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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    They're all arseholes.

    Like, every single one. Oops!
    headfuckery headfuckery 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    A Father Who Doesn't Love Me...

    Almost six years ago my parents got divorced and everything changed. Me and my dad were the best of friends until he got married when i was in 7th grade. Slowly he stopped talking to me and stopped trying to see me. He went to Iraq for 6 months and didn't want to see me before he...
    hesmyfuture hesmyfuture 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2009

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    In My Opinion, Anyway.

    I've been part of a family my entire life. It's an over rated experience. In my opinion, anyway.
    IntenseCookie IntenseCookie 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2013

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    Beyond My Immediate Family

    All others I do not relate to; I am just the outcast and feel singled out every time I am with them.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    My Parents Couldn't Parent

    I grew up in a scary dysfunctional family. It wasn't alcohol or sexual abuse but its just as damaging.  Both my parents were very controlling, and if I didn't agree with my mom i was unacceptable-there was cursing at me and physical abuse- I would up staying in my room alot...
    suchanite512 suchanite512 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2008

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    Annoying Relatives ~

    I just try to avoid them as much as I can now. My relatives on my dad's side that is, because they annoy me to the fullest. Everytime they'd stop by, I'd try my best to be hospitable and greet them and try to engage in conversations with them and all they'd do is pick at my...
    Japanties Japanties 18-21, F Jun 9, 2013

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    Or immediate family for

    that matter. They are all very set-in-stone type people. The only person I'm completely honest with in my family is my cousin, and I plan on keeping it that way. My family is so tight-knit tat a lot of them share the same opinions, and that is what makes it so much scarier to...
    rjelliott rjelliott 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2013

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    Parenting Is A Full Time Job

    I probably should be grateful for all that my parents have given me, but somehow I'm not. I mean they did give me food, shelter, a car that I could use, some extras like computer, walkman and a few other things for fun while I was growing up. But they didn't give me the most...
    themelody0 themelody0 31-35, M Mar 22, 2013

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    Rejection

    My family rejects me because of my dark skin. I know this because when I was a little girl I overheard my family talking about me. I thought family was suppose to love, support, and accept you. I thought wrong. What is it about dark skin? Why do people hate dark skin? What did I...
    Losinggame2 Losinggame2 22-25, F 1 Response May 4, 2013

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    I Was An Abused, Therefore Very Anxious Child!

    I still deal with the anxiety I dealt with back then. As I little kid I felt responsible for everyone. To protect everyone. I would not sleep because I felt I had to watch out for burglars, fires etc. Not even my mother knew this-my very verbally abusive mother who is no longer...
    Hannah56765 Hannah56765 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 5, 2013

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    Except My Mother

    I don't have many relatives. Me and my mom on her side of the family.  I was a tough one for her when I was a teenager / young adult.  She taught me to be independent and she sure did reap what she sowed.  I always loved her though.  Even if I didn't show it.  Now that I am...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    Rejected And Still Life Goes On

    I started this as a comment to another person's story, then realized it was so long and full of feeling I ought to post it under stories. I wish it was a story and not fact. Me There's nothing like the feeling that the only reason your 'parents' are keeping you around is due...
    Bluegirl19 Bluegirl19 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2012

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    I Don't Belong

    I feel like I don't belong in my family. I just went to a wedding recently and I noticed that all my aunts were dancing with one of my cousins, linking arms, hugging, and I know that it would just be weird for me to do that. I never really talk to anyone, not because I ...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Too Much Drama

    I'm not close with my relatives for a few reasons. 1.  I am not like any of them.  I don't think like them and I don't live my life like them.  I don't have the same interest as them.  2.  I don't want drama in my life and I don't want to be in others...
    Grits4life Grits4life 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 28, 2008

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    I Don'T Know My Aunts And Uncles

    I have the worse family life ever.. On my dads side my grandma had kids from two different guys. My grandpa took my dad and his brothers and my grandma ran away with her kids from a different baby daddy. So, my dad never really got close with his other brother and sisters. My dad...
    Krudd10 Krudd10 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    No Contact Not Close

    Life with my mother was very difficult from a young an age as I remember. There were many small things she did, plus the things she didn't!It was strange - even looking back now it never quite made sense. She was there to take me and brother for days out occasionally but never...
    XanthiaJo XanthiaJo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    Growing Up With My Crazy Alcoholic/Drug Addict Family

    Growing up wasn't the greatest experience for me it was when I was a kid because I didn't know any better. I thought that family get togethers were about all the adults getting drunk/high and fighting each other, wow was I ever wrong. I grew up with active alcoholism from all...
    RHorne1990 RHorne1990 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Not Like I Was Before,now Its Just Weird

    cause I hardly every see them,and when I do its kind of a big deal and we do all the hugs and stuff,but I seen them on christmas I went to my aunts house(and tons of people weer there)(and everyone asks how your doing and what do you do now,and all that annoying stuff) and there...
    PRETTYGIRLHATESTHEWORLD PRETTYGIRLHATESTHEWORLD 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    According to My Mother I Was Her and My Fathers Biggest Mistake

