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I Am Not Very Close With My Relatives

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    I talk to no one in my family other

    than everyone i live with. Its really upsetting but I'm trying to get along with my boyfriends family so i could get close with them, and at least be apart of some family. And so far its working his family loves me, but i wish i had my own
    Nroses77 Nroses77 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    im constantly depressed

    and want to end my life sucks i dont have the guts to
    soymari soymari 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 16

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    Being family oriented is overrated.

    Please know you are not abnormal if you don't hang out with your "blood" relatives. Hang out with whomever makes you happy and feel loved. Now that's real family.
    Ub12 Ub12 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 19

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    Hey guys! So my parents practically disowned me

    yesterday, which means that I am now living with my grandma. It's awful but I kind of expected it, I was just waiting for the bubble to burst.
    Hewwoe Hewwoe 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 8

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    I'm not a family-oriented person.

    I know they love me but I feel like I'm constantly being judged by them.
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    Half of my family is crazy the other half is

    ratchet ...Im the black sheep so Ive become less attached through blood bonds
    TechnoZoom55 TechnoZoom55 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 11

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    Definitely the Black Sheep

    I grew up in a family in which the paternal side was full of high achievers.  I'm close with my mom and dad, and for a long time with my oldest brother, but our closeness came to an end a long time ago when he got married.  My other brother and I were never close but we...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 53 Responses Jul 16, 2008

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    I'm adopted, my mother died giving birth to me

    and my father passed three months later. I live with this family now and I thought they were my own but always felt like an outcast. On my 11th birthday I found the papers leading to my discovery of being adopted. I've never been close to this family and I don't think I ever...
    NoraWilliams NoraWilliams 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 15

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    When it comes to my family I'm always the one

    stared at and it makes them think all the time. I'm different they think there is something wrong with me. They think I'm strange, sometimes they even get scared of me.
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 26

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    I was always told by my parents friends

    and my teachers "hey what's the matter with that kid" or "what did you do to that kid" if not that it's "are you hurt? Are you ok?" But they don't get it, I'm just different and I hide on purpose, they just will never understand, I hide because I can't stand the stares sometimes...
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Nov 30

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    I hate the fact that my family can judge my

    life style because they r all Christians but do worst things than me
    ibelovinhimnher ibelovinhimnher 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 1

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    Or any family at all.

    . They all ignore me, thinking that it will help, because I'm so ****** up.. Just because I saw my mother getting raped and murdered, screamed till I couldn't even speak anymore, doesn't mean I don't want any contact with my family anymore.. I might be ****** up from that, but...
    Darkthoughtsallover Darkthoughtsallover 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 6

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    The holiday season, Thanksgiving in particular,

    is not an easy time for me. I struggle at this time each year because I lost my Grandfather on Thanksgiving morning some years back and it was one of the lowest, truly awful days of my life. The day he passed was difficult because I had lost a father figure, a role model, as...
    Indigolesbian70 Indigolesbian70 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    I used to love my father,

    but after he made an facebook account I started to be sooo embaresed ... Should I try to correct him or to block his account?
    adrianpp adrianpp 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 20

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    This Is a Really Yes and No...

    This is a really Yes and No answer.  First let me start I do love my family, BUT my family puts the D in Dysfunctional.  My mom named all the kids starting with a D, I guess she knew that we would all be Dysfunctional, My niece and I say that we are the only ones that...
    Livinginpeace Livinginpeace 41-45, F 19 Responses Jul 5, 2008

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    they think i dont really care

    but the truth is i stalk them on facebook, instagram, and twitter everyday T^T
    lushsummer lushsummer 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My mother keeps calling me an "it"

    and "b*tch" (as well as a "sod", "git", etc.) for no reason I can understand. She once said to my whole family she has to explode with anger to stop herself from becoming depressed. Well, erm, her doing that to me makes ME feel depressed. Once I burst into tears in front of her...
    AnotherKid AnotherKid 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 15

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    Don't get me wrong I love my family

    that lives in my house. It's just my external family. They tend to stick their nose in where it's not wanted and make everyone's life hell.
    karado karado 18-21, M Oct 16

