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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 Aug 17, 2012

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 21-25, F Nov 9, 2007

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 31-35, M Aug 6

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    One of my worst nightmares is getting pregnant. That would one of the worst days of my life. I dont want kids now, and I'm damn sure I won't want them in the future. I like other...
    rumblingheart rumblingheart 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I had a miscarriage. If my baby was still alive, s/he would be one and one month old right now. I always wanted kids and get married.. As I got older, the more I realized it won't...
    esistmia esistmia 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I have NO interest in having kids. I love kids do not get me wrong, I do I really, really, really love kids and when I see a baby or child I get that warm and fuzzy feeling inside...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 3

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    My husband and his family are pressuring me to have a kid when I told all of them from the start that I did not want any. When my husband and I got married he was fine with not...
    jlyn1681 jlyn1681 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    Ever since I was 14 years old, I never wanted to have kids. I have no maternal instincts and don't like being around kids very long. Even though I live with my parents, I love my...
    inspirelove inspirelove 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I don't want kids. I do enjoy being around children. They're cute don't get me wrong [although they're some nasty ones out there] but, very early on I just knew that I didn't want...
    seakissedjem seakissedjem 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I'm 33 and single, focused on my career. If I meet someone who wants kids, then I may change my mind after we marry. But I don't think I want any to be honest.
    dorothea779 dorothea779 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 6

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    Even though I don't want kids I still get a motherly yearn sometimes, to have the whole experience. But I'm not going to do it. Maybe next lifetime.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    After telling my nieces to stop doing one thing they still do it I hate when they mess with me when im in bed :/ they hit there head edge of the bed kind of annoying I seriously...
    Xxchristinx18 Xxchristinx18 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Don't want kids but I love doing everything that makes them!
    spaceylibra spaceylibra 31-35, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    It's not because I don't like them, or think they're annoying in any way. I just don't want them to grow up in a world like this, I would hate myself if I saw them grow up to...
    MarziJain MarziJain 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    With the way society is and how ****** up the world is i do not want to have kids. Not like any girl wants to date me and kids with me anyways.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M Aug 12

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    Like Ever. I don't want my kid having my issues. I hope I never get pregnant. If so I would turn to abortion,adoption. Check out Safe Haven Laws in your state for parents who want...
    Hannarose Hannarose 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 12

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    I don't dislike children at all...I don't have children and it just simply didn't happen....but, to be completely honest, I have never thought about having or wanted to have...
    purly purly 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Funny conversation at work the other day... Child: Are you a mom? Me: Nope. Child: Whaaaat? Then what are you? Me: I'm just me. I'm a Speech Therapist. Child:...but you don't have...
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    I love my nieces I just wish they listen to me though they listen to my sister of course the mom but they listen to my mom and dad grandparents of course yeah I spank them or dont...
    Xxchristinx18 Xxchristinx18 18-21, F Aug 21

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    My Little Cousins Have Scarred Me From Ever Wanting Them.
    ThatOneGothKidxD ThatOneGothKidxD 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    I freely admit i do not want the responsibility. I know that any child would be better off with any other woman as their mother. I love my nephews, but i also love when they leave...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    Just nope. Had a series of arguments about that with my gf. But this is one line I won´t never cross. I don´t want any extra responsibility on my back.
    Eyesonthesky Eyesonthesky 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 16

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    Sorry but im just not interested in bringing anybody into this ****** up world
    jordanluuv jordanluuv 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 12

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    Giving birth seems bad enough! The cons: - Your vagina is stretched out, and can take up to 9 months to recover. - The first year or two is hell. Waking up multiple times to...
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    Being a mom would be way too stressful.
    iaintcomingupwithausername iaintcomingupwithausername 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    At it again she must love getting slaps from me she my 4 yre old niece thinks im her friend im her aunt blood related I just told her that im bigger then you I tell you what to do...
    Xxchristinx18 Xxchristinx18 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't wish to bring young innocent children into a world so full of **** and crapness.
    littlecrazymia littlecrazymia 13-15, F a week ago

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    TOO LOOOUUUDDDDD my nieces I have loud music playing gaga cause I love her tryna zone them out I keep it a little down just in case my sister tells me something or need or my niece...
    Xxchristinx18 Xxchristinx18 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    Okay so this might be long, apologies in advanced ... I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, officially. We've been in each other's lives for longer. My problem is, I...
    jlflyers jlflyers 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    People have asked me since I'm close to 30 if I want kids. I tell them I need the husband first, then I can think about having kids. And I pray that it's a marriage that will last...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I have everything in life i have dreamed of, to a degree, but i feel like i want to destroy it all. I have the 'perfect' guy who married me and loves me dearly. He's gorgeous, way...
    LeeHart1 LeeHart1 31-35, F Aug 19

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    I was prompted to type this after seeing a question about it. Also, because I wanted an excuse to reference the Cosmic Turtle. I don't want kids. Although I admit it's slightly...
    Aikin2 Aikin2 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    I don't know if I want kids. I don't want them to be left alone in this cold world. I'm scared. At the same time I want a small family. I can't make up my mind.
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F Aug 8

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    Seriously, I think that's my calling...my mum says that it's because I haven't had sex and once I do I won't look back, and my friends just take the ****, but I'm seriously...
    EvaSFenty EvaSFenty 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    [ x] smoked a cigar [ x] smoked a cigarette [ x] kissed a member of the same sex [x ] are/been in love [ x] dumped someone [x ]been in a fist fight [ ]had a crush on an older...
    heyitsabike heyitsabike 31-35, F Aug 7

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    My husband and I have no passion in our marriage. We have basically no matching interests. We do not see eye to eye at all. He wants kids someday, while I do not. Meanwhile, I am...
    saturnsdaughter saturnsdaughter 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    I realize that If i'm going to accomplish, those accomplishments won't mean much unless I have children that are going to bear that legacy. So that's why i want kids eventually. I...
    indosavior indosavior 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I saw this on tumblr and i'm posting it here. State your name: Bridget State the name that your parents almost named you: Abigail Which of your relatives do you get along with the...
    bridgetdarcy998 bridgetdarcy998 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    I have always had this idea of the person I want to be. A working, loving mother with a spotless house, a healthy body (inside and out) and a happy family. Out of all of that I am...
    ziggybaby86 ziggybaby86 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    everyday i live to make the best for my future. sure i get up and go to school because i want to be successful and have a great life while supporting myself but i also do it...
    luvabl3 luvabl3 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I feel there's got to be more to life than what I've been enduring & feeling for so many years. It's burning inside of me so badly, I just need to vent. I never have before... As a...
    michelle0808 michelle0808 31-35, F 13 hrs ago

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    I do a lot of writing but i hardly write about my kids, its not that i don't want to but more how i can put in to words how much they mean to me. I know how much i love them but...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    1. What is your name? Samantha! 2. How old are you? I am 15. 3. Are you sure? Yup, 5 days until I get my temps. 4. What is your earliest memory? My grandpas funeral. 5...
    sammanthaa sammanthaa 13-15, F Aug 15