    I was born to a 15 year old  teen.She didnt even stay in the hospital long enough to see if I would live she went to live with her father and left me  in there  3 months later I was released to my maternal grandma and  step grandpa .I was 15 before I ever met...
    littleboyblue16 littleboyblue16 18-21, M 14 Responses Aug 5, 2009

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    Far Yet Too Close

    My siblings and I have not been in close touch for almost three years now.By this I mean,we have not seen each other for that long but we talk so often.A number of times is when there's a problem for instance when they want me to do them a favour in terms of giving them money...
    Omaweito Omaweito 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I Feel Alone Despite I Come From a Big Family

    I was raised only knowing my mom's side of the family who hated my dad. My mom left my dad when i was about 6 months old as he chose work over the family. As i grew up I was raised mainly in foster care and little contact with either side of the families.Ive been very vocal about...
    bilow72 bilow72 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2008

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    We Are Not Close....

    We grew apart when we moved out of town to the farm. We had to learn to build up new relationships at a very tender age. Being a last born, this has made my life a bit harder because my siblings have their own families now, and I dont know how well I can relate to them. Am...
    Jeliza94 Jeliza94 26-30, F May 7, 2013

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    Well this is awkward,

    but yes... I'm not close to my relatives... Since I was born, I never grew up in a stable place. Like I had to move to different countries because of my father's job. Living in foreign countries for 3-6 years(lived in 4countries) and coming back was never a help for the...
    reisquared reisquared 18-21, F Apr 3

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    My relatives are awful awful people.

    Even though they're so horrible I still blame myself for them not liking me
    fozza fozza 22-25, F Jan 12

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    I Have A Large Extended Family That I Don't Even Know...

    I haven't met most of my relatives. I've only heard about most of them. And I haven't seen most of the ones I have met since I was a kid. I haven't even met my grandmother. I also haven't seen most of my cousins in ages. I have a half-brother that I met when I was really little...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F 2 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Its Getting Better !

    I come from a strange family, but yet we where kind of close growing up. I feel we would be close even now if it wasn't for my mom, but it is getting better .   
    libertybalanced libertybalanced 46-50, F Jul 30, 2013

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    Snobbery & Control

    My closest relatives by relation not distance are always too busy to share any good times or positive experiences w/me. They are always busy busy busy. Yet when they come to visit, every 10 years or so, they have plenty of negativity to dole out. Oh, you should do this and oh...
    4vrUnique 4vrUnique 46-50 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    X-treme Dysfunction!

      My parents have nothing to do with me. Long story really but suffice it to say that when I stopped forcing myself on them with visits and phone calls, there was NO contact at all between us. It showed me that they really didn't care at all. They have never held their...
    MattyAnomaly MattyAnomaly 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    I Don'T Know Them

    I don't know their birthdays, I don't know whose children are whose in terms of cousins I haven't even met half of them the ones I have met I don't have anything to talk about. Some don't even speak te same language I do and some justdon't bother making contact with anyone in the...
    ForeverIsOver ForeverIsOver 13-15, F Apr 5, 2013

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    Dont Know Them!

    That story is actually a short one! I know I got somewhere uncle aunt cousins but I never actually saw them! My father...better..***** donor ....is out of my life since I was 10 and my birth mother the same!u And there is no need that they come back :) I am absolutely happy as it...
    highlandfan highlandfan 16-17, M Feb 21, 2013

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    Pain.

    I have very vague memories about my family. It's weird because at the occasional "family parties" I can't match names with faces. These parties usually end with fist fights, or drunken arguments. I guess this act of distancing ourselves was second nature. But, it wasn't always...
    FarrahRelates FarrahRelates 18-21, F Apr 3, 2013

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    What Relatives?

    I have 7 step brothers and sisters who I hardly have any contact with. 2 of them i have never even seen. I am not close to them at all. It feels strange to have so many relatives out there that i have never met or will never have a relationship with. When they call me, often it...
    Explosive Explosive 41-45 2 Responses Aug 28, 2008

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    I'M Not

    It seems that I was isolated from most of my relatives when I was growing up. I had my aunt and uncle who lived nearby and 3 cousins. I met a number of relatives but we sort of lived differently or so I imagined and they didn't visit us much. Some actually came wanting money...
    ashleerox ashleerox 22-25, F 2 Responses May 7, 2013

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    I Just Don't Fit In !

    I just came home from an easter party we had with the whole family and relatives. It was like every year. The only thing I enjoyed was the drinks I had. Everybody else seemed to have such a great time together but I was just not comfortable with them. When I was younger it was...
    Real2Ann Real2Ann 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 15, 2012

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    I wish I were still close with them!

