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I Am Not Good Enough

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    Often I Think This

    I have heard from some people "don't be too hard for yourself". I'm trying to understand and live the advice. Sometimes my mind wanders off into perversion, which sometimes leads to an action which brings trouble. I still get paranoid quickly. I know what helps though: God, a...
    scribbleart scribbleart 22-25, M Oct 10, 2013

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    I Feel like i am not good enough for people i like . They always choose other people over me.
    Marieeeee Marieeeee 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

    This has been eating at me for so long now. I don't know what to do and so I've come to the internet to dump my problem. I am in love with this girl. We've been dating for a little over a year and a half. She says she loves me too and we've talked about marriage. We usually...
    Oathbreaker Oathbreaker 22-25, M May 22, 2013

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    20 Footer

    The other day (for work) a shop asked, for fun, what grade I would give a car they had in their shop ('Vette Stingray). For those who don't know, classic cars can be graded from 1-6. 1 is a mint, garaged, trailered car. Basically an A+. Down to a 6, which is basically a parts car...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M Jun 26, 2013

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    Not Good Enough

    im not good enough, but i pretend to be. people think im happy. people dont know the first thing about me. i want to disappear.
    Taybay21 Taybay21 16-17 3 Responses May 31, 2009

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    I know that nobody’s perfect.

    I know that to expect myself to be is ridiculous. But I can’t help it. I have so many great things and people in my life that I don’t deserve at all. I’ve not done one thing in my life to make me even close to worthy of all of the luxuries I’m afforded. I'm not good...
    colaut colaut 16-17, F Jun 16, 2014

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    I Don't Deserve....

    ...to be loved. ...to say what I think. ...to say what I feel. ...to be happy. ...to be pretty. ...to succeed in my dream job. ...to succeed in anything. ...the friends I have. ...my family's love. ...anything at all......
    moonlit1 moonlit1 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 27, 2008

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    Why aren't I good enough?

    Good enough as a daughter, good enough as a friend, good enough as a girlfriend, good enough as an employee, good enough as a writer, good enough as a student? Good enough as anything?. Why am I just not good enough? Is it because I'm overweight? Is it because I'm ugly? Is it...
    IAmTheAngelOfDeath IAmTheAngelOfDeath 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2013

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    I Will Never Be Enough

    I have never been good enough. I can't make anyone happy. And the ones who have loved me I've walked all over because all I care about is myself. And now I am in a relationship with someone who proves to me I am not even worth getting a full-time job for. We live in a very...
    pixiesky pixiesky 26-30, F Sep 6, 2009

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    I'm not good enough for anyone.

    They all leave me. They love me for a while, but before things get going they dispose me like some kind of garbage. I don't open up very fast to people, I can either be friendly or a *****, but they never get to my core. I have only open up with two guys and both of them met...
    simplyfuckit simplyfuckit 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2014

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    Never Enough...

    I've never felt so useless in my life. Nothing I ever do is good enough. No matter how much I starve or cut it's never enough. I'm not writing this for attention, I just simply need to vent right now. It just seems like when I reach a goal it's never good enough for myself or...
    YourDisasterInEverAfter YourDisasterInEverAfter 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 6, 2012

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    I Was Wondering When This One Would Show...

    Hey, it's true. I'm not, and it's been proven to me countless times. Not anything I can do though. You're the judge, am I guilty as charged?
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    I feel that I am not good enough

    because I have friends that would talk to their other friends over me and treats me like a complete stranger sometimes.. My ex broke up with me and left me for someone else and I think it's due to her thinking I'm just not that good enough it makes me sad thinking about the past...
    JeffGordonfan24ever JeffGordonfan24ever 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 13, 2014

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    TwitchTheWonderKid42 TwitchTheWonderKid42 18-21 Jan 13, 2014

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    Yeah

    i sort of need to be given guidelines bc i've never known when to stop or how to direct myself productively i'm just hard on myself to the pt where i end up losing my mind (oops too late)
    stillimunprepared4you stillimunprepared4you 22-25 Mar 1, 2012

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    No matter how hard I try

    or how good I am I will never be good enough. It will never happen or ever exist. Sometimes I imagine it will be but in reality it won't be. That makes me so depressed and upset with myself because I can't do anything about it.
    truthtobetold truthtobetold 16-17, F Mar 3, 2014

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    When I was with my bf sometime I'm not good

    enough to him nc I feel I wasn't pleasing him, he always talk about his best friend wife blah blah, or other ppl I gets so mad! He help other ppl but not me! That pretty much tells me I wasn't good enough! We had fought about it & I almost walk away, he didn't want to let me go...
    ncsweetfem ncsweetfem 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 15, 2014

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    I can't manage any situation right.

    I let my wife down in some way EVERY day and leave her frustrated with me. I procrastinate as I'd rather do nothing than do something and get it wrong - I nearly always get it wrong. I've been like this all my life and my wife is realising only now after 16 years that...
    smashtopieces smashtopieces 36-40, M Jan 11, 2014

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    I have never been enough to my father

    as I am. So now I feel like I am not enough to anyone (outside the rest of my family). Especially to any guy. I don't believe I will be enough, so I think after awhile they will leave me.
    Roosi Roosi 22-25, F Jan 3

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 11, 2010

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    I'm starting to believe

    that this is true. I'm always the last choice. I'm the girl that a guy will hit up when all his other girls fall thru. I'm the friend that people only chill with when they can't find better plans. I'm the girl that gets pushed to the side and forgotten. For once I want to be the...
    Robin1226 Robin1226 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2014

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    I lose, and fight, and work.

