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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    My parents and my oldest sister do not love

    who I am as a person. They expect too much out of me and they push me away.
    inevitablegal inevitablegal 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 16-17, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9

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    my family doesn't like me.

    i can tell very easily. i'm always the excluded child. my little brother is the clear favorite in the family. he's always receiving the nice phones, shoes, shirts, books etc. whenever i ask for something i end up with the cheap sh*t. i'm a junior in high school and they won't...
    gingergurl22 gingergurl22 16-17, F Oct 30

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    I remember as a child how my father abused my

    mother, I remember how he was very jealous of my mother giving me affection. I think that is one of the reasons he would abuse me physically. He'd come home intoxicated and find any reason to hit me. I am the oldest of 6. Four boys and two girls. I recently seized all contacts...
    mloya38 mloya38 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 27

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15

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    I'm not very close with my family I have three

    siblings and I'm the only one left in the house. I'm so lonely my mom and my step dad work all the time and when they are home they are to busy fighting to even notice I'm around. The one thing that kept me going so I wasn't as Lonely was my cat. I know that may sound sad but it...
    ksh909 ksh909 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 29

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    My sister and I were practically inseparable

    as kids, despite the almost nine-year difference in ages, and only being half-siblings, to boot, but now she won't call, I see her maybe twice or three times a year, max... It's really depressing me.
    TensGirl TensGirl 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    My family is mad at me

    and don't talk to me.
    Karenjvalliere Karenjvalliere 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10

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    due to an addiction my mother has had custody

    of my children for 5 years....they want nothing to do with me i have tried and tried to make ammends. they never return my phone calls. exclude me from any family activities. everytime i try to get close my guilt and shame and there denial of me push me further away. i love my...
    lizzypoo1971tnapk lizzypoo1971tnapk 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    I am the youngest of four,

    the only boy. So you could say for sure I was spoiled. Looking back on it, I was treated to cash, clothes, vacations, really anything I wanted. Money was used in place of love for love. Growing up, I was closest to those in my family who were not blood relatives. My grandpa was...
    WaterOx WaterOx 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 7

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1

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    I can't stand my mother.

    ... She has serious control issues. She still treats me like a little kid and I'm almost 40. She deliberately provokes fights with me and I have chosen to walk away from her... Unfortunately, that means I don't get to talk to my father or get to see my 13 year old daughter...
    MomsAgainstBombTrains MomsAgainstBombTrains 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 29

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    It's not that I don't want to be,

    I'm just so different from them. I like books, and Star Wars and they like shopping and parties lol
    jillibelle3 jillibelle3 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    thepainisunbearable thepainisunbearable 13-15, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    I have 10 siblings. Have of them are 5+ years

    older than me. Some are away in college or another state or living with a friend. I miss them all.. I remember one of my sisters. she hasn't come home in about 4 years. My older brother won't be home for 2 more years. None of them know anything important about me. We know...
    SleepyGamers SleepyGamers 13-15, T 1 Response Nov 3

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 13-15, F 5 Responses Nov 10

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    I wish I got to hang out with my older cousin

    more because she is really mature and she is what I wanna be like when I am her age. Very independent. But whenever there is like a family outing, my mom doesn't want to go. So obviously neither can I.
    justxaxgirl justxaxgirl 13-15, F Sep 19

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Why is it my mom is closer to my lil sister

    and her daughter than me and my four children it's sad I use to care but now it's like so what I can't miss what I never had it hurts at times but I keep busy to sort of forget and numb my feelings
    tammi41 tammi41 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 2

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6

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    We moved a lot in my childhood,

    often part of the family would go and the ret would follow. Of the six original kids, before the three step sisters, Three of us were close of age (25 months separate #1 from #3) and the other three were more spread out ((7 years between #4 and #6). Now of the first six, two...
    wuzgnu wuzgnu 61-65, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-├╝berconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22, 2013

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    I need some advice on how to cope with my

    father in law. My wife does not get along with her mother because she cannot see any way to enjoy her time with her so limits her interaction and therefore my interaction with her. She blames her for a lot of interference and trouble in her life which I can respect. On the other...
    AlwaysCravingMusic AlwaysCravingMusic 31-35, M Oct 26

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    My mother keeps calling me an "it"

    and "b*tch" (as well as a "sod", "git", etc.) for no reason I can understand. She once said to my whole family she has to explode with anger to stop herself from becoming depressed. Well, erm, her doing that to me makes ME feel depressed. Once I burst into tears in front of her...
    AnotherKid AnotherKid 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My stepdad....don't even know

    where to start. He's an *******,obnoxious,loud, and just think that he's God. It's all about money with him and I understand the need for money but he takes it to the limit. I can't even to begin to describe my dislike for this man.
    ksh909 ksh909 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    i love to be kind to everyone

    and think everyone has purpose but i hate my family with every fiber in my body
    cookingaubrey cookingaubrey 13-15, F 23 hrs ago

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    Unhappilymarried34 Unhappilymarried34 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    I'm the youngest of 3 children,

    never had a close relationship with my dad. Since I have grown and started my own family, I have realized my dad saw me only as a burden.
    Coopjustice105 Coopjustice105 31-35, M Nov 7

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    I don't remember my father

    because my mother left him when I was 2,have never met any of his family and don't want to,and have met only briefly with my mother's judgmental relatives(can't fathom that her children are half-White). Since I was 2 I have lived very contentedly with my mother whom I adore,my...
    Nevalost Nevalost 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 7

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    I used to love my father,

    but after he made an facebook account I started to be sooo embaresed ... Should I try to correct him or to block his account?
    adrianpp adrianpp 18-21, M 1 Response 22 hrs ago

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    Hey guys! So my parents practically disowned me

    yesterday, which means that I am now living with my grandma. It's awful but I kind of expected it, I was just waiting for the bubble to burst.
    Hewwoe Hewwoe 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 8

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    My family aren't even aware of my septum

    or belly piercing, and I'm terrible at hiding things. We just barely ever talk, or see each other.
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    My parents divorced when I was 1.

    5 years old, and my mother and I moved to a town three hours from my father. She remarried after a couple of years, we moved to a city five hours from my biological father, and I was never allowed to see him again, nor was I allowed to speak about him. My biological father...
    Carrb Carrb 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 3

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I know my family cares about me.

    but I don't feel it. we aren't exactly affectionate so that could be the reason but I don't feel it at all.
    lolaisthebest lolaisthebest 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 25

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    My values are at complete odds with my parents

    and most of my siblings. They believe in the literal interpretation of the bible, are a bit racist, and extremely judgmental. About all I can connect with my parents about is health issues, because my mom and I have some similar issues around depression, insomnia, and weight...
    LuvBlackCats LuvBlackCats 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 8

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    I don't like any of my relatives.

    They always used to make fun of me and laugh at me from my childhood to present. I don;t even go to their houses. I don't like these cousins, uncles, aunties and creepy cousins. When they come to our house, i feel like i am gonna kill them.
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 31

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    Half of my family is crazy the other half is

    ratchet ...Im the black sheep so Ive become less attached through blood bonds
    TechnoZoom55 TechnoZoom55 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 11

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23

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