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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    When I get my **** together I'm moving 5,

    000 miles away from my dad and my sister. I do love them, but they both can be a headache and dysfunctional sometimes. I was never close to my sisters especially my older sister. she's always pessimistic and negative the only times she's happy is when she's stuffing her face or...
    PetiteChica PetiteChica 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    Mother was the black sheep of her family,

    Father's side was always on edge due to my parents divorce and being trained to keep everything secret from one side or the other made me the perfect ghost in my family. Needless to say the only family I have are my three best friends and my little sister. On the plus side Xmas...
    Patchworksoul Patchworksoul 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 25, 2015

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    When I was a lot younger my family had family

    gatherings and such. As I got older I never really communicated with my cousins nor did they communicate with me. I don't care too much for one of my uncle's, and my aunt, not close to nether. They don't come by and see me and I'm so used to it that it doesn't even bother me...
    SentimentalMood SentimentalMood 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    My family does not call

    or keep me in the loop on things. I could never figure out why because every time we do meet up we end up having a blast. Up until recently I spent a lot of time being sad and depressed over this. Whenever I share this with someone I trust they always tell me the same thing...
    Jerrylife Jerrylife 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 21 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    The only time I feel loved is

    when I listen to music.
    kennedylea kennedylea 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    i dont really need my family,

    nor do they need me. there are 3 of us left. my dad, my brother, and myself. we love each other but we dont smother. it just works.
    Beckosxxx Beckosxxx 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    i've never met my cousins.

    my grandma disowned my dad so i've never seen his siblings
    hayque hayque 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2015

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    My family don't get along well they don't

    even talk to each other I talk to most of them only a small amount hate me even though I did nothing wrong I'm cut in the middle of the family I get along with pretty much everyone and I hate when they start talking bad words about another family member
    anestacia anestacia 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Thrown Under the Bus Moments: I like how people

    are willing to throw you under the bus when you say "no" when they ask if they can stay the night at your house and you caught them stealing multiple times.
    DesiredUserNameandStuff DesiredUserNameandStuff 31-35, F 9 Responses a week ago

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    i really hate holidays

    and family gatherings because i don't really have a blood family...... i just want Thanksgiving to be done and over with already
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    This weekend I will have the joy of spending

    the one evening that I spend with the 97.6% of the family that I only see for this one dinner every year. Personally I think it's one get together too many, but I shall overcome. *Puts on a fake smile and double thumbs up*
    RememberTomorrow RememberTomorrow 31-35, M 5 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    "One loyal friend is worth ten thousand

    relatives." (or 9,999 relatives if the loyal friend happens to be a relative)
    RememberTomorrow RememberTomorrow 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 25, 2015

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    This is not a matter of geography.

    I live with my mother but we are not close at all. We always have family over but I feel no connection. I am made to feel like an outsider or a weirdo. I'm always compared to my cousins who are getting married and having babies. I'm treated like a failure because of it. I don't...
    Cowrie35 Cowrie35 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2015

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 55 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    I love them from afar.

    Up close & personal? Not for more than for 24 hrs straight. Holy insanity.
    whatalifetolive whatalifetolive 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    Forgot, an honest mistake

    when walking around with a broken foot and unfamiliar crutch battling a head and chest cold and working twelve hours, simply forgot to pay the mortgage. Remember how much I hate Greentree? I hate them even more. They called the fools who think they are in charge of my life and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 30, 2015

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I think it's really my fault

    because I was/am selfish. I wanted everything, the college and great job, lawyer husband, huge wedding, big house, the SUV, lots of kids, the dog, cat, rabbit...lol. And that is what I got, but it comes with tons of hard work and chaos. The good is great, the bad, ugly..... Then...
    1jeni 1jeni 51-55, F 3 Responses Jan 14

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    granicepayn granicepayn 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 9, 2015

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    Sometimes I think part of my extended family

    have no realization that I live in the same state...my aunt wrote "happy birthday from the Pacific Northwest"..I wrote back "Thanks from the Pacific Northwest"
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 1, 2015

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 2 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    im not close with my relatives

    because they dislike my partner love truly conquers all !!!
    drewsbunnyrabbit drewsbunnyrabbit 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    There's nothing worse

    than having no family around you to support you through a difficult time
    danyellelakin danyellelakin 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 17, 2015

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    my relatives hate me

    and never really liked me and have always left me out of all family gatherings.i never get invited to anything. nor do any of them even talk to me or visit me they wouldn't even answer the phone when i call them nor return messages i leave on their answering machines nor return...
    LORDBURNNER LORDBURNNER 56-60, M 4 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    One of the best mom moments in TV history.

