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I Am Not What People Expect

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    Me

    I'm not HOT or GOREGOUS....I don't have an AMAZING FIGURE or a FLAT STOMACH ...I'm far from being considered a MODEL...but, I'm ME ! I eat FOOD... I have CURVES... I AM more VOLUPTUOUS than I should be... I have SCARS... I have a HISTORY....Some people LOVE ME...some LIKE ME...
    OsageAphrodite OsageAphrodite 26-30, F 16 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    Eyes And Ears Tell Different Stories

    Alot of people look at me and think I'm a dumb jock/all brawn and no brains. I've learned throughout the years that just because people look a certain way doesn't mean they think or act a certain way. I like surprising people for sure, but it does get annoying.
    akozyahoo akozyahoo 26-30, M 7 Responses Oct 21, 2012

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    Qualifications and Credentials.

    You look at my resume and you have no idea who I am. You talk to my friends, family, co-workers, former employers, and you have no idea who I am. You talk to my pastor, my doctor, my pizza delivery guy, and you have no idea who I am. You talk to me, you have no idea who I am...
    DopeyGirl DopeyGirl 31-35, F 6 Responses May 15, 2008

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    I'm never what people expect.

    When I was younger it bothered me. Now I revel in the fact that I'm completely unexpected and hard to pin down. Being average is definitely not my thing.
    sunny875 sunny875 36-40, F Jun 27

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    Truth From A Pathological Liar

    To the few friends who have met me this may or may not come as a surprise but I can be a very blunt, honest person. I'm honest about my reasons for being on the site and honest about my reasons for selecting my friends. I like to listen to people, offer up advice from my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jan 27, 2012

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    I am not your average bear.

    I'm more your unconventional anomaly.
    Meagaroni18 Meagaroni18 22-25, F Jun 16

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    One of the major changes I made in my life

    since I started dating my boyfriend was to never judge someone, because they might just surprise you. Not everything is what it seems. People have made judgments about me and sometimes it is hurtful, so I try my best not to do the same to others.
    kissthedeadly kissthedeadly 18-21, F Apr 19

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    Not At All

    I was a sexually abused child. I was a prostitute from 15-22 I was am a drug addict and alcoholic (I have been clean and sober for 24 years) I am lesbian I am an ER nurse I love cars I am rebuilding the engine for my Olds 442 I drive a Shelby Cobra I have tattoos and a piercing...
    TexasTerri TexasTerri 46-50, F 11 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Aurora Thunder

    I feel fear. That feels like heat in my neck and tightening of my scalp. I feel like I do when I watch scary B-grade SciFi movies. I love scary B-grade SciFi movies. I don’t fear fear. I am at peace with fear. I love peace. I embrace fear. I feel confused. It feels like my eyes...
    simplygirl simplygirl 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 7, 2013

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    Well laugh my f *** off,

    I just joined yesterday, and well I just noticed that I had my Gender on TRANS!!! Wtf!!! πŸ˜πŸ˜œπŸ˜›πŸ˜› no offence to all the trannies out there, but I was wondering why my activity was a bit slowish . Humor me circle of friends, did you notice this 😳😁😝😝😝 too...
    Liberty21 Liberty21 41-45, F 7 Responses May 1

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    All my life, people what me to be someone else.

    My mom wants me to follow in my sister's footsteps since she got straight A's, everyone liked my sister, she's gorgeous, and so much more. Wait to have my first boyfriend sometime after my 10th birthday party. Be able to be outgoing and know how to hold a conversation. Seeing...
    troubledchild2 troubledchild2 18-21, F 4 Responses May 23

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    I may seem happy and wonderful on my outside

    but please dont judge me by that. It doesnt really tell you anything. It is so easy to put a cover over what we are truly.
    ninja5593 ninja5593 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    I know I sound okay..

    . But I'm devastated by this break up... I feel like I have no one to talk to ... And I really don't ... I know the pain is temporary but fudge mutha fudge... This **** hurts the heart.
    Luna77721 Luna77721 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    Almost Everyone gets me wrong

    when people first see me they think if they joke with me or do a little trick on me that I would do some ninja stuff on them (because martial arts is ninja stuff to them) and break every bone in their body. To be honest I'm way to nice to do that I actually got a really long...
    Random22s Random22s 13-15, M Aug 4

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    My ex's best friend keeps telling me I'm

    worthless and that I should go die and I should hang myself in his honor, maybe I should listen to him.. I already cut up my leg with a blade last night. My bathtub was filled with blood, my upper thigh is full of angry red cuts... Maybe he will be satisfied now..
    audralina09 audralina09 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    Being a 21-year old black male college football

    player comes with its fair share of stereotypes. The funny thing is that I don't fit about 99% percent of them, together or individually. Because of this, lots of people reject me because I don't "make sense" to them and I'm not what society has portrayed people who fit my...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    The relationships that I have been in this far,

    excluding one have been online. I was inexperienced in this kind of stuff. Guys thought I was beautiful and cute. Of I was beautiful on the inside on the outside I was obese and an outcast in my school but online I was thought of as beautiful and that was so baffling and so I...
    DomoNagron DomoNagron 22-25, F Apr 15

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    I'm not the person everyone sees on the outside.

