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I Am Not Sure I Can Be Just Friends

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 192 People

    Making a Choice - Changing From Lover to Friend

    I have had a lover for about 9 months. When we met - we were both married, both in bad relationships, both needed something. We clicked - we spent time together when we could, and I have to say - it was much more than I thought it would be. A lot of the stories I...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 17 Responses Jun 1, 2009

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    This guy and I have been having this

    complicated relationship since April 2013. I haven't told anyone about it. Sometimes we're friends, sometimes we're more. Lately, we've been having sex and stuff and I don't know if he wants to stay friends and **** or if he wants to be more. I don't know what to do
    justanothertroubledgirl justanothertroubledgirl 13-15, F Jan 3

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    Stuck In A Rut!

    So I was in a relationship for 9 years. We were good together never argued seriously or anything enjoyed our time together sitting around and doing nothing. He was the one! Our love life was a bit lifeless. It would seem that over the 9 years we went to one concert that was...
    darcy79 darcy79 31-35, F 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    Women...`

    Have no idea when they form these relationships with men who are on the surface comfortable with a platonic relationship that not to deep in the recesses our testoserone driven minds we are or have had sex with you already. I have had plenty of female friends, but (this maybe...
    axston axston 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    There Is Just Something About You...

    ...that makes me want to jump you as soon as I see you. I don't know what it is. Our chemistry isn't electric, or even firey or passionate; but maybe *magnetic* would be the right word. I can't even remember the last time I saw you... well, I can't remember *when* it was, but I...
    VendettaVita VendettaVita 31-35, F 3 Responses May 22, 2012

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    Not My Choice, Their Descision. No Negotiation, Second Opinion.

    Long ago - not so far away - I learned its not my descision. They like me as a friend - nothing more. Funny, helpful, safe, loads of time listening -all the right things just not the right person. That was not their descision. She was not being cruel - just honest. Kind. Yes kind...
    guidence508 guidence508 41-45, M Apr 2, 2011

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    Why Me?

    So I just joke around alot and flirt but with no feelings to it! Well apparently I have some strong feelings for a guy.We are very close and like a best friend thingy relationship, I guess? Anyways I was joking with him that we should go in the freezer and make out! But at the...
    Silence01 Silence01 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    Damn It

    i'm sure that i can no longer be just friends. i'm done. you know how i feel, i've made it clear. after 5 years of friendship, i call it quits. i have deleted your number - so i would not be tempted to call you. i have blocked your number - so i'm not tempted to answer. it's...
    tiger1022 tiger1022 26-30, F Aug 11, 2012

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    Not As I Am Now

    I of course am only saying this to real life females. I am more than capable of being friends online and stuff. Anyway, it is nothing personal ladies, but I have to be sexually satisfied first. I think it has to be that way for most men. Those men out there who are sexually...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 19, 2012

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    To Those Who Want Freinds And More,

    thats why there such a thing as freinds with benefits, and what it should lead to is a emotional/mental heart to heart connection, if not, then its a matter where you and somebody you had deep feelings for did the nasty and found out that sharing real and true feelings in a...
    digger1026 digger1026 41-45, M Jan 5, 2012

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    Okay, so um. Last year I dated this kid

    for about six months (I was 13, he 14). I broke up with him because I was stupid and my best friend (at the time) made fun of me because he isn't the most attractive guy. Two months after I broke up with him, we started talking again on Facebook and we are actually getting...
    abigailgrace67 abigailgrace67 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 10

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    Being "just friends" is hard.

