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I Am Not In Love With My Spouse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 108 People

    Am I Wrong

    I married my husband thinking that physical attraction is superficial and not necessary for a relationship to be successful. I was wrong. I care for my spouse greatly but I am not in love with him. Should i stay? That is a question that plagues me. I don't want to cheat him out...
    journey101 journey101 36-40 5 Responses Dec 17, 2008

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    Am I Bad?

    I am not a secretive person. In my family, I'm the blabber-mouth. So when I say that what I am about to type is something I haven't told anyone, I mean that it has killed me to not confide in someone...my mom, or my sister, or my best friend. I wonder if I'm terrible, and I don't...
    turtleracer turtleracer 22-25 1 Response Aug 11, 2010

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    Love Slipped Away

    It's a harsh reality to face but I am not in love with my husband anymore.I wish that things were different,we used to be happy.He is aware that my feelings have changed and I've stopped trying to do anything to fix things.I am just tired.I remember when I used to wait for him to...
    dreamer33 dreamer33 31-35 12 Responses May 22, 2008

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    I have been with my partner

    for approximately 12 years. I used to be really in love with him and couldn't imagine my life without him. Now - with shame - I admit that I don't even want him in my life anymore. I feel like the life I have been living is a sham. No one knows how strongly I have come to resent...
    happiness888 happiness888 26-30, F Sep 19, 2014

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    5 Years And No Passion

    I'm 24 years old and I met my fiance 5 years ago. I've always felt like he's been more "in love" with me than I was with him. We got engaged after 9 months and never really have planned a wedding. He's always been my best friend, the one I can laugh with and talk to. He used to...
    riley1986 riley1986 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    The Sparks Are Gone

    I do notice him prance around the house in his boxers or towel, just out of the shower, wanting me to comment. I do comment, but it is forced. I know the comments make him feel good. He is an attractive man and I did desire him when we first met, but not anymore. The thought...
    heather73 heather73 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 29, 2013

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    Love?

    A new day,long it will be, he's off of work today and will be completely annoying me.The joy I used to show when cooking breakfast for him is no longer there.The sparkle in my eye when I would see him sitting across the room has faded.The compliments have all ceased,I barely...
    dreamer33 dreamer33 31-35 6 Responses May 23, 2008

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    This Is It

    So I woke up this morning (after another night on the couch) with the decision in my head again, that I can not live like this way anymore. I'm really excited and a weight is lifted to even be thinking in this direction, but I know he won't let this be easy. With months of...
    heather73 heather73 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2013

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    Staying For All The Wrong Reasons

    I have been married nearly 14 years.  I have been with my husband for almost 16 years.  After 5 years I fell out of love with my husband.  He changed soon after we were married, about a year in.  He lost focus on us and became selfish with a goal of his.  It was actually...
    Ascending Ascending 31-35 5 Responses Nov 12, 2011

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    Why Does This Happan To Me

    we have been with eachother for over 13 years and all thats been going on is that i feel more hate towards him every day.i want to belive that the guy i thought i was in love with put hr changed on me i have been there for him no matter. he  treats me like i am not good enought...
    coyavir coyavir 36-40 3 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    Hey, okay. Well I'm not sure if I'm in love with him or not so I'm confused. But to start off, ever since I was young, I've gotten along with my first cousin very well. He's a year...
    thatxx65 thatxx65 16-17, F 6 hrs ago

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    I'm beginning to understand my accidental archetype as the interim relationship. I'm not the one you settle down with, I'm the one you stick around with until something better...
    designbycassandra designbycassandra 31-35, F 15 hrs ago

