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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    My relatives are scattered

    and dead doesn't ran I can't have mor or take Jutin halls crew
    shaunahall shaunahall 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    My estranged Grandfather called me

    before Christmas and wanted to have lunch with my wife and I, I told him I didn't have time right then and he said maybe after Christmas. I never called him back. He called again today, I didn't answer. Now I'm coming out and getting divorced. I really don't want to deal...
    RobertE22 RobertE22 31-35 3 Responses Apr 4

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Saturday, I'm going to be at a big family

    get-together and I'm already dreading the questions such as "how's school?" I also feel very awkward and tense around all of those people... not to mention the boredom that follows.
    thisissamwut thisissamwut 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 3

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    my family doesn't like me.

    i can tell very easily. i'm always the excluded child. my little brother is the clear favorite in the family. he's always receiving the nice phones, shoes, shirts, books etc. whenever i ask for something i end up with the cheap sh*t. i'm a junior in high school and they won't...
    gingergurl22 gingergurl22 16-17, F Oct 30, 2014

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    I was always told by my parents friends

    and my teachers "hey what's the matter with that kid" or "what did you do to that kid" if not that it's "are you hurt? Are you ok?" But they don't get it, I'm just different and I hide on purpose, they just will never understand, I hide because I can't stand the stares sometimes...
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Nov 30, 2014

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    It has hurt me so much to distance myself

    emotionally and literally from my family. Now in my 20s, I look back on my childhood and adolescence and see how i was manipulated and drawn into the family drama when all I should have experienced was a carefree childhood. I can admit to having a lot of resentment but staying...
    sahmmama sahmmama 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    My parents are always saying

    that I'm dumb and I won't have anything in future. Maybe they're right, maybe I won't have a good life... Maybe I should just kill myself then I won't have a good life or still being dumb.
    balloffurxaw balloffurxaw 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    When I say relatives,

    I mean my sister. She is about a year older and we both love each other, but ...Whenever I play games, she snaps at me saying "Thats not homework!!" With the nastiest face you can imagine... It started out as a loving practise, to stop me from playing too much (my eyes were not...
    Roverload Roverload 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16, 2014

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    Damn mother just tells our relatives everything

    personal. Doesn't make sense. She will tell me don't mention nothing personal but her stupid self mentions everything personal
    SparkleBright SparkleBright 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    So, I know everyone has parent problems.

    . But what should I do if my mother is the reason I want to kill myself..? I've tried telling her nicely and respectfully that she's hurting my feelings a lot, but she just laughs at me and tells me things like, "Don't be so dramatic." "Oh, grow up." "Life sucks, then you die...
    DementedKarkat DementedKarkat 13-15, T 5 Responses Apr 22

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    So Easter get together went

    as well as could be expected. I stayed away from everyone but my grand kids and nephews but don't think I didn't pay for it today. I caught hell from my parents about not talking to my siblings. Apparently it's all my fault that me and my sisters don't get along. Don't want...
    bemyfrnd01 bemyfrnd01 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I need help... I'm a trans guy

    who needs saving. My friends don't understand and my family would hate me...
    DaveChambers DaveChambers 16-17, T 2 Responses Feb 6

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23, 2014

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    Having relatives smile in your face

    and mumble negative things about you to themselves are just miserable. If your family doesn't like you then love yourself.
    SparkleBright SparkleBright 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    My big sister doesn't care anything about me.

    She only thinks about her family. She is lazy to talk to me. When I talk to her, she is just not paying attention.
    jadepearl jadepearl 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 2

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    If I had to be honest,

    the only relative I'm close to is my grandma. I don't even know 99% my relatives' names. Also, I am invited to parties, then no one talks to me and I'm the loner at relative parties. Guess that's life.
    plasticnarwhals plasticnarwhals 13-15, F 7 Responses Jan 2

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    ?? I Feel Like They Don't Truly Love Me As Much

    As They Say They Do . Words Mean Nothing To Me . They Have No Action Behind What They Say . All They Do Is Yell At Me , Judge Me And Make Me Feel Like The Dumbest Person In The World
    BabyMera BabyMera 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    I'm in a big family but it's not a close family.

    My father passed away when I was four years old. My mother when she was 76. I have one sister and brother in law I'm close to.Other than that not close at all with many others.Life is what it is,all that matters is I'm very proud of my two children.They're older now and doing...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 19

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    My mum has always been drinking too much.

    .. And I can't really handle it anymore... My brother locks himself in his apartment and never speaks too me.
    StEaMa StEaMa 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I remember clearly being called to the kitchen

    table at the age of 8, and being told that my learning difficulties were no excuse and that I had to get good grades or I would be punished and kept in the house.I did everything they asked, finished school got a well paid job and almost yearly promotions, I found beautiful wife...
    TheLastTripod TheLastTripod 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 5

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    When I was 35 years old this old lady told me

    that I was kidnapped as a baby. I never knew my biological family but the ones that raised me got paid off so I guess it doesn't matter because they're dead too.
    Champ4Life Champ4Life 56-60, M Apr 1

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    I know you're not suppose to hold grudges,

    but it's funny how my Dad aka ***** donor didn't have time for me when I was little. But now that he's older he wants me to make time and give a damn about him!
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I know my family cares about me.

    but I don't feel it. we aren't exactly affectionate so that could be the reason but I don't feel it at all.
    lolaisthebest lolaisthebest 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2014

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    "They're always there

    for you! You'd be nowhere without them!" Said every person ever to teens who hate their parents. But the sad part is that it's true. I wouldn't be anywhere without them and I HAVE to love them back.
    lunarsolar36 lunarsolar36 13-15, T 3 Responses Mar 21

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    Ever since moving to Dallas last year I have

    drifted apart from my family. They all still live close to each other but I feel like they resent me for wanting to get away from the country life, In a way I'm sad but also kind of angry they treat me this way. I'm kind of lonely sometimes but I know it's what is best for me
    SassyGirl923 SassyGirl923 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    My family doesn't keep in touch with me,

    even though we're on good terms. They're Emotionally unavailable and it breaks my heart. I just want a loving, close-knit family.
    electricwaves electricwaves 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    I want to get this off my chest

    because I am feeling depressed today, and repressed...so here it goes: My dad gave me a lot of money for a house deposit a year or so ago. He and I fell out and now he claims the money was an "investment" and he says he wants it back. He doesn't care that he is throwing my...
    MayaKing MayaKing 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I wake up go to school,

    come home do Ma homework have tea go to bed! I never fit into my family I'm always the odd one out, they fit expect me for who I am and they treat me like a peice of **** that has been they for days and rotterd, does anyone feel that way too?
    jazzy0769 jazzy0769 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 17

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