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I Am Not Very Good At Flirting

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    I'm so not, but to make myself feel better,

    I usually go back and watch the Friend's episode where Ross tries flirting with the pizza delivery girl. After she says her hair cut makes her look like an 8 year old boy, he tells her: "Well, if it makes you feel any better, I happen to like 8 year old boys!" Dx *cringes with...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    Oblivious

    I'm bad at it because I can never tell if someones flirting with me or just being nice. It's so hard to tell these days. So to avoid embarrassment I always assume someone is being nice.
    explainit2me explainit2me 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2010

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    Self-conscious...

    I'm trying to break out of it, be a bit more flirtatious with girls (really must start calling them women soon...) that I like. For a while I was in the weird situation that I could flirt happily with girls that I *wasn't attracted to* - I guess because if it got too serious I...
    winstonwelles winstonwelles 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 12, 2008

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    Need Tutoring In the Basic Knowledge of What Flirting Is

    I don't know what counts as flirting. A couple people have gotten mad at me for flirting or leading them on, which lead to serious confusion on my behalf. So what actions count as flirting and does flirting with someone mean you like them and want to pursue them or can it just be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 29, 2009

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    No Flirting For Me

    ok so I'm married and I love my husband and I do not believe in flirting. Flirting leads to other things. Not for me.
    Neveah Neveah 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 15, 2009

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    Its Not Within My Skill Range

     Oh god, im terrible at flirting.   its just not me, i perfer to just talk about what im comfortable with and not be all flirtaous or ****,  i actually think its quite silly, flirting that is.
    SuperRobotMonkeyTeam SuperRobotMonkeyTeam 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    ?

    Most of the time I can't make out what's flirting or what's just being nice so I assume everything is just the guy being nice. And in class this week a guy,the same who once caught me smiling like a goof in his direction (it was at something he did,not really at him)and who...
    AmayaEkio AmayaEkio 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    I Am A Natural Flirt

    When I don't want to be! I can flirt up a storm with guys who I have zero interest in. Especially guy friends! BUT I can't flirt with guys I like. It's so messed up! Self-sabotage. I've read countless books about flirting because I thought that I wasn't able to flirt, period...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F Sep 15, 2012

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    Awkward

    Flirting? That means throwing your self out there to be smashed like a bug. I get that uncontrollable shaking feeling like the first time I bought beer. I shake like a leaf in a strong wind. (tornado even)
    ironmouse ironmouse 46-50, M Jan 18, 2013

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    Really Really Shy

    Well, I have very low self esteem. And im workin on that. But w/ flirting w/ guys i like, i just dont know how to act, what to say. I even shake some times im so freaked! I need help! Please if someone could give me advice. So i can actually go up to the guy i like and actually...
    Ivyflower Ivyflower 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2009

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    Bass Ackwards.

    If I like someone, I cannot flirt properly.  But when I don't like someone, they always think (or other people) that I am flirting with them.  Nice.  But, that's neither here nor there now. 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2009

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    What Is It?

    Actually I'm a walking disaster when it comes to flirting! Not relating to either gender doesn't help, the subtle innuendo passes me by every time. I feel like a kid who doesn't quite get the adult joke but laughs anyway.
    sifu sifu 41-45 1 Response Nov 1, 2009

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    Seriously

    I don't think I could flirt to save my life, lol. I never flirted, much less dated in school and I just never picked up on it. While dating my ex back in 02' I didn't have to flirt with her, or at least if I was I didn't realize it. I see friends of mine who are flirts and I just...
    Army0917 Army0917 31-35, M 2 Responses May 28, 2012

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    Hahahaha

    Yep I'm rubbish at it lol
    RHSK143 RHSK143 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Hot Red Head!!!

    Quick story! Holy **** I was at that 5 Guys burger place yesterday reading some new comics I just bought from my favorite comic book store, so I was already a pretty good day! I was paying absolutely no attention to anyone or anything around me as I munched on an epic burger and...
    AbsoluteVoid AbsoluteVoid 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2012

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    Gah

     dont get me started >.< im not very good at making eye-contact with people from the start. and i cant stand people staring at me in general. which is generally i guess a form of flirting that guys do?.... i think its creepy personally so i fail. i consider all guys...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    I Fail At Picking Up Women

    I was at a dance club/bar/live music venue tonight with the intention of getting a date, or at the least, a woman's number. One of my friends was supposed to come, but he never did.  That made it harder.  Anyway, there were several local bands that played tonight.  I sat down...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    Like A Shadow Chasing Light Carried on the Wind

    I'm concerned people are going to come away from reading this thinking that I'm whining.  I'm going to attempt to make it as factual as possible, except that it's my opinion about myself, so it's already biased.  As the group title suggests, I'm apt to rub my own nose...
    UnderEli UnderEli 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

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    steack2 steack2 41-45, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Couldn't Flirt to Save My Life

    I have never been good at flirting.  I just don't understand all the social cues and rules to it.  I mean I find it a little pointless-like beating around the bush.  If you want something, say it.  Don't hint around about it.  I am sort of like the...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 5, 2009

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    Because I can't read subtle body language,

    the game of flirting is one in which I've always struggled. I don't know if I'm being flirted with and as I struggle with eye contact and getting words from my brain into my mouth, i can't really flirt myself. The wonders of alcohol help to a point, the point being slaughtered...
    Teab Teab 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    Flirting In Chat Rooms Back In The 90'S

    When I was 14-16 yeas of age I'd go into chat rooms to interact with people. That was the thing to do in the 90's. Anyways, I went into a 30 Something dating chat room and started talking up the people, and flirting with whomever wanted to be flirted with. I was not then, and...
    CaptainPeachFuzz CaptainPeachFuzz 31-35, T Feb 5, 2013

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    I Used To Flirt Well.. But Not Anymore

    Back in high school, it was easy for me to talk to men in general and within a couple of minutes or hours I'd be hearing from other people the person already has a crush/ likes me. Luring boys back then was easy as a pie, talking to them smiling at them making an easy comfortable...
    brastrapplease brastrapplease 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    I Need Your Help...

