Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Am Not Very Good At Flirting

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 453 People

    steack2 steack2 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hot Red Head!!!

    Quick story! Holy **** I was at that 5 Guys burger place yesterday reading some new comics I just bought from my favorite comic book store, so I was already a pretty good day! I was paying absolutely no attention to anyone or anything around me as I munched on an epic burger and...
    AbsoluteVoid AbsoluteVoid 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Couldn't Flirt to Save My Life

    I have never been good at flirting.  I just don't understand all the social cues and rules to it.  I mean I find it a little pointless-like beating around the bush.  If you want something, say it.  Don't hint around about it.  I am sort of like the...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Gah

     dont get me started >.< im not very good at making eye-contact with people from the start. and i cant stand people staring at me in general. which is generally i guess a form of flirting that guys do?.... i think its creepy personally so i fail. i consider all guys...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 17, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Really Really Shy

    Well, I have very low self esteem. And im workin on that. But w/ flirting w/ guys i like, i just dont know how to act, what to say. I even shake some times im so freaked! I need help! Please if someone could give me advice. So i can actually go up to the guy i like and actually...
    Ivyflower Ivyflower 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Flirting In Chat Rooms Back In The 90'S

    When I was 14-16 yeas of age I'd go into chat rooms to interact with people. That was the thing to do in the 90's. Anyways, I went into a 30 Something dating chat room and started talking up the people, and flirting with whomever wanted to be flirted with. I was not then, and...
    CaptainPeachFuzz CaptainPeachFuzz 31-35, T Feb 5, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm the worst at it,and I wouldn't know flirting

    if it hit me in the back of the head (Pun to the picture lol)
    Life8227 Life8227 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Oblivious

    I'm bad at it because I can never tell if someones flirting with me or just being nice. It's so hard to tell these days. So to avoid embarrassment I always assume someone is being nice.
    explainit2me explainit2me 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Thephareast Thephareast 18-21, F May 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Bass Ackwards.

    If I like someone, I cannot flirt properly.  But when I don't like someone, they always think (or other people) that I am flirting with them.  Nice.  But, that's neither here nor there now. 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Its Not Within My Skill Range

     Oh god, im terrible at flirting.   its just not me, i perfer to just talk about what im comfortable with and not be all flirtaous or ****,  i actually think its quite silly, flirting that is.
    SuperRobotMonkeyTeam SuperRobotMonkeyTeam 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm so not, but to make myself feel better,

    I usually go back and watch the Friend's episode where Ross tries flirting with the pizza delivery girl. After she says her hair cut makes her look like an 8 year old boy, he tells her: "Well, if it makes you feel any better, I happen to like 8 year old boys!" Dx *cringes with...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 28

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Fail At Picking Up Women

    I was at a dance club/bar/live music venue tonight with the intention of getting a date, or at the least, a woman's number. One of my friends was supposed to come, but he never did.  That made it harder.  Anyway, there were several local bands that played tonight.  I sat down...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Self-conscious...

    I'm trying to break out of it, be a bit more flirtatious with girls (really must start calling them women soon...) that I like. For a while I was in the weird situation that I could flirt happily with girls that I *wasn't attracted to* - I guess because if it got too serious I...
    winstonwelles winstonwelles 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 12, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Like A Shadow Chasing Light Carried on the Wind

    I'm concerned people are going to come away from reading this thinking that I'm whining.  I'm going to attempt to make it as factual as possible, except that it's my opinion about myself, so it's already biased.  As the group title suggests, I'm apt to rub my own nose...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What Is It?

    Actually I'm a walking disaster when it comes to flirting! Not relating to either gender doesn't help, the subtle innuendo passes me by every time. I feel like a kid who doesn't quite get the adult joke but laughs anyway.
    sifu sifu 41-45 1 Response Nov 1, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I just have never really tried it

    or would know how to do it any help would be appreciated
    Sproketsocet Sproketsocet 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 27

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Because I can't read subtle body language,

    the game of flirting is one in which I've always struggled. I don't know if I'm being flirted with and as I struggle with eye contact and getting words from my brain into my mouth, i can't really flirt myself. The wonders of alcohol help to a point, the point being slaughtered...
    Teab Teab 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 28

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am scared of making myself look stupid,

    or worse yet making a lady feel like she is just another piece of a**.
    cdchrystal cdchrystal 51-55, M Oct 25

    Your Response

    Cancel
    drbreezzy drbreezzy 18-21, M 4 Responses May 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am A Natural Flirt

    When I don't want to be! I can flirt up a storm with guys who I have zero interest in. Especially guy friends! BUT I can't flirt with guys I like. It's so messed up! Self-sabotage. I've read countless books about flirting because I thought that I wasn't able to flirt, period...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F Sep 15, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Lol I am sometimes but sometimes I **** up just

    for fun. Like this one guy was flirting with me and I remember it was the most hilarious thing. (I have brown skin btw, that's a key part) Him: I'm craving some chocolate right now *hint hint* Me: oh that's to bad, but you should get some almonds to eat or something Him: but I...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F Jul 14

    Your Response

    Cancel
    TheNeverendingLlama TheNeverendingLlama 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Need Tutoring In the Basic Knowledge of What Flirting Is

    I don't know what counts as flirting. A couple people have gotten mad at me for flirting or leading them on, which lead to serious confusion on my behalf. So what actions count as flirting and does flirting with someone mean you like them and want to pursue them or can it just be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 29, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm too awkward to flirt.