    I look to be a happy wife love my hubby and lookalike a perfect marriage. But I'm not happy with my marriage. I am bored with hubby and the lack of sex turned me off him. I am in love with another man. Head over heels over him. I am a very successful business woman and would...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 3

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    As soon as they see the tattoos,

    most people think "jailbird", "punk" or god knows what else. I hate it, I'm not a bad person and I wish people would get out of that mindset. :/
    ireallylikebacon ireallylikebacon 22-25, M 10 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    On the outside I look like every woman

    who lives next door or down your road. Mid thirties, long dark hair. Still fairly slim, attractive (in the right light!). Never short of admirers but all very normal, very average. Underneath I am different. My passion, my fantasies, whilst extreme, kinky, are not so very...
    mendmybrokenwings mendmybrokenwings 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    At first glance people would see me

    as a big bully because I would usually be frowning I wasn't upset I just was really shy and insecure at those times. So, when people saw me frowning most of the time they just assumed that I was a bully but for those of them that took the time to get to know me they actually...
    Culinaryman23 Culinaryman23 22-25, M Apr 25

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    Usually when people talk to me online,

    they assume that I'm a sociable and out-going, but if you were to meet me in person, you would see something else entirely different: A shy, insecure, and very soft spoken person. I get nervous around people I don't know or haven't met, sometimes even afraid (I have trouble...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I think Mulan (Disney movie) says it better

    than I ever could: Look at me I will never pass for a perfect bride Or a perfect daughter Can it be I'm not meant to play this part? Now I see That if I were truly to be myself I would break my family's heart Who is that girl I see Staring straight Back at me? Why is my...
    teach82 teach82 31-35, F May 2

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    There's a lot more to me

    than meets the eye. In school people often see me as quiet, shy, innocent even. The real me is insane, off-the-wall and disconcerts others with her humour. If you're fortunate enough for me to allow you to get to know me better, you're in for a real surprise ;)
    CaitlinBuchan97 CaitlinBuchan97 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 29

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    I think because of my quiet demeanour,

    and because I don't often put too much effort in my looks, I leave the impression if having low confidence. I actually have a pretty good amount of self-confidence, if I do say so myself. And I look good anyway, so why bother with the extra effort?
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    People Judge Me All The Time

    I am judged constantly by the house I live in, the car I drive, the fact that my family is comfortable, I have two great kids and my life seems outwardly perfect. For that fact people judge me think that I am a snob and they cannot get past the superficial things. For that I have...
    Killmenow74 Killmenow74 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Sin Of Presumption

    A dog was so faithful that the woman could leave her baby with it and go out to attend other matters. She always returned to find the child soundly asleep with the dog faithfully watching over him. One day something tragic happened. The woman as usual, left the baby in the...
    vewragid vewragid 31-35 8 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    More Than Meets The Eye

    For starters I am a 21-year-old African-American/Black female, 5'7, short hair, curvy body, and a bright smile. Unlike society's stereotypical belief: I am not a fan big of mainstream rap, I am smart, I am physically and emotionally strong. I have a loving family and great...
    FireQueen10 FireQueen10 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2013

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    I'm not at all what people expect.

    I look like the girl next door but when you close the doors, something changes......
    LindsayX10 LindsayX10 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F Aug 14

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    I'Ve Known This For Years But It'S Been Getting More In Depth

    People obviously use stereotypes to classify others by a first glance. It's kind of programmed into our brains to do this. But as time has passed, it's gone from just a basic impulse to something that is used to judge and degrade people sometimes. I'm not saying I'm innocent of...
    FreeSpirit2012 FreeSpirit2012 22-25, F 1 Response May 25, 2013

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    I am the type of person

    that is mysterious and doesn't seen like what I look
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    Ha! People call me calm

    and kinda cute when they first meet me, but nonononono. I have never been to a doctor to see, but I think I have ADHD, and I'm always loud and talkative.
    Pancake17 Pancake17 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    I Am A Dying Breed.

    I am a dying breed. I wake up early and work hard from the moment I wake up to the time my head hits the pillow. feel like a man out of my own time. I'm young and independent. I work two jobs, go to school, maintain my farm. I stand up for what I believe in and I never backed...
    Brenton8Sumters Brenton8Sumters 22-25, M 8 Responses Nov 5, 2012

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    When you look at me what do you see?

