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I Am Not Good Enough

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    I Will Never Be Enough

    I have never been good enough. I can't make anyone happy. And the ones who have loved me I've walked all over because all I care about is myself. And now I am in a relationship with someone who proves to me I am not even worth getting a full-time job for. We live in a very...
    pixiesky pixiesky 26-30, F Sep 6, 2009

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    Not By Far

    I am not _____ enough. smart, pretty, funny, interesting, chill, girly, outgoing, calm, skinny, cool, reserved, secretive, forward, friendly, prepared, sexy, close, healthy, sane, patient, open, happy, lucky, worth, strong, polite, normal, short, musically inclined, old, young...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 21, 2011

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    My boyfriend texted a girl saying "you have

    really pretty eyes.they were blueish this morning. They were mesmerizing" she said "what color are your girlfriends eyes?" He says " I think brown." I'm so hurt that my eyes are not as great as this persons eyes, but to not give me compliments like that hurts a lot.
    megazombiequeen megazombiequeen 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    I Was Wondering When This One Would Show...

    Hey, it's true. I'm not, and it's been proven to me countless times. Not anything I can do though. You're the judge, am I guilty as charged?
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    Never Goes My Way Alot Of Times....

    It seems like every girl that's ever talked to me will ALWAYS come and talk to me about their problems with other men. I always give them the impression that they can come to me for anything....and a lot of times they claim to appreciate it. But never do any of these women who...
    NeoBatou NeoBatou 22-25, M Jul 6, 2011

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    Why aren't I good enough?

    Good enough as a daughter, good enough as a friend, good enough as a girlfriend, good enough as an employee, good enough as a writer, good enough as a student? Good enough as anything?. Why am I just not good enough? Is it because I'm overweight? Is it because I'm ugly? Is it...
    IAmTheAngelOfDeath IAmTheAngelOfDeath 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2013

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    Never

    I don't desrve to be loved...because I will never be good enough. It doesn't matter how hard I try, I always fail....I am a failure. my boyfriend told me that I'm too fat for him...and i know that i will never be thin enough. there is nothing that i can ever do right....
    screamingsilently screamingsilently 18-21, F Mar 19, 2011

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    I Am The Doctor

    I have recently been watching Doctor Who. And I think the reason I love it so much are the parallels I draw between me and the Doctor. First off, I know this is absolutely retarded. Trust me, I hate when people say "I am so totally this character from so-and-so!" But here goes...
    Markeyssc Markeyssc 18-21, M May 23, 2013

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    Not Even Close...

    ...in fact, I'm so far from being good enough that it has actually started to lap me.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    When It Hits...

    Knowing you are not good enough and that you will never be, no matter how hard you try, how much you hope and how much you give just to be enough, hurts like hell. I have been feeling this way for quite some time. It is so damn painful and yet it makes me feel like I am not...
    forbiddenchick forbiddenchick 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    I lose, and fight, and work.

    I crawled up out of the dirt to get to where I am today. And I'm still not enough in their eyes to be treated without hate. I never will be. I hate myself for how much they hate me. I'm impossible to love, and I can't be happy because I'm simply too hard on myself and too...
    xfgdzhczf xfgdzhczf 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Ever since I was younger I have always been

    picked on.. If it wasn't at school it was at home. I never learned how to really defend myself but when I do I feel regretful inside, I begin to feel bad. People always bullied me about my height and how 'weird' I was and until this day people still do and I am 19 years old. I...
    estdec6th estdec6th 18-21, F 1 Response May 22

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    Often I Think This

    I have heard from some people "don't be too hard for yourself". I'm trying to understand and live the advice. Sometimes my mind wanders off into perversion, which sometimes leads to an action which brings trouble. I still get paranoid quickly. I know what helps though: God, a...
    scribbleart scribbleart 22-25, M Oct 10, 2013

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    TwitchTheWonderKid42 TwitchTheWonderKid42 18-21 Jan 13

