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I Am Not Sure If My Marriage Is Worth Saving

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    Seperation

    She is now far away, but will return. I feel uneasy for things will stay the same , even worsen. Grown stepchildren at home, two individuals that never accepted me. We co-exist. One is being released after years in prison, supposedly coming to live in a happy , loving family. I...
    ryksteman ryksteman 56-60, M Dec 27, 2011

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    History Repeating Itself

      I have been married for about 9years to my husband. My two children are from previously failed relationships. Yesterday we visited my aunts house. We cooked out, and had a couple of beers. My 16year old , and 8year old were inside watching movies. A woman, my aunt knew...
    foxiest1 foxiest1 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2009

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    Me A Coward?

    O.K. on Wednesday...I texted him that basically we need to accept that our marriage is over and move on...YEAH I KNOW...IT WAS VERY COWARDLY OF ME...I put that in my text too and apologized...I just could not seem to approach him and say the words without my voice trembling and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 23, 2012

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    6 Yearsh

    I met my husband in high school. I've never been able to connect sexually though. He's sweet and treats me well, but his fantasies are too much for me. I have no desire to be sexual with him. I've had affairs, I always told my husband though. I haven't...
    tellie tellie 22-25 2 Responses Apr 25, 2009

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    Venting...He Proved Me Right...The ALL Suck...All Of Them.

    don't even know if this is where I'm supposed to be posting or not. I'm just in a situation that's just confusing as hell. It really isn't all that confusing...really...I just need to wake up and see the writing on the wall...and ACCPET it. Accept it all. I'm sitting here sad...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    My Dilemma.

    It’s a long story and I know I just can’t get into all the minute details of my married life so please understand that this is a piece of the whole and not the entirety. First, I want to say that I do love my husband and I certainly don’t want to hurt him. Second, he and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    Leaving This Group Today

    leaving this group today...i believe my marriage is worth saving ...hoping and praying that i don't have to revisit it again as a member anyway....thanks for all the support ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 28, 2012

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    Update (To My Dilemma)

    My husband and I are talking divorce. We’ve been separated a couple of times in the past and if we separate again it’s going to be for good. Neither one of us is willing to do this limbo thing. He agreed to go to marriage counseling with me but we found out that our health...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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