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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 18-21, F Nov 9, 2007

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    Like... You're supposed to have kids.

    And then DIE?! And leave them to cope in the world without you? Egads!! No! I want everything to tie up nicely when I go and not have to worry if my children have cleaned their ears and brushed their teeth two weeks after im gone. No. I can't even handle that thought. And I have...
    prettyprude prettyprude 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2014

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    ...

    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    This is the part of my life that i feel totally confused about. They say "when you meet the right person, it will come to you". And I believe that. I am sure that I can give my...
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    I love kids and I used to want them but I started thinking of all the things that could happen to them in this world and decided not to have any
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    Me and kids = awkward encounter. I could never imagine being a mother ugh even that sounded weird. IM ONLY 21!! Yet my younger sister (16) looks at me all the time and says, "I'd...
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    Ever since I got bullied by my best friends I never ever thought I'd meet someone who would want me. I was skinny,not clever,lonely,and totally hated myself. I met my first...
    Shellster69 Shellster69 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    Been down with very high fever since the middle of the night. Took every ounce of energy just to perform any tasks. Thank goodness the kids have been very cooperative during meal...
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