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 11, 2010

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    Yeah

    i sort of need to be given guidelines bc i've never known when to stop or how to direct myself productively i'm just hard on myself to the pt where i end up losing my mind (oops too late)
    stillimunprepared4you stillimunprepared4you 22-25 Mar 1, 2012

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    I Have Had Enough

    Everyone I meet tells me that I'm great and that Im special. But then, they always hurt me and leave me or force me to leave them. Why does this keep happening. Its like once they get to know me, I'm no longer special. Unworthy, dirty, or just not enough. Am I not Pretty...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2013

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    I'm 16 this year. I feel like I'm never good

    enough. I'm not smart, no matter how much I study I'll never get good marks. Im chubby and ugly, people at school are always talking behind my back. I've never been in a relationship with a guy, never kissed a guy or even held their hand. I dont cut myself but recently I felt...
    CharmaineTheBanana CharmaineTheBanana 13-15, F Apr 18

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    Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

    This has been eating at me for so long now. I don't know what to do and so I've come to the internet to dump my problem. I am in love with this girl. We've been dating for a little over a year and a half. She says she loves me too and we've talked about marriage. We usually...
    Oathbreaker Oathbreaker 22-25, M May 22, 2013

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    You Are Good Enough

    An amazing TED talks a new friend showed me. I recommend it if your feeling not good enough. www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
    Buddahpat314 Buddahpat314 22-25, M Jul 27, 2013

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    When Will I Get It Right..

    It's taken me quite a journey to get where I am today, I have a loving, caring, compassionate, nurturing nature.. I'm honest, loyal and enjoy a good laugh. I don't take life over seriously any more and handle everything in my stride... Yet the one thing I long for I cannot...
    primnproper primnproper 46-50, F 17 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    I feel that I am not good enough

    because I have friends that would talk to their other friends over me and treats me like a complete stranger sometimes.. My ex broke up with me and left me for someone else and I think it's due to her thinking I'm just not that good enough it makes me sad thinking about the past...
    JeffGordonfan24ever JeffGordonfan24ever 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    Never Enough...

    I've never felt so useless in my life. Nothing I ever do is good enough. No matter how much I starve or cut it's never enough. I'm not writing this for attention, I just simply need to vent right now. It just seems like when I reach a goal it's never good enough for myself or...
    YourDisasterInEverAfter YourDisasterInEverAfter 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 6, 2012

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    .....

    I Feel like i am not good enough for people i like . They always choose other people over me.
    Marieeeee Marieeeee 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    For as long as I can remember I have never been

    the relationship girl I'm just the one guys are attractive to but I'm apparently not good enough to be committed with. From day one this guy in middle school he hid the fact that he liked me and only wanted to hang with me when no one was around. Eric this guy I dated in high...
    chanelnococo chanelnococo 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    Not Good Enough

    im not good enough, but i pretend to be. people think im happy. people dont know the first thing about me. i want to disappear.
    Taybay21 Taybay21 16-17 3 Responses May 31, 2009

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    No matter how hard I try

    or how good I am I will never be good enough. It will never happen or ever exist. Sometimes I imagine it will be but in reality it won't be. That makes me so depressed and upset with myself because I can't do anything about it.
    truthtobetold truthtobetold 13-15, F Mar 3

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    I Don't Deserve....

    ...to be loved. ...to say what I think. ...to say what I feel. ...to be happy. ...to be pretty. ...to succeed in my dream job. ...to succeed in anything. ...the friends I have. ...my family's love. ...anything at all......
    moonlit1 moonlit1 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 27, 2008

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    Im Just Not

    I never feel good enough for anyone.
    YoucancallmeJuliet YoucancallmeJuliet 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    I can't manage any situation right.

