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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    My parents are always saying

    that I'm dumb and I won't have anything in future. Maybe they're right, maybe I won't have a good life... Maybe I should just kill myself then I won't have a good life or still being dumb.
    balloffurxaw balloffurxaw 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    Did you ever get those parents

    that always talk to each other along with their relatives in the same room and when you enter the room they get all quiet and stare at you?
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Dec 30, 2014

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    Except for my parents,

    all of my relatives live out of state. I only see them once in a while, and I'm not close with any of them. I'm close with my parents, but that's it. I'm an only child. I'm single. I don't have any pets. It gets pretty lonely around here. :/
    chilldude82 chilldude82 18-21, M Jan 19

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    While I am close to my parents

    that is about it. I have two brothers, older is an ******* who doesn't communicate with my parents but does with the rest of my mom's family, they are ******** too for not sticking up for my mom. That is why I don't have a close relationship with them because they treat my mom...
    funnyquirky funnyquirky 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 7

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    I can't stand my mother.

    ... She has serious control issues. She still treats me like a little kid and I'm almost 40. She deliberately provokes fights with me and I have chosen to walk away from her... Unfortunately, that means I don't get to talk to my father or get to see my 13 year old daughter...
    MomsAgainstBombTrains MomsAgainstBombTrains 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    not even my parents. my mother died in an

    accident when I was A kid . I had step mom. she brought me up gud way or not so good way. it made a distance between me and my so called family. so I wonder what actually parent love is
    cloudroamer cloudroamer 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    I can't seem to be able to talk to my relatives

    without bein angry with them all the time
    Sneaky84 Sneaky84 26-30, M Nov 30, 2014

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    So I have been the only child

    for 16 years and just last year my mom had a baby and everything just happened so quickly . The past 3 years my mom has been with my sisters' father and sometimes I feel like I don't belong .I would see the 3 of them just sitting and watching a movie together and I'll just go...
    Purpletears17 Purpletears17 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16, 2014

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    The holiday season is

    so annoyingly awkward when you are forced to socialize with people you are supposed to love but feel as if they are strangers;due to how different you are from them.
    xxangellynnxx xxangellynnxx 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    Very nervous about these next couple days with

    all of my family. ****. I'm always sitting in the corner. Of course, my family gets butthurt because they think I hate them. I don't, at all. I'm just in a family full of extroverts. I'm too awkward to engage in family small talk. It makes me uncomfortable and both of us know we...
    junipersun21 junipersun21 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2014

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    I am always nervous when i talk to grandma

    grandpa makes me rlly nervous๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข
    pieface3345 pieface3345 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 1

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    I always felt like an alien,

    its not that my family doesn't love me. It's that I think I was born with another program. My experiences are different, my likes, my ideals....gosh! So many things! Im the black sheep of the family. Also whenever I go visit any of my relatives I feel a lack of energy. We...
    LunaStar89 LunaStar89 31-35, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I really am not the reason being

    because I don't fit in with them. They don't really include me because of some of my actions. I just can't wait till I am a parent so I can treat my kids 100 times better!
    Pinkaboo168 Pinkaboo168 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-รผberconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22, 2013

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 16-17, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    I really don't know what happened.

    I was very close with my relatives I would hardly be inside the house in my bedroom. Instead I would be outside with the family enjoying the cousins and the sweet food my uncles would make. I don't really know what happened , I feel like it was after the baseball incident when I...
    LucasMayo LucasMayo 13-15, F Dec 24, 2014

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    My sisters completely isolated

    and ignored me as a child and now that I'm older they want to be best friends and take me everywhere. I want to be close with them but our relationship feels so fake and the only thing the really connects us is DNA. It makes me sad sometimes because it shouldn't have been this...
    shoyemiberu shoyemiberu 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 9

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    my family doesn't like me.

    i can tell very easily. i'm always the excluded child. my little brother is the clear favorite in the family. he's always receiving the nice phones, shoes, shirts, books etc. whenever i ask for something i end up with the cheap sh*t. i'm a junior in high school and they won't...
    gingergurl22 gingergurl22 16-17, F Oct 30, 2014

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23, 2014

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    I was always told by my parents friends

    and my teachers "hey what's the matter with that kid" or "what did you do to that kid" if not that it's "are you hurt? Are you ok?" But they don't get it, I'm just different and I hide on purpose, they just will never understand, I hide because I can't stand the stares sometimes...
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Nov 30, 2014

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    It was just turning 2014 was 13 my 4 yrs old

    cousin squishy ( Olivia) Totally EVILNESS so I told we on her and when I did she acted sweet as banana pudding!! So she did it again and same thing happened!!!!! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™
    pieface3345 pieface3345 13-15, F Jan 1

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    If I had to be honest,

    the only relative I'm close to is my grandma. I don't even know 99% my relatives' names. Also, I am invited to parties, then no one talks to me and I'm the loner at relative parties. Guess that's life.
    plasticnarwhals plasticnarwhals 13-15, F 7 Responses Jan 2

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    So my brother is 9 years older

    than me and he's gay. I walked in on him last night and his bf and him were having sex...nasty as fuckkk.
    SarahNicole269 SarahNicole269 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 10

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I literally only know a handful of people from

    both sides of my family, even though I have a super huge family.
    phenxmenal phenxmenal 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    Sometimes I wonder if my relatives are close to

    abandoning me they think I'm depressed or sad and I'm not I just have ASD but they won't try figuring it out of course
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Nov 29, 2014

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    Well, considering that

    both of my parents are dead, I think that would be a good enough reason. R.I.P. Mom! I never knew my real Dad.
    NG725324 NG725324 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    I'm in a big family but it's not a close family.

    My father passed away when I was four years old. My mother when she was 76. I have one sister and brother in law I'm close to.Other than that not close at all with many others.Life is what it is,all that matters is I'm very proud of my two children.They're older now and doing...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 19

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    Every thanksgiving I have to see my relatives

    and they're like "hey Luke, wassup" and I'm like "who are you?"
    Lolllipoop Lolllipoop 13-15, M Jan 16

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    If there is one thing I can say about this I

    was different from my relatives also in a creative fashion, they still stared but at last they knew I was worth something, I may have been weird to him, I personally believe there isn't something entirely wrong with me like they say or act like I'm just different they just won't...
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Dec 4, 2014

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    I know my family cares about me.

    but I don't feel it. we aren't exactly affectionate so that could be the reason but I don't feel it at all.
    lolaisthebest lolaisthebest 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2014

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    To be honest I know probably less

    than a third of my family. My dad left me when I was little so I've only met one of my grandparents on his side. My mother's family is spread throughout the US. I live near none of them. I have met three of my cousins, their parents, and my grandmother. I literally have no...
    WhoNeedsAUsername WhoNeedsAUsername 16-17, F 5 hrs ago

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    We just don't talk anymore.

    I'm an only child and my family loves to be alone.
    SpinsHeads SpinsHeads 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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