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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    I personally don't. I don't feel like I'd enjoy

    raising kids. The thought of changing diapers is pretty repulsive, and I don't think I'd make a good mother; I don't think I would be as doting or loving as a proverbial "good mother." Plus, the pain of childbirth is just too much to think about; I know mothers say you forget...
    Boulier Boulier 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Like... You're supposed to have kids.

    And then DIE?! And leave them to cope in the world without you? Egads!! No! I want everything to tie up nicely when I go and not have to worry if my children have cleaned their ears and brushed their teeth two weeks after im gone. No. I can't even handle that thought. And I have...
    prettyprude prettyprude 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    I wanted kids.... Now a medical condition I

    have could cause troubles conceiving..... decided I didn't want kids.... then told i have 14 years still to decide if i want kids.... ohhh the indecipherable
    sgl1207 sgl1207 26-30, F Jun 3

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2014

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 18-21, F Nov 9, 2007

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    back to school shopping used to be easy,

    now is an adventure and headache
    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    Im 17 and decided I want to adopt a toddler,

    some people say Im too young for this desicion, but I think girls my age already have kids so I can decide. Its not like Im adopting now, if I change maybe I will have children of my own, but I doubt it.
    ahache ahache 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    ...

    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I am not really for or against.

    I both kinda dislike those who can be nothing but judgemental towards parents and kids. Stop complaining, saying **** in justification, you dont want to have kids, alright. But also those who have and judge those who dont. LOL, i dont want to be part of any of that really. haha...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    EarthWalkerMan EarthWalkerMan 31-35, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    How many people on this list are really gay ? Or even bi ? There are more young kids on this list than anything . Is being lesbian the new thing ? Seriously.... Like a new...
    KittenHasClaws1980 KittenHasClaws1980 31-35, F 6 hrs ago

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    I don't understand why people get so offended when they find out I don't want children. And then they tell me I'm selfish. Yes ***** I am. Don't pretend like parents are...
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 10 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    Let me ask you all something : Should you sacrifice your happiness for someone else when it comes to kids? Whether it be your boy/girlfriend, parents (or other family members), or...
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I don't wanna sound selfish, but honestly I don't wanna be held responsible for another life when I can barely take care of myself. My mom tells me that she wants me to have her...
    NettyHope NettyHope 18-21, F 4 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    I don't want to tell anyone that I want to be infertile but I do so bad. I feel like my mom would say I'm stupid my boyfriend and his family would be sad because they all want me...
    Loverk3u Loverk3u 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I want to be having kids and being a stay at home mom. I'm old fashioned with the way believe with things. I want to take care of the house, cook, make sure the guy I would be with...
    Love2015xx Love2015xx 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    it really ******* irritates me to no end that people would just ASSUME you're going to have kids. seriously, what the **** is up with that ****? just because someone you know or...
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I get annoyed my kids so easily, its unbelievible.
    nemelabychtubyt nemelabychtubyt 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I think people often underestimate what depression does to a person. I go from externalization/narcissism in dissociative states to internalization/depression. In other words; I...
    Outdoctrination Outdoctrination 18-21 1 Response 3 days ago

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    So after 15 years.... I think I am finally done. I had kids at a really young age. My youngest is now 17 and she will be off to college next fall. My wife however, wants more...
    Lcas6548 Lcas6548 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I have extreme baby fever. I am 21 years old and married to my husband for a little over a year and a half. For a year I've had baby fever. I've always wanted to have kids and...
    arossi2 arossi2 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    kids annoy me allot. i just want to strangle them till they stop moving. i guess i am not fit to be a good parent. thats good for me tho.
    danielfrost1995 danielfrost1995 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    1:I live in America 2: my name is Grace 3: I never get called by my first name, so Grace is my second 4: I have brown eyes 5: I'm 5'3 6: I'm a really, really slow runner...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 13 Responses 4 days ago

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    I feel they inhibit my ability to do as I please
    dethlord dethlord 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    It's not for me, I'm not parental, I don't dislike children, I'm just not selfless enough for them. I've struggled and wasted enough of my life, I want to have some element of...
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    I'd make a terrible mother and I enjoy my freedom too much. Children are horribly expensive and we barely have enough money for the two of us at the moment. Don't get me wrong, I...
    MrsRusty MrsRusty 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    when I say "I'm never having kids" everyone says I will someday. but I will not. never. it's not that I hate children, I adore them. but the patience in me is so non existing. I'm...
    itllkillme itllkillme 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Well at my age there is definitely no option it's definitely a no but maybe in the future depending if I want them then it might still be a no hahaha or convinced otherwise
    NoUsernameInserted NoUsernameInserted 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I feel like I should want them and I like the IDEA of having them, but a bigger part of me is terrified. My husband wants kids and I feel like if I don't have any, I will be...
    krissy343 krissy343 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I've been babysitting my nieces and they are disrespectful and disgusting like no . They are 5 . Children should be seen and not heard at that age .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Motherhood seems miserable and depressing by the thought alone. Not be able to sleep in. And money and time for yourself will tight for a life time. I can't believe Some Women are...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Some is maybe useful.. If a kid has reading problems, then he or he has reading problems, maybe dyslexia, but you dont nessarily judge that right off the bat when he or she havent...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    It's so nice to be able to w/e I want to when I want to when I'm not workin my *** off.
    meltyfawn meltyfawn 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Children remind me of little gremlins. They come from inside you, take your money, and ruin your youth.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 26

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    I want to be a good mother, to be a good girlfriend, to own my own house instead of renting. I want to get married, kids who listen. I just want to be happy. I will never be able...
    motherwhowantstheworld motherwhowantstheworld 26-30, F Jul 26

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    I WANT KIDS. I wanted them years ago. About 10 years ago now in fact. For about 3 years. After that I was just scared to be around lil ones. They're other people's most precious...
    cloudsoflife cloudsoflife 26-30, M Jul 25

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    I'm 22. Not married. Unemployed. hmmm. I dont really care getting maried just want kids like 5.
    hawkeye000027 hawkeye000027 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 25

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    Honestly his 2 kids are so tiring..don't get me wrong I love them like my own but by the end of the day as soon as they go to bed I'm so tired from them..they aren't mine his...
    Devilsdaughter100 Devilsdaughter100 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25