I Am Not Very Good At Flirting

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 511 People

    I'm not good at all! That's

    why I only finally got laid for the first time when I was already nearly 19 lol. However, Internet helped me a lot; after I started using online chats, I were much more succesful then going out to places such as bars and night clubs... That is not meant to say I'm good at...
    GeoWildcat GeoWildcat
    31-35, M
    Mar 11, 2015

    My attempts at flirting can be compared to a

    clumsy, accident prone person tripping over a lone chair in the middle of an otherwise empty room. :/
    Army0917 Army0917
    31-35, M
    Feb 26, 2015
    soccergirl171717 soccergirl171717
    16-17, F
    May 22, 2014

    I Couldn't Flirt to Save My Life

    I have never been good at flirting.  I just don't understand all the social cues and rules to it.  I mean I find it a little pointless-like beating around the bush.  If you want something, say it.  Don't hint around about it.  I am sort of like the...
    haydenrules haydenrules
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    I'm going to be honest I suck at flirting haha

    If I like you I smile and stare. I don't get how girls can play with they're hair and touch guys shoulders.
    lorrena19 lorrena19
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2015
    lonewolf12388 lonewolf12388
    13-15, F
    Mar 2, 2015
    Thephareast Thephareast
    22-25, F
    May 20, 2014

    Because I can't read subtle body language,

    the game of flirting is one in which I've always struggled. I don't know if I'm being flirted with and as I struggle with eye contact and getting words from my brain into my mouth, i can't really flirt myself. The wonders of alcohol help to a point, the point being slaughtered...
    Teab Teab
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2014

    Really Really Shy

    Well, I have very low self esteem. And im workin on that. But w/ flirting w/ guys i like, i just dont know how to act, what to say. I even shake some times im so freaked! I need help! Please if someone could give me advice. So i can actually go up to the guy i like and actually...
    Ivyflower Ivyflower
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 23, 2009

    I'm the worst at it,and I wouldn't know flirting

    if it hit me in the back of the head (Pun to the picture lol)
    Life8227 Life8227
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 13, 2014

    Guy that's been fun and flirty lately just

    passed the line into genuinely interested. How do I have the shut down conversation?
    wanderlander wanderlander
    22-25, F
    Sep 7, 2015

    I Am A Natural Flirt

    When I don't want to be! I can flirt up a storm with guys who I have zero interest in. Especially guy friends! BUT I can't flirt with guys I like. It's so messed up! Self-sabotage. I've read countless books about flirting because I thought that I wasn't able to flirt, period...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521
    18-21, F
    Sep 15, 2012
    drbreezzy drbreezzy
    18-21, M
    4 Responses May 21, 2014

    I'm too awkward to flirt.

    I'm also oblivious if a girl flirts with me (or so I'm told).
    djag2007 djag2007
    26-30, M
    May 22, 2014

    I think I'm in love with this guy on this site!

    He makes me feel so secure and that I have a reason to be here. He hasn't asked for sex or anything like that which is great by the way! I would definitely love to see him in real life. He's sexy and makes me feel sexy. He talks about kissing me and grabbing my booty which makes...
    soccergirl171717 soccergirl171717
    16-17, F
    1 Response May 22, 2014


    I'm bad at it because I can never tell if someones flirting with me or just being nice. It's so hard to tell these days. So to avoid embarrassment I always assume someone is being nice.
    explainit2me explainit2me
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2010


     dont get me started >.< im not very good at making eye-contact with people from the start. and i cant stand people staring at me in general. which is generally i guess a form of flirting that guys do?.... i think its creepy personally so i fail. i consider all guys...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jul 17, 2009

    Need Tutoring In the Basic Knowledge of What Flirting Is

    I don't know what counts as flirting. A couple people have gotten mad at me for flirting or leading them on, which lead to serious confusion on my behalf. So what actions count as flirting and does flirting with someone mean you like them and want to pursue them or can it just be...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 29, 2009

    When I was in the 7th grade,

    a boy that I know was super shy came to me and said, " Hi, um. I like your, eyelids. " o.O
    Annaambrose Annaambrose
    4 Responses May 26, 2015

    I'm to shy or maybe it's just not my thing I

    have flash in the pan moments so too speak ... But other than that Na I'm not good at it every girl I know and hang around they are shameless flirts ... Recently while in the car I hear and see my cousin saying .. Sexy boy and blowing kisses and waving at guy next to us in...
    Prettibrowngirl Prettibrowngirl
    70+, F
    Apr 25, 2015
    steack2 steack2
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 21, 2014

    When I'm with someone I want to flirt with,

    I get shy. When someone is flirting with me, I get EVEN MORE SHY. Sometimes I act kind of flirty unintentionally. Bleh. I hope I get better at this kind of thing as I get older.
    WinterSoldierBucky WinterSoldierBucky
    16-17, F
    Oct 13, 2014

    I'm so not, but to make myself feel better,

    I usually go back and watch the Friend's episode where Ross tries flirting with the pizza delivery girl. After she says her hair cut makes her look like an 8 year old boy, he tells her: "Well, if it makes you feel any better, I happen to like 8 year old boys!" Dx *cringes with...
    Whoami30 Whoami30
    31-35, M
    Mar 28, 2014

    I Used To Flirt Well.. But Not Anymore

    Back in high school, it was easy for me to talk to men in general and within a couple of minutes or hours I'd be hearing from other people the person already has a crush/ likes me. Luring boys back then was easy as a pie, talking to them smiling at them making an easy comfortable...
    brastrapplease brastrapplease
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 27, 2011

    I just have never really tried it

    or would know how to do it any help would be appreciated
    Sproketsocet Sproketsocet
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2014

    I Need Your Help...

