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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    Rejected And Still Life Goes On

    I started this as a comment to another person's story, then realized it was so long and full of feeling I ought to post it under stories. I wish it was a story and not fact. Me There's nothing like the feeling that the only reason your 'parents' are keeping you around is due...
    Bluegirl19 Bluegirl19 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2012

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    I'm always yelled at

    for no reason and always accused of seething that I didn't even know happened.
    Marie2201 Marie2201 13-15, F Jun 8

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Family And Me = Nothing

    i never really new my family nor did i care too i usually stay with my mom and grandma but my grandmother gets on my ever loving nerves and my father and i hardly talk he calls me i don't care to answer my phone cause he says he's always going to see me yet he doesn't and for...
    Crazybunny101 Crazybunny101 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 22

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    No I am not. The ones

    who live close to me are very wishy washy and will poke you in the back with the plastic butter knife (which ends up breaking and is just annoying) whenever it is to their convenience to do so. Everyone else just lives to far away resulting in we never really got close...
    Jericho7 Jericho7 36-40, M 2 Responses Jun 5

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    I have always felt like an outsider in my

    family. I was never treated that way. Don't get me wrong I love them but I have a hard time relating to them. I tend to compensate friends as family. Is that strange?
    anonymous5021 anonymous5021 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 14

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    Where do I begin with this venting I'm about to

    do. First off, I'm going to remind myself that I was not always so distant from my relatives. But things beyond my control changed that. And honestly, I can't say I care too much. The issue, I believe, is the fact that I was left to just be around my dysfunctional immediate...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 9

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    Too Much Drama

    I'm not close with my relatives for a few reasons. 1.  I am not like any of them.  I don't think like them and I don't live my life like them.  I don't have the same interest as them.  2.  I don't want drama in my life and I don't want to be in others...
    Grits4life Grits4life 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 28, 2008

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    Dead To Everyone Except My Sister-Everyone

    who reads my stories know my older brother murdered our parents. My father's family immediately lawyered up and refused to believe my brother had done it. We had been living in France for a few years by then, but by citizenship we were American/Canadian and our relatives sought...
    BlackMoroccan BlackMoroccan 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 22

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    I've always been the black sheep of my family

    because they never accepted me for being gay
    Stan52 Stan52 61-65, M 3 Responses Jun 21

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    Not Like I Was Before,now Its Just Weird

    cause I hardly every see them,and when I do its kind of a big deal and we do all the hugs and stuff,but I seen them on christmas I went to my aunts house(and tons of people weer there)(and everyone asks how your doing and what do you do now,and all that annoying stuff) and there...
    PRETTYGIRLHATESTHEWORLD PRETTYGIRLHATESTHEWORLD 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    Most of my relatives live far away from me

    so I don't see them regularly only on special occasions ( Christmas, Easter )
    tajjonez tajjonez 13-15, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Wish I Was!

    All my friends have these close relationships with their cousins and grandparents and stuff and its weird, seeing how close they are. I've never had a relationship with any of my cousins. I can't even say I've ever had a relationship with anyone from my family and it saddens me...
    nataliaangel nataliaangel 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2011

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    I Have A Large Extended Family That I Don't Even Know...

    I haven't met most of my relatives. I've only heard about most of them. And I haven't seen most of the ones I have met since I was a kid. I haven't even met my grandmother. I also haven't seen most of my cousins in ages. I have a half-brother that I met when I was really little...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F 2 Responses May 8, 2013

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    My girlfriend thought this was kind of strange

    (since she's very close with her family)... then she met my family and she didn't think it was strange anymore.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 7

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    I have bad memories associated with my uncle

    so I rarely visit them, even though they want me to go golfing or something. I just can't. I may not be able to remember much about my uncle, but I do know he used to make me change in front of him. Other things happened, but because I can't remember, I don't want to be near him...
    DarkSoulInsaneHeart DarkSoulInsaneHeart 13-15, F 3 hrs ago

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    Racist annoying and down right ignorant.

    Yup that's what I have to live with. You can't pick your family, but you sure can ignore the hell out of em
    JuBear424 JuBear424 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    Better Off

    The only family I am close to are my children and grandchildren, an aunt and a cousin. My parents are deceased, so they don't count in the close department. The rest of my relatives are drama riddled and judgemental. Can't tell the truth to save their lives. Some of my family is...
    amberreflections amberreflections 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Ok so im living with 6 people in my house,

    a grandmother,a step-grandfather,a half uncle,my mom,stepdad and my half brother and honestly i dont have a close relationship with any of them,my grandmother and i argue all the time we really dont get along and she treats me in an unfair way and she and my mom dont get along...
    cbrb123 cbrb123 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Or immediate family for

    that matter. They are all very set-in-stone type people. The only person I'm completely honest with in my family is my cousin, and I plan on keeping it that way. My family is so tight-knit tat a lot of them share the same opinions, and that is what makes it so much scarier to...
    rjelliott rjelliott 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2013

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    You can say that again -.

    - I was adopted when I was seven by the barbie and ken family. Seriously, rich spoiled brats. My mother oh dearest is "30" and orange, small clothes and more fake body parts than a doll factory. My sister is a screaming banshee... kinda reminds me of the banshees in fable 2 xD...
    MusicalGamer MusicalGamer 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Its messed up, thats all

    that I can use to describe my family. They are all picture perfect or smart. My parents try to make me like my older sister and brother. The only person I was close to was my younger sister who... well she isn't around anymore. My sister is the perfect daughter, and worse sister...
    ForeverForsakened ForeverForsakened 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 11

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    Only A Few.