    I wish more parents knew how important it is to validate their children's feelings.
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

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    Despairing (a) Showing the loss of all hope.

    ------------------------------------------------- 04 January 2016 The day I will probably never forget until the day that I die. Growing up with a mother who was and is not capable of raising you. Roles were and still are reversed, I've always been the parent, she's...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I have lots of cousins

    and other relatives I never see and some I have never met. It's been almost 30 years since the last family reunion, so it's time for another one.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F Dec 25, 2015

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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    First off, I've had a therapist tell me

    that I might be somewhere on the spectrum (Asperger perhaps) so I don't always say the right things. Anyway I have 2 older sisters, we've been "estranged" for 5 yrs, since my parents passed away. Not fully estranged, but 90%. I get b-day and holiday card and token Harry...
    diggerwam diggerwam 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 4

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    Holidays are tough now.

    I lost both parents (passed away), both sisters (estranged) and my best dog in about 20 months. I like to put on a brave face and say that I'm ok with change, that change is a natural healthy part of life but this particular change really stinks. I found out (while my...
    diggerwam diggerwam 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 11, 2015

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    My mother was bragging about experiences in my

    childhood that fostered independence. Later my husband turned to me and said "you do know that was parental neglect then and now,right?" Yup,sweetheart,yup.
    niffy50s niffy50s 51-55, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2015

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    My brother hates me to the core.

    ..he has never been happy with my progress..he wants everything i demand from my parents..he's 6 years elder than me... but he never worked hard in studies n disturbed me too wen i use to study but i was reluctant coz i wana take care of my parents like they took care of my...
    phoenixangel1802 phoenixangel1802 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 18

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    My parents are pretty controlling.

    They also believe that everyone in the world has the same ideology as them, so whatever worked for them works for someone else. Telling me im ok because im not breaking down in tears every second of every day makes perfect sense to them. Unfortunately, they dont know what's...
    Rucbrar Rucbrar 13-15, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I miss the times when family meant everything

    to me , when I could hang out with my cousins , have a party, and have a family reunion. I miss the times when we would all have a family time , sharing old stories , make fun of each other and you could hear the room filled with laughter. Now our family has changed so much...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 30, 2015

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    I've never felt particularly close with most

    members of my family. They have always been the judgmental type of people I generally prefer to avoid and have never shown any real signs of being interested in me as a person or in how things were going in my life. The only questions they would ask, and things they wanted to...
    darkflavors darkflavors 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 30, 2015

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    This is kind of sad. I don't talk to my mother

    much. I know she is busy and that my life is boring to her. She doesn't approve of how I dress or my job or how I raise my children. My siblings are kind of aloof and just not friendly. I am not allowed to buy gifts for my nieces and nephew (my brother's kids) because he doesn...
    kcyata kcyata 41-45, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    My mother and I have never been close.

    But she was admitted to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and now is dying. I chose to forgive her for failing as a mother years ago. But apparently how she has forgave herself. She told the Chaplin this week that she regrets that we were not closer. I finally had the talk with her. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 11, 2015

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    I am not very close to any human being.

    All the time I am so much tangled in my own spiritual thoughts you will think I am crazy. I think of my very existence. Why it is so that I have to born and be here and do all the good/bad thing I do. Is there any difference if I wasn't here.
    Adamsofeve Adamsofeve 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I was walking down the sidewalk with my mother,

    and a man stopped us to tell me I was beautiful. Afterwards my mother had to point out to me he only said that cause he wanted to **** u. I know why I have issues.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 10, 2015

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