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I Am Not the Person I Used to Be

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    So much of me has changed

    since I've been in my relationship.. I can't do anything.
    TaylorRenee14 TaylorRenee14 16-17, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I'm Brooke. 16 years old.

    I used to be a straight A student, honour roll etc. I played hockey on three teams and took flying lessons when I could. I had a part time job and I was happy. I was bullied at school though and one day I snapped. I just started hitting the girl over and over. I got in...
    BrookeSandhurst BrookeSandhurst 16-17, F 7 Responses Jul 7

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    I have taken several steps back in life,

    but I am still so proud of who I have become. What is life with out set-backs? What is love without fail, or heartbreak? You always have to take a step backwards if you ever want to propel ahead. Think of a maze :)
    wouldntulike2know wouldntulike2know 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Sometimes I want to just.

    ..barrel to the head and kaboom...
    suicideDepression suicideDepression 13-15, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I Am Me~

    No, I am not the person that I used to be. My values have shifted; my needs and desires have totally shifted. If you knew me well thirty years ago, I think you would find me a stranger to your eyes today. I have experienced certain significant emotional events that have changed...
    hillbillycrone hillbillycrone 51-55, F 5 Responses May 17, 2012

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    darrls darrls 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    So, I moved out of my mothers house about a 2

    years ago. I moved out because me and my family lived in a small 3 bedroom apartment in manhattan. I moved in with my boyfriend. We got into a total blowout argument a month ago and I went back to my mothers house. Even though me and my boyfriend worked on our issues I stood...
    BananaAna BananaAna 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    The Best Of Me ~

    They say that I am not to be trusted because I have a sparkle in my eye. They say that I always want things that I cannot have. They say that I am hiding the best of me because if exposed then I am weak. They say that I am cold hearted and unloving because my selfisness haunts...
    zonus zonus 31-35, M 6 Responses Sep 25, 2012

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    I used to be really happy

    and optimistic about everything. Then, I went out with a guy I liked and one of my so-called friends became jealous. She tried to turn a bunch of my other friends against me, and only at least 2 of them actually stayed by my side this entire time. I hear the others say stuff...
    depressixn depressixn 13-15, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    That's what life does to you.

    Through experiences, both good and bad, life changes and develops us. Things that were so important to me once, are no longer such a priority, and vice-versa. My perspective has changed.
    ConcreteSleeper ConcreteSleeper 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 5

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    I want to take an overdose,

    right now. I've done it before, and I think I could do it right. But that isn't who I am anymore. I can't think about my own death without thinking about its impact on everyone around me. I'm not that person anymore. Suicide doesn't make your problems go away. It passes them on...
    Fionndom Fionndom 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    How any times during my life do I have to

    become a different me until I don't know who I am anymore? All I know now that I am able to say say about me, "I am" but how many of my "I am's" am I and why I am not just one "I am" once? And am I who I am really me now? Just because I can say, "I am" now, does that mean...
    MyLady9 MyLady9 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    I used to be shy & never talk to anybody

    sometimes I'm glad I changed because I have lots of friends now & can express myself, but my behavior has changed a lot too. Doing drugs getting in trouble with the police sneaking out I wanna change and be good but it's hard. Sometimes
    lilkalaraxx lilkalaraxx 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    As i get older i really start to hate people

    more and more, i have never been a people person, a bad violent and abusive relationship changed me for the better or worse im really not sure
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 17 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sometimes I feel so depressed I can't figure out

    who I am or the kind of person I want to be. My anxiety is so bad I can't sleep and my partner isn't really any help. I feel alone, tired all the time, and like I have no real friends and I'm not sure what to do. I've thought about checking myself into a mental institution but I...
    kitkate21 kitkate21 22-25, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    My dad recently killed himself I I just want

    other people to know to Never go down this road it causes so Much heartache and sadness it's no Answer to anything
    ekins09 ekins09 26-30, M 11 Responses Jul 26

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    It's a scary feeling,

    it's like you don't know who you are anymore and you don't know what to do next.
    brandontaylor brandontaylor 16-17, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I used to be a scared victim,

    allowing the world to define me by what I had experienced. Now, I am stronger and braver than I realized and once again facing the world.
    SerendipityTheMuse SerendipityTheMuse 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My first relationship was abusive.