    But moving countries, growing up, getting older and having our own lives, we all Just grew apart.
    OliveGreen13 OliveGreen13 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    Rather Be An Orphan- I was an introverted,

    antisocial(never any friends), hard to please only child.My world included only me&my parents. My mother never visited her relatives unless someone had died(too many drama loving folks in Florida for her taste)&my father rarely had time to go back to Macedonia to visit his...
    ZolotayaWurola ZolotayaWurola 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Better Off

    The only family I am close to are my children and grandchildren, an aunt and a cousin. My parents are deceased, so they don't count in the close department. The rest of my relatives are drama riddled and judgemental. Can't tell the truth to save their lives. Some of my family is...
    amberreflections amberreflections 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    The Title Is Earned

    Even though I'm an only child, I have never been close with any one of my family members. My parents are both immature individuals, and now that I am older, I realize this even more, but still don't understand why. Honestly, my family did nothing for me, and if I was to never...
    naturali naturali 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2009

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    Regret Not Having A Close Relationship With Family, But What Am I Going To Do?

    My family really has never been close.  My mother and father divorced when I was three.  My dad was as good a father as he could be, although he was emotionally distant, and my mother was a loving mother, too, in spite of a mental illness.  I never received any guidance...
    soozyq soozyq 51-55 Dec 27, 2010

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    Best Friend Fantasy!

    Last night I had a dream that me and my best friend were having sex. It began by her texting me and telling and asking me to be her girlfriend. I was in shock in my dream and it felt so real. That same day she came over and we were in my room and she began to kiss me. When we...
    awkwardgirlbi awkwardgirlbi 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 13, 2012

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    Family And Me = Nothing

    i never really new my family nor did i care too i usually stay with my mom and grandma but my grandmother gets on my ever loving nerves and my father and i hardly talk he calls me i don't care to answer my phone cause he says he's always going to see me yet he doesn't and for...
    Crazybunny101 Crazybunny101 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    Fine With It

    My family history is rather complicated. When I was born, both my parents were estranged from their families. The first years of my life were spent with little to no contact with any family aside from my parents and my little brother.My mother's family disowned her for marrying...
    TheRealJade TheRealJade 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2011

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    For the past few months I've been living with

    my dad and he's been pretty much taking all my money. Well I've gotten back into the children's lives. And since I've been working I've been giving money for them. He had a major problem with that because e feels that I should be taking care of him. I didn't come here to take...
    HighYellaKoolChris HighYellaKoolChris 26-30, M Jan 7

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-überconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    Wish I Was!

    All my friends have these close relationships with their cousins and grandparents and stuff and its weird, seeing how close they are. I've never had a relationship with any of my cousins. I can't even say I've ever had a relationship with anyone from my family and it saddens me...
    nataliaangel nataliaangel 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2011

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    Only A Few.

    I've never been close to any of my family members except for my grandpa, gramma, mom and dad. A few cousins too. With everyone else I just feel extremely awkward around... I don't even consider them to be my family. They are just like any other average people that have no...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Hatred Everywhere

    Well i guess i don't hate them, but the only thing they gain from me is respect. My dad's side of the family is horrid. Let's have a short background. My dad cheated on my mom plentiful times that he made two other babies with two other women. My family and i know he's doing it...
    Dapperness Dapperness 16-17, F Aug 18, 2013

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    I was adopted, and grew up with a very

    conservative, Christian, Republican family. My father was verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive. My parents are in their late 70's now, and I have not been back to visit them in years. They refuse to acknowledge any of the things that happened to me growing up. They also...
    darkpathwalker darkpathwalker 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    Family? Whats That

    my relatives lives pretty close to me and yet no of them talk to me send me messages or even say hi, when i ask them what they are doing for the weekend or any question that might result in me getting to know hem better i get told the excuse that they are busy and that they dont...
    leftoutforever leftoutforever 26-30 3 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    This Is Going In This Group By Default

    This is an excerpt of the letter my mom sent me yesterday. Mind you, it may not seem like such a big deal to you, but when she does this ALL THE TIME via snail mail, email (sent to my spam account, of course) or tells me on the phone, it gets annoying and frustrating. I seldom...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 18, 2013

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    Mine Aren'T Worth The Time Of Day

    They have always treated me badly. Now I don't talk to any of them. But that means no family holidays for me. What's worse? Being alone on the holidays or spending it with people who would prefer you weren't there?
    Suze2 Suze2 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    My dad, he's.. got his other family to worry about and I love my mom so much. I'm not close with him but then again I don't put any effort in trying. It's just not that big a deal...
    mahnouls mahnouls 16-17 1 Response Apr 13

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    To say I'm not close to my father is an understatement I hate him and he knows it In fact I'm closer to my step dad than my real dad
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M Apr 3

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