    I've never been close to any of my family members except for my grandpa, gramma, mom and dad. A few cousins too. With everyone else I just feel extremely awkward around... I don't even consider them to be my family. They are just like any other average people that have no...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    think it is cos i was adopted never had

    that deep family relationship not much good as a parent either as have lost touch with 3 sons somewhere along the way
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T Jun 6

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    Literally and Emotionally I am in a wonderful

    place in my life right now. I am happily married to a wonderful Man and living in the US with him, my two step-children and my daughter. It has been a bumpy ride getting here and I wish I could share it all with my family in England , but we have fallen off. My family has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 22

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    Rather Be An Orphan- I was an introverted,

    antisocial(never any friends), hard to please only child.My world included only me&my parents. My mother never visited her relatives unless someone had died(too many drama loving folks in Florida for her taste)&my father rarely had time to go back to Macedonia to visit his...
    ZolotayaWurola ZolotayaWurola 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9

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    I've always felt like a stranger in my family,

    from as young as I can remember. I am nothing like either of my parents, my brother, half-sister from my mother or half- brother from my father. I have a wonderful husband, 2 beautiful children and the most amazing friends anyone could ask for. I know I am blessed, but sometimes...
    Ilybob Ilybob 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 11

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    For the past few months I've been living with

    my dad and he's been pretty much taking all my money. Well I've gotten back into the children's lives. And since I've been working I've been giving money for them. He had a major problem with that because e feels that I should be taking care of him. I didn't come here to take...
    HighYellaKoolChris HighYellaKoolChris 26-30, M Jan 7

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    Fine With It

    My family history is rather complicated. When I was born, both my parents were estranged from their families. The first years of my life were spent with little to no contact with any family aside from my parents and my little brother.My mother's family disowned her for marrying...
    TheRealJade TheRealJade 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2011

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    Family? Whats That

    my relatives lives pretty close to me and yet no of them talk to me send me messages or even say hi, when i ask them what they are doing for the weekend or any question that might result in me getting to know hem better i get told the excuse that they are busy and that they dont...
    leftoutforever leftoutforever 26-30 3 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    Never been close with them.

    Both sides. My family is somewhat like the "black sheep" of the families. None of the sides cared much abt us. Except my dad's 3 of many siblings. I dont mind them not caring abt me, but please dont forget their own siblings, who are my parents :,(
    enragedmisfit enragedmisfit 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    My relatives are awful awful people.

    Even though they're so horrible I still blame myself for them not liking me
    fozza fozza 22-25, F Jan 12

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    Well, to elaborate, I didn't meet my real father

    until I was 30. And he is an intellectual who loves to talk history and little else, but our relationship is alright. I am semi distant with my Mom, who takes a spiritual tangent on everything, even probably with ordering a hamburger. My brothers and sisters live in other...
    4k5dii 4k5dii 46-50, M May 6

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    A Letter To My Siblings. (cross Post)

    I wrote this letter to send to my siblings (all five of them). I'm the youngest of 6, with an 8 year gap between my next sibling. I recently found out that my parents were separated for quite sometime and that there's a slim possibly that my father isn't my real father. He was...
    TheDood TheDood 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 25, 2012

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    Growing up my parent weren't very affectionate.

    I'm the middle child, I guess it's true what they say lol I always felt like I didn't belong. I have two younger sisters, their twins were 9 years apart so we never had much in common. It was always so awkward when we were in the same room we didn't say much or make eye contact...
    sanity85 sanity85 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I Don't Belong

    I feel like I don't belong in my family. I just went to a wedding recently and I noticed that all my aunts were dancing with one of my cousins, linking arms, hugging, and I know that it would just be weird for me to do that. I never really talk to anyone, not because I ...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    My boyfriend is out camping with his family.

    I'm beyond jealous to the point it hurts. My family isn't close with eachother and I'm not close with them. My friends don't understand how bad I want that close family that does anything and everythjng together. Has fun together. I love camping and all those fun things. I just...
    saxophonegal22 saxophonegal22 13-15, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I was adopted, and grew up with a very

    conservative, Christian, Republican family. My father was verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive. My parents are in their late 70's now, and I have not been back to visit them in years. They refuse to acknowledge any of the things that happened to me growing up. They also...
    darkpathwalker darkpathwalker 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    Snobbery & Control

    My closest relatives by relation not distance are always too busy to share any good times or positive experiences w/me. They are always busy busy busy. Yet when they come to visit, every 10 years or so, they have plenty of negativity to dole out. Oh, you should do this and oh...
    4vrUnique 4vrUnique 46-50 1 Response Mar 31, 2012

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    In My Opinion, Anyway.

    I've been part of a family my entire life. It's an over rated experience. In my opinion, anyway.
    IntenseCookie IntenseCookie 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2013

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    X-treme Dysfunction!

      My parents have nothing to do with me. Long story really but suffice it to say that when I stopped forcing myself on them with visits and phone calls, there was NO contact at all between us. It showed me that they really didn't care at all. They have never held their...
    MattyAnomaly MattyAnomaly 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-├╝berconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    Unhappilymarried34 Unhappilymarried34 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I wish I were still close with them!

    But moving countries, growing up, getting older and having our own lives, we all Just grew apart.
    OliveGreen13 OliveGreen13 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I Just Don't Fit In !

    I just came home from an easter party we had with the whole family and relatives. It was like every year. The only thing I enjoyed was the drinks I had. Everybody else seemed to have such a great time together but I was just not comfortable with them. When I was younger it was...
    Real2Ann Real2Ann 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 15, 2012

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