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I Am Not Interested In Sex Without Love

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 824 People

    Love First, Then Sex

    Love is the greatest of forces. It has the power to heal. It can take something that is bad and make it good. It can transform something plain into something exceptional. It can dramatically change your plans, your future and how you live your life. It can change and rearrange...
    bassplayer bassplayer
    46-50, M
    18 Responses May 18, 2009

    I think one complete the other one,

    cause when you have sex with love it should be the most amazing feeling ever.
    miserableamy miserableamy
    18-21, F
    Mar 25, 2014

    One Thing I Will Miss About My Ex

    If you ever read anything else of mine you will know my ex left me and absolutely broke my heart. However, there is one thing that I will never forget and will not be able to thank him enough for...which was that he was different. Maybe he has changed since we broke up, but...
    LonelyGirl1230 LonelyGirl1230
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 21, 2013

    Im A Sap

    Its been a long time.Longer than I will admitt here.Im careful about who I have sex with any more.Ive never been the one night stand kind of guy.Maybe its a weakness but,I have always been a big enough sap to wake up feeling like love is in the air.Ive learned at last to let the...
    The1960texan The1960texan
    51-55, M
    Oct 15, 2013

    I'm done with having sex

    for now. It's been quite a while and it will probably be a while longer before I have sex again. In the past I've used sex like a drug and because of that, I've had to deal with some really ****** consequences. The primary one being that I have genital herpes. The man who...
    FreedomtoFly FreedomtoFly
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 21, 2014

    Waiting For Right Time :)

    Moving to college and up the food chain of life, I'm starting to see those around me are starting to become more adventurous - particularly adventures of the nocturnal kind. They can't help but meet someone at a party on the weekend, get a bit close and end up doing something...
    romantik romantik
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 1, 2010

    Not Just Physical...

    To be there is an emotional connection and caring to love making.  If I am going to be intimate with you, I need to love you on some level---at least as a very dear and trusted friend.  When I make love, I put my heart and soul into as well as my body.  I want to please my...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 6, 2011

    Yes I Know That It Can Be Done

    To me sex with out love is like celebrating the 4th of July with out fireworks, or driving in the rain with out windshield wipers. It can be done but its just not any fun.
    LateNightGuy LateNightGuy
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Dec 10, 2008

    More Than 3 Years Without Sex

    And its not like i don't miss it because i do. and its not like i haven't had the chance since then because i have, it's not because i'm a prude because believe you me im into some weird fetishes, its because i want it to mean something. even the aforementioned weird fetishes...
    deleted deleted
    May 10, 2011


    I'm beginning to become a little I'm beginning to become a little doubtful that my wedding night will doubtful that my wedding night will be my first time of intercourse. be my first time of intercourse. I've always been so determined that I've always been so determined that it...
    Vconfidence Vconfidence
    22-25, F
    Jun 15, 2013

    Ok, here's the stitch: I'm a 22 year old male,

    of very healthy indian and irish decent. I have one helluva sex drive. But I'm not aroused at just any chick, any set of bewbs just flashing out in the open. I can't get up to just a stranger... I need some sort of connection, some deeper meaning than just 3 hours of mindless...
    darebear523 darebear523
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 16, 2014

    Sex without love is empty feeling.

    Without emotions, it's simply just an physical act that i'm not interested in. The connection and bond you have with someone you love is what makes good sex great because you're more concerned with making your them feel good, which in return, makes you feel even better. At least...
    bbfeels bbfeels
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 6, 2014

    Sex Is Sex

    I can't say that I don't have sexual desires. I just deal with them in my own way. I don't look out at the world and see sexual partners and the potential for hook ups and intercourse. My libido just doesn't work that way. Yes, I'm very sexual and very passionate and I love...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 5, 2012

    Or At Least A Whole Lotta Like.

    Sex has become a bit of a challenge for me in my 30s. I have a child and constant demands put on my by him. He is almost 5 and a bundle of energy and needs for entertainment. I can't spend time thinking about sex like I could in my 20s. Even if I do have the time, I'm not...
    lisa36 lisa36
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Nov 1, 2010

    Not Any More- I won't lie,

    I experienced both. Sex with love and without. The sex without yes was hot and good at the moment it was happening. I had a friends with benefits. He fell in love but I didn't. The whole thing left me feeling empty by the time it was over. If I was to be honest with myself I...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 16, 2014

    I just cannot have sex without having an

    emotional connection. I can't imagine kissing a wrong person.. I feel weird when I imagine kissing a person I just met..
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 24, 2016
    ApacheKuruk ApacheKuruk
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Feb 18, 2011

    I just need some advice.

