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I Am Not In Love With My Spouse

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    I have no spouse to be in love with

    but I would like one. I have been reading through your experiences hoping to learn something in order to avoid marital pitfalls. I have noticed that many of these experiences are written by women and a lot of them say pretty much the same thing. I'm not able to summarize it well...
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 26, 2015

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    The Sparks Are Gone

    I do notice him prance around the house in his boxers or towel, just out of the shower, wanting me to comment. I do comment, but it is forced. I know the comments make him feel good. He is an attractive man and I did desire him when we first met, but not anymore. The thought...
    heather73 heather73 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    after 5 1/2 years of being married it is with

    a heavy and guilty heart that I admit I'm not in love with him anymore he is a sweet guy just wants me to be someone I'm not and some of our interests have changed I feel Horrible cause I still love him and he is still in love with me it's going to destroy him when he finds...
    SilverSpiritWolf32 SilverSpiritWolf32 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 23, 2015

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    Am I Bad?

    I am not a secretive person. In my family, I'm the blabber-mouth. So when I say that what I am about to type is something I haven't told anyone, I mean that it has killed me to not confide in someone...my mom, or my sister, or my best friend. I wonder if I'm terrible, and I don't...
    turtleracer turtleracer 22-25 1 Response Aug 11, 2010

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    i realize that i am not in love with him anymore

    when we had a fight and i dont really mind him at all..
    Carolyn17 Carolyn17 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2015

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    Sigh.. Where to even begin this battle.

    I have been married for almost 17 yrs. I have fallen out of love long ago, but since we are military and I have no job I am trapped. We have six beautiful kids together. But the in love part in no longer there. I deal with bipolar disorder, he didn't know I tried to kill myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 28, 2015

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    Am I Wrong

    I married my husband thinking that physical attraction is superficial and not necessary for a relationship to be successful. I was wrong. I care for my spouse greatly but I am not in love with him. Should i stay? That is a question that plagues me. I don't want to cheat him out...
    journey101 journey101 36-40 5 Responses Dec 17, 2008

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    Not in love with a woman

    and like everyone says there's two sides to one story. at least in mine she's the villain
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2015

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    Staying For All The Wrong Reasons

    I have been married nearly 14 years.  I have been with my husband for almost 16 years.  After 5 years I fell out of love with my husband.  He changed soon after we were married, about a year in.  He lost focus on us and became selfish with a goal of his.  It was actually...
    Ascending Ascending 31-35 5 Responses Nov 12, 2011

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    I have been with my partner

    for approximately 12 years. I used to be really in love with him and couldn't imagine my life without him. Now - with shame - I admit that I don't even want him in my life anymore. I feel like the life I have been living is a sham. No one knows how strongly I have come to resent...
    happiness888 happiness888 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2014

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    Why Does This Happan To Me

    we have been with eachother for over 13 years and all thats been going on is that i feel more hate towards him every day.i want to belive that the guy i thought i was in love with put hr changed on me i have been there for him no matter. he  treats me like i am not good enought...
    coyavir coyavir 36-40 4 Responses Jul 11, 2011

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    after 5 1/2 years of being married it is with a

    heavy and guilty heart that I admit I'm not in love with him anymore he is a sweet guy just wants me to be someone I'm not and some of our interests have changed I feel Horrible cause I still love him and he is still in love with me it's going to destroy him when he finds out...
    RedsSaphire RedsSaphire 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2015

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    I love my husband ..but I'm just tired of the

    infidelity, the lying, the petty fights ,the lack of respect. & I always wanted him to change but I just knows that he won't ever change ..and I just don't want to be with someone like that for the rest of my life
    ShySexy ShySexy 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2015

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    Love?

    A new day,long it will be, he's off of work today and will be completely annoying me.The joy I used to show when cooking breakfast for him is no longer there.The sparkle in my eye when I would see him sitting across the room has faded.The compliments have all ceased,I barely...
    dreamer33 dreamer33 31-35 7 Responses May 23, 2008

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    Love Slipped Away

    It's a harsh reality to face but I am not in love with my husband anymore.I wish that things were different,we used to be happy.He is aware that my feelings have changed and I've stopped trying to do anything to fix things.I am just tired.I remember when I used to wait for him to...
    dreamer33 dreamer33 31-35 13 Responses May 22, 2008

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    This Is It

    So I woke up this morning (after another night on the couch) with the decision in my head again, that I can not live like this way anymore. I'm really excited and a weight is lifted to even be thinking in this direction, but I know he won't let this be easy. With months of...
    heather73 heather73 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 30, 2013

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    My husband and I have been together

    since we were 15 years old. We married at 20. I am now pushing 28. We have three young kids (5,3,2). I am not in love with him like I once was. Looking back and knowing what I know now, I realize that even though we love each other as friends, our love doesn't go beyond that. I...
    PurpleOrchids PurpleOrchids 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2015

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    5 Years And No Passion

    I'm 24 years old and I met my fiance 5 years ago. I've always felt like he's been more "in love" with me than I was with him. We got engaged after 9 months and never really have planned a wedding. He's always been my best friend, the one I can laugh with and talk to. He used to...
    riley1986 riley1986 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    after 5 1/2 years of being married it is with a

    heavy and guilty heart that I admit I'm not in love with him anymore he is a sweet guy just wants me to be someone I'm not and some of our interests have changed I feel Horrible cause I still love him and he is still in love with me it's going to destroy him when he finds out...
    SilverDragon1 SilverDragon1 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2015

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