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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    Because they all think

    that I'm the bad daughter who moved out at 21 and completely cut ties from them at 33. But they don't know that I'm running from my parents who abused me and my sisters. Both parents sexually molested us. Dad also physically and mentally abuse us. It's so much pain that I still...
    mrbrat mrbrat 22-25, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 3 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    Forgot, an honest mistake

    when walking around with a broken foot and unfamiliar crutch battling a head and chest cold and working twelve hours, simply forgot to pay the mortgage. Remember how much I hate Greentree? I hate them even more. They called the fools who think they are in charge of my life and...
    jaymepopejoy jaymepopejoy 56-60, F 1 Response May 30

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    They speak Mandarin Chinese most of the time

    and they fight so much I am terribly sick of it
    GamerJock GamerJock 13-15, F 1 Response May 17

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    I feel rather lost in the world.

    I not at all close to my family. My relationship is soon to be over I fear...and I don't really have friends. I think of myself as a sweet, kind and caring person...yet I'm so alone. It scares me to death really. I don't want my life to be this way.
    MerelyMe9 MerelyMe9 36-40, F 5 Responses May 23

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Imagine having one relative .

    One that you adored ever since you were a kid. That made the word family actually mean something to you other than a biological definition. And then.... They grew up to be a clone of the family you can't stand .
    SoleExecutioner SoleExecutioner 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    I've had/have off and on depression

    and have had issues with cutting for about a year and none of my realitives know. Wouldn't want them to anyways but it would be nice to be noticed by your parents...
    GoodNightWorld GoodNightWorld 13-15, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    When my father left for Australia his whole

    side of the family turned on my brother and I even though we have never met most of them, and my mother wrote off most of her family because they are bad people (drug addicts, violent, etc). And I've never met any of my stepmom or stepdads families
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 1

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    I am living with my grandma ,

    mum , elder sister and me . so the main problem is my grandma . she has a fixed thinking of old thinking which kinda affect me for a 21st century kid who is working the technology future. so I sometimes felt really very very hungry after a long long day of school. then I...
    Peiting Peiting 16-17, F 1 Response May 29

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I've never felt particularly close with most

    members of my family. They have always been the judgmental type of people I generally prefer to avoid and have never shown any real signs of being interested in me as a person or in how things were going in my life. The only questions they would ask, and things they wanted to...
    TheGreatLeveler TheGreatLeveler 26-30, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2014

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    granicepayn granicepayn 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 9

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    Cosmic0Potato Cosmic0Potato 13-15, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    ?? I Feel Like They Don't Truly Love Me As Much

    As They Say They Do . Words Mean Nothing To Me . They Have No Action Behind What They Say . All They Do Is Yell At Me , Judge Me And Make Me Feel Like The Dumbest Person In The World
    BabyMera BabyMera 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    I am close to my relatives

    because my relatives love me no matter what and I love them in the same way. I have a close and loving family. I could not ask for another family. I am happy with the family I have now!!!!!
    elrod2006 elrod2006 22-25, F 1 Response May 30

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    most of my siblings will lie to your face

    if they can either feel empowered about what they're lying about or they just cant help themselves. I got so tired of the constant drama and manipulations. cut them out a long time ago abd have been the better for it. contrary to popular belief, you CAN cut toxic people out of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I have never been close to my relatives.

    Not cousins, aunts or uncles, grandparents, no one. And -for the last seven years- have not even been close with the family I grew up in. =/ Kinda the saddest thing. Almost Ever. Anyway, yesterday was my birthday... And I thought I wanted to get on here & share my joy in...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Most of my family was actively doing drugs

    for a long time. I refused to help. some how, the relationships were never repaired once they got clean... I think they are mad at me for not helping them become better drug addicts. .
    piebackwards piebackwards 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    so my parents had to go back to the great

    southwest to help settle my Aunts estate among relatives, I can tell it went well when my mom emails me "don't talk to these people, they are straight up crazy"
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses May 3

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    There's nothing worse

    than having no family around you to support you through a difficult time
    danyellelakin danyellelakin 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 17

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    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30, 2014

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    This is so very true

    for me. I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers. Now my 2 brothers are a ok. If i see them I talk to them just fine, the one is my fav and we actually hug and such when we see one another, always the protective brother..BUT there is a huge dark side. I was in a marriage that was abusive...
    LadyValeska LadyValeska 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 19

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    I don't enjoy being with my family

    for long periods of time because it's filled with awkward side hugs and "how's school for you" conversation
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 20

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    My relatives are scattered.

    Some live in Russia , some in Armenia , some in ohio, and ones I probably haven't met or don't know exist (like the one i heard them whispering about , something about hanging himself with a rope.... suicidal tendency, drunkards, and violence seem to run in the family. my dad's...
    SoleExecutioner SoleExecutioner 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    The only family I really know is my mom's side.

    They all either older than me or babies. At family parties I mostly just stay with my brother or the only two cousins who I'm actually close with. It worries me that one day, these people are going to be the only family I have left. All these cousins I've never talked to are...
    madnyss madnyss 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 19

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    GamerJock GamerJock 13-15, F 2 Responses May 17

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23, 2014

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    I'm also emotionally detached from them

    and I'm an introvert .-.
    xDepression xDepression 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 3

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    My mom and i cant get along.

    Im scared and confused, and im not sure what to do. I dont have many friends or family members that i am close with. I feel trapped.
    TasiaMedina TasiaMedina 18-21, F 3 Responses May 13

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    They don't ever ask how I'm doing

    or genuinely care for me. They can't even understand me, since they speak Spanish.
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F 2 Responses May 16

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