    I recently have in my mind that I may not be the best flirt in the world. (LOL)   I am looking for tips to help me become a more proficient flirter.  If you have any ideas on how I can improve my technique or have any critique of my existing technique please feel free...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 57 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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    Umm...

     I don't know how to flirt. Its awkward for me. I don't deserve to be doing it.  When guys flirt with me, I panic. lol. But flirting can be fun. Get butterflies in your stomach and mess with people's feelings. idk.
    reset reset 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 15, 2009

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    I hate that this is a topic. Nobody should ever have to feel like this. And I know it's easy to just say, "oh well you're good enough don't worry," but it's another thing to...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I come across the following writing and thought I should share for those who are destined to read it here. To those in the 60s... ================ Don't worry about what will...
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    I know deep inside that I am a good person. I am often afraid I am not good enough. And I try even harder to be better. I struggle so much to forgive myself and be kind to myself...
    cailinAlainn cailinAlainn 36-40, F Mar 31

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    Never. I never am. Whether it's being a good enough sibling, son, student, friend, or anything. I'm never good enough. No matter how hard I try I fail. Everyone else is better...
    seasalticecream seasalticecream 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    I've always struggled with this. I always feel like I'm not a good enough friend, not a good enough spouse, not a good sister, not a good enough student, not a good enough person...
    MadameMM MadameMM 26-30, F 11 Responses Mar 27

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    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 7 Responses Apr 4

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    The Animals - "Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood" Baby, do you understand me now Sometimes I feel a little mad But don't you know that no one alive Can always be an angel When...
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I really want to know which idiot discovered this word.Its meaningless.Well instead of GOODBYES its name should have been SADBYES.Because neither sides are good,well,etc,etc. Well...
    Revika Revika 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I have found most people know they aren’t perfect, but they try to do what’s right. The standard of man’s goodness is to compares his goodness to others. He thinks to...
    david0987 david0987 31-35, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't goodbyes because that means you're going to leave me alone. Goodbye means you want to go separate ways from me… Don't say goodbye but instead say "See you next time...
    SecretsNeverHidden SecretsNeverHidden 22-25, F Mar 23

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    im so not good at starting a conversation, even here on EP I suck at it. every time I see my friend the only conversation we have is "hey, how are you" ? "good, u ?" im good" that...
    silentgirl1234 silentgirl1234 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    Im tired of being a good friend. Most of my friends knew what i had to go through during middle school, now it's high school. I have a friend of mines, she immature-ish. Whenever...
    ThatOneGirlWhoSmiles ThatOneGirlWhoSmiles 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F Mar 26

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    So I guess this is it... This is where it ends.. I wish.. I deeply wish I could've been there when you needed someone. I wanted to so bad, you never even knew. And now I guess.. I...
    hazellmo0n hazellmo0n 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    THE GOOD AND THE BAD!!!!!!!!! There are loads and loads of wonderful first class people on ep! I have met some very nice,very good and very pleasant men and women. I have met...
    Sandyshaw13 Sandyshaw13 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I truly believe in doing the right thing, in considering other people's need before mine, in helping others, in being a good friend, in doing my duties, in not harming anyone. I...
    narwhal92 narwhal92 22-25, F Apr 2

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    Never good enough For myself I honestly try so hard And kick myself back down I can't impress myself Too much imperfection in my way Too many scars and pain All these memories...
    nivanvc nivanvc 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    I hate goodbyes. I'm terrible at them. And goodbyes mean permanent. If I say goodbye to you then we are deffo done. I prefer the phrase "just not here right now"
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F Apr 4

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    Alrighty then! Guess I'll ramble off about the topic: Lately I notice that my younger cousins, nieces and nephews or kids period tend to cling to me(literally) a lot more. Like...
    yourguardingangel yourguardingangel 18-21, M Apr 6

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    Seeing the good in the world, it's not something you can just wake up and do. It's a lifestyle, it's a way of thinking, living, and breathing, and if you don't buy 100% into that...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F Apr 7

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    I'm not good enough I'll just never understand why I'm not good enough, I try my hardest at everything but it's never good enough.
    charlie4edwards charlie4edwards 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I don't have a lot of friends,my group of friends are few,I am a mother and grandmother and don't have time to have the kind of friends who are immature and play games,I have a few...
    dimples62 dimples62 51-55 1 Response Apr 8

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    I always try to see the good in everyone. I always try to see the good, and not the bad people. It is easy to just see the bad in people, and judge them, but if you look past the...
    robbie1280 robbie1280 18-21, M Apr 9

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