I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    Sometimes I think part of my extended family

    have no realization that I live in the same state...my aunt wrote "happy birthday from the Pacific Northwest"..I wrote back "Thanks from the Pacific Northwest"
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 11, 2015

    I don't want my kids growing up afraid to tell

    me things. You drank? Okay. You smoked? Okay. You're struggling? That's alright. I want them to be able to talk to me without feeling like they're going to be punished, so they end op isolating and keeping things from me. I want them to feel safe opening up to me without fear...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 27, 2015
    granicepayn granicepayn
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 9, 2015

    Im a woman who born outside marriage.

    My father has its own family and my mom is just their maidservant. My mom does not introduce us any relative but my father has a lot. But they did not recognized us because of the situation.
    aronne aronne
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 17

    My family don't get along well they don't

    even talk to each other I talk to most of them only a small amount hate me even though I did nothing wrong I'm cut in the middle of the family I get along with pretty much everyone and I hate when they start talking bad words about another family member
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 19

    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2014

    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 23, 2014

    My family does not call

    or keep me in the loop on things. I could never figure out why because every time we do meet up we end up having a blast. Up until recently I spent a lot of time being sad and depressed over this. Whenever I share this with someone I trust they always tell me the same thing...
    Jerrylife Jerrylife
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

    There's nothing worse

    than having no family around you to support you through a difficult time
    danyellelakin danyellelakin
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    My brother hates me to the core.

    ..he has never been happy with my progress..he wants everything i demand from my parents..he's 6 years elder than me... but he never worked hard in studies n disturbed me too wen i use to study but i was reluctant coz i wana take care of my parents like they took care of my...
    phoenixangel1802 phoenixangel1802
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 18

    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Sep 10, 2014

    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12
    66-70, F
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2014

    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart
    31-35, T
    53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

    I am not close to my relatives I wish they

    could leave me alone my brother has got a garage against me and E owed me money & his daughter hacked into my Facebook account & had a good nose a round
    kittybaby1968age3 kittybaby1968age3
    46-50, M
    Jan 30

    my relatives hate me

    and never really liked me and have always left me out of all family gatherings.i never get invited to anything. nor do any of them even talk to me or visit me they wouldn't even answer the phone when i call them nor return messages i leave on their answering machines nor return...
    LORDBURNNER LORDBURNNER
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    I miss the times when family meant everything

    to me , when I could hang out with my cousins , have a party, and have a family reunion. I miss the times when we would all have a family time , sharing old stories , make fun of each other and you could hear the room filled with laughter. Now our family has changed so much...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2015

    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 24, 2014

    Holidays are tough now.

    I lost both parents (passed away), both sisters (estranged) and my best dog in about 20 months. I like to put on a brave face and say that I'm ok with change, that change is a natural healthy part of life but this particular change really stinks. I found out (while my...
    diggerwam diggerwam
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Dec 11, 2015

    One of the best mom moments in TV history.

    I wish more parents knew how important it is to validate their children's feelings.
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 27

    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

    Time is the bane of all lasting relationships,

    even with relatives. I remember just a few years ago my cousins and I would always play tag, hide-n-seek, soccer, baseball, and basketball together: basically whatever we could think of. Since I have 20 cousins (now), birthday parties and holidays were fun-filled and kinda...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Mar 16

    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

    This is kind of sad. I don't talk to my mother

    much. I know she is busy and that my life is boring to her. She doesn't approve of how I dress or my job or how I raise my children. My siblings are kind of aloof and just not friendly. I am not allowed to buy gifts for my nieces and nephew (my brother's kids) because he doesn...
    PinkHeartCrystals PinkHeartCrystals
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Feb 8

    I'm being forced to stay in the family room

    and socialize until my parents go to bed at 8:30.
    Rucbrar Rucbrar
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Jan 30

    Forgot, an honest mistake

    when walking around with a broken foot and unfamiliar crutch battling a head and chest cold and working twelve hours, simply forgot to pay the mortgage. Remember how much I hate Greentree? I hate them even more. They called the fools who think they are in charge of my life and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 30, 2015

    My dad doesn't love me,

    and my mom and sister were never really close with me me. I'm kind of a loner in my own family.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 8

    I love them from afar.

    Up close & personal? Not for more than for 24 hrs straight. Holy insanity.
    whatalifetolive whatalifetolive
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 18

    My parents are pretty controlling.

