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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    Like... You're supposed to have kids.

    And then DIE?! And leave them to cope in the world without you? Egads!! No! I want everything to tie up nicely when I go and not have to worry if my children have cleaned their ears and brushed their teeth two weeks after im gone. No. I can't even handle that thought. And I have...
    prettyprude prettyprude 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2014

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 21-25, F Nov 9, 2007

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    I don't understand why I'm always demonized for not wanting kids. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have them. They suck you dry emotionally, financially, mentally, and...
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 2

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    I don't want kids because i have mental illness and i know i am not gonna be a good mom. :( And my mom's abuse still affect me today.
    Stephanieloveowl Stephanieloveowl 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Not right now!! I always regret having sex after because I'm afraid I'll have a kid even when I wear protection.... Not sure how likely it is
    mfsc76 mfsc76 18-21, M Jan 8

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    Years ago when I worked in a hospital I convinced a urologist to perform a vasectomy. It was the best decision ever. Now I'm married with a stepdaughter, but none of my own. The...
    mrjordan13 mrjordan13 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 19

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    Rant time: It really ****** me off when I'm asked if I have children & get the whole pity look & act when I say no. I got so sick of it today I snapped ***! I love kids don't get...
    Lovingmyselffirst Lovingmyselffirst 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 12

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    I don't know if it's because of all the experiences I've had working with children but it's definitely convinced me to not have kids. That, and I don't think I'll ever be satisfied...
    EmmyChi EmmyChi 22-25 2 Responses Jan 18

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    I just don't want to bring another person into a world as dumb, judgmental, and racist as this one. Yes I realized that there are good moments, and plus I don't think I could ever...
    CosplayPotato CosplayPotato 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm terrified of kids. I hate them, I can't stand being around them. I certainly don't want any of my own! Haha!
    Leofflaed Leofflaed 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    I never have. I can't have KIDS my CAT is allergic.
    leannabee leannabee 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    About once a month I have a dream where I am pregnant. I consider it a nightmare! Anybody else get this?
    thedokken thedokken 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    someoneforyou12 someoneforyou12 22-25, F Jan 18

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    Bringing a child in this horrible country India is the worst thing I could ever do. I hate my parents for bringing me here. Its the worst country in the world. No way in hell am I...
    Satorax Satorax 18-21, M 9 hrs ago

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    I understand people make jokes because they are uncomfortable. doesn't make it right. I made sure my kids were raised with an understanding of people with disabilities. one life...
    regalshewolf regalshewolf 41-45, F Jan 8

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    Well I have 15 to be going on with! I don't like breakfast in bed - it's too hard to eat toast and drink tea lying down! I met the queen of England - and she didn't lock me in...
    splashUK2014 splashUK2014 41-45, M 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    1. I have a bad habit of smoking. 2. My favorite song is trash by Korn. 3. My favorite movie is Vampire hunter D: Bloodlust 4. I love wolves. 5. I'm 5'3". 6. My favorite games are...
    hinatahyuga809 hinatahyuga809 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    I know it is weird for a man to feal this way. however u do want to meet a woman to have her child with her. if you are a woman and are serious about wanting kids message me back...
    chrissmith1213 chrissmith1213 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    1.i hate being alone at night 2. I have cerebral palsy 3. I still have 12 of my stuffed animals 4. I like watching chick flicks when no ones around 5. I'm planning on being a drag...
    peapot1994 peapot1994 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 2

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    Well, basically I decided I need to write. Plain and simple.. So write away I will... I guess some where along the journey I lost sight of the fact that for the longest time I...
    WaterfallDrops WaterfallDrops 26-30, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I have made bad decisions in my life, and now I've been clean for7-8 years.i lost custody of my 2 girls now 12 & 14 5 years ago.ive remarried and happy, but guilt is getting the...
    jenipoo127 jenipoo127 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    I am a single mom... the kids' dad left us when they were toddlers... for a party life. We have been doing it on our own for 15 yrs. My dad and mom used to help me but they both...
    Howtobeme Howtobeme 51-55, F 5 days ago

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    I started dating my boyfriend three years ago. We are 36 and both have two children each. We both have been divorced from people that made us constantly walk on eggshells. From the...
    Devastated13 Devastated13 36-40 2 Responses Jan 15

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    What you do, always comes with a consequence. Good or bad. ------------------------------- So here's a 100% true story, that is currently going on in my life. I won't say names...
    HannahMarieX HannahMarieX 18-21 Jan 13

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    I am still try to reach that goal. My parents were divorced when I was 8 years old. My mother took me of course and my brother ended up with my brother. I had already discovered I...
    marcycd12 marcycd12 41-45 9 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    When I'm older. I want to graduate college , be married , and know for a fact what career I want. Before I even think of having a baby. But one day I want 3 kids. 2 daughters and a...
    blueybanks blueybanks 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    Sure, we have the freedom to post what we want, even sneak around the EP guidelines, but I believe people should be mindful of what they post, their are kids on this site...
    YellowBrightLight YellowBrightLight 18-21 4 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    EXPIRED though the shot hurt alot you seemed very relieved, you said now you will always come back to me . well A few years later I happened to run to far , I could not see you...
    youreadwhat youreadwhat 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    EXPIRED though the shot hurt alot you seemed very relieved, you said now you will always come back to me . well A few years later I happened to run to far , I could not see you...
    youreadwhat youreadwhat 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    EXPIRED though the shot hurt alot you seemed very relieved, you said now you will always come back to me . well A few years later I happened to run to far , I could not see you...
    youreadwhat youreadwhat 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    But I'm scared of being hurt so lately I'm alone a lot except for my kids being around. I have these dreams of a faceless woman who is as much in love with me as I am with them.I...
    twalkermyconfession twalkermyconfession 36-40, F Jan 18

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    So since this is the last week of the girls vacation, they wanted to spend the weekend with their friends, well I get this call from the mom of Samantha friend yesterday morning...
    jennymomof3 jennymomof3 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    Daniel6814zmz2 Daniel6814zmz2 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 16

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    Okay so here i go i am going to vent because this is the only place i can. I have spent my life taking care of other people. I had to raise my sisters kids because she was addicted...
    metamorphasis metamorphasis 36-40, F Dec 29, 2014

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    After reading everyone's situation it is hard to think my problem is really that much of a problem, but I need to just get it out. I am the eldest and growing up I will admit I was...
    etburki etburki 22-25, F Jan 19

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    I am not saying that I am a great mom or the best in the world but am trying to be. Being a single parent is really hard.My daughter's birthday was last week. She had 2...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 11

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    ClaudNine ClaudNine 18-21, F 12 Responses Jan 13

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    Alexander6935esh5 Alexander6935esh5 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 16

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    Ok where to begin.... I've been dating my now Bf for almost 2 yrs now. At the beginning of our relationship he was this amazing smart funny guy who wanted to have kids and talked...
    lyfe2015 lyfe2015 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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