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    The family I was born with is not the family I

    have now. About five-ish years ago, there started to be some agreements that ripped my family in half. I'm not sorry about it, I haven't lost anything important. But it taught me that...well, "family don't end in blood". I've chosen my own family, the people who have always been...
    Starrkya Starrkya 18-21, F Sep 23

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    i love to be kind to everyone

    and think everyone has purpose but i hate my family with every fiber in my body
    cookingaubrey cookingaubrey 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 20

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    due to an addiction my mother has had custody

    of my children for 5 years....they want nothing to do with me i have tried and tried to make ammends. they never return my phone calls. exclude me from any family activities. everytime i try to get close my guilt and shame and there denial of me push me further away. i love my...
    lizzypoo1971tnapk lizzypoo1971tnapk 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    My parents and my oldest sister do not love

    who I am as a person. They expect too much out of me and they push me away.
    inevitablegal inevitablegal 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 15

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    I could never understand my siblings

    nor my parents , I had no choice but to do the unthinkable . Some people think I am a very wrong for what I have done BUT now I am living a good happy life .. for years due to family I had severe sleepless issues and was in counceling and on medications due to...
    HallowDream HallowDream 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 20

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    I know my family cares about me.

    but I don't feel it. we aren't exactly affectionate so that could be the reason but I don't feel it at all.
    lolaisthebest lolaisthebest 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 25

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    I hate my mother. She covered up my abuse

    as a child and taught me to hate myself. She is a significant cause to my obesity. I'll never forgive her and I am forced to keep her in my life to eventually get the small inheritance I deserve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 9

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    I, sometimes, feel like my mom is a very close

    - minded lady. The reason I say so is because, my sister is different. She likes girls and not guys but, girls. Some may discriminate whatever she does with her life but, I don't. I fully support her decisions in life, My other siblings are okay with her being.. what she is...
    ladyfrickinbirdman ladyfrickinbirdman 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 20

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    I don't want to begin my story in tears

    or sounding so cliche' about my situation. However, I do want to be honest and true about how I am feeling right now. I am hurting, sad, confused and quite lonely all at once. I am not very close to my relatives. I left home over 23 years ago to get away from the chaos and...
    TooUnbearable TooUnbearable 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    my sister told me she wanted to hang out

    when arrive from out of town, I'm not real close with her and we are total polar opposites of each other. Last time I hung out with her, she rented a bunch of chick flicks (enchanted was one of them) and I sat through 4 hours of pure agony. She is my sister and I love her, but...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 10

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    I'm an only child and am not

    even close to anyone in my family. My mother is the only one I really talk to on random occasions and she lives 1200 miles away. Ugh, how I have always wished to be a part of a supportive family and I'm so envious of my friends that are.
    Shellbelle21 Shellbelle21 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    If there is one thing I can say about this I

    was different from my relatives also in a creative fashion, they still stared but at last they knew I was worth something, I may have been weird to him, I personally believe there isn't something entirely wrong with me like they say or act like I'm just different they just won't...
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Dec 4

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    Some poor decisions along the way isolated me

    from my family. I figured friends were more important than family. In my case, I was wrong. After my friends all deserted me in their stupidity, my family has been there to accept me again. Twenty years I won't get back, but hopefully, many good years ahead.
    commonloon commonloon 46-50, M Nov 25

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    My values are at complete odds with my parents

    and most of my siblings. They believe in the literal interpretation of the bible, are a bit racist, and extremely judgmental. About all I can connect with my parents about is health issues, because my mom and I have some similar issues around depression, insomnia, and weight...
    LuvBlackCats LuvBlackCats 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 8

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    We moved a lot in my childhood,

    often part of the family would go and the ret would follow. Of the six original kids, before the three step sisters, Three of us were close of age (25 months separate #1 from #3) and the other three were more spread out ((7 years between #4 and #6). Now of the first six, two...
    wuzgnu wuzgnu 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 20

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    My family hasn't been together

    since my grandparents passed and i struggle with that everyday! Especially the holidays when we should all be hanging out, laughing and enjoying each other. Its been five yrs now and i still miss our family gatherings.
    BlackBeauty35 BlackBeauty35 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    You know your not a kid anymore

    when you fall asleep on the couch and not wake up in bed
    jeline jeline 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    I said mom we get along pretty good right?

