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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    ?? I Feel Like They Don't Truly Love Me As Much

    As They Say They Do . Words Mean Nothing To Me . They Have No Action Behind What They Say . All They Do Is Yell At Me , Judge Me And Make Me Feel Like The Dumbest Person In The World
    BabyMera BabyMera 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    While technically I have family/relatives I

    don't claim them anymore. After my father and mother was gone (passed away) I lost what family I claimed. Most of the rest of the family has lied to me, sent me to the hospital (2 times near death), destroyed my property, stole from me. The list goes on. The ones that hasn't...
    vovine123 vovine123 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 22

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I don't see my cousins,

    uncles, auntes and not even my real siblings often. My Parents are home most of the time but there is no emotional bonding. I have 2 older sister and 1 younger brother. My oldest sister got married and now gone, well according to my parents the disowned her. She did'nt mind...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 12

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    My mother has told me in a roundabout way it's

    ok if I die as long as I don't kill myself. That way the insurance policy she has on me covers my death. So I sit here now and wonder why no matter what horrible things I tell her I've been through, she just keeps her mind on what she's doing, and I don't get a word. Things...
    Rdmthoughts Rdmthoughts 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 22

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    I've had/have off and on depression

    and have had issues with cutting for about a year and none of my realitives know. Wouldn't want them to anyways but it would be nice to be noticed by your parents...
    GoodNightWorld GoodNightWorld 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    My uncle keeps posting these stupid

    conservative posts on FB...I was happy to respond to his post with another picture....
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I've never felt particularly close with most

    members of my family. They have always been the judgmental type of people I generally prefer to avoid and have never shown any real signs of being interested in me as a person or in how things were going in my life. The only questions they would ask, and things they wanted to...
    TheGreatLeveler TheGreatLeveler 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 30

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    As the token lesbian of my family,

    I have been disowned, homeless and by myself for a long time. I lost my full ride in college due to the stress of my family disowning me, I've been winging it ever since.
    ohsnapsitsnina ohsnapsitsnina 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    granicepayn granicepayn 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 9

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    When I was 8 my dad got stationed near his

    mother and that was great. My grandfather is dead but I was able to ride my bike to go see grandma every day. Then we had to move again and she doesn't text or email so I lost most contact with her. I don't know most of my other relatives. I get to go see grandma a couple of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 3

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    This was not always the case.

    I grew up on a tight knit matriarchy but when I began to travel I also began detaching from those I loved. My wanderlust, desire to be free, and the many close deaths I experienced resulted in going years without communicating with my family. As the years went by, deaths...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 30

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I have never been close to my relatives.

    Not cousins, aunts or uncles, grandparents, no one. And -for the last seven years- have not even been close with the family I grew up in. =/ Kinda the saddest thing. Almost Ever. Anyway, yesterday was my birthday... And I thought I wanted to get on here & share my joy in...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    Beside my parents and my sister I don't really

    have a relationship with my extended family. I don't know half of my father's side of the family and the aunts and uncles that I do know, I see so rarely I doubt they even know my name half of the time. I cut off ties with both of my aunts on my mother's side. One because she's...
    Klong91 Klong91 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    I can't stand my family.

    I look at them with disgust and hate that I'm apart of this group of people. I hate that I'm similar to these people because I hate everything about them!!! Ugh they are too judgmental and close minded. I just don't share their views and opinions, it makes it very hard for me to...
    lovehate25 lovehate25 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    My boyfriend and I just moved into an apartment

    together. He gave his two younger siblings keys to our apartment, I do feel uncomfortable with the idea because I like my privacy. He allows them to stop by whenever when we are not there. It's not that I don't trust them but I wasn't raised so open to having people even family...
    findingpeacewithself findingpeacewithself 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    so my conservative uncle posted his daily

    anti-Bruce Jenner post in which one of his friends wrote, "Jenner is disgusting"...I was sooo tempted to write back "so is your profile pic and ted nugent"
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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    My relatives will always speak of how im

    so quiet or how i never spend time with them, but in reality every time i do spend time with half my relatives they always pick out my flaws and make me feel uncomfortable. Or the other half always ask me "how are you doing school?" Or "how are you?" Which im always going yo say...
    magnolian magnolian 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16, 2014

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    There's nothing worse

    than having no family around you to support you through a difficult time
    danyellelakin danyellelakin 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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    About 4 people in my family knew about my

    husbands affair ! Including my father! So now I have no reason to speak to them and it hurts really bad !!!!!
    meanpeoplesuck1 meanpeoplesuck1 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    Because they all think

    that I'm the bad daughter who moved out at 21 and completely cut ties from them at 33. But they don't know that I'm running from my parents who abused me and my sisters. Both parents sexually molested us. Dad also physically and mentally abuse us. It's so much pain that I still...
    mrbrat mrbrat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    we resently had a family reunion

    and i didnt even no the names of my uncle and cousins and the only 2 i did no the names of i didnt no which 1 was which (they are not twins but they are brothers who look simular)
    hater2610 hater2610 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    Except my Aunt & Uncle.

    .. Out of, like, 15 aunts & uncles. =) Just a few in my family that I feel free to fully be me with. And I'm working on that, I am. But, yeah, it's been a long road. *Which, amusingly enough, I'm ON right Now... Hah!! A "long road"... ;) ***I'm headed to Cali -by bus...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F Jul 29

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    My mum is all I've got left.

    I had no siblings. My father threw us into bankruptcy on a whim, and then cheated on my mum. My extended family on my dads side don't want anything to do with me due to a family feud with my grandad & grandmum. Those two don't want to be near me because I'm Bi and disowned me. I...
    Radomguy1000 Radomguy1000 22-25, M 3 Responses Aug 13

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    My only family is my mom.

    The rest are either racist, abusive, or just too far away. I always wanted a big and close family. My boyfriend's family is very close, and sometimes I pretend they're my family too because I'm so sad about my broken one.
    healedbydamage healedbydamage 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I haven't always made the best choices

    but I've been on a good life path. My sister is a recovering meth addict and has been an on and off addict for about six years. My mother is a cancer survivor, and one of the most amazing, loyal, and caring people I've ever met in my entire life ( not only because she's my...
    isthebell isthebell 18-21, F Aug 2

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    Its true. I found out how much I'm not welcome

    right after my parents died. I got married and moved. I don't recall turning my back on anybody. but as of recent, I decided its time to actually Turn My Back. so I did. Let me be the one to say," It Feels really Good!" Not looking back anymore. Hope everybody is Happy but...
    Isodonotcare Isodonotcare 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    i think they stick their noses

    where they shouldn't! wbu?
    ghostlover3009 ghostlover3009 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 15

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    Only my Dad's Side because they feel

    that they are so much better than me with all that Materlistic ****. Look down on you because your not kissing their behinds Never
    yvettemae48 yvettemae48 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 30

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    Most of my family was actively doing drugs

    for a long time. I refused to help. some how, the relationships were never repaired once they got clean... I think they are mad at me for not helping them become better drug addicts. .
    piebackwards piebackwards 26-30, F 1 Response