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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23

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    I have 5 half siblings much older

    than me, 2 brothers and 3 sisters. My one brother lives in the Caribbean, but he comes to visit sometimes and calls sometimes. My other brother lives in Texas and is the only one who definitely cares. I haven't spoken to one sister in 8 years, the other in 7. One is jealous I'm...
    oksarah oksarah 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 18

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-├╝berconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    My stepdad....don't even know

    where to start. He's an *******,obnoxious,loud, and just think that he's God. It's all about money with him and I understand the need for money but he takes it to the limit. I can't even to begin to describe my dislike for this man.
    ksh909 ksh909 16-17, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I need some advice on how to cope with my

    father in law. My wife does not get along with her mother because she cannot see any way to enjoy her time with her so limits her interaction and therefore my interaction with her. She blames her for a lot of interference and trouble in her life which I can respect. On the other...
    AlwaysCravingMusic AlwaysCravingMusic 31-35, M 3 days ago

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    I wish I got to hang out with my older cousin

    more because she is really mature and she is what I wanna be like when I am her age. Very independent. But whenever there is like a family outing, my mom doesn't want to go. So obviously neither can I.
    justxaxgirl justxaxgirl 13-15, F Sep 19

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    But I am close with my uncle.

    I saw him in the hospital again today and he can finally talk with the trache put in as long as the voice box thingy goes on it. Somehow the discussion got about me and he was saying how I have a hard life but I'm a strong person. Stuff like that. I dont know. It was just very...
    blahlahblah599 blahlahblah599 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    I am not close to anyone

    as a matter of fact, relatives or otherwise.
    Anth9012 Anth9012 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 11

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    My parents are dead, My grandparents are dead,

    I come from a large family, but I don't see or talk to any of my siblings, Aunts, or Uncles. Not even my nieces or nephews. I was living on my younger sisters property, helping her run a business, and when she decided she was "done" with me, she turned our mutual friends and...
    colliesjournal colliesjournal 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    Unhappilymarried34 Unhappilymarried34 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    Good morning everyone,

    lets start the fight for survival where every person staring at you in this world!!!
    nitindia nitindia 31-35, M Oct 14

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    This title is kinder putting it mildly to be

    honest. As I have 5 older siblings, cousins all over the U.S and uncles and aunts all over the Carribean. And I can honestly out of all of them; i respect my mother, consider her eldest brother my best-friend in the world,and talk to my father every other day of my life with out...
    OpenlyGay82 OpenlyGay82 31-35, F Oct 19

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    I only knew my dad a couple years,

    never want to see him again. Everyone else in my family seems to leave me out. So I'm not close with anyone in my family by any means.
    crazygirl365 crazygirl365 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I feel like a burden to my family.

    I feel like I don't want them to do anything for me bc they want something back. They think if the give financially or in other ways it will help me be close with them. I like to spend most of my time myself and both my step parents don't understand that and take it personally...
    SacredMelody SacredMelody 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 5

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10

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    My parents always talk crap about all the

    things my relatives have done to them so I never see any of them. Not even my grandparents. I don't care very much anymore.
    walkinwonder walkinwonder 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 11

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    I Don't Belong

    I feel like I don't belong in my family. I just went to a wedding recently and I noticed that all my aunts were dancing with one of my cousins, linking arms, hugging, and I know that it would just be weird for me to do that. I never really talk to anyone, not because I ...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    They are angry my boyfriend is black

    and I am white.. Only person who still talks to me in my family is my 13 year old sister. I feel very lonely at times and I keep reliving my ****** up childhood and the negativity my mother and father passed on to me.. I just want a loving family I can go to of I am sad or need...
    prettylove2 prettylove2 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 15

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    I can't stand my mother.

    ... She has serious control issues. She still treats me like a little kid and I'm almost 40. She deliberately provokes fights with me and I have chosen to walk away from her... Unfortunately, that means I don't get to talk to my father or get to see my 13 year old daughter...
    MomsAgainstBombTrains MomsAgainstBombTrains 36-40, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Thank you for welcoming.