    I seem to mirror what people want to see but that's not the truth. Do you see a ditzy white girl princess ? Wrong. I lived most of my life in a war torn central american country and have been around a lot more tragedy and poverty that you might be surprised. Do you see a poor...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I had a couple drinks tonight with a good

    friend of mine. We decided that everyone has a dark side of some sort. I had her picked for miss priss and everythings perfect. She had me picked for the player and someone who gets into trouble... boy were we wrong... we are total opposites of what we thought!
    hawkfan12 hawkfan12 36-40, M 4 Responses May 2

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    A lot of people say i am intimidating

    because i can be loud and i always stick up for myself and friends but then they get to me and they see that im nothing to be scared of
    WendyDarlin WendyDarlin 18-21, F Jun 21

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    When people first meet me I've been told

    that they didn't like me because they thought I was mean. On the other hand when we talked I turned out to be really chill. I'm not a complete ***** but I do act like it most of the time especially to around people I don't know because for some reason it makes me feel better. It...
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    Dreams I Feel

    Sometimes light can give you nightmares. I live those nightmares in the dark. When I sleep the blood trickles through my brain, and my dark holding a light. These images I whole heartedly trust in, give me trouble. As if it were real enough to touch, feel, and taste. I breath...
    sunsetlimited sunsetlimited 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 9, 2013

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    Whenever I get into a relationship I suddenly

    become totally uninterested in the guy. Every relationship I've had I always dump the guy. I don't know why this happens to me.
    lunamars lunamars 16-17, F Mar 13

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    it's too hard to get inside of my head

    and it drives people crazy. lol I'm not a stereotypical "black girl" i have natural hair yes, and i can get loud but i have class that i don't think most young women have and that's surprising to most guys. I'm into fashion and styles so I'm edgy with my clothing, i get called...
    taylercm taylercm 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2013

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    When it comes to the type of music I listen to,

    some people expect me to be the type that would listen to R & B and hip hop/rap music, simply because I'm black. So you can imagine the look on people's faces when they realize that while I do listen to some hip hop and R & B, the majority of my music collection is heavy metal...
    BLACKTIGER75 BLACKTIGER75 36-40, M Mar 7

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    Hidden in the depths of the subconscious A

    woman was being breed She lay dormant for years Learning, watching, waiting, yearning to be free The darkness is the womb which she grew During the hard times she was able to get a glimpse of the reality outside the dark A taste of freedom was to much for the woman to bear Her...
    aprilsums aprilsums 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Man's Got To Know His Limitations

    You expect me to be the nice guy, the one who will always be there. The stir fry BBQ specialist who will mince his soul into little pieces and sprinkle teriyaki sauce over it then BBQ my heart brisket and cut it like tenderloin for the masses to have something to eat. You think I...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M 4 Responses May 28, 2011

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    I Pack A Wallop

    I try to warn people not to underestimate me. But I'm a little bit soft spoken, cheerful and helpful. I think before I speak and I wear a genuine smile for no apparent reason. (Seriously, strangers have stopped me in the street to ask what I'm smiling about.) So when I issue this...
    WoobieTuesday WoobieTuesday 36-40, F 17 Responses Feb 20, 2011

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    How can I try to explain?

    When I do, he turns away again It's always been the same Same old story From the moment I could talk I was older to listen Now there's a way and I know That I have to go away I know, I have to grow Read more: Ronan Keating - Father And Son Lyrics | MetroLyrics
    itsboy itsboy 22-25, M May 21

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    Im A Guy Thats Not Into A Lot Of "guy things"

    i have no interest in sports of any kind. no interest in cars whatsoever. no interest in guns or hunting. in fact i am kind of an animal person. who says i cant like metal music and also think kittens are cute? i am not the type to make random sexual comments about "hot" women...
    EdgeCrusher EdgeCrusher 26-30, M 9 Responses Apr 4, 2011

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    I know for a fact the people around me expect

    me to fail! Expect me to grow up and be on Goverment assistance to be a hoe to be an addict i know but im not i know what my parents do and have done doesnt mean im interested in being a **** up im really not i know where i live at its easy to lose hope and give up on me but im...
    XblueXroseX XblueXroseX 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 4

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    Lets Get To The Point

    She followed behind him anxiously waiting for privacy. They closed the door and it was on. She grabbed his belt and pulled him quickly to her. His weight pushed her against the door. They kissed hungrily as hands traveled. She took hold of the belt again, this time sliding it out...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 13 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    I doubt a lot of people think I'm on the girly

    side, I'm not very expressive, I'm more sensible than emotional, apparently I sound intellectual, and I tend to wear a lot of black, white, and grey. So my friends were really surprised when that walked into my room for the first time. The first things they said were "What the...
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 1 Response May 20

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    Hahahaha. XD I'm not

    even what I expect, half the time. It can be quite an adventure being yourself, instead of copying some pattern the world has set up for you.
    randomlygenerated randomlygenerated 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 17

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