    I'm also oblivious if a girl flirts with me (or so I'm told).
    djag2007 djag2007 26-30, M May 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hahahaha

    Yep I'm rubbish at it lol
    RHSK143 RHSK143 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Horrid. Ghastly. Retarded.

    So i dont try. Instead i flatter. Compliment. Honestly. And wait for both to share me.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Jul 13

    Your Response

    Cancel
    soccergirl171717 soccergirl171717 13-15, F May 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Used To Flirt Well.. But Not Anymore

    Back in high school, it was easy for me to talk to men in general and within a couple of minutes or hours I'd be hearing from other people the person already has a crush/ likes me. Luring boys back then was easy as a pie, talking to them smiling at them making an easy comfortable...
    brastrapplease brastrapplease 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 27, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Need Your Help...

    I recently have in my mind that I may not be the best flirt in the world. (LOL)   I am looking for tips to help me become a more proficient flirter.  If you have any ideas on how I can improve my technique or have any critique of my existing technique please feel free...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 54 Responses Aug 30, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    When I'm with someone I want to flirt with,

    I get shy. When someone is flirting with me, I get EVEN MORE SHY. Sometimes I act kind of flirty unintentionally. Bleh. I hope I get better at this kind of thing as I get older.
    WinterSoldierBucky WinterSoldierBucky 13-15, F Oct 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    No Flirting For Me

    ok so I'm married and I love my husband and I do not believe in flirting. Flirting leads to other things. Not for me.
    Neveah Neveah 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 15, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    ?

    Most of the time I can't make out what's flirting or what's just being nice so I assume everything is just the guy being nice. And in class this week a guy,the same who once caught me smiling like a goof in his direction (it was at something he did,not really at him)and who...
    AmayaEkio AmayaEkio 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I think I'm in love with this guy on this site!

    He makes me feel so secure and that I have a reason to be here. He hasn't asked for sex or anything like that which is great by the way! I would definitely love to see him in real life. He's sexy and makes me feel sexy. He talks about kissing me and grabbing my booty which makes...
    soccergirl171717 soccergirl171717 13-15, F 1 Response May 22

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Umm...

     I don't know how to flirt. Its awkward for me. I don't deserve to be doing it.  When guys flirt with me, I panic. lol. But flirting can be fun. Get butterflies in your stomach and mess with people's feelings. idk.
    reset reset 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 15, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Awkward

    Flirting? That means throwing your self out there to be smashed like a bug. I get that uncontrollable shaking feeling like the first time I bought beer. I shake like a leaf in a strong wind. (tornado even)
    ironmouse ironmouse 46-50, M Jan 18, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Seriously

    I don't think I could flirt to save my life, lol. I never flirted, much less dated in school and I just never picked up on it. While dating my ex back in 02' I didn't have to flirt with her, or at least if I was I didn't realize it. I see friends of mine who are flirts and I just...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 2 Responses May 28, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    Guy goes shopping with boss. Boss hears guy laughing. Finds guy at register. Asks if guy is flirting. Guy says trying. But as good at it as explosives. Cashier...
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I do think that flirting can make for a brighter day. I used to work in the bar business years ago when I was young. It was fun being in that environment, especially being a single...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 4 Responses Oct 31

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Flirting is the act of making a man feel pleased with himself.
    xoxlovelifexox xoxlovelifexox 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 4

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Next time someone ugly tries to flirt with me in person, I'm going to light them on fire and send them to Hell. -_- Especially those cat callers or those who are over arrogant with...
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F Nov 7

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So where the darling Asian girls at? Come on, honeys: it's just harmless flirting and we're worlds apart...
    Nicholdave Nicholdave 31-35, M Nov 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I flirt with both girls and guys. I just can't stop flirting.
    EmotionlessDude EmotionlessDude 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I met a girl when i was out clubbing. She told me that she was a lesbian, but that her friends didnt know yet. We kept the flirting low key all night. We swapped numbers and now...
    AllyRW AllyRW 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Flirting is a place of experimentation of ideas. It is a place of clothing and attitude. It is where knowledge and impression meet to play.
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 13

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've always felt Inferior to others because of the way I look. As a kid I was told I was ugly and worthless because I didn't look like the prettier girls. When I was 13 I was told...
    batjokes batjokes 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 6

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I don't know how to (or just not good at it?) flirt anyways.
    PsychedelicSmile PsychedelicSmile 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10

    Your Response

    Cancel
    when to me they will happen ever? I do not remember any good things from many, many years.
    Thought1 Thought1 22-25 1 Response 8 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Good sleep is the greatest medicine of all. Mental disturbance can be eradicated by a solid sleep of 6-7 hours a day. In fact, all problems in life can be solved with the clear...
    nissan124 nissan124 22-25, M 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    this video contains a bunch of good footage from the LA riots... to the tune of one of my personal favorite bands, sublime. enjoy:
    mierdamundo mierdamundo 31-35 12 hrs ago