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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 54 People

    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 21-25, F Nov 9, 2007

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 31-35, M Aug 6

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    I am a bisexual male and found the love of my life. He wants kids but I do not. Obviously we've discussed everything. We're only 20 so now it's not an issue. But he wants kids and...
    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M Nov 30

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    I want kids I want about 4 kids. I love them they are so innocenr and cute. When I get older Ima spoil my kids to death. I cant wait!
    Marcellus15 Marcellus15 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    People always say I'm selfish for not wanting kids.its my choice, my life. I have multiple reasons for not wanting kids. Some reasons may be selfish to you but they make sense to...
    hiddenjem hiddenjem 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 29

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    If I hear another person tell me I'll change my mind, I'm going to kick them. I have wanted kids for the last 10 years and I won't want them for the next 10.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey 22-25, F 15 Responses Nov 29

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    After living with old people my whole life and doing nothing but taking care of them, hell no I don't want kids. People think I'm selfish cause I want to live alone and never have...
    birdoparadise birdoparadise 22-25 2 Responses Dec 4

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    The crying and constant whining isn't something I have patience for. If I tell you to do something once then don't argue about it or ask why, just do it. I can barely deal with...
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    I wanted a vasectomy ever since I learned about it. So when I was 27 I went to schedule it, but the doctor told me since I don't have kids he wouldn't do it. I was persistent...
    mrjordan13 mrjordan13 36-40, M 4 days ago

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    Hello I'm MICHELLE buff by name, I'm giving a testimony about Dr. LAMANO the great Herbalist, he has the cure to all manner of diseases, he cured my herpes disease, though I went...
    Belaluv22 Belaluv22 22-25, F Dec 3

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    I don't want children because they will be like me, I know what kind of child I am, I'm not a good one for sure.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I just don't want that hurt just for selfish feelings .. I could still adopt since this world is overpopulated, i will adopt a grown up bc no one wants them and i dont wanna deal...
    nonorawi nonorawi 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    Any of u see parents out there and u look at there kids and wish u could have a child?
    Youareallbeautiful Youareallbeautiful 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 26

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    After watching and taking care of so many babies and toddlers, I pretty much had my share of child raising. I don't need my own, I'm 18 and already burned out. Plus, there are 7...
    Knixveus5 Knixveus5 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 7

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    I dont want and I cant. Cz Im homosexual I don't know how to sex with girls although I ve tried.
    Chinrussian Chinrussian 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    So they don't feel the same way I do right now, I don't want them to see these nasty creatures that claim to be humans but yet have no humanity.
    AtlPunk1D AtlPunk1D 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    I'm literally terrified of children. I can hardly stand being in the same room as them. I don't know why, but I've always felt this way. I don't ever want to be pregnant or adopt.
    CaliginousHeart CaliginousHeart 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 3

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    I'm infertile anyway so it's just as well.
    LadyRosenberg LadyRosenberg 18-21, F Nov 18

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    please. don't get me into it
    JBStoner JBStoner 41-45 1 Response Nov 30

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    I am the only one of my siblings who can physically have children, and I'm the only one repulsed by the thought of being a mother. Talk about being a disappointment to my parents.
    Donchueven Donchueven 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I've had a vasectomy and it was the best decision I've made as an adult. I now have sex without worry. However, I have one problem - as a married man, should I tell my wife?
    mrjordan13 mrjordan13 36-40, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am not a child-hater or unable to conceive. I just never felt that need to have kids to fulfill my life. I enjoy my freedom to come and go without having to find a babysitter or...
    dreamrgrl79 dreamrgrl79 26-30 Nov 23

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    It's desire of so many years. But my kids were small and I did not want kids to feel bad. Now they are grown up but my wife is not letting me go from her life. I am unable to push...
    Ravidesai Ravidesai 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 21

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    So my folks weren't financially intelligent nor did the bother warning me not to mess up my credit. I'm 31 now and my late teens and twenties are chock full of bad credit and...
    newasexy newasexy 26-30, F Nov 26

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    I am 28. I have wanted kids since i was about 21. But i knew i was young, i wasn't financially stable and i hadn't met the right person. I have been with my fiance for 5 years now...
    babylust28 babylust28 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    The breath taking scenery, different cultures, and it's people...a whole world lays unexplored by me. Those moments you see things that you've never seen before, so Beautiful, so...
    Cooper802 Cooper802 13-15, M 1 day ago

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    I have no kids but over the past few years the urge to impregnate has been growing stronger and stronger each year. I've always worn condoms or simply held back my seed despite the...
    Glenville1978 Glenville1978 36-40, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I am a Nigeria I smile a lot most of the people I come across say I am beautiful I love to read books I got married at 18 to a man I do not luv I love my daughter so much In my...
    dynamitemartins23 dynamitemartins23 22-25, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Before my birth my Mom was told no heartbeat can be found ,your child has died and we need to remove the fetus ,,Mom said no ,,,I want my Mom and her friends to pray ,,they did...
    rckt148 rckt148 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 29

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    HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY? (written by kids) You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it...
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 2 Responses Nov 24

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    Father Jerry (Pat O'Brien) asking Rocky (James Cagney) to "turn yellow" for the sake of the kids in the movie Angels With Dirty Faces, 1938. Jerry wants Rocky to behave in a way so...
    johnny048 johnny048 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 29

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    leanncc11 leanncc11 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Test-up Jewels was staring out the window wondering what answers await her when she gets back to the mansion. What is this new ability she seems to be developing. All this...
    darkwolf19 darkwolf19 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's easy to start one but hard to keep it going. My bestfriend and I made a charity "Give a Smile" foundation , its main focus is to give joy to children , especially...
    PinkLipstick00 PinkLipstick00 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    Starting over can appear to be such a positive event for many people but how come it's 'too good to be true' when it's my turn. Why must my innocent children suffer for mistakes...
    VT100712 VT100712 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    This story isn't true but cute . Jared babysits Olivia Hi Jared says his sister n law Bonnie . Hi Bonnie hi livi he says to his 3 yr old niece . Hi she says . U guys r keeping...
    Dollfan32 Dollfan32 31-35, F Dec 7

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    I will have great family, my parents will be happy together we will have a great house, I will have a great childhood, you know like my mum won't beat me up and my dad won't give...
    aloserlikeme aloserlikeme 18-21, M 18 hrs ago

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    To the God whom i thought i knew, We are an entire generation with the broken pieces of our religion scattered on the floor around us. We are the children who learned fake...
    Ellabella95 Ellabella95 18-21 Nov 26

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    I'm 19 years old, and I have never felt so pressured to be someone else. My family doesn't know anything about the real me. They don't know that I smoke, don't know the music I...
    Weightlessfigures Weightlessfigures 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 29

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    I want to enjoy my free time. I still want to be able to have my interests/hobbies, work( one day I'll be owning my own business), traveling, friends, maybe some volunteering. I...
    ajrestless ajrestless 22-25, F 2 days ago

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