    I let my wife down in some way EVERY day and leave her frustrated with me. I procrastinate as I'd rather do nothing than do something and get it wrong - I nearly always get it wrong. I've been like this all my life and my wife is realising only now after 16 years that...
    smashtopieces smashtopieces 36-40, M Jan 11

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    20 Footer

    The other day (for work) a shop asked, for fun, what grade I would give a car they had in their shop ('Vette Stingray). For those who don't know, classic cars can be graded from 1-6. 1 is a mint, garaged, trailered car. Basically an A+. Down to a 6, which is basically a parts car...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 26, 2013

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    My Confession

    I am the least motivated person I know. I constantly procrastinate everything, and avoid working on school work to the best of my ability. I have always done this. When I am working, I lose interest quickly, and find ways, excuses, and justifications to not work. I wish that one...
    Markeyssc Markeyssc 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2012

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    I know that nobody’s perfect.

    I know that to expect myself to be is ridiculous. But I can’t help it. I have so many great things and people in my life that I don’t deserve at all. I’ve not done one thing in my life to make me even close to worthy of all of the luxuries I’m afforded. I'm not good...
    colaut colaut 16-17, F Jun 16

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    I've never been good enough for anybody. When my disabled parents asked me to take care of them, nothing was enough. When I worked hard in school, the homework I passed in was...
    absolutionist absolutionist 18-21, F Jun 26

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    I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone or anything. Everyone's showed me I'm not loved, wanted or cared for. Maybe I'm just to ******* complicated for anyone to love. I need...
    juliaek1 juliaek1 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I'm never pretty enough even though I've been told I'm very pretty, I'm never smart enough, I'm never talented enough, never kind enough, never good enough. I know it's not true...
    Kirztar Kirztar 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My whole family never thinks I satisfy thier needs. My dad wants me to spend all my time with him, I don't. My grandfather wants me to play football, I hate t. My grandmother wants...
    lonelygirl1999 lonelygirl1999 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    Am I not good enough for you? Should I change the way I look? My weight? My hair? What's wrong with me? Why do you not like me? Why do you hate me? Why did you abandon me? Was it...
    EllieBlythe EllieBlythe 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 8

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    Something I found online.. read this when you don't feel good enough ~ by Jane Ysadora Dear Sweet Soul, We are all hopelessly flawed. We are all perfect luminous beings inside...
    Eir89 Eir89 36-40, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    The title says it all i'm no good i'm not good enough for anyone i cant think of a single good thing about myself i'm not good at anything why would anyone settle for me when there...
    alex25589 alex25589 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 5

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    ha ha ha h this is truly me , i will never be good enough . no matter how smart or fit i become . No matter how many good deeds i do . I shall always be bellow ha ha
    Aniceguyforyou Aniceguyforyou 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 13

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    For 16 years now i thought i had found someone who would love me no matter what, i guess i was wrong! Apparently i'm not even good enough for him!! I just hate that it took me 16...
    Unhappilymarried34 Unhappilymarried34 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    I will never be good enough for anyone...and I'm okay with that
    loveisgrand loveisgrand 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I don't know what it is but it comes down to the same, I feel like I'm never good enough ever. I can be in a group and I know I know I don't feel like I'm part of the group. Guys...
    arrowfly arrowfly 18-21, M Jul 9

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    I'm never good enough for him 😏
    BeccaK1 BeccaK1 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I know ill never be good enough for anyone. ill never be anyones first second or even tenth choice. But it still hurts knowing that im not worth anyones time effort or love
    nevergoodenough98 nevergoodenough98 16-17, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I cant write a speech without getting an anxiety attack. Or dye my hair draw, write speak or create. Whenever I do any of these things my mom always says, "be more creative, add...
    shootdownthestars shootdownthestars 18-21, F Jun 25

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    I tell the truth over here as i don't want anyone to feel like i am avoiding them or ignoring any... Please as no one knows what i feel or how i feel when know that i broke someone...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jul 12

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    I just wish I was enough...
    NeeverForget NeeverForget 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Life is getting worse and I don't know why I am divorcing my ex husband after 20 years as he didn't treat me well and beating me up when he could it took ally strength to leave...
    kimbeley123 kimbeley123 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm 21 and in an interracial relationship. My dad is African-American, and my Mom has Dominican, Indian, and African-American that make up her background. My love is Irish and...
    earthlysoul earthlysoul 22-25, M Jul 3

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