    I do have a "just friend" in my life, and it's weird. Down through the years, people have accused us of being more... not that I wouldn't like to, but I don't think her hubby would like that very much. LOL I would like to break through the friend zone with my other female...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 3

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    My now ex boyfriend who I loved very much broke

    up with me yesterday and he just wants to be friends. It's going to be really hard for me because he means so much to me and I don't know how to handle it.💔😢
    x0UnionJack0x x0UnionJack0x 22-25, F 2 Responses May 28

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    I have known this girl

    who is a good friend of mine for 3 or 4 years now. Everything was great and still is when I get alone time with her, but now its different because I have feelings for her, and she's the first girl I have really been attracted to. She knows I like her and she told me she likes me...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    Friends Not A Chance

    how can you just be friends and not make a clear boundary for the next romance. how can i go into the next relationship thinking im still good friends with the last one and they still want to be part of my life just not make a serious commitment and want me there when they feel...
    dawnbedwell12 dawnbedwell12 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2012

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    More Than Friends

    I got a crush on one of my male friend...he care about me so much and will always be there for me whenever I need someone..but later things have changed..he confess his love for me and so do I =P And here we are now..happily live as a happy couple..cos he is my best friend..and...
    babyiemori69 babyiemori69 26-30, F Jan 7, 2011

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    My Best Friend,and My True First Love

    October 30, 2009 I Fell In Love With Kalin Meave In First Period 8:26 am. I Just Found This In My Hard Drive,I Wrote This About Three Years Ago!!! Pretty Crazyy.
    BlackroseVsWhiterose BlackroseVsWhiterose 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 25, 2012

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    So Close....

    So I like someone that likes someone else which is fine but how do I then change to become just a friend as she wants this guy more, I don't know if I can when this whatever is between us which maybe one sided I'm not sure yet but it could be perfect we could have so much , we...
    bj7390 bj7390 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 26, 2012

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    I feel our friendship is dying. I can sense it. The blood of our friendship is stopping its flow and the heart of it is pumping slower, soon it's going to stop and die. When we...
    fadingintoexistance fadingintoexistance 16-17, F Dec 7

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    A few months ago, three of my five best friends graduated from our high school. I was a year below them, so I had to stay. Watching them go was probably the hardest thing I've ever...
    EEB13 EEB13 16-17 8 hrs ago

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    The problem with online friendship is that when things go wrong, we split. When I say something that makes you uncomfortable, or when you offend me, we’ll go our separate ways...
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    Alright so I was once really good friends with this boy {we'll call him S} since kindergarten. He was my escape from having to fit in with the nasty girls I went to school with...
    xxhappilyeverafterxx xxhappilyeverafterxx 13-15, F Dec 8

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    I am a "normal" guy. Was outgoing, enjoyed golfing, stopping at the bar for a couple. I do normal things, bike, read, cheer on my sports teams, etc. I don't live in the middle...
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    I'm pretty sure it's because for me it's not a given that I'll have friends. I've never been in that situation before but most of my friendships only exist through Facebook since...
    fcnantes fcnantes 13-15, M Nov 22

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    just to clear things up for the beginning of this post, last year I cut myself. it's not a big deal. but my mom put me in counseling to help me, even though she denies I have any...
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    Being an introvert, making friends has been a sensitive and grueling task for me. Yet it can be all so fulfilling at times. What bugs me most is that I don't know if my friends...
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    There are a few issues with making friends. First of all I find it difficult to approach someone. In person it's almost impossible and online I find it hard to come up with a...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M Dec 4

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    My friends are part of my family. Sure, I can't say that i have a large group of close friends, but those that I have are the same as they were my blood. In fact, many if not all...
    Gatikasensual Gatikasensual 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 10

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    We've been online friends for over a year now. We've spoken on the phone a dozen times. For many months we'd message all day using various sites and apps. We hit it off from the...
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    "Sure! We can totally meet up sometime." That's what I always hear And you know what? That "sometime" never shows up. People in my life somehow disappear. I've always been kind of...
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    WWoooooohoooooooo!!!! Double digits! I count all my friends on my fingers. 10 friends (: I've never really been social. I've always been the awkward kid.i was the one everyone...
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    I don't know why. Actually that's probably a lie, I'm pretty sure it was my classmates' fault. The only think I can think of to explain the two year gap I have between the ages of...
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    The last close friend I had was from high school, she had a lot of things going on so I always helped her out but she was never there for me when I needed someone. I got so sick of...
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    I feel like this is so hard to achieve... Like I have friends and best friends, but I don't feel as though they are my true friends. True friends stick together, hang out, help out...
    4EVRANDEVR 4EVRANDEVR 16-17, F 1 day ago

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