    I recently have in my mind that I may not be the best flirt in the world. (LOL)   I am looking for tips to help me become a more proficient flirter.  If you have any ideas on how I can improve my technique or have any critique of my existing technique please feel free...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    53 Responses Aug 30, 2008

    I admire from afar or my flirting is just

    really subtle so no one gets it
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 14

    Hot Red Head!!!

    Quick story! Holy **** I was at that 5 Guys burger place yesterday reading some new comics I just bought from my favorite comic book store, so I was already a pretty good day! I was paying absolutely no attention to anyone or anything around me as I munched on an epic burger and...
    AbsoluteVoid AbsoluteVoid
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 21, 2012


    Most of the time I can't make out what's flirting or what's just being nice so I assume everything is just the guy being nice. And in class this week a guy,the same who once caught me smiling like a goof in his direction (it was at something he did,not really at him)and who...
    AmayaEkio AmayaEkio
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Oct 25, 2009

    I don't know why but

    when I do the guys are always freaked out when I try.
    Hesmyvampireking Hesmyvampireking
    13-15, F
    1 Response Sep 15, 2015

    Bass Ackwards.

    If I like someone, I cannot flirt properly.  But when I don't like someone, they always think (or other people) that I am flirting with them.  Nice.  But, that's neither here nor there now. 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2009

    i can't tell if someone is flirting with me

    and i cant tell if i am flirting or just talking to women
    trick1488 trick1488
    26-30, M
    Jan 2

    I'm not really good at flirting

    or detecting when someone is flirting with me, thank you very much.
    LittleMidnight LittleMidnight
    2 Responses Oct 5, 2015

    Lol I am sometimes but sometimes I **** up just

    for fun. Like this one guy was flirting with me and I remember it was the most hilarious thing. (I have brown skin btw, that's a key part) Him: I'm craving some chocolate right now *hint hint* Me: oh that's to bad, but you should get some almonds to eat or something Him: but I...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier
    18-21, F
    Jul 14, 2014

    Like A Shadow Chasing Light Carried on the Wind

    I'm concerned people are going to come away from reading this thinking that I'm whining.  I'm going to attempt to make it as factual as possible, except that it's my opinion about myself, so it's already biased.  As the group title suggests, I'm apt to rub my own nose...
    UnderEli UnderEli
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

    Flirting In Chat Rooms Back In The 90'S

    When I was 14-16 yeas of age I'd go into chat rooms to interact with people. That was the thing to do in the 90's. Anyways, I went into a 30 Something dating chat room and started talking up the people, and flirting with whomever wanted to be flirted with. I was not then, and...
    CaptainPeachFuzz CaptainPeachFuzz
    31-35, T
    Feb 5, 2013


    Flirting? That means throwing your self out there to be smashed like a bug. I get that uncontrollable shaking feeling like the first time I bought beer. I shake like a leaf in a strong wind. (tornado even)
    ironmouse ironmouse
    46-50, M
    Jan 18, 2013


    I don't think I could flirt to save my life, lol. I never flirted, much less dated in school and I just never picked up on it. While dating my ex back in 02' I didn't have to flirt with her, or at least if I was I didn't realize it. I see friends of mine who are flirts and I just...
    Army0917 Army0917
    31-35, M
    2 Responses May 28, 2012

    No Flirting For Me

    ok so I'm married and I love my husband and I do not believe in flirting. Flirting leads to other things. Not for me.
    Neveah Neveah
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Sep 15, 2009


    I'm trying to break out of it, be a bit more flirtatious with girls (really must start calling them women soon...) that I like. For a while I was in the weird situation that I could flirt happily with girls that I *wasn't attracted to* - I guess because if it got too serious I...
    winstonwelles winstonwelles
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Nov 12, 2008

    I Fail At Picking Up Women

    I was at a dance club/bar/live music venue tonight with the intention of getting a date, or at the least, a woman's number. One of my friends was supposed to come, but he never did.  That made it harder.  Anyway, there were several local bands that played tonight.  I sat down...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    Too shy and socially awkward.

    But that's okay, I don't care much for flirting anyway. I know a lot of people are into it but it's not for me.
    CarverReturns CarverReturns
    22-25, F
    Mar 11

    I don't even know how you're supposed to flirt.

    Start talking suggestively? Add ";)" at the end of all your sentences? Power up your eyebrow game? I'm probably too awkward and too friendly to know how to... .__.
    Madobsession Madobsession
    18-21, M
    May 26, 2015

    I am scared of making myself look stupid,

    or worse yet making a lady feel like she is just another piece of a**.
    cdchrystal cdchrystal
    51-55, M
    Oct 25, 2014

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