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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 Aug 17, 2012

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 21-25, F Nov 9, 2007

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    I'm very comfortable with myself and I know exactly what I want and I may be young but I'm 100 percent sure I don't want kids and it's a deal breaker for me. People have told me...
    SophieBabe20 SophieBabe20 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    Why should we women be made to feel like, just because we can, we have to have kids? Every woman is supposed to have a maternal side to her apparently but who said that feeling a...
    abbietee abbietee 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I honestly don't want kids. I know some people don't understand it fully, but kids scare me. They're always in everything and making messes and they never listen. If you love them...
    LilMissStats LilMissStats 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    This is me! I just don't want kids it's simple for me and I don't understand why me not wanting kids has an effect on others.
    SophieBabe20 SophieBabe20 18-21, F Jul 16

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    I just hate it when people say “you will change your mind as you get older”! Guess what, I said I didn't want kids when I was 15, now I'm 25 and I still don't want kids! I just...
    Naturalsimple Naturalsimple 22-25, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Call me selfish and tell me I will change my mind in the future but you know what? No matter what anyone says I do not care and you're not a psychic. Yes people do change their...
    silverwolf25 silverwolf25 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I want kids someday. At least 6-10 6 being the min and 10 being the max
    MakaylaCorlisa MakaylaCorlisa 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't want kids because I know I wouldn't be a good mother. I would rather go out and have fun with friends instead of stay at home and change diapers. Does that make me a bad or...
    ashizz ashizz 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    one crazy conversation... acquaintance: "Hey, you want to have kids one day?" me: "No." acquaintance: "Why not? You seem like you’d be a good mom. Or is it that you don’t...
    Neiymara Neiymara 22-25, F Jul 8

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    I know I'm still young, very young but I'd like kids someday. I want to give them a life different from my own childhood, I want to show them how to do things, be creative, be...
    KilljoyTillTheEnd KilljoyTillTheEnd 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    I have been told that makes me a bad woman but I don't care. I have never imagined a life with kids before.
    curiousgirl1214 curiousgirl1214 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 13

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    I don't understand how anyone could just not want a kid(s). To have this living breathing little boy or girl in your arms that relies in you live. Your breath is their breath, your...
    Kmarcum99 Kmarcum99 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I spend more time with my niece than her parents do. They both work full time jobs and I babysit all the time. Don't get me wrong I love that little girl but it gets ridiculous...
    deiysianahi deiysianahi 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    But I don't want to not have someone to take care of me when I'm old.. lol.
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F Jul 20

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    I have zero maternal instinct, so I highly doubt that parenthood would pan out well for me.
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I currently live with a roommate who has a baby (approximately one year old). I didn't know I would be living with a baby when I decided to move in, I was told all of the roommates...
    secretgarden22 secretgarden22 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    When im older i want fat kids because i was at a swimming pool today and looking around i saw so many kids with double chins belly hang mobs and lovley belly rolls and i thought i...
    lovebeingfat15 lovebeingfat15 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    Been in back to back relationships for the past ten years and I've only been single for 9 months. I've actually really liked being on my own and getting to know myself again, and...
    dolceharajuku dolceharajuku 26-30, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    People have stared at me wide eyed when I tell them that I do not want kids. They assume that just because I am a female I am going to change my mind later. When I was around 14...
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX 18-21, F 9 Responses Jun 30

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    In this life, normal boring existence just doesn't do it for me. I want to meet the most beautiful girl in the entire world and be together. I want to go to college and meet new...
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    I hate that whenever I say that I don't ever want kids, people reply, "well you'll change your mind." No, no I won't. I'm not nearly caring or sympathetic enough to ever have kids...
    kico4 kico4 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    1. I'm an introvert and love spending time alone but am really popular 2. I can't stand Christmas 3. I'm embarrassed by my family 4. I love my husband but he doesn't try hard...
    justb33 justb33 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 30

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    You are everything as a man I would consider first to get married to And have those cutie baby boys and girls with We would buy a house in a countryside We would spend our days and...
    ItsAnnaLena ItsAnnaLena 26-30, F 8 hrs ago

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    The world is getting cold and it's only getting colder but I don't think it will ever get as ice cold as the hearts of many of our own.Greed,Fear,Money,Religion,etc. these are some...
    PeaceAtSoul PeaceAtSoul 16-17, T 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Hate It When Old People Say Kids Bring Pedos On Themselves
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 36 mins ago

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    I haven't been on here for a while, but I feel the need to really write out my feelings. Two weeks ago I came back home to the Bahamas for a year. I was pretty excited on coming...
    rainee12 rainee12 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    I'm in my mid-30s. I know that isn't old in the grand scheme of things, but I'm getting somewhat nervous that I haven't had any children yet. I'm not married, but dating. The...
    Sdg9791 Sdg9791 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 10

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    1) I am 15 years old 2) I have blonde hair and blue eyes 3) My favorite flowers are daisies and roses 4) I love to travel 5) I have a dog named Sparkey 6) My middle name is Jane...
    ForeverSmiling ForeverSmiling 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    This is actually 150 things about me. This was made by Nathan something from tumblr "150 cute questions" 1. Who was the last person you held hands with? -no one? 2. Are you...
    Yogurtree Yogurtree 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I was 14 or 15 ,,I am not really sure but I believe 15 ,,,I had broke up with my girl friend (a short time later became my wife) and I was staying at Mom and Dads ,( my girlfriend...
    rckt148 rckt148 51-55, M 4 days ago

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    --Chronic Underachiever Ever since I can remember, I have been the "smart kid". I would score much higher on tests even though I hadn't studied and other kids have. I was...
    alcool91 alcool91 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    My story if I told most wouldn't believe half of it.Sometimes I don't believe half of it but it's all true.There are much worse off in this world filled with misery.So to tell my...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I have been really depressed lately my body scared my bed blood stained. No one here love me for who i am they say they do but they dont i can feel it. That and i can see it in...
    Missingu56 Missingu56 13-15, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Not too sure how this all works, can someone help me out heree?
    mariayolandaaa mariayolandaaa 13-15, F 5 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    You ask me to take your body Tho all i want is to touch your heart
    ItsAnnaLena ItsAnnaLena 26-30, F 8 hrs ago

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    My husband works way too much! He is gone an average of 14 hours a day. I have two small children who I take care of and I love them more than life itself, but I am more stressed...
    uraboyimagirl uraboyimagirl 26-30, F Jul 18

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    One morning i woke up from a dream that really changed how i felt about family... Im actually really excited about it. I know how tv sitcom it might sound, but i loved it anyway...
    Jonesing4nice Jonesing4nice 18-21, M Jun 29

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    I read all of the stories and I can relate to them my husband was the sort of man that women adore beautiful in everyway but he is a functioning alcoholic .So I did it I left my...
    sunshineonarainyday sunshineonarainyday 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I only do i playfully to two of my daughters. Esme and Emmy (6) are identical and are the only two of my six kids with ginger hair, even Ethan, their triplet. Me and my wife didn...
    jamieroberthopsen jamieroberthopsen 31-35, M Jul 7

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    I have a job where I'm in my car a lot. I go to the library and sign out CDs. I've been working my way through everything self help, positive, happy, life changing, spiritual...
    MsBlueDreamer MsBlueDreamer 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    Future consequence 2 The six remaining D-warriors hid in the warehouse avoiding the windows to be seen by the police while mourning the loss of two of their friends. "This can't...