    They also believe that everyone in the world has the same ideology as them, so whatever worked for them works for someone else. Telling me im ok because im not breaking down in tears every second of every day makes perfect sense to them. Unfortunately, they dont know what's...
    Rucbrar Rucbrar
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Feb 11

    I'm Not Very Close To My Relatives

    and This Is How: *They're Prejudiced and Homophobic..I'M NOT* *They're Extremely Judgemental..I'M NOT* * They Are Extremely Opportunistic(Mean,They Gain On Others Misfortune)...I DO NOT* *They're Backstabbers...NOT ME* *They're Materialistic Money Worshiping Lottery Playing...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 31

    This is not a matter of geography.

    I live with my mother but we are not close at all. We always have family over but I feel no connection. I am made to feel like an outsider or a weirdo. I'm always compared to my cousins who are getting married and having babies. I'm treated like a failure because of it. I don't...
    Cowrie35 Cowrie35
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 26, 2015

    Mother was the black sheep of her family,

    Father's side was always on edge due to my parents divorce and being trained to keep everything secret from one side or the other made me the perfect ghost in my family. Needless to say the only family I have are my three best friends and my little sister. On the plus side Xmas...
    Patchworksoul Patchworksoul
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 25, 2015

    Despairing (a) Showing the loss of all hope.

    ------------------------------------------------- 04 January 2016 The day I will probably never forget until the day that I die. Growing up with a mother who was and is not capable of raising you. Roles were and still are reversed, I've always been the parent, she's...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 4

    I was walking down the sidewalk with my mother,

    and a man stopped us to tell me I was beautiful. Afterwards my mother had to point out to me he only said that cause he wanted to **** u. I know why I have issues.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2015

    I have lots of cousins

    and other relatives I never see and some I have never met. It's been almost 30 years since the last family reunion, so it's time for another one.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Dec 25, 2015

    I think it's really my fault

    because I was/am selfish. I wanted everything, the college and great job, lawyer husband, huge wedding, big house, the SUV, lots of kids, the dog, cat, rabbit...lol. And that is what I got, but it comes with tons of hard work and chaos. The good is great, the bad, ugly..... Then...
    1jeni 1jeni
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Jan 14

    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    When I get my **** together I'm moving 5,

    000 miles away from my dad and my sister. I do love them, but they both can be a headache and dysfunctional sometimes. I was never close to my sisters especially my older sister. she's always pessimistic and negative the only times she's happy is when she's stuffing her face or...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    i've never met my cousins.

    my grandma disowned my dad so i've never seen his siblings
    hayque hayque
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

    i really hate holidays

    and family gatherings because i don't really have a blood family...... i just want Thanksgiving to be done and over with already
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Nov 26, 2015

    i dont really need my family,

    nor do they need me. there are 3 of us left. my dad, my brother, and myself. we love each other but we dont smother. it just works.
    Beckosxxx Beckosxxx
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2015

    I am not very close to any human being.

    All the time I am so much tangled in my own spiritual thoughts you will think I am crazy. I think of my very existence. Why it is so that I have to born and be here and do all the good/bad thing I do. Is there any difference if I wasn't here.
    Adamsofeve Adamsofeve
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jan 11

    My mother was bragging about experiences in my

    childhood that fostered independence. Later my husband turned to me and said "you do know that was parental neglect then and now,right?" Yup,sweetheart,yup.
    niffy50s niffy50s
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Sep 13, 2015

    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

    Does anyone else feel slightly violated

    when this happens? Could be my sexual assault but... It makes me really uncomfortable
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 17

    My family sucks. On my moms side she has 2

    brothers and 1 sister, but she lives in Chicago so i see her and my cousins ever 3 years. But my 2 uncles i see like 3-4 times a year the most. One of my uncles is a twin with my mother. So he thinks that he is close with her when in reality, they rarely see or speak to one...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 4

    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace
    41-45, F
    21 Responses Jul 5, 2008

    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Sep 30, 2014

    First off, I've had a therapist tell me

    that I might be somewhere on the spectrum (Asperger perhaps) so I don't always say the right things. Anyway I have 2 older sisters, we've been "estranged" for 5 yrs, since my parents passed away. Not fully estranged, but 90%. I get b-day and holiday card and token Harry...
    diggerwam diggerwam
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 4

    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2014
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