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I Am Not Happy In My Marriage

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    Very Sad

    I have been married for 20 years & the past 3 years have been very hard. My other half had been sleeping with his 1st cousin for over 4 years. Iam so broken hearted. We had never had a honeymoon so i booked a trip to New York & it was there he told me. My whole world Came...
    ninewest ninewest 41-45 4 Responses Aug 28, 2009

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    Help

    I have been Married since 2003. We have a three year old. I am justt everything I do is wrong. He puts his parents first there are always right. They live three blocks from us in every much in our lives. He doesn't tell me anything about money or his life everthing is is his way...
    cc38 cc38 36-40 2 Responses Aug 12, 2012

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    I Just Want To Be Happy And Feel Loved

    MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 7YRS,AND HAVE A 6YR.OLD SON TOGETHER,OUR MARRIAGE HAS BEEN NOTHING BUT LIES SINCE WE MET,HE WAS A TRUCKER,HE PROMISED ME THE WORLD AND MY 4 GIRLS,I THOUGHT I HAD FOUND MY KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOUR,LITTLE DID I KNOW HE WAS MARRIED WITH 2KIDS AT...
    lovechild01 lovechild01 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    I Dont Know What To Do, Can Anyone Give Me Advice?

    I am so unhappy in my marriage. i feel trapped. i make very little money and my husband had me sign a prenup before we got married. i have no family to turn to and we got married i got rid of all my stuff so i have vertually nothing.... My husband is verbally abuse all the time...
    jgrneyes jgrneyes 36-40 4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    Married For 18 Years And Wondering If It Is Right

    I got married at 26 to a man that I was very attracted to but did not know very well. We turned out to have very little in common, but have worked hard to get along and learn how to love each other. We have seen each other go through emotional work and growth, and there is a lot...
    Josephinefitzpatrick Josephinefitzpatrick 41-45 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    I Need A Companion Not A Boss

    I feel like I am owned. I have been back and forth on this marriage thing for quite some time. I do not work, I have tried to work, but every time I do my husband gets fussy and insists that he needs me at home. So I quit, convenient for him I am rendered helpless without work...
    andromedaNGC206 andromedaNGC206 41-45 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Not Happy In Marriage

    I go married at 24, it was an arranged marriage, said yes.In the last 3 to 4 years not happy at all. No sexual relationship exists and I dont love him. Before marriage, told my parents he is old( 5 years older to me) and he does not look good and for me looks are important.I fell...
    dralka7813 dralka7813 31-35 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    I Cant Get Out

    My husband abused me verbally emotionaly & physically for 7yrs and now he decided to change do a 360 now he is all i ever wanted him to be but i dont love him any more but i dont have a job family or friends that could i could rely on I feel bad staying because i cant afford to...
    breathinglifeless breathinglifeless 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    Waiting....

    My husband got home from korea in nov. Before that we only had a long distance relationship. We met right before he left. Hes been home now for about 6 months and its hard. When he got home i found out he had a full on relationship with a korean woman for about four months . I...
    alyssalucatero alyssalucatero 22-25 1 Response Jun 24, 2012

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    I have a clear picture in my head of what a

    healthy relationship SHOULD be, totally different from that of my husband. We fight endlessly because of this.
    LuckeeFour LuckeeFour 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 10

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    To Leave Or Not To Leave

    Warning! Post is a bit long. :) My husband is a good man and a good father, but our marriage has been a rollercoaster for the entire 14 years we've been married. I don't know at this point if I want to be married any longer. A very large part of me wants to end my marriage, but I...
    shestooquiet shestooquiet 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2013

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    18 Years Together And Just Not Happy Anymore

    My husband and I have been married for 18 years and have 2 teenagers and an 8 year old together. We have had our ups and downs through out our marriage and things just seem to be getting worse. He lives for his computer and has so much **** it isn't funny. For many years I...
    Verysad1969 Verysad1969 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    Lost

    I met this guy in oct of last year, he left for korea the following week. we did the long distance thing and got married when he came home for his mid tour leave. he is now about to be home and its harder than ever. he has bad anger issues. constanly puts me down, i cry everyday...
    alyssalucatero alyssalucatero 22-25 1 Response Sep 28, 2011

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    27 Yrs Of Marriage And Not Happy Anymore

    Hi I have been married for 27 yrs, and the first 7 yrs were great, and we have two wonderful adult kids 26 and 20. We do have a lot of up and downs, and we usually work through them, but I am getting tired of him drinking all of the time and we are not intement anymore. We are...
    medina3055 medina3055 46-50 2 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    Unhappy Marriage

    I so stressed and depressed about my marriage...I have been with the same man for 17 yrs and married for 14yrs...I feel that I have lost myself in this marriage...I am 35 he is 49 and I do not feel we are compatible and feel he have tried to change me into somebody he want me to...
    nikkipooh33 nikkipooh33 31-35, F 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    I Am Frustrated From My Marriage....

    I am married since 2.5 years.Ours is a love marriage,I know him from my college days.But he used to physically abuse me once in every three four months after our marriage.he said sorry after all the time and he regrets for everything what he did with me but again he repeats the...
    shilpi123 shilpi123 26-30 Oct 24, 2011

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    I know it sounds like a cliche

    but I seem to be going through some kind of midlife crisis. It was brought on by a very real experience of my younger brother dying of a heart attack. I guess it made me question life in general.
    petratx petratx 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 11

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    I Thought It Took Two To Make A Marriage!