    I remember getting so mad one time that I punched the back of his head numerous times. He was emotionally abusive and the few times I felt this emotionally "backed into a corner" like this I erupted with this kind of anger. I am ashamed to this day and I can't even believe that...
    ShareToHeal ShareToHeal 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I used to be a very conservative person.

    After I've been to a variety of places and experienced total different cultures, I became more open-minded and more accepting. Reading also helps a lot. The world changes all the time. Just like people and everything else. It's good to understand the way how things are, and also...
    pnsrstw pnsrstw 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I was at my best when I was about 16 yrs old.

    Friends with everyone, family still appreciated me, modelling agents scoping me. I ruined it all thru bad choices. Now I'm a hopeless loser with 2 kids, no career, no family and no friends.
    Ilovehavingbraces Ilovehavingbraces 31-35, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have always cared for people.

    I also have always needed to work to support my children. I have even worked two and three jobs, leaving my children home with each other as they got older. Before that, I hired a nanny to do things I wanted. When my last job started massive layoffs, I went to school to be a...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    A couple days ago, a friend of mine was telling

    me about 2 waitresses at a cafe he likes to go to. One of them is this super energetic young thing who takes "bubbly" to a whole other level - beyond anything that could be genuine (some people are naturally bubbly, but not THIS bubbly). the other one is a bit older and has a...
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 15

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    I used to be so cares less with my heart

    and body. I don't know why I did the things I did. One time I was travelling in a country across the world and I was alone and very drunk. I was looking for someone to sleep with that night and unsuccessful I walked back to my hotel. One the way I got lost and someone drove by...
    ShareToHeal ShareToHeal 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am not....everything has changed.

    ...some for the good...some for the bad....and some are neither..... I am stronger in my voice....I am guarded with my heart...I don't believe everything I am told....and I know there is BAD in everyone..... I don't trust like I did....and I don't love like I did..... Cruel...
    ladyamelia ladyamelia 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I used to be so happy,

    trusting, fun loving but marriage to someone with an addiction took that from me...
    Timetotalk Timetotalk 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 19

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    tayloralesia tayloralesia 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    How Times Have Changed

    Back in 1995, when I got my divorce I was lonely, scared, and exhilarated all at once living in rural Vermont...but trusting in God, I found my true calling as a screenplay writer...on my own, the Heavens parted and I was rewarded, by faith alone, a soul sister who guided me down...
    starryknight1999 starryknight1999 41-45, M 17 Responses Feb 9, 2012

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    I used to be very social,

    too kind and caring to everyone. I used to smile almost always because no matter what happened, the people that I love and care about were always there for me. I changed when the first time I got hurt by every person I held dear to my heart. No exaggeration here, EVERYONE. It...
    StupidM StupidM 22-25, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Obviously you can't be the person

    that you used to be, we're constantly changing, even if for some people that just means naturally aging. I just broke up with my boyfriend, of 2 years, 2 months ago. I can't say I'm really upset about it either. A little lonely, but I actually feel better. I find myself...
    lilHuman lilHuman 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I want to be the girl I

    once was. I have let guys push me over and today my boyfriend hit me... Idk what to do...
    IRefuseToSink157 IRefuseToSink157 13-15, F 12 Responses 1 day ago

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    My Long Journey

    During my marriage, I was so consumed with making sure that ALL of my husband's needs were met and that I did everything to help and support his efforts in being the man that he wanted to be and needed to be. I spent all my time focusing on him that I didn't realize how...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 30 Responses Nov 14, 2010

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    Um yeah I have changed a lot.