    I want to know how to initiate having a sexual encounter with my aunt. Im 17 and a guy and shes 47 but we have chemistry and shes never been married and probably hasnt had sex in 7 years. How do i set the mood to start touching her,etc? I was thinking about cuddling up with her...
    Doggy1102 Doggy1102
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2013

    Why Does Everyone Seem To Just Like Sex?

    Everywhere you go today in society, there is sex. Movies have nudity and sexual action more than ever, it seems at least every boy in the world watches **** and/or reads dirty magazines, way too many girls show off their bodies like toys, and I could go on, but I won't. I realize...
    LonelyGirl1230 LonelyGirl1230
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 21, 2013

    I have mixed feelings about sex.

    There are certain times where I can be a total horn dog and would have sex with a girl if she offered me. But still I know in my heart that sex without love is pointless and would leave me feeling hollow and alone. So I have decided to wait until I find a girl who loves me and I...
    Desolateparadise13 Desolateparadise13
    22-25, M
    Jan 27, 2014

    I miss having sex....

    But I want to have meaningful sex with someone I love. I don't have anyone like that in my life yet. :(
    Grapemonster Grapemonster
    26-30, F
    Aug 19, 2014
    liveforever1 liveforever1
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 11, 2014

    Just Couldn't Do It Without The Love And Trust

    Now let me get this straight..... I absolutely LOVE sex but I just couldn't consider having sex with anyone without getting to know them first and really having some deep feelings for them. I'd rather go for years without sex than have sex with someone who I didn't know and...
    wattahappiness wattahappiness
    51-55, M
    Mar 3, 2010

    Me ether , I only have sex with someone I love

    <3 Its the best having sex with someone you truly love .
    062612BrittanyAndEddie 062612BrittanyAndEddie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

    Never Had A One-shot, And Don't Want To Know...

    I have shared the most intimate part of me with only three girls up to now, and each time it was in a long relationship and I was deeply in love.
    Calistea Calistea
    22-25, F
    Oct 14, 2010

    I wish I could take back my exploratory

    experiences from 15-18 but when you're young there's no such thing as making love yet. I don't believe we're that deep unless the circumstances are exceptional and we have like childhood sweethearts with this long buildup
    sahmmama sahmmama
    26-30, F
    Apr 28, 2015
    SavinienBrassheart SavinienBrassheart
    31-35, M
    Sep 9, 2015

    Sex Is Not A Recreational Sport

    To me, sex is the ultimate expression of love.  First ... my mind must must be engaged, totally, completely.  I need to be stimulated by your words of loving, your promise of care.  I need word pictures of all the ways we shall be close, intimate.  The give and take of ideas...
    ItsWindy ItsWindy
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2011

    Living Proof!

    I just can't do the "one night stand" or the "friends with benefits" thing! No love, no sex. Plain and simple. I think this is most common with women, though I've know many girls who only wanted the sex and only that! :-/ But for me personally... I need...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 7, 2009

    Not Interested At All

    I can do cyber sex or sexting without love, sure. Because that's just basically synchronized ************ in my opinion. But real, body-to-body sex with a person? I have to care very deeply for that person before that can ever take place. That's just how I feel- that sex should...
    DomesticKitten DomesticKitten
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 18, 2013

    Not If I'm Just a Fling!

    I will have sex with you because I love you and I will make love to you because I want to be inside you forever. Sorry all of you who might be thinking "Pick Me!", I'm taken... :)
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 21, 2008

    Where Did It All Go?

    When we first got married, we spent many happy times in the bedroom. We used to joke a lot because when ever we were in the heat of passion, my mother would call. It got to the point that when one of us, or both were about to climax, my wife would scream, Your mothers calling. We...
    RH0041 RH0041
    51-55, M
    1 Response May 12, 2011

    For me sex is a byproduct of love.

    There has to be an emotional connection for me to even think about sex. Looks fade. Sexual attractiveness fades over time. Love is forever.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 23, 2015

    Love Might Be A Little Too Strong A Word.

    I am reminded of the old joke that goes something like this.What is the difference between a lady and a prostitute?A lady is in love with the man she sleeps with, even if it is only for one night.Now, I am not a sleep-around, hop-into-the-sack kind of a gal. I definitely have to...
    TKD1 TKD1
    51-55, F
    Nov 23, 2013

    Does It Always Have to Be Sex?

    This is an unpopular male view, but does it? I'm talking to womankind as a whole. When we were younger it seemed like we could just kiss for hours. Now it seems like it's straight to the sex. Is it that we've lost the innocence to just lie together? Or the patience to wait until...
    drix drix
    18-21, M
    7 Responses May 4, 2009
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