    Sorry for the venting but I have to do it or I am going to explode.  I have put up with this unhappy marriage for way too long and it has got to stop.  I work 12 hours a day and come home and I am given orders as to things that need to be done as soon as I walk through the door...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 5 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    I Am Not Happy In My Marriage But It Leaving Seems So Complicated.

    I haven't been happy for almost a year. I met him when I was 16 and married him at 18. Between those 2 years it was alot of ups and downs. He cheated on me with his ex for the 1st few months we were together.  I forgive him and then we got married. we are currently overseas...
    grazedknees grazedknees 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 5, 2008

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    Married for 1 year and been together

    for 5. I WANT OUT- sorry for all caps but that's how I feel. I don't feel respected, as his equal and I don't trust him, our communication is shot to hell and I'm no longer sexually attracted to him. I tried to divorce him 4x last year, I feel guilty each time for our children...
    Hazelsapphire Hazelsapphire 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I Am Not Happy In My Marriage,a Total Waste For Me,theres Absolutely Nothing There!

    So,I have been with him since 2007,married a shameful almost 11mos now. Its funny how he could be so affectionate,caring all the things you look for in marriage. Yet,the minute you are married,he no longer shows affection,ignores me,wont even speak to me. And sad,there has been...
    Sms1971 Sms1971 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    I've been married for 2 years,

    but I have been in a relationship with my husband for almost 8 years. Our relationship was not always the greatest, but now.. It's not what I want. And I really want out of this marriage. He's become something I can't even bare to look at. He's insecure, which he was when we...
    tokyotheram tokyotheram 22-25, F Jan 13

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    Totally Lost!

    So this is my story: I am 25 my husband is 48! we got married 4 years ago- the same year our son was born! I had not had much luck in realationships before I met him but he seemed to be so perfekt- now I know: TOO PERFECT! In our first year I could not have been more happy! He...
    alaniswhite alaniswhite 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    Just Waiting For It To Be Over!

    I've been married for 8 years now and I absolutly hate it. I dread when my husband comes home. He's been cheating on me off and on for 6 years. We've decided to get a legally seperate when we move back to the states but that's going to be a while now that he's once again going...
    bruisedbutnotbroken77 bruisedbutnotbroken77 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    I Feel My Husband Is A Lier And A Cheater

    While dating my hubby he cheated.I forgave him and married him.10 1/2 years later i found  his my space page stating that he was single and he had half naked women with big brest as his friends.There even was a comment to one of them saying that she was so hot.Before...
    kss4 kss4 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    Craving For Love And Affection In My Marriage

    My husband is a good man, I will always say that about him. However, he is not affectionate with me anymore. Since we had our first child, he gradually started to show some neglect, lack of love and affection. This neglect got worse after we had our second child. All his love is...
    ConvictionInLife ConvictionInLife 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F Aug 26

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    Little off topic but wonderfully insightful. http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/03/esther_perel_on_affairs_spouses_in_happy_marriages_cheat_and_americans_don.html...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 10 Responses Aug 28

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    My birthday is next week. 31. I'm a bit sad. I feel like I'm aging too quickly. I'm a mess- i'm getting divorced, I'm broke (though now I do have a job), I don't know if stbx or my...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 18 Responses 3 days ago

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    I finally got to talk to my husband. It's been days cause he's out for deployment. He really made me happy. He was very concerned for me and my mental health. He asked me so many...
    vanessamoomoo vanessamoomoo 18-21, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I have faced infidelity in my marriage.My husband had an affair and the one he had it with made life real difficult for me.So when women have affairs with married men they should...
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Come hell or high water I'm done. I'm tired of the excuses, the lies, being blamed, and the gaslighting . I am ready to face I am in an abusive withholding relationship and have...
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 20 hrs ago

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    Former member checking in. I wrote in I am Dating After a Sexless Marriage but it seems pretty quiet over there... so I am checking in here, too. It has been an amazing journey...
    awakeforthedancechecksin awakeforthedancechecksin 36-40, F 10 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I have been married for almost three years now. My husband and I have not had sex in months. I believe he enjoys his video game and social media instead. I've talked to him...
    MrsEG MrsEG 41-45, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I'm in a sexless marriage, but it's me who doesn't want it. I love my husband. We have three beautiful sons together. I am being affected by a case of childhood sibling sexual...
    coffeeIover coffeeIover 26-30, F 12 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I believe this statement wholeheartedly however in a marriage there needs to balance of love and intimacy and so many other things. We can't always be what our spouse hopes for or...
    honeyangel7 honeyangel7 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My wife had kids already when we got married. She doesn't like for me to discipline them and I try and respect that. The problem is they run over her daily. She'll tell them to...
    music4thesoul music4thesoul 46-50, M 2 hrs ago

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    These are just random thoughts of mine recently as I have gone about my journey. Probably not very clear, so apologies if its a rough read:) My divorce was absolutely the hardest...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 22

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    I am so happy right now I love life and I am always happy never be sad enjoy life
    Lewisukbro Lewisukbro 18-21, M 6 hrs ago

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