I Am Not Sure I Want Children

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 43 People

    So Much To Do, So Little Time...

    I am just 29 yrs old and am starting to have occasional thoughts that are disturbing - envy of my friends with children. I am terrified of babies, don't really like toddlers and can't stand whining or crying and detest immaturity - all reasons why I chose not to have children. My...
    nybor nybor
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 11, 2009

    I Love Them And Spoil The Ones I Know, But...

    I don't think I am cut out to be a mother. I have many mental issues I deal with and physical ones too that would probably not be healthy for a child to grow up around. I'd rather not bring a kid into that kind of situation, and I also have a very hard time staying pregnant.
    Pebbles1982 Pebbles1982
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2011

    I Do And I Don't

    I have been thinking about this recently.  Part of me would like to have children and the other part of me doesn't want any, I have a feeling that the way my life pans out will dictate whether I have any. I have never been very interested in men, so this very much restricts...
    eelarc eelarc
    26-30, F
    Jul 7, 2010

    I Originally Posted This In Response To A Question, But It Might As Well Be A Story

    Although I grew up thinking that I'd eventually have children one day -- although never more than two -- I can't say that I remember ever feeling a strong desire for them. I also can't remember very many times when I have felt what I would call particularly maternal, even though...
    GigiNYC GigiNYC
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 27, 2011

    Any More Kids...

    I have one daughter.  Her birth was not easy.  It was actually very stressful, trying, and still affect me to this day.  Things were not looking well and she ended up spending a week in the NICU.  The details are not something I like or want to relive, but...
    SpiritualFighter SpiritualFighter
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2010

    I Thought My Patience For Kids Would Grow As I Got Older... Not Lessen!

    At 32, I find I'm wanting kids less and less as I get older. I remember my urge to 'mother' starting around age 8 and it was really strong until just about a year ago or so. I babysit a lot to supplement my income and I see a lot of frazzled, frustrated parents that don't really...
    mimirue mimirue
    1 Response Sep 3, 2012

    Inner Battle

    I love children. And o so desperately want to be a mother. I just don't know if i want to have children in the screwed up situation that i am in. I have four step children and their mother is crazy. I just don't know if I can deal with her using her children to get to me by...
    underappreciated6 underappreciated6
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 6, 2012

    On The Fence

    I honestly go back and forth over this. I really do - there are days when I think it would be totally awesome to a a few Mini Me's along with some Rugrats running around and then there are days when I feel like it would way too much work. Too much responsibility because it's not...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 23, 2009

    Don't Think I'll Be Able To Handle It :-(

    I have hard enough time dealing and caring about myself and I'm nowhere near being able to bring a child into my life. I can't have children myself but I've often thought about adopting a child. I just don't think I could handle taking care of another human being 24/7. I'm...
    Spiritsinger Spiritsinger
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 23, 2010

    Children Or No Children?

    I'm intereseted to hear from other people in my same boat.   I was divorced about two years ago because I had determined that I didn't want to have children - my ex-husband did (we had other issues - but that was a big one).  Now, I'm 29 years old and in a...
    Notsosure Notsosure
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2007
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