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I Am Not Sure If My Marriage Is Worth Saving

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    Leaving This Group Today

    leaving this group today...i believe my marriage is worth saving ...hoping and praying that i don't have to revisit it again as a member anyway....thanks for all the support ...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 28, 2012

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    Venting...He Proved Me Right...The ALL Suck...All Of Them.

    don't even know if this is where I'm supposed to be posting or not. I'm just in a situation that's just confusing as hell. It really isn't all that confusing...really...I just need to wake up and see the writing on the wall...and ACCPET it. Accept it all. I'm sitting here sad...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    Update (To My Dilemma)

    My husband and I are talking divorce. We’ve been separated a couple of times in the past and if we separate again it’s going to be for good. Neither one of us is willing to do this limbo thing. He agreed to go to marriage counseling with me but we found out that our health...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    6 Yearsh

    I met my husband in high school. I've never been able to connect sexually though. He's sweet and treats me well, but his fantasies are too much for me. I have no desire to be sexual with him. I've had affairs, I always told my husband though. I haven't...
    tellie tellie 22-25 2 Responses Apr 25, 2009

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    Me A Coward?

    O.K. on Wednesday...I texted him that basically we need to accept that our marriage is over and move on...YEAH I KNOW...IT WAS VERY COWARDLY OF ME...I put that in my text too and apologized...I just could not seem to approach him and say the words without my voice trembling and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 23, 2012

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    Seperation

    She is now far away, but will return. I feel uneasy for things will stay the same , even worsen. Grown stepchildren at home, two individuals that never accepted me. We co-exist. One is being released after years in prison, supposedly coming to live in a happy , loving family. I...
    ryksteman ryksteman 56-60, M Dec 27, 2011

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    History Repeating Itself

      I have been married for about 9years to my husband. My two children are from previously failed relationships. Yesterday we visited my aunts house. We cooked out, and had a couple of beers. My 16year old , and 8year old were inside watching movies. A woman, my aunt knew...
    foxiest1 foxiest1 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2009

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    My Dilemma.

    It’s a long story and I know I just can’t get into all the minute details of my married life so please understand that this is a piece of the whole and not the entirety. First, I want to say that I do love my husband and I certainly don’t want to hurt him. Second, he and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I'm a 30 year old man. I'm a handsome guy (I like to say I age better than I grew) with a daughter and a stable home. I have a beautiful wife and I love her dearly. We've been...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 26-30, M 14 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 26

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    Huzzah, a lost friend has returned to the fold. :) I became friends with a barista at a cafe I frequent over the space of getting to know her over the last couple years. Her...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 19

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    "You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes, you just might, get what you need"...sic What I need I can't have. What I want I can't get. Oh how my marriage sucks...
    NHotH2O NHotH2O 46-50, M 6 Responses Apr 8

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    My husband has been battling depression for our entire 10-year relationship. It's become a third member of our marriage; a wedge pushing us apart. And I don't know what to do. I...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses 6 days ago

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    My character Marvin.... His uncle screams at him with full force. rage explodes in his fist's the punches all scream the same thing. You good for nothing rat! Your worthless...
    ZE13 ZE13 13-15, F Mar 26

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    So, this is a weird development: He and i talked today. I think he's coming to terms.. or we'll see. I'm going over to my brother's tonight to talk to them about staying there...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    I can't believe it. Over two years and a half years gone....And, let me tell you I have had more sex in these past two years then the twelve years of that relationship combined...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F Mar 26

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    A quote worth pondering for those who are or have been in sexless marriages: ""It's one kind of victory to slay a beast, move a mountain, and cross a chasm, but it's another kind...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F Apr 2

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    Life goes on and I don't want to. I just want it to stop...just for a while to let me catch up to reality.It snowed the day we buried mom...she's next to my dad on top of a knoll...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 13 Responses Apr 2

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    So I first came to EP years ago to discuss my sexless marriage. It has not been easy, a marriage with dwindling sex and now we are close to four years since we last tried. However...
    VanillaLife VanillaLife 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I am curious, if a person is not Christian then where do the guidelines for what to do in marriage come from? This isn't meant to be antagonistic at all, it is a question I have...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 16 Responses Mar 20

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    The issue at hand is far from something most any sane human could handle day to day. It seems as if my in home battle has been going on uncontrollably for several......No honestly...
    MrKnowledgeable MrKnowledgeable 31-35 1 Response Mar 22

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    Just like the title says, I feel alone in my marriage. I don't know how we got to this point, I don't know where we go from here.We fight soooo much its like a routine now. I don't...
    Marie40106 Marie40106 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    March 22 at 8 am my marriage officially ended... my husband is very sad.. I am the only one he has ever loved, and the thought of him finding a new girl makes him feel sick... not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F Mar 24

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    A Discovery of Self....When I first started coming to this website I had a typical everything was okay bar the sex attitude. I still wanted to divorce but I didn't want to hurt my...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    I am no Christian and this information is nothing new to us veterans but I thought it may be worth sharing for a few people. http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2012/11/05/five-dangers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 20

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    He came by tonight. Didn't grab very much stuff. I'm itching to get this man totally out of my life now that the process has begun. I think he's weirded out that I keep wanting to...
    Solonely80 Solonely80 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    I'm 28 and still a virgin.Been a long wait but I know it'll be worth it!
    chenaik chenaik 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    Finding this group has been life changing to me. I always thought that I was alone. I didn't even realize I had so much pain stuffed deep inside me until I read so many stories...
    Splityarn Splityarn 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 21

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    A life without love is not worth living. I wouldn't even be happy winning the mega millions without love even if I could buy every distraction or companion in the book. And I am...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm a 39-year-old woman, married for 11 years I have not had sex with my husband in more than three years. My story is so pathetic. At first it was only a few months and then it...
    Roxie1130 Roxie1130 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    All I do is make people hate me. I guess it's not changeable. Maybe I deserve to be dead. Life can only give me 2 things for enjoyment. My wife, and video games. My wife gets mad...
    Squall1989 Squall1989 22-25, M Mar 29

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    I wouldn't want to be in a sexless marriage, I'd make it a priority to have that alone time with my husband if I was to ever get married, especially with kids. & I sure as Hell...
    alizex7x alizex7x 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 1

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    Ok guys, friends, supporters. I need some wise words for this moment. As you know, I've been taking a sabbatical, trying to have an open mind for when we go to our marriage...
    Lexus45 Lexus45 41-45, F 29 Responses Apr 1

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    In the future I think I wont get married. I don't want to get married. I can't explain why but I feel a hole inside me. In my soul I feel wounded. I keep thinking to myself...
    NoobLove NoobLove 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    Been just over 2 years now... I knew if it stopped it would destroy our marriage. I warned her that we can't stop the sex it will only make matters worse. She will not let me see...
    keepnreal keepnreal 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 9

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    I have always loved the idea of someday finding the perfect guy for me and getting married in some fairy tale scenario. But as I got older and watched relationships around me fail...
    ariel2891 ariel2891 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I talked to my father in heaven about some of the problems I've been having many times recently. Chronic alcohol inebriation, lying, ***********, sneaking to bars at night...
    dave56901 dave56901 31-35, M 19 hrs ago

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    My idea of marriage and the reality of it (for me) are so far off the mark that I don't consider myself to be married. Is that weird? Maybe it should be ended. I may or may not...
    elizabeth111 elizabeth111 46-50, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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