    I crawled up out of the dirt to get to where I am today. And I'm still not enough in their eyes to be treated without hate. I never will be. I hate myself for how much they hate me. I'm impossible to love, and I can't be happy because I'm simply too hard on myself and too...
    xfgdzhczf xfgdzhczf 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    Never

    I don't desrve to be loved...because I will never be good enough. It doesn't matter how hard I try, I always fail....I am a failure. my boyfriend told me that I'm too fat for him...and i know that i will never be thin enough. there is nothing that i can ever do right....
    screamingsilently screamingsilently 18-21, F Mar 19, 2011

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    When Will I Get It Right..

    It's taken me quite a journey to get where I am today, I have a loving, caring, compassionate, nurturing nature.. I'm honest, loyal and enjoy a good laugh. I don't take life over seriously any more and handle everything in my stride... Yet the one thing I long for I cannot...
    primnproper primnproper 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    Nobody will ever like me

    as much as I like them. I have almost come to terms with it.
    dreylynn dreylynn 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    My Confession

    I am the least motivated person I know. I constantly procrastinate everything, and avoid working on school work to the best of my ability. I have always done this. When I am working, I lose interest quickly, and find ways, excuses, and justifications to not work. I wish that one...
    Markeyssc Markeyssc 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2012

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    You Are Good Enough

    An amazing TED talks a new friend showed me. I recommend it if your feeling not good enough. www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
    Buddahpat314 Buddahpat314 26-30, M Jul 27, 2013

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    Ever since I was younger I have always been

    picked on.. If it wasn't at school it was at home. I never learned how to really defend myself but when I do I feel regretful inside, I begin to feel bad. People always bullied me about my height and how 'weird' I was and until this day people still do and I am 19 years old. I...
    estdec6th estdec6th 18-21, F 1 Response May 22, 2014

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    When It Hits...

    Knowing you are not good enough and that you will never be, no matter how hard you try, how much you hope and how much you give just to be enough, hurts like hell. I have been feeling this way for quite some time. It is so damn painful and yet it makes me feel like I am not...
    forbiddenchick forbiddenchick 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    My boyfriend texted a girl saying "you have

    really pretty eyes.they were blueish this morning. They were mesmerizing" she said "what color are your girlfriends eyes?" He says " I think brown." I'm so hurt that my eyes are not as great as this persons eyes, but to not give me compliments like that hurts a lot.
    megazombiequeen megazombiequeen 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    I'm worthless. Not good enough

    for anyone. I know I'll be alone for the rest of my life because I have no friends and no one who gives a **** about me. No one deserves me in their life....why am I even still alive
    disasterland disasterland 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 6, 2014

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    For as long as I can remember I have never been

    the relationship girl I'm just the one guys are attractive to but I'm apparently not good enough to be committed with. From day one this guy in middle school he hid the fact that he liked me and only wanted to hang with me when no one was around. Eric this guy I dated in high...
    chanelnococo chanelnococo 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 27, 2014

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    Not By Far

    I am not _____ enough. smart, pretty, funny, interesting, chill, girly, outgoing, calm, skinny, cool, reserved, secretive, forward, friendly, prepared, sexy, close, healthy, sane, patient, open, happy, lucky, worth, strong, polite, normal, short, musically inclined, old, young...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2011

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    Not Even Close...

    ...in fact, I'm so far from being good enough that it has actually started to lap me.
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    Im Just Not

    I never feel good enough for anyone.
    YoucancallmeJuliet YoucancallmeJuliet 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    I Have Had Enough

    Everyone I meet tells me that I'm great and that Im special. But then, they always hurt me and leave me or force me to leave them. Why does this keep happening. Its like once they get to know me, I'm no longer special. Unworthy, dirty, or just not enough. Am I not Pretty...
    loudsilence1 loudsilence1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2013

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    Ive never been good enough for anyone. Boys ever since middle school didn't think I was good enough because I was fat and unpopular. Girls didn't want to be my friend because I do...
    clamsbeestrees clamsbeestrees 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    So, been arguing on & off with my girlfriend today .... I'm with a programme for my alcohol dependency/binge drinking. I'm with an organisation that helps me rebuild my confidence...
    TrustxxIssues TrustxxIssues 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    i think it's other people who make me feel like i'm never good enough... i think you hear it/experience it enough and so then it must be true.
    EchoWasNotMeantToBeSeen EchoWasNotMeantToBeSeen 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    For once, I want people to let me know I'm good enough. They leave and a part of me stays with them. I'm lost in everyone.
    Kailenalovesyou Kailenalovesyou 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I feel like I don't have a reason to stay here, I feel like anybody loves me, I feel like I'm invisible for everyone who knows me, and that's because I'm not good enough .
    faithtobehappy faithtobehappy 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 17

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    It's a nagging constant feeling that I have that I'm never good enough for anyone. Low self esteem and a serious lack of confidence definitely messes a person up.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 17

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    This needs to be said.>> You are an oRiGiNaL! In all ways...believe me. On a regular basis, people try to get me down by saying things like 'well look how well your sister can do...
    Kirsten22 Kirsten22 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I honestly don't know what else I can do and say to get the same attention that everybody else gets when they text or call or anything at all. I try to do what I can and I try to...
    jdavid1979 jdavid1979 31-35, M Mar 29

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    I have never known anyone who actually believed that I was enough. Everyone always leaves in the end.
    Madison18 Madison18 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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