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    In the year 2010 I got a message from my Mother-in-Law in which she felt I was being distant with her and she knew that wasn't like me. I've always respected her so I responded...
    rarelyfree rarelyfree 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I remember I fell in love with this girl back in 2012, it was crazy the first time I felt happy with a girl ever, and she was beautiful in my eyes, my god in every single way, I...
    Arianny1 Arianny1 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have been battling the lack of intimacy and sex with my husband since before we married.... He is an amazing man and loves me dearly... I fault him at times for being distant...
    maetophall maetophall 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I identify myself as pansexual but I'm still unsure. There is this one girl that I'm in love with since about 6 months now. She told me that she might be bisexual but she has a...
    katibati1 katibati1 16-17, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm never making this mistake again, but during Spanish class, two girls that NEVER talk to me asked if I ever had a boyfriend. Of course, I said no, and then they asked me if I...
    PolterChan PolterChan 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Let me just begin simple by saying I met this boy about a year and a half ago out of no where just sort of started talking on social media then got into a really close friendship...
    KaileyGrace978 KaileyGrace978 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    How do you get over a situation like this?? I fell in love with someone who didn't honestly love me back. But he always said he meant it until the last time he got mad at you and...
    cutemonkey cutemonkey 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Ok so I will acknowledge that this is way weird, but here it goes. I met a guy here on ep who turned my world upside down. He pursued me after seeing a few of my experience posts...
    bellyluv3478 bellyluv3478 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am not in love with my best friend, he is in love with me. I wish I was in love with him but I just can't! if someone need to talk or something I am here, it will be nice to help...
    anonymous1anonymous7 anonymous1anonymous7 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    And to be honest then it is often one of the worst things you can do!. Atleast if you never meet. Dont go too much into dream land. Meeting online, meeting real life and fallin in...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    You never loved me at the start like you told me. You show me different. I have shown you I loved you more than I could tell you. Now I know where I stand with you and I can't...
    WokenandOpen WokenandOpen 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    I fall in love with him cuz he was the only guy I can be myself around.... even when we were juat friends he was there for me through the ups and down..... he ia my best friend and...
    jojorigal jojorigal 16-17 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am gay and in love with this girl named Amanda. We helped each other through thick and thin, she was the only person that talked to me on the first day of my new school that...
    Stark2660 Stark2660 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    We met in person and started seriously dating, and after a year passed by, I fell out of love with him. It was my first time being truly in love. I really thought "this is it...
    littlevanessa littlevanessa 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I thought M was ignoring me, turned out I was wrong. Today I met him again to spin honey. He was so interested in my life asked so many questions, way different then when his...
    HelenaMai HelenaMai 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I really am and they are both in love with me. I feel awful because I feel I should just pick one person but how can I love them both so much and so equally. I didn't think this...
    LewisCollins LewisCollins 31-35 1 Response Jul 25

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    Yes it's true, there are two... The heart is such an amazing thing, there truly is no stopping it. With one look at my loves, my heart involuntarily swells, and beats stronger...
    HotMessExpress101 HotMessExpress101 31-35, F 26 Responses Jul 25

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    I'm in love with this guy that works all the time. So much so that he misses his family events. We only see each other once or twice a month, but I love him. He loves me too but he...
    jwiz113 jwiz113 36-40, F Jul 24

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    It's probably one of the shittiest feelings out there, knowing you would do everything, give your all to somebody who doesn't even care about you enough to pick up their phone and...
    amberblueford15 amberblueford15 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    What goes around comes around. I am in love with someone... who used to be in love with me. There is a boy I am totally in love with. We used to go to elementary school together...
    AnyExperience AnyExperience 13-15, F Jul 23

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    I am in love with someone... who used to be in love with me. There is a boy I am totally in love with. We used to go to elementary school together and now we are in school together...
    AnyExperience AnyExperience 13-15, F Jul 23

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    FOOD FOR THOUGHT & LOST LOVE: Over 27 years ago I met the love of my life. I was visiting Spain with a friend at the time and for two weeks I got to know this beautiful German...
    Clarkkentallday Clarkkentallday 46-50, M Jul 23

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    I'm a gay male and I'm in love with my straight guy friend.. well it all Started 7 years ago, at the time my sister was dating his uncle and he lived with them. well when I met him...
    lukielukie lukielukie 22-25, M Jul 22

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    I am in love with a friends sisters husband. First it was just sexual now I'm completely in love with him. I'm worried what will happen when my friends find out, I've tried to end...
    kagisoSN kagisoSN 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I am still in love with my first love and we're also married.. haha
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 21

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    I am in love with someone i can never have because she is not allowed to love me back or she will lost her job and license (She is my social worker). I haven't tell her yet. :( And...
    Iloveowl Iloveowl 26-30, F Jul 21

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    If you ever fall in love, fall in love with someone who wants to know your favorite color and just how you like your coffee. Fall in love with someone who loves the way you laugh...
    Pinaybarbie Pinaybarbie 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I met my best friend - we'll call him Jack - when I was seventeen and he was nineteen. We were neighbors in a terrible little apartment building, living with our roommates. We had...
    mackenziesaxon mackenziesaxon 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 15

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