    I really want to share my feeling with people who are in same situation . I have tried to be good wife, mum and mother-in-law. But now I feel I have failed in all these three relations. I am trying my best to change all this but do not know how!! Kus
    kusumlata kusumlata 66-70, F 1 Response Oct 18

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    I'm much closer to my dad

    than mum ever since I had a pregnancy scare with a girl last year
    Turtleisland97 Turtleisland97 16-17, M Oct 14

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 19

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    I've always wanted a close relationship with my

    mum. She doesn't validate my feelings, when I tell her something she seems to 'not get it' and she always wants the conversations to be about her.....
    lilyrose345 lilyrose345 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 13

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16

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    Am I making the right decision

    for moving out because of what's going on at home?
    kenner17 kenner17 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    Dead To Everyone Except My Sister-Everyone

    who reads my stories know my older brother murdered our parents. My father's family immediately lawyered up and refused to believe my brother had done it. We had been living in France for a few years by then, but by citizenship we were American/Canadian and our relatives sought...
    BlackMoroccan BlackMoroccan 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 22

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    It's not that I don't want to be,

    I'm just so different from them. I like books, and Star Wars and they like shopping and parties lol
    jillibelle3 jillibelle3 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 9

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    I'm so distant from my relatives,

    that I clearly don't define them as " Family ". I don't think they understand what that word should mean.
    TryingHard18 TryingHard18 41-45, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    I'm not very close with my family I have three

    siblings and I'm the only one left in the house. I'm so lonely my mom and my step dad work all the time and when they are home they are to busy fighting to even notice I'm around. The one thing that kept me going so I wasn't as Lonely was my cat. I know that may sound sad but it...
    ksh909 ksh909 16-17, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    Except for my uncle. I saw him in the hospital

    yesterday again and I told him everything that's been going on with me. My aunt happened to be in the room (his wife) as well so she heard but i dont think she will tell anyone. He told me a couple things of advice. It's hard for him to talk so he was shaking his head the whole...
    blahlahblah599 blahlahblah599 16-17, F Oct 4

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20

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    im not close with any of my relatives.

    im a complication to everybody.
    shannon2468 shannon2468 13-15, F Oct 4

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    My mother suffers mental illness

    but will never admit it for a real fear of being labeled "crazy". It has caused her to say and do some truly nasty things over the years and has pushed family and friends away. Three suicide attempts (that I know of) and several hospitalisations are still not enough to convince...
    dunstanborough dunstanborough 41-45, M Oct 14

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    my dad's side of the family hates me

    so much the looks they give me are filled with such loathing
    cookingaubrey cookingaubrey 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    X-treme Dysfunction!

      My parents have nothing to do with me. Long story really but suffice it to say that when I stopped forcing myself on them with visits and phone calls, there was NO contact at all between us. It showed me that they really didn't care at all. They have never held their...
    MattyAnomaly MattyAnomaly 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    I know my family cares about me.

    but I don't feel it. we aren't exactly affectionate so that could be the reason but I don't feel it at all.
    lolaisthebest lolaisthebest 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 25

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    I remember as a child how my father abused my

    mother, I remember how he was very jealous of my mother giving me affection. I think that is one of the reasons he would abuse me physically. He'd come home intoxicated and find any reason to hit me. I am the oldest of 6. Four boys and two girls. I recently seized all contacts...
    mloya38 mloya38 36-40, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    My little sister is having a baby

    and my family isnt even upset. Yet when i had my pregnancy scare i recieved a two hour lecture followed by a four month lockdown. Here is a picture of the familys perfect child and the black sheep of the family...
    warriorfera warriorfera 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 8

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    Only A Few.

    I've never been close to any of my family members except for my grandpa, gramma, mom and dad. A few cousins too. With everyone else I just feel extremely awkward around... I don't even consider them to be my family. They are just like any other average people that have no...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6

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    My dad is coming to town to see my sibling's

    family. Did he even tell me he is coming? Nope. I will have plans all weekend since it's obviously not worth giving me advance notice- if he planned to tell me at all. And my mom... I appreciate her concern, but KEEP OUT OF IT.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    galaxygurl galaxygurl 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 19

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