spoiled daughter, at least thats what people imply. He gives me $1500 a month, credit cards, a car, a house, a job, full college tuition, etc. But I would appreciate it if he just spent...
    JessieTheGreekGoddess JessieTheGreekGoddess 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    Ah my father, Where to start with

    that catastrophe... Did you know there is a negative bias in human memory? That's why your more likely to remember trauma than joy. So that might explain why my first memory at the age of three was getting slapped across the face when I had refused to wash my hands for lunch one...
    typedwriter typedwriter 26-30, F Jun 10

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    I am not speaking for myself,

    as I am pretty close to my father. My half-brother, on the other hand... his dad was never around. My mom didn't know where he was and she told me a story of how she actually went and found him (for what reason, I don't remember). When he did decide to come by once, my brother...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F Jun 22

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    He died when I was a baby

    so I never really hit the chance to know him
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 9

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    I want to be close to him

    and discuss things with him but he and me are of complete different minds. I dont know what to do about it but it is making my life suck and also i dont believe that I should argue with my father, out of respect
    Tommtomy Tommtomy 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Meeting my real dad When I saw you I didn't

    know you But you knew me You was a perfect stranger So how could this be Was some one keeping something from me Something big I cant see Just that this stranger is related to me I look at my parents like how could this be You kept this a secret so long from me It's not cool its...
    RebelStar24 RebelStar24 16-17, F Jun 12

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    How could I be when he wants nothing to do with

    me? All I know about him is a name and what I was told about him from my grandmother. Sad that all I want is to meet you one time and you can't bring yourself to do that, yet you have accepted children who aren't yours as your own an even adopted ones with your current wife...no...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    He chose his replacement wife over me

    when I was 3. They've been married since I was 5 and she has been nothing but a total b*tch to me ever since. I tried to reconnect with my ***** donor when their first child, my oldest brother died at age 36 two years ago. She caused nothing but heartache for me, and publicly...
    W4W2 W4W2 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    I grew up with both parents till 13 then my

    parents split. My dad was close with me till I grew up a bit then he started working more and more till I just got really close with my mom. When they split my dad was awful to me and my mom and still continues to be selfish and we still have not moved past a hello and quick...
    lovelylasscan lovelylasscan 18-21, F Feb 11

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    I was "gifted" to a widow from Western

    Sahara[in Africa] as a little tiny baby since my mother couldn't look after a weak helpless baby AND work for 12 hours a night&6 days a week to take care of my big sister&brother who were already going to school. This woman had me speaking her 1st language Berber and calling...
    OmmisLove OmmisLove 13-15, F Feb 4

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