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I Am Not Very Good At Flirting

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 463 People

    I'm too awkward to flirt.

    I'm also oblivious if a girl flirts with me (or so I'm told).
    djag2007 djag2007 26-30, M May 22, 2014

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    When I'm with someone I want to flirt with,

    I get shy. When someone is flirting with me, I get EVEN MORE SHY. Sometimes I act kind of flirty unintentionally. Bleh. I hope I get better at this kind of thing as I get older.
    WinterSoldierBucky WinterSoldierBucky 13-15, F Oct 13, 2014

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    Umm...

     I don't know how to flirt. Its awkward for me. I don't deserve to be doing it.  When guys flirt with me, I panic. lol. But flirting can be fun. Get butterflies in your stomach and mess with people's feelings. idk.
    reset reset 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 15, 2009

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    I'm so not, but to make myself feel better,

    I usually go back and watch the Friend's episode where Ross tries flirting with the pizza delivery girl. After she says her hair cut makes her look like an 8 year old boy, he tells her: "Well, if it makes you feel any better, I happen to like 8 year old boys!" Dx *cringes with...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 28, 2014

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    soccergirl171717 soccergirl171717 13-15, F May 22, 2014

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    I Used To Flirt Well.. But Not Anymore

    Back in high school, it was easy for me to talk to men in general and within a couple of minutes or hours I'd be hearing from other people the person already has a crush/ likes me. Luring boys back then was easy as a pie, talking to them smiling at them making an easy comfortable...
    brastrapplease brastrapplease 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    No Flirting For Me

    ok so I'm married and I love my husband and I do not believe in flirting. Flirting leads to other things. Not for me.
    Neveah Neveah 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 15, 2009

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    Lol I am sometimes but sometimes I **** up just

    for fun. Like this one guy was flirting with me and I remember it was the most hilarious thing. (I have brown skin btw, that's a key part) Him: I'm craving some chocolate right now *hint hint* Me: oh that's to bad, but you should get some almonds to eat or something Him: but I...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F Jul 14, 2014

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    Awkward

    Flirting? That means throwing your self out there to be smashed like a bug. I get that uncontrollable shaking feeling like the first time I bought beer. I shake like a leaf in a strong wind. (tornado even)
    ironmouse ironmouse 46-50, M Jan 18, 2013

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    Seriously

    I don't think I could flirt to save my life, lol. I never flirted, much less dated in school and I just never picked up on it. While dating my ex back in 02' I didn't have to flirt with her, or at least if I was I didn't realize it. I see friends of mine who are flirts and I just...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 2 Responses May 28, 2012

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    ?

    Most of the time I can't make out what's flirting or what's just being nice so I assume everything is just the guy being nice. And in class this week a guy,the same who once caught me smiling like a goof in his direction (it was at something he did,not really at him)and who...
    AmayaEkio AmayaEkio 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    Gah

     dont get me started >.< im not very good at making eye-contact with people from the start. and i cant stand people staring at me in general. which is generally i guess a form of flirting that guys do?.... i think its creepy personally so i fail. i consider all guys...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    I just have never really tried it

    or would know how to do it any help would be appreciated
    Sproketsocet Sproketsocet 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 27, 2014

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    Bass Ackwards.

    If I like someone, I cannot flirt properly.  But when I don't like someone, they always think (or other people) that I am flirting with them.  Nice.  But, that's neither here nor there now. 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2009

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    Flirting In Chat Rooms Back In The 90'S

    When I was 14-16 yeas of age I'd go into chat rooms to interact with people. That was the thing to do in the 90's. Anyways, I went into a 30 Something dating chat room and started talking up the people, and flirting with whomever wanted to be flirted with. I was not then, and...
    CaptainPeachFuzz CaptainPeachFuzz 31-35, T Feb 5, 2013

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    Hahahaha

    Yep I'm rubbish at it lol
    RHSK143 RHSK143 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    I am scared of making myself look stupid,

    or worse yet making a lady feel like she is just another piece of a**.
    cdchrystal cdchrystal 51-55, M Oct 25, 2014

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    Need Tutoring In the Basic Knowledge of What Flirting Is