    How would you compare it if I would I'd be a good replacement for (__someone who moved away__) if I lived around here? Mom: ...That would be nice ... We get along pretty good...We have our little disagreements but we get over it... But then she said something that irked me...
    Stufy Stufy 46-50 2 Responses Dec 2

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    Losing Contact, Thrown Out

    We live in totally different worlds we might as well be on different planets all together. I made choices that didn't agree with their socially-├╝berconservative viewpoint, so most of my family, certainly of my parents' generation, including my parents, basically don't speak to...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22, 2013

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    my family doesn't like me.

    i can tell very easily. i'm always the excluded child. my little brother is the clear favorite in the family. he's always receiving the nice phones, shoes, shirts, books etc. whenever i ask for something i end up with the cheap sh*t. i'm a junior in high school and they won't...
    gingergurl22 gingergurl22 16-17, F Oct 30

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    It's tough building yourself off,

    what not to do in life, by people who hate you. Rather than being able to build yourself off, what to do in life, by people who hate you.
    NarratorAkaTylerDurden NarratorAkaTylerDurden 31-35, M 5 Responses Sep 10

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    There's A Difference Between Family And Relatives.

    Relatives are merely people you are related to. Family are the people you unconditionally love and they unconditionally love you back--with open communication and without serious judgment. My family is my mother and children.
    TrustNobody TrustNobody 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 10, 2010

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    soymari soymari 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    Sometimes I wonder if my relatives are close to

    abandoning me they think I'm depressed or sad and I'm not I just have ASD but they won't try figuring it out of course
    MaxwellMoonHoof MaxwellMoonHoof 18-21, M Nov 29

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    I literally only know a handful of people from

    both sides of my family, even though I have a super huge family.
    phenxmenal phenxmenal 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    I wish I got to hang out with my older cousin

    more because she is really mature and she is what I wanna be like when I am her age. Very independent. But whenever there is like a family outing, my mom doesn't want to go. So obviously neither can I.
    justxaxgirl justxaxgirl 13-15, F Sep 19

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    I really am not the reason being

    because I don't fit in with them. They don't really include me because of some of my actions. I just can't wait till I am a parent so I can treat my kids 100 times better!
    Pinkaboo168 Pinkaboo168 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I dont know what's wrong with me

    but Its like I can't talk to my dad... I love my dad, he's a great guy. He does the best he can to make me and my family happy and doesn't ask for anything in return. He always trying to talk to me like have an actual conversation and I just kinda blow him off, like one word...
    raynbow32 raynbow32 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 29

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    One reason for this is

    because they never seem to believe or trust me when I say something and honestly I don't feel like I have to justify myself when someone insults my sister. They defend a twenty two year old woman against a fifteen year old. All I asked was for her not to call my sister a rude...
    MerciDean MerciDean 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 10

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    I can't seem to be able to talk to my relatives

    without bein angry with them all the time
    Sneaky84 Sneaky84 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    holidays are very hard

    for me to get thru...i think about my family gathered around the table and wish i could be apart of my kids life again. how did i get to this point i often ask myself. how do i get them to forgive me? i pray everyday for god to bring someone into my life i don't want to be...
    lizzypoo1971tnapk lizzypoo1971tnapk 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 27

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    I can't stand my mother.

    ... She has serious control issues. She still treats me like a little kid and I'm almost 40. She deliberately provokes fights with me and I have chosen to walk away from her... Unfortunately, that means I don't get to talk to my father or get to see my 13 year old daughter...
    MomsAgainstBombTrains MomsAgainstBombTrains 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 29

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    I am slowly being erased from my family.

    It would be simpler to just sever the ties and stop wondering why it's all going wrong.
    jennithecat jennithecat 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 30

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