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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 18-21, F Nov 9, 2007

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2014

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    Like... You're supposed to have kids.

    And then DIE?! And leave them to cope in the world without you? Egads!! No! I want everything to tie up nicely when I go and not have to worry if my children have cleaned their ears and brushed their teeth two weeks after im gone. No. I can't even handle that thought. And I have...
    prettyprude prettyprude 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    I never have wanted kids and never will. I am not a children person can not stand kids. But what annoys me sooo much is when people say " you're still young you'll have them one...
    epsarah94 epsarah94 18-21, F 1 Response May 24

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    My mom let my baby sister be my birth control. My little patience and need for control really messed me up. Over the past two years I've really mellowed out though. I still don't...
    TheRisingPhoenix TheRisingPhoenix 16-17, F 1 Response May 14

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    I wrote a longer post about this before, but I saw this link recently and had to share it. People often act shocked and call me "selfish" when they find out that I don't want kids...
    pixieowl pixieowl 26-30, F 6 Responses May 12

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    My boyfriend broke up with me the other day because he wants kids and I don't. It really sucks. I wish he would change his mind.
    BrittaniBear BrittaniBear 18-21, F 8 Responses May 17

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    I do feel comfortable enough with my cycle to predict with certainty when I am fertile and when I am not so I definitely won't think of any other control birth bullshit (sorry...
    Aurelielavraie Aurelielavraie 31-35, F 4 Responses May 17

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    I'm pretty sure if I don't want them by now, I will never want children. Hell, I can barely stay on top of my two cats. I typically won't date someone with kids, but it's not...
    aderth60 aderth60 31-35, M May 25

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    Nope not me. In the beginning I wanted them and now I rather tie my tubes. I just cringe when I see babies and kids. I lived with my ex bf and his sister who had 2 and at the end...
    Broke2Fabulous Broke2Fabulous 22-25, F 4 Responses May 19

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    Most children are either malevolent and destructive, or annoying and parasitic. I'm not saying it's their fault, just that I would never want to subject myself to that. And...
    MeadowLark4 MeadowLark4 16-17 5 Responses May 13

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    I do not want to bring kids into this crazy messed up world. But I do want to help the ones already here.
    rubyjuly rubyjuly 26-30, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I want to have kids sith someone
    mustangkid2023 mustangkid2023 22-25, M 2 days ago

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    I don't even like girls enough to marry one, and I'm not going to make a baby with someone I'm not married to, I don't like kids that much either. So I guess that settles it.
    AngerPersonified AngerPersonified 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    My aunt is pregnant and I'm so not excited. There are so many babies in the family already and the last thing I want is for someone else to be screaming and crying and throwing a...
    fablikemkat fablikemkat 18-21, F 4 Responses May 13

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    I kind of want my tubes tied when I'm older
    egglab egglab 13-15, F 4 Responses May 14

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    It isn't Mother's Day unless family is "joking" about you being pregnant soon.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 1 Response May 10

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    Apparently, to most people adoption is also selfish. What. The. Hell?
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 5 Responses May 19

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    I used to, but I'm too mentally unstable to really be able to bring up a bunch of brats lol
    crypticcrime crypticcrime 18-21, F 3 Responses May 20

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    So there's a blogging site called ScaryMommy, it's basically a lifetime shot of birth control. Lmao
    prettyboo711 prettyboo711 18-21, F 2 Responses May 24

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    25 years old and I just barely learned to take care of myself. What am I supposed to do with a kid?
    HamSammich90 HamSammich90 22-25, F 2 Responses May 24

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    dating a mom/dad: like continuing from someone else's saved game.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like people should only have children when they feel a strong desire to do so and they have the means to give the child a fulfilling life. I have never felt that strong urge...
    dreamyclouds dreamyclouds 26-30, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I feel like I am too selfish of a person to have kids... I will always be this way. Sure, I may look out for others and take a leadership role, but I will forever do things for...
    RocaAzul RocaAzul 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    She's going through a tough time. Her boyfriend is 21 and she is 22. He is second guessing their relationship because she does not know if she wants kids and he already knows that...
    axclowngirl axclowngirl 22-25, F 11 hrs ago

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    1. My favourite colour is pink. 2. I'm a huge Zelda fan. 3. I find it hard to fit in. 4. I laugh at what other people think is nothing but I'm actually thinking about something. 5...
    HannahSavannah HannahSavannah 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have always felt very feminine and love girly things. I love shopping, girl talk (I was like the gay friend to all the girls but wasn’t gay, just an extreme case of friend zone...
    victoriastar218 victoriastar218 22-25, T 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Yes I want kids. I want 3 kids. I always wanted 6 but that's a lot. If I happen to get 6 I don't care. I would treat them to treat their girlfriend with ton of respect but treat an...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response May 4

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    My 10 yr high school reunion is coming up next year and I have done nothing with my life.I'm a 26 yr old college dropout who lives at home with my parents.I have a minimum wage...
    sandyb123 sandyb123 26-30, F 14 Responses May 13

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    If someone says you'll change your mind, ask them if they want kids. If they say yes, say the same thing.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    i really want to lose weight and become skinny. It's come to a point i am just really unhappy with my body and the way i look. i think i was skinny then i would be happier with...
    internationalkoala internationalkoala 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6

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    It works my kids are really wellbehaved and well mannered! Teaching your kid right from wrong is essential but don't judge me cause I don't spank. I simply don't believe in...
    cheekyhannah36 cheekyhannah36 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I'm not even sure how I feel.. What my true emotions are. Seems like I'm trying to hide the true emotional pain of emotions.. Doesn't make sense.. Just numb them.. Big void in...
    hiddenhaylo hiddenhaylo 22-25, F 7 hrs ago

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    So I met this guy when we were 18. I kinda liked him, but I was on the fence about it, and in my snobby 18 year old wisdom, decided he wasn't worth another thought when he ditched...
    Supersyncsteph Supersyncsteph 31-35, F 1 Response May 19

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    A man was sick and tired of going to work every day while his wife stayed at home. He wanted her to see what he went through each day, so he prayed :- "Dear Lord, I go to work...
    fortisvir fortisvir 31-35, M 5 Responses May 9

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    I want to have a big family. I want to have a lot of kids and take care of them. I want to be kept constantly pregnant. Taking care of the house, kids and my husband making sure he...
    live2014xxxx live2014xxxx 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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