    I don't know what counts as flirting. A couple people have gotten mad at me for flirting or leading them on, which lead to serious confusion on my behalf. So what actions count as flirting and does flirting with someone mean you like them and want to pursue them or can it just be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 29, 2009

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    I'm the worst at it,and I wouldn't know flirting

    if it hit me in the back of the head (Pun to the picture lol)
    Life8227 Life8227 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2014

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    Thephareast Thephareast 18-21, F May 20, 2014

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    drbreezzy drbreezzy 18-21, M 4 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Oblivious

    I'm bad at it because I can never tell if someones flirting with me or just being nice. It's so hard to tell these days. So to avoid embarrassment I always assume someone is being nice.
    explainit2me explainit2me 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2010

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    I Am A Natural Flirt

    When I don't want to be! I can flirt up a storm with guys who I have zero interest in. Especially guy friends! BUT I can't flirt with guys I like. It's so messed up! Self-sabotage. I've read countless books about flirting because I thought that I wasn't able to flirt, period...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F Sep 15, 2012

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    steack2 steack2 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 21, 2014

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    Hot Red Head!!!

    Quick story! Holy **** I was at that 5 Guys burger place yesterday reading some new comics I just bought from my favorite comic book store, so I was already a pretty good day! I was paying absolutely no attention to anyone or anything around me as I munched on an epic burger and...
    AbsoluteVoid AbsoluteVoid 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2012

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    I think I'm in love with this guy on this site!

    He makes me feel so secure and that I have a reason to be here. He hasn't asked for sex or anything like that which is great by the way! I would definitely love to see him in real life. He's sexy and makes me feel sexy. He talks about kissing me and grabbing my booty which makes...
    soccergirl171717 soccergirl171717 13-15, F 1 Response May 22, 2014

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    I Need Your Help...

    I recently have in my mind that I may not be the best flirt in the world. (LOL)   I am looking for tips to help me become a more proficient flirter.  If you have any ideas on how I can improve my technique or have any critique of my existing technique please feel free...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 54 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    Self-conscious...

    I'm trying to break out of it, be a bit more flirtatious with girls (really must start calling them women soon...) that I like. For a while I was in the weird situation that I could flirt happily with girls that I *wasn't attracted to* - I guess because if it got too serious I...
    winstonwelles winstonwelles 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 12, 2008

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    Really Really Shy

    Well, I have very low self esteem. And im workin on that. But w/ flirting w/ guys i like, i just dont know how to act, what to say. I even shake some times im so freaked! I need help! Please if someone could give me advice. So i can actually go up to the guy i like and actually...
    Ivyflower Ivyflower 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2009

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    TheNeverendingLlama TheNeverendingLlama 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    I Fail At Picking Up Women

    I was at a dance club/bar/live music venue tonight with the intention of getting a date, or at the least, a woman's number. One of my friends was supposed to come, but he never did.  That made it harder.  Anyway, there were several local bands that played tonight.  I sat down...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    I Couldn't Flirt to Save My Life

    I have never been good at flirting.  I just don't understand all the social cues and rules to it.  I mean I find it a little pointless-like beating around the bush.  If you want something, say it.  Don't hint around about it.  I am sort of like the...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 5, 2009

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    What Is It?

    Actually I'm a walking disaster when it comes to flirting! Not relating to either gender doesn't help, the subtle innuendo passes me by every time. I feel like a kid who doesn't quite get the adult joke but laughs anyway.
    sifu sifu 41-45 1 Response Nov 1, 2009

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    Like A Shadow Chasing Light Carried on the Wind

    I'm concerned people are going to come away from reading this thinking that I'm whining.  I'm going to attempt to make it as factual as possible, except that it's my opinion about myself, so it's already biased.  As the group title suggests, I'm apt to rub my own nose...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    Its Not Within My Skill Range

     Oh god, im terrible at flirting.   its just not me, i perfer to just talk about what im comfortable with and not be all flirtaous or ****,  i actually think its quite silly, flirting that is.
    SuperRobotMonkeyTeam SuperRobotMonkeyTeam 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    Because I can't read subtle body language,

    the game of flirting is one in which I've always struggled. I don't know if I'm being flirted with and as I struggle with eye contact and getting words from my brain into my mouth, i can't really flirt myself. The wonders of alcohol help to a point, the point being slaughtered...
    Teab Teab 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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