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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    Like... You're supposed to have kids.

    And then DIE?! And leave them to cope in the world without you? Egads!! No! I want everything to tie up nicely when I go and not have to worry if my children have cleaned their ears and brushed their teeth two weeks after im gone. No. I can't even handle that thought. And I have...
    prettyprude prettyprude 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 18-21, F Nov 9, 2007

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2014

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    I don't know if I want kids and it freaks me out. My s/o wants kids some day. But he always knows that I'm not sure if I do. I guess I've been waiting for something to sway me one...
    TheKristaJo TheKristaJo 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    It is not important to have kids. We have every right to choose what we want or don't want in our lives. For me, I don't want kids in my life. Guess what? That's ok. I just wish...
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    Nope. Not in this lifetime. As much as I've always known that I love to have the companion of a dog or a cat, I have known that I do NOT want kids. I didn't even like kids for a...
    jerseyjenna jerseyjenna 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I hate it when people try to force their views and values on you. And since when did it become such a grave sin to NOT want children?! I'm the one who has to raise them day in...
    RoyalTeee RoyalTeee 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm tired of all these mombies running around acting like women who aren't reproducing, are the most selfish people on the planet. Exactly how is it selfish to not want kids...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 1

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    My husband wants kids and believes having a family is the most important thing a person can do. But he's also said he'd rather be with me than have kids, which was a major...
    danac5 danac5 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I absolutely adore kids but I don't want kids of my own. Does that even sound logical? I just don't think I can handle raising a kid when my mom isn't exactly the best role model.
    ScarletRed000 ScarletRed000 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 3

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    My bf has a 4 year old daughter so if we ever get more serious then I actually have a kid although I don't want it... I'd do anything so that he doesn't have her. His ex didn't...
    fosterpaste fosterpaste 18-21, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I don't wanna have kids right now and I don't want any!! Forget it and my family is giving me a hard time about me not wanting children or what if the man wants children. I don't...
    MizzChocolate99 MizzChocolate99 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I really love kids. I enjoy them. Helping them learn and play. I find them adorable most times. I admire parents who really try. But I don't want any of my own. Kids seem so...
    SmirkandShoulderShrug SmirkandShoulderShrug 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    Kids are alright as long as they can go back to mommy and daddy after an hour or so. I have severe anxiety, constant noise and stress makes it worse. I can't be in crowds of people...
    ambernoel ambernoel 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I've always known that I don't want children of my own, for multiple reasons I'm not a patient person. I want to live my own life. I don't want to live the life of my children...
    AntiveninKisses AntiveninKisses 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 1

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    I don't want anything in my stomach besides food.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    People ask me why I don't want children and then get upset when I answer them truthfully. I'm sorry, I just don't think the sun shines out of their *****.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Because I don't want the responsibility. Plus I can't afford one. But if I did end up having one by accident I would keep it. Not to mention they can be noisy, annoying, they don...
    gaiamoon82 gaiamoon82 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am not a disciplined person for this now I think that if I have a child i risk to raise a criminal.
    ItalianPokeTrainer ItalianPokeTrainer 16-17, M Mar 3

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    I hate it when people have the hide to turn around and say " yeah you're only young you'll have them later" no actually I won't. How can people say that when they don't know me and...
    epsarah94 epsarah94 18-21, F Mar 14

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    Nope, nope, nope, aaaaand NOPE.
    smeckledorfed smeckledorfed 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    I got two and even i am a good dad, i cant say its something i like being. I am div and trying to get their mom to take them full time
    Dadhas2girls Dadhas2girls 41-45, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't want to have kids. Ever. Plain and simple. I am a 23 year old female, I'm a dreamer and an adventurer. I have an honour degree and will be attending law school in the...
    cckawi12 cckawi12 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I wish I could talk to my sister about me not wanting kids but its just not going to happen. I cant really talk to anyone in my family about me not wanting children. Im NOT a bad...
    june199225 june199225 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    Okay 1.I am only 13 2.I love my family 3.God is number 1 4. I love my boyfriend 5.I want kids in the future 6.I love my niece that is pretty much my daughter and her 2...
    calliebug02 calliebug02 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    Hi. so my boyfriend and i want kids.im in college and he is in college and is on a full scholarship and hopefully gets drafted in the next few years. i would love to be a stay at...
    DominikM DominikM 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Sure want one too. Maybe I can make one. (thinking thinking).
    sliverwolfbec sliverwolfbec 18-21, F Mar 3

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    I was pretty much made fun of/bullied my whole life... Well from 1st grade till 12th. I don't really know why I was made fun of... Was it because I have selective mutism? Or the...
    OneWithTheSkies OneWithTheSkies 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I want a girl that I can talk to and that might be willing to flirt and possibly date after a while. I'd much rather date a girl and I think I might be lesbian if anyone is willing...
    RyRy7400 RyRy7400 13-15, F 13 hrs ago

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    i love kids, i really do. i just never want to get pregnant and give birth lol :) more then likley i'll adopt when i'm old enough and financially stable. i'm thinking about...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    We will travel to Hong Kong this April 2 to 6. A short vacation with my kids. My oldest can't come because of work. My married daughter who lives in Germany can't join too. But we...
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09 46-50, F 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Well the Easter Holidays are here.. the kids are off school for 2 whole weeks.. Yippee!!I found this story on an Irish website, thought I'd share as it is funny....NUALA Purcell, a...
    WittyWoo WittyWoo 41-45, F 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    This story isn't true but cute Heidi and jerehmiah play with Dorian Church on a Sunday jerehmiahs sister Ashley asked him if they could watch Dorian till morgans family party at...
    Dollfan32 Dollfan32 31-35, F Mar 18

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    Today my boyfriend told me that one day he wants to be able to call me his wife. He's said and I quote "I want to make you my wife so that I can wake up next to you every day and...
    Loislane29 Loislane29 22-25, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    It's sad. I mean.....I love him but I'm not sure if he wants me back. I can't even talk to him anymore. I miss him badly but I can't conquer myself to tell him that I want him back...
    Adridee Adridee 16-17, F 8 hrs ago

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    No offence to the kids, but the only stories and experiences they seem to produce is about their friends gossiping behind each others backs or boyfriends leaving them for another...
    Lunarflowerrr Lunarflowerrr 22-25, F 7 Responses 20 hrs ago

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