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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    So, I know everyone has parent problems.

    . But what should I do if my mother is the reason I want to kill myself..? I've tried telling her nicely and respectfully that she's hurting my feelings a lot, but she just laughs at me and tells me things like, "Don't be so dramatic." "Oh, grow up." "Life sucks, then you die...
    DementedKarkat DementedKarkat 13-15, T 5 Responses Apr 22

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    GamerJock GamerJock 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My mum's side there is no one.

    My Dad however had 11 brothers and sisters. I have somewhere around 30 cousins. Only one uncle and aunt do I even know the names of but we see them maybe once every few years. The one cousin I used to know really well moved to his Japanese family along time ago so I don't see...
    TheGrumpyDead TheGrumpyDead 31-35, M 2 Responses May 9

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23, 2014

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    Having relatives smile in your face

    and mumble negative things about you to themselves are just miserable. If your family doesn't like you then love yourself.
    SparkleBright SparkleBright 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    So Easter get together went

    as well as could be expected. I stayed away from everyone but my grand kids and nephews but don't think I didn't pay for it today. I caught hell from my parents about not talking to my siblings. Apparently it's all my fault that me and my sisters don't get along. Don't want...
    bemyfrnd01 bemyfrnd01 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    "They're always there

    for you! You'd be nowhere without them!" Said every person ever to teens who hate their parents. But the sad part is that it's true. I wouldn't be anywhere without them and I HAVE to love them back.
    lunarsolar36 lunarsolar36 13-15, T 3 Responses Mar 21

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    I want to get this off my chest

    because I am feeling depressed today, and repressed...so here it goes: My dad gave me a lot of money for a house deposit a year or so ago. He and I fell out and now he claims the money was an "investment" and he says he wants it back. He doesn't care that he is throwing my...
    MayaKing MayaKing 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 29

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    When I was 35 years old this old lady told me

    that I was kidnapped as a baby. I never knew my biological family but the ones that raised me got paid off so I guess it doesn't matter because they're dead too.
    Champ4Life Champ4Life 56-60, M Apr 1

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    My mom and i cant get along.

    Im scared and confused, and im not sure what to do. I dont have many friends or family members that i am close with. I feel trapped.
    TasiaMedina TasiaMedina 18-21, F 3 Responses May 13

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16, 2014

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    I wake up go to school,

    come home do Ma homework have tea go to bed! I never fit into my family I'm always the odd one out, they fit expect me for who I am and they treat me like a peice of **** that has been they for days and rotterd, does anyone feel that way too?
    jazzy0769 jazzy0769 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    I know you're not suppose to hold grudges,

    but it's funny how my Dad aka ***** donor didn't have time for me when I was little. But now that he's older he wants me to make time and give a damn about him!
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Damn mother just tells our relatives everything

    personal. Doesn't make sense. She will tell me don't mention nothing personal but her stupid self mentions everything personal
    SparkleBright SparkleBright 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    so my parents had to go back to the great

    southwest to help settle my Aunts estate among relatives, I can tell it went well when my mom emails me "don't talk to these people, they are straight up crazy"
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses May 3

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    It has hurt me so much to distance myself

    emotionally and literally from my family. Now in my 20s, I look back on my childhood and adolescence and see how i was manipulated and drawn into the family drama when all I should have experienced was a carefree childhood. I can admit to having a lot of resentment but staying...
    sahmmama sahmmama 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    I can't stand my mother.

    ... She has serious control issues. She still treats me like a little kid and I'm almost 40. She deliberately provokes fights with me and I have chosen to walk away from her... Unfortunately, that means I don't get to talk to my father or get to see my 13 year old daughter...
    MomsAgainstBombTrains MomsAgainstBombTrains 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    My relatives are scattered

    and dead doesn't ran I can't have mor or take Jutin halls crew
    shaunahall shaunahall 41-45, F 1 Response May 2

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    I was always told by my parents friends

    and my teachers "hey what's the matter with that kid" or "what did you do to that kid" if not that it's "are you hurt? Are you ok?" But they don't get it, I'm just different and I hide on purpose, they just will never understand, I hide because I can't stand the stares sometimes...
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Nov 30, 2014

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    Ever since moving to Dallas last year I have

    drifted apart from my family. They all still live close to each other but I feel like they resent me for wanting to get away from the country life, In a way I'm sad but also kind of angry they treat me this way. I'm kind of lonely sometimes but I know it's what is best for me
    SassyGirl923 SassyGirl923 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    typicallyterrific typicallyterrific 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My mum has always been drinking too much.

    .. And I can't really handle it anymore... My brother locks himself in his apartment and never speaks too me.
    StEaMa StEaMa 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    My estranged Grandfather called me

    before Christmas and wanted to have lunch with my wife and I, I told him I didn't have time right then and he said maybe after Christmas. I never called him back. He called again today, I didn't answer. Now I'm coming out and getting divorced. I really don't want to deal...
    RobertE22 RobertE22 31-35 3 Responses Apr 4

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    both my parents have passed away,

    I have a "brother" problems during childhood created resentment towards me, My uncle stays away from everyone too, my aunt lives too far away, the closest is my brother who treats me like I'm a contagious disease, haven't heard from him in 3 years, my wife and I decided anything...
    couriousinmo couriousinmo 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    They make me feel like I am the freak.

    Everybody hates everybody and somehow I do too but I love them at the same time. Sometimes I just don't know who I can trust or if I can trust anybody at all...
    VivienHope VivienHope 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    I know my family cares about me.

    but I don't feel it. we aren't exactly affectionate so that could be the reason but I don't feel it at all.
    lolaisthebest lolaisthebest 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2014

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    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    My family doesn't keep in touch with me,

    even though we're on good terms. They're Emotionally unavailable and it breaks my heart. I just want a loving, close-knit family.
    electricwaves electricwaves 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    They speak Mandarin Chinese most of the time

    and they fight so much I am terribly sick of it
    GamerJock GamerJock 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    They don't ever ask how I'm doing

    or genuinely care for me. They can't even understand me, since they speak Spanish.
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    When I say relatives,

    I mean my sister. She is about a year older and we both love each other, but ...Whenever I play games, she snaps at me saying "Thats not homework!!" With the nastiest face you can imagine... It started out as a loving practise, to stop me from playing too much (my eyes were not...
    Roverload Roverload 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 27

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