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I Am Not In a Rush to Get Married

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    Taking My Time

    After spending so many years pining away with my friends over finding "the one" recently I have come to the conclusion that I am not in a rush to get married. Maybe it's the fact that I had two children at a young age and my biological clock isn't ticking. Or maybe it...
    soulspin27 soulspin27 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2007

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    Eventually...

    I'd like to be married eventually...but soon?  no way.  for one, there aren't even really any prospects lol  for two...i HATE to be rushed into things b/c eventually i'll put on the brakes and be like 'wtf?' and then bail.  That's happened with my last two...
    KinkyFlower KinkyFlower 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2008

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    Not In Near Future

    I am not in a rush at all. I am enjoying my life now with my bf and I wanted to enjoy it to max. I don't know how things will change once we get married. We both agreed to stay in live in relationship for at least 3-4 more years before thinking of marriage. I feel we loose the...
    ramyahyd83 ramyahyd83 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 25, 2011

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    Taking It Slowly In My Stride

    No way. Getting married, it's a big thing that should never be rushed. Many of my fellow cousins have had terrible marriages because they rushed into their vows. I will, like I do with most of my life, slowly get around to it. I need to meet a man first, step 1 is yet to be...
    Luangi Luangi 18-21, F Nov 24, 2007

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    Maybe One Day

    Not now for sure. Marriage now will just disrupt my lifestyle now and i love it... I wanna one day but not soon...
    nicorley nicorley 26-30, F Nov 23, 2007

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