    I used to be mean and now I'm really nice. But I also make a lot more bad decisions. I don't know why I do I just do. I am trying to become an all around good person and I feel like the first step is accepting the decisions and things I cannot change. I feel that I have grown as...
    lexiab123 lexiab123 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Dallas Realizations

    I recently travelled to Dallas to meet some of my amazing ep friends. As seems to be the norm rather than the exception these days, my flights ran late and I ended up spending some time at George Bush International, in Houston, TX. Disembarking from the plane in Houston, I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 8 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    I was extremely shy! Now I became more

    confident, happy, I made more friends, etc.
    gabby1119 gabby1119 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 6

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    Of course we all change

    as years go by. But I am now a different person from my youth. I already told in some other post but I did things I am not proud of. I blame the hard environment I grew up with but there was something inside of me too. Some kind of hatred towards the world. In my case I met a...
    pacodad pacodad 70+, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    suzyq73 suzyq73 36-40, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I use to be fun and I literally wasn't afraid

    of anything. I could stand up for myself and tell things like it is. But now I'm depressed all the time and I'm always afraid and everything I do just doesn't seem right 😣 and for the most part my answer to everything is just one big "I don't know" because I really don't know...
    Jaesus Jaesus 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 20

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    I Lost Me

    Somewhere along the line, I lost the person that I used to be.  I don't know when it happened.  It must have been a slow loss that wasn't as noticable.  Now I have become so far removed from who I really should be (or was) that I'm not sure how to get back there...
    flowrpowr flowrpowr 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2007

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    After being broken several times.

    .. I find it hard to trust now adays.
    itsveee itsveee 13-15, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I lost my husband 5 months ago.

    I feel so lost and alone. But I have to keep moving forward. I miss him so much :(
    hanhphan86 hanhphan86 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I do feel depressed friends r fake family 2 I

    feel alone. Better to be alone just how the world wants to be i keep saying I'll stay away being interacted makes it worse I locked my slef in my room since Thursday till today I am losing my self the world is gray.
    jack912 jack912 22-25, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    necxo necxo 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    I am not the person I used to be.

    I survived his grasp. I broke free of his psychological hold. I crawled out of the depths of hell on my hands and knees not knowing where to go, and I broke free. I am not the person I used to be. I am better.
    Mm8335 Mm8335 31-35, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've always been a faithful gf

    but I never get the same loyalty . I now find myself getting to know other ppl .. The crazy thing is I dnt feel bad. Why??
    HardAsNailz HardAsNailz 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't know but.....

    I really changed a lot. I don't know how I used to be before.... I got betrayed by friends. I betrayed friends. I cried for them. I miss the people I had met in my life but I want to meet new people. I need someone who will accept for who I am... now... I'm not the old me the...
    hooncaramello hooncaramello 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    After being married for 17 years with 2

    beautiful children, my husband left. Mid life crisis I suppose. I suffered on an emotional roller coaster for a few years trying to figure out what was wrong. He was not a talker. Just avoided conflict and never knew how to communicate very well. It took lots of faith and...
    lrj519 lrj519 46-50, F 29 Responses 1 day ago

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    I used to be a nice kid

    and then life came along and made me an *******.
    countryboy96 countryboy96 16-17, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    A Reason To Change.........

    When i was a kid,my father would sit by my bed every night  before i went to sleep and he would say to me-"son if you dont wake up tomorrow,if it turns out that today is your last day on earth,would you be proud of what you have done in this life?..........cause if you are not...
    Borne Borne 22-25, M 10 Responses Jan 27, 2012

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    Whatever you do will always come back to you no

    matter what :) Signed, a changed person following a righteous path ❤️
    TheSimpleButterfly TheSimpleButterfly 22-25, F 41 mins ago

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    I keep my feelings to myself ,

    Yeah i get emotional but at the end of the day all I really have is myself . It may hurt me when he acts the way he does but hey that's life no one is bound to stay with you once you love yourself you'll start to realize what's best for you . Some of you females don't love...
    nicolee778 nicolee778 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 29

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    I'm not at all the person i used to be

    and i don't really know how to feel about it. It is on one hand something i'm really happy about, but on the other hand it's really bad. I would've never Imagined myself the way I am now.
    stonedalone stonedalone 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I used to be a happy kid,

    i was a tomboy, i was friends with all the boys and girls, and i was happy! Suddenly things changed, like everything of the past didnt matter anymore. I started crying more often, everything hurt, it sucks when u can feel everything so deeply! I used to be care-free, happy girl...
    staystrongsu staystrongsu 18-21, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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