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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    I am the sole caregiver of my mother in a

    nursing home. She's been there since 2011. My sisters wrote me off over a year ago and they had my dad join their "camp" in May. That is my family, except my sweet mother with Alzheimer's. I spend a lot if time in grief over this dramatic rejection. They will not tell me, nor do...
    5cubby08 5cubby08 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 9

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    Only A Few.

    I've never been close to any of my family members except for my grandpa, gramma, mom and dad. A few cousins too. With everyone else I just feel extremely awkward around... I don't even consider them to be my family. They are just like any other average people that have no...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 24, 2011

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    Wen I was young my mum took me a way from my dad

    and left me at a children's home and it was bad i was hit and all the time and now i have a trouble at night time now wen i won't to sleep i can't i have to cry my self to sleep all the time it was not easy now i am broken for eternity
    dx123jo dx123jo 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 11

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    X-treme Dysfunction!

      My parents have nothing to do with me. Long story really but suffice it to say that when I stopped forcing myself on them with visits and phone calls, there was NO contact at all between us. It showed me that they really didn't care at all. They have never held their...
    MattyAnomaly MattyAnomaly 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    My name is Cherrelle Russell.

    And I Don't have contact with my relatives anymore, and for various of good reasons. I come from a very toxic, abusive , and dysfunctional family. My so called biological father is mean and very evil to the core. He's hated me since I was born. This man physically abused me and...
    alexis32ou28 alexis32ou28 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    SadDumbBlind SadDumbBlind 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 10

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    You can say that again -.

    - I was adopted when I was seven by the barbie and ken family. Seriously, rich spoiled brats. My mother oh dearest is "30" and orange, small clothes and more fake body parts than a doll factory. My sister is a screaming banshee... kinda reminds me of the banshees in fable 2 xD...
    MusicalGamer MusicalGamer 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    It's not that I don't want to be,

    I'm just so different from them. I like books, and Star Wars and they like shopping and parties lol
    jillibelle3 jillibelle3 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I don't have much in common with my parents.

    So I don't to them much about crushes, life, and stuff like that. I mostly confide in a friend I have know since kindergarten. We are sophomores now. I'm not as religious as they are. I like rock. They don't. I love anime. They find it weird. We don't see eye to eye. I don't...
    Arcencielx Arcencielx 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    Literally and Emotionally I am in a wonderful

    place in my life right now. I am happily married to a wonderful Man and living in the US with him, my two step-children and my daughter. It has been a bumpy ride getting here and I wish I could share it all with my family in England , but we have fallen off. My family has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I hate my family. After years of trying to get

    some love and respect from them I have cut them off as best as I can. I say the best that I can because my wife gave them our phone number and my cell number (thinking that she could help "patch things up" between them and me). My father left when I was 7; I have never been...
    JimJustJim JimJustJim 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 18

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    In all honesty whenever I am with my family I

    feel like I don't belong. Everyone in the family is the same except for me. Like the jokes they tells are so like just overly sexually gross and I'm just like 0.0 well f@!k my appetite and everyone says I look like my family members but in all honesty I don't see it. Idk in all...
    lostdream4 lostdream4 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I find this really sad

    but I don't get on with my family at all. They don't understand me and I am tired of trying with them and never being good enough. Trying to accept that some things can't be changed you can't wish people to be different or for them to care the way you need them to
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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    I'm going through a dark time in my life

    and relationship. My sister came to town last summer to "be supportive," but got drunk and made an *** of herself - I had to babysit her throughout her visit. She didn't ask how I'm doing, she just started drinking. My mom hasn't asked if I'm ok either, even tho she and I...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    My Family Died With My Dad.

    .. Its Like they did. There's no one to talk to or text or share really happy stuff with and get and give hugs. They've all gone their separate ways.
    Radformula7 Radformula7 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    luiscastellanos luiscastellanos 22-25, M 3 Responses Aug 19

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    I am the youngest of four,

    the only boy. So you could say for sure I was spoiled. Looking back on it, I was treated to cash, clothes, vacations, really anything I wanted. Money was used in place of love for love. Growing up, I was closest to those in my family who were not blood relatives. My grandpa was...
    WaterOx WaterOx 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 7

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    It seems most of my family come in pairs like

    Noah's Ark. I don't think I was born for this family ark because I am the only one who doesn't have a family buddy. I am the only cousin my age and so everyone is either much older or much younger. I was always too young to do this or too old to do that. Lol it was lonely...
    InfiniteSunshine InfiniteSunshine 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 30

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15

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    I'm not that close to my mom

    and dad or even my sibs , it's like I can't open up to them and tell them what's wrong with me . I feel like I'm trapped in a box when I try to explain things to them
    Strange143 Strange143 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 15

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    I only knew my dad a couple years,

    never want to see him again. Everyone else in my family seems to leave me out. So I'm not close with anyone in my family by any means.
    crazygirl365 crazygirl365 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    In My Opinion, Anyway.

