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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    My relatives will always speak of how im

    so quiet or how i never spend time with them, but in reality every time i do spend time with half my relatives they always pick out my flaws and make me feel uncomfortable. Or the other half always ask me "how are you doing school?" Or "how are you?" Which im always going yo say...
    magnolian magnolian 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I have never been close to my relatives.

    Not cousins, aunts or uncles, grandparents, no one. And -for the last seven years- have not even been close with the family I grew up in. =/ Kinda the saddest thing. Almost Ever. Anyway, yesterday was my birthday... And I thought I wanted to get on here & share my joy in...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    The only family I really know is my mom's side.

    They all either older than me or babies. At family parties I mostly just stay with my brother or the only two cousins who I'm actually close with. It worries me that one day, these people are going to be the only family I have left. All these cousins I've never talked to are...
    madnyss madnyss 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 19

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    So, when I was about 10 my dad got remarried to

    my now Step-mom, at first she acted like she liked me. She was trying to be my best friend or whatever, but I noticed that she treated my older cousin (who was about 17 at the time) like complete ****. Well, I just passed it off as my cousin not liking her very much, because to...
    IcySongBird IcySongBird 18-21, F 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Except my Aunt & Uncle.

    .. Out of, like, 15 aunts & uncles. =) Just a few in my family that I feel free to fully be me with. And I'm working on that, I am. But, yeah, it's been a long road. *Which, amusingly enough, I'm ON right Now... Hah!! A "long road"... ;) ***I'm headed to Cali -by bus...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    ?? I Feel Like They Don't Truly Love Me As Much

    As They Say They Do . Words Mean Nothing To Me . They Have No Action Behind What They Say . All They Do Is Yell At Me , Judge Me And Make Me Feel Like The Dumbest Person In The World
    BabyMera BabyMera 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I'm also emotionally detached from them

    and I'm an introvert .-.
    xDepression xDepression 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 3

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    I haven't always made the best choices

    but I've been on a good life path. My sister is a recovering meth addict and has been an on and off addict for about six years. My mother is a cancer survivor, and one of the most amazing, loyal, and caring people I've ever met in my entire life ( not only because she's my...
    isthebell isthebell 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    granicepayn granicepayn 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 9

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    I don't enjoy being with my family

    for long periods of time because it's filled with awkward side hugs and "how's school for you" conversation
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 20

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    Forgot, an honest mistake

    when walking around with a broken foot and unfamiliar crutch battling a head and chest cold and working twelve hours, simply forgot to pay the mortgage. Remember how much I hate Greentree? I hate them even more. They called the fools who think they are in charge of my life and...
    jaymepopejoy jaymepopejoy 56-60, F 1 Response May 30

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Only my Dad's Side because they feel

    that they are so much better than me with all that Materlistic ****. Look down on you because your not kissing their behinds Never
    yvettemae48 yvettemae48 46-50, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Sometimes I think part of my extended family

    have no realization that I live in the same state...my aunt wrote "happy birthday from the Pacific Northwest"..I wrote back "Thanks from the Pacific Northwest"
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 1

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    I can't stand my family.

    I look at them with disgust and hate that I'm apart of this group of people. I hate that I'm similar to these people because I hate everything about them!!! Ugh they are too judgmental and close minded. I just don't share their views and opinions, it makes it very hard for me to...
    lovehate25 lovehate25 22-25, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    most of my siblings will lie to your face

    if they can either feel empowered about what they're lying about or they just cant help themselves. I got so tired of the constant drama and manipulations. cut them out a long time ago abd have been the better for it. contrary to popular belief, you CAN cut toxic people out of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    we resently had a family reunion

    and i didnt even no the names of my uncle and cousins and the only 2 i did no the names of i didnt no which 1 was which (they are not twins but they are brothers who look simular)
    hater2610 hater2610 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    Most the family I adored

    and cared for the most casted me off. They don't keep in contact with me and don't care.
    xDepression xDepression 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 3

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    As the token lesbian of my family,

    I have been disowned, homeless and by myself for a long time. I lost my full ride in college due to the stress of my family disowning me, I've been winging it ever since.
    ohsnapsitsnina ohsnapsitsnina 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    When I was 8 my dad got stationed near his

    mother and that was great. My grandfather is dead but I was able to ride my bike to go see grandma every day. Then we had to move again and she doesn't text or email so I lost most contact with her. I don't know most of my other relatives. I get to go see grandma a couple of...
    Becky2002 Becky2002 13-15, F 25 mins ago

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    I like my family, but I often feel

    as if I am the exact opposite of all of them. They are more of the "nosy" type, they all seem to have poor listening skills, and they are always too worried about things instead of just living their lives. I like to deal with everything calmly and up-front, whereas the rest of...
    Aylehn022 Aylehn022 22-25, F Jun 3

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    Cosmic0Potato Cosmic0Potato 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I've never felt particularly close with most

    members of my family. They have always been the judgmental type of people I generally prefer to avoid and have never shown any real signs of being interested in me as a person or in how things were going in my life. The only questions they would ask, and things they wanted to...
    TheGreatLeveler TheGreatLeveler 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 30

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    While technically I have family/relatives I

    don't claim them anymore. After my father and mother was gone (passed away) I lost what family I claimed. Most of the rest of the family has lied to me, sent me to the hospital (2 times near death), destroyed my property, stole from me. The list goes on. The ones that hasn't...
    vovine123 vovine123 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 22

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    so my conservative uncle posted his daily

    anti-Bruce Jenner post in which one of his friends wrote, "Jenner is disgusting"...I was sooo tempted to write back "so is your profile pic and ted nugent"
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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    There's nothing worse

    than having no family around you to support you through a difficult time
    danyellelakin danyellelakin 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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    Because they all think

    that I'm the bad daughter who moved out at 21 and completely cut ties from them at 33. But they don't know that I'm running from my parents who abused me and my sisters. Both parents sexually molested us. Dad also physically and mentally abuse us. It's so much pain that I still...
    mrbrat mrbrat 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 28

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    My mother has told me in a roundabout way it's

    ok if I die as long as I don't kill myself. That way the insurance policy she has on me covers my death. So I sit here now and wonder why no matter what horrible things I tell her I've been through, she just keeps her mind on what she's doing, and I don't get a word. Things...
    Rdmthoughts Rdmthoughts 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 22

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    Long story but on my dads side to include

    brothers and sisters. Not since I was kicked out of house and homeless at age of 12. I wont talk to them. Screw them. Its been 29 years since ive spoke to anyone on dads side and brothers and sisters. My Moms side i try to be close but im very recluse and private and my people...
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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