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I Am Not Sure If I Want Kids

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    I Feel Abnormal

    I come from a very traditional, loving family and I recently opened up to my mom and dad that my fiance has two children from two difficult women out of relationships that did not end well. As a result, he does not play the role of an active father and I believe him when he says...
    DLeBest DLeBest 26-30 1 Response Aug 17, 2012

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    I Am Not Sure To Have Children

    Hi, I am 35 years old and the question of having children has be be answered very soon. As some of you, I dont have that feeling of intense need when I see children. As a matter of fact, I didnt want nothing to do with them before. Now I find them very cute wish is an...
    acuadeterra acuadeterra 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2010

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    My wife keeps changing her mind about wanting

    kids. She knows I would like to but she is the busiest person we know and she feels that kids would change her life too drastically. I know she would be a great mom but I also know that it would be very hard for her to give up her lifestyle and she might regret it. It's kind...
    thisisdave thisisdave 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2014

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    I am not really for or against.

    I both kinda dislike those who can be nothing but judgemental towards parents and kids. Stop complaining, saying **** in justification, you dont want to have kids, alright. But also those who have and judge those who dont. LOL, i dont want to be part of any of that really. haha...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M Jul 29, 2015

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    Boyfriend Doesn't Want Kids

    I'm 34 and have been with my boyfriend (with a couple of breakups and get-back-togethers- for four years. I always thought I'd have kids but always told myself, "someday, when I meet the right guy..." etc. Well, I met a great guy, but he has two grown kids and had a...
    SRMaineiac SRMaineiac 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2009

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    At one point a few years ago I really wanted

    too, but recently I have been thinking, and with the current state of this world I am not sure if it would be wise to bring a new life into this world .... if it they would suffer and their life be short
    Ayunir Ayunir 22-25, M Aug 30, 2015

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    Just Not Sure

    Well, I am 22 and I am not sure if I want kids.  I just feel so pressured into "wanting" to have kids, that I just feel that much more unsure.  At this point in my life, I just can't see having kids.  I don't know if this is because I am still young, or...
    Xtina128 Xtina128 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2007

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    Im 17 and decided I want to adopt a toddler,

    some people say Im too young for this desicion, but I think girls my age already have kids so I can decide. Its not like Im adopting now, if I change maybe I will have children of my own, but I doubt it.
    ahache ahache 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 1, 2015

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    On the brigtside, it is said

    that those who doudt will be excellent ^^, because we are not completely sure that we will be just wonderful, that everything will be just so wonderful. Or just wanting for only wanting or something, because that is what you should do or something according to the general...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M Aug 4, 2015

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    ...but My Boyfriend Does

    H ey so I'm really kind of in need of some perspective/advice. Basically, I met this guy and we got involved recently. I have never felt so compatible with anyone – from the most profound things like what we value in life, and they way we relate to people, to the smallest...
    solgirl solgirl 18-21, F Nov 9, 2007

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    Like... You're supposed to have kids.

    And then DIE?! And leave them to cope in the world without you? Egads!! No! I want everything to tie up nicely when I go and not have to worry if my children have cleaned their ears and brushed their teeth two weeks after im gone. No. I can't even handle that thought. And I have...
    prettyprude prettyprude 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 5, 2015

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    .....?

    i never saw myself as the "mommy", more like the cool, weird aunt. i always told my mom that my sister was her best bet for grandkids and she should focus on her. and now i'm married to a natural born daddy. not that i feel any different but i'm seeing it from a different angle...
    juggalove juggalove 31-35, F Apr 27, 2010

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    I personally don't. I don't feel like I'd enjoy

    raising kids. The thought of changing diapers is pretty repulsive, and I don't think I'd make a good mother; I don't think I would be as doting or loving as a proverbial "good mother." Plus, the pain of childbirth is just too much to think about; I know mothers say you forget...
    Boulier Boulier 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 29, 2015

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    I think I'd love to adopt... ...I think.
    ainje ainje 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2007

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    I wanted kids.... Now a medical condition I

    have could cause troubles conceiving..... decided I didn't want kids.... then told i have 14 years still to decide if i want kids.... ohhh the indecipherable
    sgl1207 sgl1207 26-30, F Jun 3, 2015

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    I am a 48 years old woman .I have two kids age 18 and 15 both are dependent on me as they both are studying yet.my story started when I got married at the first time in 1995 to my...
    Nikkikang Nikkikang 46-50, F 4 days ago

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    My energy is severely limited by a disease and I don't think I could physically handle the care for a child. That lack of energy also gets in the way of gathering the money for...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    No i won't be, i refuse to be a verbally abusive lazy alcoholic. Who didn't want kids but had them anyways.
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989 26-30, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I feel I should take the last one I wrote about you back. Not sure where I was coming from with that. Of course love is blind if I can even call it "love" or maybe its me being...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I mean one day sure... Though that's def far into the future
    Qwertman1234 Qwertman1234 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    krazkcatlady3085 krazkcatlady3085 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Do you find it ****** up that most people want you to respect their decision of wanting kids, but they won't respect your decision of not wanting any?
    Peridot23 Peridot23 22-25, F 9 Responses Feb 3

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    Talking to Mandy tonight. TWICE essentially I’ve hit that “Men do it to women so why do you care when women do it back?” from here. I’m like men? LMFY SOME Men. NOT me...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Feb 2

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    Fedup2016 Fedup2016 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 1

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    moonlightflower moonlightflower 22-25, F Feb 1

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    Not having kids is for me a charity act to the world. I believe there are too many people on Earth, and millions do not live good. I think that reducing the number of person would...
    JuPond JuPond 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I knew it! N has been down with (high grade) fever since last week, and finally today i received a call from the daycare centre, asking about his conditions. And now only they...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I always knew I wanted kids. When I turned 33 the maternal urges hit me like a brick wall. I would pine after people's babies. I would feel pangs of envy passing pregnant women- an...
    mommyatheart mommyatheart 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 31

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    I have started to feel more powerfully about this since my friends started to have them themselves. Good, old, Female friends that are essentially permanently off the market and...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 6 Responses Jan 31

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    ImNotAHipster ImNotAHipster 18-21, M 4 Responses Jan 31

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    its me that complicates things i have serious trust issues i met a guy a few months ago and he seemed amazing we had such a laugh and we were gonna meet the next day after talking...
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