    I've been part of a family my entire life. It's an over rated experience. In my opinion, anyway.
    IntenseCookie IntenseCookie 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 27, 2013

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    When I was born my mother

    and father were in a long-term extra-marital affair; my father was married to a terminally-ill woman, my mother a divorcée. My mother believed and hoped that one day they would be married. At the time nearly forty years ago, it was considered shameful in the extreme to have a...
    softgreenhourglass softgreenhourglass 36-40, M 4 Responses Sep 7

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1

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    Dead To Everyone Except My Sister-Everyone

    who reads my stories know my older brother murdered our parents. My father's family immediately lawyered up and refused to believe my brother had done it. We had been living in France for a few years by then, but by citizenship we were American/Canadian and our relatives sought...
    BlackMoroccan BlackMoroccan 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 22

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-√ľberconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2013

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    I keep in touch with my father.

    .. I keep in touch with my grandmother (fathers mother).. But few else.
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I Don't Belong

    I feel like I don't belong in my family. I just went to a wedding recently and I noticed that all my aunts were dancing with one of my cousins, linking arms, hugging, and I know that it would just be weird for me to do that. I never really talk to anyone, not because I ...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    My family hates me. No joke,

    they tell me all the time. And I pay rent. At 15...
    hiself hiself 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 5

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    Unhappilymarried34 Unhappilymarried34 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    Im going to od on pills

    and killmyself tonight.
    sammyanon sammyanon 13-15, M 10 Responses Aug 17

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    I hate my sister in law

    and have lost all respect for my brother and it cant be earned back. **** them both. They have never been part of my life and never will be.
    OverWorkedWoman OverWorkedWoman 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 11

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    I haven't talked to my dad

    or seen him in about a little over 5 months.i usually would see him every two weeks which may seem far but it was the luckiest I got . Him and my mother have been divorced since I was about 3.He is with a girl about his age but I don't like her she can be mean and annoying! Well...
    Matti1412 Matti1412 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I wish I got to hang out with my older cousin

    more because she is really mature and she is what I wanna be like when I am her age. Very independent. But whenever there is like a family outing, my mom doesn't want to go. So obviously neither can I.
    justxaxgirl justxaxgirl 13-15, F 5 hrs ago

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 18 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Family And Me = Nothing

    i never really new my family nor did i care too i usually stay with my mom and grandma but my grandmother gets on my ever loving nerves and my father and i hardly talk he calls me i don't care to answer my phone cause he says he's always going to see me yet he doesn't and for...
    Crazybunny101 Crazybunny101 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    Am I making the right decision

    for moving out because of what's going on at home?
    kenner17 kenner17 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 28

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    When I think of relatives,

    I don't think of close family, like parents and siblings. More like aunts, uncles, cousins. I'm actually closer to relatives on my husband's side than on my own side. On my side, there's the liberal relatives (mom's side) and the ultra conservative relatives (dad's side). I...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F Aug 4

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    Rejected And Still Life Goes On

    I started this as a comment to another person's story, then realized it was so long and full of feeling I ought to post it under stories. I wish it was a story and not fact. Me There's nothing like the feeling that the only reason your 'parents' are keeping you around is due...
    Bluegirl19 Bluegirl19 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2012

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    I have no connection with my blood relatives.

    My father only took me to see my grandparents for Christmas. I was very close to my grandfather until he passed away. Until a few years ago I didn't even know my mother or her side of the family. My mother has vanished on me and I have stopped contact with my Aunt. Seems like my...
    halfdead25 halfdead25 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 14

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    I'm very good to my family however they don't

    appreciate everything I do for them. I'm 24 years old my father left me when I was 9. I had a rough childhood my family takes advantage of me. My sisters only come around when they want something. My mother acts like she cares about me but deep down inside she don't. I come from...
    sara1279 sara1279 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 18

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    Grief in a daily basis

    because my blood family has written me off. My dad can't stand the idea that in sacrifice for the woman he tossed away. My mother has Alzheimer's. And my two sisters are finished with her. So I am very blessed to have numerous friends. People I will spend all of eternity with...
    5cubby08 5cubby08 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    Related Experiences

    I have never been terribly close with my father, though it probably doesn't help that even my earliest memories I have are bad ones. When I was very very young, maybe three, my...
    DemonFeyLove DemonFeyLove 18-21, F Sep 4

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    It is by choice. I love my family bit don't like them much. I was treated as if I was put on this earth to serve. I never knew any better, thought it was my position. I was...
    jeanola jeanola 41-45, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I'm not very close to my dad but I would like to be. I know he's not perfect but he's honestly trying to be a better father. He's trying to stay clean and sober and he even has a...
    JustinAlixander JustinAlixander 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 28

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