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I Am Not Happy In My Marriage

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    I've been married for 2 years, but I have been in a relationship with my husband for almost 8 years. Our relationship was not always the greatest, but now.. It's not what I want...
    tokyotheram tokyotheram 22-25, F Jan 13

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    Waiting.... - My husband got home from korea in nov. Before that we only had a long distance relationship. We met right before he left. Hes been home now for about 6 months and its...
    alyssalucatero alyssalucatero 22-25 1 Response Jun 24, 2012

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    Just Waiting For It To Be Over! - I've been married for 8 years now and I absolutly hate it. I dread when my husband comes home. He's been cheating on me off and on for 6 years...
    bruisedbutnotbroken77 bruisedbutnotbroken77 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    I Feel My Husband Is A Lier And A Cheater - While dating my hubby he cheated.I forgave him and married him.10 1/2 years later i found  his my space page stating that he was...
    kss4 kss4 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    I Am Not Happy In My Marriage,a Total Waste For Me,theres Absolutely Nothing There! - So,I have been with him since 2007,married a shameful almost 11mos now. Its funny how he could...
    Sms1971 Sms1971 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    I Need A Companion Not A Boss - I feel like I am owned. I have been back and forth on this marriage thing for quite some time. I do not work, I have tried to work, but every time...
    andromedaNGC206 andromedaNGC206 41-45 3 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Lost - I met this guy in oct of last year, he left for korea the following week. we did the long distance thing and got married when he came home for his mid tour leave. he is now...
    alyssalucatero alyssalucatero 22-25 1 Response Sep 28, 2011

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    I Am Not Happy In My Marriage But It Leaving Seems So Complicated. - I haven't been happy for almost a year. I met him when I was 16 and married him at 18. Between those 2 years it...
    grazedknees grazedknees 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 5, 2008

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    I Dont Know What To Do, Can Anyone Give Me Advice? - I am so unhappy in my marriage. i feel trapped. i make very little money and my husband had me sign a prenup before we got...
    jgrneyes jgrneyes 36-40 4 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    Very Sad - I have been married for 20 years & the past 3 years have been very hard. My other half had been sleeping with his 1st cousin for over 4 years. Iam so broken hearted...
    ninewest ninewest 41-45 4 Responses Aug 28, 2009

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    I Just Want To Be Happy And Feel Loved - MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 7YRS,AND HAVE A 6YR.OLD SON TOGETHER,OUR MARRIAGE HAS BEEN NOTHING BUT LIES SINCE WE MET,HE WAS A...
    lovechild01 lovechild01 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    I Cant Get Out - My husband abused me verbally emotionaly & physically for 7yrs and now he decided to change do a 360 now he is all i ever wanted him to be but i dont love him any...
    breathinglifeless breathinglifeless 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    Craving For Love And Affection In My Marriage - My husband is a good man, I will always say that about him. However, he is not affectionate with me anymore. Since we had our first...
    ConvictionInLife ConvictionInLife 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2011

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    Help - I have been Married since 2003. We have a three year old. I am justt everything I do is wrong. He puts his parents first there are always right. They live three blocks from...
    cc38 cc38 36-40 1 Response Aug 12, 2012

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    Married For 18 Years And Wondering If It Is Right - I got married at 26 to a man that I was very attracted to but did not know very well. We turned out to have very little in...
    Josephinefitzpatrick Josephinefitzpatrick 41-45 3 Responses May 13, 2012

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    Unhappy Marriage - I so stressed and depressed about my marriage...I have been with the same man for 17 yrs and married for 14yrs...I feel that I have lost myself in this marriage...
    nikkipooh33 nikkipooh33 31-35, F 1 Response May 4, 2012

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    To Leave Or Not To Leave - Warning! Post is a bit long. :) My husband is a good man and a good father, but our marriage has been a rollercoaster for the entire 14 years we've been...
    shestooquiet shestooquiet 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2013

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    27 Yrs Of Marriage And Not Happy Anymore - Hi I have been married for 27 yrs, and the first 7 yrs were great, and we have two wonderful adult kids 26 and 20. We do have a lot of up...
    medina3055 medina3055 46-50 2 Responses Oct 17, 2011

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    I Thought It Took Two To Make A Marriage! - Sorry for the venting but I have to do it or I am going to explode.  I have put up with this unhappy marriage for way too long and it...
    teri58 teri58 51-55, F 5 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    I Am Frustrated From My Marriage.... - I am married since 2.5 years.Ours is a love marriage,I know him from my college days.But he used to physically abuse me once in every three...
    shilpi123 shilpi123 26-30 Oct 24, 2011

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    Totally Lost! - So this is my story: I am 25 my husband is 48! we got married 4 years ago- the same year our son was born! I had not had much luck in realationships before I met...
    alaniswhite alaniswhite 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    18 Years Together And Just Not Happy Anymore - My husband and I have been married for 18 years and have 2 teenagers and an 8 year old together. We have had our ups and downs...
    Verysad1969 Verysad1969 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 9, 2009

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    Married for 1 year and been together for 5. I WANT OUT- sorry for all caps but that's how I feel. I don't feel respected, as his equal and I don't trust him, our communication is...
    Hazelsapphire Hazelsapphire 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    Not Happy In Marriage - I go married at 24, it was an arranged marriage, said yes.In the last 3 to 4 years not happy at all. No sexual relationship exists and I dont love him...
    dralka7813 dralka7813 31-35 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses a week ago

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    March 22 at 8 am my marriage officially ended... my husband is very sad.. I am the only one he has ever loved, and the thought of him finding a new girl makes him feel sick... not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F Mar 24

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    My mother passed away peacefully on Monday, March 24, 2014. She had battled long and hard against the ravaging effects of years of smoking cigarettes. The last thing my mother...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 28 Responses Mar 27

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    nicoleal20 nicoleal20 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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    So, I had to go home today to do some chores at the parent's. Hubs normally helps out but he's gone so it was up to me to cover. (wtf weird dynamic) I felt like being nice so I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    MemyselfandI80 MemyselfandI80 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    WTF is wrong with me?! - I used to be a very self-confident and happy woman who lived life to the fullest and was thrilled to wake up to my life everyday, and I've turned into a...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 26

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    A man and women get married,,, everything so good for the first five years or more,,, Then you have MM come in your life spark that old fire back up,, yes he will tell you...
    pullupgirl103 pullupgirl103 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    Part 2: the warning signs The changes really started to happen in November. We had a vacation planned. On the vacation we did it 2 times, would have only been once but I yapped at...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    For folks new to my story, I've been the one who has been refused sex for ~10 years, and now I'm currently building a social support network for myself. Overall, I am making steady...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 31

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    We met in a 3 month long nursing class & work together. He knew dad & came to His funeral. He surprisingly kissed me out of the blue at a bar after some drinks & told me about his...
    BlueEyes3182 BlueEyes3182 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    In the future I think I wont get married. I don't want to get married. I can't explain why but I feel a hole inside me. In my soul I feel wounded. I keep thinking to myself...
    NoobLove NoobLove 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    I love to listen my most important thing to me are my children I love to give it makes me happy to see some one else happy but the sad thing is even having my children and my...
    kathy4104 kathy4104 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    irismagnolia irismagnolia 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    jennaoniel jennaoniel 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 8

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    I realized today, I messed up. Now let me finish and explain how. In the last 4 years, 1 month and 25 days since I got married, I slowly allowed myself to stop living my life. At...
    LynxKitty LynxKitty 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 8